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Episode 43 - You Going From Being Of The World To Becoming The Godly Person You Were Meant To Be. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello everybody. Welcome to you Money your Own
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  Speaker 1: Business Radio Podcasts. I'm your host goddess Asha Maria. I'm'a
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  Speaker 1: a sort offied recovery, healing, recovery and addiction coach. It's
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  Speaker 1: all about helping people on their paths then journeys to
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  Speaker 1: a new embtter you through self discovery, helping people through
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  Speaker 1: their addictions, helping people to on this particular podcast, mind
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  Speaker 1: your own business and stop learning about everybody else, try
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  Speaker 1: to look like everybody else, at like everybody else, think
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  Speaker 1: like everybody else, and just become.
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  Speaker 2: The person that you want to be.
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  Speaker 1: There too many people out here that's trying to be
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  Speaker 1: like everybody else but themselves, trying to lower themselves to
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  Speaker 1: be Captain saber Hose Builder Bears, Bill A Dolls seat fillers,
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  Speaker 1: people pleasers and trying to make everybody else happy. But
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  Speaker 1: yet you're miserable, and yet your life is passing you
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  Speaker 1: by because you're wasting time on people that just ain't
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  Speaker 1: That's a s h A dot M A r I
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  Speaker 2: I hope you guys are doing well.
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  Speaker 1: Me.
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  Speaker 2: I am doing good.
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  Speaker 1: I know supposed to do this yesterday, and I was
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  Speaker 1: supposed to post this yesterday, but I had to post
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  Speaker 1: Sundays yesterday because I did a two conversations one with
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  Speaker 1: Sophia Bailey about spiritual warfare and spiritual healing, and then
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  Speaker 1: a friend of mine named Charles Maddox did a summit
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  Speaker 1: on CRPS and I'm going to post both of these today.
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  Speaker 1: Well I did, but I might post them on these
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  Speaker 1: platforms so you guys can hear how my you know,
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  Speaker 1: conversations go and things that I'm posting, because some stuff
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  Speaker 1: can go on multiple streaming platforms. Because I'm getting into
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  Speaker 1: having conversations. I don't call them interviews because I feel
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  Speaker 1: like interviews are a little too stuffy, So I'd rather
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  Speaker 1: have conversation versus interviews. And every person that I have
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  Speaker 1: a conversation with, I always talk to them prior to
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  Speaker 1: doing the conversation and doing the actual conversation on the
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  Speaker 1: podcast because it gives me a chance to really get
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  Speaker 1: to know them. And so I have one that's coming
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  Speaker 1: up on the fifteenth, and I'm so excited about it,
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  Speaker 1: and we're gonna be talking about police brutality and a
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  Speaker 1: woman that lost her child to police brutality, and we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have that conversation and I'm really happy to do
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  Speaker 1: that one, so that one will be something I'm very,
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  Speaker 1: very proud of. But let's have this conversations of what
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about today, and that is about
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  Speaker 1: the fact is everything that we're being told actually correct?
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  Speaker 1: And why don't we ever challenge it because I was
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  Speaker 1: sitting up here as a coach going through the journey
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  Speaker 1: of you know, dealing with my healing and recovery personally.
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  Speaker 1: And you have to be your own patient before you
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  Speaker 1: can help other people. And also you have to understand
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  Speaker 1: that every person is different when it come to losing weight,
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  Speaker 1: everybody's different when it comes to cancer, everybody's different when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to being sick with COVID or whatever you're
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  Speaker 1: dealing with mentally or psychologically, or emotionally or even physically.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's dealing with different things at the same time. So
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  Speaker 1: we can be dealing with one situation and deal with
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  Speaker 1: it fifty million, eleven hundred ways.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, that's just the way it is.
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  Speaker 1: Unfortunately, so the way I handle things ain't the way
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  Speaker 1: somebody else gonna handle things.
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  Speaker 2: And the good thing.
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  Speaker 1: About being a coach is we can learn from those
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  Speaker 1: different situations that are clients deal with. Cause in February,
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  Speaker 1: I'm about to start taking Cloe. Right now, I'm just
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  Speaker 1: working on paperwork and all of that, which is what
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be doing.
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  Speaker 2: The rest of the week. So let me use me.
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  Speaker 2: For example, I have.
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  Speaker 1: This thing that's called the isolation cocoon and hibernation stage,
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  Speaker 1: and how it works is basically essentially you are going
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  Speaker 1: to be by yourself, just you and me and whoever
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  Speaker 1: is going to help you through these journeys. So the
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  Speaker 1: whole purpose of what I want to do for my
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  Speaker 1: business is I want to have multiple coaches that I
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  Speaker 1: can send my client to that specialize in other things.
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  Speaker 1: So for example, if my client is throughout their journey,
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  Speaker 1: if this isolation realizes they want to lose weight, then
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to help them lose the weight along with
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  Speaker 1: someone else. If it's a therapist, then I want to
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  Speaker 1: be able to get somebody that is a therapist and
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  Speaker 1: we work together and one she works on the listening
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  Speaker 1: and coming up with what I like to call like
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  Speaker 1: my son has an IEP. So every client that I
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  Speaker 1: have is going to have something similar to that, where
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  Speaker 1: you have goals and you have things that you have
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  Speaker 1: to achieve based on what the therapist recommends. So she
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  Speaker 1: might send them to me and say this person is
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  Speaker 1: going through depression and I need you to help them
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  Speaker 1: to heal through depression. Well, I give them a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of goals, I give them a bunch of things that's
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  Speaker 1: going to help them through their journeys and me and
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  Speaker 1: a therapist work together. If the person is going through
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  Speaker 1: health and wellness as far as healing from health and
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  Speaker 1: wellness issues, then we work together to help them heal
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  Speaker 1: as they're going through the pros of cancer. Because I
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  Speaker 1: feel like that having a coach or even a sponsor
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  Speaker 1: through addiction and the medical field is something that we
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  Speaker 1: need to have. So my job is to help people,
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  Speaker 1: not be an advocate, because that's not what it's called.
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  Speaker 1: It's really coaching people the same way you would on
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  Speaker 1: a basketball court, the same way you would on a
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  Speaker 1: football court, any sport.
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  Speaker 2: You know, that's pretty much what we do. So we get.
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  Speaker 1: People to not only win these actual things they're going through,
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  Speaker 1: but overcoming it and maintaining that. So the goal for
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  Speaker 1: me is not only to get people to get over
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  Speaker 1: the humps, for them to maintain going over the humps,
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  Speaker 1: so even if they go through it, they're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: be as emotionally attached to it.
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  Speaker 2: So let me explain.
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  Speaker 1: Let's say I get back out in the world after
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  Speaker 1: my isolation, cocoon and hibernation stage, and I start dating
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  Speaker 1: and I meet somebody and things start out good. Well,
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  Speaker 1: guess what. Because I'm so determined to maintain my healing
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  Speaker 1: and recovery, it's gonna be easier for me to spot
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  Speaker 1: when something isn't right. So, for example, it's gonna.
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  Speaker 3: Be easier for me to know if somebody's cheating, if
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  Speaker 3: somebody's lying, it's easier for me to spot it because
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  Speaker 3: the fact that I'm so protective of myself and because
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  Speaker 3: I'm so determined to heal and I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't want to go through what I went through twenty
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  Speaker 1: years prior. Well, then guess what, I'm gonna be more
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  Speaker 1: cautious about the things I do.
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  Speaker 2: And there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Speaker 1: And there are people that are being a whole lot
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  Speaker 1: more cautious than what they used to giving. One second,
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to open my up blinds. But yeah, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people want to try to make it seem
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  Speaker 1: like that people don't have the right to protect themselves.
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  Speaker 1: And what I learned is the people that are what
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  Speaker 1: y'all like to call scary, they're actually smart. Let me
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  Speaker 1: explain why. The people that are scary and are like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to do this, that's because their intuition
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  Speaker 1: is telling them that something isn't right, and so because
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  Speaker 1: their intuition is telling them that something isn't right. That
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  Speaker 1: is the whole reason why they're not doing it. So
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  Speaker 1: for some people, it's not fear because they're afraid, it's
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  Speaker 1: because they know somebody ain't right. It's just like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't go on roller coasters, and now I know why
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  Speaker 1: because I'm seeing all these roller coasters falling up, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, thank god, never one deride one. And the
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  Speaker 1: one that I did, I overcame it, and I still
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  Speaker 1: don't want to get back on it. So even though
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  Speaker 1: you may do certain things, you may't realize I should
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  Speaker 1: have never did it in the first place. Now, there
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  Speaker 1: are some things we can do, like a roller coaster,
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  Speaker 1: get on it and say, I still will never get
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  Speaker 1: back on one. I ain't been back on one since. Accept
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  Speaker 1: the virtual ones, the ones that you know they're virtual
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  Speaker 1: and you can't see what's going on. Those are the
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  Speaker 1: only ones I've been on. But as far as me
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  Speaker 1: getting back on a roller coast, I ain't getting back
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  Speaker 1: on a roller coaster. And so that's the whole entire
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  Speaker 1: point of all of it.
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  Speaker 2: There are some.
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  Speaker 1: Things you can do and you still will never do
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  Speaker 1: it again. And yet there are some things that you
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  Speaker 1: do and the consequence and me because and karma, it's
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  Speaker 1: just too much to do it. It ain't worth doing
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  Speaker 1: because if you do it, you know it ain't gonna
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  Speaker 1: in well, So if you know it ain't gonna in, well,
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  Speaker 1: why do it? Why do you think that you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: be the exception to the rule when everybody else has
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  Speaker 1: done it is going through the same thing. All it
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  Speaker 1: is is there are some people that can do stuff
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  Speaker 1: and the only reason they get away with it because
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  Speaker 1: somebody else gonna always take the fall, or somebody gonna
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  Speaker 1: always be there to cushion that person so they will
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  Speaker 1: never have to fall. So knowing this, and you know
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  Speaker 1: when you hit rock bottom that ain't gonna be the
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  Speaker 1: same for you, then I don't recommend you doing something
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  Speaker 1: negative because you ain't gonna have nobody to catch you
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  Speaker 1: when you fall, so you always gonna have the halves
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  Speaker 1: and the have nots.
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  Speaker 2: That's just the way it is.
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  Speaker 1: But if you are the ones that's the have nots,
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  Speaker 1: meaning you the one that if you fall or you
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  Speaker 1: may a mistake, it's gonna be worse for you, then
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't recommend doing nothing that you should. People also
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  Speaker 1: that are healing are not trying to bring whatever it
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  Speaker 1: is back that they did, and they're not.
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  Speaker 2: So let me give you a good example.
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  Speaker 1: I lost my job on the twenty eighth of August, right,
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  Speaker 1: and I've been out of work all majority of you know,
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  Speaker 1: all of September.
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  Speaker 2: So I've been out of word for about a month.
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  Speaker 1: And I have a new job that starts Thursday. But
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  Speaker 1: some of y'all may say, well, you're a coach and
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  Speaker 1: yet you're working a regular nine to five job.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I am.
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  Speaker 1: Why because my coaching is not up and running yet.
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  Speaker 1: So what I'm going to do while I am working?
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  Speaker 1: I am going to be doing my courses. Finally, why
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  Speaker 1: did I not do it when I got certified?
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  Speaker 2: Because I wasn't ready.
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  Speaker 1: See, let me break down what I had to go
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  Speaker 1: through as far as coaching, so y'all can understand this process.
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  Speaker 1: When people teach you things, okay, like when you go
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  Speaker 1: to school, they teach you social studies and science, and
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  Speaker 1: they teach you math, and they teach you the basics.
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  Speaker 1: But are those things really gonna be what matters when
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  Speaker 1: you go through a breakup or when you go through
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  Speaker 1: getting your heart broken. No, they're not so what people
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  Speaker 1: don't seem to understand is they teach you how to.
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  Speaker 2: Work, but they don't teach you social skills.
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  Speaker 1: They don't teach you critical thinking, common sense and common judgment, morals, values, principles,
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  Speaker 1: and ethics. So when you are learning coaching, when I
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  Speaker 1: was with Miss Tricia, she taught me to be my
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  Speaker 1: own patient. And when I was my own patient, I
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  Speaker 1: learned a lot. But not only that, I'm still my
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  Speaker 1: own patient. Why because I'm still going through it. So
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  Speaker 1: I had to go through what I'm getting ready to
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  Speaker 1: do with my patients, but before I even did it.
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  Speaker 1: So isolation, cocoon and hibernation stage. The way I would
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  Speaker 1: describe it is the way God pulls you from the
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  Speaker 1: world and puts you by yourself into just himming you. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So the first thing I decided to work on is spiritual.
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  Speaker 2: That's the first thing.
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  Speaker 1: The second thing that I want to work on is
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  Speaker 1: mental and psychological because your decision making is based upon
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  Speaker 1: that and then your emotions and trying to balance your
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  Speaker 1: emotions from making decisions that are going to jeopardize your life.
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  Speaker 1: So the reason why emotional healing is important because emotional
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  Speaker 1: intelligence comes from that. So with mental and emotional and psychological.
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  Speaker 2: There has to be a balance, and the.
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  Speaker 1: Mental should always be the one that makes the final
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  Speaker 1: decision no matter what. It's not just about you hearing
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  Speaker 1: something or whatever your five says is bring to you
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  Speaker 1: and you consume it, and then you acknowledge it, and
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  Speaker 1: then you react and behave on it. Sometimes you don't
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  Speaker 1: need to always act and behave on things based upon that,
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  Speaker 1: which is where a critical think and common sense and
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  Speaker 1: common judgment comes in at but also researching and verifying
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  Speaker 1: and the emotional and also having intellect knowledge and education
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  Speaker 1: counter acts your emotions because even though you may feel
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  Speaker 1: a certain way, that doesn't mean that you need to
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  Speaker 1: react to it in a certain way.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't mean that.
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  Speaker 1: So the thing about it is is about spiritual is
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  Speaker 1: understanding negative and positive good versus evil, and understanding what
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  Speaker 1: is truly good and what is truly evil and what
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  Speaker 1: can be a wolf and she's clothing boy and girl
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  Speaker 1: to cry wolf, sirens, vampires, snakes, harless sucubists and Jezebels.
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  Speaker 1: So you need to understand that. So it does require
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  Speaker 1: the Bible. And I am not going to sit up
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  Speaker 1: here and lie to y'all. I go to bed listening
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  Speaker 1: to the listening and stuff every night. And I also
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  Speaker 1: learned that social media has been distracting us from doing
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things that we're meant to do, and
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  Speaker 1: that is a problem for me. So I said, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, I start work Thursday, I won't have time
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  Speaker 1: to be on social media because I'll be too busy working.
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  Speaker 1: Then when I get off, I'll be too busy, you know,
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  Speaker 1: getting stuff together, because like today, I'm gonna get ready
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  Speaker 1: to start cutting up everything and meal prepping. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing that today. Tomorrow I'm gonna wash some clothes and
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  Speaker 1: stuff so to get ready for working Thursday and Friday,
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  Speaker 1: and then I work my full week. But am I
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  Speaker 1: gonna work a work with job the rest of my life?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: But I still got bills that I gotta pay, so
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  Speaker 1: I still need to work. So and I got jewelry,
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  Speaker 1: so I gotta start selling jewelry and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: So I just want people to.
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  Speaker 1: Understand that, you know, eventually you're gonna find your way
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  Speaker 1: back to you. So let me break down myself trying
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  Speaker 1: to be into the world. Where has that gotten me?
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  Speaker 1: That gotten me having sex with men that I shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have sex with the first place, dating men that I
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  Speaker 1: should't have dated in the first place, trying to friends
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  Speaker 1: be friends with people that I'm no longer friends with now.
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  Speaker 1: My phone is not ren at all. It don't personally
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  Speaker 1: anyway except my mom and my other friend, and then
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  Speaker 1: I have a couple of friends that I reach out
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  Speaker 1: to periodity.
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  Speaker 2: I don't talk to nobody every day because I just
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  Speaker 2: don't know more.
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  Speaker 1: At this point, I'm no longer the friend that's trying
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  Speaker 1: to get everybody together. I'm not trying to do that.
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  Speaker 1: I am a solo traveler. I am going on the
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  Speaker 1: cruise in January, so I'm excited about that. But at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the day, like I said, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it was hard to come to terms with that, and
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  Speaker 1: I was pissed off. I'm not gonna lie because my
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  Speaker 1: instincts always said to me that nobody would ever like me.
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  Speaker 1: I accept the fact that I am not men's preferences,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm okay with that, But that does not mean
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  Speaker 1: that God's not gonna bring me a husband. It just
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  Speaker 1: means that I'm not for everybody. I decided to go
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  Speaker 1: celibate because I'm not gonna continue giving my body to
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  Speaker 1: a man.
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  Speaker 2: It's not my husband.
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  Speaker 1: I have one kid, and I said I wasn't having
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  Speaker 1: another one, and I didn't have another one. I put
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  Speaker 1: that in God's hands, and I didn't have another child
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  Speaker 1: because I did not want to be another single mother
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  Speaker 1: and I did not want to have to raise a
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  Speaker 1: secondary child by myself, and I said I wasn't having it.
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  Speaker 1: Do I regret any of it? No? But am I
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  Speaker 1: repenting for it because that's not the direction that God
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  Speaker 1: wanted me to go. No? Am I running around looking
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  Speaker 1: for something? No, I'm not looking for nothing. Whatever is
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  Speaker 1: meant for me will find me, or we'll find each other.
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  Speaker 2: That's just how I look at it.
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  Speaker 1: I put something out, I might fill out an application
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  Speaker 1: that might be it. They tell me, No, I no
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  Speaker 1: longer get upset about it. At the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: I look at it like this. Here, as far as
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  Speaker 1: the United States is concerned, it's self sabotaging itself. And
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  Speaker 1: in the end, these billionaires is gonna lose everything in
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  Speaker 1: the end, because if nobody has any money to pay
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  Speaker 1: for anything, then that means that basically essentially nobody can
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  Speaker 1: live here. So I look at things a little bit differently.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not panicking about any of this stuff, because they're
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  Speaker 1: the ones that are the problem. It's not the American people,
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  Speaker 1: it's government. This new government that we have. They not
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: gonna do nothing but destroy themselves, and they don't even
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: realize it. They think that AI is gonna be the
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: answer whining. All actuality is not because if nobody has
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: any money to buy anything because they don't have a job,
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: who's gonna buy anything? Who's gonna buy some The minute
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: they put the mark of the beasts, I'm gonna be
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: on a plane and I'm gonna be gone, and I'm
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: not gonna be staying here because I am not doing
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: the marketing beasts.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: I'm not.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go somewhere and buy some landing and grow
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: my own food. I'm not gonna sit up here and
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: worry about that at this point in junction. I'm not
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: because every last of everything that I grow, I will
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: end up putting back into the ground and starting over.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: So no, ain't we not doing that?
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: So I don't really panic about society and what's going on.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: I saw Cardi B's interview, and I love that interview
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: because she was really raw and people got to see
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: a side of her that you don't see how she
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: thinks about raising her kids. Everybody thought that Cardi B
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: was stupid. I never thought Cardi B was stupid. I
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: always thought Cardi B was raised a certain way. But
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I also understand that when you're an immigrant or a
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: child of immigrant, it's not gonna be as easy for
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: you to have the same as everybody else. But do
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I think that you know her situation led her to
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: where she is. Yeah, I love the fact that she sees. Now,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: money or not, you still gonna have problems because you
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: are as soon as you get money, here come everybody
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: that weren't around you then and want to be around
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: you now. Now you gotta take care of everybody else,
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: And you feel obligated to take care of everybody else
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: cause you're doing good. Nope, no, you're not obligated to
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: take care of people. That's not what you wanna do.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: You don't have to. So my thing is when my
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: coaching gets where it needs to be.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I will pay off my dad's house, and I will
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: even remodel it and do all of that. But am
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: I going to buy my father a new house? Considering
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: he is about to be eighty years old. No, I'm not.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing that. Why because if something happens to
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: me and they don't make sure my business continues to thrive,
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: then guess what, my parents are not gonna be able
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: to take care of all of that. And that's what
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. People buy all this stuff like the rest
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: of your family gonna be able to take care of it.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Like when Chris passed away, who gonna take over his kids?
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: But are his kids gonna be able to afford to
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: to keep up that house?
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: No, they gonna sell it.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: So you have to be very very logical when it
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: comes to when you have money. Me personally, it's more
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: so traveling, having better health care is more so about
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: having land and building a house from the ground up
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: versus trying to have a house. And I'm paying taxes
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: because really I'm not paying taxes on the house. I'm
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: paying taxes on the actual land. That's what I'm paying
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: taxes on. But when you start researching things, you start
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: learning more, you start growing more, and you're seeing things
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: very differently. So when I see little kids dancing, yeah,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: it makes me cry. When I see people in the
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: military coming home and they see their families. Yes, I
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: cry because you know, I think those things are very
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: sweet and they touch my spirit and they touch my heart.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: But that don't mean I cry over everything. I am
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: somebody that it takes a lot for me to cry,
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: but I will cry if I need to. But I
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: learned that crying is releasing something, and sometimes you have
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: to let yourself cry to release whatever pain or happiness
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: or whatever you're feeling, you need to release it. So
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: I think if you cry because you're happy, cry because
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: you're sad, you cul cud or whatever the reason it is,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: you have very right to cry. And at the end
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: of the day, I tell people, only time you can't
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: cry as when you do something wrong, When you do
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: something and there are consequences, reaf becausein karma you can't
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: cry now because you gring deal with the consequence. Reef
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: becausin garmer you better suck it up and take everything
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: they come with it. But see that's the problem. A
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: lot of people don't want to take what comes with
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: whatever negative things that they do. And like I said,
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: you know, a lot of us want to be captain
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: saber hos and builde bears and bill dogs. See feels
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: and people Please can't do that, because you're gonna be
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: the one taking on all of those consequences because of karma,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: even though you don't want to. It's just like a
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: little girl to want to be a little boy and
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: she can't be with them because of her parents, and
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: she decides to get rid of her parents, and then
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: the little boy ends up getting rid of his parent
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: her parents, and then they end up going to jail,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: and he's the one that gets the worst of it
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: because he's the one that asks to committed a crime.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, like I said,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: you know, it really amazes me how a lot of
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: people don't understand that if somebody is doing something negative,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: please go to the opposite direction. If you not somebody
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: trying to have sex to a marriage, then you shouldn't
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: be with somebody that is. You can't be with somebody
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: that is because that's not gonna work. Even though we
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: think that it's going to work, it does not. You
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: being with somebody that's a non believer and they're not
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: trying to change their ways, it's not somebody you need
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: to be around. There are certain places that you don't
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: need to go because of the influence and the manipulation
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: in the bamboozle. And as you're strong enough not to
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: allow those things to get to you, then go ahead
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: on and go. There are some people can be in
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: a room for a negativity and it don't bother them
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: at all. Why because they know they can always walk
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: out that door. But see, the problem means, are they
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: gonna let you walk out the door? Are they gonna
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: let you walk out without being unscathed? That's the question.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: So just because you walk into something doesn't mean that
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: you're gonna walk out the same way you walked in.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: No.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: Mm mmm, that would be untrue, and that would be enough.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: So when it comes to you minding your own business,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: you go where you're wanted, you go where you're appreciated,
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: You go where your value And if it ain't, if
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: these people got even one simple negative thing to say
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: about you, then you need to say, you know what,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I'm going to the opposite direction. I ain't going so
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: like I said before, you know, I get it. But again,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: you know, we spend our whole entire lives living lies
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: based on what somebody else has told us, and it
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: has been a lie. The lot of tech determines that
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: is a lot, And so when I've been doing these podcasts,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: it is as things as I've learned them, and you know,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: no they're not in order. And no, it's not about
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: solutions on these podcasts because if I give you solutions,
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: it may not work for everybody. So when I deal
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: with people, it's one on one. But are we gonna
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: talk about the issues? Are we gonna talk about some
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: solutions that might work for everybody?
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, But in the end, are you going to be
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: alone when you're going through healing and recovery?
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: Yes, you are for some people.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: For some people, if they go to the hospital and
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: they have surgery, they're gonna be by themselves. Theyin't gonna
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: have nobody unless you know a family member fly out
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: here or they have the surgery in the state. There
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: are people that go and have plastic surgery and they
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: don't come back alive.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: They come back dead.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: So you know, a lot of people are playing Russian
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: roulette because you're trying to you're letting society's version of
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: you do things that's gonna mess up your life in
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: the long run, and it ain't worth it. So I've
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: never done plasid surgery, don't want to do plast surgery.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I accept my flaws and imperfections. I've turned them into strengths.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: I come as I am, and if you don't like me,
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: I don't care.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: But the new.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: Version of me is gonna be unrecognizable because, like I said,
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: the new version of me is ready to get out
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: there in the world. The new version of me can
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: go anywhere, and I don't care what you're talking about.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: The new version of me is not going to be
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: influenced or manipulated or bamboozled by anybody because I'm just
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: not in that place, because my feelings are not something
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: I just give out. No, you have to earn those
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: feelings and it's not gonna happen overnight.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: It's gonna happen over time.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: So again, when you're someone that is trying to mind
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: your own business, that means exactly that you are focused
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: on yourself. And don't get me wrong. You know, if
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: I'm just shopping and stuff like that, I'll be on
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: social media because I'm shopping. I might be on my
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: phone doing that, but worrying about what everybody else and
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: their mama doing and me trying to look like somebody else.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: God didn't make me to look like everybody else. God
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: made me to look like me, and that's just it.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I accept me and I mean every part of me.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: So I'm not trying to go and get plastic surgery.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: But if I have to go get you know, a
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: hip surgery or a hip replacement, then that's something I.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Need to do.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: If I have to get like I got my gallbladder
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: in my and a hysterectomy done. If I had to
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: go get them things done, that's because those things need
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: to be done. If I want to go get Veneers,
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: I'll go get Veneers. But you know, you know, at
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, I'm happy in the body
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: that I'm in, and I lost twenty one pounds. Like today,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: for example, I am gonna be cutting up fruits, cutting
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: up vegetables, and I made a smoothie yesterday that last
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: me really until this morning.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: I'm about to go in there and blend it and
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: drink it.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: And I've been doing my f I've been doing like
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: getting prepared for going, you know, getting prepared as far.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: As getting up early in the morning.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I get up early anyway, but to be able to
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: get up at seven o'clock to work from and do training.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: I'm ready for that.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: I gotta send an email because I got some issues
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: going on. But like I said, at the end of
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: the day, my podcast will still go on. It's just
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: gonna be everybody will have to be on there on
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: the weekend, on Friday Saturday.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: Evenings or either at any evening time.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: But that does not mean that I'm not preparing, because
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: this time I am for So let me tell you
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: about my job situation. I got a new job making
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: way more money than what I've made before. Now, when
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: I got my stuff, I thought it was gonna be
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: one of them smaller computers.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: It ain't.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: It's one of them big old tower ones. I was
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: supposed to be going home in November, and I'm wondering,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: how in the world am I gonna get this tower,
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: you know, carry this big old tower. But then I said,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna do a carry I'm gonna
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: do a I'm gonna do a carry on because I'm
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: just gonna do a carry on. So I'm gonna do
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: the carry on and stick it in there, and I'm
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: either going to have them to put it in the
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: bottom of the put in the bottom and or I'm
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: just gonna put it on top and have somebody to
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: help me put it in there, and the only thing
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: that's gonna be in there is gonna be that that computer.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: Cause I have to get on two planes. I have
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: to get on one to Charlotte and then I gotta
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: leave from Charlotte to what's the name, So it might
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: be a little easier just to carry the carry on
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: and carry it. So that's what I'm pretty much going
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: to do as far as that is concerned. But in
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: the end it'll work out because like I said, you know,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: I can always get somebody to help me put the
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: carry on in the bag, and then, like I said,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: you can carry a carry on and then a bag.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: So the good thing about it is with a carry on,
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: some of them which you take like American Airlines let
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you take two bags. So if I have to take
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: my computer my laptop, because I have a laptop that
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: I got to get fixed that I need to take
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: to Apple for them to look at to see if
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: they can fix it while I'm there, so I'm gonna
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: go ahead and get that one fixed. So, like I said,
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: the good thing about it is if I want to,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: you know, take some clothes and put them in a
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: bag and carry the bag.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Then my person stuff. It can be a little bit easier.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: But like I said, as y'all clearly can see how
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I figured that out, I said, you know what, I'm
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: just gonna put that tower in a in my in
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: my suitcase and I'm just going to wrap put some
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: stuff like I have some some some shirts that I'm
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: going to add in there just so it will be
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: it won't break. But I think it's big enough to
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: go in there and just put in the trout and
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: the carry on bag. If not, what I can do
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: is have it overnight it and have it shipped.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: But I said, you know what, I just carry it.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: So you see what I mean.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Even though they're gonna be things that are going to
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: be standstills, but that don't mean that that's gonna stop you.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: I'm going home.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: I already paid for it, so yeah, I will be
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: still going. It's just that I can either carry the
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: but carry it, or I can do it in a
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: carry on and like I said, put it and make
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: sure that I have it with me and just you know,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: put it in a carry on, put it up on top,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: and then go from there. Then when I come back home.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: If I and my friend gonna pick me up, I
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: can just have him put it on top of the thing.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: That'd be that.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: So again, you know, you don't just give up and say, Okay,
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: I have this tower.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: I work from home.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to go home for Thanksgiving,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: for Christmas.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: I paid.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: I spent too much money already paying for this stuff.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: So I said, you know what, I'll make it work.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna see how heavy it's gonna be in
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: there when I take every when I take it apart,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: cause the only thing I have to take is just
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: that and the scanner and the I already have uh headphones,
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: but just the scanner and and the thing. And so,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: like I said, my friend takes me to the airport
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: that morning, then the only thing that has to happen
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: is I can just uh have them carry it down,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: so you know, I can just carry it downstairs. And
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: then once I carry it downstairs, then all I have
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: to do is just put it cause it's a it's
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: a Sometimes they don't make you take everything out your
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: suit case.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: They used to.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: Now they don't, so I may not have to take
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: the the tower out because like I said, once they
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: go through, then it's just fine. You know where I
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: where I live at the the airport. Once you go
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: through where whichever way you have to go, it's not
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: that hard. But it's just when I get to Charlotte.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Charlotte is huge. It's a huge airport. But the good
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: thing is, you know, if I need help getting my
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: carry on on top, then it can go on the top.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: If not, it will have to go down to the
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: bottom and I have to wait, go downstairs, go get it.
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: And that's it.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: So that's pretty much about it. But for the most part,
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I'm leaving.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: I'm leaving a week early, so I should be fine.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: So you know, because I'm leaving like a week early,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: and I always leave two hours early just to make
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: sure that I get there early. So you know what
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. So when you start recovering, your decisions are
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: easier to make. There are cause you're gonna figure it out.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: You're not gonna panic because the old version of you
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: is gonna panic. You're like, well, hearing the world, am
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I gonna be able to get this heavy? And the tower,
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: don't wrong, it is heavy, but I could carry.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: It in a bag and carry it.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: But I was like, no, because if I'm be doing
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: a lot of walking, I'm just gonna put in a
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: carry on and that'll be the only thing that's in there,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: and probably just something around it so it won't you know,
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: move around. But I'm not making it h that heavy.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: So again, you know, some some airplanes, you know, with
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: carry ons, you have to pay for them, and then
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: some of them you don't. It's just like today, over
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: the weekend, I'm probably gonna be going through the clothes
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: that I'm gonna be wearing for this trip. I already packed,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: but I'm putting everything, but you know, trying to get
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: that suitcase down in the morning wherever time I gotta go. Now,
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: my friend take me to the the pier to go
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: to ta to go to you know, the b the boat.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: Cool.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: But you know, at the end of the day, my friend,
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  Speaker 1: like a friend of mine, was like, girl, you need
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  Speaker 1: to get a bigger a bigger bag, because if you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get souvenirs and stuff like that, you're gonna want
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: a bigger suitcase. But see, I have three floors of steps,
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  Speaker 1: you know, four four technically to take my suitcase, you know,
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  Speaker 1: so I do want to get a first floor or
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  Speaker 1: a second floor, but.
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  Speaker 2: My goal is to have a house.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: So again, when you sit down, you think about it
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, you know, like, I woke up early,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm about to get up now.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna make breakfast and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm just getting myself prepared for not only working
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: for eight hours a day, but also building a business
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  Speaker 1: in the process. So today I'm gonna, you know, get
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: up and make breakfast, get dressed, and start chopping up
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  Speaker 1: everything early cause I'm gonna ahead, and cause i gotta
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: do my kitchens, my whole entire kitchen section. But I
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: have some potatoes in there, and I'm gonna cut my
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: sweet potatoes and I'm gonna go ahead and cut those
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  Speaker 1: up and to pieces. And next time I said, I
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: was just gonna buy the potato squares and mean sweet
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: potato squares, and I don't know how I'm gonna cut them,
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  Speaker 1: but I am going to peel them and then I'm
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: gonna cut them. I might use one of the sweet
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: potatoes to make a sweet potato pumpkin cheesecake or a
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: sweet potato sweet potato pumpkin, you know, br like bread
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: or something like that. But you know, some people may say,
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: why would you wanna make bread?
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: Bread is unhealthy?
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Wait hold on, cause I'm gonna stop you right there,
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: because if you look at the ingredients that isn't bread.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: You can make bread without yeast, you can make bread
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  Speaker 1: without a lot of things.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: But see, here's the thing.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: When it come to food, it is what's in the food.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: It's not the food itself, it's what's in it. Like
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: sugarcane actually can be healthy.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: So you can have sugar, but it's the type of
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: sugar that you have.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: So again, you know a lot of people you know
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: are it's it's insane. And like I said, if you
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: have a world where they don't want to change anything,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: you go into the grocery store, it's not healthy. They're
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: still selling things that are unhealthy. Even though doctors are
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: on these social media platforms saying all day every day
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: that this stuff is unhealthy, it's still in the store.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: It's just like when it comes to sex, they're saying
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: they want girls to be abstinate, but you got men
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: that are praying on young girls, including men that will
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: date their mothers just to come and their daughters or
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: essay their daughters. You have predators that prey on people
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: come into their worlds and cause chaos.
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  Speaker 2: Well, if you.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Look at sinners. To me, it was about the fact
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  Speaker 1: of you know, you welcoming negativity into your world, but
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: how exactly do you welcome negativity into your world? There's
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: many different ways you can let negativity into your world.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: I mean, there's so many different ways you can do so.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: So in the end, research, education and intellect is very important,
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: but critical think in common sense and common judgment is
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: also very important. Morals, values, principles, and ethics. Being able
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: to weigh pros and cons and understanding the consequences and
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: repercussions of your actions and the karma that own with it.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: It ain't worth it, it ain't at all. But in
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: the end, like I said, once you recover.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: And when you heal, you do.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: Not, under any circumstance, want to relinquish that. So let
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: me explain what you will be protecting from this day
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: forward is your health and wellness, Your mental health, is
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: psychological health. You is not gonna let nobody of nothing
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: except natural disasters and illnesses that you can't control.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: So let me explain.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: I get sick once a year. Once a year, I
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: get sick, and I mean I'd be sick for days.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: And the flu, you can if you get a shot,
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: you can prevent it. But there's natural ways you can
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: prevent the flu. There's natural ways you can prevent a
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: lot of things, but there's things you can't. And human
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: beings are the most damaging you. Going you get in
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: the car, you're driving, your mind and your business. Somebody's speeding,
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: somebody ain't paying attention, somebody's car loses controls, somebody drinking
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: and driving.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: So stuff happens.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: So before you leave, you make sure your tires are good,
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: you make sure everything is good, You make sure every
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: everything is fine, and then there you have it.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: So in the end, you can't control people. You can't.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: I seen some me and my mom when I was
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: visiting and went home. We were we were at Windy's
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: getting something to eat. We went and got Oh, what
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: we always do is we always will get a baked
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: potato or chili, and then we'll go to cook out
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: and we'll get a sandwich, we'll get a barbecue sandwich,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: or we'll do something of that nature.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: But as we.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: Were getting ready to pull out, getting ready to you know,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: waiting for the light, this guy goes through the lights
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: speeding and hit somebody cor and I mean you literally
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: can hear it, So you know, somebody ended up at
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: the hospital. So again, because of other people's negligence and
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: other people's lack of consideration and the fact that you're
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: trying to be speeding on that conzalus because you chose
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: be linked now you in a situation that you in.
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: So again, like I said, you can't control of the people. So,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: like I said, if your healing and recovery is that
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: important to you, then you need to make sure that
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: you take care of yourself.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: That's what's important.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: So you only can do what you can do if
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: you work hard to heal yourself. You work hard to
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: you know, get rid of cancer and being remission. Do
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: everything you can to remain in remission. So don't go
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: back to the things you used to do that don't
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: work for you. Whatever don't work for you, don't go
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: back to it, no matter how much you want to,
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: don't go back to it. You gotta stay away from it.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: So healing and recovery is a whole lot more than
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: just about healing and recovery and overcoming addiction and trauma.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: And all this other stuff. What's about it is maintaining that.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: Whatever you do to maintain it, you continue, continue to
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: be weary, continue to keep your guard up, continue to
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: let your intuition and your gut instincts tell you that
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: something ain't right. Don't just go off your feelings and say, Okay,
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: I lost all this weight. Now I'm gonna go out
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: here and wear all this stuff trying to get all
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: these men for what what are you doing that for?
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you don't lose who
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: you are internally because all of a sudden, now externally
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: you look good. So now you're going out here and
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: you think because you look a certain way that that
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: change is things it It doesn't. It changes nothing. You
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: still gonna be the same insecure person that you were.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: So even though you change yourself externally as far as
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: your money and success and the way you look and
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: all of that, but that's not gonna change internally the damage.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: So if you heal yourself internally and then work on
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: everything externally, then it'll be better. Because now you're like, Okay,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: I don't have all these people leeching on me. I
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: ain't got all these people taking advantage of me. I'm
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: doing good as far as my health and wellness. I'm happy.
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I'm in a good place. Everything is good. There you
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: go now, you ain't got to worry about it. You're
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: in a good place at this point. So that's why
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: I say, you know, work on yourself internally first, and
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: then work on everything else externally. Everything else externally will come.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: When you work on yourself internally and when you feel
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: good as far as your health and wellness, everything else
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: will work itself out.
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: And that's just the way I see all of that.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: And as somebody that is working on my health and wellness,
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: only have two issues, which is my throat, which today
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: is actually doing good.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: Today is not bothering me today.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: It's just my side today some reason on my leg
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: far as my pelvid bone, it just hurts, so I
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: gotta put some cream the doctor gave me for it.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: But again, once you get yourself where you need to be,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: and you're healthy and you're doing well, and you're doing
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: everything as far as holistic, as far as taking care
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: of yourself holistically, and naturally you live longer. But as
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: long as you're doing everything the way society and the
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: world wants you to you're gonna live that long.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: You're not. You're gonna live that long at all.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: So I just want to come on here and talk
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: about this because I felt like this is something that
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: needs to be talked about. But like I said, focus
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: on you ain't nothing wrong working a job. But at
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, you want to be able
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: to have the freedom to be able to work when
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: you want to. So let me explain if I do.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: Let's say I do end up becoming a radio podcast.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: I say my podcast becomes syndicated and I make about,
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: you know, one thousand dollars an episode per podcast. I
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: have ten of them. That's ten thousand dollars in my pocket,
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: which is good. If I was to sell all of
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: my jury and stuff that I have in there, which
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: I gotta which I definitely gotta do, and start making jury,
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: then that's like I said, there are other things you
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: can be doing besides being on social media. So if
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: you're not shopping on social media, if you're not doing
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: anything that's going to make you money, then you are
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: pretty much wasting time, point blank period. So that is
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: something I've learned. So going back to work is gonna
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: be good. But that does not mean that me I'm
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: gonna be working forever because I'm fifty one, so I'm
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: not trying to do that. I am trying to travel
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: and see the world. I've seen all these places that
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: I want to visit, and I'm going but I know
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: I have to get on it and start working. So
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: now I'm about to be productive, So I'm getting up.
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: I posted my friends podcast, which I'm gonna post on
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: here so you guys can get to hear it, and
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: then also the one I did with Miss Sophia, so
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: you guys can hear it. But again, at the end
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: of the day, it working eight hours a day is
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: not for everybody. What the world has going on doesn't
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: mean you have to be involved. And just because everybody
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: else panics doesn't mean you have to. Because again, if
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: you're somebody's healed, and you're somebody is of God and
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: your faith in God is not waiver, there's nothing you
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: cannot overcome. So again, God will be with you if
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: you walk the path that God won't you to. So
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: with that being said, I thank you guys for joining
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: me for this episode.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: I'm your host.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: God is Asha Maryama, and I will see you guys
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: next week, Bye y'all.