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When Things Don’t Go Your Way: Find the Strength to Keep Pushing · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I realized that God wasn't going to give me a
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  Speaker 1: get out of jail free card. And from the time
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  Speaker 1: I was born and to the time I was nineteen
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  Speaker 1: years old, my life had these hurdles. I constantly hit obstacles,
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  Speaker 1: obstacle after obstacle after obstacle, and.
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  Speaker 2: I had to figure out how to manage suffering, how to.
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  Speaker 3: Deal with it, because it would be part of.
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  Speaker 2: My life forever, at least that's what I thought. So
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  Speaker 2: in order to deal with it, I had to be
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  Speaker 2: able to conquer it and overcome it and deal with
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  Speaker 2: it and know that in this suffering there has to
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  Speaker 2: be some kind of growth with every obstacle.
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  Speaker 3: I look at this friction.
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  Speaker 2: Now, without friction, there is no growth.
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  Speaker 4: There's going to be things that go on that are
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  Speaker 4: out of your control. The worst thing you can do
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  Speaker 4: is let something that's out of your control control. You.
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  Speaker 4: Get control of yourself, get control of your emotions. Don't
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  Speaker 4: get angry, don't get frustrated. Instead, stay calm and figure
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  Speaker 4: out how to move far.
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  Speaker 5: Work.
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  Speaker 3: You recycle your pain. Do use your pain. You take
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  Speaker 3: your pain, that's your pay.
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  Speaker 6: What's you do a level that recycle your pain, get.
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  Speaker 3: Something from it.
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  Speaker 6: You already in pain.
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  Speaker 3: Use it.
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  Speaker 6: Do something with this, Allow it to take you to
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  Speaker 6: the next level.
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  Speaker 7: Allow your pain to push you to greatness.
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  Speaker 5: No matter how rough the sea, you keep standing, no
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  Speaker 5: matter what.
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  Speaker 4: You don't give up. You keep standing, no matter what.
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  Speaker 2: Well for you to find greatness in yourself, You're not
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  Speaker 2: gonna find it.
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  Speaker 4: By looking in a book or by even hearing me.
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  Speaker 2: I may give you the spark, but you've got to.
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  Speaker 5: Go inside yourself to find it.
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  Speaker 2: And that means you gotta be quiet.
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  Speaker 1: Stop talking, search your soul, search your mind, hurt your abilities,
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  Speaker 1: and you'll find it.
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  Speaker 2: If you're not looking for it, you won't find it.
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  Speaker 5: Spring is called opportunity, not a guarantee. It's guaranteed the
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  Speaker 5: spring will come, but it's not a guarantee of a harvest.
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  Speaker 5: Here's the key. You must do something with the spring.
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  Speaker 5: Take advantage of the spring. Read every book you can
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  Speaker 5: get your hands on what to do with the springs
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  Speaker 5: of your life. Take advantage of the day, because the
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  Speaker 5: day follows the dune. It's an opportunity there to turn
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  Speaker 5: things around. It's an opportunity to have a better one
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  Speaker 5: than the last one. It's an opportunity for a new beginning,
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  Speaker 5: a new spring, a new day, a new beginning. So
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  Speaker 5: spring is the chance to take advantage of another opportunity.
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  Speaker 5: Now here's what you must do in the spring. It's
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  Speaker 5: a very short season. Usually you must hurry. You've got
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  Speaker 5: to get it done fairly quickly.
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  Speaker 4: You have to move.
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  Speaker 7: Based on opportunity. If you have an opportunity to make
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  Speaker 7: a living at exactly what you dream about, you have
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  Speaker 7: to pursue that at that time when it's there. If
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  Speaker 7: the opportunity isn't there, just keep educating yourself as much
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  Speaker 7: as possible so that when the time comes, you'll be
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  Speaker 7: even better at that dream that you had.
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  Speaker 8: You have to sort yourself out to solve the problem.
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  Speaker 8: You'd have to learn way more than you know. To
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  Speaker 8: solve the problem. You'd have to become way more than
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  Speaker 8: you are to be the person who could address that problem.
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  Speaker 8: But then you could see if addressing the problem calls
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  Speaker 8: you to be the person that you could be, well,
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  Speaker 8: then the problem is an opportunity too.
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  Speaker 3: Well.
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  Speaker 9: You should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something
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  Speaker 9: the new thing, but you should be more afraid of
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  Speaker 9: staying where you are if it's making you miserable. It's
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  Speaker 9: like you're paying a price by sitting there being miserable.
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  Speaker 9: You might say, well, the devil I know is better
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  Speaker 9: than the one I don't. It's like, don't be so
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  Speaker 9: sure of that. The clock is ticking. And if you're
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  Speaker 9: miserable in your job now and you change nothing in
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  Speaker 9: five years, you will be much more miserable and you'll
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  Speaker 9: be a lot older. To compare yourself to who you
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  Speaker 9: were yesterday, not to who someone else is today, you
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  Speaker 9: need to be you need to have a hierarchy of improvement.
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  Speaker 9: You need to be aiming for something, and that means
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  Speaker 9: you're going to be lesser than people who've always already
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  Speaker 9: attained along. That demand can give rise to envy. So
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  Speaker 9: the question is who should you defeat in the final analysis,
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  Speaker 9: And the answer is you should defeat your former self.
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  Speaker 9: You should be constantly trying to do that. And you're
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  Speaker 9: the right control for yourself too, because you're the one
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  Speaker 9: who's had all your advantages and disadvantages. And so if
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  Speaker 9: you want to compete fairly with someone, then you should
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  Speaker 9: be competing with you. If you're improving yourself, then what
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  Speaker 9: you are doing is competing with your lesser self. And
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  Speaker 9: then you might also ask, well, what is that lesser self?
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  Speaker 9: And that lesser self would be resentful and bitter and
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  Speaker 9: aggressive and vengeance seeking and all of those things that
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  Speaker 9: go along with having a negative moral character. And those
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  Speaker 9: are things that interfere with your ability to progress as
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  Speaker 9: you move forward through life. So it's very necessary to
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  Speaker 9: understand that. This is why you know, I've been stressing
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  Speaker 9: this idea of personal responsibilities, like well, personal responsibilities to
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  Speaker 9: compete with yourself. It's to be slightly better than yourself.
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  Speaker 5: The next day, get serious, and you must get serious
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  Speaker 5: about two very important things. Number one is setting your
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  Speaker 5: goals and where you want to go. Designing the next five,
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  Speaker 5: the next ten years is so vitally important. Then you
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  Speaker 5: have to get serious about another important subject. And that
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  Speaker 5: important subject is called personal development. I know a guy
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  Speaker 5: that's got a half a dozen jokes keeping him from
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  Speaker 5: becoming wealth, but it really isn't the best way to live.
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  Speaker 5: To go from average to fortune, you must get serious.
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  Speaker 5: You've really got to get serious. You don't have to
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  Speaker 5: be grim, but you must be serious. Personal development is
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  Speaker 5: striving hard to become the kind of person that you
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  Speaker 5: want to be. Ten years from now, you will surely
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  Speaker 5: become someone. The big question is who.
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  Speaker 3: Wanting to become a better version of ourselves is something
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  Speaker 3: everyone desires. When we don't make a plan to improve ourselves,
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  Speaker 3: we stay stuck or let our limited beliefs control us.
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  Speaker 3: But just wanting to change isn't enough. We need clear
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  Speaker 3: goals and then take action to make a plan for
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  Speaker 3: personal growth that works. You get results by doing, not
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  Speaker 3: just talking. Thinking about problems won't solve them. Make a
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  Speaker 3: plan for personal growth with things you can actually do.
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  Speaker 3: Work hard to overcome any obstacles that stop you from
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  Speaker 3: reaching your goals. If you work hard and keep at it,
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  Speaker 3: you become the best you can be. What's a plan
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  Speaker 3: for personal growth? A plan for personal growth is like
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  Speaker 3: a customized plan for your life. Start by figuring out
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  Speaker 3: what makes you happiest in life. Then work backwards. Think
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  Speaker 3: about the habits you need, the things you need to learn,
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  Speaker 3: and the steps to get there. Personal growth isn't only
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  Speaker 3: for people who feel stuck or have big problems. Everyone
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  Speaker 3: benefits from having a plan to grow. Learning how to
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  Speaker 3: keep growing helps you be more confident, reach your goals,
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  Speaker 3: and feel satisfied. If you're not making progress, you're going backward.
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  Speaker 3: So it's time to start growing. Finding your personal challenges, first,
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  Speaker 3: decide what's important in your life to set goals for
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  Speaker 3: personal development. What does your plan for personal growth mean
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  Speaker 3: to you? Is it about getting better at talking to
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  Speaker 3: your partner? Do you want to do well at work?
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  Speaker 3: Do you want to eat healthier or get in better shape?
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  Speaker 5: Do you want to be.
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  Speaker 3: Better with money? No matter your challenges, there's a way
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  Speaker 3: to achieve what you want. Growth and success mean different
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  Speaker 3: things to different people, but most personal growth plans cover
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  Speaker 3: four areas, work, relationships, learning, and health. You can adjust
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  Speaker 3: your goals in these areas to fit your life and
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  Speaker 3: keep growing. The work goals are about your job. They
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  Speaker 3: can be things you want to do soon or later.
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  Speaker 3: For example, you might want a better job in a year,
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  Speaker 3: a different job in five years, and your own business
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  Speaker 3: in ten years. Work goals also include getting better at
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  Speaker 3: your job by learning and going to events. The relationship
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  Speaker 3: goals can mean finding love if you're single, or making
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  Speaker 3: your relationship stronger if you're in one. If you want love,
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  Speaker 3: you'll work on finding the right person and getting over
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  Speaker 3: things that stop you. If you're in a relationship, you
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  Speaker 3: might want to make it more exciting and stop fighting
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  Speaker 3: they're learning means feeding your brain, learning new things, and
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  Speaker 3: staying interested in learning. You could decide to read a
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  Speaker 3: long book, learn to play a musical instrument, or do
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  Speaker 3: puzzles regularly. Health is one of the most common things
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  Speaker 3: people want to improve. It might seem like just losing
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  Speaker 3: weight or getting strong muscles, but it's more. Being healthy
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  Speaker 3: means living in a way that gives you energy and
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  Speaker 3: strength to chase your other goals. Knowing the parts of
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  Speaker 3: personal growth plans. There are many ways to make a
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  Speaker 3: personal growth plan, but we can put them into seven groups.
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  Speaker 3: One skills the things you're good at or can learn
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  Speaker 3: to do well in life. Know what you're good at
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  Speaker 3: and what you need to learn to growth. To get
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  Speaker 3: what you want in your job, relationships, life, or health,
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  Speaker 3: you need to change. You need to learn more and
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  Speaker 3: be open to change. Three. Power. This is how much
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  Speaker 3: control you give others over you. To grow, take back
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  Speaker 3: some control. Don't let others control you too much. For improvement.
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  Speaker 3: To make your life better, think positive and work hard.
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  Speaker 3: All growth comes from improving yourself. If you don't try
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  Speaker 3: to be better, you won't reach your goals. Five Empowerment.
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  Speaker 3: What's special about you? It doesn't matter what others think.
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  Speaker 3: Feel more confident by thinking good things about yourself and
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  Speaker 3: doing things you enjoy. Six analysis. This means looking at
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  Speaker 3: what you're good and not good at. No one has
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  Speaker 3: great at everything. Be honest about where you need to
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  Speaker 3: improve and what you can do to get better. Seven goes.
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  Speaker 3: Having goes is important to make changes and reach your dreams.
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  Speaker 3: Being ambitious won't help if you don't know what you want.
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  Speaker 3: The secret of success is learning how to use pain
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  Speaker 3: and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you.
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  Speaker 3: If you do that, you're in control of your life.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't, life controls you.
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  Speaker 6: Life's easy when you live it the hard way, and
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  Speaker 6: hard if you try to live it the easy way.
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  Speaker 6: Self discipline means living your life the hard way, resisting
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  Speaker 6: temptations and instant gratification in order to receive bigger and
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  Speaker 6: better rewards in the future. It certainly easier to avoid
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  Speaker 6: all kinds of discomfort and indulge yourself whenever you want,
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  Speaker 6: but in the end, all that you get from that
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  Speaker 6: approach is fleeting pleasure now at the expense of your future,
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  Speaker 6: which otherwise could have been much better. Consider a weak
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  Speaker 6: willed person who when faced with a challenge, immediately opts out,
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  Speaker 6: how likely is this person to achieve anything substantial in life?
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  Speaker 6: If their primary value is to feel comfortable, how is
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  Speaker 6: this person going to manage a crisis that they must face.
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  Speaker 6: Even a relatively insignificant problem can become an insurmountable obstacle
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  Speaker 6: for a person who's been living a sheltered life and
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  Speaker 6: always avoided what's difficult or disagreeable. Now contrasts that with
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  Speaker 6: a person who voluntarily makes his or her life harder.
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  Speaker 6: They seek out and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow.
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  Speaker 6: Each self imposed affliction strengthens them so that fewer and
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  Speaker 6: fewer difficulties in life overwhelmed them day by day. They
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  Speaker 6: immunize themselves against problems precisely because they seek them out.
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  Speaker 6: When life deals with them an unexpected blow, they're ready
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  Speaker 6: to handle it because, thanks to living their lives the
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  Speaker 6: hard way, they're always ready for hardships. When you look
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  Speaker 6: at some of the most successful high performers, it might
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  Speaker 6: be tempting to say that they were born this way
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  Speaker 6: their talented end of story. In fact, talent, while undeniably
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  Speaker 6: makes life easier, is but one part of the equation.
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  Speaker 6: I used to be a shy and fearful person. If
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  Speaker 6: you compared me, the awkward outsider, with the most successful
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  Speaker 6: guys at school, you could say they were born talented
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  Speaker 6: to be popular, liked, and as alpha male as you
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  Speaker 6: could get, while I didn't have such luck. However, my
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  Speaker 6: apparent fortune turned out to be a source of strength
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  Speaker 6: because it provided a spark to introduce big changes in
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  Speaker 6: my life. By continuously pushing my comfort zone, I not
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  Speaker 6: only overcame social shyness and improved my communication skills, but
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  Speaker 6: also developed high self confidence and overcame other fears in
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  Speaker 6: my life. I might not have been born with the
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  Speaker 6: talent to be a people person. I still prefer solitude
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  Speaker 6: to crowds, but with self discipline and consistent work, I
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  Speaker 6: still achieved astounding results. Next time, before you complain that
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  Speaker 6: you don't have a talent for something or weren't born
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  Speaker 6: this way, remind yourself that self discipline in many situations
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  Speaker 6: can more than make up for a lack of inborn traits.
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  Speaker 6: Your choices are made in a moment, but their consequences
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  Speaker 6: will transcend a lifetime. Humans have the capacity to act
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  Speaker 6: against their urges in exchange for better future. Unfortunately, many
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  Speaker 6: people live by the principle of if it feels good,
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  Speaker 6: do it, and if it doesn't, don't do it. Caving
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  Speaker 6: into your temptations whenever you feel them emerge is like
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  Speaker 6: relinquishing your humanity in a way. As an intelligent human being,
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  Speaker 6: you have an ability and I dare say, an obligation
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  Speaker 6: to make decisions that are based on rational thinking, not
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  Speaker 6: on your instincts alone. Strive to be a better human
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  Speaker 6: and embrace your humanity by exercising your willpower muscle instead
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  Speaker 6: of succumbing to your most primal and least helpful for
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  Speaker 6: your long term goals part of the brain. Your most
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  Speaker 6: primal instincts may provide temporary comfort, but seldom are good
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  Speaker 6: for the long term, except when there is a direct
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  Speaker 6: threat to your survival.