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Bet on You, But Build Receipts · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 7, Episode 3, Bet on You, But Build Receipts.
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  Real talkers, if you've been rocking with me for any amount of time You already
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  know one thing you're going to hear me say Bet on you,
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  But today, I want to take that a little further Because betting on yourself is actually twofold,
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  The first part is believing in yourself The second part,
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  doing the work so you have receipts for that belief.
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  Because there's a difference between saying, I think I can do this,
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  and being able to say, I know I can do this, because look at what I've already built.
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  That's a different kind of confidence.
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  And real talkers, confidence hits differently when it has evidence. Belief makes the bet.
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  Before anybody else believes in the vision, sometimes you've got to believe in it.
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  Before the followers come, before the money comes, before the applause comes,
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  before somebody validates the idea, before anybody says, you know what, I see it too,
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  you have to see it.
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  And that can be difficult because sometimes we're waiting for other people to
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  co-sign something that was never given to them to approve.
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  But betting on yourself means saying, I don't know exactly how this is going
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  to turn out, but I believe enough in what I carry to find out. That's the bet.
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  But here's where we sometimes get it twisted. Believing in yourself doesn't
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  mean sitting around telling yourself how amazing you're going to be,
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  At some point, you've got to build something Build the receipts Every time you
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  show up when you don't feel like it, receive,
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  Every time you finish something you once thought you couldn't, receive,
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  Every time you learn something new, receive.
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  Every time you survive something That once had you questioning Whether you were going to make it Receive,
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  Every episode, every workout, every class, every application,
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  every uncomfortable conversation, every boundary you finally kept,
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  every dollar you saved, every time you started again after something didn't work.
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  Receipts, receipts, receipts.
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  And here's why those receipts matter. There are going to be days when your confidence
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  gets quiet There are going to be moments when you question yourself
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  There are going to be seasons where the results aren't coming fast enough And
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  you'll start wondering, can I really do this?
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  That's when you stop listening to the doubt and pull out the receipts You remind
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  yourself, I've done hard things before I've figured things out before.
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  I've started over before. I've been scared before and moved away.
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  I've built before. So why would I suddenly believe I can't build again?
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  Don't confuse a slow return with a bad bet.
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  And somebody needs this card Sometimes you bet on yourself and don't immediately
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  see the return That doesn't automatically mean you made a bad bet,
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  You might be in the building season We live in a world that loves the highlight
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  reel But skips right over the repetitions Everybody wants the launch Nobody posts the 47 drafts.
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  Everybody celebrates the degree. Nobody sees the late night studying.
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  Everybody sees the business when it's profitable. Nobody sees those first few customers.
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  Everybody sees the person standing confidently in their purpose.
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  Nobody sees all the moments they almost talk themselves out of it.
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  That's why you can't measure the value of your bet solely by how quickly it pays off.
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  Sometimes the return is happening inside of you before it ever shows up around you.
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  You're becoming more disciplined, more knowledgeable, more resilient,
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  more consistent, more capable.
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  And eventually, all of that becomes another receipt.
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  Your receipts don't have to look like theirs. And please stop dismissing your
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  progress because somebody else's receipt looks bigger.
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  Their 10,000 followers don't cancel your first 100.
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  Their six-figure business doesn't cancel your first sale.
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  Their marathon doesn't cancel your first mile.
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  Their degree doesn't cancel the fact that you finally enrolled.
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  Their chapter 20 doesn't make your chapter 3 insignificant.
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  It's your receipt.
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  Keep it. Because you're building a body of evidence that says,
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  when I decide, when I commit, when I do the work, I can succeed.
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  And that is why I keep telling you to bet on yourself.
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  Not because everything you try is guaranteed to work exactly how you planned,
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  but because even when something doesn't work, you gain information.
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  You adjust, you learn, you build, and you come back to the table wiser than you were before.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to create what I'm calling your receipt file.
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  I want you to write down five receipts from your own life.
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  Five things that prove you can trust yourself to figure things out.
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  Maybe it's something you accomplished, something you survived,
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  something you started, something you finished, something you learned,
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  or something you had the courage to walk away from.
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  Then underneath those five receipts, answer this question.
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  If I've already proven I can do that, what am I afraid to bet on myself to do next?
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  Write your answer down. And then I want you to take one action toward it this week.
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  Not next month, not when you're completely ready, not when everybody agrees this week.
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  Because real talkers, we're not building confidence out of affirmations alone.
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  We're building confidence out of evidence. Believe in yourself.
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  Do the work. Build the receipts. And the next time doubt asks you
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  who you think you are show it the receipts bet on you because when you build
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  the evidence eventually you don't have to wonder whether you're capable you know.
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  So decide commit succeed
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  and as always continue to live fearless keep learning keep living this is real
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  talk for real life where We're realizing everyone is always learning
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  and you're living your whole experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you on the next one.