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312 - 3 Ways Human Design Can Cure Burn Out · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here together today, just
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  the two of us, to talk about a little something called burnout.
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  Maybe you've heard of it, maybe you've experienced it.
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  I do think that if you're like over the age of 30 for sure, you've experienced
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  burnout in some way, shape, or form.
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  And if you're younger than 30, you very well may have experienced burnout as well.
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  I'm just saying, if you're over 30, I can't imagine talking to somebody
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  who's 35 years old and them being like, no, I've never felt burnout.
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  I don't know what you're talking about.
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  That's a foreign concept to me.
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  We've all had periods of it.
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  So I want to talk today about burnout.
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  I want to talk about the different ways we can experience burnout and ultimately how
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  human design can be the cure for burnout.
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  Why that happens, why it's such an effective tool for
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  this particular ailment.
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  Now, first, let's just talk about, who gets burnout.
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  Like I said, everybody's experienced it, but I see people who are very
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  successful burning out and they're burned out, but they are like, it
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  looks good on the outside, right?
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  They are achieving, they have the things that we are all striving
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  to get outwardly on the outs.
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  From the outside looking in, they look very successful and
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  like they've got it all together.
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  But on the back end of things, they're really unhappy.
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  Or they're having a hard time keeping it all going.
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  They're not sure how they can grow more, so they end up getting stuck.
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  So they're at this point, they hit a plateau basically.
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  And it's either I don't know how I can keep this up as it is or I
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  don't know how I can grow further.
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  So that's one side of burnout.
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  Then there's the other side of burnout where maybe you haven't hit your goals.
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  You haven't made it to where you want to make it.
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  But you also haven't figured out how to not hustle your way to
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  everything that you've achieved.
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  So your go to, which was mine certainly for most of my life.
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  Which was, if I haven't reached something yet, just push harder,
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  go further, I will outwork anybody.
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  And we go and we try to learn new things, and we try to implement new
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  things, and we're pushing, and pushing, and pushing, putting a lot of effort
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  in, but maybe not seeing the results.
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  So you get burnt out both on effort, and you don't feel very much like a
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  success, or like you're not really the effort for reward exchange
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  isn't really even or balanced.
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  So it doesn't feel good, even with all the work that you're putting in.
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  So that can add to this feeling.
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  So where does burnout even come from?
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  Like, what does burnout mean?
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  And it typically comes from a feeling of us doing something where we don't
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  feel like we have control over things.
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  Like we have to do something.
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  We feel like we are pushed into action not based on anything that
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  we're making a choice in the moment.
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  It's these obligations or the list of tasks that need to get done in order
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  for me to get to where I want to go.
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  Were doing these things even when they don't feel supportive to us,
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  even when they don't feel good to us.
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  We make the decision to just keep going and we're not paying attention.
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  Underneath all of that, Underneath all of these ways of experiencing burnout,
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  underneath these different ways of levels of achievement and experiencing
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  burnout at these different ends.
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  Beneath it all is, it comes from a fried nervous system.
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  We fry our nervous system, we tax our nervous system by not paying
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  attention to our body's signals.
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  Usually we're being told what we're doing, and that it's not working
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  for us, but we're not listening.
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  We're pushing through, we're going just one more day, one more thing.
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  We're not processing our emotions, we're stuffing them down.
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  They feel inconvenient, they feel like I'll deal with them later.
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  I don't have time to feel right now.
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  So we push them aside and we, once again, push forward.
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  We're not getting enough rest.
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  We're not really paying attention to that.
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  It's just go, go, go all the time.
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  And we push through that pain and the discomfort in order to achieve
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  something, in order to stay afloat.
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  There's the different reasons why we do it.
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  But, ultimately, a lot of times, what is at the heart of burnout is this
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  need to achieve at all costs sometimes.
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  That we have the goal placed out there and we've got our eyes so fixed on it that we
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  don't pay attention to the fact that the cart that's pulling us is falling apart.
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  That we're just pushing so hard to get to where we want to go.
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  We don't care what shape we are in once we get there.
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  And a lot of times our body will take us out.
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  Our body will tap out.
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  It will get sick.
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  Something will happen in our lives.
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  If we're not listening to our bodies, the universe will take us out.
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  Now we're getting to the heart of why we achieve and why we don't, and
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  why paying attention to yourself.
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  Why systems like human design can be so beneficial and so
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  impactful to our success.
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  Because, I want you to think about this, if you tax your system so badly.
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  If your nervous system is fried.
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  If you on the energetic level are thinking, I don't know how
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  much more of this I can take.
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  I don't know if I really want to grow anymore, because I can barely
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  handle what's happening right now.
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  Let alone add more to my plate.
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  This is how we start to consciously say that we want something, but unconsciously
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  we are calling out for something else.
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  We're calling out for help.
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  So the universe delivers.
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  It makes us sick.
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  We break a foot.
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  We do something that lays us up in bed for a day, a week, a month,
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  depending on how bad did we let it go.
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  I always say that the universe is giving us signals all the time.
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  It's telling us, no, stop it.
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  Take a rest.
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  It is knocking at our door, telling us exactly what we need, and the
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  longer we ignore it and don't listen, the louder that knock gets.
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  Until it's kicking down the door and eventually it's just taking us out.
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  It's just like, well, you're not listening.
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  Apparently, I need to really shake things up.
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  And we're going to take you out indefinitely for a while.
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  Just until you really learn this lesson.
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  So do you see how, even if you had this very clear path to success,
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  you were so determined, you were so driven, but underneath it all, that
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  burnout was really having you cry out for help on an energetic level?
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  How that's not going to help you achieve.
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  Because it will take you out, it will cause you to lose momentum,
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  nothing will set you back more than not taking care of yourself.
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  Because you're either going to start sending out a signal that I
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  don't really even want this anymore.
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  Or you will burn it down, and you'll make the choice to burn it down, or you
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  just get taken out where suddenly that's where you are taking, this is where you
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  feel like you take five steps forward, and then you take four steps back.
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  Now you worked that hard, you pushed that far only to have to
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  backtrack, only to be set back again.
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  So this is how burnout works.
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  And it works largely because we're on some sort of autopilot.
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  We're somehow not really being intentional with where we put our energy, and we're
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  not being intentional with how we go about achieving what we want to achieve.
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  And we're not sometimes even thinking about, do I even really want this?
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  Is this what I want?
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  And is this how I want it?
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  Is this how I want the experience to be?
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  Now, here's where human design comes in and where it can be so powerful.
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  Because inherently in human design, it takes you off autopilot.
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  It takes that switch.
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  It says autopilot off.
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  We are no longer going to coast.
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  We are no longer going to have some arbitrary rule that we set up
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  two years ago in our subconscious programming, driving this car anymore.
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  We are going to take the wheel again.
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  So it takes that power away from whatever rules we set up for ourselves,
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  whatever patterns we have, and it gets us one, taking control, but also
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  paying attention moment to moment.
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  It gets us paying attention to our body, takes that power away from the mind
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  that says, no, no, no, we want this.
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  No, no, no.
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  What matters to us and what makes us feel validated is to achieve.
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  So if you're an overachiever and your strategy to feel validated and loved
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  and enough in this life was to achieve and achieve more and achieve more and
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  achieve more and that's your MO and that's the way that you think and that's
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  what's driving everything that you do.
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  Well we're going to take the power away from that strategy that's been
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  working you throughout your life, which might've made you very successful.
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  This can be one of the hardest ones to break because it's like, well, if I stop
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  operating this way, will I lose it all?
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  Human design starts to show us, you don't have to turn it all off.
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  It doesn't mean that you have to stop doing everything.
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  We're just going to start paying attention to different things.
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  We are just going to start to pay attention to our body's signals
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  about what's really correct for us.
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  Not about that way that we got validated or felt good enough in the past.
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  My famous line with human design.
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  My goal is when you work with human design enough, and certainly if you work
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  in human design with me long enough.
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  You will be looking at that chart and every time you look at it, you will
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  love the shit out of yourself just a little bit more every single time.
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  Because you will see how on purpose you are built.
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  You will see why some things are harder for you because you did them somebody
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  else's way and you'll find your way and there's nothing more empowering.
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  You will find your genius.
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  You will find your strategies in this life to find flow.
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  That in and of itself will start to take away any of those feelings
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  of needing to be validated, of needing to fit somebody else's mold.
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  That.
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  starts to change the way that you interact with yourself and your life.
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  The sense of purpose that you get from understanding your design.
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  You're like, Oh wow, I was meant to be this way all along.
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  What a relief.
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  How freeing is that.
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  For me?
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  I looked back at my entire life and just thought it all makes sense now.
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  Do you know the level of shame that just goes away after that, starts to lift.
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  I'm not saying it all goes away the second that you learn this stuff.
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  Of course not.
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  We're human.
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  We have stuff to work through.
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  But if you make a practice of this, that shame of all the things that
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  didn't work before, the things that you weren't able to do, the things that
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  were harder for you than they were for other people, so you made yourself feel
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  like you were less than because of that.
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  All of those things, when you start to see that it's actually the way that
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  you're built, and if you had just tried things just a little bit differently,
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  That if you try it your way, not somebody else's way, then you can stop shaming
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  and blaming yourself for it not working when you did it somebody else's way.
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  It doesn't say, well, I couldn't do that.
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  It was like, that wasn't my way.
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  I can still get to the same destination.
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  I can still get to the destination that's correct for me to live my purpose.
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  I'm just going to go a different route.
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  You might be taking the scenic route there.
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  You might not be taking that straight path that other people did.
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  But your path is right for you and you will get there and you will pick
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  up things along the way that are necessary for you and your journey.
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  So just that feeling of being empowered to be who you are starts to change the
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  way we operate, we're not so reliant on those patterns that drove us to burnout.
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  We aren't so reliant on keeping up appearances, doing things, achieving
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  things in order to feel like we're enough.
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  And I do mean even if you have a defined ego, I'm here to achieve things,
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  but it does no longer validates me.
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  it's a very different relationship that I have with achieving things.
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  The other thing that human design does that helps to alleviate this
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  feeling of burnout and the effects of burnout is introspection.
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  Gets you very curious about specific aspects of yourself.
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  So again, that shame goes away, but it also, just sort of slows us down.
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  It slows us down, but in a way that's actually building us up and
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  shifting the way that we operate.
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  If we're shifting out of shadow, we're removing resistance where it exists.
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  So we're becoming more efficient with the way that we work.
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  We're noticing on a very simple level, if you are paying attention to your
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  not self theme of your type and your signature theme of your type, so
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  generators, the frustration is the not self, satisfaction is the signature theme.
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  If you're paying attention to that for your type, you're automatically going to
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  be one more intentional about how you get into action and what gets you into action.
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  You'll be using your energy in a way where it's turned on, so it will be much more
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  powerful, it will be much more effective.
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  So generators, when you go to do something and you realize that you're frustrated
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  and you stop trying to do it that way.
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  And you shift, and you do something that feels good, and
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  then you come back to your work.
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  And you come back in a different way, where you're in satisfaction
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  mode, where your sacral is turned on.
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  Suddenly, that work becomes a whole lot easier.
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  You are no longer taxing your nervous system by pushing through frustration.
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  Projectors, you're honoring your rest.
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  So suddenly, you're not taxing your nervous system trying
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  to keep up with generators.
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  Manifestors.
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  You are no longer conforming to everybody else's stuff which is making you angry.
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  Which is making you feel like nothing is working for you.
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  You're losing your power.
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  But then suddenly you shift into empowering yourself and sharing your
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  views in different ways and not asking anybody for their opinion or thoughts
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  on anything that you intend to act on.
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  You're not asking for their validation.
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  Now you're moving through the world with greater ease.
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  And this drives you to your purpose.
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  Everything about human design is about removing resistance in your daily life.
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  And the resistance comes from you and the way that you interact with this
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  world, energetically and physically.
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  And it's a pattern interrupt keeping you from operating the way
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  you always have, which has gotten you what you've always gotten.
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  There is nothing I have found that gives you a system and a
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  process to follow for finding your own alignment than human design.
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  It's so powerful because you can do it on your own, because you can take the
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  rules and you can play with them and you can experiment with them and you can
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  see where they lead you and you don't need a coach with you the entire time.
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  It does have a coach to go through the deeper aspects of this, to start
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  understanding yourself deeper, to start to do that introspective work,
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  to start to use this differently, to start to understand the dynamics between
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  you and your family and your team and the people that you interact with.
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  But on a basic level of operating according to your design, all you have
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  to do is start following your strategy and authority and get really curious
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  about yourself and not critical and start to shift the way you do it.
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  It's so powerful.
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  So I hope that you saw how this shifts you.
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  Following your human design can shift you into greater ease, into flow in your life.
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  And through that process, you start to alleviate burnout.
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  You start to operate differently and it gets you, like I said, it slows you
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  down, but it slows you down to speed up.
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  It makes you more efficient rather than just doing more.
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  And that's powerful.
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  And through this process, through that introspection, through the ways
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  that you're getting curious about yourself and you're noticing where
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  you're avoiding feeling your feelings.
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  There is emotional intelligence built into human design.
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  And the reason for that is, as an emotional authority, you
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  have to understand your wave.
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  You have to start paying attention to your emotions and not be a victim of them.
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  And if you are not an emotional authority of an open solar plexus, you
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  have to start to feel your feelings.
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  So it's getting you processing them.
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  So powerful and nothing will heal your nervous system, like processing your
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  emotions and understanding your emotions.
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  Okay, I hope that you found this helpful.
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