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4 Weddings & a Funeral with Joe & Kendall, Heather Martin and Krystal Nielsen · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with her Radio. Hey, guys, welcome to the third Almost
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  Speaker 1: Famous podcast without Ben Higgins. Sorry, guys, this will happen
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  Speaker 1: with me. I hope you guys missed me in a
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  Speaker 1: couple of weeks when Jared and I are away for
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  Speaker 1: our wedding and our honeymoon. By the way, Jared's here
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  Speaker 1: and I was just about to introduce you. I know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of ruining the surprise. I'm sorry that I'm
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  Speaker 1: replacing Ben Higgins. I feel like Ben's like a Mercedes
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  Speaker 1: and I'm kind of like a you know, like a
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  Speaker 1: Toyota Corolla. I'll get you from A to B, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to be as sexy as Ben when
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  Speaker 1: he does it. Jared, come on, now, maybe I'm not
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  Speaker 1: giving myself credit, or maybe I'm overrating myself. Jared, you
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  Speaker 1: are a Rolls Royce. Well you have to say that
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  Speaker 1: you're marrying me. You don't want to marry a range Rover.
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  Speaker 1: How about a land Rover Discovery. Jared prefers land Rovers
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  Speaker 1: over range Rovers. This is his new car ever since
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  Speaker 1: we Enterprise rentals. It is its goals. But I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I heard that these land rovers and ranger rovers don't
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  Speaker 1: last very long. Yeah, which is quite miles. If you
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  Speaker 1: guys are car experts out there, let us know. Well anyway,
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  Speaker 1: the reason that we are recording this episode without okay,
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  Speaker 1: moving on, we are doing this bonus episode because we
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  Speaker 1: are having the most luxurious like most Hollywood, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm in I feel like I'm in big little
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  Speaker 1: eyes right now. I'm currently drinking a glass of champagne
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  Speaker 1: as we speak, because like it's so luxurious and so posh.
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  Speaker 1: We're at this beautiful Jared and My Ultimate Decord house
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  Speaker 1: right now. It's like our HDTV Dreams home heart reached
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  Speaker 1: out perfection. I don't even know how to describe it.
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  Speaker 1: It's just an overload of perfect It's all like Jared
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  Speaker 1: and I want to make our house kind of like
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  Speaker 1: crafts craftsmany modern but not like to modern, like clean
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  Speaker 1: but warm. We have We're in this house where it's
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  Speaker 1: got like, um, well it's called like what was called ceilings. No,
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  Speaker 1: you're pointing up the wood things. Um, there's beams. It's
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  Speaker 1: an odd shaped that. This house is awesome. It's got beams.
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  Speaker 1: Beams are beautiful. Like there's also a fireplace, right there
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  Speaker 1: that you didn't. That's not that, that's not super unique anyway,
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to our lives. This is the Ashley and Jared Show,
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  Speaker 1: and we're just talking the way that we talk on microff. Well,
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  Speaker 1: we are talking about weddings. So should we just start like,
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  Speaker 1: let me start kind of fresh right now and saying,
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  Speaker 1: we're all gathered at this very beautiful Beverly Hills mansion
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  Speaker 1: with a out of our bachelor friends right now because
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  Speaker 1: Hulu has put together this amazing um we're calling it
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  Speaker 1: a summer sooray souray for us in celebration of their
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  Speaker 1: new rom com esque Mindy Kaling produced show, Four Weddings
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  Speaker 1: and a Funeral. They thought, of all podcasts, who is like,
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  Speaker 1: who's related? Who can relate to this show the most?
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  Speaker 1: And it is the almost famous podcast because four weddings
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  Speaker 1: in a funeral. So it's kind of like every year
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  Speaker 1: on The Bachelor, we get like four engagements and we
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  Speaker 1: get well, we get more than one funeral, we get
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  Speaker 1: a couple of funerals. Usually the funerals last in the
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  Speaker 1: final four feels like a funeral. Oh, I was going
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  Speaker 1: to say, like the ones that like continuously get out
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  Speaker 1: of a show. Without a significant other, kind of like
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  Speaker 1: me for a while. We're talking about you. You're engaged.
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  Speaker 1: I don't mean now, I mean like I used to be.
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  Speaker 1: The funerals are so well. I was gonna say, I
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  Speaker 1: guess Nick would be the most polarizing one man. Big
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  Speaker 1: is probably the ultimate funeral. It's really, it's really, it's yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he's the bachelor funeral. No come up with another one another,
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  Speaker 1: Oh god, analysis at the table behind us. I would say, oh, Annaly,
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  Speaker 1: she's so sweet, poor girl. I'd say Bokowski, not in
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  Speaker 1: a bad way, just because is obviously a prominent name.
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  Speaker 1: Right now, he's back on Paradise. He's after his retirement.
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  Speaker 1: He did retire, he came out of retirement for this season.
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  Speaker 1: He's kind of like Jordans come back with the four five, which,
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  Speaker 1: if you guys don't remember, Jordan wore the number forty
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  Speaker 1: five when he came back from retirement and then went
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  Speaker 1: back to his traditional three. I know. I'm really about
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  Speaker 1: nineties NBA basketball. Yeah, so we are here in celebration
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  Speaker 1: of four weddings in the funeral again. It is a
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  Speaker 1: Mindy Kayle produced TV show and it's on Hulu, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm very excited about it coming out. I did
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  Speaker 1: get to see a little sneak peek. It's really good.
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  Speaker 1: If you like you know, well, yes, every every girl
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  Speaker 1: I feel like of the millennial generation relates to Mindy
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  Speaker 1: in some way. That's why I said, Okay, if you
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  Speaker 1: like her, you're gonna like this show. And everybody likes her. Hi,
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  Speaker 1: I'm cute, I'm funny, I'm awkward, I'm quirky, I'm really
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  Speaker 1: unlucky in love. She's the best. Uh, this show is
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  Speaker 1: really fun and a lot of it has. The first
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  Speaker 1: episode that I got to see revolves around a wedding,
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  Speaker 1: and one of the speeches at the wedding was totally butchered,
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  Speaker 1: as I feel like a lot of them are. Jared
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  Speaker 1: and I found out some information this week about the
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  Speaker 1: speeches at our wedding, and we would like to regale
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  Speaker 1: you with this tail and we would like your feedback,
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  Speaker 1: And if you have passionate feedback, you should email my
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  Speaker 1: sister because she's the center of the problem. Pretty much
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  Speaker 1: story goes, Ashley's sister, Lauren, is the maid of honor. Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: she has to give a speech to the wedding because
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  Speaker 1: that's what made of honors do. She hates public speaking,
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  Speaker 1: and so now we're kind of a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: a conundrum because she's very nervous and unsure if she
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  Speaker 1: wants to do tell us tell her what she told
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  Speaker 1: our wedding well, we'd all you know, could also been
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  Speaker 1: the telephone effects. So we found out this information from
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  Speaker 1: our wedding planner, and we, guys, we know how this works.
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  Speaker 1: One person tells somebody something and then it gets turned
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  Speaker 1: into a different thing, and then they tell them something different. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: point is from what we heard she Ashley's made of honor,
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  Speaker 1: wants to do a speech at the rehearsal dinner and
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  Speaker 1: not the wedding because it's a more intimate, smaller setting.
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  Speaker 1: She's going to feel more comfortable giving a speech rather
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  Speaker 1: than in front of, you know, potentially a hundred and
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  Speaker 1: seventy five ish people, where half of them she might
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  Speaker 1: really not know who they are, because it might be
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  Speaker 1: my side of the family who she has not met yet.
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  Speaker 1: But it's less I've actually find it less ner racking
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  Speaker 1: to talk in front of people I don't know. A
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  Speaker 1: room of people I don't know is less ner racking
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  Speaker 1: than a whole bunch of people I really care about
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  Speaker 1: when you when, don't you think? Um, yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. That's a good question. I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: think of high school, but I guess that's a bad comparison.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. The classes that I felt like the
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  Speaker 1: closest to i'd sometimes get the most nervous with, because
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  Speaker 1: if I didn't really have a connection with them, I'd
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  Speaker 1: assume that they weren't even listening. But I do think
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  Speaker 1: a wedding is a little different in that case. And also,
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  Speaker 1: my friends were far more torturous in high school. You know,
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  Speaker 1: my guy friends would just make fun of me for anything.
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  Speaker 1: Now my friends are far more supportive, So I'd rather
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  Speaker 1: give a speech in front of them because they would
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  Speaker 1: just tell me it's good, even though if even if
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  Speaker 1: I butchered it just to try to be nice. But
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  Speaker 1: back in high school, even if I killed the speech,
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  Speaker 1: they would be like, Bro, you sucked. Yeah, you know
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  Speaker 1: it's high school. Girls don't do that. Um anyway, So
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  Speaker 1: this is just like something that I have been obviously
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  Speaker 1: sort of dreaming of my whole life. Like my sister
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  Speaker 1: and I have always joked about giving speeches at each
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  Speaker 1: other's weddings, and we've always honestly joked about Lauren's stage
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  Speaker 1: fright or public speaking fear. What happens if you're not
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  Speaker 1: Lauren's made of honor? Jared, That's that's the weirdest thing
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  Speaker 1: I've ever heard you say. I was just thinking, how
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  Speaker 1: awkward would it be if you made Lauren your maid
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  Speaker 1: of honor? And then the past couple of years, Lauren
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  Speaker 1: was like, you know what I want somebody else? Jared,
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  Speaker 1: That's like, I'm gonna cry. This thing you've ever said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just thrown out. This is you guys. If you
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  Speaker 1: like follow my life to any degree, and because you
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  Speaker 1: listen to this podcast, I feel like you may you
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  Speaker 1: know how close I am to my sister. We've lived
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  Speaker 1: together for many years. In fact, she just lived with
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  Speaker 1: Jared for the past year, and you saw us I'm
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  Speaker 1: Paradise together and you see how close we are. We
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  Speaker 1: have a podcast like what we are like Sniamese Twins.
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  Speaker 1: What if she wants me to be her maid of honor?
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  Speaker 1: You know, like that Patrick Patrick Dempsey movie. Excuse me,
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  Speaker 1: I knew that? What is that? What was that called
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  Speaker 1: maid of honor? But it was spelled M A D. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it was. I will bet ten dollars made of honor.
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  Speaker 1: M A d. Yes, Sorry, I'm fine, I'm not I'm
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  Speaker 1: not even wagering on this because he might be right. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's not fun. M A d. E alright, feeling good,
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  Speaker 1: feeling strong, Okay. Anyway, So I've always joked how many
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  Speaker 1: times do I say? Anyway, I've always joked about my
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  Speaker 1: sister being nervous. My friends and I have always talked
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  Speaker 1: about how like somebody else was going to have to
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  Speaker 1: read her speech at my wedding. But now she goes
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  Speaker 1: to our wedding planner and she's like, um, so I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying to get out of giving this an but that's
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  Speaker 1: what he made it seem like. And I was like, ry,
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  Speaker 1: let's not be dramatic because then we got to get
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  Speaker 1: a replacement, and it's just come on now, thinks. I
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  Speaker 1: guess my question for you guys listening is my sister
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  Speaker 1: says that her having to give a speech to the
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  Speaker 1: reception is going to in her entire day and she's
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  Speaker 1: not gonna be able to focus on anything else until
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  Speaker 1: it's over. Should I just allow her to do it
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  Speaker 1: at the reception? Or should I allow her to do
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  Speaker 1: at the rehearsal dinner. Should I make her do it
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  Speaker 1: at the reception or do we kind of find this
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  Speaker 1: happy medium where like she records her speech or she
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  Speaker 1: lip sings her speech. I know that people are going
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  Speaker 1: to really hate me right now, but that's okay. She
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  Speaker 1: has to do it. I think she has to do
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  Speaker 1: it because I know everybody's going to say that Lauren
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  Speaker 1: should feel comfortable and don't make her do anything that
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't want to do. Fair enough, I understand that,
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  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, sometimes you suck
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  Speaker 1: up your own pride or insecurities to do something for
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  Speaker 1: somebody that's very important in your life on one of
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  Speaker 1: the most important days of their life and not for me.
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  Speaker 1: She's not doing it for me or anybody else except
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  Speaker 1: for you. You know, I don't even know we're really dramatizing,
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  Speaker 1: you know, if she doesn't want to do it at
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  Speaker 1: the wedding, we're just creating storylines right now. What if
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  Speaker 1: she objects when I before I say I do actually, okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's a that's a question for the next topic. I
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  Speaker 1: want to finish this out by saying I think it's
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  Speaker 1: like my sister is not a shy person at all.
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  Speaker 1: She's super outspoken and blunt and funny, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: like she doesn't hide in the shadows. She doesn't come
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  Speaker 1: across as a nervous person. So that's why I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I don't even believe her fear public speaking, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm like Lauren, You're just like you're very out She's
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  Speaker 1: not outgoing, but you know she's not afraid to talk
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  Speaker 1: to people. No, I agree. I'm just thinking of people
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  Speaker 1: that would object before we say I do, Okay, we'll
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  Speaker 1: move on to this now. I was thinking Dean would
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  Speaker 1: do it just to mess things up, just to just
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  Speaker 1: did he say that the other day. I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: do it just for like giggles. Yeah, I don't think
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  Speaker 1: he'll actually do it, but I think there's a part
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  Speaker 1: of him that might just yell it and then he'll smile.
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  Speaker 1: Now I know, I agree. If anything, well, I guess
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  Speaker 1: we can tell we can should we should break some news,
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  Speaker 1: she breaks some news about our Officientum, I will, I will,
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  Speaker 1: I will say, I will, I will tease it a
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  Speaker 1: bit so because it is is it today's day July.
• 12:20
  Speaker 1: Let's not give the exact dataway. And we are recording
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  Speaker 1: this right now, no, no, Jared re recording this right
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  Speaker 1: now on July. And that's why I'm telling people why
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  Speaker 1: we have to make this. We made this decision. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, listen, We've talked a lot of about it,
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  Speaker 1: a lot having Tanner officiate our wedding because he's been
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  Speaker 1: very close to both of us and been very close
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  Speaker 1: to our relationship and has been there through every step
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  Speaker 1: of the way, both him and Jade um. But Jade's
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  Speaker 1: pregnant and we don't know when the baby will come,
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  Speaker 1: so we may have had to change some plans. We
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  Speaker 1: had to go with our backup efficient. I think we've
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  Speaker 1: been pretty open the entire time at ver since we
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  Speaker 1: found out that Tanner and Jade's baby, we can tell
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  Speaker 1: you is do the same week as our wedding, okay,
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  Speaker 1: the same week. So when they told us that back
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  Speaker 1: in February, it was we were like, okay, well, we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have to get a back up. And for some reason,
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  Speaker 1: I really truly thought that she was going to have
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  Speaker 1: the baby a month early. Yeah, now we are a
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  Speaker 1: lot closers taken out. Well, I think what really changed
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  Speaker 1: our mind one, I think we both thought Jade was
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  Speaker 1: going to have the baby early, just because Emmy came
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  Speaker 1: a month early. And for those of you who don't know,
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  Speaker 1: which probably everybody listened to this podcast knows, Emmy is
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  Speaker 1: Tanner and Jade's firstborn daughter who came a month early.
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  Speaker 1: And apparently if a mother has a baby early, there's
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  Speaker 1: more likelihood that if she gets prediant again, she'll have
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  Speaker 1: a baby early again. Um, but that didn't happen. Well,
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  Speaker 1: she she may still have it early, but not as early,
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  Speaker 1: not a month earliest. So when we found out the news,
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  Speaker 1: we obviously had to go with the backup efficient or
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  Speaker 1: at least plan, you know, when when we we kind
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  Speaker 1: of gave him too, like you know, we gave him
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  Speaker 1: until a certain date, We're like, if they don't have
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  Speaker 1: the baby by then, then we're probably gonna have to
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  Speaker 1: go with the backup because we actually have to work
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  Speaker 1: on getting our ceremony. Yeah now, because we don't want both,
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  Speaker 1: you know, both people to have to go through the
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  Speaker 1: whole production of of of officiating, including like what to wear,
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  Speaker 1: what to prepare, what to say, things of that nature.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, the date that we kind of set
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  Speaker 1: came in pass, and I think Ashley and I had
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  Speaker 1: to make the decision of what direction we were going
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  Speaker 1: to move forward, and and kind of sucks because as
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  Speaker 1: much as we love the person who's officiating, which I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to spoil it because I'd rather just have
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  Speaker 1: I want to keep it. I want to keep that
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  Speaker 1: a surprise. And we we love him. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: can't speak highly you know, we speak so highly of him. Um.
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  Speaker 1: He's just an awesome, awesome person, and we're very excited.
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  Speaker 1: I'm very excited to be standing at the altar with
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  Speaker 1: this particular person. Um. But of course there's a part
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: of this we have to say that No, it's not
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Ben Um, it's uh, it's somebody that we talked a lot. Uh, yes, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: And people I remember when I first we first said
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  Speaker 1: it was Tanner, people got annoyed at me because back
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  Speaker 1: before we were together, I at one time made a
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  Speaker 1: passing comment on the on the podcast then I would
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  Speaker 1: love to have been officiate my wedding. That would I
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: think that would be wonderful. But now that it's Jared
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  Speaker 1: and I together, there were other people that I felt
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  Speaker 1: like had been more involved in Jared and I getting together. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean everybody knows the history, you know, if they're
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  Speaker 1: fans of you. They know the history of our relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and so I think there have been certain people within
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  Speaker 1: that time period that have been very instrumental and not
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  Speaker 1: only our relationship and engagement, but our friendship as well.
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  Speaker 1: And I think when we got together and got engaged
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  Speaker 1: and we're deciding who we want to officiate our wedding,
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  Speaker 1: we were thinking about those people that had been so
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  Speaker 1: integral and that not that Ben hasn't been, but I think, um,
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  Speaker 1: there's just been other people that we thought of that
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  Speaker 1: were like, Okay, this is the person that we want there,
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  Speaker 1: that I want standing at the altar with me because
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  Speaker 1: they've been there every step of the way, and we
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  Speaker 1: knew that their tone of the ceremony that they put
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  Speaker 1: together is going to be like just a tone that
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  Speaker 1: we feel I can't wait. I mean, he already told
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  Speaker 1: us what the first thing he's gonna say is, and
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  Speaker 1: I mean crying. And so I'm very excited. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: excited for the wedding to get here because we're we're
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  Speaker 1: you know, the clock sticking now it's almost here, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just been a really stressful and I think it's
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  Speaker 1: it sucks because anybody who's planning a wedding. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's been at this point now where everything is just
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  Speaker 1: becoming logistics and about money and number counting, and it
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  Speaker 1: just you kind of like, forget, holy crap, we're getting
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  Speaker 1: married here soon, and we're getting bogged down with so
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  Speaker 1: many different materialistic things that I can't even enjoy the
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: moment because we just got to like get through this.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what really stinks. It's like, Okay, well we
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  Speaker 1: just got a hardy up and get through these things
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  Speaker 1: and then we'll enjoy you know, the time after that.
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  Speaker 1: But the time after that is going to be like
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  Speaker 1: three days before the wedding. And so that's I think
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  Speaker 1: the hardest part because you put so much time, at
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  Speaker 1: least Ashley and I have put so much time and
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  Speaker 1: effort into this wedding, trying to make it the best
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: we possibly can um for us, our guests, uh, and
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: just make it, you know, the wedding we've always dreamed of.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Um that it sucks that were so stressed out by now,
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: and so I don't know, I think both of us
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: am trying to take a step back and enjoy the moment.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Let's but we don't want you to make it seem
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: like this is a funeral, But we do want to
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: thank Hulu for bringing us together tonight to celebrate their
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: new show, Four Weddings and a Funeral. Four Weddings in
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: a Funeral is a new Hulu original series produced by
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Mindy Kaling. The four main characters in the series are
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: friends from college. Mile lives in New York, while her
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: other three closest college friends are in London. One of
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: your closest friend lives in New York. I have a
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: couple of friends of New York at one in state,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: one in the city, and I really only get I
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: get to see them like a couple of times a
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: year at big events like my bridle shower that we
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: just had. So the wedding is bringing people together from
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: all differ parts of the country and that's one of
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: the that's one of the things we're most excited about.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody from London as of yet. But you never know
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: what's going to happen in the next few weeks. But
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: you can catch the premiere of the new romcom series
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Four Weddings at a Funeral July at thirty one only
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: on Hulu. Now we are joined by a couple who
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I don't want to put any pressure on you, but
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: would have a wedding in their future. They've been together
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: for a year now. We're joined by Joe and Kendall.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: Hello there, Hey guys. So we were talking about wedding
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: speeches a minute ago. Have you ever been to a
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: wedding where there was somebody who just bombed at this speech? Yes? Okay,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: and tell your stories. You want me to go first, okay.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: So it was my cousin's wedding, and it was my cousin.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: She cried the entire speech, but not because she was sad,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: not because she was sad, because she was so nervous
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: and she couldn't deliver the speech. And I know how
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: that is because I do get nervous, but she was.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: It was so bad and it went on for I
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: hope she doesn't listen to this, actually, but it was.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: She probably will. It went on for like twenty five
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: minutes where people were like, oh my god, this is horrible,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: and a part of me wanted to get up and
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: stop it, but I didn't. Um And then that's really
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: that's crying. Because she was standing up there, you would
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: think that she had just been She went through the
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: entire Your speech was probably like to notebook pages full
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: of you know, a lot she did, and she didn't
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: want to you know, she couldn't give it up. Hold on,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I'm not joking. So how I believe every second, every word?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: How long were her crying episodes? So she would like,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: say a paragraph, cry for three minutes, and then I
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: would say she would say maybe two sentences and then cry.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: Are you sure she wasn't just overly emotional? Why do
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: you think it was crying from nerves because she was shaking. Okay,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: so she was nervous, but but she it was her cousin.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, who gets really that emotional cousin When a
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: cousin gets married, men they're close. But it wasn't like
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: just like a regular cousin getting married and she's given
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: a speech, but she was nervous. There was a lot
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: of people there. It was like four people. That I'd
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: be nervous in front of four people, but it was
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: still all the worst speech. Okay, Kendall, how about your um.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: I actually used to be a wedding photographer assistant. Why
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: do I feel like you could basically go through the
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: most random occupations and kenda that I've had literally so
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: many different weird jobs. But yes, I was an assistant
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: for photographer for weddings and so I've seen a lot
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: of different speeches. Um, the worst speech, I feel really
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: bad because I think it was the bridesmaid. I'm sorry,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: the maid of honor, and I feel like she really
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: tried to be funny in her speech, but her entire speech,
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: she was saying how she didn't like the groom when
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: they first met. And she was like, yeah, I used
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: to crete so many bananas. I used to call him
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: a monkey, and no one laughed, like literally no one laughed. Yeah,
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: And we're just sitting there like She's like, yeah, I
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: just didn't like him when we first met. And I
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: was like, you don't deserve my friend, and she just
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: kept going and no one was like laughing at all.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: She's like, uh god. There was the speech basically that
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: we at the wedding we were at in January. What
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: was he saying that I don't remember specifically. He was
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: the brother of the bride and he was just total
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: hard oh you know what I mean, like like like
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: like a tool, yeah, railing on the groom and we
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: thought he was going to like lighten up and turn
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: a corner. He was the bride's brother. He had like
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: a little some little so he had a little I
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: don't know, let him speak, but he was just I
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: mean everything. It was even funny. It was just like, yeah,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: the groom's a dick. Yeah. I was like, and then
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: just silence, and you're like, wait, was that? Am I
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: supposed to be like? It was one of those moments
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: where everybody at the tables were looking at each other
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: and being like, oh god, we feels so bad. It
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: was fantastic. It was great. I thought it was the
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: best speech I ever heard. The entertainment value. You guys
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: look forward to a wedding, I look forward to actually
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: giving one. Oh how many of you done? I've never
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: given a speech, you know, But I mean that's like,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: I really want my brother to get married for that,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: for that selfish reason that I could get go up
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: there and be like I think he'd everyone doing tonight.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he'd took a whole stand up comedy spot.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: Do you do stand up? Now? Are you trying to do?
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: I might get back into it. I did it back
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: into it. Yeah, I did it before I did the
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: whole reality. I was going to say, like, can we
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: talk about growth? Here, you were the most nervous man
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: coming out of the limbo. Well, I wasn't good at
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: stand up, but well, I love the parts. I love
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: the wedding speeches. They're my favorite part of weddings. And
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: I don't understand why so many people are like, oh,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: it's the speeches. Are they over yet? Like they're the
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: best part here, the whole fare backstory of everything, Like
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: that's the whole fairy tale that leads up to the
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: actual moment, Like that's very much worthy of time. Have
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: you guys planned out who would give speeches at your
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: you know, weddings in your head? Oh? Yeah, I would
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: have my sister hands down give a speech. But we
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: were talking about how my sister is too nervous to
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: give a speech and wants to do it at the
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: rehearsal Dinners. It doesn't seem like a nervous person. That's
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: exactly why I said, she can't get away with it. Oh,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: she she'll feel fine, though, I think once she gets
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: up there, it's yeah, hopefully she won't cry and shake
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: the entire time like the person Joe's time. She'll probably
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: be up there for twenty five minutes, just saying nonsense.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: As she's crying. Uh, have you guys talked about it? Wait?
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: We didn't talk. Wait who do you want to give
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: us your wedding? I would have my brother. I only
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: have one sibling. So now we're really close. Yeah. Is
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: he still in Chicago? He is. He's a policeman. Policeman
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: in Chicago. It's a badass. Yeah, that's a tough, tough
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: right there. Um, all right, so you guys been together
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: for a year. Now, know what your anniversary is because
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: we did not. Yeah, we don't really know. I think August.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: I think sometimes in August that's when we officially announced
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: that we were together. Yeah, I've known you for over
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: a year. Yeah, we've been living. We've basically I've been
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: living with her ever since. How is it is it?
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: How's living together? It's easy? I would just say it's easy.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: I mean that's I think that's how you can tell
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: a relationship works, is when you live together you feel
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: like that's just fun, you know it is? Yeah, I
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: always find that with Ashley and I. One of the
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: best things about our relationship is that I never really
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: feel like I need time away from her. There's past
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: relationships where I just feel like I need to be
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: away from this person for a little while, just to
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: kind of get some air. But it never a lot
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: of the times when I'm with Ashley, there is this
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: sense of being alone but not it's weird. I can
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: understand that it's a great feeling, though, because there's there's
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: really has not been a moment yet where I've thought
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I need to get out of the house. That's great.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like you are at that point, but
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: it's nice to know that you feel like we've never
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: gotten not out of the house, maybe out of the room. Yeah,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: I never feel like I have to. Joe will literally
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: go on a fifteen minute run. I'm like, when are
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: you coming back? Like what happened today? And it did
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: happen today? Well, because I like jumped on a bed
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: and hurt my neck, So I haven't been let's talk
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: about that. She's jumping on Bedstill jump on the bed,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: come on, hold on. So Joe went for a run
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: and you thought this is a great opportunity for me
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: to jump on the bed by myself. No, I jumped
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: on the bed previous to the run and I hurt
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: my neck, so I couldn't go on a run because
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: it irritated my neck too much. You're talking about like
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: mcaulay culkin and home alone, jumping on the bed trying
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: to video. She was getting that I wasn't jumping on
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: the bed, and then I tried to leap over the
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: table and jump on the bed and I almost broke
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: my head. What we do to freaking for freaking social media?
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: You know, we're putting our body at jeopardy. I kind
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: of want to be able to fly on the wall
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: in your household right now. It's a lot of fun.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: It is a lot of pillows and jumping on beds
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: and pillows. You guys have a lot of pillow pillows. Yeah.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: We Initially it was supposed to be a pillow fight,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: and then it went from a pillow fight to jumping
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: on the bed. Then it turned to something else. Then
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: it was like Jared and I need to like start
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: getting like our hearts up more. Guys, it was a nap.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: Do you think I'm talking about? Were very healthy? You know, baby,
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: we do? You know, we get it on. I want
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: to take the white away from this guy. I have
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: a drinking lemonade. I just want to keep I just
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: wanted Joe to keep talking, right now I'm gonna come
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: out next. Joe has really come out of his shell
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: since we met him. This is where. Yeah, it was
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: very hard. I remember when you first interviewed me. Oh
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: my god, it was you were the hardest interview I
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: ever had. I wasn't. I wasn't easy. But now it's
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: just now you can't get him to stop talking. I
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: like it. How was how was your time in the badchut?
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: Was cool? You know he met the love of my life.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: Oh no, not bachelorette. That was Paradise. Paradise not even
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: meet the bachelorette did right there, and she said that
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: he was she was. He was so nervous that it
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: was like actually a turn off for her, which is
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: why I didn't get through that night. That's what she said.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: I'll remember that one. Maybe I'm putting words into beccas.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: It probably was probably a turn off, probably like if
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: we you know, it wasn't couldn't have an easy, flowey conversation.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I loved that Joe was nervous. I mean, I think
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: the first time we hung out in Paradise, he brought
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: me this whole plate of fruits and vegetables and started
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: like naming all the different fruits and vegetables, and he
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: was so sweat I was sweating and I and then
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I knew that I was sweating, and she called me
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: out and it just kept coming and I'm like, oh
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: my god, I thought it was so cute. This guy's
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: well hydrated on the bach ret Rebecca's. I walked up
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: to him like, so, like, what's your pet peeve? And
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: then after I said, I'm like, oh my god, what
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I felt like my grandmother right now. And she was
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: so confused, She's like, what what's your pet peeve? Um?
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: When people stand in front of me at the airport
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: waiting for their luggage, what I do have me to
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: say about that? I hate when people walk right in
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: front of you when you're luggage. It's like, this is
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: my lane. I agree with you. You You had a guy,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: he said the other day, like the bag dropped and
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: he goes, excuse me, my, that's my bag, and the
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: guy literally just kept standing there. I mean, it was
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: l a what did I expect him to be nice
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: to me? I'm in the wrong town, that's true. It's like,
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: my bag is faw superior to your back. That's a
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: weird pet peeve. That and people at Disneyland. They walk
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: really slow. Oh yeah, one things are bad. One thing
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: that Joe's had to learn about being in a relationship
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: with me is that my family goes. My dad works
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: for Disney, so we're always going to Disneyland. So we
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: had to deal with the slow walkers of Disneyland. We
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: had to have a serious conversation. We did actually have
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: a very fact that I told him, Like, listen, I
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: just I can't keep going to Disneyland, just like I'm
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: a grown adult. Reason why you U should go. Jared
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: wants to go to Disneyland and especially Universal Studios way
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: more than we do. Well, they just the Jurassic World
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: ride just open was technically Orlando. He doesn't want to
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: go around here. He wants to take a trip to
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: Orlando just for the well, Orlandos is far better. That
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: is way better. Also, Harry Potter, the Harry Potter Land
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: different is way better. I mean I haven't been, but
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: I've heard stories. The Different Bank is there. Yeah, you're missing.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: The world is even way better than Disneyland. I'll just
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: say it. I think everyone's thinking it's massive better. There's
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: four different parks in disney World. Yeah, Disneyland. It's like
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: a little a puddle. I mean, they opened up Star
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: Wars Galaxy, which is really anyway, we don't talk about anyway.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: Let's go back to your weddings. Well, well, okay, fine, Jared,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: you asked the next question, then I have the next one.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: All right. Well, I was just gonna say, we're talking
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: about who lose four weddings in the funeral? So we're
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: talking about weddings here. You guys have been together for
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: over a year. You're in the Bachelor World. Been together
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: for a year is pretty much like growing old together.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: Is there an engagement? Have you guys talked about the future? Kids, engagement, marriage? Yeah,
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: we actually are. You guys just keep having pillow fights.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: That's a part of the engage, which is a fantastic thing.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Not saying a bad thing. That's part of the engagement.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: There's gonna be like a ring inside the pillow and
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: I'll like get hit in the head with it. Now.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: But we I mean, we talked about I mean, I
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: guess I feel like since we've met, engagement has been
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: a part of the conversation, which is weird. It's Bachelor World,
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, And we've also I mean, I think
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: we're each other's longest relationship we've ever been in. So
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: really it's interesting for both of you. A year is
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: your longest. Yeah, yeah, a year is my longest too.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: We've been together for a year, and we've been together
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: for a year and a half. Yeah, well, actually my
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: longest I was about say, your math made no sense.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: They're my longest relationship is a year. We've been together
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: for a year and a half. My real, real relationship
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: that was beyond a few months. Yeah, my longest relationship
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: is four years. It was a big one. That's a
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: long long time ago. Early it was like ninety So
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: there will be an engagement in our future if we
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: last four years. For the four years I'm saying the
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: four years a timeline really, well, I mean for me,
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I would definitely I wanted to be a surprise, so
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: I'm hoping to do it on the next season of
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: The Bachelor. But yeah, I mean I wanted to be
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: a surprise, and I feel like we are. I mean,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: we are very much in love, and we have a
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: great time and we enjoyed living together. Comfortable with you
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: idea of engagement, I would say, I mean, you know,
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: it could come any day now. But it's going to
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: be a little bit. Is it happening right now? He's
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: getting something from his pocket. My last question for you
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: guys kind of well, in this in this Hulu show
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: for weddings, in the Funeral, the groom is kind of
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: in love with the bride's best friend and there's like
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: a lot of awkwardness at their wedding that you see
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: at the end of the first episode, and I'm thinking
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: that would have been one of the circumstances. Oh, that's
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: kind of that's kind of how it is. Um, he
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: was like, I don't do like. I'm not doing. I'm
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: not going to marry you. How have you ever been
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: to a wedding where does anybody know what? He don't do?
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Not like? I do like I do, not do I
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: do I do? Jared, I don't I do I do
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: no like. I backed out and he says, I don't
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: do He just didn't actually say that I don't want
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: to marry alight. I don't love you. I love your sister, guy.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: I have a twin sister. So yeah, that's true. This
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: is well, that's a whole conversation. Have you guys ever
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: been to a wedding or heard stories where somebody either
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: says I don't they back out the day of or
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: somebody who says I object I actually did a whole
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: podcast episode, and if you're really interested, you go to
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: my other podcast and in search it. But we did
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: a whole episode of people um with objections at the
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: altar and there were surprisingly, we got enough stories for
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: a whole podcast episode. Joe's nodding his head over here.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: I have a great one. Okay, good for you. I
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: personally don't know the guy, but I heard this. Okay.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: So the day of the wedding, he found out, like
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: a week before the wedding that she was sleeping with
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: someone else. This is usually how it is, okay. So
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: what he did was and he got he had pictures
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: of them together, like sleeping together. So he printed out
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: a bunch of pictures, printed out a bunch of pictures,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: put him underneath all the seeds at the wedding. Oh
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: my god, this is worse than the story I was
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: gonna say. And then as he was about to say
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: I do he called her out. I think they had
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: a projector screen or something and boom, and he said, like,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: look under your seats um, she's you know whatever, YadA YadA, YadA,
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: and then you know, YadA YadA over sex me. Is
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: that a sign? Fold quarter? And and he walked out,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: So the story dropped. The story that I heard was
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: very similar. When the bride was supposed to read her vows,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: she ended up reading text messages between the groom and
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: the mistress. Such an expensive way of right, call out.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: We're still having dinner afterwards, like they said that they did.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: They win partied afterwards, like they took advantage of it. Yeah,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I mean you have to. I mean you only live once,
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: so yeah, find out your spouse is cheating. Just do
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: it at the wedding. Suppose about the wedding. That's like
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: a whole crazy stuff. Guys. Well, Joe Kindnell, thank you
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: for joining us, of course, on this very special four
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: weddings in a fuerial episode in the Almost Say podcast.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: Yes and Joe, before you go, we heard something really
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: cool that you're doing. Oh yeah, I have a clothing
• 36:34
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• 36:37
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• 36:42
  Speaker 1: So frown we are doing the word frown upside down
• 36:45
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• 36:48
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• 36:53
  Speaker 1: have hoodies and t shirts and we're going to drop
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: a bunch of different and we're spreading smiles. Yes, and
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: they can little positivity in this negative social media world totally.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: And I'm assuming everybody can find that on your Instagram
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: and you can definitely find that on my Instagram and
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: on our Instagram at Frown Clothing. Why was cliff Lips
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: a thing for you? Because it went it just went
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: hand in hand with what we were trying to with
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: just yeah, with smiling and it works. And Smile Trains
• 37:24
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• 37:29
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• 37:31
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• 37:36
  Speaker 1: their toes. Stay tuned, guys, August first or seven. I
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: know you guys are gonna watch Four Weddings in the
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: Funeral after this podcast because you've just heard it talked
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: about too much for you not to just break your
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: curiosity and click on it when you see it on Hulu.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: It's under their original series relationships are forged and broken.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: Political scandals are exposed. London social life lampooned, love affairs
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: ignited in DAWs and of course there are four weddings
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: and a funeral. Of course, Duffy has a secret crush
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: on Maya and Craig is trying to help a secret crush.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: Have I ever had a secret crush? I feel like
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: all of my crushes in high school or secret. I
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: never told my friends about them. What about you, babe?
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we talked about this on a podcast a
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: while ago, about a crush you had in high school
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: but you never had the guts to tell him that
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: you actually liked them. No, that was in grad school.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Oh well, for me, it was a high school girl.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: Then you did this episode before We're Together. Yeah. I
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: sent her flowers on Valentine's Day. I don't know if
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: you guys remember that in high school you were able
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: to like send little chocolates or flowers to like somebody's
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: home room desk. I did that, and then I didn't
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: have the guts tell her I liked her, And I
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, I just I just wanted you to
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: have a good day. You're just such a cute little
• 38:52
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• 38:58
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• 39:06
  Speaker 1: Hey guys, we are joined now by Heather Martin from
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: Colton season. I'm sorry, but you were notoriously known for
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: having your first kiss with Carlton. So now I got
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: to ask, how do you feel about couples practicing their
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: wedding altar kiss? Practicing it? Don't you feel like you
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: need to practice it? We're getting up. They've never heard
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: of that my entire life. I'm getting married a little while. Um,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: what are you talking about, babe? We were talking about
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: how you better not pick me up there. That was
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: a joke. Of course, I'm not gonna he does. Now
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: we joke. Now he pecks me in real life and
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: he goes, okay, let's go Wait. Is that a thing
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: to practice? Yeah? Never heard of that. I think Actuley's
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: making this up. I want to make sure that we
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: have like a tasteful romantic kiss. What is that entail? Like?
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: What is it tasteful? A real lip lock but no tongue. Okay,
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: that's fine, do we need to practice like we've done
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: that a million times? I mean timing how long it
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: will be? You wanted to be absolutely perfect? Is that
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: you're saying? I think it should be. I think we
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: should be rehearsed, like once or twice. I've never thought
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: about that ever. I just thought kissing was kissing. Whatever
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: it feels right in the moment, babe. If a peck
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: feels right, I think I think we should just do it.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: There's a couple of things that I tell Jared. If
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: he were to do on our wedding peck me at
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: the altar and then put too much gel in his hair,
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, Okay, I'm mad, Good Lord in Heaven,
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: would you rather have? Would you rather have a peck
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: or like him? Like go at it? Like at it?
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Of course? Yeah, head, you'd rather you'd rather at the alter?
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Could you imagine seeing a bride and groom or any
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: couple up there just give a peck as if they
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: don't passionately love each other on the on their wedding day,
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: I'd rather see like tongue saliva. I think it pec too.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: I think of peck too. Know what peck is like?
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Do they like each other. When I watch wedding shows
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: like wedding docuseries, I always say I have seen some sloppy,
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: gross kisses at the I'll say that that's not that's
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: not appealing. No one likes it. No one likes it.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: Nobody likes But peck is true. You do think, like,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: do they actually like it? Yeah, it's like, come on, guys,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: it's your wedding day. I know you're getting married, but
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, let's show some emotion
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: and passion here. Anyway, Heather, you were on Colton season.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: What are you up to now? Have you? Have you
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: kissed anybody else? She hasn't. Everyone asked me that feels no,
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: I have not. I have not. I asked her this
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago. Yeah, well, one, it's it's
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: obviously your choice. It has to be. You are a striking,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: beautiful woman. It's true. I'm saying that be nice to
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: actually don't kill me like, it's true. It's true. It's
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: always like this weird thing now that because I like
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: to compliment everybody, but it's weird as a complimenting. Alright, great, perfect,
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: as long as you know if you were feel weird
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: me complimenting anyone. It depends on how you he does.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: He doesn't like because there'll be times we're watching the
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: Bachelorette and somebody will say like, oh, that guy is sexy,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: and I should be like, I know he is sexy,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: and it's like you're not allowed to say sexy about
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: any other man. Sometimes I feel like I've just like
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: slipped out things like when we're with our like you know,
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: bachelor friends, like I think I've said to like Ben
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: and and like you look great, it looks so good,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: you look so good today, looks awesome, your hair looks nice.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: And I can see she doesn't say your hair looks nice.
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: You always you always like compliment their looks or how
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: good looking they are. And it's like, alright, ash settled back.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: You like get a compliment thing, compliments to a certain extent,
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I think every person, a lot of people feel the
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: way I do. Now we're in a relationship and you're like,
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: all right, sudden, you know, take it back a little bit.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: But I feel like, actually, is though you kind of
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: compliment everyone in general. Right Well, I think Ashley and
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: I have actually talked about this. We both at that
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: we both make people feel good, but really telling them
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: about like what we find very apeeling about that. But
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: I think Ashley as God used to call me a
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: flurgent on the show Alerty Virgin. That was what the producers.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: You're very flirty and you're also it's gonna sound I
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: hope this doesn't sound bad. You're kind of a fan girl. Yeah,
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: that's not so bad at all. But when being a fan,
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: but when you see someone who you view as you know,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: very good looking boy band or whatever, you know your
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: type is you and you end up fan girling over
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: them and it's not like my role as host, I know,
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: but I remember it caused it. I'm not even gonna lie.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: It caused issues in our relationship. Early on. There was
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: a couple of moments where he was like, I got
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: you look at him and it's like, I know, it's
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: I know, nothing would ever happen. It's not it's not
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: that I think that you would cheat on me or
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: anything like that. It's more imagine if I looked at
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: a woman the way you look at some guys. See
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: I argued this with Jared. I think when guys look
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: at girls and like they like think about their appearance.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: When guys talk about a girl's appearance, it's more like,
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Oh she's hot, I'd like to bang her. With girls
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh he's hot, I want to look at him.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: I agree, I totally it's not We're not as sexually
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: oriented when it comes to like visuals. We need like
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: a lot more to be like sexually attractive. So if
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: I looked at a girl the way that you look
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: at some guys, and I know that it's not any like.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: I know you love me and you find me very attractive.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I tell you that you're the hottest person every single day.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: I know, and you're so supportive and so um you
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: hype me up all the time, and I love you
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: about that. But if I looked at girls the way
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: sometimes you look at guys, just in terms of that
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: that awe you, you would you would, you would kill me.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: I do think it's a double standard, though, because girls
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: do that all the time, Like actors, musicians, girls who
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: are married and so happily married can just go off
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: about like how much they have like a crush or
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: like their fan girling over somebody. But it's a double standard.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: But I think there is a certain innocence to our
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: crushes that guys don't happen. It does feel different. It
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: totally is a double standard, Like it totally is, but
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: there's something different about it. There really is. There really is.
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: It's two against one right standards, though, this is his
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: biggest thing in life, double standards in any uh, acid
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: of life, whether it's you know, towards women or towards men.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying what I do is right, but I
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: know that what I do is very innocent. Oh, I
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: know it is too. It's just more of of course,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: you know, as as any person, if you saw your
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: significant other kind of like in awe of somebody else's looks,
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: you would be like, wow, this feels like cracky and
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: feel like it can't feel good. Yeah, and it's not
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: anything intentional. Also, yesterday we were watching Once upon a
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: Time in Hollywood. I was drooling over Margaret Robbie than Leo.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Like I was like, oh my god, her face, her face,
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: her face totally. But I do that with guys all
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: the time. Yeah, Like I drool over Tom Brady. But
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: it's not just the drool over guys more than girls though,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: I know, actually, you know, it's really funny. This is
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: kind of a small story so I'm a big Rob
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: Thomas fan. We were, we've become friendly. Long story, we
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: were hanging out with him before his last concert in
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: Boston and he he looked at Ashley and me and
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: he's like, you know, the more I get to know Jared,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: the more I realized that all his like crushes are guys.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: And then he was like, but he's like, but he's like,
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: but I totally get that because when I think about it,
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: all my crushes are guys too, because a guy, it's like,
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: you know, obviously something like Margot Robbie is stunning and beautiful,
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: but if you're asking, like who would I rather meet
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: Margot Robbie or Tom Brady or even like Margot Robbie
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: or leon Nodo DiCaprio, it's not even a question. I
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: want to meet Leo every day of the week. And
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: you know, and I don't know. That's just like my
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: way of thinking because I'm like, I think it's also
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: like because I want to be like that. Yeah, you
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: want to be like that, you know, and you already
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: have your girl, so like, what's the point. That's what
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: we're also saying to Rob Thomas. We're one our hall passes.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: We can't have all passes because they're too attainable, which
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: is understood too attainable, too attainable, like we could just
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: casually run into them on the street, or like we're
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: one to re of separation from them, you know what
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I mean. It's like not even funny anymore, because she
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: told me who's your hall pass? Again? I think Joe
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: Jonas is my number one hall pass Milo. So every
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: girl in the world fund raising their hands about Joe
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: and Milo. I obviously have Joe, Milo and Jared not
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: to mention that I just saw a trailer for a
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: dog movie that's coming out starring Milo was good and
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: if there wasn't just enough women in the world that
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: will go see that movie. Um, but it's it's interesting
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: because like that could have we know someone who knows him,
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, no, that that could we
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: could easily just meet him and then a should be like, well,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: that's my hall pass, you said it said. So then
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: when this when we start having this hall pass conversation,
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: which originated like a year ago when we first got engaged,
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: I was like, let's not use the hardword hall pass.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: That would infer Yeah, that we wanted to like, bang
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: for sure. That's not like a like I have a
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: celebrity crush. I'm like, these are my celebrity crushes that
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: they're not hall passes. But I just say that with Leo,
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: I think you'd almost want me to get with Leo.
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: I see if people missing true the other time, because
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: when I talk about like someone like Brady, they're like, oh,
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: you would, you would totally make out Brady, And it's
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: like you personally you know me, you know, because they're like, oh,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: you love him. It's like one there's different types of love,
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: you know. The way I love my parents is not
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: the same way I love my Ashley way as I
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: loved Tom Brady. Yes, I agree, um, but it's so
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: I forget where I was going with this. You know,
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: we're going with all of it. I don't know, wouldn't no, not,
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: there's anything wrong with that, the opportunity he should make
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: out with I would like to yeah, you know, okay, uh,
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: like I said that there's anything wrong with that. People
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: want to make out Tom Brady. I totally get it.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: It's just not my preference. I want to grab a
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: beer with Brady, even though he doesn't drink beer. I
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: don't think because he's you know, health, he does. I
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: think he does. He chucked the beer Murmber that time,
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: like somebody's into the story. It was not Stephen Colbert. Okay,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: and where you did the He chugged the beer in
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: like half a second. Anyway, Wow, we really off topic, Heather,
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: who are your celebrity crushes? We can arrange your next kiss.
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: Since these are all like one degree of separations, we
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: can try to arrange this. That's such a big question.
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: So much there's nobody that comes to mind, like even
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: just like a few names that you're like, oh, that person,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: this person, like since like forever, like since Cinderella story,
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: Like Chad Michael Murray is a fantastic better than Chad
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: Michael Murray. Isn't there somebody Hill? He doesn't look that
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: much like they're both very attractive men. But I don't
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: think John Paul Jones looks too much. Like she's saying, no,
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: you have got to watch Injury Hill. Oh my gosh,
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: you would actually like and I cannot will watching it
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: that that Chad Michael Murray was the hottest person in
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: the entire world. I think so. I really enjoyed checkle
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: Chackle Chad Michael Murray in House of Wax. No, but yeah,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: of course you haven't. Obviously, Paris Hilton's in there, Parris Hillen,
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: there's a couple of people. I can't remember. What else
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: do I know Chad Michael Murray from because I know
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: he's from Cinderella Story, but he's Freaky Friday. Freaky Friday. Yeah,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: that's where I know him from. Jam is a great
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: celebrity crush. He's just like, yeah, he's a good one,
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: all right, So he's married. He's married. Take a single
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: crash and we'll have our emailers call in with connections.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: But really, Amy is just connected to everyone saying it.
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: I should have come up with this song before. Are
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: you like a nineties heart throb girl? Are you kind
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: of like three old? Holy crap, I'm old. She's like
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: almost a decade younger than us. Who's all right? What
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: about Justin Timberlake? I like Justin Timberlake, but he wasn't
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: like my ultimate Like when I was a sophomore in
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: high school, I kissed Harry Styles on the cheek and
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: it was the best day in my entire life. So
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: you should say that's yeah, I met him. I stalked
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: him to a golf course, like I heard my friend
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: was golfing and I heard he was there, and I
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: literally like we had a math final the next day,
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: and I was like, I do not care. I stalked
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: into the golf course, got the picture, kissed him on
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: the cheeks, my friend. I think it's the same in
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: my life, like literally still to this day, like I
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: will like the feeling of oh yeah, it was great
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: and he was right super nice. Well he was like
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: trying to run away from everyone, but like I found him,
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: Like I was like, I was going, I found him.
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: No one else call a picture except me and my
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: friend and we just like stalked into a scar. That's amazing.
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: It was an amazing How do you feel about his
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: casting as Prince Eric. It's not officially. I don't think
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: Lauren called me like shrinking that it was. That's here too. Yeah,
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: I heard about it officially yet because I went I
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: looked it up when Lauren called, and I don't think
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: it's officially had great. He was great park If you
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: guys saw that, I didn't see it. Yeah, he can act.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: I think that was his name. Did a great job
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: as Elton John in rocket Man. But still yeah, but
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: I still think Harry could have really killed that role choke. Okay, well,
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: we are going on and on and on. Thank you
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: so much for joining us than for that was great.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Thanks you, Thanks you guys. Thanks for I know you
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: guys are probably missing Ben very much. You're like, Wow,
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: Ashley really needs Ben to hold this podcast out. Well,
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: that's a busy man. He's been in Switzerland, Okay, He's
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: has these companies to run, and now he has something
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: else on this plate. It is The Bachelor Live on
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: Stage and he is the host of this live tour.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: They're hitting up a bunch of cities, um all throughout
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: the country. It's gonna be kind of like a game
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: show and Ben is hosting the whole shebang. You can
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: go get more information at Bachelor Live on Stage dot com.
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: Four Weddings and a Funeral is a new Hulu original
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: series focusing on the lives of four college friends and
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: their different relationship and career crisis. One of the main characters, Craig,
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: has a girlfriend named Zara, who is an outsider to
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: the college friend group. Actually, you've ever been an outsider?
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: I feel like you've always been an outsider. What do
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: you mean? What do you mean? Because I always like
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: embraced myself fullheartedly. I don't think. I don't think. I
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: don't remember stories of you having Really I don't have
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: a friend high school group. I have, well, an outsider Jared.
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: I it's called somebody who had a lot of friends
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: and different groups. I never had like a core group.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: Now I know. It was really sad, and I think
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: that's why I love the Bachelor family so much, because
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: it's like my first group of friends. We can all
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: hang together and like we all relate to each other
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: and we all get along. Because other than that, I've
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: always just had like my friend here, my friend here,
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: my friend here, my friend here, and my friend here.
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: I think you can probably relate to this coming from
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: the Bachelor, just like I was. I guess have you
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: ever had do you ever disliked a friend's friend? Friends? Friends?
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: Like you're close with a friend and you're like, I
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: love you, but then they always bring another friend around
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: that you have to hang out with because they're friends,
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: but you don't like them. Gonna be honest, because nobody's
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: sticking out. I'm going to say, now, no, even in
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: the Bachelor world, I feel like, that's a given the
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: bachelor world, I like almost everyone. Well, that's very you're
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: a very sweet person. Now you can catch all the
• 55:53
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• 56:01
  Speaker 1: only on Hulu. Okay, guys, we are joined by Crystal,
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: who's become really like a regular on this podcast, like
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: she's been on maybe three of the past six episodes.
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: I feel like, but I have a great question that
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: I want to concentrate on with our segment with Grissel,
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: because she just got married, and because we're about to
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: get married, and because this has been something that Jared
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: and I have bickered about when going to other people's weddings.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: A question, and we asked the Instagram audience this a
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: couple of months ago. Do how much do you give
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: a couple? How much do you give a couple of
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: your giving money, so so you're like, you're giving money
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: at a wedding as a gift. How much do you
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: give person person to per couple? Do you even do
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: it by per per person? I'm so confused by this
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: because we went to a wedding a couple of months ago,
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: not yours, but somebody else's wedding. We went to, well
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: just quite beautiful. But we went to another wedding before that,
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: a couple of months ago, and I was like, oh,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: we should give this amount. Actually was like are you
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: saying it? Was like, Jared, how cheap are you? That's
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: so embarrassing? And I was like, what are you talking
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: about a little more than that? I say that it
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: should be too, about two hundred a couple and about
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: a hundred dollars per individual. You know. I think it's
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: so interesting because when you when you buy gifts, you're
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: you're buying the gifts, and I would spend probably at
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: least a couple hundred dollars individually. Um, when it's money,
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: it's so different because it's such a different category, isn't it?
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: And I actually haven't I are we gonna figure out
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: how much money I'm giving to you at your wedding.
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: We don't want anything. This is very this isn't this
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: is perfect. Don't give anything perfect. I'm being honest because
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: so many of our guests actually gets mad at me
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: every time I say this, But I really don't want
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: that many gifts, just because I know asked, was gonna
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: slap me, but I feel bad for everybody who has
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: to pay money to fly out, get a hotel. It's
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: not cheap, and so the gift is kind of secondary
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: the most important things we want people there, Yeah, but
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: it is. It is nice to give. And I think
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: that Chris and I asked for We didn't really ask
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: for um a lot of presents. We asked for money
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: towards like our honey, little Honey fun. And I really
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: enjoyed that because we actually got to create experiences. And
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: I know, like when it comes to money, I think
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: that it's interesting, but I think minimum a hundred dollars
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: a person. Yeah, I think so too. And it seemed
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: like Instagram was I said with Instagram the Instagram I
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: said around a hundred or around two hundred, and most
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: people said around two hundred. Jared expected he thought like
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: the norm was like less than seventy five. You thought
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: it was around seventy five. Well, I never I never
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: even quantified it as per person. I was just like,
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: here's money for the couple. I never was like, oh,
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: I gotta spend at least seventy bucks per personal jaredy. Yes,
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: they at their tables, their plates that they like your
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: your dinner cost them at least fifty dollars usually, I know,
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: So it's so crazy. Like um years ago, when I
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: first started going to weddings and have like my friends
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: that started getting married, I remember sitting down with her
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: and my friend Ashley and going over She's like, yeah,
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: it's like a hundred and fift dollars ahead, and I
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: was like, wait, what what And she's like and was
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: complaining about like people not r s v P or
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: people wanting to bring plus the ones that were like
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: in serious relationships. And I never seen it from that
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: bridal perspective before, but I was like, oh my gosh,
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: there's so much, so much that goes into having guests there.
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: So y'all rs v P to the way shop according
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: to what the registry of what the Brennan grum we're
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: asking for. And I would say, I personally like doing gifts,
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: even if it's just like experiences, so like, but you
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: can probably expect from me as like a little note
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: that says what this money will be, because it's like
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: an experience and I like having like that little quantifiable contribution. No,
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: I liked your registry because it was. It was like
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: money for the honeymoon, money for this, and it was
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: like airline uber food out of this kind of restaurant.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: I thought that was pretty thoughtful and pretty cool. What
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: are you guys doing? We have a crame Barrel registry,
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: and then we also have like a honeymoon or we
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: have like a house fund. We're calling it our house
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: fund because we always spend so much time together watching
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: h G t V and dreaming about our ideal house,
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: dreaming that I feel like everything we do is like, Okay,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: this is going to go to our house one day. Yeah.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: I mean every kind of like penny we save, it's like,
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: all right, this is going. Where is that house going
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: to be? That's a great question. In Rhode Island somewhere
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: probably just l A. It's so expensive. Dollar doesn't go far.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: You don't get your you know, the bank for the
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: book out here, and it sucks. It's just like why
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: would I pay for a house over here? It's like, yeah,
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: here's a two thousand square foot house, two bedrooms, one
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: and a half path, two million dollars and it's like
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: what I know? I was looking. I was my first
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: team out of California in two thousand twelve. I was
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: looking on zello just for fun. I get afford anything
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: because I was like a server. But I saw in
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: studio city four hundred and fifty square feet foot studio
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: nine hundred dollars, and I was like, I'm coming from
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: like Montana, Idaho, And I was like, is this what
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: it is out here? You just turned right back around
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: back of the hound coort. How long do you work
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: in the hospitality industry for? I worked in food and
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: beverage for twelve years high five. Yeah, I'm a little
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: closer to thirteen. I worked in it for. My first
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: job was fifteen bussing at Cellos Cellos and Warwick, Rhode
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: Island was a bussing now it was like a hometown,
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: like family five h Yeah. We went to Cellos on
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: the water, different water. Yeah, it was different one. But anyway,
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: I've worked for god eleven eleven twelve years in the hospital.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: But I know you treat everybody so well, and you're
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: so personalble with everybody, and you can tell that you
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: have a background working with people. And I've always said
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: everybody it should be a college course to work in
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: the food industry or any type of hospitality hotel, because
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: dealing with people teaches you how to deal with people,
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: how to just how to be a nice person, you know,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: to look at somebody in the eyes, to respond to somebody,
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: I think, even just to speak respectfully, even to just
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: I know, as a server, there are many many moments
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: where I just felt so degraded taking someone's order and
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm trying to serve your family, lady, like
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: your kids are screaming, I'm here like helping out. I
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: was bartending to after the show at times, and it
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: was the worst feeling ever because so many times people
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: would come in and they would be like, oh my god,
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: you're Jared from The Bachelor. What the hell? Like they'd
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, I'm so excited to meet you,
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: because if you're on TV, they immediately assume that you
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: have fame and fortune. And it was just sometimes really
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: difficult because then I'd be like, no, I'm bartending here,
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: like can I get something to drink? And it was
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: just like this weird, surreal moment I think for them
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: because they were like, oh my god. I thought, like,
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: what are you doing here? You were on TV, and
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: it's like that's not how reality TV. Works, you know,
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: and so yeah whenever, uh, sometimes I remember not to
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: be weird. I would get numbers all the time. It
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: was just like that. But when he was working in
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: l A, when we first like started dating, and he
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: was bar attending because he really just wanted to bartend.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: I wanted to work. Yeah, he wanted to work to
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: go and like to have a structure. Tuesday. I used
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: to like pick him up and I'd be like, did
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: you get any Never did anybody hit on you? I
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: love my guy getting hit on my I like knowing
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: that I have something that other people want. But you
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: didn't have him at that No, I did know. Yeah,
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: Oh so when did you quit bartending? No, like he
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: came back to it for a while. I stopped in
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: like May. I think mayor mayor June. Probably June last year. Yeah,
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: just about a year ago. But it just everything kind
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: of picked up and everything was so busy and it
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: was just impossible. It's like, oh, I can work next
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: Sunday and next Tuesday, and it was you know, can
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: I ask how did it feel to put in your resignation? Oh,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: I've quit a few jobs. Uh it's always the worst.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: I've gotten better at it. As I've done it more often,
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: and then you realize that it's not I think personal.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: It's just I've never a quit a job because I've
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: hated the job, you know, I've always quit because there
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: was either a better opportunity or I had to leave
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: or something along those lines. So I don't think I've
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: ever really had that experience of be like, I hate
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: this place, I'm quitting. It's always been I have a
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: better opportunity or I just can't fit it in my schedule.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: And that's what happened with so for me, mom was different.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 1: My first job was actually as a dishwasher at a
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: truck stop, and I used to walk two miles each way,
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: back when chocolate used to cossa nickel. I know, I walk.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: I walked two miles to school. You kids, you kids
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: are so ungrateful and well. And then at one point
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: the school bus would like drop me off in school
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: in high school, like my freshman year, you know, I
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: was hustling. That I grew u with a single mom
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: who really couldn't ever ever provide. I remember on the
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: batch I talked about in third grade, I bought myself
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: a further my bed because mine had holes. My mom
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: like wouldn't couldn't afford it. And as I said about
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: my Birthday money and my Christmas money, and while my
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: ceilings are out buying candy a bot like it's a
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: beautiful comforter with like floral on it, which is now
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: all like hideous, But I was like so proud. I've
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: always had this like ethic to just really know that
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: it's going to be me out there, like me like
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: providing for myself. And I really cared that ethic throughout,
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: you know, my entire life because of that. So when
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: I quit bartending, I remember I would stand there and
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: I would be bartending like my last year, and I
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: just I would like pull out the little receipt and
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 1: like at that extra paper, and I would pull out
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: a little customer pad and started writing down like my
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: mission statement of like my job, my career, like my
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: dreams and what I was going to do and all
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: the steps I was going to take, and I would
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: just be like so connected with it and know that
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: like when I was there, granted, I was so grateful
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: to be working, to be making money, and I really
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: enjoyed um, bartending was really really fun. But I knew
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: that I wasn't living my potential and so pardon me
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: was just really like held back and feelings just you know,
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: like a flower that just couldn't blossom as long as
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: they stayed safe. And so when I quit um also
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: my mom barked for twenty five years and I got
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 1: to see her just never really go after her dreams
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: and it was really hard to see that. So that
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: was a huge fear for me, was that I would
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: never amount to anything else. I would only be that
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: I would only play it safe in the world and
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: my dreams would go like uncovered, like or it's still covered.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: And so for me to quit, it was this huge,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: huge moment for me, and Gat I like quit too,
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 1: go make venimum wage as a fitness instructor. But for me,
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: it was it wasn't the job. It was just that
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: the expression of the soul and the work I was
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 1: doing and contributing out to the world. Yeah, going after
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: what you want. I'm going to tell a quick story
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: and Ashley's definitely gonna hate me for this, and I apologize. Well,
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: there's a great story that I've heard that I repeated
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: actually many times, that Jim care he talks about and
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 1: he talks about his father, He says, my father was
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 1: the funniest guy, funnier than me. Could have been a
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: great comedian, but he was scared because that seemed out
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 1: of possibility, and so he took a safe job as
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: an accountant. And when Jim Carey was thirteen years old,
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: his father got fired from that job and they had
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: to do whatever they had to do to survive, and
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: he learned a lot of great lessons, not the least
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: of which was that you can fail at what you
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: don't want to do, so you might as well go
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 1: after what you love. And that's a line that's always
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 1: stuck with me. And it's something that I preach and
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: I don't practice. Don't practice. It's it's you know because
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 1: it is hard because you do have this idea of
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: taking these safe jobs because it looks like it's, you
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: know it, there's stability there and security there, um, but
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 1: there really isn't. There's no such thing as a safe job.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 1: And um, so I I give you a lot of
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  Speaker 1: credit for kind of being able to get out of
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  Speaker 1: your own way and go after the things you want,
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  Speaker 1: because especially coming from your background, and I think I
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  Speaker 1: can relate a little bit. You see a lot of
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  Speaker 1: your friends, there are so much potential and there's and
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  Speaker 1: there's so many things that they want to do, and
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  Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, fifteen years go by and
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  Speaker 1: they're still bartending. And there's nothing wrong with that at all.
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  Speaker 1: I was a lifelong bartender, but I think that there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people that wish they could do more
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  Speaker 1: and just all of a sudden they fall into this
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  Speaker 1: comfort zone and then years go by and it's like,
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  Speaker 1: holy crap. I mean, it's scary to take chances. It's
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  Speaker 1: really scary. And I think that I feel so grateful
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  Speaker 1: for going on the show The Bachelor, because I mean,
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  Speaker 1: for everyone that we've met in our Bachelor family, I
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  Speaker 1: mean like we all just said yes to a crazy
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  Speaker 1: opportunity that was so out of the norm, and we
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  Speaker 1: just went into it. I mean like surrendered into it.
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  Speaker 1: And it's taken us on this river of opportunities and
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  Speaker 1: either you pull over because it's too tumultuous for you
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  Speaker 1: to handle, or you can just continue to write it
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  Speaker 1: and then you learn the attitude that you want when
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  Speaker 1: you're on the river, Like is it hard, is it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, uncomfortable, or is it like an exciting adventure?
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  Speaker 1: And you can't wait to see what's around the bent totally.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember before we went on the show. I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: now I'm on a tangent. I'm sorry. Actually we're rapping, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not. I love the conversation. I just want to
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  Speaker 1: say one last thing because it's along the same lines
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  Speaker 1: that you were talking about when deciding going on the
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  Speaker 1: show or not. And I remember having a moment to
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  Speaker 1: myself thinking why would I not go on the show,
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  Speaker 1: And it was because I was scared. I was scared
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  Speaker 1: of what people would think of me. And it brought
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  Speaker 1: me back to another quote, which was, um, people make
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  Speaker 1: decisions based out of fear all the time, and they
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  Speaker 1: disguised it as practicality. And I knew that if I
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  Speaker 1: didn't do the show, it was because I was making excuses,
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  Speaker 1: and it was really because I was scared. And so
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  Speaker 1: I ended up going on the show and it worked
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  Speaker 1: out well because now I'm engaged. Your only real real
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: risk in life, that's the tragic risk all the time.
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  Speaker 1: I don't take them all, but I take some risk.
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  Speaker 1: Was the last risk you took? I mean, I'm in
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  Speaker 1: l a okay, that's a fair We're together He's going
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  Speaker 1: to be a big risk. That's awesome. Um, well, I
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: want to take this opportunity to just call out to
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  Speaker 1: make Jared feel very awkward. I he his dream is
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  Speaker 1: to work in movies and this is like his next
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  Speaker 1: big This is like a leap that he would love
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  Speaker 1: to take, but has no idea how to get into
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  Speaker 1: where this. So I want to know if any of
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  Speaker 1: our listeners want to email Ben and Ashley at iHeart
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  Speaker 1: media dot com and just let us know if there's
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  Speaker 1: any opportunities at any movie studios or anything where Jared
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: ind involved himself further in the movie industry. And he's
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: looking at me with a total judgment right now. But no,
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  Speaker 1: we all have the three of us have this conversation
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  Speaker 1: the other night, and we were talking about Jared living
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  Speaker 1: on his dreams and owning it and being unapologetic about it.
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  Speaker 1: Tell us, right here, right now, your dream own it.
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  Speaker 1: I want to go home. Tell us you gotta go
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  Speaker 1: out there, you're putting it out there. I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm sure I agree to produced, direct,
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  Speaker 1: act any of that. Yeah. I just loved films. I
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  Speaker 1: love the idea of creating a story from scratch. And
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  Speaker 1: creating a world and characters and uh and really telling
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  Speaker 1: a compelling story. And so that's why I love movies
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  Speaker 1: and I love the There's just it's the uh, the
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  Speaker 1: creative side of it that really uh gets me. Anyway,
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: we don't have to talk about this. We're talking about
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  Speaker 1: four weddings in a funeral. That's what we're talking If
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  Speaker 1: you guys have any jobs out there, good lord, it's
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: Ben and Ashley at iHeartMedia dot com. Anyway, way to
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  Speaker 1: wrap it, um, I also just wanted to throw in
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  Speaker 1: there some things that I felt about gifts for weddings.
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  Speaker 1: I think it also has to do with how far
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  Speaker 1: and how much you travel to go to the wedding.
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  Speaker 1: I think it has to do with how close you
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  Speaker 1: are to the couple. Yeah, there's all different factors in there.
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  Speaker 1: Like Jared and I went to this wedding in Nashville.
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  Speaker 1: We spent so much money to get there. Well you know,
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: and yours. It's a nice friend of yours, but like
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  Speaker 1: we definitely wouldn't have We didn't give as much as
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  Speaker 1: we normally would have because it was such an expense.
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, of course, and everybody has a factor then,
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: which is why I want people to factor in when
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  Speaker 1: they come to our wedding. Yeah, totally, no, no no, no,
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  Speaker 1: I feel the exact same way for people who are
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: coming in from like flights, coming in from like flights. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: So if you're coming in for one of our flights
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: or you're just gonna watch Four Weddings in the Funeral
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: At Home on Your Couch is the new Hulu original
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: series that focuses on the lives of four college friends
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 1: and their different relationship and career crises. In the premier,
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: the friends gather for a wedding that is filled with
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 1: drama and surprises. Maya messes up at Ainslie's wedding. Why
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 1: do you want to expected? Things always happen at weddings.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: There's always something our wedding planners like, all these horrible
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: things are going to happen, and you're not even going
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  Speaker 1: to know about them because I'm going to take care
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: of it completely, and then I'll tell you the next
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: day what happened. Yeah, do you still want to you
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 1: he wants to kill me for but no? Continue? All right, Well,
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 1: I will make sure to inform you guys of the
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: all the crazies that happened behind the scenes. At our wedding.
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  Speaker 1: But for right now, you can catch all the drama
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: in Four Weddings and a Funeral, a new rom com
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: series produced by Mindy Kaling, premiering July thirty one, only
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  Speaker 1: on Hulu. Alright, guys, well, thank you for joining me
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 1: for this extended podcast, a very very long one that
• 1:14:55
  Speaker 1: I thought was going to be a short beat. But
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 1: it was so good because everybody loves to talking about
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 1: weddings so much. Thanks to my co host, to my
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: future husband of course, my almost husband down the final
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: cultry life is the best. You're going to love it.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: And for people who say it doesn't feel any different,
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: they're wrong. It feels like it feels so freaking awesome.
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 1: Thanks Crystal. Alright, guys, thank you so much again for
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 1: feedback on anything we talked about today. Please email Benn
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: and Ashley at I heart media dot com. And until
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: next time, I've been Ashley, I've been Jared, and I've
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: been Crystal Ulu. Follow the Benn and Ashley I Almost
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