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Mom Life is Hard · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: This is Teddy tea pod with Teddy Mill and Cabin.
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  Speaker 1: Hi guys, welcome to this week's Teddy Teapot. I am
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  Speaker 1: so happy to have you here. We are going to
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  Speaker 1: talk about so many things this week. We are going
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  Speaker 1: to mom so hard. But first we're gonna talk a
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  Speaker 1: little thing called periods. I'm going to bring on Lauren
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  Speaker 1: Shelti Wong, who launched the Flex Company in two thousand
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  Speaker 1: and sixteen, because I need to fully understand how to
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  Speaker 1: make this transition. Hi, Lauren, how are you doing great?
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  Speaker 1: How are you good? So welcome. Lauren. She started Flex
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  Speaker 1: back in two thousand and sixteen. Can you tell us
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  Speaker 1: what inspired you to start this company and exactly kind
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  Speaker 1: of what it is. Yeah. I started Flex because I
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  Speaker 1: was getting infections from traditional period products, so I have
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  Speaker 1: a week out of every month on my period, following
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  Speaker 1: with the week out of every month with a yeast infection.
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  Speaker 1: And I went on this multi year quest to try
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  Speaker 1: different period products from all over the world and I
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  Speaker 1: really couldn't find anything that met my need. So our
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  Speaker 1: first product that we came out with is the Flex Disc,
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  Speaker 1: which is the only single use period product that can
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  Speaker 1: be worn for up to twelve hours. So is there
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  Speaker 1: any kind of how to that people can learn how
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  Speaker 1: to use it? Because I have to be honest. I
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  Speaker 1: when I was younger, I actually got toxic shock from tampons,
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  Speaker 1: ended up in the hospital, and I didn't know what
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  Speaker 1: was wrong with me. It took a long time to
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  Speaker 1: figure it out. I got a severe, severe infection. And
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  Speaker 1: I'm worried about how to teach my daughter how to
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  Speaker 1: use products. But I don't know how to how I
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  Speaker 1: would explain to her how to use the flag, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I mean? So how do you explain? Yeah? Well,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, I'm so glad to hear that you're okay.
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  Speaker 1: Toxic shock is super scary and very serious. Um. The
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  Speaker 1: flex disc is the only period product that has not
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  Speaker 1: been linked to TSS, and we've made millions of products
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  Speaker 1: to date, so rest assured. You can wear it for
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  Speaker 1: up to twelve hours. UM. We have directions on YouTube
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  Speaker 1: on our website flex fits dot com. It's very simple.
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  Speaker 1: It's as easy to insert and remove as a tampon.
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  Speaker 1: But like anything new, I think it takes a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of practice. Um. It's shaped like a disk and
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  Speaker 1: it fits around your service, so it actually leaves your
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  Speaker 1: vaginal canal clear during our period, which means that you
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  Speaker 1: can't feel the product while you're wearing it. And one
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  Speaker 1: of the most common things that people say to us
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  Speaker 1: is they forget that they're on their period when they're
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  Speaker 1: using it. Because you put in at the beginning of
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  Speaker 1: the day, you go about your day. It empties itself
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  Speaker 1: when you use the bathroom, so you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: pull it out and rinse it out. UM and it
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  Speaker 1: holds the capacity of up to three super tampons. That
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  Speaker 1: is incredible. So how did you come up with this? So?
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  Speaker 1: I came up with this UM with working with a
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  Speaker 1: team of people, Like we are not the original creators
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  Speaker 1: of the disk design, but we iterated on this design.
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  Speaker 1: UM that's been around for the last twenty years and
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  Speaker 1: it's really similar to a diaphragm, but the difference is
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  Speaker 1: UM it is not used for contraception periods, so so
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  Speaker 1: don't use it for contraception UM and it is disposable,
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  Speaker 1: not reusable. Well, I think this is an incredible you
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  Speaker 1: know thing for so many of us women, for so
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  Speaker 1: many girls, and I appreciate you coming on to educate us.
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  Speaker 1: Where can people learn more purchase flex Please? Give us
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  Speaker 1: all the information and find you to ask you more questions. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you can find us on Instagram at flex or you
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  Speaker 1: can find us on our website flex fits dot com.
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  Speaker 1: You can also find us at Target, CVS, Walgreens, bright Aid, Um,
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  Speaker 1: pretty much most retailers in the US, but flex fits
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  Speaker 1: dot com if you're curious to watch some videos and
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  Speaker 1: get a better understanding of how it works. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us. Yeah, thanks so
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  Speaker 1: much for having me. Oh my gosh, no worries. I
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  Speaker 1: appreciate you coming on. I think this is so huge
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  Speaker 1: and such a game changer. Oh, I appreciate that. I
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  Speaker 1: mean the claim to fame for the product is really
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  Speaker 1: like mess free period sex, and I think, um, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people don't realize that I'm bisexual. So when
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  Speaker 1: people think about mess free period sex are strictly thinking
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  Speaker 1: about penetrated sex, which is definitely true. But if you're
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  Speaker 1: two women on your period, you know, and you have
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  Speaker 1: a different period week from each other. Hold on, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't realize this is you could do this and have
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  Speaker 1: mess free sex. Yeah, you can use our product from
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  Speaker 1: mess free period sex, whether oral or penetrative. So um,
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to be heterosexual. Do you enjoy mess
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  Speaker 1: free period sex? But because your vaginal canal is open
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  Speaker 1: and free, you can have penetrated sex or oral sex
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  Speaker 1: with it in and it helps block out the odor
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  Speaker 1: um and leaking which a lot of people are worried
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  Speaker 1: about during their period. That I mean because I mean
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  Speaker 1: don't know if this is the right thing to do.
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  Speaker 1: But I was the type of person that when I
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  Speaker 1: would go on vacation, I would like skip like I
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  Speaker 1: would skip my sugar pills so that then I would
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  Speaker 1: have like I wouldn't be on my period. Why I
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  Speaker 1: was on vacation because I didn't want to have to
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  Speaker 1: like have sex on my period. But you can with this,
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  Speaker 1: you can, And I will tell you I got my
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  Speaker 1: period on my wedding day, and so I was on
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  Speaker 1: my period and my honeymoon in Brazil, and I wore
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  Speaker 1: a white thong, I wore a bikini. I did all
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  Speaker 1: of the things on my wedding and honeymoon, but I
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  Speaker 1: was I was wearing flex disk and it was a
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  Speaker 1: complete lifesaver to me. Well, you're about to change a
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  Speaker 1: lot of other people's lives. Thank you so much for
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  Speaker 1: coming on, Teddy Teapot and we will make sure they
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  Speaker 1: find you at all of the places that you mentioned before. Awesome,
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Sudding, Thanks so much, Mouren. Let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you a little bit more about flex. If you want
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  Speaker 1: a period product that looks out for your body, your lifestyle,
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  Speaker 1: and the planet, you have got to try. Flex Flex
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  Speaker 1: is innovating period care with products that are body say,
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  Speaker 1: made for your comfort and made to keep you moving.
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  Speaker 1: There's the flex disc, which is a one time use
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  Speaker 1: menstrul disk that fits perfectly inside your body. Who doesn't
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  Speaker 1: want that? One? Flex disc can be worn for up
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  Speaker 1: to twelve hours and holds as much flow as three
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  Speaker 1: super tampons. And if you want to go zero waste
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  Speaker 1: and have the planet love you even more, pick up
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  Speaker 1: the Flex Cup, a reusable menstrul cup that Cosmo rated
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  Speaker 1: never go back to products from the past once you
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  Speaker 1: try Flex, so say goodbye to cramps, put sex back
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  Speaker 1: Let's bring these ladies on and grill. I'm shall we Hello? Hello?
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  Speaker 1: So thanks you guys for joining Teddy Teapot. We got
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  Speaker 1: a lot of questions that came in and I think
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  Speaker 1: what so many people relate to you guys about is that,
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  Speaker 1: like nothing's off off limits with y'all, no for I
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  Speaker 1: mean that's the question. Is there anything that's off limits?
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  Speaker 1: Just the stuff that nobody wants to hear about, like politics,
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  Speaker 1: We don't ever talk about that kind of thing. You
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm with you on that. It's just there's
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  Speaker 1: too much of it already that all that really brings
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  Speaker 1: is like hate. Yes, yes, we got a dose so
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  Speaker 1: that and we're done with it. And how would you
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  Speaker 1: describe each other as moms? And how would you describe yourselves?
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  Speaker 1: That's a good question. I'll go first. Um. I think
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  Speaker 1: Jen is an excellent mom, Can you guys hear me?
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  Speaker 1: I had to switch my earbuds because I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how technology works, So I mean, either it's a struggle
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  Speaker 1: every time we start, he's like, MS, you're Jetti hooked up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I had to ask my kids. They're now
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  Speaker 1: they have real school, so I have to actually figure
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  Speaker 1: it out myself. I I don't even pretend to know anymore.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, we all know. You're ordering it on Amazon.
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  Speaker 1: You want to you've ordered it, It's gonna show up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be confused, and I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: deal with the return label. Just keep it in order
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  Speaker 1: it for yourself. Say it's from Santa. Let's cut this ship.
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  Speaker 1: You know. Um Jen is a mom, is fantastic. She's
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  Speaker 1: very engaged and warm and like available to them and
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  Speaker 1: like works really hard, does all this stuff to make
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  Speaker 1: them happy. And I think sometimes I think works so
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  Speaker 1: hard to make them happy that it's at her own.
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  Speaker 1: But she's like working so hard. I'm like, you need
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  Speaker 1: to sit down, you to stop. What are you doing.
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  Speaker 1: It's two am. Stop making phone balls for a party
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  Speaker 1: by that stuff? Oh all the d I y oh yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We had a real intense conversation about this yesterday for
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  Speaker 1: our podcast because we were like, I am getting my
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  Speaker 1: ass handed to me by a six year old girl,
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  Speaker 1: like ten old boy, and she is mean to me.
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  Speaker 1: And she was mean to Kristen the other day and
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  Speaker 1: she was like, oh no. Kristen was like, have you
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  Speaker 1: forgotten you're from Nebraska. You don't take this. You wrestle
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  Speaker 1: that child if you have to like into submission. So
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  Speaker 1: it's I think. I think Christen's a really like she's
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  Speaker 1: a fun mom. She's a tickler. She like comes up
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  Speaker 1: with sports and games and like sen dominoes up all
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  Speaker 1: over the house and things songs and does dance parties
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  Speaker 1: and stuff. And I'm like, let's like candles talk about
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  Speaker 1: intentions and stuff like that. So they prefer when Kristen
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  Speaker 1: comes over. Yeah, although I am a yell from the
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  Speaker 1: how I They say, like, well, our marriage counselor said,
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  Speaker 1: you're you're supposed to like not yell across the room.
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  Speaker 1: You're supposed to walk into the room to talk to somebody.
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  Speaker 1: But that's so against my internal being that now when
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  Speaker 1: I walk into the room because I don't want to yell,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so full of like yelling energy that I can't
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  Speaker 1: deal with it. So like, I am a yell from
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  Speaker 1: across the house kind of person, but it generally is
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  Speaker 1: not all like you know, I'm not mad about everything.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you need a burger. I'm just a very
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  Speaker 1: loud person and Jen is not loud. I am very loud.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm loud, but then I'm sometimes hypocritical,
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  Speaker 1: like it'll be my kids yelling like yeah, and then
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  Speaker 1: I'm in the bathroom. I'm like, I need that bathroom
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  Speaker 1: the house. But then I'm like, what am I doing?
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  Speaker 1: You're doing your right, you're doing it right. They're fault,
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  Speaker 1: they're wrong there right. So what is like, if you
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  Speaker 1: could say anything, what would your best advice be to Oh,
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  Speaker 1: we always say we don't give advice, We're like that,
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  Speaker 1: but not to do sort of by giving advice, Like
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  Speaker 1: I would say my advice based on my relationship with
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  Speaker 1: Jen is like if we're talking about that time that
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  Speaker 1: like you really feel bad, I would say, think to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: phone a friend, Like phone a friend, we don't text,
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  Speaker 1: Like call your friend for no reason. When was the
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  Speaker 1: last time you got a no reason call? Just like
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  Speaker 1: a phone called it like there was no endgame in sight.
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  Speaker 1: You just call that friend because I guarantee, like you
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  Speaker 1: need it because you obviously are in that place. But
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  Speaker 1: she's going to need it too, And it always makes
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  Speaker 1: everything better whenever I talk to Jen and it's like,
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  Speaker 1: like the least important call is when I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I it like does something to my system. And so like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have any advice for moms. We're all busting
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  Speaker 1: rash doing our best, but busting our butt doing our best.
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  Speaker 1: But I think we have to remember to use each other.
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  Speaker 1: You just reminded me of what I would say is
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  Speaker 1: my best advice, and that would be to get a
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  Speaker 1: mom friend who is also a nurse um and so
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  Speaker 1: you can text her like rashes and stuff in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of the night and she can advise you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and she can also bring over one. I'm dying that
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  Speaker 1: you said, because I have a group text and it
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  Speaker 1: says my therapists, But really they're just like my five
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  Speaker 1: best mom friends and one of them is actually a therapist,
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  Speaker 1: one of them is a nurse one of them, and
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  Speaker 1: it's like we all like can add our two cents
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  Speaker 1: to whatever it is. And I'm like, there's a rash
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  Speaker 1: right here. Like today I had to send a text
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  Speaker 1: to because my son struggles with anxiety and today he
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  Speaker 1: comes out and he's like crying. I mean, I heard
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  Speaker 1: about this incident in his therapy a couple of weeks ago,
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  Speaker 1: but he comes out crying. It's like, mom, I just
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  Speaker 1: need to stop going to school. And I'm like why
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  Speaker 1: and he's like, because last year I taught I taught
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  Speaker 1: one of the kids in class with the middle finger
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  Speaker 1: meant and I'm like, what does what does it mean?
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  Speaker 1: And he's like, well, I just said it was the
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  Speaker 1: bad finger, and then I showed them what it was
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  Speaker 1: and he goes, yesterday she looked at me and did
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  Speaker 1: it like I remember. And I was like all right,
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  Speaker 1: and so what do you And he's like sobbing and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, one, it's not that big of a deal.
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  Speaker 1: What do you want me to do about it? Because
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  Speaker 1: you have to go to school today. So we wrote
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  Speaker 1: an email to his teachers and we're just like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: this happened, you know, can you give him some reassurance
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  Speaker 1: and let him know he's not gonna get in trouble
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  Speaker 1: but he's honest blah blah blah. But then after I
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  Speaker 1: sent the email, I had to send it to my
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  Speaker 1: therapist group chain and go, he's not actually gonna get
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  Speaker 1: in trouble for this, right, Like we're being honest, we're
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  Speaker 1: putting it out there, because you have that moment after
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  Speaker 1: you say something that you think you're doing the right
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  Speaker 1: thing as apparent, but then you're like, oh crap, did
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  Speaker 1: I just I get my studied trouble absolutely always walking
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  Speaker 1: away going I don't know that's going to turn out.
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  Speaker 1: I might have just sent him into a Lionston. Let's
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  Speaker 1: let's hope for the best fingers crossed. Okay, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to them all like like, what are you gonna do? Like,
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  Speaker 1: he's such a nice kid, though, like you've got to
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  Speaker 1: feel good that you raised a good human in that
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  Speaker 1: moment though that he like feels guilt and like has
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  Speaker 1: a conscience. I mean he's been carrying it around for
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  Speaker 1: a year, all right. Fine, That's where we all fail
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  Speaker 1: is my son was in trouble the other day and
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  Speaker 1: like we're watching a g T and we're talking about
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  Speaker 1: how like the kids just like they if they win,
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  Speaker 1: they get passed on to the next level. They're like fine,
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  Speaker 1: but the parents are like sobbing, like it's their whole
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  Speaker 1: life and they My son asked my husband and he's like, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: why did the parents get so upset? And my husband's like,
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  Speaker 1: because the parents want more for the kids. They want
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  Speaker 1: it more than the kids want the thing. And my
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  Speaker 1: son just balls, like heaving sobbing, like had to have
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  Speaker 1: a hut. Balls And I'm like, but he's like a
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  Speaker 1: good kid. But did we ever do it? Are we
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  Speaker 1: being like you remember that point too much? What? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: We drill the point. I don't know. I know, And
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  Speaker 1: I think that every parent kind of has like are
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  Speaker 1: you guys more like into academic or sport or like
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  Speaker 1: do you see yourselves like in the stands, like going
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  Speaker 1: for it? Or like while they're doing the homework, like
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  Speaker 1: are you more laid back? Um? I think what we
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  Speaker 1: try to do and I have to give perhaps to
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  Speaker 1: my husband because he's he helps with the homework, because
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  Speaker 1: I lost the ability to do math, uh, their first
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  Speaker 1: grade stuff. I was like, what is core math? What
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  Speaker 1: is we? You know what? I'm not a scientist, so
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, I need all of those like
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  Speaker 1: tangible things. I've got the sticks. I'm like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what grouping is. Okay, I am a comedian. I
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  Speaker 1: this is reserved for somebody else. But I do think
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  Speaker 1: that what we try to do is just make them
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  Speaker 1: want to try hard. It does not matter what the
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  Speaker 1: endgame is. But our thing is like whatever it is
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  Speaker 1: you're doing, you just have to try. Like my daughter,
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  Speaker 1: my son, he'll try to thing. He doesn't care. He
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  Speaker 1: may not be good at it, but he does try hard.
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  Speaker 1: My daughter, on the other hand, is like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: this soccer is hot, and I'm uncomfortable and I don't
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: think I want to do it right now. And we're
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: in the middle of the game, so I'm just gonna
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: stand here and put my hands in my pockets. We're
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: on the outside going like what are you doing? You
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: better start learning. It's like, man, I don't think I
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: want to. And so that's when it gets really hard
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: because you're like, what do I do now, I've got
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: no leverage, Like she's just decided it's no longer worth trying.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: So that's where we are is are like, you know,
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: stick tutiveness is like you just have to try. You
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: have to try, and you have to finish something you completed.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: You have to be a good teammate and you have
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: to give effort. And that's where we're at. That's our bar.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: And would you say that you guys are the same way, Oh,
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: we're right now. I'm like, just don't steal or kill anybody,
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Like it's so bad at our house right now. Well,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: my daughter started kindergarten like during the pandemic, so she
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: never learned like how to go to school. She was
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: remote school for like ever and couldn't visualize that there
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: were like twenty other kids in this like classroom. So
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: she just thought it was all about her. And so
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: she's like really in this like like shock of her
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: life to see that like she has to like follow
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: these rules and has to wear pants to school. I
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: mean all of us aren't, I know. So it's I'm
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: trying to give her like a lot of grace, and
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: she's taking a whole lot of grace. I mean, we're
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: really big on academics, especially like with my daughter. I
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: feel like I really want her to like like have
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: academics to be as important as they are to like
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: my son, because I didn't feel that way growing up.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, but that was my parents bad parenting.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: But but do we do you think that that? Like,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I mean I barely graduated high school. I was so
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: into riding horses. I bare like it was a struggle
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: like to and show up to school. And my like
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: my daughter she's so into school, like she doesn't want
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: to be thirty seconds late. Like she's like, mom, I
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: can't be I cannot miss one second of class. Like
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: the second she has homework she gets done, Cruise Like,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I'm like, buddy, can we read? Like for two seconds?
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: He's like nah, I'm like what do you know how
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: to spell? He's like my name c r u Z
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: like the you know, like kids are so different and
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: like no matter what you try to do, like they're
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: just gonna come out in completely different ways. And like
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I feel like the more I push, I can only
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: do so much. So I was like, Cruise, on Friday's,
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: you're gonna be meeting with this teacher who's gonna do
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: a little extra reading with you, and he'll do it
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: with her, but with me. I can read to him,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: but if I try to get him to read to me,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: it's absolutely not. Yeah, it's tough. It's tough working with
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: your own kids too, Like it's just like you have
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: no patience. It's it feels so hard. That's why this
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: last year and a half like kicked everybody's bottom. Yeah
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: you see what I did. I see what we did there?
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: You see what I did there? Was heart friendly right there.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: I I hearded that. I I hearded the out of that. Um.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I think everybody is trying their hardest right now. Also,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know, and I could be wrong, and this
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: is probably not a great parenting philosophy, but if it's
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: one thing that I've learned in the last year and
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: a half, it's kind of like, let some of it
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: roll off your back. They're all going to end up okay,
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: like we're you know, so everybody's gonna have to catch
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: up a little bit, Like what what are we really
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: trying to prove by like making everybody feel like there's
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: got to be this thing that we get to. I'm like,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: we just missed a year and a half of like
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: kids interacting with each other. There's going to be a
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: time where we have to correct. So like everybody, if
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: everybody just chills out a little bit, maybe we lower
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: our bar a little bit, like we'll be I mean,
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: don't you think, well it all work out in the
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: end like that, I mean we we all survived, Yeah,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: like we didn't. We grew up without cell phones and
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I don't know how we did it. So like there's
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: I know, without being helicopter parented like I would just
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: be gone for out. I mean the fastest I am,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: like I have a tracker on to know exactly where
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: my kids are at every moment of every second of
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: every day. My friends, you know, I was a week's
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: at a time. Yeah. My parents were like, wait, you
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: live here, and I was like, it's cool, it's cool.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: I'm eight, thank you. So it's crews second or first,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: like birth order. I think, OK, so I have a stepdaughter,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: she's twelve, and she's with us every other weekend, and
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: then summer's two weeks on, two weeks off, and then
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: I have Slate, which is the firstborn, and she is
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: about to turn nine, you like have to think about it.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Then Cruise is seven, and then Dove is eighteen months,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: and we like to joke around like when Dove joins
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: the family, because what ends up happening when you have
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: so many is that the little one gets left behind.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Where like, come on, everybody, But like I'm like the
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: struggle like with Slayton, Cruisingbella, like we all came and
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: did everything together, but now it's like with the pandemic,
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Dove is she does less. Things were like we've got
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: out to dinner with Dove. I don't know five times,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: she's gonna be fine. She will be so fine. That's
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: the thing is, like my brother has like multiple master's degrees,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Like he could not be smarter, like he just is.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: He's a great human. He also has really great teeth,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: like all of it upset. He's just a wonderful Yeah.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: But I think he would say, like we have like
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: different kinds of smart, you know. But I mean, I
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: honestly did not finish my college entrance exam because I
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: was getting dance team photos right afterwards, and I was
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: so worried about my the rollers in my hair that
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: like I barely made it to college even so, Like,
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: but I think he would say that I'm smart too. Well.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I also say people smart is very important in being
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: able to read people and having empathy. And you know,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: let's just say we're raising good humans, all right, let's
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: just let off that. But how do you guys deal with,
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: especially you know, having a big following on social media
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: media with like mom shaming and just all the you know,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: whatever is going on with them, How they you know,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: will put that on you. Um, we've it's it's a thing,
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: and we just talked about this yesterday too. I here's
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: here's what I think about that is you can be
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: having a really crappy day and then you can take
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: it out on someone on social media and you think
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: there's no fallout because you sort of think of yourself.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: It's so small in the big equation that no one
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: will sort of see it. So it's kind of like
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: you get to punch this thing and there's no recourse.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: But that's just not true. When you say something and
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: it isn't nice and it is harsh and it's sort
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: of unnecessary. You put that energy out there and also
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: they you see it, and so do other people around you.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: And if you wouldn't say that's the next step. Person,
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: don't say it at all. Like I just think that,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: like we're not being careful with each other, and that's
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: not that's not okay, man. We can do better than that.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: There's no reason there's no reason to like troll someone
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: and there's no reason to like say something if it
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: doesn't impact you directly. Do you know what I mean?
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I just say, like, don't say it, like don't like
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. That's just my camp and I think
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: that we try to we practice like we play because
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: we want our kids to be like that. You know,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: we don't want there is fallout on social media if
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: you say stuff that isn't kind. I mean I actually
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: even have gotten to the point where if people give
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: me unwarranted advice that like makes me nervous or uncomfortable,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: I just have to block it. Like you, you can
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: come at me all you want, like you call me man, hands,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: monotone voice, all the things like I've heard it, Oh god,
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: come at me, Oh God. This is one of those
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: things where you're like so gorgeous that like they say
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: things to you, but us so like so reritable. It's
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: all the things. I'm like, yes, I talked with my hands,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: Yes I have a monotone voice. Just keep it coming,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: bring it. But then it's like people send me a
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: message that like something about like that can happen to
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: your kids in this hypothetical situation, and I'm like I
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: don't need my mind to go there because then you
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: like manifest it and like like so then I just
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: like block it. I'm like I don't. I don't want
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: to think about that. I don't want to hear it.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I don't want to see it and like the fact
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: that like we all are doing the best that we can,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: don't even put it out there. Yeah. Yeah, well I
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: always try to really get the we call our fans
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: the moms. There's like this is it's statistically impossible that
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: out of like two million, two point five million people,
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: you're not going to have a couple of like super
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: crazy people like sending you messages. But for the usually
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: my family, yeah, it's one of my cousins, of my
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: cousins sometimes my mom criticizing me. You're going to have
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: a few of those that we just like hide it
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: and don't get the ball started, because so many of
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: our moms will like come to our defense or they'll
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: say it to another mom like hey, that wasn't really cool,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: and she responds like, you know what, You're right, I'm
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: having a really bad day, like in the most like
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: human non defensive. Yeah. So sometimes it's just really what's
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: going on in their day. Yeah, and you're allowed to
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: have a bad day. I just think sometimes people think,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: like I wonder if sometimes people think I'm like I'm
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: one human in the in this person like yourself. It's
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: so popular and has so many followers, She's not gonna
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: see my one snarky comment about this thing I'm gonna
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: put out there, and it's gonna make me feel better
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: because I'm kind of having a crappy day, but you
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: do see it, and or you're putting that energy out
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: there of doing something that isn't very nice, like I
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: sort of flipped the script, and I'm like, I don't know,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: like maybe like say a nice thing, does that like
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: drag you out of your bad day a little easier?
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: I know that's so Pollyanna, but and sometimes when I
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: have responded, I've been like, you know what, please like?
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: That really makes me feel uncomfortable. And then I'm like,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, you responded. I actually don't even think that.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I just wanted to see if you'd responded, And then
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I'm like, please, like, now I feel even worse. But
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: you know, I think it's it's all the highs and
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: lows of social media. But something that my girlfriends and
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I were talking about the other day that we were
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: completely divided on that I have to ask you all
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: about how do you guys feel about parenting each other's kids.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: So I'm one of those like if you're at my
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: house and you see my kids slipping doing something wrong.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: You you can go ahead and parent them all you want,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: like you could step in. I don't mind you, like
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: you go ahead and discipline and you do what you
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: need to do. Um where some are like you just
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: mind your own business. I'll step in one night and
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna then I'm gonna parent her. I would be
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: so offended if a friend of mine said, mind your
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: own business with my kids, because I mean, obviously you're
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: not gonna pick them up in spane come or something
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: like that. Kristen and I have this agreement like you
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: look like you see my kid doing something wrong, please
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: like immediately get to it, because I'm gonna miss it.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: I call it the mom stance where you have your
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: hands on your hips and like I know that Jen
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: is saying something like disciplinary and to my kids if
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: her hands are in her hands, and then the other
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: one of us will come out and also stand with
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: our hands and our hips. So like the kids are
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: like book ended by these two like pterodactyls that are
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: like I saw you don't throw that. Don't throw rocks.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: There's you know, like at Jen's birthday party for Delilah Um,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: they had this they had this really neat guest house
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: and I and the kids were like trying to climb
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: through a window and I caught him and I was
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: over there and I was like, I was like, absolutely not,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: all of you need to get down. This is not okay.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: This is like and I was like, man, I'm like
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: a security guard at this, but I go, She'll do
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: the same thing, Like, there's no I think that's a
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: sign of love. Like if I'm willing to, it's an
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: effort to keep everybody safe in a little bit, you know. Well,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: managed I'll bark at anybody's kids. I'll be at a park.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: You better. It's a free for all. And I expect
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: the same me too. And I think that, you know.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: And the one thing that the only thing that I
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: don't like is when other kids parents the kids. Oh yeah,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: that's why I'm like, no, yeah, I'll I'm in charge here.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, just put my kid in time out or
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: anything like that. But I definitely want them to remind
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: them to be nice and not to like poke another
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: kid with a stick, you know, Like who can debate that.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: We're also in the age of like everybody tattling on everybody,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: like because our four kids are well, actually Eleanor in
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: in Delilah get they've been so close their whole time together.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: But we've got a ten, two eights, and a six
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: right now. And so my ten year old has given
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: me a run for my money, and jens six year
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: old is given her run for money. And then we
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: have Dashell and Eleanor in the middle. And so everybody's
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: got these different age brackets and they're all trained to
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: tattle except the girls. So everybody's kind of got something
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: on somebody. So at one point or another, Jen and
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: I are always like trying to take a sip of
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: our coffee or whatever, and they're coming in. We're like,
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: figure it out, figuring it out. Go give somebody create
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: parliamentary procedure and start voting this out. Like we're done.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: Like you guys are got You've got to figure this out.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: So like sometimes we let them manage themselves. Do get out, guys.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: We can we cannot be bothered. Yeah, I want to
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: hear all about Jen's day. I don't want to hear
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: about this, especially if we're together. We can't be booked
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  Speaker 1: your husband's who is more of the disciplinary and you
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: guys or your husband's And then how do you deal
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: if you're like having different parenting? That's a good question.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: I think I'm I think I create rules, make sure
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: he's in agreement with them, and then on the like
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  Speaker 1: in four or so. Usually, but if I lose my life,
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  Speaker 1: oh sorry, it's usually sorry if I lose it, which
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: is usually like that six to seven o'clock hour where
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: you're just like spent so tired. I do this thing
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: where I like, we'll walk out to my husband's office
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: and go, you need to go check your kids. You
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: need to go to spare your kids there, they're his
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: kids in that moment. Yeah makes sense. I think that
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: my husband and I are pretty aligned on um on discipline.
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I think that we both step in at different things.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: But it really comes down to like who has been
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: with them the longest, because we always say like I'm like,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you don't get to lose it right now. You don't
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: get to lose it in fifteen minutes. I've been with
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: them for four hours. Like you better come in and
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: be like cool guy, because I'm gonna go rage across
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: the neighborhood. You know, qually fast the neighborhood streets. Talk
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: to myself, well, yeah, we're pretty even, but we are disciplinarians.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: We we definitely I think, uh, draw some boundaries and
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: believe that like there needs to be some some strict
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: rules because our kids will push every boundary that you
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: give them. I know, I mean what kids won't. But
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: like I am very structured, like in general, that's just
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: who I am, very type. And my husband's like very
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: like beats at like the beat of his own drum
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: and it's like on his own time schedule. And we
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: got in our biggest argument we have in years over
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: the first day of school. You guys had to tell
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: me if you if you think that I'm right or
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: he's right. I realized you mad guy supposed to have
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: right and wrong. I did a pull on Instagram and
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: it said he was right. But I just I'm not.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I'm not not there yet. So it's the first day
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: of school. They have to be we have to leave
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: first school at seven. He just sides, he's going to
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: go to a pilates class. No, he's wrong, he's wrong, wrong, right, Okay,
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: So I have like we have a little like track
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: or you know, like little thing on our phone. So
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: I see he's still at pilates at seven forty So
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: don't you worry. I've already done the first day of
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: school pictures, everything, we have breakfast together as a family.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: So yes, we're in the car at seven forty three,
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: seven forty five. I'm out of the house. I don't call,
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: I don't whatever. Like, this is your punishment, dude, Like
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't have gone to pilates today. You should have
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: been home. You knew were like leaving at seven forty five.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: He pulls in the house at seven forty six and
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: calls and he's like, where are you? And maybe it
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: was seven forty seven. He's like where are you? And
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I just left the house and he's like,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: I cannot believe you couldn't wait two minutes or call
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: me and see how far away I was. And I
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: was like, I'm sorry. You know I should have gone
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: to pilates. I told you this is important. This is
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: the difference between forty five minutes and carpool. It's the
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: first day I'm not doing it. How spends are late
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: all the time and they don't drives me quick, Like
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: it honestly gives me rage. And then now all of
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: a sudden, I am furious in to school when we
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: were in a happy, fine mood. We didn't meet him
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: in that moment because he already chose pilates for us.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: This is literally what we go to counseling over. It's
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: literally I'm like, I don't want to talk about feelings.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: I want to talk about the schedule. The schedule. I
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: can tell you my husband would not go to pilates
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: at seven in the jump in the shower at seven.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I think that would be enough time for him to
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: like be out the door at seven five. And I'm like, no,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: What I'm trying to teach my kids is like it's
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: important to be on time, and like if something matters
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: to you, like yes, but this is my favorite thing.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: My husband we have this fight all the time because
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: I am very um punctual and so is Jen and
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: we are, if not literally on time, we're a little
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: bit early, just to give like a buffer. So that's
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: how we work as businesswomen, as moms, as like whatever.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: And my husband's like, you know what, if it takes
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: eight minutes to get there, then it takes eight minutes
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: to leave, seven minutes still all speed, and then I'll
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: get there. But I'm like, I know I have the shortcut. Yeah,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: he's sweating through his shirt trying to get up the
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: hill to school, and like, could you have done five
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: minutes earlier so you don't you don't have to be
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: so high strung, Like this is a constant argument with us,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, this is making me insane, and it's
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: teaching the wrong thing to our kids. There is a
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: there's a grace period that you should have so you
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: can relax and enjoy your experience instead of being like,
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: look at us, we're thirty scuds before the belt. But honestly,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: and then I don't know what he must have gotten
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: ready at like mock speed to leave for work, because
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: I then I told him, I'm like, listen, just make
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: sure that you leave because we're working from home a lot.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I have so much press. Leave that like
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: camera thing that I don't have today. But I'm like,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: leave it because I have a bunch of press, and
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: he must have honestly grabbed his computer the camera thing
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: mock speed out of there so we don't have to
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: have the conversation when we get home, and I say,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: I'm like, now you're double whammy. Now you took the
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: camera thing now but liked be like sloppy. I was
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: so mad, And then I'm like do all couples go
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: through this? And why? And he's like, why can't you
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: just take your breath? Who cares if you're in carpool
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: for extra ten minutes? I do? I actually do? I do,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: and it's the principle. And it's like, why the hell
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: would you have a watch if you don't care? Like
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: it's it's like it's time is there's a reason we
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: put a time code on like things like you want
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: to leave it seven forty five. Put that line in
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: the sand. That's very clear. Don't be seven forty six
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: because that's not seven forty five. Like you've got to
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: run a tight ship. I'm so the same way. So
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: do you want to move in with me? I feel
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: like things are really working out for us. You and
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I would be it would be like a well would
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: the machine would be like we've got the kids, there
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: are already certain college courses, like it's happening. I mean,
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: it's really all the things that I really feel a
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: lot better about myself after all of this. Okay, so
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: what advice would you not advice, but what would you
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: want to tell any that's planning to like start to
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: have kids. Is there anything you do or what are
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: you coming to like expect how your life change? Oh? God,
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: getting I U d as long as you can and
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: freeze your eggs and then I mean, first of all gents,
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: SI says it all that's that's where I'm at right now.
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: For first of all, you are never going to be
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: ready and it's never going to be a good time.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: And if you are someone who has a very clean home,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: just say goodbye, have a you know, lights some whatever
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: stage or whatever, and be like, hey, thanks for being
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: awesome and clean house. I now we'll wipe boogers off
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: the wall until they're like I don't know, seventeen. Like
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: it's just in such a shift in your life, but
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: also in all joking aside, it's so fun, like they're
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden. You know what's really awesome is
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, these things that were very important
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: to you no longer matter at all, So like you
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: just don't care about stuff. You're like, I'm actually kind
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: of happy, even though I forgot to put on pants.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm happy. I'm kind of happy. Yeah, if I
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: were honest, the thing that I would say is when
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: you give birth to that first baby, you give birth
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: to two new humans because the you that you used
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: to be is like no longer. You have totally different priorities,
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: you have probably a totally different body, you have a
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: different like way of looking at the world, sort of
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: and you have to like give yourself a lot of
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: like leeway and grace and start to like get to
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: know this new person that you've become, and your vagina
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: is ruined. Yeah, st Yeah, I would say my biggest
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: thing is, like I've always said that, the first baby
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: is like a real eye opener, like that's and then
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: once the more you have, it's just kind of like
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: there we go, We're already in it. But the first
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: one for me was like whoa, what just happened? By
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: enjoy your Saturday mornings while you have them, because you
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: will never sleep in and go to brunch again, right,
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: and you'll never ever watch any like all of a
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: sudden your ball at commercials. They can never face you. Yeah,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: you're like family seen in a bud like commercial will
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: be like and and being you know, busy entrepreneur working moms.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Do you guys believe in balance? Like I I personally don't.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Like I'm like, listen, I have to kind of set
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: my family up to say, like listen, Tuesday is the
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: day that like mommy is working NonStop. It's busy, busy day.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: But like Wednesday, I've I've got you guys, I'm picking
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: up from school. We're doing this, this and this, and
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: like I kind of set everybody's expectations up. We have
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: the calendar, they know, and I'm kind of one way
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: versus the other. If not everybody's emotional, but there's some
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: people that are like, we're just perfectly balanced throughout the day.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Everything that's not true. They're not telling you true. Yeah,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: you guys should definitely huck up, Chris, Christie really has
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: a calendar. It's like a it's crazy, it's hard to follow.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: It hurts my eyes and like, so you've got to
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: tell you the part where I have you in you
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: and your husband. I can't figure out how to take
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: her out because I don't want her to see that
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: I'm because we've worked together all the time. So she
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: has like my husband goes like Christ's having a heavy
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: floatay today. He knows every single thing about her life
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: because she's in there too. Because how is that, Kristen,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: did you ever fix that? I don't know what happened,
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: but Bert, somehows are my calendar. So my calendar is awesome,
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: but I can't not share it with people. So everybody
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: kind of knows, like that's her heavy day. Like it's
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: like two trains. Can I tell you guys earlier on
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: the podcast, I had somebody on from FLEX, which I
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: had never really talked about, like there period disk but listen, yeah,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: did you know that you can have sex on your period?
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: In this on them? What my FD was blown? Yeah? No,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: you got to come over to our crowd because if
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: you tell women that you went on a weekend vacation
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: in Scottsdale and you started your period, they will give
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: you all the information about those dists. I was like, hey, ladies,
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: what's up. Like it was, I learned a lot. I'm
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: still shook. I'm gonna have to I'm doing all my research,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: I'm doing all my testing. I'm wanting all the how twos.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: But okay, well you can also use them for white
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: trash I UI, which is something that I did. God,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: it's really I did a deep dive on the internet
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: when I was trying to get pregnant with my daughter
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: and so just Precy, no, you just to keep it
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: in there. Nice, she did a d I Y. I
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: just you know, I always it never worked for me,
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: but I would do the method where I would just
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: keep my legs up. Yes how it starts, but you know,
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: then I ended up having to go to a doctor
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: and you know, professionally, but I tried. I just sneezed.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I sneezed, and I was like, oh my god. But
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: now I have like nightmares, like I don't know, dreams, nightmares,
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: whatever you wanna call it, that I'm pregnant all the time.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: I now consistently have to take pregnancy tests because I'm like, guys,
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: I think I'm pregnant again, and they're like, you need
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: to stop. Because I was IVF and intimination with the
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: first two and then I got pregnant actually with Dove,
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: and now I have like PTSD about you better be careful. Yeah,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: well I'm on, I have the copper I U D now,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: so I'm do you like it? I don't know yet.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I'm really crampy and blowdy. It's so far, but my
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: hormones were all messed up, so now we're trying to
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: get me. Yeah, welcome to just constant a woman. Man.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: But you know what, I like that you talk about it,
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: because it's got it. You know, Hormones are a real thing,
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: and they're they're intense, and they make you feel like
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: you're crazy and you don't ever get a break from them,
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: like ever, I think we think we're gonna just like
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: always be now, you know, neutral, but it's like highs
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: and low and you know, my thing is like if
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: I'm having a real low, like I'm gonna seek ways
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: to find out how to feel better. And so I
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: went and got my hormones checked and they're like, whoa,
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: this is no way, no situation. And I don't know
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: if it's from having coronavirus, if it was from you know,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: being on a certain type of birth control. But they
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: were like, you should go and get copper iu D
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: get off the hormones. And then they just tested again,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: so now I'll find out. But it's like, yeah, it's
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: a whole thing, isn't it. It's yeah, it's a whole thing.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: And this is why your husband needs to be on time.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: I know. Well I even told him, I mean, listen,
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: I Heart, I Heart. We're going We're doing the I
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: Heart Festival coming up, and I said, I'm I have
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: a plus one and I need to know can you
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: be on time for all of the events. If you can't,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: it is my work and I'm bringing a friend there.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: You go, I promise I can't. But speaking of self care,
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: What is your number one self care favorite thing to
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: do as mom with our kids or without? Because if
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: it's self care, it should be without. I would say
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: with out. Uh. I think mine is either like deep
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: diving a few episodes of Like Friends or ted Lasso,
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: or something that makes me just feel like totally like
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I have nothing to think about, or music I think
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: is a good escape. That's how I work. I'm not
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: good at doing like facials and stuff. I forget how
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: to I don't know how to do it, and I
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: get overwhelmed. And I also don't like being sitting down
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: for a long period of time. I know I'm always
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: on that Joe. Yeah, well, I'm woulda throw a Christian
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: under the bus because she made me sign up for
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: the Peloton app. And I'm fully addicted to their yoga classes,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: which I started them like when you couldn't go to
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: yoga class in Los Angeles, and I'm obsessed with it
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: and I now I'm like, I hate working out. I
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: don't like moving like I don't run unless somebody's chasing me.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: It is not like who I am whatsoever. But now
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: I love to like I got my brother doing yoga
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: like I have so many people doing yoga because I'm like,
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: that's just you take care of yourself and getting better
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: mood and like have your body feel stronger, and then
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: then you're a better mom, you're a better like partner,
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: You're just like kind of a better human. And I
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: don't know who this is talking right now, because I
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: was gonna say, now, do you want to come work
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: it all in? Like you're really like giving me the pitch,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Like it's true. I don't know what happens. Christian's fault.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: She got the bike. The outdoor walks and runs are
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: really good too, because they'll do them guided and they
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: give you that little boost. You can have a little sunshine,
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: so you can give those a try as well. I
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: know we're running out of time, but I know you
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: guys are going on tour. Do you take your families
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: with you? Or how do you do it? We did
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: one time and then we learned. But we we have
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: like a system in place where we go like four
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: days at a time is our max, and then we're
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: home for a bit and then we go for four
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: more days. But you can find all of our tour
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: and from my information on my mom so her dot
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: com but we're very excited. We have a new show.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: We've worked really hard on it. We think it's it's
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: uplifting and fun and it's a good stand up show.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: But there's more to it than just that. So yeah,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: it's our third tour and this one's called the Getaway
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: Tour because we think our moms definitely need to get
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: away after the last year and a half and we
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: specifically do. So there's no way we're taking our kids,
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: No way. No, We've all spent enough time together. Yeah,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: I want to get away and go. Thank you guys
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: so much for joining me. I had so much fun
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: with y'all and I could talk to you for hours,
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: so I appreciate it. Thank you for having us. Bye bye. Well, guys,
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: that was such a fun show. Thank you so much
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: for joining. Make sure to send in any questions that
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: you have or any topics you want us to or
• 47:35
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• 47:38
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