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The ‘strange’ things highly sensitive people notice (HSP/INFP) · Lightbearer's Library

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Light Bears Library.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Kate Harmony.
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's journal entry, we're going to talk about my new home.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, welcome here to my new home.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's been a week since we've moved in, and I wanted to talk about how us as highly sensitive souls have high, you know, we process things deeply, and our environments we're constantly kind of aware of the micro details in our environment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so there's some weird things that maybe we notice that people who aren't highly sensitive don't and might think are really weird or crazy or just kind of yeah, random.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I want to share them with you so that maybe you can share with me at the end what are some weird things that you might not tell other people that you notice about living in your space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, because I think I think that would be I think that would be funny.
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  SPEAKER_00: It would help us to not feel maybe so strange.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, because the thing is, is that as highly sensitive people, it it it affects our our daily living, the small things in our environment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And especially having just moved into a new environment and having to recalibrate my whole system to a new environment, to new sounds, new new sights, new smells.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of exhausting because my brain is like cataloging every new new thing and is reorienting to being in this new space.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's um, yeah, it it it it shifts everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, for example, one thing is that the water in this place is has a water softener, I I suppose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so the water is just so much softer and and it smells different.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, you know, it's these things, but it it had a different smell um to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So and I've noticed in different places, like um not so much here, but you know, the the taste of the water can change, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is like um so when I had a shower for the first time here here, my hair was so different in the soft water, it's much softer, silkier, and smoother.
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  SPEAKER_00: So actually being in my body and in my skin in this place is is different.
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  SPEAKER_00: It changes my own perception of of me almost.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if that makes sense, but um, yeah, it's just sort of not as frizzy and hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um it yeah, changes how I feel in my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even um just the the kind of my nose being maybe less stuffy here than our last place, and who knows why that is in terms of what's in the air or not in the air.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um but um, you know, even just the the feel of the floor, this place has insulation under the floor, so it's a bit bouncier.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just walking feels different in in the place.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just like, oh, this is this is a bit bouncier.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and the smells that are like the the the washer dryer are used.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um so it's like smelling the laundry soap of previous people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, we wash our clothes with our own laundry soap, but you can still when you put them on, they still smell sort of like other people's washing detergent because ours is pretty scentless.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um so it's like, oh, okay, clothes smell different, hair feels different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it's um yeah, I think the routines we're trying to figure out how the how the daylight moves throughout throughout the house and um where you kind of want to spend time doing your reading, you know, and where you want to spend time, you know, eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um we eat on the floor usually.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been eating outside because it's for the first time it's finally spring weather.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I will I um am quite enjoying that because the the snow has been has been sticking around here a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm glad that's gone here in southern Alberta.
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  SPEAKER_00: Finally getting spring.
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  SPEAKER_00: No leaves on the trees yet, but they're coming.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and just even like changes in the environmental sound, so like there's fewer planes flying over this particular house than our last one.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just noticing that, and also getting used to the the routines of the neighbors.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's there's about five neighbors we back on to neighbors, and then there's neighbors on either side.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um just kind of like there's three kids next door there, and this guy likes to over there likes to vacuum things outside or use, I don't know, some kind of blower m blower, like I don't know, there's lots of noise going on over there, so it's getting used to when the noises are, and it seems like the weekdays are much quieter to kind of be outside versus the weekends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody's in the yard, everybody's, you know, playing music, or you know, it's just fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's you know, and then getting used to the the upstairs um noise of when they come and when they go, and the dog up there, and um, so it's just yeah, getting used to the rhythms of other people so we can kind of insert ourselves and find our way into that that rhythm.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that would be maybe something that would be a really odd thing to talk to most people about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what does it matter what other people are doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, um one of the other things that is quite funny it um is the sort of the the the height of the toilet and the shape of the toilet.
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  SPEAKER_00: My husband was saying, like, that's for him always getting used to the the the shape of the like every toilet's so different and it's like this toilet is really tall.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I don't know why they make toilets so tall.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, but it's one of those weird things that you know it's just like okay, and and this, so it's it's it's a lot actually.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's I've never because I learned about my high sensitivity in our last place, um now kind of being more present and aware to my my sensitivity to the the micro details of my environment, I'm being more aware of how that's shifting and changing and uh the the amount of energy it takes to recalibrate to a new place.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um, yeah, and even just the the heating system is like forced air here versus you know baseboard heating.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's it's it's much drier and it goes from like hot to cold to hot, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, okay, are we are we doing hot or are we doing cold?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I wearing a sweater or am I now wearing a sweater?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, okay, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying to figure all that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just it really, really changes the rhythm and routine of things for for a little while, even how we how we have our yoga mats and and do yoga in in the morning and it's a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but not in a not in a bad way necessarily, but it just it it is a it is a system drain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then of course there's the unseen, right, that we don't talk about.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's the the energetics of a place.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for us, this place feels energetically somehow much much better, much, much more I don't know, positive than the last place.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the last place she'd just gone through like a divorce and the kids were angry, and so like even just the energetics of the people around you and in the space, it's we feel it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We feel it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and you know, if you're an empath, you're feeling the other people in the house and you know, the neighbors and and all the sounds.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I think that's um that's all I had to say about all those those sensory changes that I've noticed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so um I would love to hear from you what is the sort of the weirdest micro detail that you've noticed in your own home, home or even office or workspace that anyone else might think is like that's a bit weird or trivial or crazy, you know, all the things that were like too too were too sensitive in, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And lastly, I want to share with you a funny story from our move, maybe not so funny, I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but this is an INFJ story, and maybe if you're an INFJ, you will also um you will also laugh, maybe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so my husband, he was um taking our bed frame apart with our we has a mechanical screwdriver, and you know, he I was outside doing the outside stuff, getting that ready to move.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this was the day before our move, and we still hadn't signed a lease at this point.
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  SPEAKER_00: We signed a lease like 14 hours before we had to move.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was intense.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um he's getting the bed un unscrewed, and I come in and he's sitting in a chair with his foot up, and he's like, um, I just have to tell you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, um, can it wait?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like in the middle of something outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he's like, No, I just need to tell you before I before I feel like passing out, I might pass out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, what?
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  SPEAKER_00: He's like, I just dropped uh the tape measure from above my head onto my baby toe, and I think it's broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, okay, this is wow, I'm so sorry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can I what can I do for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, so in the midst of all that, I'm like, okay, now I basically have to do everything, pack everything and clean everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, because my husband's broke his toe.
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  SPEAKER_00: So but the funny thing was is later, because he was like, this the screws are stripped, like they're not coming out of the bed frame.
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  SPEAKER_00: So he was measuring the the um door frame to see if the bed frame would go through it to move it in one piece.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's when he kind of like was he was flustered and he he dropped it on his toe.
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  SPEAKER_00: So later, when he was feeling slightly less like passing out, I was like, okay, we need to we actually need to take the bed frame apart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that, we can't move it like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'll that's not good for the bed frame.
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  SPEAKER_00: So he gave me permission to tell you this.
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  SPEAKER_00: But to anyone else, it would be embarrassing, but to other INFJs, it might not, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in those stress moments when you're just he was not really all thinking, he had used, you know, the square, there's square, well, I guess all sorts of screw heads bits, screw please forgive me on my technical details.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but the the screwdriver bit, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We can change it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he was using a small square head, and it was kind of like spinning a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like he'd gotten a lot of the screws out, but some of the ones were just too tight.
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  SPEAKER_00: And anyway, I was like, I'm pretty sure that there's a bigger one that would fit in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's like, no, this is the one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, well, let me just check.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I check and I'm like, let's try this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, that's the one that works.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the point being that if he'd just taken a bit more time to be present in the moment with what was happening, he would have never had to use the tape measure and dropped it on his foot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, that's my funny INFJ story.
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  SPEAKER_00: My husband, his foot is healing, but it's um it's one of those things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be a while before it fully heals.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um, yeah, it's it's been okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank goodness we had movers because I don't, I I honestly don't know how we would have left our place.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um it ended up being okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just a little bit more stressful for me than it probably needed to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm grateful that we're here and semi moved in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So anyway, those that's my little story about moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this finds you so well, and I wish you so many blessings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for being here in the Light Bears Library.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really appreciate you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, signing up for now.
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  SPEAKER_00: XOXO Kate.