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How Do Narcissists Dress? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people.
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  Lee Hammock, your favorite self aware diagnosed narcisser.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how do narcissists dress
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  like the clothing options, the clothing choices of a
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  narcissist. Y'all I know this sounds like
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  click bait but I had to respond. Yeah, I saw a video the other
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  day on TikTok. I ain't going to mention the
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  video because it's just, it was just insane.
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  Some of these videos I see out here, y'all make my head hurt.
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  And I know some of my videos make y'all feel the same way,
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  but I just had. It's just like y'all, it's like
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  how a narcissist dresses the clothes of a narcissist.
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  Yeah. It literally blew my mind at the
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  the mentality that people would say they were just like
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  narcissists will dress like this and this and this.
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  I'm like, OK, come on now. Narcissistic people, y'all don't
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  have a unique way of dressing right now.
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  Most of them, I will say that they're it really kind of
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  depends on the narcissist, right?
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  With the clothing option, the closing choices of a
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  narcissistic person. I would say it depends on the
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  type of narcissist that you are dealing with.
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  First and foremost, because like malignant narcissistic people,
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  overt narcissistic, overt malignant narcissist, y'all,
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  they're going to Peacock, right? And y'all know what peacocking
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  is like. Peacocking is like they have to
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  have the best of everything. They have to dress the best,
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  they have to look the best, they have to act the best.
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  They have to have the best of everything.
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  So they will absolutely be peacocking, right?
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  They'll be with bright, bright ass colors.
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  Y'all seen the movie Dumb and Dumber?
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  Yeah, I I would have aged myself, right?
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  Y'all seen Dumb and Dumber with Jim Carrey and Jeff Daniels when
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  they had those suits on those those tuxedos when they got the
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  money, they orange. I know Jim Carrey had an orange
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  tuxedo. I forgot what color.
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  What color Jim Jeff Daniels had. I think he had on blue, but they
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  had those bright ass tuxedos on and everybody knew who they
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  were. I mean, everybody can see them
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  and just recall who they were at the party.
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  Not maybe not know who they are, but they know who they were,
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  right? Oh, the dude in the orange suit,
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  like peacocking. They want to have the best of
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  everything they want. They want to wear these bright,
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  bright, boisterous colors and things like that because they
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  want you to see them. They want to be the center of
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  attention. They do.
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  I had a very malignant, overt narcissistic friend, right?
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  I had a few of them and absolutely, positively,
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  positively, they literally a few of them, both of them.
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  But they it's kind of crazy. I both I had a couple just like
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  this. Hadn't had the best of
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  everything. Gucci glasses, Gucci scarf, both
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  of them. They probably just know him.
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  They're probably fake, right? Gucci scarf, Gucci shades, Gucci
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  shoes, bright ass Gucci shirt, the tongue out.
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  You see what I'm saying? Had to have everything.
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  Gucci hat, Gucci everything. Gucci ear, Gucci ear.
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  I ain't wear earrings. But like, literally had to be
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  the center of attention. He wanted y'all to know that he
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  had money or he wanted to give y'all the appearance that he had
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  money to try to reel you in. And does that work?
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  Did that work? Yes.
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  It baited people in. Yeah.
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  This dude was a damn near a horrible human being, right?
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  He was an awful human being. He was a terrible person, but
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  people will give him the time of the day because he had money,
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  because he he had the appearance that he had money and that
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  sucked for so many people, right?
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  That sucked for so many people that end up dealing with him.
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  But like, yo, it's like you got to stop just going at the
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  people, just when they, this is because they have money, because
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  they, they, if you only, and this is the thing about
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  peacocking narcissistic people that want you to, they want to
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  give you the appearance that they have money.
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  They think that you only want them because of how they dress
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  and how the money that they have, right?
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  So they're going to treat you horribly.
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  They're not going to treat you like they love you or care about
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  you. They're going to treat you like
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  a, a piece of meat, use you, abuse you and get rid of you.
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  You know what I mean? Y'all might, it might be a
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  transactional thing for you as well, but narcissistic people,
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  they're going to treat you like you don't matter because hey,
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  you're only here because I have money.
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  If I didn't dress like this, if I had these fake Gucci shades on
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  with these loud ass Gucci shoes and Gucci boots or whatever,
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  these Prada boots, these Prada shades, you wouldn't even be
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  dealing with me in the 1st place.
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  So they're going to treat you like you only want them for
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  that. They're going to treat you like
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  a second hand citizen. They're going to try to treat
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  you horribly like this is what they want, though.
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  They want to use people like they use the way that they dress
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  as a form of narcissistic supply.
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  They absolutely do. They have to have the best of
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  everything. They want everybody to see them.
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  They want everybody around them to know that they're coming,
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  know that they've been here. They absolutely love to have
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  this type of stuff happening for them and to them, right.
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  This is part of the mentality of manipulative narcissistic
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  people. Like this is how some of them
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  dressed the overt narcissist dressed that way.
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  You know, when my friends, when my old overt narcissist friends
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  like literally had like he's super, he's super like super
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  fit. Always takes the shirt off,
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  shirt off everywhere he goes. So he's super fit, always has to
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  let you know he might, he might not have the the best of
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  everything, but he wants to show off.
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  So he he would dress less, he would dress with less.
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  So doesn't always have to be the best of everything.
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  For an overt narcissist, make it absolutely have less and just
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  like literally want to be seen still be the center of attention
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  because they take the shirts off and, you know, dress kind of
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  skimpy or whatever. You have an overt narcissistic
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  woman, which is, you know, overt narcissistic women are
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  definitely out there. They they would dress in a
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  certain way to to reveal their body to to lure you in, right.
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  It's like bait, body bait, booty bait for, you know, for the
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  female narcissist, the booty bait, they will bait you in with
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  the cheeks. And did it work for a lot of
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  people? Yeah.
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  Did it work? It does work, right?
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  Because a lot of people, just like they get entranced by a
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  good set of cheeks. They're like, oh, goodness, the
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  cheeks on that one. I'm hypnotized, you know, and
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  lose their damn minds. It's kind of crazy to think
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  about it, but this is how we will go.
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  So they don't always, like overt narcissists don't always dress
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  to impress. Some of them dress with less so
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  they can impress you with their body.
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  It's still dressing to impress, but it's a different type of
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  impression that they leave on you, right?
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  So that's what they'll do as well.
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  Like those same narcissist will try to be loud and boisterous
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  and whatever, you know and whatnot.
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  But the covert narcissist, right how they dress is going to be
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  completely different, right? How they dress.
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  They they still covert narcissist and overt narcissist,
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  I truly believe have the same goals.
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  They want to be the center of attention, but they don't go
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  about it doing the same thing. They they want to be the center
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  of attention. They want the same thing.
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  They want the narcissistic supply.
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  They want this type of stuff, but they go about it getting it
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  in a different way. In a lot of these instances,
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  what they'll do, how to go about getting it is they will dress in
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  a very in a more subtle way, right?
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  They might have the best clothes, the best everything,
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  right? But it's more subtle, like they
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  have a plain white shirt on and most people would know that it's
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  a look at it as like a, like a plain white shirt, Not like
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  that. It's like cashmere, Egyptian
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  cotton, some type of weird fabric or whatever that cost
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  $1000. Same type of dynamic, same type
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  of mentality, but they just want themselves.
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  They want you to know it and they want, they, they want a
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  particular type of person to know it.
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  So they're just like, oh, you wouldn't know this, You wouldn't
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  get it. It's like being a member of a
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  club. The covert narcissists are just
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  going to be, they still have the same goal.
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  They're just do it more covertly.
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  So they still might have the best of everything, but it might
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  not be as loud and boisterous. They'll have a fitted suit on
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  from a Prada or Louis Vuitton or whoever, right?
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  Versace or somebody. But it won't be the same type of
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  suit. To be a different type of suit,
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  you may have to do it, which is of regular color, but it'll just
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  still be an expensive suit. But it's not always about money
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  when it comes to covert narcissists as well, right,
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  Because a lot of a lot of covert narcissists are not just about
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  the money. That's it just doesn't work that
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  way, right? There's a lot of covert
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  narcissistic people that will absolutely, like I said, they
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  won't be about the money, but they'll dress in a, in a, in a
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  bummy way. They'll try to be the center of
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  attention in a different way. They'll dress bum like because
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  they want people to notice them, but they want people to catch
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  people off guard with what they have.
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  That's me. That's how I dress like you.
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  Y'all see how I dress and how my hair is always doing.
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  My hair is always kind of messed up or whatever as I got this on
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  right now. I'm a covert narcissist.
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  I don't I want to people to look at me, but I want to be more
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  subtle and covert with it right. So if I'm being more subtle and
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  covert with it, I present myself in a different way.
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  You see what I'm saying? If you said that I would do, I
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  would do that. So covert narcissistic people,
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  covert toxic people are still looking to be the center of
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  attention. They're just going about doing
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  it in a different way. So they, again, the goals of the
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  narcissist are the same. The, the technique or the
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  tactics might be different. Now could you have the covert
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  narcissist that goes back and forth between the two, right?
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  You can have the covert narcissist that like the covert
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  narcissist that goes back and forth between overt and covert
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  narcissism like you can have like most narcissist people are
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  not just going to be one or the other or the other, right?
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  Some of them will just be one, Some of them will just be one.
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  They'll they'll go back and forth between the two.
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  So they'll be covert in doing this and doing that, but then
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  also they'll be out here doing the other stuff as well.
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  So this is the, this is the type of stuff that you have to think
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  about when you're dealing with a manipulative, abusive person.
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  Like is just the way they dress, monitor the way they dress.
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  I'm not saying that you can spot a narcissist by what they have
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  on, right? Just ask yourself certain
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  questions when you're dealing with the person.
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  They can absolutely help set you free.
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  Like these questions can help set you free in these instances
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  as well. Like just thinking about what
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  what they have on like what's the goal of what they have on?
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  Like you want to know how to spot a narcissist?
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  What they what they, what they have on.
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  Don't compliment them. Don't compliment them on the way
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  they dress or what they have on. Say something like make a joke
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  about it. You'll see a, you get a general
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  reaction from them, right? You'll get it.
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  You'll get a general reaction from them that might shock you.
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  Make a joke about what they have on and how they're dressing.
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  And I promise you they might look at you differently.
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  They might give you a, they might give you the damn side.
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  I like who you talking? What will you I, I, I look like,
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  what, what the hell are you talking about?
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  And then they'll use you, abuse you, manipulate you and just do
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  all kinds of crazy ass stuff to you.
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  But this is the mindset of manipulative, abusive people.
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  They want to be the center of attention.
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  They want to sometimes be undercover to the undercover
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  center of attention. They want all eyes on them.
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  They want narcissistic supply by how they dress and what they
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  have on, But they go about doing it in a different way.
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  They go about getting that supply in a different way.
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  No2 narcissists are going to be the same.
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  Some of them might dress in a bright orange dumb and Dumber
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  tuxedo one day, and the next day they dress bummy as hell because
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  they don't want that. They don't necessarily want
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  their attention on them. They don't want all eyes on
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  them. So it's something to think about
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