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Warriors LIFE Code with Martin · Inspiring Stories

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Thank you for listening to Depictions Media Radio. You ready welcome back everybody.
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I remember um like I guess maybe thirty years ago or so. Joking with
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my friends, we always used to say, let's live life to our fullest
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because you know what, someday it's not going to be there. And we
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used to focus on just doing things just because we actually could. We had
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somebody said, hey, what are you celebrating, and we said it's Wednesday.
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We got some strange looks at particular day, but the point of it
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is is that we were just glad to have a day with each other as
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friends, to just be able to hang out and do the things that we
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loved. So I want you want you to meet our next guests, Martin
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and He is known as the Architect of Warriors Life code life is an acronym
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in this particular case, and he's going to reveal what the acronym actually means
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when we bring them on. He specializes in helping people frustrated in their life
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quickly shift their mindset to uncovered their greatness so they can live their true potential
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and enjoy life. An example of what he's achieved is a client like ROBERTA.
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Who lost her six figure job due to COVID and came to Martin depressed
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and felt really lost. Within a short time, she had a quote,
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direction, focus, and a renewed energy around all the possibilities she says that
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I could pursue and getting back on track to enjoy life. The key to
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his success is he has mastered the ability to live incredibly full every day,
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which he has turned into his own acronym which is now revealed UM and created
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the Warrior's Life Code coaching program. UM. By time you actually hear this,
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we recorded it before before Martin's book was was released. UM. The
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He is going to have his book coming out by by time this actually airs,
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and it is going to be titled Warrior to Warrior, and he's going
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to give away some of the secrets of his life Code in that book.
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So you'll be able to u to get that after June fifteenth, twenty twenty
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three and find it on Amazon as he has published it. So, uh,
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let's bring Martin to the show and hear how life and the Life Code
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actually works. Hey, welcome back to the show, everybody. I wanted
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to bring on Martin now and he is going to talk about his um Warrior,
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I'm saying it all wrong in it, uh, Warrior to Light program
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and life is actually looks like an acronym where it is L dot I dot
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at dot E dot um. So we gotta find out what the acronym is
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about. I'm sure. And congratulations um that by time we actually get this
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air geo or book probably will have launched. Thank you so much, really
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cool, Thank you so much. I'm very excited about it. And yes,
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it's called the Warrior's Life Code, and life stands for live incredibly full
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every day. Wow, that doesn't get me better than that, right right,
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thank you? I get right to it. And with Dad, I'm
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not just talking about happiness. I'm also talking about meaningful have a happy,
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meaningful life. Well, one of the things that earlier in my life I
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had a problem with psychology, and it was how psychology is being explained to
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me where they want It seemed like they wanted everything to be on this even
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keel and there were no ups and downs to life. And my basic belief
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is that they're supposed to be the ups and downs. How do you enjoy
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been really full? Uh, like you're on top of the mountain if you
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never climb the mountain to begin with, exactly right, I don't agree with
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with them. I'm on your side. I believe that there are always peaks
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in valleys. It's what happens on those valleys and how you respond to them
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as opposed to react to them, that decides what happens next. Right,
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So, well, following your your code, how how how would we respond
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to or or earn deal with with the valleys? So so yeah, so
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my my, my premise of living incredibly full every day is starting your day
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off in the right mindset, being grateful, maybe even praying if that's something
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that's within you, and then setting yourself up with the right day. For
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me, my mandres, I live incredibly full every day. So I'm looking
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for the opportunities instead of looking for the problems and the obstacles. And when
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they do come up, which they will, is how am I going to
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respond to them? Because the old me, the guy I used to be,
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would react to pretty much everything, to the point that often I would
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overreact in I didn't even call myself a nuclear reactor where I would leave,
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you know, fall out all over the place. Right right now, we'll
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talk a little bit. I'm going to poke fundy at the city you live
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in, because it's a whole city full of people that like, oh my
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god, did you see what happened? And they just complain all the time,
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No, forget about it. So, um, actually you did live
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in one of the most incredible cities in the world in the fact that so
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many people actually do give, do actually come together, and there is a
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spirit of that city where um, hey, don't but don't mess with us.
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We're We're in New York and we're and we stand together. That's right,
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that's right. People have a on the outside have this view of New
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York as being tough, unfriendly, uncaring, and I have to say it's
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I don't believe in any of that. It is not the toughness, but
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it's definitely a very caring, empathetic care uh wanting to help others uh kind
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of place. Yeah. Um. And it's so it's no wonder that a
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architect like yourself would would come up with a life coat um to live by
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that they would um be fulfilling. Um. Yeah, how did you actually
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come to this? Because they're not something that you don't always just wake up
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and like I'm going to be grateful for every day of the rest of my
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life. Right, it doesn't happen that is that easily. It takes some
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work, and it takes some deep valleys in my case, from you to
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have gotten there. And you know, I won't go too far back.
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I'll only go about fifteen years ago, two thousand and eight. A lot
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of stuff was going on then, and for me, my wife and I
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were working on a project for five years by then to build a multimillion dollar
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health club and tennis center in New Jersey by the shore, by the Jersey
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Shore. And it took us that long because we came up with the idea.
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Then we had to find the land by feasibility study, engineering to architects,
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going to the town, having them go, oh go, get civil
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engineers to make sure that everything's good in parking and driving and all that.
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And it took us five years. If we had done it in three or
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four years in two thousand and six or two thousand and seven, and we
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walked into the bank, we go, okay, we're ready. Their mindset
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then was okay, how much money do you need. We'll give you all
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you need. They were lending money like it was you know, nothing but
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happened to me. In my case, it was the summer of two thousand
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and eight. Go to the bank and like, yeah, we're not lending
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right now. Things are kind of slowing down there. Like, what are
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you talking about? I have over three million dollars invested between myself and everybody
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else. Well, that's just the way it is. That's the turn of
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the dice, as it is. I didn't realize how much they really you
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know, that they were prophetic, because in September two thousand and eight,
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Bernie made off the subprime loans and everything else that happened in the financial world
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just crumbled like a house of cards, and I was stuck at the bottom
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of the house of cards and I lost absolutely everything. It was. It
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was a pretty bad day. And it took me about a year to get
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out of that emotionally mentally depression that I was in. And through that,
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I went through some therapy and I went through some coaching. I said,
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Okay, I got to reinvent myself. Now, I gotta figure out,
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rebuild, do something different. And then so I don't want to be a
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businessman anymore. I've been doing that for the first fifty years of my life.
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I wanted to try something else forty five to fifty years at that point.
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So I looked around and I thought about the things that I liked doing,
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and one of the things I liked doing was getting involved in community events.
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And I was always a leader. And it was a leader. People
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come to you and they go, ah, you're doing everything. What do
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you need me for? Oh no, we need you. Come in even
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give us a little time, and in that time, I would show them
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their worth. I would show them that even a little bit of work was
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great, and I, you know, uncovered their own potential. I realized
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I was a life coach without getting paid for it. So I said,
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you know what, maybe that's something I want to do. So I looked
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into it. I had had some coaches in my life. I said,
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yeah, this sounds like a good idea. And about two months before it
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was time for me to go on and go to training, it was my
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twenty fourth wedding anniversary, and I said, I'm done with this roller coaster.
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I went off, I want a divorce. I'm like, Wow,
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as much as I should know it was coming, until it's real, it
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doesn't mean anything. And it really hit me hard. Every imagine and every
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emotion you could think of. I felt. I felt sad, I felt
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lonely, I felt angry, I felt abandoned. You know, I put
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in twenty four years plus the time we're going out, and I thought that
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we could not conquer anything. But what I realized was as that I have
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to keep going. You know. I kept on feeling like everything's happening to
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me, but I'd already signed up with this coaching, and I said,
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you know what, maybe God's telling me something. And I went to that
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coaching in that first weekend. They said to us, you don't have to
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continue to be who you think you have to be. You could be whoever
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you want to be. Thought I thought, wow. As I started to
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take it and understand what where they were talking about, I started to transform
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myself. And it wasn't to save my marriage, it wasn't for my children.
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It was for me. And I realized that if I hadn't done that,
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who knows where I would have gone. And it was God's plan for
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me to go through this at a low point in my life, my divorce
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after two thousand and eight, and really come out of it the other side,
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kind of like a phoenix, you know, coming out of the fire
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and raise it rising up, you know. And after I finished coaching training,
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I said, okay, I think I want to help other people going
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through a divorce recover from their emotional the pains that they were feeling. So
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I became a divorce recovery coach and I did that for a few years.
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And then as I was starting to change and recognize that I need, I
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was growing. I said, okay, I want to expand this some more.
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And I was doing things like meditating that I was never very good at
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because I'm ADHD, but I did it anyway, you know, And I'd
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sit there for ten minutes like when is this going to be over? You
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know? But I'd listened to the to the guy, you know, to
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the guided meditation, and I try to get through it. But one day
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I had a download of information that I loved where I am in my life
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at that moment, and that I wanted to show other people how they could
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enjoy their lives too. And after that ten minute meditation, I wrote for
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two hours, and out of that came the blueprints the foundation for the Warrior's
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Life Code and my coaching program and my book as you mentioned and had my
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card deck. That is kind of like an addition to the book. It's
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a great way to carry around in your pocket and pull out a card every
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once in a while when you need something to help you. It takes the
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principles in just abridges them as it were. So I wrote that and added
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that came the word life that I was loving what I was doing, and
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I love acronym. So I came up with live incredibly full every day.
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And for me it was all encompassing. It was being happy. He was
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having a meaningful life, and for me that was okay. Sharing what I
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believe are gifts that I have with others so that they can shift their mindset
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from lack to abundance, from self conscious to self aware. And you know
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what, we all think we have that self awareness, but it's probably more
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of self consciousness and you just don't recognize that you're feeling self conscious instead of
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self aware. UM, a lot of people out there that they aren't and
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to tune with themselves as the things that they really are. And some of
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it is is that we don't ask the hard questions, right, that's right.
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We want to avoid them because we we want to stay in our comfort
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zone, right, and it doesn't matter that that comfort zone is actually a
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new stokiness. Exactly exactly in the front of my card deck, I have
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this quote by roy T. Bennett. Change begins at the end of your
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comfort zone. Right. You've got to get comfortably uncomfortable with your life and
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recognize what's working and more important, what's not working, and what I need
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to change so that I can't have that happy even meaningful life. And you've
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got to be willing to push yourself through it. Yeah, So how do
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you get people with with with your with your coaching process. How do you
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get people to the edge so that they could actually see I'm going to see
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the beautiful possibilities in our universe. Head put there and I do like that
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you use God because I like using God. God created it, created the
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most fantastic place in impossible out of our universe. And how do you get
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to the head where they connect you start to see how beautiful it is and
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what their potential is with that. Right. So I'd love to say it's
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a snap of the finger, but it's not. It's a work. It's
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first them admitting that they don't love where they are in their life. And
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it's by them also recognizing that they're probably saying, I can't morephen than they
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should be, or it's not possible, or you know, any of those
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negative thoughts that will hold them down. And that starts by an easy process
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of waking up every morning and writing down three things you're grateful for. Because
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when you start to do that on a daily basis, the things that you're
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complaining start to go away because you have retraining yourself to look for the good
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things, look for the possibilities, look for the opportunities. And then for
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me, I do that, I pray and then I say, I live
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incredibly full every day, and I want to set myself up for those opportunities.
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Right. Um. Somebody once said to me that God doesn't perform miracles
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anymore. And I looked at them and they said, you're not looking in
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the reefplace, because God, for far as miracles every day is just you
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have to you have to open your eyes and see them. That's right,
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that's right. I agree with that one. Everything that goes on is a
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miracle. We take so much for granted that we don't recognize the things that
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are miracles. You know, somebody recently said to me, you know,
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I prayed to God and he didn't answer me. And my answer to them
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was he did you were listening? He said no? And why did he
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say no? Because it's not what He's got in his plans for you.
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You're going against the grain of what God's plan is. You got to keep
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searching and find the one that's the right one for you that God has their
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few hid it away in some way. Yeah, right, it's it's kind
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of Um, it was kind of kind of interesting for me with some things
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that Um when it's I stopped raping it, I stopped complaining and I started
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waiting up and being grateful just to be available to stand up. Um that
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the whole everything just kind of started eventually started to switch around and twist,
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and then I started creating this this wonderful network of fortunately have you on now.
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Um. But there's there's a process to to that, and there's and
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we need a guy so um and again, uh, your your life code
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would seem to would seem to say that that you are they are that guy.
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I really believe that I am. And I've taken the word life and
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use them in many different ways. And one of them. Is example is
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one that I call the life mood lifter method to stay positive no matter what's
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going on around you. Okay, so the same foot letters life l live
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responsibly, take responsibility for everything going on in your life. Don't look for
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anybody else to take the responsibility. Take responsibility for your own life, which
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then goes into the second one. Inspire yourself by stop complaining and worrying and
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criticizing. They've got to go from being a warrior to a warrior, which
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is what my whole course and everything I talk about is it's that worry that
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holds you back right, and then f feel gratitude, be grateful for what
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you do, have new people who have much less than you. No matter
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where you are, there's somebody that's got less, and look at things in
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a positive way. So that show you could change complaining to appreciating. And
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then the last one is embraced that these new beliefs are working and be aware
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as they show up. Don't take them as a one off, don't take
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them as coincidence. There's no such thing as coincidences. If you're putting out
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the positive energy, it'll come back to you. It may not come right
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back to you or it may and you say, oh, that just happens.
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No, it's part of what's going on, and you've got to recognize
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it and build on it so that you could have sustainable change. It doesn't
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happen overnight. You've got to put the work in every day and make it
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work for you so that it works for everybody. The first second, let's
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let's focus on that word worried, because there's powering words, right, yes,
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and what does what does that word actually mean to worry? And what
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does it actually due to our body chemistry? Yeah, so there are two
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different words. Does worry and concern? Now? Concern is a strong word
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in its own right, and worries it a strong word in a different way.
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Worry means, oh my god, I'm chicken little, I'm running around
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the world, the sky is falling and I can't do anything about it.
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And what you're doing is you're sending yourself a message that I'm defeated, and
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your body is going to take it in and start to deteriorate in ways like
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with stress, you can develop Ulsa's, you can develop other illnesses just because
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of the worry. Now. Concern, on the other hand, is me
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saying Okay, something's got to change. What am I going to do to
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help that change happen. So with that, you're being proactive or even just
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active, and you're saying, I'm going to jump in and figure it out.
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And as you do that, as things start to happen, the endorphins
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will kick in and things will continue. And if they don't, you've got
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to say, Okay, why isn't it working and make a quarkstore action.
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Don't give up. Don't say I give up and it's not going to work.
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And oh there's no such thing as the law of attraction. No,
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you got to do the work for it. And you've got to recognize when
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God is sending you the message that you're not on the right course. You
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might be in the right course, but maybe not perfect direction. You got
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to, you know, make a course correction. Right. So one ny
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is is proactive, meaning you're active part of what's happening. The other one
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you're just something. The one you're the l You're you're the victim of circumstance.
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If and that's that's being you being an making excuse and I actually have
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something that I feel very strong about it. With that and it's another one
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of my cards which I'm looking for right now, and I call it something
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very interesting. When things aren't going your way and you want to figure out
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why it's not or whatever, and you want to look for something else,
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you usually rationalize all the reasons why it's not happening, or you rationalize why
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you do something that you shouldn't be doing. Okay. So I think that
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the word rationalize is really too it's rational lies, okay, And I say,
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whenever you think you may be doing something that's going against your values,
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you'll rationalize all the reason why it's okay. What you're really doing is lying
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to yourself that it's rational to think that it's nothing more than rational lies.
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And to me, when you rationalize, it's your way of saying, oh,
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this is the reason, but the reason is nothing more than a disguised
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excuse that you're not ready to admit. Right, you could have reached out
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for a different method or results. And the rest is imprinted in you because
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because it starts to drag you down. Right exactly, everything is perpetual.
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Positive is perpetual, Negative is perpetual. It's the energy you're giving out if
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you give out low destructive what I call catag biolic energy, which is destructive,
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that's what you'll get back. But if you put out good energy,
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anabolic, constructive energy, and that's what will come back to you. How
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do you teach somebody to do that? One step at a time. You
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say, let's start with gratitude. Let's start with reducing how much you're complaining.
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Okay, it's impossible to go from one hundred complaints a day to zero,
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but we can go from one hundred to ninety five to ninety And in
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the meantime, you're going from zero appreciation to five on a scale, as
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it were. And you're saying, I'm going to start to appreciate the things
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around me. Oh, what a beautiful day. Oh my wife made me
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coffee. Wow, what a beautiful thing. Oh. I'm so happy to
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have children in my life that I love. And if they don't get me,
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it's about me changing the way that I see me and they see me
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right and and growing. You know, when they're teenagers, you're like,
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I don't get it. Well, you know, anything I say it is
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as if I'm the devil. You know, the teenagers say it in a
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different way and stop thinking about the negativity that's coming out of you because it's
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inside of you. They're hearing it because it just happens that way. So
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and we'll happen work all the time. No, but that doesn't mean you
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give up. Go at it a different way, right, right, If
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it doesn't work one way, but there's another path it will work exactly.
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Um, you're coaching people, you're guiding them and everything. Of course there's
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um a direction that you're trying to get them to go in that. So
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for me, it's it's never about my agenda, it's about theirs, okay,
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and the coach that the job of a coach is to ask the questions
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so that they can come up with the answers. Now, of course you
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frame it in ways that helps them to find it. You give them tools
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like the book to read and the cards as as a foundation, and then
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you go, let's build on that. And then here's the important point that
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I believe that everyone should have a coach. I have two or three coaches
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in my life at any given time. Right, it's to be accountable to
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someone, you know. It's easy to be accountable to your wife, or
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to your spouse, or to your children, or to your boss, or
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to whoever, because you have to be right. But when it comes to
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being accountable to yourself, it's easily to rationalize that things are going on,
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so I don't have the time to do what I'd like to do. So
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you're giving yourself the rational lie that you need to get out of it.
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By having a coach in place. Now you're accountable to yourself through your coach,
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and there it is. That's right. Accountability is something that it's very
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important for progress. Right, It's right. It's right because if you don't
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have the accountability, how do you know that you're progressing. How do you
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know that you're moving forward? You could guess it, you could hope it.
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But by looking at yourself and saying, Okay, these are the goals
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I'm going to set up for myself. I want to lose one hundred pounds.
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Is that going to happen overnight? Of course not. But if I
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put on, if I start working out, and if I start eating better,
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when I hit three pounds, I'm going to celebrate because I'm three pounds
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better than I was before. And when I hit ten pounds, I'm going
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to celebrate some more. Each one of them, and then I'm gonna go
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back to my accountability partner, my coach and say, Okay, what's working,
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what's not working? How do we go forward? Do we have to
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change anything, make course corrections, whatever it is so that I can continue
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on my journey. I'm important? Is it to actually celebrate it? Even
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the smallest of victories so important. We're so used to the negative thoughts what
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I call the ants ant, the automatic negative thoughts that come into our minds
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that oh, I can't do that, Oh who are you kidding? Is
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that we need to get rid of that by reinforcing the little celebrations along the
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way, because that's what keeps you going. You know, inch by inch
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it's a cinch. Mile by you know, mile by mile it's hard,
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whatever it is. You know, yard by yard it's hard. Inch by
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inch its a cinch. Yeah, I knew, I get that. I
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knew I get it out somehow. There it is. Oh, it's he
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here's a question for you, because because you're talking about distance and things like
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that, and um, especially in our society, we have a tendency to
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measure how we're progressing in our distance to our life distance against someone else's.
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Yeah, should we be doing row? Should we just pay attention to arrow
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distance? You know what, no matter how much you think the other person's
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life is greener, their grass is greener. There's stuff going on that you
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don't know about. That's number one. Number two. You may need to
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lose one hundred pounds, right, he may not need to lose any weight
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because of what else or else he's doing. So comparing yourself to him,
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you're setting yourself up for failure. Consent. Compare yourself to yourself to where
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you were, to where you are, and to where you want to be.
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And that's a continual journey, even when you hit your goal. You
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know, I tell my clients, we're gonna set up a goal. Okay,
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and we're seventy five on the way there. We are gonna reevaluate the
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goals and set up new goals because what's gonna happen when you hit a hundred?
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Okay, I'm done, Thank you very much. You know what do
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you do? Check out? Does it work? Yeah? It's checking checking
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out? Isn't isn't the Is it luck to us? Right? Exactly right?
32:35
I mean some people think it is and they leave unbelievable grief in behind
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when they do check out. Yeah, you know, and you know it's
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sad that some people have to do that, but they don't maybe they don't
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understand the wake of grief that they leave if they check out, a God
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forbid, do something crazy, right, you have to, you know,
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that's the meta version of it. You gotta look at how it's gonna affect
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everybody around you. And if you're that deep into it, go get the
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therapy you need to get you out of it. That's not coaching that therapy.
33:10
Yeah, yeah, there there is a there, there is a very
33:15
the line between the two. Yes, And there are times I've gone to
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my clients and say, you know what, you're not ready for me.
33:24
You need therapy, and it's it's it's only in your best interest to get
33:30
the therapy because spending time with me, you're just spending money. Great.
33:37
Yeah, there there are time to win. Um uh. This is explained
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to me by another friend friend of mine who who was a was a pastor
33:51
and he was a great counselor. Don't get me wrong, he was a
33:52
great counselor. And he said said said to me, he said, one
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day he'sa Michael Is, Like I can keep counseling you, but you're but
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you're in a meyer is that you need to go see the see the therapists.
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I come back to me for the counseling after you've gone to the therapists,
34:15
and he does some work with him because he needs to. He's the
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one that's going to get you out of the mire so that I can keep
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counseling. Right. You know, I learned something when I went to coach
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training, and I think about it all the time. Therapy takes you from
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dysfunctional to functional. Coaching takes you from functional to optimal. You can't go
34:37
from dysfunctional to optimal without going to functional. It's not possible. You need
34:45
to make those small incremental changes and be accountable to yourself, accountable to somebody
34:51
else so that you can move on and say I'm functioning, I'm not dysfunctional.
34:55
And then you could say, okay, how can I take go from
35:00
from striving to thriving? Right? Right? And there's some some very cool
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distinctions. When will we begin to thride? That's right? That's right.
35:20
How did you know you were beginning to thrivee yourself? That's a good question.
35:25
I think when those times when I was at a point where I was
35:30
not looking Bob, looking back and saying, what's holding me back, other
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than looking back and reflecting as to what held me back and how that's not
35:42
helping me back anymore. And when the things that I thought I needed in
35:45
my life, like the recognition, like the people pleasing that I was,
35:51
and getting rid of that anger that I always had, that would end up
35:55
being me being reacting to the person I am now, was me looking and
36:00
saying I'm thriving now, and I like myself, and I love myself,
36:06
and I'm ready to be loved by someone else. And I was very fortunate
36:13
to have people around me who said, you know what, let's find you
36:16
someone. And I was set up with this woman, and I would go
36:20
out on dates and I would look to see if they had the values that
36:23
I never understood before I went through coaching and realized now that I was in
36:28
a codependent relationship in my first marriage and that I needed to find someone who
36:35
had the same similar values to me. And I would date and see that,
36:37
and one day I was set up with a woman who had the same
36:42
values, and I'd go out on dates and she'd be checking the boxes and
36:46
about a month into it, I said, I got to tell you something,
36:49
and you don't need to say to me. I'm falling in love with
36:51
you because I love who you are and I love that you see me as
36:54
I am and you're not trying to change me. And I'm very happy to
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say that we're married for almost five years now mhm. Made that continue.
37:06
Thank you, Thank you for many many years to come. I just hit
37:08
my sixty a birthday a few months ago. I told my kids, I've
37:12
told everybody I'm at the fifty. I'm at the fifty percent mark of my
37:15
life. I've got another sixty to go. There you go, that's it.
37:22
May may it be a healthy, in fulfilling sixty. That's right.
37:31
Actually I have much say that. Part of that wi, part of that
37:35
wishes is a wish for myself also because I'm not too far behind you.
37:39
You great, I wish the same for you. So yeah, um,
37:50
if you could wish up the most perfect world, what would it look like,
37:57
Martin? The most perfect world? Yeah, I would say it's a
38:01
world full of optimism, happiness, meaningfulness, and everybody looking to help everyone
38:10
and understand that freedom is beautiful. But there are some things that need to
38:16
come with it, and that you know, freedom is not free, but
38:20
that means that you understand that other people are all contributing to the great the
38:24
greatness of the world. I think that's one of the best answers I've gotten
38:32
to that. But oh wow, well it's interesting that one. Let me,
38:42
let me qualify that because it's because you you're painting it for that,
38:47
I also can believe in with freedom that you know, we gotta we have
38:53
to work for. Yeah, exactly, it's it's not handed to you.
38:59
Yeah, we Cappen delivered a society in America and Canada where freedom is is
39:05
we take it for granted. We we think it's it's our it's our right,
39:09
it's a privilege, and we have to recognize that as it is.
39:14
Yeah, that's right. So anyway, Um, the name of the book
39:19
again, the name of the book is Warrior to Warrior. Seven steps to
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uncover the warrior within and live incredibly full every day. Yeah. And the
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