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Could YOU Be Someone’s Miracle? The Truth About Living Kidney Donation · Rock My Finances

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  Speaker 3: so what is it all about? Let's find out. Now,
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  Speaker 3: here's your host and weekly friend, Jennifer Jost.
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  Speaker 2: Hey y'all, welcome back to Rock My Finances. I have
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  Speaker 2: an amazing show today with my good friend Jen here.
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  Speaker 2: This is our second episode.
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  Speaker 1: Our first episode you have to go back and check
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  Speaker 1: out is called When Your Family Inherits More Than Your Eyes,
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  Speaker 1: One Woman's Journey with PKD.
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  Speaker 2: This is our second episode. We're gonna go a little
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  Speaker 2: bit deeper on this. Could you be someone's miracle? The
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  Speaker 2: truth about living kidney donation. Welcome Ms. Jen Gibson, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. You're welcome. Thank you. Okay, we're going to
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  Speaker 2: dive right in. Jen has PKD, which is? Polycystic kidney disease.
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  Speaker 2: Polycystic kidney disease.
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  Speaker 1: And how many people in the United States have this approximately?
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  Speaker 4: So about 600,000 people in the U.S. have PKD, and
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  Speaker 4: it is the fourth leading cause of kidney failure. ADPKD
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  Speaker 4: is the most common form, affects roughly 1 in 400
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  Speaker 4: and 1 in 1,000 people. It's an inherited genetic disease
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  Speaker 4: and symptoms are often diagnosed later in adulthood. More than
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  Speaker 4: half of the people with ADPKD develop kidney failure by
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  Speaker 4: the age of 70.
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  Speaker 2: Wow. Okay. Okay. One in 400. That's scary. So it's genetic.
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  Speaker 2: You can't catch it. So if I hug you. No,
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  Speaker 2: I can't have it. But you can share your bean
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  Speaker 2: with me. I can share my bean. Would you like
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  Speaker 2: one of my beans? She wants one of my beans, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: That would be a kidney.
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  Speaker 1: Relax.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. I love that. All right. We're going to talk
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  Speaker 2: about that. We're going to talk about this.
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  Speaker 1: When the doctors told you it was time to start
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  Speaker 1: looking for a kidney donor, literally what goes through your mind?
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  Speaker 4: I think the first thing that went through my mind
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  Speaker 4: is he's not talking to me. And Just to step
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  Speaker 4: back a minute, every six months I go to see
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  Speaker 4: the doctor.
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  Speaker 2: I have blood drawn every three months. Since you were
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  Speaker 2: 37 and you're 59. Yeah. So you've been dealing with
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  Speaker 2: this for a long time. Yes. And you actually have
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  Speaker 2: it when you're born, right? But you don't know. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't really rear itself until you're late 30s. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: late 30s, you found out. You already had two kids.
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  Speaker 2: I already had two kids. I had no idea. No
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  Speaker 2: one in my family has this disease. We've done some investigating.
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  Speaker 4: 4% of the people can mutate the gene on their own.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, what a good girl you are.
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  Speaker 4: My nephrologist still seems to think that somebody somewhere had it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm really not. I'm not really not sure. Okay. So
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  Speaker 2: went for my normal visit six months in.
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  Speaker 4: My GFR dropped below 25, which is an indication when
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  Speaker 4: they want you to start the process of getting on
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  Speaker 4: the kidney donor list.
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  Speaker 2: And that means that 25% of her kidneys are working.
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  Speaker 2: Both of them together. Both together is 25, not 25 each. No. Damn. Well,
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  Speaker 2: it could be, but you know, right. 12 and a half,
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  Speaker 2: 12 and a half. Who knows? Okay. 25% of all
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  Speaker 2: your kidneys are working. That's when they start doing some
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  Speaker 2: testing and getting you ready. Right. So he just leaned
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  Speaker 2: over and said, I think it's time.
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  Speaker 4: That we, you know, talk about getting on the list.
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  Speaker 2: And I said, okay, what does that entail?
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  Speaker 4: And basically he, You go to a hospital, they do
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  Speaker 4: thorough testing on absolutely everything from your teeth to gynecology,
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  Speaker 4: your colon, everything, brain scans. And then he said, we
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  Speaker 4: can also talk about dialysis because those are the two
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  Speaker 4: forms that will give life to us and can extend
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  Speaker 4: our life with disease. And if you know me, that
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  Speaker 4: brought tears to my eyes because I am going to
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  Speaker 4: do everything I possibly can prevent myself from having to
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  Speaker 4: do dialysis. I know there's many of you out there
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  Speaker 4: that have for many different reasons. But my hope and
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  Speaker 4: prayer is that I can find a donor before I
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  Speaker 4: get to that level of failure.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. I love that. So what percentage were your kidneys
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  Speaker 2: working when you were diagnosed at 37?
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  Speaker 4: I probably, the GFR at that time was probably more
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  Speaker 4: in the nineties.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: So you've gone from 90% working down to 25% working
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  Speaker 2: and now it's 21%. 21. So how scary is this?
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  Speaker 4: Scary because 20 is when you're actually on, I'm on
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  Speaker 4: the list, but it's like a non, I don't even
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  Speaker 4: know what they call it.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of like in the waiting period. So as
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  Speaker 2: soon as you're on deck, yeah, I'm on deck. You're
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  Speaker 2: on deck to get on the list. Yeah. Unofficially.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 4: And then once you're on the list, because I'm an
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  Speaker 4: O positive blood type, it's a five to seven.
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  Speaker 2: Years for a donor.
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  Speaker 4: And that would probably be either deceased and or possibly alive.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: So an AAB is more like three to five. So it's.
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  Speaker 2: It's important, right? There's a time clock going. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know how much time I have left.
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  Speaker 4: So if I only have three more years, but they're
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  Speaker 4: saying I don't get one for five years, that means
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  Speaker 4: that I have to buy that time with dial.
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  Speaker 2: And you are talking about this, like we're ordering eggs
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  Speaker 2: and bacon. Yes. I'm so now I am now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: She was so scared when she got here. Y'all I've
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  Speaker 2: already teared up. I've already done it in the last episode.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like, if you knew her, she is so energetic.
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  Speaker 2: We play pickleball. She kicks my butt. very good. She's
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  Speaker 2: very happy. Her husband's happy. They're always amazing. They give back. Um,
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  Speaker 2: I just love it. I just, I, they're just really, really,
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  Speaker 2: really good people.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not even saying just give yourself to good people.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying you would never know that she's fighting
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  Speaker 1: for her life right now. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: How does it feel to have to ask someone to
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  Speaker 2: help them for them to help you to live? Um, I,
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  Speaker 2: I think I shared privately with you, um, not everyone knows, right?
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  Speaker 4: Because they don't see it. It's personal, it's emotional, it's physical.
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  Speaker 4: And when I feel like I want to share with
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  Speaker 4: someone that they might understand, or I don't feel I
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  Speaker 4: come across asking, like asking for money, not this is
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  Speaker 4: a life. And until now, I don't think I even
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  Speaker 4: understood how incredibly important it is. I mean, we all
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  Speaker 4: have Probably most of us are donors, like you said,
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  Speaker 4: on our driver's license when we die. We got nothing
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  Speaker 4: to lose. Now I have a lot. A living donor
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  Speaker 4: is very different. A living donor is very different. But
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  Speaker 4: there is a site that you're seeing go across the screen.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure that will give you and provide you as
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  Speaker 4: many different questions and answers for you as possible.
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  Speaker 2: I guess that would be the first step I would
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  Speaker 2: ask you to do.
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  Speaker 4: If you really feel that that's something for you.
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  Speaker 2: Or just to even get educated.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: To get educated. And maybe it's something different. Before we
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  Speaker 2: just say no.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 2: There might be a family member that needs it. Now,
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  Speaker 2: we had someone here in the community.
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  Speaker 1: We live in a 55 and older community here. And
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  Speaker 1: our community is absolutely amazing. Like, it's the best ever.
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  Speaker 1: And we had a gentleman that was interested.
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  Speaker 2: And then something happened. That no, right? It's a go,
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  Speaker 2: no go, right? No go or no go. They definitely
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  Speaker 2: put you.
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  Speaker 4: So I think it's important for people to know too
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  Speaker 4: that the first step is basically filling out a questionnaire
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  Speaker 4: and someone will call you and go over your life
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  Speaker 4: story and history of what you are.
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  Speaker 2: Question and answer time for you. That's a go or
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  Speaker 2: no go. Each step is a go or no go.
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  Speaker 4: The next step would be where you would just do
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  Speaker 4: a blood work at your local, wherever you go, right?
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  Speaker 2: So it's close to home. And then from there, another
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  Speaker 2: go to no-go. And then you would go to one.
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  Speaker 4: Of the participating hospitals that I am approved at. So
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  Speaker 4: let's just say it's Duke Hospital in North Carolina or
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  Speaker 4: Wake Forest Hospital in North Carolina. If you're in California
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  Speaker 4: and you need to come here, everything is paid for.
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  Speaker 4: Every hospital visit, blood work, you will never pay for anything.
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  Speaker 4: As a don't, as the recipient, It would be for
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  Speaker 4: me to pay for airline, whichever that may be, if
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  Speaker 4: you got to that point where they're now going to
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  Speaker 4: evaluate you. And then that's a two-day testing, right? You're
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  Speaker 4: meeting with a social worker. You're meeting with a nephrologist.
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  Speaker 4: You're meeting with financial people, dieticians. You're hearing a class
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  Speaker 4: worth of what does it mean to be a donor?
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  Speaker 4: Here's your pros and cons to be a donor.
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  Speaker 1: And then.
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  Speaker 4: From there, we would match different kinds of antibodies. And
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  Speaker 4: then you could be a direct donor or you can
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  Speaker 4: be a paired donor. And that would be where you
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  Speaker 4: would give to someone else with all the like body
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  Speaker 4: types that you are with someone else. And then that
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  Speaker 4: would automatically give to me a certificate as long as
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  Speaker 4: you're giving them my name and my birth date. So
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  Speaker 4: emails there, if you're really interested, obviously you can reach
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  Speaker 4: out to me.
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  Speaker 2: You personally so you need a t-shirt that says jen
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  Speaker 2: gibson with your birth date and.
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  Speaker 4: Just walk around would you donate right.
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  Speaker 2: This sounds like a great process so far yes it's
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  Speaker 2: it i think and this gives you a lot of
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  Speaker 2: time to think about it and just keep going through
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  Speaker 2: the process before you you say yes or no right 100.
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  Speaker 4: You could even do the two day and just say
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  Speaker 4: this is not for me right right i mean it
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  Speaker 4: is a big step but I think the hospitals do
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  Speaker 4: an amazing job. I'm making sure that you as a
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  Speaker 4: donor are 100% ready and that educated and know what
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  Speaker 4: the hell you're doing.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. That's wonderful. And then would you, are you open
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  Speaker 2: to meet your donor? I know it's your choice.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's the donor's choice to be anonymous, but
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  Speaker 4: even if your choice, right.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to, I would love to meet. Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I would love to know who is sharing life with
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  Speaker 4: me because it, be honest.
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  Speaker 1: It is a life and it's a precious relationship yes
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  Speaker 1: but that.
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  Speaker 4: Can't even imagine they say that you know sometimes you
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  Speaker 4: take on the characteristics of the person that gave you
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  Speaker 4: things wow and so it's interesting some of the people
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  Speaker 4: that are going forward i'm like what will i take
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  Speaker 4: from them right so it's it's a process that i
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  Speaker 4: think is can't be matched i mean there's heart transplants
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  Speaker 4: and lung transplants and yeah for those of you that
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  Speaker 4: are donors or have donated That's a blessing in itself
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  Speaker 4: because it's, there are hundreds of thousands of people who
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  Speaker 4: need kids.
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  Speaker 2: Now people ask, why aren't you asking your family? Yes.
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  Speaker 4: So as I, yes, I have a half brother who
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  Speaker 4: has a heart condition. So unfortunately that would take him
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  Speaker 4: out of this arena. Both of my children both have
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  Speaker 4: the disease, so they can't share their kidneys with me.
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  Speaker 2: My mom has passed. My dad is much too old.
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  Speaker 2: to be able to donate.
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  Speaker 4: And my mom came here from a different country when
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  Speaker 4: she was five. So my actual family is in Italy.
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  Speaker 4: And I don't really know them well enough to say, Hey,
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  Speaker 4: would you like to donate? So not that I'm making excuses,
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  Speaker 4: but I don't know them. So I'm left with what
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  Speaker 4: I have here.
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  Speaker 2: And just hoping that... So will we send them this link?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes.
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  Speaker 2: We'll send them this link. And then let's go to Italy.
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  Speaker 2: Let's go meet them. I'm due. Oh my gosh. Now
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  Speaker 2: tell me about this, being a mother, genetically giving this
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  Speaker 2: to your children and not even knowing a damn thing
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  Speaker 2: about it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that was probably the bigger heartbreak. I mean,
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  Speaker 4: you can handle yourself having diseases or health issues, but
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  Speaker 4: when you know that it directly came from myself, there's
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  Speaker 4: a guilt there.
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  Speaker 2: Sure. Right. Moms carry guilt just because we wake up.
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  Speaker 4: In the morning.
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  Speaker 2: So one more guilt. Yeah. One more guilt that we
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  Speaker 2: have to deal with. And I'm sure they're helping you
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  Speaker 2: relieve that. Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: I think they even had a joke between the two
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  Speaker 4: of them that if one of them had it and
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  Speaker 4: the other one didn't, they would have been really mad
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  Speaker 4: or upset.
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  Speaker 2: So they were glad that they both had it. Of
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  Speaker 2: course we wanted neither. Of course. But since they both
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  Speaker 2: had it, at least they, they share that.
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  Speaker 5: I'm in.
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  Speaker 2: And they're young and hopefully we'll have some medications to
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  Speaker 2: cure all this before they get to this point.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: They do have some medications that will blow the process.
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  Speaker 2: Which they're not on. Yes. Yes.
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  Speaker 4: It's Trovaptin or Genarq. I think they're both names that
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  Speaker 4: is out there. I think there's a lot of pros
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  Speaker 4: and cons. Some people say just drink a lot of water.
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  Speaker 4: It does make you drink a lot of water. It's
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  Speaker 4: almost like a drug.
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  Speaker 2: You constantly want to drink, but you also urinate a ton.
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  Speaker 2: Disrupts your job. Disrupts your life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But they don't have any pain or anything either. I
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  Speaker 2: think it's helped me. I mean, I started it when
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  Speaker 2: I was 37. I'm now 59. Yeah. I'm hoping that
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  Speaker 2: I have another five or six years.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: To be honest, before I would have to have a transplant.
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  Speaker 4: And that gives me time to do what we're doing.
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  Speaker 2: Right. To find the right donor.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: With the right purpose and hope that we can share life. Right. Now,
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  Speaker 2: as a donor, she explained to me in the other episode.
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  Speaker 2: Let's say I am a match.
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  Speaker 1: I can choose or not a match, but I can
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  Speaker 1: choose to do it anytime I want. And then give
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  Speaker 1: her the certificate so that when she does need it,
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  Speaker 1: maybe she could be higher up in that.
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  Speaker 2: I would. I would automatically be pushed up. For every
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  Speaker 2: certificate that she gets, she would be pushed up.
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  Speaker 1: And with your blood type O positive, that sounds like
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  Speaker 1: something you need to have.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. You need to be able to get that one
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  Speaker 2: when it comes. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Or if I was a match, we decided, okay.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to wait a year. Let's see how she does.
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  Speaker 2: Wait two years to see how she does.
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  Speaker 1: And I would have to stay healthy as well because
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  Speaker 1: anything could come up in my life, in my body
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  Speaker 1: that precludes me to be, to be in a donor.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a situation there, right? It's something, it's something
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  Speaker 1: to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. So what's it going to feel like? I'm a,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a manifester. You're a woman of God. You have
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  Speaker 2: an amazing relationship. It's done.
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  Speaker 1: It's five years from now. You had it in your
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  Speaker 1: fourth year. Your kidney's there. It's from an amazing, loving,
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  Speaker 1: giving person. How does that feel now? You have somebody's
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  Speaker 1: kidney in your body and we're playing pickleball. How does
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  Speaker 1: that feel?
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  Speaker 4: I guess there's no words for someone that wants to
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  Speaker 4: give life to you and continue on.
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  Speaker 2: It's emotional, right? I can't.
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  Speaker 4: I actually see myself in the operating room praying over
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  Speaker 4: the doctors. I'm praying over my donor because I know
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  Speaker 4: that that story is already written for me. I know
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  Speaker 4: it's going to happen.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know when.
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  Speaker 4: And by the grace of God, again, the peace that
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  Speaker 4: I have over this and the different instruments and people
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  Speaker 4: that he is using during this journey right now is amazing.
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  Speaker 2: And for us to be speaking, because I know this
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  Speaker 2: is a private thing.
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  Speaker 1: And I told her I had a podcast a couple
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  Speaker 1: months ago.
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  Speaker 2: And we're finally getting around to it. But this is
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  Speaker 2: the thing for you, right?
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  Speaker 1: To be able to share in your personal life now.
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  Speaker 4: And I think it's a little bit less abrasive being
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  Speaker 4: here on the other side of the screen that I'm
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  Speaker 4: not actually looking at your face right now, whoever you are.
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  Speaker 2: My listeners are badass, just saying.
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  Speaker 4: I just, I welcome you to investigate and look into it.
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  Speaker 4: Just see what blessings that you have that you can
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  Speaker 4: give back to someone if it's not me. just to
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: think about maybe there's someone in your family that is
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  Speaker 4: looking for one too, but I'm of course being an
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: advocate for myself today.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, good girl. I have lots to live for. Yes.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: I have lots to live for. You have an amazing husband.
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  Speaker 2: You have beautiful children.
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: And grand babies and babies that I want to continue
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  Speaker 4: to take care of and grow in life with them
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: and continue.
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  Speaker 2: Right. I have God's work to do here as well.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: just touching people's lives. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, she's amazing for us. Like we love her so much.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: She's amazing in our community. Her husband, Chuck is amazing.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, he has to come over and do that
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  Speaker 1: thing that you said that he can do.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: So she's like, Hey, did you know about this? Eric
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: and I said, no, Chuck can come over and do
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: it for you. I'm like, okay, thank you, Doug. Like,
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: Oh my God. Like there's, that's so awesome. I love it. Love, love,
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: love it. And we go consignment shopping together.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: We love a bargain, baby.
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: Yes, we do.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: And I'm sorry, we're doing an hour. Make it an hour,
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: no bread. Oh my gosh. We got loaves all over
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: the darn counter. It's so fun. I love, love it.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Like you said, lots to live for. And you're on
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: this journey. You're on this journey to educate. You're on
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: this journey because you are gorgeous, amazing, athletic, energetic, positive.
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  Speaker 2: I was floored when she told me that she had
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: a fatal disease. And I, and you know, me, I'm
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: not a, not a superficial conversation. I want to get
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: in deep.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: So of course I fell in love with her already
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  Speaker 1: for her sharing such a traumatic thing with me. And
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: of course I share all my trauma, right? So we
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: all know my trauma. And so I love to be
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: able to connect heart to heart. And Jen also did
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: that for sure.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: I do have a bucket list piece that I shared when,
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: when you decide if you've gone to donate you meet
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: with a social worker, which I found interesting because I'm like, well,
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: what's a social worker doing? Like as a donor, I
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: could see like, what's your intention here? What's your thoughts?
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: What are your fears?
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: But on the other side of it, besides being a
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: father of Christ and doing his work here, I think
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: my bucket list for doing all 50 states, running a
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: half marathon and finishing that in my 50s, which will
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: not happen because I'm 59.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: 32 states down. I have, what does that make it?
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: You have 32 states down? Yes. The big ones too.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Hawaii and Alaska done. Check. But I would like to finish.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: That is so cool. So 18 more states, half marathons,
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: most of them on the East coast. Okay. But that's
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: probably one of the biggest things that I would like
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: to check. And that's really, really a great goal. So
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: your last one, we're all going there. watch you we're
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: all invited.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness okay we have four minutes left let
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: me see what are my other questions here um.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah what are.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: You dreaming about that's good right uh okay someone's listening
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: to you right now i mean kind of put yourself
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: back to 37 before you knew about any of this
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: would you be would you have given would you have been.
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: A donor at that point in your life i have
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: to say i probably wouldn't have yeah I will.
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  Speaker 2: And I understand. You were young.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: You were 37. You were young.
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: You had two children. I understand that. You know, I
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: have a life ahead of me. I want to be
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: here for them. Yep. But now that you're on the
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: other side of it, and I think this goes for
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: any illness, right? You don't understand cancer if you don't
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: have cancer. You don't understand diabetes if you don't have diabetes.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: And we can dummy it down. But at this point,
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: I've lived a full life, right?
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: I understand.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: I've loved, I've had children, I've worked, I'm enjoying the
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: other side of that rainbow. But now that I understand
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: what life means, I've been blessed with, I mean, now
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: I would hand over that kidney to somebody else because
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: I'm looking at the journey that God's.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: Blessed me with.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Why wouldn't I want to allow someone else to have
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: a life worth living and feel good about it that
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: that person is now walking around this earth that much
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: longer because of.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: I love that. And what is the danger?
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I know you're not a doctor and you can't go
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: into it too much, but statistic, the donor, is it,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to say simple surgery, but
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: it's absolutely recoverable and they go on with their life
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: because they already have their other kidney.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Do they have to alter their diet at all after?
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: No, I think, I believe you're in the hospital maybe
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: about four days after Don't quote me on this because
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: I don't know for sure if the surgery goes well.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: And I believe maybe for the first 30 days, there's
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: some diet driving restrictions for.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: The first week. Well, like a hysterectomy. Yeah.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: But for you, because they're taking something from you, it's
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: not the same as I'm getting something because now there's
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: anti-resistant drugs on my side. But I believe it's not
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: like anything.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: I was extremely willing to give my uterus, y'all. Yeah.
• 22:07
  Speaker 5: Given my years my history was you just please take
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: this i had a blast for two weeks watching friends
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: every day and didn't do the stairs didn't couldn't pick
• 22:16
  Speaker 5: anything up oh darn like it was.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Easy peasy i didn't even do any tylenol was like
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: how like i had no like it was easy peasy
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: okay definitely questions to ask definitely good questions to ask
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: what is it like ask what is.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: The setback but i i believe after two weeks you
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: can get back to work and do.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Your normal normal job. So yeah, it's, it's quite interesting
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: what they can do. They do millions of them. Uh,
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: it's yeah, it's very, very common. It's very common. Um,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: so please check out the, the, uh, website here. We
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: also have Jen's email.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: She's actually putting this out there because you will need
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: to put her birth date and her name on anything
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: that you do, uh, to attach her to anything that
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: you might be doing. Even if you, you know, aren't
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: a match and you can get her their certificate, We'd
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: love for you or just to get educated about any
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: of this.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: We love it. We love Jen. We love women. We
• 23:10
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• 23:14
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• 23:16
  Speaker 2: the other episode. And guess what, y'all? I just talked
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: her into coming back and talking about money. Woohoo!
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Good, bad, and it's not about the zeros, right? It's
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: about the F word, how you feel about it. Thank
• 23:27
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• 23:30
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• 23:31
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• 23:33
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• 23:36
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• 23:39
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• 23:41
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• 24:00
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• 24:01
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• 24:02
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• 24:05
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