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The Boy Is Mine! · DidiLawren

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Hello and welcome back to another piece of the battered
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Laurencia. How are you all doing?
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I hope you're doing great. Now, for today's episode, also
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talk about tweets I saw on social media.
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And before I even get into this, I just want to ask some
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questions. Why are you in a relationship?
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Are you in a relationship because you don't want to be
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single, or you're afraid of being single or you're just in a
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relationship with somebody willing?
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Wait time before you find find the right person.
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Now a lady on Twitter talked about how she met a friend.
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So according to the tweet, this lady said she was she joined the
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a job WhatsApp group and then she met one lady.
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She is important quote the ladies in Lagos, somehow they
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became friends. They started talking for two
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years. They were kind of you know, good
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friends. So she started working.
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There was an opening in her company.
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So she contacted the lady and said I think this job will be
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good for you. The lady like the job and sent
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her CV. So they called her to say OK
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come for the first phase of interview she lives in Lagos.
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But this lady, the job is in Port Harcourt.
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So the lady said the one in Lagos said who is looking for a
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job, said she doesn't have a transport will come to Port
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Talbot. The lady in Pasaka said just
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don't, don't worry about it. Come, I'll send you transport.
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She sent out transport. This lady came to protocols went
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for the first phase of interview.
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She was waiting for the second phase and then the the lady said
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OK, let me let her take and she was living in the ladies house.
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So she said OK let me take her around.
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She called her boyfriend. They took her around town.
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You know that thing somebody that lived in Lagos came to
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blackouts. They were kind of taking her
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around, you know, as a good friend that she she was.
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So 3 weeks later, the least four, the second phase of the
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interview came out and her name was not there.
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Now, before then, she was living with this lady.
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She was, you know, staying in the house and everything and the
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lady was going to work. So the lady said whenever she
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comes back, this lady is not always around.
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She was thinking she was trying to advise her that this is
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Botak. Also, this is not Legos.
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You have to be very careful. The lady said no, she met a very
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nice guy, so there's no problem. The lady was like, OK, I can't
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start policing and adults. So she would go to work, to her
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business, whatever she's doing, whenever the lady comes back.
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That was it. So fast for three weeks later
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when she went back to her to Lagos, and then she stopped
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communicating, she was like thinking, ohh, why is this lady
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not communicating with me? Probably maybe because she did
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not get the job. She was thinking, OK, she would
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have pulled some strings for her to get the job.
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She just said she died the whole thing.
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She tried reaching out several times.
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The lady was not contacting her, so she was like, OK, let's just
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leave the whole thing now for four, six months.
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Later she said somebody sent her some pictures of her boyfriend's
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doing an introduction to you do, basically introduction to to
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marriage. They sent out the pictures.
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She saw her boyfriend. The next thing she saw her, her
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bestie. How best it?
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I stayed in the house for three weeks.
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You saw the best and the best. It was pregnant.
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Marrying her boyfriend, She said she freaked out.
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She called the bestie Bestie immediately.
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When she realised that she knows what was going on, blocked her.
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She called the boyfriend. The boyfriend refused to talk to
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her. She tried going to the
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boyfriend's house. The boyfriend gets man would not
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allow her in. So she said she she got
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frustrated. There was no way she could reach
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both of them. Like for an explanation.
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What happened? How did this whole thing?
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How did you go from being my bestie to be my husband's wife,
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My my boyfriend's wife. Nobody was giving an
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explanation. That was when she came social
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media. She cried on Facebook and
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Twitter. So people now reached, according
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to the bestie, now the wifey, who is now pregnant for her
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boyfriend, replied one of those tweets online saying that oh,
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why did you have to bring this on social media?
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We should have resolved this amicably.
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And when she came to your house, you were you were claiming that
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you were feeding me, that you were not feeding me.
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You didn't even know how to cook.
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You couldn't even do girlfriends.
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You don't even know how to do girlfriend responsibility.
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That she was the one cooking, she was the one feeding her,
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feeding her boyfriend. That yes, she mistakenly slept
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with her boyfriend. That's OK, she slept with him.
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Now we shouldn't blame her for getting pregnant That now she's
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pregnant. OK, she has married your
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boyfriend and she wanted this to be said.
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She didn't know how to approach her and tell her about it.
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But since she has taken into social media that she could do
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her worst. Fear women.
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Fear women. I mean, the audacity is the
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audacity. Don't get me wrong.
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Maybe they were already having problems in their relationship.
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Maybe that relationship was not even going to go anywhere.
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You know, but the fact that, OK, let's say you I, I, I told you
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about a job opportunity. You came to my house.
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We stayed in my house. I introduced my boyfriend to
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you. You said you made a nice guy,
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only for the nice guy to turn out to be my boyfriend.
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You were sneaking out because she said when she whenever she
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come back from work, this lady is not always around.
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So she knew what she was doing. She knew what she was doing was
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wrong. When she was sneaking out, going
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missing the boyfriend. How can you accidentally sleep
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somebody? I don't understand.
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OK, let's see. He you accidentally, you know,
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slipped on a banana peel and they both of you fell down and
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you got pregnant. Let's say that was the case.
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Why at that point would you not tell your friend that?
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OK, this is what happened. Why are you even going to your
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besties boyfriend's house without her?
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You're going there to go and do girlfriends duty that your
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bestie is not doing girlfriend duty.
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Listen, before this whole thing went viral, there was another
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lady online who talked about how she fell out with her best
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friend because the best friend wanted her to give her the
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boyfriend's number. So basically she said that's the
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best friend, invited her to a club and then she said she was
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not going to the club. She just cancelled last minute
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because she said she can't be bothered.
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Now the best one wants to club only to call her in the middle
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of the night to say that she should give her the boyfriend's
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number so that she could spend the night in the boyfriend's
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place because she doesn't have transport to go home.
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So she said she told the best friend that take an Uber call to
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my house, stay in my house, come and sleep in my house.
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The best thing was like, no, your boyfriend place is closer.
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Why don't you just allow me stay, Spend the night in your
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book, give me your boy. Like she don't even have the
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boyfriends number to tell you how crazy it is.
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She wanted the best friend to give her the boyfriend's number
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so that she would call the boyfriend and then go to the
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boyfriend's house to spend the the night.
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The lady said no, just get an Uber, get a taxi, whatever.
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You have to come to my house or I can do transfer if that's your
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just get an Uber customer. You spend the night in my house
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and then the next day you go. She said that was how the lady
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started raining curses on her and all that.
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A lot of people were supporting the bestie.
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A lot of people were what's in the lady and some people said
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the guy in the middle, maybe the relationship was not working.
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He was just there while in the wait time according to what the
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best. He said she was not doing her
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girlfriend. Like when do you start doing
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girlfriends duty? I don't understand because let's
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say you are dating somebody. Do you go cook clean?
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Like there are people who actually go to their boyfriend's
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house every weekend. They prepare food full of work
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and sometimes they use that money to do these things.
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I remember there was a guy that asked me out and after a couple
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of days he was like, oh come on now, my house.
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I said OK, I went to his house. He was expecting as in he
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expected me to come with food. That was crazy According to him
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And he was telling me that when he the other girlfriend or I
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don't know if he was referring to the ex because he said the
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other girlfriend. So now just he was just he a
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funny moment for me he was just like ohh the other girlfriend.
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When they come they bring food. I said, hey, order.
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I see it all. God, please, please at that
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point already, because even when we're going on all these dates,
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it will for me was just like, let me pass time and all that.
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So I understand when even if you don't want to date somebody else
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while in the wait time or maybe you just want you just want
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somebody to hang out with at that point.
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So me, I was like, OK, just order for me, I did not bring
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food. If you don't have anything in
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your fridge, want order something for us to eat?
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He grudgingly ordered what I wanted.
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We sat down. There I is.
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I drank. And after the whole thing I took
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my bags. I left.
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I blocked his number, he said, trying to reach me everywhere.
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I said, listen, your other girlfriends that were cooking
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for you. Why?
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Why? See, I'm not doing any writing
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materials for a boyfriend. Like we're not.
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We're just getting to know each other.
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We've been on a couple of dates and then you are you are.
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You expected me to bring food, you invited me to come and know
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your place, and you expected me to bring food to your house.
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I said you're that city dude. That city he doesn't claiming
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that I just used him for dates. I used him to drop food.
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I say ohh see whatever I can afford all those things you're
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talking about So if that is your problem no problem and I agree I
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used you you too you want to use me to to to be cooking for you.
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We we we we wanted to use each other but even friends safe I
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cannot be your friend somebody with your mentality we cannot be
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friends. So the point is that there are
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some people who are actually performing these duties in when
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they are dating people in a relationship with people.
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They want to show that you know, they are wife material.
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Which sometimes because he worked for this, she came,
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stepped in, started doing the whole wifey duty up to the point
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that the boyfriend or the man left his girlfriend for her and
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even got married to her. So this does he pay?
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I don't know. Does he pay to be in a
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relationship and do all this wifey duties?
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For me, I just think that that was an excuse.
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Because if a relationship would work, regardless of whether you
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are cooking or not, men know what they want.
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Sometimes it's not even food. Sometimes you can cook, cook,
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cook. You know there was this hey, he
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she used to date this guy and she will come.
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She will cook. She will do everything.
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He she will cook. And we even go there and eat the
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food knowing that she is just she's.
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I think she knew that she was not the only one dating this guy
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but it was more like a competition.
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She wanted to outdo the other ladies.
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The other ones were giving this guy.
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I don't know what it was about the guy.
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Maybe something down there is it's extraordinary.
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I don't know. But these ladies were trying to
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outshine. Or I'll do each other.
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This one will come and cook. This one will bring this all,
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bring that. Hey, if you just want let's say
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you want I want to change meal let's have eating rice or I just
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want some because when you go there you see something
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different. You will see something
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different. I'll just go and say I was in
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our lives then hooked today. You know who it is.
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It was that it was that funny and at the end of the day he
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didn't really marry any of these ladies.
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He went and got married to his different person that was not
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even that I didn't even care. She she was just like, you know,
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Papa me. That was the person he married.
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He did not marry all those ones that was cooking, bringing
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money, doing all, trying to impress him.
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I think, I don't know, but I think men already know what they
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want. So let's say they see you.
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I don't think it's about the cooking.
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I don't even think it's about the the napkin is just OK.
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This is somebody, I don't know how they choose whatever they
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want, but once they make that choice, it doesn't matter if
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you're cooking, if you're doing anything, they they could get
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all those things outside. It's a sad reality, but that's
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the truth. So this lady might be thinking,
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oh, because we are not cooking. That was why he chose me.
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Because I was cooking. Because I got pregnant.
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Because it was just the introduction, my dear calmed
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down. Calm down.
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Anyway, I just want to ask ladies, even in a relationship,
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do you do all the whole wifey duties, cook, clean, You know,
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like what do you do in a relationship?
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And those that got married, where do you know those wifey
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duties or wifely duties? Do you think that was what made
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him marry you? And for the guys, how do you
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choose a wife? Because I we don't understand.
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We need clarity. Do you need a woman to be doing
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all those wife? Is that how you choose?
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Because men these days, you guys are big babies.
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We're talking about this lady that woke up 3430 to prepare
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lunch for the husband everyday. Just men are big babies these
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days. Do you need somebody to?
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What can't you cook if the way you choose a wife is the way she
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cooks? Or if she's a good cook, Or if
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she's a good housekeeper? Getting made, Getting made.
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I think This is why marriages are breaking up left right
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centre. Because people are choosing for
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the wrong reasons. Why are you choosing to get
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married to somebody future see because that person is going to
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call. Are you choosing a maid?
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Are you? Are you looking for a maid to
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marry A maid or cook clean? Who's that?
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So guys, let us know. How do you, how do you make a
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choice even both girlfriend and wifey?
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Because most times you guys have different girls you're dating.
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How do you choose the one inside all those your selected
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selections. Now the ladies do you do you do
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wifely duties to a boyfriend that you date him.
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And we need to know. So at least keep us updated.
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Give us updates. Thank you very much for watching
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share. Thank you very much.
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Bye. Bye.