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The Friend Who Was Always There - Hypnosis For Self-Acceptance and Self Love · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And you're about to listen to a
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  hypnosis session that originally was going to be about weight
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  loss, but actually ended up having nothing to do with weight
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  loss at all. And that's because the client I
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  was working with felt like they wanted to lose weight, but
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  actually the weight they wanted to lose was actually coming from
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  a place of low self worth. They didn't really like
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  themself. They didn't really feel worthy,
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  and they didn't like who they saw in the mirror.
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  And what became evident in the session with this client is that
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  they had had a lot of mistreatment and unfairness in
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  their life when they were young. They had a grandparent that was.
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  Very. Rude and mean to them and didn't
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  treat them very well and when they get older they were.
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  Excluded a lot. And in their marriage they were
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  criticized and blamed and shamed and exploited.
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  And because of that, what they started to do is their voice to
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  themself had become an echo of all of these mean people in
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  their life. So they ended up not liking
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  themselves very much, being very critical of themself, being, you
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  know, using shame and blame to themself.
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  And that can lead to deep feelings of unhappiness and.
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  A lack of. Joy and and some people would
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  perceive that as feeling like. Depressed or.
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  Sad all the time and anyone would be.
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  If the voice in their head wasn't encouraging and
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  supportive and loving and kind and considerate and it was just
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  always critical and mean and vindictive, then of course
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  that's going to create an emotional response.
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  So what this hypnosis session does is it enabled this client
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  at their current age to go back to themself as a child and be
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  very kind and encouraging and supporting to themselves as a
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  child and then as a teenager and then as someone just about to
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  enter this kind of long relationship.
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  But from the perspective of support and love and
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  encouragement and kindness and respect.
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  And what this session actually does with teaching them how to
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  be kind and accepting of themself.
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  Because criticism has the basis that you're not good as you are
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  and you need to change. Acceptance says you're good and
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  if you want to do other things, great, let's encourage that.
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  But it doesn't come from a place of lack of scarcity or
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  inadequacy. And that's the key to this.
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  And then it comes all the way up to the present where they got to
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  imagine actually being kind and accepting and encouraging of
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  themselves at their current age so that it could form a better
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  relationship with themself. Because actually your internal
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  experience largely is not proportionate to the
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  relationship that anyone else has with you.
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  First and foremost, it's the relationship that you have with
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  yourself. And I'm explaining this from a
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  position and and real experience of for someone for most of my
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  childhood years all the way up into my mid 20s, I didn't like
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  who I was. I didn't respect who I was and I
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  was very critical and very, very mean to myself effectively and
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  that changed in my mid 20s. Hypnotherapy had a a big part to
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  play. I did lots of hypnosis on myself
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  and I let. Go of this.
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  Belief of not being good enough. And actually I like who I am
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  now. I would if I knew me.
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  You know, this is not meant to be arrogant.
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  I'd like to hang out with a guy like me.
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  I would want to do good work with someone like me, and I
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  didn't have that relationship with myself before.
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  My internal experience completely changes my
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  relationship with other people, and I'm a big believer of the
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  law of the lid that you can't love anyone else at a higher
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  level than you love yourself. You can't like other people more
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  than you like yourself. So when I didn't like myself, I
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  didn't like many other people either.
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  Because I would see the. Inadequacies or deficiencies in
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  other people, that's the essence of this hypnosis session.
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  So if you can resonate with any of these elements that I'm
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  saying here, I think you'll get some value from it.
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  It was created for an individual, and that was a lady.
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  She was in a marriage with a man, and she had a mean
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  grandmother. Some of these references aren't
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  going to make sense for you, but the essence at its core is being
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  kind and loving and encouraging to a younger version of yourself
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  all the way up to the present. And if you.
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  Like the idea of having a bespoke session created just for
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  you or working with me directly. I would encourage you to look in
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  the description. There's various ways that you
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  can learn how to work with me. That might be a suitability
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  test, or it might be a page that just explains how I work with
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  people. They're all in the description
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  of this episode. Just click more information.
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  Have a look there. For now though, I would
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  encourage you to find a quiet, comfortable place where you're
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  not going to be distracted or disturbed to relax and enjoy the
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  session. Take a deep.
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  Breath in and. As you breathe in, breathe in
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  that slow, long breath of relaxation.
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  And. As you exhale, feel a wonderful
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  feeling of release, as if in that outward breath.
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  It's a release valve of any pent up tension, stress or worries
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  that maybe you've been carrying for a while.
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  Breathing and relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  Each breath enables you to drift deeper and deeper.
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  Relaxed can just do a scan of your body, any tension in your
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  jaw, your neck, your shoulders, your arms or your legs as you
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  set the intention of releasing that.
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  Each breath enables a release, even incrementally, and I wonder
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  what colour hope would have if it had a colour.
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  Maybe something bright, vibrant. And as you breathe in, imagine
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  breathing in that colour of hope.
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  And as you exhale, imagine exhaling something dark and
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  grey. Any emotions that feel like
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  they've been repressed or suppressed deep within and just
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  allow them to leave your body. Any sadness, anger, frustration,
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  just allow it to leave. And the very act of breathing in
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  that resourceful feeling of hope and exhaling anything that no
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  longer is needed. Consider it an emotional
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  transfusion. Breathing in the resources your
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  emotions need and exhaling anything that is toxic or just
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  unuseful. And therefore, the deeper you
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  breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel the deeper you breathe.
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  Each breath takes you deeper than the last.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens, and I
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  wonder if you can create a memory in your mind of an old
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  home from childhood, early childhood, maybe just four or
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  five years old. Just allow your imagination to
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  take you back in time at your current age with all of your
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  knowledge and experience, but you get to go all the way back
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  back then and just allow your body to relax and imagine.
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  Imagine being an invisible observer of your childhood back
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  then. See you at that period in life
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  when you were smiling and happy playing with friends.
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  And I want you to see all of those wonderful qualities in
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  that version of you. Capable, smart, curious, and
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  just observe. As you see those dynamics, I
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  want you to see the talent, the beauty, see all of those
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  wonderful qualities that sometimes a child can't see in
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  themself. But you see it, you know it, and
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  just observe. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  time go on, and I want you to see a grandmother suddenly being
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  present in that same space. And I want you to observe the
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  unfairness, the mistreatment. I want you to observe because
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  you can observe seeds being planted in that young mind of
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  ideas and beliefs that were never true, words that were said
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  with I'll intent. And I want you to imagine.
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  Imagine being the second grandmother in that home.
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  I want you to imagine being the kind, encouraging, loving and
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  supportive grandmother in that home.
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  The kind of person that that younger version of you could
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  share anything with. Hopes and dreams, but also
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  worries and sadness. And because you know what that
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  real grandmother said, you know what needs to be said to that
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  child so that you don't believe things that aren't true.
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  As you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to imagine
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  there's a time and a place where that young version of you,
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  perhaps just 8 or 9 or 10 years old, used to spend a lot of
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  time. Maybe a bedroom or a garden, a
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  place in the park or a place after school.
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  And when you see that younger version of you, they're by
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  themself. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And I want you to say hello to that young version of you and
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  just tell them. Tell them you care.
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  Tell them that you want the best.
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  Maybe even tell them a secret that you're not really another
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  grandmother. You are them from the future.
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  But that younger version of you is smart.
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  There's only one way that you can convince them that you are
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  them from the future. You would have to tell them a
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  secret that only they know. And if you can think of a secret
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  and tell that younger version of you that secret to convince them
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  that you are them from the future and let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And then imagine having a heart to heart with that younger
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  version of you. Tell them how proud you are.
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  Tell them, but they are wonderful, so smart, so capable.
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  But tell them the things they're not used to hearing, that they
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  are beautiful, they are lovely, they are interesting.
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  And not just interesting, they are fascinating.
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  And you're not using flattery. You're not telling lies.
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  I want you to see those qualities in that younger
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  version of you. Here's the interesting thing.
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  When a child hears that they're beautiful, they smile more.
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  And when a child hears that they're interesting, they want
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  to share more of what they know and how they see the world.
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  I want you to tell all of the things to this child that you
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  wish you would have heard back then, and then I want you to
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  listen. If they feel lonely, you want to
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  listen. If they feel sad, you want to
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  listen. Attention to a child is like
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  sunshine and rainwater to a flower.
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  Really listen because they matter.
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  Listen because they're important and you don't have to offer
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  judgement or help. Listening's enough.
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  Give them big hugs. Tell them they're loved.
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  Tell them they're worthy. I want you to imagine how it
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  would feel if you weren't just a friend, but the best friend to
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  that younger version of you. Honest, warm, genuinely on her
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  side and notice subtle clues in their facial expression that
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  you're connecting with them. This is what they needed to hear
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  and I want you to tell this young child that what happened
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  to them was done to you. You are them in the future and
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  all of these things that feel strange or unfair sometimes have
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  good intentions. Moving up a grade, having to
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  deal with a difficult family member.
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  But friendships when they were disrupted were not their fault.
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  They are not to blame. It's not because there's
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  something wrong with them. I want you to let that child
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  know that their value doesn't change or diminish just because
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  someone else can't recognize it. You recognize it.
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  You recognize all of those wonderful qualities.
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  Tell them that they don't need the approval, acceptance of
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  others to have worth, and allow that younger girl to receive
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  what is being offered to her. Recognition, acceptance, love,
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  encouragement, support. You see the value and you see
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  the worth, even if nobody else did.
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  And I want you to imagine travelling forwards in time
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  perhaps. Perhaps it was just after a
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  grandparent like left. I want you to see that girl
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  that's maybe 13 or 14 years old. Many teenagers are insecure.
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  Doubtful. A lot of teenagers start
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  deciding how valuable they are based on how much attention they
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  get from other people. They don't want you to spend
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  time in that place. And maybe they were living
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  somewhere different or maybe the same place, but meet them again
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  and see how happy they are to see you.
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  They're older now, and I want you to compliment them
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  authentically. Wow, you look amazing.
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  Tell them how proud of them you are.
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  Tell them all the things that you know are true now when you
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  think back to that young version of you with all of that
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  potential. Tell them how good they looked.
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  I want you to really build up their confidence, build up their
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  self esteem. Tell them things that make them
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  smile. I don't want you to give a gift,
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  a gift to that 13 year old version of you that she needed
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  back then. Maybe it's something as simple
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  as self love, self respect, self esteem, or just a sense of
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  perspective. But imagine giving a glowing
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  ball of energy back to that 13 or 14 year old version of you
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  and they accepted willingly. See how their body changes,
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  their facial expressions change as you give them that resource.
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  And in return they give you something wonderful because
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  there's a quality that you had back when you were 13 or 14
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  years old that you've lost connection with.
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  That younger version of you has it and you need it now.
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  You've given them that resource, that glowing ball of energy, and
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  they return. They reciprocate with something
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  you need right now and you take it and you don't have to know
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  what it is, just feel what it is.
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  Take that resource, hold it to your chest, feel it absorb in
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  your body and feel that that quality that you had in
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  abundance is now rippling through time to your present.
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  I want you to give that 13 year old version of you a big hug.
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  Tell them you will see them in the future.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine seeing that version of
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  you going through time just before marriage was about to
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  start, and maybe there is excitement or trepidation or
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  something else. And I want you to imagine
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  telling that younger version of you what this marriage will be
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  like. A lot of hard work, blaming and
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  shaming and criticizing and then everything that followed.
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  But here in this space, reality isn't important.
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  I want you to ask that version of you at that age what their
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  ideal partner would be like. What qualities?
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  Maybe someone handsome, kind, loving, supportive.
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  And then imagine, from your perspective, morphing into the
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  ideal partner that that younger version of you truly desired and
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  deserved. And just imagine what that
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  relationship would have been like if that version of you got
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  all of that love and kindness and support, encouragement,
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  recognition that they truly deserved.
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  I have a feeling that version of you would be abundant in
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  confidence, self esteem perhaps would have come out of their
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  shell more, had more time to pursue not just work but hobbies
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  and interests. I want you.
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  To be the partner to yourself that you always wanted.
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  Respectful, listening, attentive and you can distort time.
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  In this place, a minute can be a year.
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  What would it feel like for you to give all of that love and for
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  you to receive all of that love? And I want you to see that
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  version of you at that age through the eyes of someone with
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  unconditional love. See how beautiful you were.
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  See all of the qualities, but not the deficits.
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  Hear the word, saying what you admire, what you're grateful
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  for. If you could imagine saying it
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  and hearing it simultaneously, let me know by nodding your head
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  that's in. And imagine that feeling
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  rippling through time from then to now.
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  Flower, rather than being deprived of sunshine and
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  rainwater, was able to thrive, get everything that it needed.
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  It was able to flourish, non starve, and then go forwards in
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  time to just before retirement. You're still you from the
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  future. But tell that version of you
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  that this is going to be a roller coaster.
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  You're going to get some news. It's going to be tough, but
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  you'll handle it. You are more capable and more
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  resilient than you realize. And I want you to tell that
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  younger version of you that retirement doesn't have to be
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  lonely or boring or just waiting.
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  It's an opportunity. Give that younger version of you
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  permission to live life on your terms.
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  Tell them that they can if they want.
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  If they want to explore a relationship, they can.
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  If they want to take up a new hobby, they can.
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  They want to make new friends they can and just compliment
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  them. Recognize them, listen and allow
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  that to ripple through to the present.
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  And then imagine meeting your current self.
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  See yourself and your current age and tell that version of you
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  you like them, you find them interesting, that you are going
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  to be the very best friend to yourself possible.
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  You're going to do things for no one else's reason but your own.
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  To bring joy, fascination, curiosity, intrigue,
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  stimulation, excitement, new things to learn, new things to
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  do. And if you're now willing not
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  just to be a friend, but a best friend from now until forever.
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  But when you see yourself in the mirror, you pay yourself a
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  compliment. When you're feeling low, you
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  pick yourself up. When you're feeling sad, you
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  make you smile. When you're feeling stressed,
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  you calm yourself down. If you're willing to take on
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  that responsibility to be a friend to yourself better than
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  any friend you've ever had, then let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And so it's time to return. Back from the past, even back
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  from the present. You can imagine a future where
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  you're still that friend to yourself.
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  On your worst days, that's when a friend is needed.
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  And I want you to imagine that wonderful things are there for
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  the taking. You get to live life only
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  needing your own permission. So it's time to return.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode
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