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Lewis Howes’ Life Advice That Will Leave You Speechless · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It's better to be a warrior and a garden than
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  Speaker 1: a gardener in a war. And every day I want
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  Speaker 1: to train myself to be prepared for a war, whatever
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  Speaker 1: that war is, whether that's external or internal. And I
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  Speaker 1: truly believe for me, my body is very physical. I
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  Speaker 1: need to move and it gives me so much confidence.
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  Speaker 2: It gives me joy.
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  Speaker 1: It gives me happiness to be able to train, whether
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  Speaker 1: it be in boxing or lifting or any type of
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  Speaker 1: physical activity where I feel like I am strong and
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  Speaker 1: I can take care of myself.
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  Speaker 2: If I need to. I hope I never have to
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  Speaker 2: use that strength to defind myself. I hope I never do.
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  Speaker 1: But to just know if someone wanted to do something,
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  Speaker 1: I would be able to take care of myself. That
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  Speaker 1: gives me inner peace, that eliminates anxiety, that makes me
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  Speaker 1: be able to walk in a room and see the
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  Speaker 1: room and scan the room and say I got this.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need to feel afraid for myself. And the
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  Speaker 1: discipline of doing something painful every day, I think is
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  Speaker 1: one of the most important disciplines that any human being
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  Speaker 1: can have. Whatever that pain looks like for you, I
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  Speaker 1: believe we must lean in the pain every day otherwise
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  Speaker 1: pain is going.
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  Speaker 2: To lean into us.
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  Speaker 1: But if we're leaning into it first, when stuff happens,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, I got this because I do this
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  Speaker 1: every day. I'm not saying we should be a pain
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  Speaker 1: eighty percent of our day, but maybe an hour thirty
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  Speaker 1: minutes you should do something that makes you want to puke,
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  Speaker 1: or makes you want to stop, or makes you want
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  Speaker 1: to relax, because then when stuff really happens, you'll be relaxed.
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  Speaker 1: And that's key for me, like lean into the pain
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  Speaker 1: and recover at the same time. So I'm learning lessons
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  Speaker 1: that every time I'm doing this, whether I'm lifting with
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  Speaker 1: my lifting coach or boxing.
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  Speaker 2: With him, it's.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel so at peace afterwards. I'm like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I know I can do this, and every day I
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  Speaker 1: push myself.
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  Speaker 2: A little bit harder. It's like you just feel like
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  Speaker 2: you can conquer anything. I don't want to be tested
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  Speaker 2: in the real world.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, someone brings a knife to me, I'm gonna run.
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  Speaker 2: Away, you know. I mean, it's like I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to be I hope I don't have to. But it's
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  Speaker 2: just the confidence of the daily practice.
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  Speaker 1: So but I mean, the working out alone is not
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  Speaker 1: enough I have been doing years of the inner work,
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  Speaker 1: the inner workout, and it's all about the inner game,
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  Speaker 1: as you know, the meditation practices, the visualization and the therapies,
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  Speaker 1: the workshops, the just whatever it is, listening to the
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  Speaker 1: shows like yours, reading books, whatever it is, constantly trying
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  Speaker 1: to improve my mind and heal the soul. And I
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  Speaker 1: think by integrating the daily pain of the physical body
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  Speaker 1: and by integrating constant healing. And it's like things happen
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  Speaker 1: every day to us where we could be triggered, So
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  Speaker 1: we're got to be constantly like letting it go and
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  Speaker 1: forgiving and moving beyond it.
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  Speaker 2: And the more I do that, the better I feel.
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  Speaker 1: And when I when I stop those practices, that's when
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  Speaker 1: I feel like something's off of my life. It's the
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  Speaker 1: emotional word too, It's like have you healed the past?
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  Speaker 1: Have you forgiven? Are you still holding on to resentment?
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  Speaker 1: If so, something is going to be off in your life.
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  Speaker 1: It's the mental growth, like improving the mindset on a
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  Speaker 1: daily basis improving the physical body. And then are you
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  Speaker 1: releasing the emotions? Are you processing? Are you integrating the
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  Speaker 1: lessons you've learned from the previous breakup into this relationship
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  Speaker 1: or are you carrying things from the past, And it's
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  Speaker 1: kind of that those three things really connecting. And then
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  Speaker 1: if you have a spiritual you know practice as well.
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  Speaker 1: I think really integrating that is something important and part
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  Speaker 1: of my life. It was all physical and I got
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  Speaker 1: physical results and was suffering emotionally. Then I started to
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  Speaker 1: heal the emotional side and feel peace and sleep at
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  Speaker 1: night for the first time, which I was like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, I can sleep because I let go of
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  Speaker 1: something that I was holding onto emotionally.
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  Speaker 2: Then I was like, Okay, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Feel like I'm that smart, so let me learn, let
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  Speaker 1: me improve my mindset, let me get new skills. Now
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  Speaker 1: I feel more confident, I'm increasing the mental capacity, and
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  Speaker 1: I just feel so much better every day knowing that
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  Speaker 1: I've done that work. And it's not enough to do
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  Speaker 1: the work in the past. It's a continual process in
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  Speaker 1: the present that makes me feel at peace every day.
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  Speaker 1: Every experience and every breakdown and mistake I've made is
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  Speaker 1: teaching you something to improve myself, to prepare myself or
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  Speaker 1: something greater. You've got to do hard things every day
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  Speaker 1: to earn your respect. I can't just show up on
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  Speaker 1: a couch and do nothing and be like happy with myself.
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  Speaker 1: I've got to contribute to society in some way. I've
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  Speaker 1: got to contribute to family friends.
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  Speaker 2: That's what makes it meaningful.
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  Speaker 1: And you never inspired by the person who said, oh,
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  Speaker 1: he sat in his couch all day and did nothing,
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  Speaker 1: but he lived a comfortable life, So we should respect that.
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  Speaker 2: For me, okay, it's respectable. You're alive, you're existed, But
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  Speaker 2: what did you contribute?
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  Speaker 1: How did you multiply your talents to serve something, something
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  Speaker 1: greater than you, or someone greater than you or something.
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  Speaker 2: And so for me, I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't want to I want to be proud myself.
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  Speaker 2: I want to be proud of the.
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  Speaker 1: Things I say and following through on those things and
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  Speaker 1: being integral with myself. I want to be proud of
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  Speaker 1: the work that I create, the creativity I express, how
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  Speaker 1: I treat and take care of my body, how I
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  Speaker 1: take care and treat other people. I want to be
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  Speaker 1: proud of those things. At the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, what could I do? How many more
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  Speaker 1: people could I help by having that skill? One, I'll
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  Speaker 1: be proud of myself, but I also be able to
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  Speaker 1: contribute to more people and I'll be able to understand
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  Speaker 1: more people, and I feel like, man, I'll be so
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  Speaker 1: proud of myself to just be able to have a
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  Speaker 1: conversation with someone, understand them, and then be able to
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  Speaker 1: help them in some way. That would be worth it
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  Speaker 1: for me, Like the years of practice and work and effort,
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  Speaker 1: just to know I was able to develop a skill
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  Speaker 1: that was hard, that took me twenty years to get
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  Speaker 1: started and finally commit, I could die like a happy
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  Speaker 1: person knowing if I did that with every part of
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  Speaker 1: my life.
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  Speaker 2: What is your definition of greatness?
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  Speaker 1: Discovering your unique talents and gifts to pursue your dreams
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  Speaker 1: and in that pursuit, making the maximum impact on the
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  Speaker 1: people around you, that's greatness. The ability to have a
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  Speaker 1: clear vision and see the steps, and the ability to
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  Speaker 1: have a beginner's minds and find and surround myself by
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  Speaker 1: great coaches and be unapologetic and asking for feedback. Feedback
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  Speaker 1: has been a huge indicator of my success. I will
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  Speaker 1: ask friends, Hey, what do you think is like the
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  Speaker 1: one thing that you notice from afar?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think I could be doing better? What's the
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  Speaker 2: thing you think like? Ugh?
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  Speaker 1: If I didn't do that, like everything would improve what's
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  Speaker 1: the thing where I'm lacking, what's the thing I ask?
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  Speaker 2: Everyone? Give me feedback.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't good at feedback until eight years ago because
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  Speaker 1: I was living with a wound of abuse, of triggers
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  Speaker 1: of anger or frustration.
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  Speaker 2: And I went through a workshop that literally for.
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  Speaker 1: Days had us I kild you, not hours and hours
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  Speaker 1: and days had us sit there and take feedback from
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  Speaker 1: everyone in the room about how we showed up in
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  Speaker 1: that workshop. It was just like as exercises, whether it
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  Speaker 1: was true or not, you just had to sit there
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  Speaker 1: and look strangers in then eye where they tell you
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  Speaker 1: you look this, you're this, you're this, and just be
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  Speaker 1: like huh, and notice how it makes you feel. And
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  Speaker 1: literally this exercise over and over for days got me
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  Speaker 1: to realize that just because someone's giving you feedback doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean it's true about you, So don't take it personally
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  Speaker 1: and see where is the truth in there and how
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  Speaker 1: can you apply it. I was unable to take feedback
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  Speaker 1: until eight years ago, unable. I couldn't do it. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, don't tell me what to do, don't try
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  Speaker 1: to change me. Screw you, I'm better than you at this.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know what you're talking about it. It was like
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  Speaker 1: a very active let me fight. You're trying to tell
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  Speaker 1: me where I'm wrong. Well, here's where you're wrong, here's
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  Speaker 1: where you suck.
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  Speaker 2: You need to prove this.
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  Speaker 1: It was very aggressive, and now I think it's everything's
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  Speaker 1: a practice. It's like, okay, at first I didn't like it,
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  Speaker 1: and now oh I got this one little piece of
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  Speaker 1: feedback and I started applying it, and look how to
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  Speaker 1: improved my life. I can see the meaning of feedback
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  Speaker 1: and the value of it, and that has been a
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  Speaker 1: practice that I think is a skill now that I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it's a superpower. I'm not above anyone. Like
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  Speaker 1: I will take feedback from any human being. Give me
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  Speaker 1: a five year old kick, give me some feedback. You're
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  Speaker 1: observing something about me.
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  Speaker 2: I'll listen.
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  Speaker 1: Sports was the greatest teacher for me growing up because
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  Speaker 1: every day I got to be in the arena, I
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  Speaker 1: got to practice something that I wanted to accomplish. I
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  Speaker 1: got to improve on a skill set, whether it be
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  Speaker 1: in basketball and it was a dribbling skill that I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to learn, or a shooting drill or rebounding. There
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  Speaker 1: was always a skill that I needed to improve upon. Football,
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  Speaker 1: Like in sports, you never are You've never mastered really anything.
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  Speaker 1: You can be great at something, but there's always another
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  Speaker 1: level in sports to be better. Even the best basketball
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  Speaker 1: players they miss a lot of their shots. It's like
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  Speaker 1: you can always improve somewhere some skill set. So for me,
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  Speaker 1: the application of seeing my own goals and seeing my
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  Speaker 1: own dreams and then taking daily actions to improve on
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  Speaker 1: those and make those goals come to reality, it was
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  Speaker 1: the full circle moments that I created consistently.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the dream.
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  Speaker 1: Fifteen years later, it happened, seven years later, it happened
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  Speaker 1: five years, twenty years.
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  Speaker 2: It was like seeing it.
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  Speaker 1: Come to fruition was a big gave me the confidence.
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  Speaker 1: Those results gave me the confidence. And then when I
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  Speaker 1: started coaching other people on the seven eight years ago
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  Speaker 1: in kind of the business world, in the online marketing world,
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  Speaker 1: or just like their life goals, I just started seeing
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  Speaker 1: it and be like, Okay, yeah, I see myself in you.
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  Speaker 1: I see the problems that I had, what was struggling
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  Speaker 1: for me. And if you just eliminate this limiting belief,
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  Speaker 1: if you take this action, if you do this thing,
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  Speaker 1: you should be there in six months, not six years.
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  Speaker 1: And then they would do it and I was just
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  Speaker 1: like awesome. So then show seeing those results in other people,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, maybe this is a skill I
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  Speaker 1: have for others, not just accomplishing goals myself. W