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Episode #275: They Should Know Me by Now · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to tea time with amen, beab stepsister.
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  Speaker 2: I would say, not a whole lot, but there's always
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  Speaker 2: a whole lot going on. Do what pants on fire? Yes,
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  Speaker 2: it really happens, that actually happened. You know what this
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  Speaker 2: world would be like, it'd be a bunch of under
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  Speaker 2: dressed people.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure. We would just say, you know, I forget,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not wearing I'm not wearing anything on my body.
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I see you did a liar liar today though,
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  Speaker 3: I just chose not to wear pants, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just avoiding the whole thing, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: What I was thinking about is in relationships, and I've
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  Speaker 3: been in a relationship with my current relationships.
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  Speaker 2: We've been in it for I think five years. We've
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  Speaker 2: been friends for like seven years.
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  Speaker 3: But it's like all that stuff being said, there's so
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  Speaker 3: many things that I recognize that I expect or believe
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  Speaker 3: the other person knows everything about in a relationship, and
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  Speaker 3: that's not true. It's not true. And we've been having
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  Speaker 3: conversations where we're exploring what do we want out of
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  Speaker 3: the relationship, what.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of things do we like? Oh, you like that?
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  Speaker 3: I like that too, But we don't until you start
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  Speaker 3: having the conversations, you don't know. And the rest of
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  Speaker 3: the time, it was a whole lot of assuming you're
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  Speaker 3: supposed to be reading my mind, you should know this stuff.
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  Speaker 3: And I was getting angry about things that we never
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  Speaker 3: even discussed because I figured that person knew and that's
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  Speaker 3: not been in just my home relationship, that's in relationships.
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  Speaker 3: And then even recognizing my child behavior because there's a
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  Speaker 3: few recordings back that I've had a person that stepped
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  Speaker 3: out of my life that was very close to me.
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  Speaker 2: That I really my little girl was quite offended, actually.
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  Speaker 3: Was quite hurt, and didn't want anything to do with
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  Speaker 3: the person ever again. And now it's like, I wish
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  Speaker 3: the person best on their journey, and I'm going on
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  Speaker 3: my journey, and I'm very grateful.
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  Speaker 2: And thankful that things went the way that they did.
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  Speaker 2: Otherwise I wouldn't be where I'm at right now, in
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  Speaker 2: this place where I'm sitting right now, in the thought
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  Speaker 2: patterns that I have. So many things have shifted since then,
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  Speaker 2: recognizing what do I really want and I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: I really don't know, But the only way that I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to find out is if I start with all
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  Speaker 2: the videos that we've just done today. The only way
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  Speaker 2: that I'm going to know is by really just sitting
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  Speaker 2: with and feeling how everything feels. Do I like that?
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  Speaker 2: Do I not like that? What do I want?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: I didn't like that. I didn't like that?
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  Speaker 3: My friend left that way? Well, what would I have liked?
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  Speaker 3: I would liked my friend who have said? You know,
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  Speaker 3: I think that maybe we have such an influence upon
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  Speaker 3: each other that I'm kind of losing sight of where
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  Speaker 3: I begin and where I end, and I really need
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  Speaker 3: to come back into myself. I'm not saying that that's
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  Speaker 3: what it was, but I feel like that's what it was,
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  Speaker 3: as it's flowing from me right now, and not to
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  Speaker 3: take it personal and at that point, you know, just
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  Speaker 3: to have those conversations.
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  Speaker 2: How else would it? Could it go out or go differently?
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  Speaker 3: Well that it could go with so many different directions,
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  Speaker 3: It could be so many different things. But it created
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  Speaker 3: and asking within myself so that my next friend or
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  Speaker 3: my relationship with our relationship that we have, if you
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  Speaker 3: decide at some point, you know, my schedule is so
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  Speaker 3: fulfilling that I don't have time for tea time anymore.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not saying that that's a possibility, but anything's possible.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to have a different understanding about that because
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  Speaker 3: I'm coming from a different space because of everything that
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  Speaker 3: has transpired.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like all this huge growth, all of it.
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  Speaker 2: And even in recognizing.
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  Speaker 3: Talking about pictures and stuff like that with a family member,
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  Speaker 3: where that presented the conversation with hey, I've got like
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  Speaker 3: totes over here full of pictures if you like to
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  Speaker 3: come pick them up, go through them and take them,
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  Speaker 3: and then bring me back the ones that you don't want,
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  Speaker 3: which also presented another opportunity for me to be able
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  Speaker 3: to take a look at things because now I'm looking
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  Speaker 3: at things through different eyes, I'm looking at them through
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  Speaker 3: different senses. There's more. I feel like there's more of
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  Speaker 3: me now that can be part of the conversation or
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  Speaker 3: can be part of the experience. And I gained so
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  Speaker 3: much more understanding from that. Even there was a picture
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  Speaker 3: that was shared of me when I was a teenager before,
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  Speaker 3: It's like I could never look at these pictures because
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  Speaker 3: I was so hateful and angry. I was just there
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  Speaker 3: was so much on mean And now I look at
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  Speaker 3: that girl and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Like, man, she was doing the best.
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  Speaker 1: She could.
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  Speaker 3: She was doing the best she could at that time,
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  Speaker 3: and it was such a different I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: freed myself up with a lot of feelings that I
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  Speaker 3: had about that time frame because I look at it
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  Speaker 3: now and I'm like, she was doing her best, and
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  Speaker 3: her best at that time was anger and that's what
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  Speaker 3: helped get.
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  Speaker 2: Her to fifty five. But hey, I'm still alive and
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  Speaker 2: having the experience, so you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: It's just a matter of how we want to look
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  Speaker 3: at things, and it's so so many things have changed
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  Speaker 3: for me, and it's we just have to take the time.
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  Speaker 3: I say half to you don't, but if you want
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  Speaker 3: to get closer to people, you want to get closer
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  Speaker 3: to yourself. It's having the conversations and having the understanding
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  Speaker 3: and realizing where you and and where you don't you know,
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  Speaker 3: where you're connected with everybody else to the point where
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  Speaker 3: I recognize after I was the conversation started to go
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  Speaker 3: a little bit different, and I could feel myself being
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  Speaker 3: in the conversation and going in a different space, going
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  Speaker 3: back to the old child patterns, the old I could
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  Speaker 3: feel all this stuff starting to happen, and then I
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  Speaker 3: recognize it right away. This is not my energy, and
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  Speaker 3: so then I asked, I asked for myself to fill
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  Speaker 3: my own energy. I only want to fill my own
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  Speaker 3: energy now. And so with all that being said, it
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  Speaker 3: took me out of wanting to fix things, wanting to
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  Speaker 3: fix things for someone else, and then recognizing that I
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  Speaker 3: sent the message after I saw the pictures and I said,
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  Speaker 3: I miss her too, because I do. But this isn't
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  Speaker 3: something that I would have said before, because I felt
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  Speaker 3: like I wasn't allowed to have my feelings because this
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  Speaker 3: person's feelings and emotions were so much more than mine.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't have a right to that. I wasn't with her,
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  Speaker 3: living with her all those years.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: So it was just a and it wasn't anything bad
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  Speaker 2: or good.
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  Speaker 3: Back at the time, I would have said it was
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  Speaker 3: bad because it felt bad, But it was recognizing that
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  Speaker 3: that little child of that that person that's missing, that
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  Speaker 3: person that's no longer in their life, and that in
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  Speaker 3: that three D perspective, because that's why we miss people,
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  Speaker 3: because otherwise we if we were not in a three D,
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  Speaker 3: we recognized there right here right now.
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  Speaker 2: My mom has been around a lot, and so it
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  Speaker 2: just kind of went up.
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  Speaker 3: It was very common it was not a surprise for
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  Speaker 3: that person to reach out at that moment and then
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  Speaker 3: tells me a story about how scary and it was
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  Speaker 3: to create a business. So here I was in the
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  Speaker 3: space of fear, and then he all of a sudden
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  Speaker 3: out of the blue, if we stop and listen and
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  Speaker 3: pull back, and there's always an ebb and flow, there's
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  Speaker 3: always a give and take. It doesn't matter who the
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  Speaker 3: person is contacting you, even if it's a bad experience,
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  Speaker 3: there's always a give and take. And it's recognizing in
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  Speaker 3: that moment he was giving me a story of something
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  Speaker 3: that was changed because he said, I didn't know how
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  Speaker 3: we're going to keep how was I going to be
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  Speaker 3: able to feed you guys, Well, we're gonna be able
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  Speaker 3: to keep a roof over our head, creating a whole
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  Speaker 3: new business and all this other stuff. And then so
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  Speaker 3: he gave me the faith that I just have to
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  Speaker 3: know and trust I'm stepping into my own space and
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  Speaker 3: it's it might feel a little bit scary sometimes, but
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  Speaker 3: this is part of the evolution and it's okay, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to be just fine.
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  Speaker 1: And that the idea of that door opening because of
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  Speaker 1: a picture, just because of a picture and his guidance
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  Speaker 1: said to send that to you. Yeah, and you're already
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  Speaker 1: thinking about your mom and then you get this information
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  Speaker 1: about starting a business and you're in that space of
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  Speaker 1: transition between your business and what's next and the fear.
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  Speaker 1: And so how I love looking back on experiences to
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  Speaker 1: be like, Wow, this happened, and then this happened, and
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  Speaker 1: then I decided to do this, and this is where
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  Speaker 1: I'm at now and oh my gosh, and now this
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  Speaker 1: is happening, and this is the direction I'm flowing and
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  Speaker 1: and it's just fun when you when you take the
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  Speaker 1: time to think about you think you're on this journey
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  Speaker 1: by yourself A lot of times, especially if you're wrapped
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  Speaker 1: up in heavy emotion and holding on to past experiences
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  Speaker 1: and then just replaying those in your head and feeling
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  Speaker 1: those emotions and over and over and over, and then
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  Speaker 1: that loneliness or depression sets in and you think, I,
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to get out of this? How
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  Speaker 1: am I going to do? How How am I? How
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  Speaker 1: am I? How am I? When really, when you sit
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  Speaker 1: and go how can I? And this is kind of
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  Speaker 1: where I'm at with myself, especially at work, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: don't tell me, I can't do it. How can we
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  Speaker 1: do it? This particular avenue may not be the way,
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  Speaker 1: but what are our options? How can this? How can
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  Speaker 1: people collaborate to get it done? And so it's the same,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, okay, how can I I'm thinking about my mom?
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  Speaker 1: How can I process these emotions? How can I feel
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  Speaker 1: her presence? How? Oh, somebody sent me a picture? Look
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  Speaker 1: at that? I get to look at her because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't think for myself to go get a picture of
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  Speaker 1: her to look at her. And I'm not saying that's
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  Speaker 1: what you did. I'm just saying they had their thinking
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  Speaker 1: of her as well, sent you a picture and you're like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I was just thinking of her. And
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  Speaker 1: so spirit has ways of getting through to us when
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  Speaker 1: where when when we're going through change, transformation, stuck in fear,
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  Speaker 1: but when we important for us to open up ourselves
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  Speaker 1: to allow those connections to flow instead of feeling just stuck.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know how to get out of this
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  Speaker 1: type of thing. My Grandpa's still showing up a lot,
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  Speaker 1: and all the significant dates that I'm aware of have passed,
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  Speaker 1: but he's man, He's still showing up every day almost
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, Okay, I don't know what's happening. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what's coming. I don't know, but you know
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  Speaker 1: what I know spirits with me to guide me as
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  Speaker 1: long as I stay open to that guidance. So I
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  Speaker 1: think it's amazing how we think we're alone, but we're
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  Speaker 1: all connected and when we just allow that process.
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  Speaker 2: And it's awesome.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, it really is to have that, to have
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  Speaker 3: that perspective, and it's like to be hit for him
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  Speaker 3: to be cleaning up his garage or to be moving
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  Speaker 3: stuff around and then two pictures fall out, like one
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  Speaker 3: of like from Night eighty three and then one of
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  Speaker 3: you know, maybe eleven years ago. Yeah, so it's it's
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  Speaker 3: it's interesting when you process that. And then how and
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  Speaker 3: then the and I was, I was recognizing the conversation
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  Speaker 3: that I had with him and what I had said, Well,
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  Speaker 3: I said, that's I said, it's it's it's her way
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  Speaker 3: of letting you know she's always with you. So also
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  Speaker 3: for me, she's always with me. And I said that's
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  Speaker 3: the that was the that would have been the beginning,
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  Speaker 3: the middle, and I said there's no end, right, So
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  Speaker 3: I know that that conversation was for myself because there
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  Speaker 3: is no end.
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  Speaker 2: There is there.
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  Speaker 3: We don't die. We just shift gears. We just go
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  Speaker 3: to a different place. We just travel the universe. We
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  Speaker 3: just whatever, we do, whatever we want. We're just not
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  Speaker 3: in this physical vessel anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I appreciate the conversation. But while we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about death, I gotta mention three things that I want
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  Speaker 1: at my services, just so you know, so you can
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  Speaker 1: be a part of it if you're still around.
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  Speaker 2: Love it.
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  Speaker 1: I was on the I was on the social media
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  Speaker 1: and this this lady had This lady had planned her
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  Speaker 1: services because she knew she was she was gonna be transitioning,
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  Speaker 1: so she planned her services, and she had she had
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  Speaker 1: a flash mob at her memorial services, and she had
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  Speaker 1: four ladies, uh, younger ladies dressed kind of leather but
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  Speaker 1: appropriate type of outfits, and uh they danced to Queen's
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  Speaker 1: another one bites the dust.
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  Speaker 2: That is phenomenal.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I want that. And then I've seen before
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  Speaker 1: where somebody takes your cell phone and text everybody and
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  Speaker 1: says thanks for coming. And then and then she was
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  Speaker 1: another one where you send everybody a thank you card
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  Speaker 1: and and it's a little tiny like weedy board in
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  Speaker 1: there and it says stayed in touch. I'm like, I
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  Speaker 1: want all of that.
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  Speaker 2: I about all that too. How fun is that?
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  Speaker 1: Like?
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  Speaker 2: How fun is that?
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  Speaker 3: Because that that's me presents a whole different way of
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  Speaker 3: perceiving everything, which is so valuable because it's not it's
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  Speaker 3: a celebration. Let's have fun. I don't want people to
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  Speaker 3: be depressed at my I know anything. Yeah, celebration of life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. So anyway, they were like in it it
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  Speaker 1: looked like a church setting. Maybe it was just a
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  Speaker 1: funeral home or something, but it was that type of setting.
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  Speaker 1: And then these these ladies popped up and started music
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  Speaker 1: started playing, and these ladies popped up and started dancing,
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  Speaker 1: and then they went down the center aisle and then
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  Speaker 1: they were up front. It was just so funny, and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, bites that dust. That was great. Nice,
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  Speaker 1: So be sure to have my services because you never
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  Speaker 1: know what's gonna happen.
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  Speaker 2: That's true. I like that. I like, I really do
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  Speaker 2: like that a lot.
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  Speaker 3: That's that's how it should be. And then I'm sad
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  Speaker 3: you're thinking about how did everybody receive it? I bet
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  Speaker 3: you some people were like, what the hell is going on?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah. You can see their faces. It was so
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  Speaker 1: funny because they're like, I didn't know what to think.
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  Speaker 1: Is great, but if they knew the person, then they
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  Speaker 1: would know that they would At the end of the
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  Speaker 1: video they were all like like moving in their seat
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  Speaker 1: and clapping. It was it was funny. It was so great.
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  Speaker 1: So and that's the way Spirit wants us to be
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  Speaker 1: as well as to be celebratory about life, but also
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  Speaker 1: in transition. I've heard people say that the transition from
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  Speaker 1: from life to death, for practical terms, from life to
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  Speaker 1: death is the most beautiful experience and they love that
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  Speaker 1: experience more so than a baby being born. And then
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  Speaker 1: I hear actually just recently it was listened to a
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  Speaker 1: podcast and they were talking about trauma and they're like,
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  Speaker 1: we'll think about being born and you're coming through the
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  Speaker 1: being pushed through this canal, and how traumatic. What an
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  Speaker 1: experience that is. I was like, ah, yeah, we do
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  Speaker 1: come into this world just like.
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  Speaker 2: Fuck exactly from safety, warm, comfortable, safe.
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  Speaker 1: Ah yeah, and now you're out here going ah. I
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  Speaker 1: wonder they cry when they show up. What the hell.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't find up for this? Yes you did, Yes
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  Speaker 2: you did.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the world. So anyway, honoring our our loved
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  Speaker 1: ones and spirit in so many ways, just sit and
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  Speaker 1: think about them. I have a picture of my grandmother
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  Speaker 1: on my my fridge. It's her and I and I
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  Speaker 1: just tell her. Most days it's hey, Grammy, I love you.
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  Speaker 1: And then there's other days I'm like, girl, I need
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  Speaker 1: some help today because I need some guidance. I need
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  Speaker 1: some help getting through this, I need to know what
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  Speaker 1: to do with this person, like whatever's going on. But
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  Speaker 1: for the most part, it's hey, grahmmy, I love you,
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for being with me. So uh So we can
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  Speaker 1: honor them in so many ways. Maybe go sit and
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  Speaker 1: eat at their favorite restaurant. I met a girl, a
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  Speaker 1: lady who I didn't know. We met for We met
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  Speaker 1: for lunch and she's like, well, she does live here,
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  Speaker 1: and she's like, well, where do you want to go?
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  Speaker 1: And I gave her a couple of places, and the
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  Speaker 1: one place I mentioned she goes, let's go there because
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  Speaker 1: that's where my mom loved to go. And what you know,
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  Speaker 1: the fact that I would even suggest that, so go
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  Speaker 1: have lunch breakfast at your favorite their favorite coffee shop
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  Speaker 1: or restaurant, or maybe like to just go feed the
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  Speaker 1: dot or something like, just do something in their honor,
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  Speaker 1: but be present when you're doing it, and just sit
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  Speaker 1: and know that they're with you and they're with us
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  Speaker 1: no matter what we're going through. You can always call
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  Speaker 1: in their energy. They're not just sitting around waiting for
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  Speaker 1: us to call them. They got their own thing going on,
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  Speaker 1: I believe, and but they're always willing to be with
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  Speaker 1: us when we when we desire that. So any final words, Miss.
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  Speaker 2: Bev, have a wonderful day, yea, make it.
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  Speaker 1: Amazing, make it yes? All right? Friends, Thanks for hanging
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• 17:45
  Speaker 1: speaker podcast, attic and be resourceful, share this information with
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: others or have the courageous conversations yourself, Utilize whatever resonates
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: with you, and just help yourself be and do better.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: As you're going through this life, we're all bumping around
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: trying to figure it out, so just be okay and
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: give yourself ease and grace with wherever you're at. So
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: with that, thanks for hanging out tea Time with Amy
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: and Bev and we will see you next time.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Goodbye,