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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: Love of God and Honor 12.18.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  I want to close out the 98. I think this point is very
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  important and I will go on to orange and that is that he's
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  constantly trusting the point and if a person loves something
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  or someone to sunglass idea, I'll be downstairs, I'll be
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  there. But anyway, person loves
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  something or someone, then they defended and they protect.
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  So we gave an example. He gives an example.
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  If someone were to yell at your child while you're right there,
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  right for no good reason, even though you can handle anything
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  and you, you don't really care what they say to you.
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  Yeah, thicker skin than that. But your child, they get you
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  upset, you protect. You protect them, you defend
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  them. Why?
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  Because who was so and so talk to my child that way.
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  I don't want my child to be hurt.
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  It bothers me when they're hurt. If you go a little deeper, your
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  child is your extension and you're a sensitive extension, so
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  you really don't want them to have that feeling.
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  And it gives you a bad feeling when your child's in a bad mood,
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  but especially when someone hurts them and you defend them.
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  That's a structure the same light.
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  Our mindset should be the exact same way.
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  Along those lines for God, if someone does something publicly
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  blatantly anti Hashem, whether it is their views, their
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  opinions, the things that they say the way they talk, whatever,
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  maybe some action they did. That seems to be a clear very
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  big knock on God. We should feel bad about it and
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  should bother us. That's considered an indication
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  of how much we love him. That's the idea.
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  He's isn't to go on in the community and he'd say that
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  thing that party that move what someone said is a hula Hashem.
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  It's I the eye should bother us. It shouldn't simply be I have a
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  rule of of of values and doesn't go against my value.
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  It's, you know, anti the right values more than that.
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  I feel bad on that happens because I like God and God not
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  had right now and his honor is being disgraced and we said
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  yesterday and this is the point of a week.
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  The idea of the Hanukkah store actually boils down to that the
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  people who piped up to fight was simply because it did not like
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  the lack of cavocha mine. The reason man is on this earth
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  that I'm Bond says is mainly to bring out more honor.
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  Honor to whom? Honor to God.
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  God created a world with the intention of men, bringing more
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  cavoid to God's existence. It's a big part of the intention
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  of the world. So we don't really care about
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  God's honor. They were, you know, in this
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  sense, being weak and we're indicating a lack of real
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  connection to Hashem. That's how far he says means if
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  you care, if it bothers you, you'll say something that simple
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  as that. When you see someone doing
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  something wrong and it bothers you, if something goes wrong
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  with the community, it's against your value system, right?
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  You may have no opinion in that matter.
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  You may have actually no role in that institution.
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  It gets you nervous. You've seen institution and
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  community being run their own way.
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  Is it bodily? Of course it bothers you.
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  Listen, there's nothing to me. I'm not involved, I'm not on the
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  board, I'm not the rabbi. There as no connection to me.
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  But it bothers me because it's wrong, right?
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  The same idea you can to a further extent, is if you see
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  something be done against Hashem's way, it bothers you
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  because it's wrong, and it bothers you because God's honor
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  is being disgraced. That's his thing.
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  Good. So that's the last point of an
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  indication of actual love. How do I show my love to Hashem?
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  How is it proven? It's proven by how much I care
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  about something going wrong. That's the idea.
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  Next step when it comes to love is now on page 399 and it is
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  fundamental. It is your covenant, your intent
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  covenant. I do not mean how much
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  concentration you have by praying.
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  Intent means what's your motives whenever you do something now
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  good, What are your motives are your motives for God, All your
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  motors to do the right thing, all your immortals ulterior and
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  that's right there. The answer to that question is
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  an indication again how much we love Hashem.
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  Coin being like fellow love about Hashem is a lofty word,
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  right Love of God translate that to me in tangible way.
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  You can't. How about love Hashem doesn't
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  mean love Hashem, but in the in the practical form, love about
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  Hashem is display on display. Based on these examples, how
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  much are you bothered when God's honor is but to the mud?
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  How much does it make you, how bad does it make you feel when
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  someone does something publicly as blatantly against Kabul
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  Shamaya? Do we know of such examples?
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  By the way, in our mind, you know such examples when someone
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  does anything blatantly against Kabul Shamaya.
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  Let's take you take a person who is a very prominent person who
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  does something such a shimmy inappropriate, right, that's
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  considered a major disgrace to come out your mind.
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  Why? Because his prominence,
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  especially if it's a Jewish prominence, is representation.
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  Prominence automatically becomes representation.
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  He becomes an ambassador of God, whether he knew it or not,
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  president of a school, of a shul, a member of a board, a
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  famous name. His name is on buildings, a
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  person that's involved organizations, wherever it may
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  be. All those people, whether they
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  realize they're not, they are ambassadors of God as they are
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  because they're Jewish. They're involved in Jewish
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  institutions and Jewish organizations.
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  They're famous and people connect them to God's
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  institutions. Then they go ahead and do
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  something that's IE blamely well known, IE, that's now considered
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  at the ambassador. The representative messed up,
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  which therefore means that God's portion of God's existence was
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  hurt in this world. That's how far it goes.
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  The great person does something wrong, The difference begin him
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  doing something wrong and someone who's not so famous does
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  in the wrong is night and day. The other guy does something
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  wrong, it's bad for him. The first person, the great
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  person does something wrong and it's bad literally for Hashem.
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  How much cavores did Hashem have in this world?
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  It all depends on how much His people represent him properly
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  and if one of his main prominent people represent him the wrong
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  way. The cowboy goes down
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  significantly. That's the point.
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  And that is a lack of, a lack of.
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  We see that. Can we speak out?
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  You have to speak out. What about all these people in
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  the community that voted for Mandani?
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  Isn't he first of all? First of all, that could be on
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  the recording. That's fine.
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  A couple of points. Political thing that he says, it
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  doesn't make sense. Political opinion, as crazy as
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  it may be, it does not play into fully into this.
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  We put them into power, we'd win and enter gold.
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  That doesn't play into this directly because they might have
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  thought that they're being super smart.
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  They might have thought that they're you know, they they're
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  seeing, you know, if he leaves, you know it's coming.
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  You know it's and they want to get their hand in there.
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  Not saying it's the right thing at all, but I'm saying it's not
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  at all comparable to scenarios where someone does something
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  extremely inappropriate and they're a public name or they're
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  a public person. They are an ambassador of God
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  because of their name, because of their position, because of
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  what they've done so far in their life.
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  Sometimes a person is better off not having been a rabbi, not
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  having been a a a famous leader. If they were just a regular guy,
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  they would have messed up short, but it would have been limited
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  to them. Now that they're a famous
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  person, they mess up, impacts and implicates God.
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  That's how bad it is. And the cavoid Shamaya calls all
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  the way down. Let me give you the positive and
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  then the negative. The positive is, is that God's
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  cavoid is built up by people who represent his name.
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  It's that simple. If a tree would fall in a
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  forest, no one would hear it, right?
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  It's like it never happened. If God would live in a world, be
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  in a world that there were no, none of us, then God's cavoid
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  would be very limited. Shocking point, God's cavoi
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  would be very limited if there was no Jewish people.
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  If there was no people who knew his name, then the cavoi shamim
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  goes way down. It's like it doesn't exist.
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  Before Abraham Abin who existed in the world, Hashem's cavoi
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  that the years were called nothingness.
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  The world was considered nothing because nobody here, there were
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  people here, many people lived in the world.
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  But if nobody recognized God's existence and it's almost as if
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  God to the world didn't exist. That's how far you go and the
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  prominence and the significance and the importance of God was
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  weighed down. Then you're bringing Abraham
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  vino his family. What do they do?
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  They recognize God. What does that do that makes God
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  exist in the world toward people and that's a whole different
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  existence and such a greater form of Hashem through his
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  cover. Now if Khalid Shalom and
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  Abraham, who was the representation, who is a
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  recognition of God, if he would have messed up, then what would
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  have happened? Again, caval of Hashem would go
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  way down because God's representative.
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  The only man who knows about God is not really recognizing him or
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  not properly representing him. Go way down.
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  Translate to the modern day. If you have a Jewish person, we
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  have thousands of them. Thank God many of them recognize
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  Hashem. But if you have a prominent one,
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  one who is a representative who does something publicly plainly
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  wrong they are doing is taking down couple of your mind, you
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  really have to. Be prominent, I would argue,
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  because a lot of times you hear these stories.
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  Like I say, I remember as a kid on the plane there was a guy
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  dressed up, you know because he's Hasid, but he was finished
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  to a lady and it all fuss and me the newspaper and whenever
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  housing this guy's necessarily be a rabbi.
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  He just was. You know, you're right.
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  Rest you weren't religious so prominence not really
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  necessarily true public is also a thing you just like the hate
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  and they and they see the guy if he was not religious in the 1st
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  place. So no one knows no one cares but
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  if he was religious right and he messes up and it's a
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  responsibility. I remember I was a kid going on
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  the bus from Guild to Lakewood every day and I remember they
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  always they always they drilled into us to little kids school
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  drilled into us all the time. Everyone drilled in, you guys
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  have to realize Khul Hashem is the worst thing.
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  Khul Hashem is the best thing. And they drilled into us over
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  and over and over again. If you yell on the bus, it's
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  Khul Hashem. If you yell at the windows, Khul
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  Hashem. If you make the bus, shot a man.
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  I remember all these examples to my head.
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  And right, you go to the park. If you go on a trip and you
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  make, you know, you do something, I Khul Hashem, you
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  have to drill it in. You're right, the more orthodox
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  the president looks, the more he is responsible to do the right
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  thing. I think everyone does yourself
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  in the right way. Exactly because he's an
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  ambassador, he's representative, and he has the key ability of
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  bringing out great Kapoor shaman and also has the ability of
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  bringing out terrible Khalil Hashem.
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  And we've seen them both sadly and to recognize this concept as
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  real. But this is all true because
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  God's Kapoor is dependent on us. His existence toward the world
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  is through US. We're not just people who know
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  about God. We are people who deliver God's
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  existence to the world. The God of our Muhammad
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  Takanakov is delivered to the world through our recognition of
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  him, and through the world seeing our recognition of him.
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  That's how it goes. So you're out of a very
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  important position in life. You walk out with a kippah.
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  You're doing a great thing. The state of Israel, like one
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  day there, that's why they have such a spotlight.
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  If they are defined, which they are defined as representing the
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  Jewish people, and then they do something and the world gets
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  angry at it. They are playing around with,
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  they're on the pedestal of dealing with Kovochamaya,
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  Thousand said. And it's important to know, to
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  your point, it doesn't make a difference our religious they
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  are, it doesn't make a difference what they represent,
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  really. The world sees you as
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  representative of God. You therefore are a
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  representative of God. None.
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  Doesn't matter what your political opinion is, doesn't
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  matter how religious you are, right?
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  Here's how it plays out. And because of this, if a person
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  makes a mistake, it's a very big deal.
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  A president does something good, it's also a very big deal.
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  Cardboard shaman is in your hands.
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  The next step is, is that if you witness such an individual doing
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  something that's a lack of about shaman, it should bother you.
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  It should bother you because you care about God and if you care
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  about Hashem, you care about his cavaltes, same as you were when
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  it comes to your child. If someone were to insult your
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  child, you'd get furious. Someone says anybody, your wife,
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  you get mad myself, whatever, but my family, you say that by
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  my family and you'll attack. You're not an attacking type of
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  person but you'll talk. Why?
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  Because it hurts you. The same should be true when it
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  comes to Hashem. That's an indication of how your
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  love of God became real. And when someone says something
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  now let's say he's blamely anti God.
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  A law, a rule, an opinion, a lack of faith, something I
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  understand sometimes you say let them have their opinions, who
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  cares? But sometimes if a sudden that
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  bothers you, it should make you burn inside and make you
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  absolutely mad. And the only time you're allowed
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  to be at least angry or angry shouldn't be the word hate is
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  the word is for those who don't like God and those who create a
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  Hulu Arsha is the idea. It's a key idea.
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  It's a fundamental idea as an indication of how much you love
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  people like to say, what do I care?
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  Let them say what they want. Why does it matter to me?
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  Let that organization until I had a conversation with someone
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  last night about something that happened in a community
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  organization. All right.
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  I heard about it recently and they came home and I was
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  furious. And I don't really get furious
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  at all of it. I came home, I was very upset
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  and my wife was telling me, why do you care so much?
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  I said I understand this is a community organization, puts it
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  there too, It's a significant place and they do something
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  wrong. Got to bother me.
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  If it doesn't bother me, then I have no values, right?
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  If I have no, I have no position in the organization.
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  I don't play a role at all. I'm not going to play a role.
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  But the Jewish organization, it's something that they're
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  doing, they're doing. You're wrong.
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  It bothers me and it bothers me immensely.
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  I have no opinion. And in the real sense, my vote
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  does not matter. My opinion does not matter.
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  What I say plays no role in their world.
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  But it bothers me and it's supposed to bother you.
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  Important thing to know, as soft and passive and nice as we're
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  supposed to become, we are supposed to be bothered by
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  things that are wrong. And you should have your own
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  antenna. It's very significant in life to
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  have your own antenna that says I don't like God, I don't
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  approve of that, I don't agree with that.
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  Does it make a difference? Maybe not, but it bothers you.
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  And that's an indication of how much love you have of Hashem.
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  Actually, when you see a representative of God saying
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  something wrong, doing something wrong, being hype, it's supposed
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  to get you nervous. And if it doesn't get you
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  nervous, it's not because you're a nice guy and it's because you
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  didn't make the connection of how much that is a weakening of
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  God's existence. And it's a real, real thing.
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  And we should have our opinions and we actually should be.
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  People have to say why he's so opinionated.
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  Who cares why? Doesn't matter.
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  You shouldn't be a highly opinionated person in my humble
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  opinion. Don't be a person who just lets
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  everything go. Don't be a person who just says
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  whatever they say. Why does it matter?
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  Let them do what they want. Who cares?
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  I'm not going to make a fuss. Maybe I'll make a fuss.
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  That part true. But you have an opinion.
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  Your family knows your opinion, your wife knows your opinion.
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  You work on your opinion, you develop it, you work at it.
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  Not the always rights, and not that you have a right to judge
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  in a destructive manner, but you have the right and the
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  obligations in it. Huh.
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  Be a little bit of of a cynic. To be at least a critic and at
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  times to be someone is not gullible.
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  One of the worst existences in my humble opinion are the
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  gullible people. I have an opinion out there that
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  I sometimes voice, which is the most destructive.
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  People in all communities are the nicest people out there to
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  me, to the sheep. The sheep are those who just see
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  something that's rah rah. I'll give you a classic example.
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  OK, No, names are not indicating anything at all.
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  But a lot of the times, all right, a lot of times when there
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  are movements, often times in any community, when there's a
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  positive movement, it's important to know that somebody
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  majored is being sidelined to be that movement.
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  When one thing goes up, something else goes down.
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  Life is like a seesaw and all communities and all
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  organizations, there are seesaws.
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  When one thing rises, somebody, a nice, simple, good, less
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  shamayan person can very well be sidelined.
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  Have you ever seen that in your life, seen that a good person be
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  sidelined? I'm trying to think of an
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  example. An example can be, I don't want
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  to give you even a type because I'm going to go down the road.
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  People are going to how things in their mind.
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  Imagine a heads organization that takes care of widows.
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  OK, it's something we don't know of.
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  Some of them take care of widows.
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  If a new one pipes up and it's brand new, you never heard of it
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  before, chances are that there's another one.
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  An old one or some person round things out of their basement or
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  taking care of widows is being sidelined and they no longer
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  exists. I know of a classic example of a
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  gamache that gives out certain items for people to borrow.
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  OK and they've been running for sham Shamaya for years and
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  somebody showed up doing imagine stress it bigger, better, nicer
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  the whole bit OK and other people than it anymore don't
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  have anyone coming to the house today.
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  All right, but and. You know honestly what's wrong
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  with that? OK, that's my point.
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  A person has to be very careful. You're right, We have to be very
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  careful when you know when you do that.
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  Am I doing it for the right reason?
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  Am I when once you realize that someone being silent, you have
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  to ask yourself the question. I just once, 100 times, Am I
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  doing a little shame Shamaya, or am I doing it just because I
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  want to be prominent? Am I opening a gamache because I
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  need to keep myself busy to feel good about myself?
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  Or am I doing it because I really feel there's a service
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  that the other people aren't providing?
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  And I've seen both types. OK, Now my point is when it
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  comes to the sheep, what's wrong with that is, by the way, is
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  that someone's being sidelined and you have to always be
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  careful of sidelining a person if you don't have a good reason
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  to do so. That doesn't mean you don't do
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  anything positive in this community or in the world, but
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  it does mean you think about the guy who was doing it before and
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  make sure he's not being hurt for zero reason.
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  That's what I mean. Now, what's my point?
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  Sheep is sheep are the people, the do gooders.
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  The people who just go along and they get all excited about the
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  new initiative and they have no clue about the fact.
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  And I can tell you this, I'm from the other side.
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  It doesn't relate to me at all. I'm not in that position, thank
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  God. But it in the rabbi family type
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  position, you see this kind of concept constantly.
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  Concept goes to constantly, which is you have a very good do
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  gooder who's behind the new movement, who is a wonderful
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  person, who's the sham shamayam the whole bit.
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  But what they're fueling is somebody who is something
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  somewhat destructive. Why are they destructed?
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  Because by this rising, the other thing is falling.
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  That's just the way the nature of the business.
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  So a person has to be kept by some point.
• 20:44
  You have to be sensitive to the sham shamayam aspect.
• 20:47
  You have to be very sensitive to change my mind.
• 20:49
  So if this is for God, great. If it's not for God or it
• 20:55
  doesn't seem fully for God, I want to check again and make
• 20:58
  sure it's being done the right way.
• 20:59
  And like I said, you have to have an opinion.
• 21:02
  You have to be to David's point. Early is cynical or critical.
• 21:05
  You have to look at this thing with a lot of lenses and make
• 21:08
  sure you're getting it right. That's my point.
• 21:11
  And a very mature, developed, you know, respect to a person is
• 21:17
  at that point already. We're all at the point already.
• 21:19
  And to keep that up, not to be a negative person, not to be a
• 21:22
  basher, but rather to be a person who thinks clearly and
• 21:26
  make sure that cavort, chamaya and by the way, cavort of people
• 21:31
  is paramount. What's up with this?