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Is Scotty wrong for approaching women HERE · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Sampa Bay's best music is made nine.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Scotty and Abby Unfiltered.
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  Speaker 2: And I did want to take a quick note to
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  Speaker 2: say thank you because I know we have a lot
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  Speaker 2: of new fam squad members. Because every time you've Maken
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  Speaker 2: mentioned Abby on your Instagram, there's new comments. I get
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  Speaker 2: the dms that tell me that they've either been a
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  Speaker 2: long listener of you or they're so grateful they found
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  Speaker 2: this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: So last time I talked to my dad, he was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, you guys sound really good together. Of
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  Speaker 1: course you would say that.
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  Speaker 2: And then also my roommate, I walked in yesterday and
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  Speaker 2: I hear him in his room.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, dude, I'm listening to the podcast. You guys
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  Speaker 1: sound so good. Oh that's so nice. Thank you Scotty's roommate. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's giving a little love.
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  Speaker 2: And so that's what's so exciting is being able to
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  Speaker 2: take you behind the scenes, give you more in depth
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  Speaker 2: detail on a lot of the stories. And I know
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  Speaker 2: a big thing that I've talked about is trying to
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  Speaker 2: step back into the dating world.
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  Speaker 1: And I will tell you right.
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  Speaker 2: Now, like after this weekend, like the past week I
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  Speaker 2: have gone on the best dates and had the most
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  Speaker 2: fun then I think I've ever had.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so glad that you're vocalizing this because I just
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  Speaker 3: had to sit down with a friend who just got
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  Speaker 3: out of a ten year relationship.
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  Speaker 1: The whole thing.
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  Speaker 3: At some point I'll debrief it, but we've been begging
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  Speaker 3: her to get out of this relationship because, like, you
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  Speaker 3: have no idea how good it's going to get for
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  Speaker 3: you once you are brave enough to leave, or if
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  Speaker 3: you know this person breaks up with you or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: And so I love that you're vocalizing this for anybody
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  Speaker 3: who's in a shitty relationship who's like I don't want
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  Speaker 3: to get back into the dating scene. I hear Abby
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  Speaker 3: talk about how bad it is. Sometimes it's gonna be
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  Speaker 3: good for people. I think I just attract No, I'm kidding,
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  Speaker 3: I'm picky.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a particular woman, and.
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  Speaker 2: It's just been fun to just go on new adventures,
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  Speaker 2: like I literally have just gone out of my comfort zone,
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  Speaker 2: try new things that I've never done before.
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  Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what.
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  Speaker 2: I've gone on the longest, most adventurous dates in the
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  Speaker 2: past five days.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to talk about a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: But I want to also mention something to Abby because
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  Speaker 2: you made me remember the word solid core, and so
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  Speaker 2: I was like, all right, my job for the entire
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  Speaker 2: morning while the show is happening is I was.
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  Speaker 1: Like, solid core, solid core? Why did I have to
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  Speaker 1: remember solid corps?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I wish that we hadn't talked about your date
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  Speaker 3: while I had been thinking of solid core, because the
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  Speaker 3: reason I was thinking of solid core was, oh my god,
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  Speaker 3: I need to bring Scotty to solid core, and I
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  Speaker 3: want to tell you why. Oh so, it's a very
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  Speaker 3: controversial opinion that some people have that men should not
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  Speaker 3: be allowed in women's workout spaces or traditionally women's workout
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  Speaker 3: spaces like pilates, Lagree, solid corps, and typically I kind
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  Speaker 3: of feel that way.
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  Speaker 1: It's exactly like just safe space.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I've always been told is at least because okay, tangent,
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  Speaker 2: sorry to take you on a tangent.
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  Speaker 1: Take me there.
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  Speaker 2: I've gone to pole classes. I've had friends that have
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  Speaker 2: done pole like pole dancing. It's a whole workout if
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  Speaker 2: you've never And we've done group fitness classes together where
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  Speaker 2: it's like women and guys all together. We're all friends.
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  Speaker 2: So it's kind of like a private session. But as
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  Speaker 2: much as I thought it was really cool, I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I can't go on my own because this is like
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  Speaker 2: literally I see pictures and women just get to express themselves.
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  Speaker 2: They're wearing you know, honestly nothing, pretty much, and I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't want to intrude on that space and then be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: this used to be a safe space for me. Now
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  Speaker 2: I have this random straight white man up in my
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  Speaker 2: space and I'm trying to feel sexy in my own skin.
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  Speaker 1: And I wouldn't want them to feel that way.
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  Speaker 2: So I understand not wanting to step in pilates. If
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  Speaker 2: that is the space that you will as the ladies.
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  Speaker 3: I've created, Well, here's where I'm going to fill in
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  Speaker 3: that gap, because I typically do feel that way, except
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  Speaker 3: for last night. Last night, I went to a solid
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  Speaker 3: core class. I go to the Hyde Park location occasionally.
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  Speaker 3: I'm usually at the Saint Pete location kind of do
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  Speaker 3: fifty to fifty half in Atlanta or half in Tampa,
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  Speaker 3: half in Saint Pete. So I'm a solid core last
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  Speaker 3: night and I'm on my machine in the corner. I
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  Speaker 3: like to be away from people because I like to
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  Speaker 3: have room to be able to do my.
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  Speaker 1: Full wing span because you're out there grunting. We were
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  Speaker 1: doing we were doing back that day, and I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to bump anybody.
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  Speaker 3: The reformers are very close to each other, and this
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  Speaker 3: guy comes in very cute, very handsome, and I'm assuming
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  Speaker 3: single because he's coming to Solid Corps by himself, unless
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  Speaker 3: maybe his girlfriend just couldn't come that day. I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: but anyway, it kind of upped my game a little
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  Speaker 3: bit because I'm like, here's a fit dude here, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm typically just surrounded by women, which I
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  Speaker 3: typically prefer, but I'm like, you know what, this is
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  Speaker 3: giving me a little extra motivation to have a little
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  Speaker 3: hutzpah in my plank to pike or whatever. But here's
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  Speaker 3: where I come in because at Solid Core they do
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  Speaker 3: this really annoying thing that I typically hate. There's a
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  Speaker 3: trend here. Typically don't like this, except when there's a
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  Speaker 3: cute guy in the class.
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  Speaker 1: See, as long as the guy's cute, we have a
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  Speaker 1: little more pull.
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  Speaker 3: At the end of every class, the instructor goes tell
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  Speaker 3: your neighbor, good job, give them a high five. Now,
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  Speaker 3: in most workout classes, people just keep their head down.
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  Speaker 3: They go I'm not doing that, which is typically what
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  Speaker 3: I would do. But because most people say hi, give
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  Speaker 3: a high five or whatever, it's just a very normal
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  Speaker 3: thing to do. And I thought, this is the perfect
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  Speaker 3: place to meet a girl because everybody has a similar lifestyle,
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  Speaker 3: similar habits, and this is such an easy end where
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  Speaker 3: someone's literally saying say hi to the person next to you.
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  Speaker 3: And because it's so common for women to do that
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  Speaker 3: in these classes, because most people aren't keeping their head
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  Speaker 3: down in solid core, because it's so calmon, you just.
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  Speaker 1: Keep doing it. You're like, okay, I'll give you a
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  Speaker 1: live live Yeah. I'm like, this is such an easy end.
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  Speaker 3: So I thought, oh my god, I need to bring
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  Speaker 3: Scotty to solid Core so we can meet some ladies.
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  Speaker 3: Because if I bring you, then it's not weird because
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  Speaker 3: then they're like, maybe he's just a friend, Maybe he's
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  Speaker 3: of the gay persuasion. You don't feel threatening as when
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  Speaker 3: you're trying to sign.
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  Speaker 2: Me just showing up, because I don't want it to
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  Speaker 2: ever seem like all this guy's coming in here because
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  Speaker 2: there's bunch of cute girls and he wants to check
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  Speaker 2: girls out. Like nope, I literally just want a great workout,
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  Speaker 2: and everyone always says how solid Core pilates or these.
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  Speaker 1: Yoga classes are so good, and it's like.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go, but again, I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: just go because there's a lot of beautiful women there.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's a plus.
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  Speaker 3: But here's the thing I think, because last night I
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  Speaker 3: was like, Oh, this guy seems well adjusted, cute, very fit.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, if I go and I endorse Scotti as
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  Speaker 3: a as a good match for women, maybe this is
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  Speaker 3: a great place for women to meet you.
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  Speaker 1: For you to meet women and get a good workout
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  Speaker 1: in that actually sounds amazing.
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  Speaker 3: I kind of want to start that as a service,
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  Speaker 3: like I will be your ambassador into solid Core.
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  Speaker 1: I will give you the he is not a creep
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  Speaker 1: status you're gonna say, I will be your pimp. I
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  Speaker 1: will be your pimp. I'm gonna pimp you out at
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  Speaker 1: solid Core. But I feel like I'm gonna match make
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  Speaker 1: for women.
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  Speaker 2: We got solid well, then I need to be able
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  Speaker 2: to bring you into spaces so you I can match
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  Speaker 2: make you with men because I'm honestly like, that's what
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking for.
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  Speaker 1: I want somebody that is in the health lifestyle.
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  Speaker 2: They're obviously taking care of themselves at Crunch. Here's the thing,
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  Speaker 2: because I do go to Crunch, I endorse Crunch, I
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  Speaker 2: love Crunch. I find it harder in a public gym
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  Speaker 2: setting because if you're working out, my imagination tells me
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  Speaker 2: that you're not really in the space to be getting
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  Speaker 2: hit on.
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  Speaker 1: Now, caveat.
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  Speaker 2: There are so many people that are just their their beauty,
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  Speaker 2: but like they've obviously put on a full face of makeup.
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  Speaker 2: They're obviously wearing an outfit that they specifically picked to
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  Speaker 2: look really good. But again, my thought goes to, you're
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  Speaker 2: wearing this because you want to feel good, look good
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  Speaker 2: for a great workout, not necessarily because you want to
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  Speaker 2: feel good, look good and then get hit on.
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  Speaker 1: Well.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I would think if somebody's wearing a full
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  Speaker 3: face of makeup to the gym, they maybe want to
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  Speaker 3: be approached, because I'll wear specific If I don't want
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  Speaker 3: to be approached, you'll you can look at me up,
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  Speaker 3: don't don't.
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  Speaker 1: She's not warm that way.
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  Speaker 3: That way she's wearing last year's lul Lemon said it
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  Speaker 3: was on sale. But if you're wearing the bright blue
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  Speaker 3: push up bra, I mean, let me make this very clear.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not saying women are asking for things based up
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  Speaker 3: what they're wearing. I'm just saying I think you could
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  Speaker 3: make an inference that someone maybe would want a little
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  Speaker 3: bit more attention. Respectfully, don't be creepy, don't have any
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  Speaker 3: advances that aren't warranted.
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  Speaker 1: Feel a vibe.
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  Speaker 3: But if someone's dressed up a little bit more for
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  Speaker 3: the gym, I think it's probably a green light.
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  Speaker 1: Is it an automatic No? If they have headphones on. Yes.
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  Speaker 2: See, that's what I thought too, because I go work
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  Speaker 2: out with a friend every day and we talk about
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  Speaker 2: this and he'll be like, man, I want to go
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  Speaker 2: say hi to her, and I'm like, I mean, you
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  Speaker 2: can look, shoot your shot, go say hello. Be friendly
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  Speaker 2: in general, that's my rules. Like I like to just
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  Speaker 2: be friendly to everybody. But I do have these lists
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  Speaker 2: of rules in my head that are like, well, based
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  Speaker 2: off of the women I know. They say, when you
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  Speaker 2: have headphones in, you're literally showing the world. I have
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  Speaker 2: shut out the rest of the world so I could
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  Speaker 2: be in my own I'm not looking for.
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  Speaker 1: That interaction now.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure, like you said, if the cute enough guy
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  Speaker 2: walks up, you'll take out your headphones for him. You'll
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  Speaker 2: be more open for that conversation. But maybe that's just
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  Speaker 2: maybe we're getting in our own way by having all
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  Speaker 2: these different rules that say who we could say hi to,
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  Speaker 2: who we can And he's.
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  Speaker 3: Wearing cobalt blue and she's got the push up sports
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  Speaker 3: braun then it's okay, then go in and say hello.
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  Speaker 3: I can already see the comments about to get be
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  Speaker 3: like I'm be said waymen or asking forart. No, I'm
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  Speaker 3: just saying if they look like they're putting a little effort,
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  Speaker 3: they might have.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that's like again, because if you don't
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  Speaker 2: want to meet people because and I've said this before,
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  Speaker 2: but I also walk myself back. I'm not usually meeting
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  Speaker 2: people at the bar cauz, I don't necessarily go to
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  Speaker 2: the bar. I have a little bit more since i've
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  Speaker 2: been single. But I think it'd be a little more
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  Speaker 2: organic for me to be like at the gym and
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  Speaker 2: be like, oh, you are into this, I'm into this.
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  Speaker 2: We have one thing in common already.
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  Speaker 3: It's gotta be the right place in the gym. Like
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  Speaker 3: you said, if her headphones are on or she's in
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  Speaker 3: the middle of a set.
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  Speaker 1: Don't go stand over her while she's lifting and then
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  Speaker 1: wait for her to be done. But how about wait
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  Speaker 1: for her to go get a water break somewhere. That's
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  Speaker 1: a valid thing.
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  Speaker 3: And why don't you just go over and say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: I thought your RDL split squat was Oh wait, maybe
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  Speaker 3: not the squat I.
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  Speaker 1: Know, maybe not staring at her while she's squatting.
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  Speaker 3: You've got great form in your dead bug crunches.
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  Speaker 1: Well I did.
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  Speaker 2: I had somebody followed me on Instagram from the gym,
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  Speaker 2: like I've seen them multiple times, and they followed me.
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  Speaker 2: I saw they followed me, so I followed them back,
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  Speaker 2: and so I ended up I was just like, you
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  Speaker 2: know what, next time I see him.
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  Speaker 1: I made the rule with myself.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, next time I see them, I'm deliberately
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  Speaker 2: gonna go say hello and say that I you know,
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  Speaker 2: I followed you on Instagram and I've noticed you for
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  Speaker 2: so long and it was honestly really friendly. I felt
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  Speaker 2: a little weird at the beginning, and they literally I
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  Speaker 2: felt like I walked out of nowhere.
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  Speaker 1: But I was like, hey, I saw you followed me.
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  Speaker 1: It is actually nice. I don't know, it kind of
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  Speaker 1: sounds stupid now, No, it doesn't sound stupid, Well it
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  Speaker 1: does because I.
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  Speaker 2: Was like, hey, you know, I've been meaning to say hello.
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  Speaker 2: We follow each other, the dumbest thing I do. And
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  Speaker 2: there's so many people I follow or follow me that like,
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  Speaker 2: we only know each other online, but we've seen each
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  Speaker 2: other out in person. Yeah, but it's that first in
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  Speaker 2: person interaction that's always a little awkward.
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  Speaker 3: It's yeah, but I mean at the end that you
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  Speaker 3: probably know who each other are because you've seen each
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  Speaker 3: other in your feeds so many times where it's like,
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  Speaker 3: we follow each other, right, and then if if they
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  Speaker 3: make it weird, the nuts on them, Like that's a
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  Speaker 3: weird thing to not want to have an in person
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  Speaker 3: friendship or whatever with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: That you mutually follow.
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  Speaker 3: Like if I had seen you out in the wild
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  Speaker 3: a year ago, I would have been I would have gone,
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  Speaker 3: oh my god, hi Scott, I'm Abby. Remember CMG, I'd
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  Speaker 3: forced you to follow me a couple of years back,
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  Speaker 3: and you go, oh.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I've never seen yourself.
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  Speaker 2: But there are certain women that I have like we
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  Speaker 2: follow each other and we've seeing each other out in public,
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  Speaker 2: but we've never like approached.
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  Speaker 1: That's weird. That is weird. That's weird. Why aren't you
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  Speaker 1: approaching them.
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  Speaker 3: Why.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I ever had the right timing because
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  Speaker 2: maybe I noticed them across a gym and it's like, well,
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  Speaker 2: what am I gonna stop my ass over there just
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  Speaker 2: to say hello? Because I'm like, oh, I've seen you
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  Speaker 2: on my Instagram. But I know they follow me too, then.
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  Speaker 3: That's your your green light. If they follow you back,
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  Speaker 3: they're interested in communicating with you.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I don't follow people back if I'm not well, don't
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  Speaker 3: get this twisted. Just because I follow you back to
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  Speaker 3: some mean I'm like, hey, you come hit on me.
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  Speaker 3: But if you are friendly and cordial and not creepy,
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  Speaker 3: then I think that's totally okay.
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  Speaker 2: I just think sometimes there's so much time that goes
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  Speaker 2: by that now it becomes weird, Like there's a couple
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  Speaker 2: of people in my mind literally right now that I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: we have had so many weird moments in person that
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  Speaker 2: we've never actually talked. But now, I mean, I could
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  Speaker 2: push past it. I'll walk by and now say hello.
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  Speaker 2: But there's been so many interactions where I've said I'm
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  Speaker 2: just not going to say anything because I don't even
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  Speaker 2: know if they realize who I am. Instead of me
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  Speaker 2: walking up because I think the thing in my head says,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna say hello, and they're gonna be.
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  Speaker 1: Like, who are you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, now it looks stupid because I know
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  Speaker 2: who you are, but you don't know who I am.
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  Speaker 1: And we follow each other. That's that's on them, Like,
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  Speaker 1: that's a weird reaction to have. I would think so too.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's a good thing you don't have to approach
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  Speaker 3: women at the gym anymore because I'm gonna pimp you
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  Speaker 3: out at solid Core and you just had an incredible
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  Speaker 3: date things to me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, okay, so Abby has wing woman perfectly, especially
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  Speaker 2: in the DMS. If people are ever slightly interested in me,
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  Speaker 2: you could message Abby because.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Scotty's pimp. Come to me. I'll tell you his rates.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, it was a good week for it,
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  Speaker 2: and I think, going back to the beginning of this conversation,
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  Speaker 2: I do remember being in a relationship wondering how the
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  Speaker 2: dating world would be and how hard it would be
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: because you hear the stories, the horror stories. But based
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  Speaker 2: off of the things that have truly helped one is
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  Speaker 2: I went to a speed dating event which was incredible
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  Speaker 2: for just connections. The more people I talked to that
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  Speaker 2: are tired of the apps. I'm telling you to just
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  Speaker 2: try anything in person that forces you into a space
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  Speaker 2: with just.
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  Speaker 1: Other people that are kind of like you.
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  Speaker 2: I told my brother this yesterday too. I was like, dude,
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  Speaker 2: get off the apps because they're just exhausting you. They're
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  Speaker 2: making you feel like there's no love in the world.
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  Speaker 2: Because as soon as we went to this event, met
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  Speaker 2: somebody super nice. We've been on a couple of dates.
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: We just we went and saw. We did trivia together,
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: which was so fun, and it was just nice to
• 13:20
  Speaker 2: have someone just to do stuff with. Cause I think
• 13:23
  Speaker 2: tangent a thing about me is I do love love
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: like even you know. Bruno Mars has his new album,
• 13:29
  Speaker 2: The Romantic Album. I have obsessed over it, and.
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: It makes me so excited to have that person.
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: Where I could throw on the song dance with Me
• 13:37
  Speaker 2: that he just released, and I'm like.
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: I want some of the dance with So I do
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: get excited for that one day.
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: But after the trivia night date, I had so much fun.
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: And I also had another date set up on the
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: weekend with the person that Abby connected me with.
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: Yeh it.
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: Now what's cool is we have multiple mutual friends. We
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: were texting and the energy was already incredible, and so
• 14:03
  Speaker 2: we went out to dinner on Saturday, and just to
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: make it very easy on how good this date was,
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: we didn't even order food for the first two hours,
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: oh my god, because we were just talking, just drinks,
• 14:16
  Speaker 2: just drinks.
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: It took us literally, like probably thirty minutes before.
• 14:19
  Speaker 2: We even got a drink, because as soon as we
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: got together, Oh my, let me just tell you, I like,
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: I opened the door to go get her, and I
• 14:26
  Speaker 2: was like, I like almost like lost my breath for
• 14:28
  Speaker 2: a scond.
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, stop. I swear to gosh,
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: she listens to this, She's gonna die. I know. I'm
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: actually I want this just to be in the fam.
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: I'll label the episode something to do with should men
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: approach women here? And then you know, if she sticks around,
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: then I think she earned it.
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: I guess if you're listening to this farm But that's fine.
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: If that was the title of the podcast, that's where
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: I just came up with.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: It, from the brainchild of it rain child. But I
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: just honestly was blown away.
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: It's a wild thing to be a dude with with
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: a just a beautiful woman, because you literally feel like
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: the eyes of the room on you. And I was
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: like looking around, like you.
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: Damn right, Yeah, you see what table she's sitting at.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: It's with me.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: But we talked for we closed out the restaurant. We
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: literally had to leave. I left simply because I saw
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: they were closed. We could have just sat there and
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: continued talking. We had glass of glass after wine, and
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: we had an amazing dish of food and it was
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: so fun that we started doing a little tour via
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Saint Pete. So we went and checked out this place
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: called Ruby's Elixir, which is it's like a music bar
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: where they got a live band on the stage. Grabbed
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: a drink there, and it was so fun because you
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: could tell the comfort of somebody based off of if
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: they're going to sing with you or not, and based
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: off of how silly you feel singing with them. And
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: so we're literally singing with each other, we're talking to strangers.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: It was too comfortable, too quick. And I don't say
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: too isn't bad. I say it was just amazing to
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: see how comfortable you could get with somebody and how
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: easy it was.
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: Was there a part of you that was thinking I
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: can't trust this or did you find it easy to
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: fall into it?
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: I found it very easy to just fall into conversation
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: to just how everything flowed.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: And I love that energy back. And what's fun about.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: Dating is I'm looking for the things that I actually want.
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: So I want someone that could, you know, if let's
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: talk tennis terms, when you serve it up, I want
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: them to be able to hit it back.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: As much as I love talking here and I do
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: everything in an entertainment stance, I do want a relationship
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: where I could just sit back and listen. I want
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: her to be the one that could take charge in
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: the conversation and just let me listen because they're just
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: so excited to be able to tell me stuff.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: I love that. And we had so many of those
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: moments that we left that bar.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: I left my credit card at that bar by the way,
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: so eventually I'm gonna go get it unless they cut
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: it up and throw it.
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: Or another good sign that you were so wrapped up
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: in the conversation you forgot your credit Have you checked
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: to see.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: If anyone's use it?
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: I put it on my frozen immediately, OK, Because like
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: we were just so in flow, like I didn't want
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: it to let its like bother me. Because we got
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: to the next bar and I went to go buy
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: our drinks and went to this place called Whiskey Exchange,
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: super nice, and I pulled out my wallet. I was like, gosh,
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: dang it, I lost my card and she was about
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: to be like, oh, I got it, and I was
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: like I just felt like such like that dude of
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: like no, no, no, no, all of it's on me.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Side note, I realized how expensive dating is so expensive,
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: especially if.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: We want the night to keep going dinner alone.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I was like, all right, this is okay, this is
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: a gonna be a fun night, pricy night, but I'm glad.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: I working over the weekends to make sure I could
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: cover it.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: But when we went to that and we were making
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: our way all the way down Central, we walked like
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: three miles together, just bar to bar to bar, we
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: stopped in we had a random like moment with somebody's
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: birthday party. We saw birth and again another tangent of
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: what I like in someone is their spontaneous attitude, their
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: attitude to say, fit, let's see what happens. We saw
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: a little birthday party going on in a restaurant. We
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: just literally walked in. We started singing Happy Birthday with
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: the family owner of the restaurant.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: It was their birthday. They're like, oh my god, come in.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: They gave us beers and food, and we're like, this
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: is so cool. We dance with the people, we talk
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: with the strangers. It felt like a movie of how
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: every adventure led to like a new scene.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: And then we walked further down.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: We made it all the way down Central, three miles
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: in at the bar that we were actually searching for.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: It's like, what is that movie Harold and Kumora's Adventure
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: or whatever. We finally get to the destination. You finally
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: get to White Castle, and we're like, finally there. What
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: we were hoping for was like a show and music.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: But it was two thirty in the morning.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: They were shutting down.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: They were shutting down, so we got one drink, We
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: sat on the couch, we started talking.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: It was just so smooth and so easy.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say I'm waiting for another shoe to drop,
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: but it was just wild to me and kind of intimidate,
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: because if you listen to this podcast, you know, like,
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: my whole thing is to just be single. I want
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: to just be single, do you though, Okay, let me
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: take that.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I think I don't want to be single, correct.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: I want to truly find what I'm looking for and
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: myself and other people. And I don't want to just
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: jump in out of the comfort of jumping in.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I think I'm avoiding.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: You don't want to be single. I think maybe you
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: think you need to be single.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Correct, But I feel like I had this conversation five
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: years ago where it was like, you know, you need
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: to be single to just, you know, find what you want,
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: do what you want. And so I am doing that
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: right now, and so in this process, I'm learning a
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: lot about what I like. But dang, when you walk
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: away from a date of things that you really like,
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: it makes it really hard. You're like, Okay, if I'm
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: looking at all my boxes of what I want, it's
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: like check check check chick, chick.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: Damn it. Well boxes didn't she check? Gosh? I hm,
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I can't think of any that were not matched. Wow,
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: it was a good date. It was a great date.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: It's a fantastic date. A fantastic date. Have you been
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: talking since then? We set up?
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: We haven't set up another time, but I did message
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: her afterwards and I was like, that was awesome. You know,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I think I want to make sure that she feels
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: the same way. I would love to do it again.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: Can you imagine after seven hours she's like, Eh.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I honestly kind of because I don't know.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: You know, you've I had it before where you think
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: everything's great in person and then you literally never talk
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: to that person again.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Actually, oh my god.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: I can't say any names, but you know exactly what
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about. I went on just a casual date
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: with somebody just a couple of weeks ago, and it
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: was awesome, great conversation, great flow, and then literally abby
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: nothing like, not a single.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: Word, Oh you're walking day.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: Yes, well, because sometimes you get with people and I'm
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: speaking for myself as a yapper. I'm a yapper and
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: sometimes I'm just enjoying myself because I'm like, I'm funny.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: But we were again, it was somebody that could like.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: This is where I really picked up on how much
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I love that energy. Everything I said, she could respond
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: to everything she said.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: I just flowed so nicely.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: So that kind of ft with my brain because I
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: was like, yeah, we went and had an amazing time,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: multiple hours, multiple miles walked, and then like nothing.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: But maybe she just felt more of a friend vibe.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: But even if it's your friend, like I have definitely
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: messaged them on Instagram. Yeah, and I haven't gotten it
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: was just weird. It was like on Instagram before the
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: walking dat it was like message message message, laugh, laugh laugh.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Respond responderspond walking.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: Date, amazing chemistry, great time, very similar, awesome personality.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: After that, nothing, I'm so sorry. Well, I mean, I'm
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: cool with it.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing that I try to tell my friends.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I try to tell the people in my circle. I
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: don't take it personally, like I tell a very close
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: friend of mine when these things happen, like, don't take
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: it personally because how I view it, my belief is
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: every no is just leading me to the right one.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: That's how it was with jobs, that's how it's been
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: with relationships. That things don't work out, it's because there's
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: something better down the line, because.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: You wouldn't want that person to say yes and string
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: you along if the feeling for them wasn't there exactly,
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: because then you would have never gone out on the
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: dates right afterwards. Dates two and three correct with these
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: other women. That's exactly four other girlfriends.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I think I'm doing exactly what you're supposed to do.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: You are, I mean for finding a girlfriend.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's definitely keeping your options open, trying to figure
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: out what you like, and I think you've narrowed it
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: down to somebody that you want to see again. So
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: my question for you now is how are you going
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: to break up with your other girlfriends?
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I don't think there's any needs and are you and
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: are you going to break up with them?
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, first off, let me make sure this is very clear.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: I have been open and honest with everybody. Yes, I
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: know one thing I messed up on the last time
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: I was single, as I tried to just be like, oh.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm just kind of don't.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: And women called me out. They're like, okay, first off,
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: you were never straight up. You like, you're just not
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: putting an effort. And I was like, oh, that's because
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: I'm not looking for anything. And they're like, okay, well
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I'm done with this. I'm like, oh, understandable.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: That was kind of a jerk thing to do.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: This time, I really want to make sure that even
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: as we're talking and things are clicking. I'm like, hey,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm also not looking for anything serious. I
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: want to just see connections. I want to make new friends.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: I'm want to make it. If you're not looking for
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: anything serious, maybe we could just be there for each
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: other every now and then in.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: What capacity Scottie or even something simple. I just go
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: in on dates and doing thing.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: It's still fun to do things with people, and also
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: to be able to have that trust with each other,
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: because I think that's hard on a first date. If
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: I'm always going on first dates, you don't get to
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: see like a really.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Cool connection that could happen down the line.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: I do understand that I'm signing myself up to either
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: be hurt or to potentially hurt someone else, and that's
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: support that crushes me where I'm like, damn, we do
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: have a great connection. We have a great time when
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: we're together. I also know that you're looking for something
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: and I'm not. So we could just cut it right now,
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: or we could fuck.
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: No.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: But it's I again, like, before anything like that happens,
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: any intimacy, it has to be said that, yeah, I
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: know what you're looking for, you know what I'm looking for.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: If you want to cut it here, that's fine.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: I do think that's the line you have to you
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: have to create. People are like when you sleep with them,
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: win's too soon, Whin's too late? I think it's whenever
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: you define the relationship. And that doesn't mean you have
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: to like be their boyfriend or girlfriend if that's not
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: your style. But I think you need to define where
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: are we right now and how is what we're about
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: Going to effect where we're going.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: And that's why I do truly keep that in mind
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: because I know that it's like once if there's any
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: intimacy that happens, like your brain goes into a different
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: mode of how you view the person, how the interactions go,
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: the emotions that get tangled up, And so I don't
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: want again to hurt anybody in this process. So being
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: open and honest about where I am is what I'm
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: trying to do. I don't know if it's always heard.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: I think that's the part that's like how many times
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: you say it before it's like you're saying it to
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: you're blue in the face. Because that's where I'm at
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: right now. It's like, Okay, we have a great connection.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: I'm also not looking for anything serious. But then again,
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: this the thing that I did last time, before my
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: last relationship started, was I said to myself, probably this
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: many months in, I said, well, shoot, this is really fun.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I would love to just see where this goes. And
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: it was.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: It was incredible, And that's the relationship that just ended.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: But I think I might have jumped in for two reasons.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: I love the connection that we had. It was the
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: best one I had out of anybody else talking to.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: And I also think I was looking for just compatibility connection,
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: someone to do stuff with, and it led to the relationship.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I don't want to just
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: jump into a relationship out of fear of being single.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: I think that's the power of me being single right now.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're also just a people person, and so I
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: think there's a part of you that's missing that type
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: of connection because you are such a people person.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's what I mean.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: It's like, there's so many moments right now that I'm like,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: damn it, how that would be so fun with a partner.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: But I also want to get really comfortable being alone,
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: you know. And when Bruno Mars says, dance with me,
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: I want to dance with me myself and I, no.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: You don't.
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: Don't you want a beautiful line, don't lie to me,
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: don't look at me in my face and say I
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: want to be by myself.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I'm Scottie. I want to be single. It just sounds
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: so nice. I want to be single and have seven girlfriends.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: It is a lot.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: And I even though people know that I am in
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: that world of being single and I'm out dating, I
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: still do feel bad. It's very weird to be on
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: a date and then also like after the date, texting
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: them and then texting somebody else.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: That still feels very icky. I know.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: That's why I think we as a collective, maybe we
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: do this tomorrow. I think it's time for you to
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: break up with that girlfriend that you don't like. Oh
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: you don't like her. I do like her, you do
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: not like her?
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Okay. She could be literally listening to well, this is
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: me telling you that he doesn't want to date you. What,
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: oh my god. Romantically, she's not listening. She might not
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: even think. She's like, this isn't about me. That's true.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: The way I know you're not.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Into her in this way, I'm sure she's a great girl,
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: like this is not like, oh, I'm sure, I'm sure
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: she's lovely. You too, are not a match because every
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: time you talk about her, your voice goes up in octave.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: And I tell you this, every single time Scotty goes
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: and give me a word, give me, give me a sentence,
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: can't give me a sentence. Okay, so Scotty's coming back.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: I'm like, how did the date go last night? How
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: was blah blah blah blah blah, And he goes, it
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: was really good.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I really liked it.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I think I'm closed off, though, to the idea of
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: trying to turn something serious. That's where even this amazing
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: date this weekend, hmm, I think I'm more open to
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: seeing where it goes.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: That's what I mean.
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: Is your eyes lit up when you were talking about
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: the Scroll and doesn't mean one is better than the other.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: One is just better for you. I think a word, yeah, yeah,
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: because I don't want to shit on her.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know the Scroll. By the way, I liked
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: the stories that I come into the studio with.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: I've gone on other than the one that I know.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: She's an amba in my head, like she's just she's
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: just a face. Lights blohbless, like I don't know this
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: girl at all. It's all I know is the way
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: that Scotty communicates when I ask how the dates go,
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: and you always have positive things to say because such
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: a positive person. But I can tell that you're not
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: being honest with me but your true feelings or you're
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: describing how you're feeling, but you're saying how you want
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: to feel versus how you actually feel.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: That's a good way to put that's poetry out. This
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: is why we have these conversations.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: Though, this is it, But I also I still want
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: to oh this is words.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: Hmmm. I just I'll take it day by day. I'll
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: take it date by date.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: That's exactly right, because I don't want to just rush
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: into something. But I also, gosh, when there's a good connection,
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: you're like, what am I supposed to just say no?
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Because I'm supposed to be single?
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: I know, But so if it's the right connection, then
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: move forward with it. But I told you this, and
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: actually I'm not saying this is what's gonna happen. But
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: remember last episode of the episode before, I'm like Scott,
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: he's gonna get himself into a situationship that it's going
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: to ruin his life.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, is this is the one? I think this is? Okay.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: Now, I'm not putting this on into the universe. I'm
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: just saying that's what I predicted. And everything you're telling
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: me you want is peak. I want a situation vibes,
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: because last time I was in a situationship, I was like,
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I wish we could just be best friends.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: That make out. Damn. You know that TikTok on making
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: out and nothing else.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: I was like, I just liked, like hanging out with
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: him and making out with him, but I don't want
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: him to be my.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: Boyfriend, damn. And you just kind of described the same
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: thing where it's like I just want to like companionship. Well, damn,
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I wish.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying that's what you want with this girl.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: You seem to really like her. I'm very much I'm
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: advocating for this relationship if it's right.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Well, what you guys are lucky is I think if
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: I was like eight months down the line, I'd be like, oh, yeah,
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: for sure, I'm gonna turn this into like something serious.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: But it's also date one.
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: I think you got to give it two to three
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: before you determine whether or not it's going somewhere, because
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: right now I think date one.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Is just do you like them? You do like her?
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: So Date two is do I like her? And could
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: I see this going somewhere? And then date three answers
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: that question, Oh this is going somewhere. That's I've been
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: around the block a few times, Scottie.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Gosh, there are a couple of things that we're gonna
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: actually be talking about this week too, because as much
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: as Abby has been a wing woman for me, it
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: is now time for me to be a great wing
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: man because we are gonna go out to an activity
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: this week.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited. M effers that don't run. We're going
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: to run club, but you're not running. Well.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: It's one of the most popular quote unquote run clubs
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: in Tampa.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Bay Walk Club social club. It's a social club where
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: you're a little active.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, it's an opportunity to meet someone new and the
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: people there, I mean, honestly, the most intimidating part is
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: that from what I have seen, there are gorgeous people there.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: I mean, anytime I've gone to one of these run clubs.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: I'm like, God, the guys here, like I have worked
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: my f mean tail off for years, and there are
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: guys that walk there like Greek gods, and I'm.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: Like, God, gotta you have a great body the guy.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm when you see these men, you're definitely competitive,
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: Like you're not showing up like you know, Paul Blurt Copse.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: They're tall and chiseled, got them salivating, probably run faster than.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: Me, Harry.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: Okay, we'll have to talk about this later in the week,
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: but tomorrow we are interviewing the organizer, the creator, the founder.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: I forget like that we need the inside because I've
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: gone to run clubs with friends before. But I think
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: if you don't go consistent enough, you missed the whole point. Yeah,
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: and that's the idea of making friends and connections and
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: maybe love.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: But Scotty and I are both we're so competitive socially
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: that we're like, we want to go and we want.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: To be the cool kids.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we want we want the organizer to be there
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: and be like Scotty and we.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Would be we would be in the ingroup.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: It's kind of like you know someone already there, so
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: you already feel a little more comfortable walking up into
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: a random ass group of people.
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, if we're not gonna be the hottest there, we're
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: gonna be the most popular one.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: So we're gonna call.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: And ask and be like, Okay, so what's the best
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: way to assimilate? What's the best way to start a conversation?
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: Is it the kind of thing where you don't I
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: don't show up on time? Do you show up early?
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: Do you show up late?
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: What are the vibes we need to set up? I don't.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: They might do this already, But I went to a
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: running festival and there was a marathon. It was like, literally,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: well they did.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: An event where it was like a singles run or
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: like a singles or taken or whatever.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: You put on a la that showed what you were. Oh.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I love that. It was so cool because immediately.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: You're like, it's like every quarter or every half mile
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: you had to buddy up with somebody knew, So you
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: got a half mile to run or walk with somebody,
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: get to know them, okay, and then you switch.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: You want to know why I love this because I'm
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: picturing a five care or whatever and you're just doing
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: a light jog and then some guy comes up and
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: it's like and you can just run away from him.
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: What's he gonna say, stop running pace? You're gonna tell
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: you to stop running during the five k.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Now that I think about it, I'm like, maybe that's
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: why some people like, actually stop. They're like, I'm just
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: gonna walk the rest.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, are you that's what that was happening.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: That's what was happening insight now.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: But I wonder if they do that at this that'd
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: be so smart. Any they do it in Miami, I know,
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: like because that's who it was organized at this festival,
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: These run club guys from Miami.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: They're like, we do this there for singles. Put on
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: this laide laid lead, laid to laid pipeline. Okay, laid
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: laid to laying pipeline. That's gonna be our running club anyway,
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: that's what we should do. Lay pipe with us. Nope,
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: but that's gonna be fun. Very excited to get that insight.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: We'll do that tomorrow. And you need to wing woman
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: me at crunch. I already don't even know how to
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: wing man myself at crunch. Yeah, but maybe if I
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: show up, but I just have like full tits out, Hey,
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: just all the way out approach.
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: Hey, it's chest day, that's just what it MEANSPEC day.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I think the best way to do is like do
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: a hit class.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: I know, it's kind of like the most not it's
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: not the most attractive if you're breathing heavy next to somebody,
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: but you are little.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: I just go and you can hype people up. The
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: men that I want a date aren't going to hit
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: class though. Who are they going? They're going to weight
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: lifting class that you're lifting and hit a yeah, like
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: a berries or an F forty five. Well no, I
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: mean we just do our own. It's like, I don't
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: go to forty five. I don't know that gym. I
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: know it's popular, yeah, but I mean that kind of
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: workout where it's like lift weights, run.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: Run, lift, jump, jump, swirl, summersault, flip a thing if
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: you ever in French.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: We could do a class and you could actually have
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: a chance to meet people. And I wanted to get
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: a Boola next week. Oh my god, boo, you're on
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: your zoom a cruise.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: Yes, there's a lot to talk about, there's a lot
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: to dive in there. There's a lot of adventures that
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: are about to happen. Yeah, so okay, let's make sure
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: that we get this update through the week. We'll talk
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: to the owner founder of Mfor's that don't run tomorrow.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: A lot of stuff happening all the pre game before
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: my zoom a cruise. All right, Abby, what's your social
• 34:40
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• 34:42
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• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Y'all are so supportive, Like that is so cool.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: You put up a story and you are like boom
• 34:49
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• 34:51
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• 34:54
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• 35:00
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• 35:03
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• 35:05
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• 35:08
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• 35:11
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• 35:15
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• 35:16
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• 35:18
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• 35:20
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• 35:23
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• 35:25
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• 35:28
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• 35:34
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• 35:37
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• 35:40
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• 35:42
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• 35:46
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• 35:49
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