Latest / Petty and Unbothered / #16 -Daddy Issues, nostalgia, & hope
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- Tita Lors: Okay, yes, so I'll just get into it already. Okay, let me know when you're ready. Robin Axline: Okay, so it's about daddy's day. How fun. Okay. Tita Lors: Yeah, daddy issues. Here we go. Yeah. Okay. So once again, it is that time of year where some people may have a difficult time and need a little extra space and grace while the people around them celebrate paternal figures in their lives. Others are grieving the fathers they could have been, the ones they've lost, never had or should have had. So I hope you take the time to care for yourself as needed and for everyone else. However you came into the fatherhood experience, whether it was on purpose or divine intervention, attention, whatever creature you care for and whichever side of the veil they reside, may you have a celebration worthy of the ways you have shown up for those in your care. Yay you! Robin Axline: Yay! Tita Lors: So now if we're ready for some tea, I have a completely unrelated story. So, how I said that my best friend was the pettiest person that I know? Yeah, she's not, apparently. Robin Axline: Yes, yes, I do remember that. Tita Lors: The pettiest... Yeah, Robin Axline: spill. Tita Lors: okay, so the pettiest person that I know is my little. I birthed her. Yeah. Yeah. My little. It's my little. Robin Axline: no. Not your little. Tita Lors: It's her. Like, she... So... I don't even know. It was like the bedtime routine, right? And... We were kind of tag teaming it. I was doing some other stuff and Ryan was supposed to be the one like primarily doing the bedtime routine that night. And I set a timer because they were supposed to be done by the end of that timer. And I have had this like distinct memory that I didn't pick up my phone. I just left it on the counter. I like pressed the button left on the counter and I continued. about my evening doing all the things that needed to be done. And then later as like, you know, they're winding down and I'm kind of trying to look for my phone, realizing I have no idea where it is. Yeah. And I'm like looking around and trying to find it. And I think I was watching stagecoach maybe that's what I was doing because I was really sad that I couldn't go this year. Yeah. So I was watching it was on Amazon Prime and yeah. And so Ryan he was going to do the whole bedtime go sleep stuff and I'm like looking for it. I had him call my phone and my phone is always on silent. So good luck if you're trying to call me. Sorry. but nothing. was like, well, we could at least see the light of it. Like if the lights are off all over the house, then I would, should see it. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. So finally, like they're asleep and I realized that, I'd been texting him through my computer because my phone is connected to my computer. And then I remembered, I can turn it on. I can turn on the sound through the computer. So he did. Could you even fathom or imagine where the hell my phone was? Robin Axline: Hmm. Well, it's- so it wasn't on the kitchen counter anymore. Well... Now, if Tita Lors: No, well it should have been on my bathroom counter. Robin Axline: you- okay, here's thing is I can guess only Tita Lors: You Robin Axline: because you started the story with a- so it might have been somewhere in the vicinity of your little... perhaps? Tita Lors: Yes, somewhere. Yes, no, this little butt head. Because she's such a sneaky sneak and she thinks it's so funny to be sneaky. And she was probably actually mad at me that night because I wasn't doing the bedtime routine. Took my phone and put it in a drawer in her room that we never open. I never would have looked there. It would have... Robin Axline: Well, how did you find it? Tita Lors: So I had, when I turned on the volume, I had Ryan call me. And then I was like, following it around and I was like, what? Why would it be here? Yeah, that's not somewhere I would have put my phone or thought to look. So. Yes. That's story number one of this week. Yeah. Robin Axline: Okay. Tita Lors: And then, so like a couple days ago, I guess she wanted me to pick up my phone. I was like, okay, it's time to go pick up your sister. Let's go. And she's like, pick up your phone. And I'm like, I will when I'm ready. Like I'm still doing this stuff. So she picks it up. And she's like, I said, pick up your phone. She's got a lot of attitude for a three year old. And then I still don't take it from her and she just chucks it on the ground and looks at me and she's like, that's what you get. I told you to pick up your phone. Excuse me? Robin Axline: Wow, that's crazy. Tita Lors: I know! I don't even say that to you. I have never said that's what you get. Robin Axline: That's what that was actually was just going to ask. Like, where did you get that's what you get for like a I don't know. Tita Lors: her sister probably, I don't know, and where she got it from, I don't know. Robin Axline: Maybe a TV show or something. Or other children. Tita Lors: Or, you know, the place, playground, yeah, other kids, school, she goes to school now. That's what you get. I told you to pick up your phone. The amount of times I think to myself, you're so lucky you were not raised by the people who raised me. Yeah, so she's my little, my petty little baby who just does little petty jobs at me throughout the day. It's great. I love it. Robin Axline: At least she's thinking about you. Tita Lors: She cares about me, I guess. my Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: gosh. Yeah, she's, she's a petty thief, that's for sure. Yep, alright. Well, back on topic. Do you have any fun dad stories? Hahaha Robin Axline: You know, it's like some been some fun times, I would say. Tita Lors: you Robin Axline: I would say like one thing that just now popped in my head was one time at band camp. Tita Lors: at Bandcamp. Robin Axline: some reason I was having a hard time at school or I'm not exactly sure why my dad came and picked me up from school, but I was happy to be away from school. But then my dad was like, let's just go to the movies. And I was like, yeah, let's go to the movies. No more school today. maybe I don't know why, but I just remember that as like a very solid memory that it was kind of like a whimsical off the cuff idea. you know, let's just go to the movies. And Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: so that was fun. went to see Four Weddings and a Funeral. Tita Lors: What? What a movie! my god. Robin Axline: Andy McDowell and Hugh Grant. What a movie. I know for a kid. Yeah, that's kind of kind of funny. Tita Lors: Yeah, no, he wanted for sure to watch that movie. Robin Axline: And then I'll follow it up with, you know, I'll just throw in a couple more movie stories here, but this seems to be like the best fun stories. There was a movie theater that would sometimes show. two movies and then back to back. would be pretty easy just to stay in the theater and then go see the same two movies again. Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah, back in the day when they didn't have assigned seats. When you had to line Robin Axline: Yeah, yeah, that's true. Tita Lors: up to get into the movie theater. Robin Axline: Yeah. my god. That's insane. I know. There's so much line waiting. Like, why? Tita Lors: Yeah. huh. Yeah, I remember having my friends would like wait in the line to see Harry Potter and they like the day before opening, they would be in line almost all day so that we could get good seats. Yeah, I would be like at work or in a class and I would just meet them and get in line with them. Robin Axline: That is crazy. That's yeah, I mean, I do kind of remember that lion culture stuff like both Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. I had to do that with. So well. Tita Lors: Yeah, I should have done it for 300, but I didn't. I know, Robin Axline: Tsk tsk. Tita Lors: but I was right there in the front row like this. my God. I know. God. Yeah. Robin Axline: the neck of it all. That was how I was for Harry Potter. was like, this was brutal. Anywho, so I went to a screening of two movies and Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Robin Axline: for some reason I knew my dad was at home and I called him and I was just like, do you want to see two movies and I'll just watch them again. Tita Lors: You Robin Axline: And so then he like drove to the movie theater and then we watched the fifth element, which I still I still stand. I love that movie. my gosh. Tita Lors: No, my god, it's so good. Yes, same. It's streaming somewhere right now. I forget which platform, but yes, you can watch it. Robin Axline: I even went to an art exhibit at the Met with all the wardrobe from it one time. was like really awesome. Yeah, yeah, it's really cool. See it in person. Tita Lors: The wardrobe is so nice too! Yeah, I bet. Such a good movie. Okay, what was the next one? Robin Axline: Yeah, so that I saw it and I was like, this is my jam. So I had to come watch it. And then the other movie was Addicted to Love with Meg Ryan and Matthew Broderick. I think it was Matthew Broderick. It was kind of like a little bit of creeper kind of story. But when I was younger, it didn't seem like that to me. Yeah, it didn't seem that creepy. So yeah, I watched those movies twice. Tita Lors: in one day Robin Axline: yes, and one day I was there all day. And my dad came and joined me. And then he was like. inspired by Bruce Willis's frosty tips. And then... Tita Lors: no. Robin Axline: And then I bleached his hair. to look like that. Tita Lors: Now I'm just forever gonna think that your dad looks like Bruce Will. Robin Axline: Not, yeah, not anymore. So yeah, that's my two of my fun movie stories Tita Lors: That's so cool. I love that. Yeah, no. So this was I was trying to think of like, what were some fun, quippy ways that my dad was like petty in our relationship? But I can think of anything mostly because if I said anything, it just basically be talking shit. So I was Robin Axline: Right. Tita Lors: like, don't do that. But I think. I mostly when it came to my dad, he did not know what he was getting himself into. He didn't understand the assignment. He took on... I think he knew, yes, I now have a wife and a kid, but I don't think he realized what kind of kid, or that the kid was me. Robin Axline: What a delight to have a kid like you. Yeah. Tita Lors: You would think, right? No, there's a lot of like cultural differences, I think. And that was like, one of the things that I remember him saying when I was like getting older and starting to date was that I should probably date somebody who's very culturally similar to me. And I was like, yeah, because that worked out not so great for you dating somebody outside. Like vastly different beliefs around like. roles I think and like gender roles and family roles and things and because I was at like an age of well you can't tell me what to do and you didn't raise me so what? I think he didn't realize what he was getting himself into. It's like a little bit I feel sorry for him but also like you're the adults you're supposed to learn. so yeah, anyways, for like blended families, it's really hard, I think, as we, as everyone tries to figure out their, their new norms with their new parents, new siblings sometimes, new everything. so yeah, to all my blenders out there, I see you. but I do, I know. Robin Axline: Mmm. Tita Lors: I do have like one specifically good memory with my dad and it was I think my mom was working and I think it was a weekend and so he was working or helping out a friend out. near LAX. So we had gone there. And then we went to Trader Joe's and got some snackies and some drinks and whatever. And we went to this parking lot near the LAX where you can watch as the planes take off and land. And we just kind of sat on the hood of his Mitsupishi Eclipse that I so wanted to own. I really was hoping that would give it to me or let me buy it off of him. He didn't, but whatever. we just had like snacks and lemonade and watched as the planes came and went. And that was like one of my favorite. I don't even remember if we talked about anything or or whatever, but that's probably my one most favorite memory with him. That wasn't like. Yeah, I appreciated that 30 minutes. I'm not hiding. Robin Axline: I mean, literally, it sounds like a movie. I've never done that where you lie back and see the planes. That's pretty cool. And it's so California Trader Joe's because I mean, Tita Lors: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I know. Robin Axline: now Trader Joe's on the East Coast, but yeah. Tita Lors: Yeah, but back then, right? think it was like early, early nineties, I would say. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, because it was very new. So that's that was really fun. I really enjoyed that. Yeah. So in that in honor of these stories, I wanted to bring I did want to bring a petty dad story. So I found one on Reddit and I think it's really cool. And it also honors that it is still Pride Month. Robin Axline: Woohoo! Tita Lors: Yay. And then I also found, this is going to be a little bit longer, but I found like a heartwarming story. for like the dads out there who, or even the kids out there who are in the middle of like difficult relationships and that parent-child relationship and wondering like, what's it gonna look like on the other end? I think this, there's like a back and forth between the OP and a commenter that feels like hope. Yeah, so that's gonna be a little bit longer. And then we have a blind rating again for you. We're gonna blind rate pop culture dads. Okay, hold Robin Axline: Sweet. Can't wait. Tita Lors: I don't know what's going on. I might have to go and get a cough drop but... But for now... Okay, so this is called my... Hold on, where was this from? And this is from... I have no idea where I got this from. Ask Reddit maybe? And it's by Badass Bitch 10102. It is. Robin Axline: Wow. That's a good one. Tita Lors: And it's from two years ago. And they say my dad and his husband did something petty. I changed it a little bit, but it's fine. So my dad has been with his husband since I was one years old. They got married in California in 2014. They moved back to Virginia in March of 2022. They owned a nice house in a nice neighborhood. They have neighbors that live across from them that harass them and call them homophobic slurs like fagot and queen. We're gonna say queen. And things like that. They yell slurs across the road from him. They complain about my dad and his husband's pride flag. Then my dad put up a rainbow LED flag. Well, yesterday my dad had it. Because my dad and his husband were having breakfast on their patio, the neighbors said Who the... has? Mm-hmm. the next day, my dad came back with a sign made of neon letters, like the ones you would see at a bar, strip clubs, et cetera, and the sign said, fuck you. And then it says, edit, I'm on my dad's side on this matter. I think what he did was funny as F, in all caps. And I think here, I got a comment, it's by delete it because I'm sure they felt really shamed about what they said. And this is probably why the edit, because there's some people in the world. Okay, so. Why would somebody advertise on a flag in the neighborhood what they do in the bedroom? To me, that's pretty sick. I mean, should I get a flag that says, love big titties? Maybe with a silhouette of a giant pair of jugs and fly it outside so that school children driving by on the bus would see it and so that everybody would know? Forcing your kink on other people, including children or anybody who drives by by advertising it on a flag is just really narcissistic, if you ask me. Robin Axline: Good voice. Tita Lors: Yeah! Thanks! Robin Axline: Good acting. Man, that makes me sick. That makes me sick. man. I can't believe people think that way. Well, I guess I can, but yeah. Tita Lors: Right? Yeah. That like... Mm-hmm. Mm. But, my god. So many words. So I was like, hello, that's not a kink. Robin Axline: Yeah, and it's not about what you do in the bedroom either. Tita Lors: Yeah, exactly. It isn't about that at all. And it's completely different from liking titties. Robin Axline: Yeah, that's totally different too. Tita Lors: Yeah, your analogy is not the same here, my guy. Yeah, so hypnotic guy responded to this and they said, yeah, forcing your kink on other people, including children or anybody who drives by by advertising it on a flag is really narcissistic, if you ask me, right? So they quoted that. Number one, it's not a kink. And you saying that it is shows your ignorance. or shows, yeah, shows your ignorance. Number two, it's a great opportunity to have a frank discussion with any children that you have who are old enough to understand what bigotry and tolerance of others is. Number three, right, yes, exactly. Number three, you seem rather homophobic if this bothers you in the slightest. Yeah, I was like, okay, you found the words. I'm glad somebody said it because what the Robin Axline: Right. Yeah, I was like, I can't even imagine what I would say Tita Lors: Yeah Robin Axline: about that because there's so many wrong preconceptions. Tita Lors: Exactly. And like, the idea that this is being forced on, if that, if putting up a flag that says like, I, are an inclusive family, we care about all people, no matter who they love or care about or are in relationships with or whatever. If that's like forcing your beliefs on people, show, so is like every movie. Like every movie your kids watch that has a man and woman partnering or parenting or whatever, that's also forcing your beliefs on other people. Robin Axline: I mean, if you're going to put it that way, yes. Tita Lors: Yeah, right. Like you're you're shoot. I messed up my thing. But like you're advertising that this is the only way to have a relationship. Robin Axline: Yeah, totally. Absolutely. So yeah, there's just no, no ground. That person has no ground to say that at all. Tita Lors: I know, it's like, would you like to be the pot or the kettle in this situation? But yeah, somebody else later on, I didn't copy the comment, but they were just like, if that sign exists, can you tell me where? I need the link. I know some people who would really, really love it. Robin Axline: That's awesome. Oh yes. Well Tita Lors: Yeah. Okay. Yeah, no, continue, please. Robin Axline: I was just gonna say like the dad doing all that stuff is like on one hand awesome but it's also just like I don't know it seems like a lot as Tita Lors: Hmm Robin Axline: well. Like that he got that like, I don't know, those neighbors really are horrible. I don't know. I just, I guess it's showing him he doesn't care, but it also kind of maybe does a bit. Tita Lors: Yeah, but also what's wrong with showing people that you care? I don't think there's anything wrong with showing people that like, yeah, that hurt. Right? That hurt. Maybe you shouldn't be an asshole. Robin Axline: I guess I guess I was just thinking of the fuck off sign or F off sign. To have it in your front yard is kind of like, I don't know. Tita Lors: Yeah, Robin Axline: But I mean, if he doesn't mind, then that's cool. Tita Lors: Yeah, I think of it as like a My kid's awake. Robin Axline: you Tita Lors: The Little. Robin Axline: What an... sounds like an earthquake. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah! If she could find the strength in her tiny body to kick that door down, she would. Yeah. I don't know what kind of kid I'm raising here. Geez. But OK, what was I going to say? it's kind of like my blow me story. Robin Axline: yeah. Tita Lors: It's like a really bigger version of that, because the sign you can turn on and off, it's whatever. like. I can't imagine. having to be told constantly every day that my existence is a not a burden but like that it's so intolerable to you that you don't know what to do with your feelings. Like, I know what it is to be responsible for other people's feelings, to be held responsible for other people's feelings because they don't know, they were never taught how to navigate their own feelings. And so they make other people do it for them. I know that, like, simply because I care for who I care for. Simply because I exist the way that I exist, you think that it's well within your rights to call me names and to say things about me? Like, you got me effed up if you think you're not gonna hear some shit from me. Robin Axline: Right, right. Yeah, I got you. Yeah. I mean, it's just human decency to have like respect for somebody and that person was giving Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: zero respect. Tita Lors: Yeah, right? Like, it's one thing if the person is being abusive, or if they're being negligent, or if they're actually doing truly indecent and horrific things that's harming other people. But no one's doing that here. Except for maybe the neighbor who keeps, like, hurting. Like hurting them by saying what they're every day. Yeah, okay, sorry. Off my high horse now. Robin Axline: yeah, I'm stepping down from my apple box. My soap box. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yep. All right. Ready for a more heartwarming dad story? Robin Axline: Let's hear it. Yeah, there is. Tita Lors: I need to get, I'm thinking about getting an extender and putting it in here so that maybe that'll help with. Yeah, we'll see. Okay, so this was written 14 years ago. Holy crap. It was on, I think, Ask Reddit, and the ask was for like stories about your dad. like heart not it wasn't heartwarming stories but like yeah I should probably should have I have the link somewhere I'm not gonna look for it so Robin Axline: All right. Tita Lors: this is by teen speed GV my father was a teacher for nearly 30 years he taught kids in the fifth to sixth grade range in the fifth to sixth grade range I think he needed what he learned in his classroom to deal with me. The man was the patience, or the man has the patience of a saint. When I became a teenager, he did everything he could to make sure I knew I was always wanted and welcome. Even when the best I gave back was a fuck you dad. would intentionally push his buttons, provoke him, break every single rule he laid down. From pretty much 14 to 17, I was the biggest douchebag imaginable to my parents. And through all these years of sort of, of this sort of behavior, he did his level best to make sure I always felt safe enough to talk to him. The worst part of my behavior, looking back at it, was that I knew I could and I still treated him, my mother, and my sister like shit. When I was 17 though, I think he finally had enough. I had been missing for about a week. I can't even imagine. Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: my god. I'd been missing for about a week and when I got home, I was being my usual dickish self, but particularly nasty. When I was spouting off about something or other, I decided it would be a great idea to directly insult him. Something I hadn't ever really done before. I was mostly just rude, but I was taking it to a new level this time. Trying a new thing. He was irritated by that and he told me to cut it out. But when I started insulting my mother and sister as well, he finally demanded that I shut up. I didn't. Yeah, for sure. I mean, if you want to take a break and have some comments, please do. Robin Axline: Thanks. Tita Lors: yeah, so I didn't. I'll always remember what happened next. because I've only ever seen him truly angry a couple times in my life. And this was one of those times. I know it's kind of a cliche to say this, but he seemed to go from this guy who was a little bit shorter than me to this giant of a man towering over me. All this anger that had been kept inside came out. But my father doesn't yell when he gets angry. He gets calm and quiet. The effect is that you can see the anger and then all of a sudden it's gone and he's just stone. I was just in the process of realizing I'd made the miscalculation that would certainly end in my death when he said, in that calm and collective voice, do you want to fight me? Yeah! I know, right? That would shut me up so fast. Maybe. I'm not a savior. I would've been like, yeah bitch, what? Let's go, I'll fight you. Not my mom. I wouldn't fight my mom. Robin Axline: Whoa, twist. You're like, okay, fine, let's go. Tita Lors: See what you got, old man! Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: man. I looked at him, my slightly shorter father, and probably towering over me. And I felt like the smallest kid in the world. I shook my head and said, no dad, no, I don't want to fight you. I asked if I could be alone and he nodded and said that was probably for the best. I sat in my room and let all of the anger and hate and everything I felt roll off me. After a few hours, I went out and I apologized for provoking him the way I did. I apologized to my mother and my sister for being mean to them the way I had been. I have behaved myself since that day, 14 years ago. My father and I get along very well. He's the funniest, smartest, kindest man I have ever known. I hope that one day I can be like him. My father taught me how to be a man. That's what he did for me. And that reminded me of like, I think it was like dad advice, dad vice, like what's something your dad did for you that you won't forget or the best thing your dad did for you. Yeah. Yeah. I am not going to lie. I got like teary when I was reading this the first time, cause I was like, Oh, how awesome to have a dad like that. Like not a lot of people get a dad like that. Yeah, someone who's gonna show up for you no matter what. Who like, who gets it. It's hard to be a teenager and it's hard to be patient. Robin Axline: Absolutely. Yeah. I mean, in having the success of the sun, knowing to step back and drop the anger and whatever else was going on at the time. Tita Lors: Yeah. huh. For him to be like, okay. Robin Axline: Yeah, because I mean, I Yeah. Like you were saying, that's pretty rare because I feel like in that situation that would escalate so quickly. Like most parents would be like, don't talk to me like that. Like. Tita Lors: Yeah, like most kids would fight back. Yeah. Robin Axline: You know, all this like apologize and. Tita Lors: Who do you think you are? Yeah. Robin Axline: yelling and you know the whole thing but that's so interesting how the father handled that and how it actually worked out in a positive Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Robin Axline: result. Tita Lors: Yeah. I... wow. This brought me way back. when I was, really, really young, there was a family who lived with us. And I remember that... their son was like, he was pretty tall, tall for me. was like six or seven. So he was taller than me. He was a teenager already. And his mom was probably my height, maybe at most by one. And he towered over her. And I remember like. He pissed her off and he started like, she was a little bit abusive, but she like, he defended himself, he protected himself, he stood up for himself, it's what he was actually doing. But she took it as, you guys are gonna hear the kids, sorry. Robin Axline: Ha Tita Lors: She took it as like, he was talking back and whatever, right? It was disrespectful. And she said, What did she say? You think because you're taller than me I can't still kick your ass? Or something like that. It was in Tagalog so it was like it was definitely a threat and he just kind of stood there staring down at her. And I was like... Robin Axline: That's pretty intense for you to be watching that. my gosh. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah, and then the age old, I brought you into this world. I can take you out. Robin Axline: Oof. That's a classic. Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. I know. Yeah, dude. That was it was interesting living with that family. Yeah. my God, Robin Axline: Ooh, I bet. Yikes. One way to handle things. Tita Lors: But yeah, like like you said, it could so easily turn into that instead of like the cool like, is this what you want? Do you want to fight? and then like making them really think about what they're doing because they're pushing buttons. Robin Axline: yeah, especially because they said they went after the mother and that's, mean, that's pretty messed up. Especially, I mean, Tita Lors: yeah. Yeah. Robin Axline: I don't know the circumstances why they were upset, but you know, I'm assuming it wasn't super rational, maybe. Tita Lors: Yeah, I mean, it sounds like they had a lot going on. really curious what was. I'm really curious what was happening for what was our name? Teen Speed GV at that time, because it sounds like they had really patient, kind parents. And so I'm wondering, like, what was happening in other places that. This was the reaction. This was the response that this is how they were navigating those feelings in this time. Because being a teen is hard. Yes, very hard. like, you don't just, yeah, you don't just treat your parents like that for no reason. So I think, right? Somebody give me hope, Robin Axline: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean, on average, no, I don't think so. But, you never know. I mean, some teens can be Tita Lors: no... Robin Axline: can be like that. do be. Tita Lors: My three year old already is, so... Robin Axline: Yeah, no, but in some in the problem is that parents sometimes just forget that they were also at that age and they just misunderstand maybe where they're coming from. And like, don't don't even listen to whatever, whatever it is, which is hard. To feel like a misunderstood teen, Tita Lors: I know something I say a lot but Robin Axline: but yeah. Tita Lors: yeah something I say a lot to my big that I actually wish I guess my adults in my life had said to me I say a lot like I don't understand help me understand like where is this coming from what is happening I'm not understanding this reaction this response like Help me understand. Because I don't know how to help if I don't understand. Robin Axline: Mm-hmm. That's a great response for sure. Like, because that I don't, yeah. Okay, well, still. Tita Lors: It comes after yelling. I'm not that I'm not I'm not going to sit here and be like, I'm a saint of a mom. Like, I really am not. It just comes because it gets to a point where we're both like elevated. And then I'm like, OK, well, I'm the adult, obviously. So. After like. walking away and like figuring out how to calm myself down so I don't get to exactly where she is or beyond. It's like, okay, you know what? What is happening? Robin Axline: Yeah, for sure. Tita Lors: How did we get here? Robin Axline: That is so, so funny. yeah, I just don't know why. I don't know. I guess it's just, it's just a thing that everybody goes through. Or most people. Tita Lors: Yeah. Yeah. I must be, I guess, right? I mean, it is part of being a teenager, trying to figure out who you are outside of your family. is developmentally where you're supposed to be in your teens, early 20s. You're figuring out your identity outside of your family system and who you are. But damn, why does it have to be so disruptive on both sides? Like, it's so disruptive as a teenager and so disruptive as a parent, I'm scared. Robin Axline: Fair. And you know, mean, clearly there was something else going on with going missing for a week and like the parents must have been very patient or something. Yeah. And also I was thinking during the story is teen speed might've had some kind of transformation before they wrote this story too to have that much self-awareness to be able to like pick out all these things that they had done and realize that they were yeah and realize that they were grateful for the father handling it how he did I don't know if they went to therapy at all or what but it definitely sounds like they became extremely self-aware about their youth so Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, for sure. Okay, so here's the response from Trees of Green. And I think I... Robin Axline: Ooh, what a wonderful world. Tita Lors: Red roses too. Robin Axline: Yeah. Exactly. I can tell Tita Lors: you Robin Axline: myself. All right. What is the response? Tita Lors: So I was gonna say, kind of, I'm not quite where they are, but I can see that we're heading in that direction and it's going to be a challenge if I don't start figuring out now what I'm going to do about it. And I feel like they're frustration. So it's a dad and their daughter. He says, I read your reply an hour ago. My 12 year old daughter was just acting like a total snot while I was helping with her homework. She was not focusing. What am I Snot? You're so nice. Blah blah blah. She was not focusing, trying to get me to do all her work, calling me stupid for asking her five times to explain again what a quote she had in a paper was about. We've been at this for over an hour and have worked on only one paragraph. I did not have the patience of your father. I yelled and got very upset. She ran into the bathroom and is still there. I remembered your post and I'm just writing because I'm a single dad and have no one to talk to about it. So how could your dad just assume that by always being patient, even in the face of major douchebaggery. You would be okay. Did he just get lucky? I rarely get angry, but when I do, it comes out sharply. Last for a minute or two and then it's over. It never seems to have any positive impact like it did for you though. My daughter is awesome, but she's extremely stubborn and can be very disrespectful. She's never had a watershed moment like you had and there's no way to create one. It just has to happen. Now I sit here wondering whether she's just going to be resentful of me yelling at her and scaring her because of the rarity of my anger. Yeah, and yeah, that's and I feel that. mean, it's not my my angry feelings come out often or my feelings come out as anger. Like anytime I'm frustrated or overwhelmed by any feeling, it always comes out angry. And I feel the same fear that he feels that like that she's going to be resentful or scared of me because I can't get my schnitz together. but yeah, so that's, that's that. And then there was a response. Anything you want to say before I hear, before you hear 10 speeds response? Robin Axline: well, I was just going to say they were saying, you know, as a watershed moment, this kind of goes back to what I was saying. Like, you know, what are the odds that this person would suddenly become self-aware of everything that they had the past with? And I think they were just lucky, like you said, like the dad pushed the right button and the son kind of had a awakening, perhaps. Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah, but he was also like 17 more adult than not Yeah, Robin Axline: That's fair. That's fair. Yeah. Tita Lors: like a 12 year old girl you probably Just started. I mean, sorry If you don't want to hear this then skip but like you probably just started menstruating like three years ago You're still trying to figure that out. Your hormones are wild and out Robin Axline: yeah, and especially maybe the father, there's certain things he doesn't know how to handle like that. Also, who knows? Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, if he's a single dad and he doesn't have like the... This was like 14 years ago. So there wasn't really a lot of educating men about, you know... what happens to a woman's body, he would have had to go out and learn that on his own. It's not just all over TikTok or Instagram. Like it is now. There's like all these posts Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: about men who are like day 36 of learning about the shit that women's bodies go through. I love that guy. He's so funny. Robin Axline: man. But you know, on the other hand, this guy does seem like pretty sensitive as well, especially because he was like, I don't normally blow up like that. And to write the Reddit response for a guy is, I mean, I'm just generalizing, but you know. Tita Lors: Hmm. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, it does strike me as somebody who's like, help, please. Robin Axline: Yeah, yeah, that's Tita Lors: Tell me I'm not going to fuck her up. Robin Axline: yeah, so what did teen speed say? Tita Lors: Yes, okay. So he says, I can't speak. I can't speak much for my sister. She was always better. She was always much better with her homework than I was. For me homework was a huge struggle. I think I frustrated my parents quite a lot with it. I think my dad was especially frustrated because he gave it out to his students every day. Basically, he stayed on me about it. I can't say there were never sharp words, but I don't recall either he or my mother being truly angry. They always got stern, and I got lectured a lot of times. I had all sorts of privileges taken away. Maybe that's how they handled their anger at me, and I just missed it all the time. I don't know. I know talking about it with them, they both have told me they were just frustrated a lot. But kids are gonna be kids. Patience is a skill you develop. You don't start out with it and sometimes you forget how to do it. so much. Everybody write that down. I know I will. Exactly. Robin Axline: Yeah, tattoo it on your forehead. Tita Lors: On your arm. Somewhere where you can see it. As long as you don't get abusive, I don't think your daughter will stay resentful, especially if you let her know you love her when the fighting is over. The most important part of my relationship with my father has been knowing that no matter what, no matter what's going on in my life, I can talk to him about whatever is going on. I was terrified when I was doing all of those things. He told me he didn't want me to do, but in the end, I knew I could talk to him, even if it upset him. He'd still be there for me to talk to. One time, I came home at about 3 a.m. Too drunk to walk. Instead of knocking on the door, I curled up in a corner of the covered porch because I didn't want to wake up my parents. The first thing I heard when he woke me up was him asking me why, why the hell I didn't just ring the doorbell. There wasn't any anger there either. He wanted me to know that even though he was pretty upset, he'd rather I be home safe than out in the cold. My father has always loved me, even when I was at my worst, and he always lets me know that. I think that's the most important thing. Yeah, and I think what he said is super, super important, right? Like, yes, don't get abusive with the verbal assaults, but also whenever there's a rupture, the repair is the most important part. Like how you repair a rupture is one thing. It happens. And this isn't any relationship, not just a parent-child relationship. How you choose to repair it is so huge. It's so big. Is it just like a flippant? Well, I'm sorry. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Robin Axline: Try again. Tita Lors: Right? Or a more like, wow, yeah, I can see how that really hurt you. And let's work. I'll work to be better about that. Robin Axline: Yeah, that's what's definitely necessary in those types of situations. Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah, like that extra additional accountability. That's really hard, I think, for parents to have, because I think in talking with a lot of second generation people, kids, the... or second generation immigrant? My brain not working. Anyways, the hardest thing for the parents to say is I'm sorry because it's always I'm sorry. What do want me to do now? Robin Axline: And that's not it. Tita Lors: Yeah, exactly. Right? Like, there's no accountability there. I'm sorry, will it happen? So it's in the past now. Yeah, right? Like, that's my God. Yeah. Right? Like, can't we just move on already? Robin Axline: I just got the ick from that one. Get over it. terrible, terrible. Tita Lors: Yeah, like, no, you can't move on because there was no accountability. So I don't want to move on if you're going to be the same person. Robin Axline: Yeah, there's trust is damaged as well. So Tita Lors: Exactly. Yeah. Right? So if we can't... If there's no accountability on your part that there's going to be a shift or a change or an effort to be different in the way that you hurt me and to not hurt me in that same way again, then the way that I'm going to move on is without you. but it's hard to do that, especially with your family. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, there's there's a lot of stuff in my family. And I know like, there's like a set of cousins that are the older cousins and then there's a set that's the younger ones. It's like a nine year difference. And I know for one of them, there's just a lot of hurt. And I tell them all the time. You do what you have to do. And whether the rest of the family understands, whether they get it, whether they're hurt, it doesn't matter. Even if I feel hurt by what you do or what you say, as long as I know that you're safe, as long as I know that you're not panicking, as long as I know that you're doing this to take care of yourself, that's totally fine. I would rather you do that. I would rather you hurt my feelings and protect yourself than force yourself to be in a situation that is so uncomfortable for you and so scary for you. Robin Axline: Wow, she's so lucky to have you to lay it out that way. Seriously. Tita Lors: I love her. Okay. Anyways, so we'll take that out because I don't want them to know. I don't want them to feel like I'm talking about them on TV. my God. Robin Axline: On TV. Yeah, on TV. Tita Lors: Yes, on TV. Man, if my age has ever shown so hard. Okay. So let's let's get to the blind rating. Yay. So this is going to be exactly like we did for Mother's Day. I'm going to give you a person and you're going to give a blind reading. You're not going to know who else is on this list. Hopefully you didn't look and you're going. Okay, good. Robin Axline: I didn't see it. Tita Lors: And then you're going to give me one through 10 where you think they are on a scale of. most petty tennis, no, what number one is going to be the pettiest. Robin Axline: OK. And 10 is the least. All right. Tita Lors: Yeah, least petty, yes. Okay, let's start with Homer Simpson. Okay. Robin Axline: I'm trying to think... I'm sure he's done... I mean he has done some crazy stuff but... Maybe even like a six. I'm like what did he do? Tita Lors: I mean, you choke... You choke to get out. You Robin Axline: I guess I'll stick with five for now. Tita Lors: Yeah, I will say this was a difficult list to try to find people for because a lot of like when it, when I was looking at different lists, it was like, their petty behaviors was this. And I was like, that's not petty. That's abusive. Robin Axline: yeah, that's true. Tita Lors: Right? Like that's not petty, that's mean, that's not petty, that's this. And so was kind of a difficult list to be like, okay, what's actually the petty thing? Or that's not petty, that's like neglect, abandonment or whatever. Like these are the things that they were saying. And I was like, no. I feel like maybe I Robin Axline: Okay. Tita Lors: should have watched, like caught up on some of these references and stuff, but yeah, it was. Yeah. So this is. Robin Axline: We're good. This is just fun, folks. Good old, good old fashioned fun. No. Life's too mysterious. Don't take it serious. Tita Lors: Exactly. It's not an exact science. You'll have your opinions. Robin Axline: you Tita Lors: Okay, anyways, all that to say, I am glad that Robin Axline: Okay, so. Tita Lors: I don't have to rate these people because I don't know. Okay. Next is Al Robin Axline: Okay. Tita Lors: Bundy. Mm-hmm Okay. Tim Allen was a hard one because I feel like I had to pick specifically in what role because he's been a dad so many different ways in so many different things. So I'm choosing specifically home improvement dad, Tim Allen. Robin Axline: I guess, maybe a four? Four. Yeah, he did do some like funny stuff sometimes. Tita Lors: Okay. Yes. He did. Okay. Darth Vader. Okay. Harry Wormwood, the dad from Matilda. Robin Axline: Can we repeat numbers? okay. Tita Lors: No. Robin Axline: Man, I almost want to switch him and Homer. Homer is six and he's five. Can I do that? Tita Lors: Well Homer is five. Robin Axline: Homer. mean, Homer is six and Harry is five. Tita Lors: You could tell me where you would have wanted to later. Okay, all right. So where are you gonna put him now considering you have Robin Axline: Okay, fair. Six. Tita Lors: six, Thanos. Robin Axline: man, now I'm really... That Tita Lors: Hahaha! Robin Axline: would have been way higher. Tita Lors: Okay, you still have two seven eight nine and ten Robin Axline: I just don't know who you're gonna come up with next. Tita Lors: You Robin Axline: I'm gonna put him at a two. Tita Lors: Okay. George Lopez. You Robin Axline: man, that, he does really crazy stuff sometimes, but. Tita Lors: You Robin Axline: Not really like that petty, he just does some weird stuff. would... So do I have eight open? Okay, eight. I've been watching reruns of that lately, so I'm like fresh in my mind. Tita Lors: You still have 8 open, Okay. Pete from Pete- yeah? Nice. Okay, so Pete from a goofy movie. Robin Axline: Nine. Tita Lors: King Triton from Little Mermaid. You have Robin Axline: I guess. Tita Lors: 7 in 10 available. Robin Axline: I'm gonna go ten. I don't think he was that crazy. Tita Lors: Okay. Mr. Incredible. You only have seven available, so... Robin Axline: Okay, I guess he's in the seventh spot. I might want to trade those, no problem. Tita Lors: Yeah, he's in the same... Yeah, so King Triton, feel... I don't know if he was like petty petty, but he did a petty thing of like, you disobeyed me. And so you deliberately disobeyed me. Oh, no, wait, that's that's a lying king. Yeah, but he and then he like destroys her Robin Axline: yeah, yeah, No, but yeah, he would be up there. Tita Lors: cave. Robin Axline: I forgot about that. That was messed up. Tita Lors: Yeah, so I definitely would have put him higher. then, sorry, we ended up with Disney characters, Disney dads. Robin Axline: Hey, no problem with that. I was hoping you'd do Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: a goofy movie, so. Tita Lors: And then Mr. Incredible, like, he was so just focused on himself, I think. So don't know if that's like being petty. Like, he just, he wanted to be the hero so bad that he couldn't stand not being the hero and that like his kids were. And that his wife was. and he wasn't and that was such a struggle for him to let other people, which we talked about in one of our episodes, it was a struggle for him to let other people shine in their relationship. hmm. Yeah. OK, so how where would you would you have done it? or would you have rated people like Homer Simpson? Where did you actually want to put Homer Simpson? Robin Axline: I'd put him at like an eight. Tita Lors: Okay, yeah, I was surprised you did all of your higher most petty early on. Robin Axline: Yeah, I was like, I was too too excited. And then I put, god. Tita Lors: Okay, no, no, ahead. And then you did what? Robin Axline: no, we can go down the line. Tita Lors: Okay, Al Bendy. Okay, kept him where he was. Tim Allen. Robin Axline: He was at four. so I'd put like six. Tita Lors: Okay. And then Darth Vader. Do you still want that as number one? Robin Axline: Yeah, one with the bullet, yeah. Tita Lors: Okay. And then Matilda's dad. Robin Axline: I'd say six. no, did I say seven? Yeah. Tita Lors: No, did say six. Okay, Thanos. Okay, keeping that where it was, George Lopez. Yes. Okay. And then you still have five, eight, five, eight, nine, no, eight. Robin Axline: We can cut some of this out. OK, OK, so I wanted. Pete. Tita Lors: Five, nine, and ten. So Pete is Goofy Movie. Robin Axline: Yeah, he's. 10. Tita Lors: 10, so least petty. And then King Triton. Robin Axline: No, he's five. Tita Lors: Okay, and then Mr. Incredible is has to be nine then. Excuse me. Robin Axline: Bless you. Phew, that was a real real time there. was taking it so seriously. I wanted to like get it all right. Tita Lors: Yeah, I think I might have like made Pete a little higher for me and George Lopez less I think because he was more like funny about it Yeah, the impact of some of these father's behaviors was not so great Yeah. yeah, I honestly don't know how I would have rated them. I didn't rate them. I thought about doing it, but I didn't. Robin Axline: you Tita Lors: right. Any honorable mentions? Who would you have put on this petty dad's list? Robin Axline: Hmm, that's a hard one. Petty Dads. Yeah. Well, the one I think of that I don't really know the show that well, but what I've seen is that Tita Lors: you Robin Axline: dude from Chrisley knows best. I think his name is Chrisley. It's like a Southern charm spin off. But he's just so like, from the clips I've seen, he's just so like uppity and he thinks he knows everything. I mean, the title is like perfect. He's just so like Tita Lors: head describer. Robin Axline: picky and thinks he's like so great, but. And I know, like, he is one of those, I didn't want to bring it up, but he's one of those people that got pardoned. Who got out of jail, like, early. like I think it was like for fraud and tax evasion yeah so yeah it Tita Lors: Must be nice to be rich. Robin Axline: must be but yeah he's one that I've seen that's just every time I've seen a clip I'm just like what is going on with this guy Tita Lors: I mean just the pictures. Interesting. Robin Axline: Yeah. Man, that's hard. Tita Lors: Yeah, he's like somebody... He would be somebody who walked into a room and I'd be like, no... We're gonna stay away from that one. Robin Axline: Yeah, and I would, man, I just thought of a really good one. Doug from King of Queens. Tita Lors: Is that like the main character guy? Yeah, Kevin. Robin Axline: Yeah, Kevin James Tita Lors: he's funny. Paul Blart, Molocob. Robin Axline: Yeah. Here comes the boom. No, he's like petty to the max, him and the wife, but since we're doing dads. he's not a dad! Tita Lors: the wifey and yeah I was like wait I'm trying to remember who their kid was Robin Axline: I was thinking about men on TV. well, you know what? A spoiler alert if for a show that's Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Robin Axline: 20 years old or whatever it is. They do adopt a they do adopt a baby at the end. Tita Lors: Did they have a baby? Uh huh. Aww. I was like, did they have a kid? I'm like racking my brain for images of Robin Axline: No, I Tita Lors: them being parents. Robin Axline: was just trying to think of TV dads or no TV men, I guess. But he did become a dad at the end. Tita Lors: Okay, but he didn't do anything petty as a dad. Robin Axline: No, because it was over. He didn't have a chance Tita Lors: No, he didn't have the chance to. Robin Axline: to, but I would imagine that he would. Tita Lors: huh. Robin Axline: I'm gonna take... trim this one down. Tita Lors: No, it's fine. Keep it. Who cares? Robin Axline: cut. What else? What else? Man, there's gotta be. Tita Lors: I really portray. There's a there was a lot of like the Asian character that this TikTok person portrays or whatever. I'm like, I didn't want to include that. Robin Axline: yeah, I was thinking Ricky Ricardo did do some petty stuff. Little Ricky. Tita Lors: Yeah. He must've got played though. Robin Axline: He like did some weird... Yeah. True. he did some petty stuff on there. well... I mean sometimes, but not to the kid. More like to Lucy. Tita Lors: I kind of remember. Yeah. Robin Axline: Okay, maybe that's not a good example. geez, this one is really tough. Tita Lors: Yeah, I thought about doing like, like Family Matters, Dad, but I couldn't remember. I remember the wife being more like, yeah, sassy or Robin Axline: sassy or something. Tita Lors: clap back or like whenever he tried to, she would like one up him and just do it better. Robin Axline: Yeah, what about the dad on that 70s show? I don't know if he did that much. Tita Lors: Yeah, I thought about that too, but I was like, what petty things did he do? Yeah, I don't know, but I also didn't religiously watch that Seventy show, so it wasn't one that I would have been able to like to say definitively, this is how they're So, yeah, we'll have to switch. Robin Axline: Yeah, I... hmm. He wasn't very nice to the kids overall, I feel like. But... that goes back to kind of what we were saying. Tita Lors: Yeah. But again, right? either exactly like you're mean, neglectful, or absent. Like that's how. Yeah, right. That's what Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: men were portrayed as what a dad was in the 90s. You mean, strict, neglectful or absent. Robin Axline: What a combo. Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: Man. Tita Lors: or dead. Robin Axline: Yeah, dead is like the top. man, I'm gonna like, I'm gonna wake up in middle of the night and think of something and then I'll text you. Yeah. Tita Lors: Subway, yeah. Robin Axline: No, I won't do that. Yeah. It kind of like goes back to another thing I... Yeah. Tita Lors: Yeah. But so, okay, if anyone else, if anyone does think of like a petty dad... Robin Axline: Yeah. Tita Lors: Yeah, right like if anyone does think of a petty dad Robin Axline: Call us, write us. Tita Lors: Call me, beep me if you want to reach me, you know? All that stuff. Robin Axline: Yeah, tell us we want to know Tita Lors: Yeah, cause we're clearly missing something. Yeah, or a bias maybe? I don't know. Anyways. Robin Axline: Yeah. Anyway, I, yeah, we're gonna have to move. Moving on. Oh, but I know I was just gonna say something real quick. Tita Lors: Moving on. don't know how to end this conversation. Robin Axline: I know there's a big delay right now. I was gonna say how we're having a little bit of a difficulty finding like the ultimate petty dad, except the ones that you found were really appropriate, I thought. The thing that I find is hard when you look for a Father's Day card at the store. And it's very like black and white, I feel like. A lot of the cards are like sports, beer, alcohol, and barbecuing. And like, yes, that. Tita Lors: Mhm Mhm Or you treated me like a princess and I appreciate it You are my hero Robin Axline: Totally, totally that. I'm always looking at those and I'm just like, no. And then the Tita Lors: Thank Robin Axline: other ones are fart jokes, burp jokes. Tita Lors: Yeah, dad jokes. I was gonna look up dad jokes and tell dad jokes today, but I was like, we don't have enough time. Robin Axline: that was... Yeah. But, yeah, I feel like almost every year that I decide to do a Father's Day card, I never find or hardly ever find one that really works for my dad. Like, they're all so stereotyped dads that I'm just like, Tita Lors: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Robin Axline: that my dad wouldn't even think that was interesting or funny. Tita Lors: They know, that's why I do joke ones. Or I just don't do them at all, Robin Axline: Yeah, yeah, certain times I don't, but every once in a while I'll get an inspiration. So I just feel like there's Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: no one size fits all, I guess, about dads at all. And when people post pictures of their dad on Instagram, sometimes I think it's fine. But on the other hand, it's kind of like for people that don't. celebrate that day or it brings back some stuff I always feel for them. Tita Lors: Yeah, yeah, I think it's the same with any holiday though, right? It's just rough for people, for some people in general, who are struggling in their relationships, right? Like I said at the beginning, like either your relationship with yourself because of like, who you were supposed to be. were supposed to be a father or a mother or whatever or a partner even in any relationship. The family you could have had, should have had, or would have had. You know, and holidays are just hard because every holiday highlights some kind of a connection that for some people doesn't, has never existed or doesn't exist anymore. And it's really hard. So while I think that people should be allowed to celebrate out loud and to post those pictures Robin Axline: Yeah, totally. I was just also going to point out there's like this card company that I get emails from and every year they send out like a little survey and it's like if you don't want us to send deals on Mother's Day cards or Father's Day cards you can opt out and I'm like that is pretty forward thinking that's really cool. Yeah. Tita Lors: That is. Yeah, that really, really is. That's so cool. Because there's... They should have that for Valentine's Day cards too, because not everybody has a Valentine. Robin Axline: Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Tita Lors: Yeah, not everybody wants it. Some people want to celebrate Singles Awareness Day. Robin Axline: Yeah, some people do. Tita Lors: Some people just want to celebrate their gals. Galentines. Robin Axline: Yeah, Galentine's come on. Yeah. Tita Lors: Okay, anyways, what's your glimmer of the week? Robin Axline: My Glimmer of the Week would have to be this past week I went for a bike ride. And I was inspired by a woman who lives in Berlin, who's in one of my meditation online groups. And she was saying she hadn't been for a bike ride in a very long time and it was a nice day. And so that kind of clicked in my head. I was like, I haven't brought out the bike this year. I should just, what am I waiting for? And it was just wonderful. It just felt great to have like the wind and just kind of see different areas that I don't normally get to. Tita Lors: Yeah. Robin Axline: and. Mm-hmm. Yeah, thank goodness. Yeah, it was a bit crispy, but from biking, it kind of bounced it out, which was tight. But I was going to say, what is your glimmer of the week? Tita Lors: Mine is that we have purchased our tickets and booked our summer break. So we're going to be visiting family and for a few good weeks I will be on the West Coast best coast. Robin Axline: Woohoo! Tita Lors: I'm so stoked! I'm already thinking of all the food I want to eat, places I want to go, people I want to see. It'll be fun. And by the time I think when this comes out, I'll already be there. Robin Axline: Great. That's great. I bet you that feels really good to accomplish booking everything. Tita Lors: Oh yeah, oh my gosh, it was so much. It was actually really frustrating because in the morning, one of the tickets was like $150 cheaper. And then by mid afternoon, it was more expensive. And I couldn't even find the flight, the original flight that I was trying to book. And I was like, okay, fine. I Robin Axline: Man, fine. Tita Lors: guess we're gonna go with something more expensive. Whatever. Yeah, and I was like, don't I have a VPN so they can't tell that I keep looking for the same flights over and over again? Where is it? Robin Axline: Right. Tita Lors: I'm pretty sure I paid for it. I don't know, maybe it's like one of my subscriptions that last. But yeah, so plane tickets, they're ready to go. also like, I know I'm going to Vegas for like a 20, 48 hour maybe period to go watch Elenium. We're going to Disneyland. We're like potentially going to Knott's Berry Farm depending on if one of my cousins has the time available. the beach hopefully for a lot of times and just a whole bunch of time with my family and my friends. Robin Axline: love that. That's so cool. It sounds like a blast. Tita Lors: I know. I hope so. There's a countdown on the calendar. It's not mine, it's the kids. She's excited, but like... So am I. Yeah. Alright, well everyone, I hope you enjoyed this episode. Let us know what you thought about the stories, the petty one, the heartwarming one. Did we get our ratings right? How would you have done it differently? All that stuff. And if you enjoyed hanging out with us, then please, please, please subscribe on Apple Podcast, Spotify, Deezer, or anywhere else you listen to podcasts. So you don't miss out on our next episode and until next time, fuck it. Robin Axline: Stay petty. Bye!