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Season 4 - Episode 111 - What choices did other people make for you? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good Morning from the Chicken
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  Coop Podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy. Into the world.
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  So welcome to the coop and let's start your day off in a
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  fantastic way. Hey everybody, good morning from
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  the chicken coop. So and yes, it is good morning
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  and it is the chicken coop because the sun is coming up at
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  a little bit earlier and now I can get out here still a little
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  later than I like to put it out, but still it's working.
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  So OK, let's talk about choices that have been made for you.
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  Have you ever stopped and thought about how many choices
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  in your life were made for you that you don't necessarily ever
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  consider the impact that they had or course correct?
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  More importantly, it's the course correction of that
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  impact. So let me give you an example.
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  I went to school, I went to public school in a small town in
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  Massachusetts, and that's what everybody did.
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  Pretty much that's what everybody did.
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  If you didn't go to Catholic school, then you went to the
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  public schools. And this was standard operating
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  procedure. My family was not Catholic and
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  well, a portion of my family was Catholic, but there was no way
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  that my Protestant mother was going to put me in a Catholic
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  school, even though her mother was Catholic.
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  So which is a story for another day about how that affected all
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  different types of religion. However, the school that I went
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  to was a, you know, a public school that was not a choice
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  that I would have ever made. And throughout my time at that
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  school, I recognized that that is such a big thing of how that
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  impacted me. It really impacted me because
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  one, I could have benefited from being in a more creative
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  environment. I could have wildly benefited
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  from that. Two, you know, I recognized that
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  my parents did not know any better in putting me and that
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  because that's what everybody just did.
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  But that was definitely not something that I would have
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  picked for me, which is why when I had a daughter and a son, I
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  went into putting them into a different type of learning
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  system, recognizing who they are.
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  And and still my son at 16 is being course corrected again,
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  because he's so mechanically inclined, he deserves to be in
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  an environment where he can be mechanically inclined.
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  And since there are, you know, not a lot of trade schools
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  anymore because we've kind of taken that away for high
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  schools, we have to work around it.
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  So being creative, that's what we're doing.
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  But I work really hard with him to recognize his skill sets and
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  bring those forward for him so that he doesn't feel like those
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  are wrong. That's not what happened in my
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  world. So I could sit here and I could
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  say these were choices that were made for me, that greatly
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  affected me throughout my life. And they did.
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  Did I course correct a portion of them?
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  Yes, but very unconsciously. So I, when I started to really
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  consider this as of late, you know, what choices were made for
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  me that I had no control over that I want to course correct.
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  It's not that I'm mad about it. It's not that I'm upset about
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  it. It's that I want to do something
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  about it. I want to do some things that
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  will add to that. And part of that course
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  correction is saying, OK, if I had had this, where would that
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  have affected me? So for instance, give you a very
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  specific example. I was like I said, super
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  creative. I was into photography, art, all
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  of that. But there were no quote UN quote
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  art classes to take in that school system.
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  So I never did them. So now I'm taking them, even
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  though years late. I always said, oh, it's OK.
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  You know, it wouldn't have worked out anyway.
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  And probably all of that was true for that point in time.
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  But we all get to a point where we can look and say, okay, what
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  are the things that I want to correct course correct?
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  So I want to go and take art classes so that I can add that
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  back in because I feel like that's something I'm missing.
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  Does that make sense? So look back and say, and again,
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  it's not that they anybody did anything wrong.
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  They did the best they could with what they had, but what
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  choices were made for me that I would have made differently?
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  And can I right now course correct that in some way?
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  So, you know, you can't course correct right now where you
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  lived when you were a child, but you can course correct where you
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  live as an adult. You can you look at things and
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  say, geez, I always wanted to travel further as a kid and we
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  never got to do that. OK.
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  So are you traveling as an adult?
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  Are you, are you bringing forth those things that are seeds that
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  were planted in you but never came out?
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  That's what we're looking for. Where are those little seeds
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  that were in there, choices that were made for you, that were not
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  necessarily for you? Now and again, we could dig this
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  up till the cows come home talking about, well, people made
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  really poor choices for me. And there's no doubt in the
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  world that people make poor choices for other people.
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  And when we're little, we can't do anything about it.
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  But as an adult, we have some ability of what to let go, of
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  what to course correct, how to hang on to things in a different
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  way so that they don't torture us and make us feel like we got
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  ripped off. And that's what this is all
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  about. So what course corrections do
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  you want to make to the choices that somebody else made for you?
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.