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Dear Banya: Not Cool Enough for These Eyepatches · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello Everybody, we are scrubbing in. Dear Banya, Dear Bonya.
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  Speaker 3: Happy Thursday, Thursday Thursday. Who's throwing them back tonight?
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  Speaker 4: Someone on the poor on the Facebook group was like,
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  Speaker 4: why do they pretend like it's Thursday?
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  Speaker 2: We know that they're in the same clothes and bring Yeah, Like, no,
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  Speaker 2: that's a whole bit. Is we know that you know.
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  Speaker 1: We like to dress the same on Mondays and Thursdays.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's called recycled, reduce, reuse and the.
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  Speaker 2: Same and everything.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we had some we're gonna do Dear Bonnia questions
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  Speaker 4: and then we wanted to do the game again that
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  Speaker 4: so Haley was watching the clip of us doing the
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  Speaker 4: game last week, the Guess Who game, and she was like, God,
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  Speaker 4: Donia's questions are so bad.
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  Speaker 5: I asked the exact same questions that you did.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't but yeah, some you had some that were separate.
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  Speaker 4: But when I played with her, she kept repeating the
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  Speaker 4: exact same question as me, and I'm like, this is
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  Speaker 4: not fun.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's hard when you hog all the good questions,
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  Speaker 3: and you go first. I'm gonna go first this time, okay.
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  Speaker 1: Mark, mark it down, Fine, goes first.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and you try not to capy me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure you went first last time.
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  Speaker 5: No, I'm pretty sure.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I think you did. I feel pretty confident.
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  Speaker 5: I feel pretty confident it was you.
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  Speaker 4: Anyways, So we're gonna try that again today. But first
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  Speaker 4: I need everyone to stop what you're doing. And if
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  Speaker 4: you haven't already, go buy a ticket to see Girls
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  Speaker 4: Like Girls this weekend.
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  Speaker 2: This is when it counts.
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  Speaker 5: I'm going to see it again tomorrow.
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  Speaker 4: That's right, it's tomorrow. It's Saturday, it's Sunday. I even
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  Speaker 4: think Thursday night they have some showing. So I'm not
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  Speaker 4: going buy a ticket, but you should go. It's amazing.
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna see it like ten times this weekend.
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  Speaker 5: I have a jam packed weekend.
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  Speaker 6: Really, yes, tell me more, because we have.
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  Speaker 5: Hayley's movie on Friday.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's my Friday, right, Saturday, Saturday, everyone Disneyland.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that is jam packed.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, Robbie and like his brother cousins and all the kids.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, so it's like a big crew.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: And then Sunday, We're hosting our Father's Day barbecue.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh I bet Robbie is about to
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  Speaker 2: pop off.
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  Speaker 5: He is popping off. He's already like started the prep.
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  Speaker 5: It's cute. It's like really cute. He like loves this.
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  Speaker 2: Sweet because he is a father, you know.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know that's what I said too. I was like,
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  Speaker 3: are you sure you want to do this? Like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like it's a lot of work for you. It's Father's Day.
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  Speaker 3: Don't you want to kick back with a beer? And
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  Speaker 3: he was like, no, I love doing this, like I
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  Speaker 3: love making food. I love having people over.
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  Speaker 2: Probably ever kicked back with the beer in his life,
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  Speaker 2: I haven't seen that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not really a kickback, but he does like
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  Speaker 3: to throw back a beer.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, yeah, that's really fun. And see that he's
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  Speaker 2: doing that. Yeah, and you're gonna just be ready with
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  Speaker 2: your gloves for the dishes.
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  Speaker 5: Gots you bet you?
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  Speaker 2: Why don't you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm making little gift bags or like little like a
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  Speaker 3: little thing for all the dads and there.
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  Speaker 5: So it's just a mug right now, it's his dad
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  Speaker 5: on it.
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  Speaker 3: There's like these cute little mugs and so it's gonna
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  Speaker 3: put like little things in there, like dads would like.
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  Speaker 3: And all I have right now is birds, bees chapstick,
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  Speaker 3: and I ordered some of those simply mints.
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  Speaker 5: Like do guys even care if their breat smells? I
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  Speaker 5: feel like no.
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  Speaker 1: I like mince. I like lip bom.
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  Speaker 2: Why so men not hear of their breast smell? That's crazy?
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  Speaker 5: I just like men don't care period.
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  Speaker 1: I like mince. I use mince to stop eating.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, like I use that tight suppress it.
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  Speaker 1: Something like when I when I have the sugar, like
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  Speaker 1: that you know the sweetness or whatever, there's sugar, but
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  Speaker 1: when you have the mint, but the time it's over,
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  Speaker 1: you've moved on to other things, you know, like it
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  Speaker 1: signals to me that this meal has over. Yeah, so
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  Speaker 1: I don't just keep eating or dessert or whatever mint.
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  Speaker 2: So instead of dessert, everyone should just be serving men.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if there's a dessert, I'm going to eat it,
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  Speaker 1: but if I eat the mint, I'll stop be able
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  Speaker 1: to stop myself.
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  Speaker 3: So I was also thinking about doing like some little
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  Speaker 3: hand sanitizers in there, and then I was like, what
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  Speaker 3: do guys want? Then I was like, maybe like like
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  Speaker 3: oil to like change their oil and their cow. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know, like a measuring.
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  Speaker 6: The mug.
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  Speaker 5: That's the thing I need to be.
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  Speaker 2: Like some teas, like golf teas.
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  Speaker 3: That is not a direction I was going in. I'm
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  Speaker 3: not sure if any of them a cup of golf.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I don't know the men in your family, so
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  Speaker 4: I can't confirm tonight.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's tough. So I'm just like working on that
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  Speaker 5: right now.
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  Speaker 2: What about some mini little colognes or something.
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  Speaker 3: Scents are so tough, you know, like they're so personal
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  Speaker 3: you have to get I'm getting six dads.
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  Speaker 4: Are going to be coming over, or like a mini
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  Speaker 4: travel like body wash or something like keels.
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  Speaker 5: Do you guys care about smelling good?
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's nice they should.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe some eye drop, why.
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  Speaker 2: Help us out, it's in a mug.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want any of that other stuff. No.
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  Speaker 2: I love a fireballs.
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  Speaker 1: I like the lip ball. I like the other thing, mince.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like anything else.
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  Speaker 5: You said, no hand sanitizer.
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  Speaker 1: No, I mean, okay, sure, fine.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I know, so what else? Maybe some eye patches.
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  Speaker 2: No road.
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  Speaker 1: Pimple patches, none of those things. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: I want, but I don't want those things.
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  Speaker 4: So this makes me feel validated because I found men
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  Speaker 4: to be so hard to shop for, so hard, but
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  Speaker 4: y'all don't even know what you want.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so it validates.
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  Speaker 3: What's even harder is doing a generic one for six
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  Speaker 3: different dads my dad.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, if it's in a mug like my dad's pretty easy,
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  Speaker 3: Like I could get. I got my dad these b
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  Speaker 3: for Bronco his name engraved crystal glasses for like his alcohol.
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  Speaker 3: He raves about them like he's so happy with these
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  Speaker 3: be engraved.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but your dad is like that. Your dad is
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  Speaker 2: really excited about everything that might do for so easy.
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  Speaker 4: His screensaver is zoomed in photo of Tanya, just like
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  Speaker 4: you all know, so her getting him something.
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  Speaker 1: He has three children.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, it's just med, it's just me, but it's literally
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  Speaker 3: just me.
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  Speaker 5: So and it is a zoomed in photo of me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can see he did.
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  Speaker 1: Cropped everyone else in the photo.
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  Speaker 3: I think, yeah, yeah, but he is just the face. No, no,
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  Speaker 3: nothing else necessary.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, we'll be like.
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  Speaker 4: I remember I went to dinner with him one time
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  Speaker 4: and we were sitting across and I just saw him.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sitting next to Tanya and then her mom and
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  Speaker 4: dad are across the table from us, and I just
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  Speaker 4: see him take his phone out and she's like, oh no,
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  Speaker 4: oh no, He's.
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  Speaker 2: Like, look how beautiful, and it's just assumed him photo.
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  Speaker 2: It's really sweet.
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  Speaker 4: Seriously, So I get why you getting him those glasses
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  Speaker 4: he raves about.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, so it's the generic thing that's that's I'm having.
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  Speaker 2: A cool headphones or something.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I would like that.
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  Speaker 5: With the wires.
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  Speaker 2: Socks are nice.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, everybody loves a nice cozy sock. No, not even
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  Speaker 3: like a pair of dress socks, warm feet.
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  Speaker 5: Warm, muterus.
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  Speaker 1: What they say, Yeah, what the.
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  Speaker 5: Guys they're worried about. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be excited about socks, but I would see
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  Speaker 1: the practicality of them.
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  Speaker 5: They're like, Okay, I'm shook by that.
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  Speaker 4: It'd be one of those things that maybe weren't excited about,
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  Speaker 4: but you would probably on and.
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  Speaker 2: Be like, oh what a great gift.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah cozy, yeah cozy. Yeah, Well thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Continue to think on that. Yeah, let's get into dear
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  Speaker 2: Bonia from anonymous.
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  Speaker 1: My husband and I were both widowed in twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: and got married and only twenty five. We have four
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  Speaker 1: children between us. His late wife was a stay at
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  Speaker 1: home mom. I've always worked full time and value having
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  Speaker 1: my own income and my own independence. Lately, I've been
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  Speaker 1: feeling run down. My husband, who owns his own business,
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  Speaker 1: says I don't have to work and he can afford
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  Speaker 1: for me to stay home. However, he does not believe
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  Speaker 1: in having a joint bank account, so if I stopped working,
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  Speaker 1: the expectation would be that I would ask him for
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  Speaker 1: money when I need it. I appreciate that he's willing
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  Speaker 1: to support our family, but I also feel uncomfortable with
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  Speaker 1: the idea of not having my own income or access
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  Speaker 1: to shared finances. I'm thirty six, he's forty one. Am
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  Speaker 1: I overthinking this or does that arrangement seem a little concerning?
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  Speaker 2: I personally don't like it.
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  Speaker 3: Personally, Yeah, I know it's tough because I think everybody
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  Speaker 3: has like their own comfort, comfort fortability. I just comfort
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  Speaker 3: comfort period in this category. But I would be uncomfortable
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  Speaker 3: with this situation. I was having this conversation the other
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  Speaker 3: day with a friend of mine. We both are like,
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  Speaker 3: are you know working girlies? And we have a friend
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  Speaker 3: that just like quit her job to be a stay
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  Speaker 3: at home mom, and we were like thinking, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I just couldn't not that Robbie would ever like make
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  Speaker 3: me feel weird or like say no, or but like
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  Speaker 3: just saying the words like hey, can I buy this
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  Speaker 3: bag to like get his approval for it would just
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  Speaker 3: make me feel so icky, Like I just wouldn't like
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  Speaker 3: it for me personally, I know there are people out
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  Speaker 3: there that don't care and they wouldn't mind doing it,
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  Speaker 3: and that do it all the time. Yeah, and that's
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  Speaker 3: there there. So I think it's like if you're questioning
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  Speaker 3: it and you're writing into us saying it makes you
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  Speaker 3: feel uncomfortable, I feel like you're more like us and
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  Speaker 3: you're going to be uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 4: I also think if you've had a life where you
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  Speaker 4: have been independent and had your own income and then
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  Speaker 4: all of a sudden having to switch to that mindset,
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  Speaker 4: I think is way harder than if you got married
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  Speaker 4: young and you were a stay at home mom from
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  Speaker 4: a young age and that was kind of like the
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  Speaker 4: arrangement that you had.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I also wonder if maybe you could have a conversation
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  Speaker 4: where you said, like, maybe there's an amount that you're allotted,
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  Speaker 4: and like if you go beyond that budget, like maybe
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  Speaker 4: you have a budget of like just a budget to
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  Speaker 4: where you don't have to ask for money up to
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  Speaker 4: or like ask for things to a certain amount, and
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  Speaker 4: then once you reach a certain budget, you just say, hey, like,
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  Speaker 4: do you mind if I get this and that?
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  Speaker 2: Way you still kind of have both you know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying. But yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I think you writing in already feeling uncomfortable means that
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  Speaker 4: if this worthy arrangement in real life, you would definitely
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  Speaker 4: feel uncomfortable. Yeah, but I think maybe there's a conversation
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  Speaker 4: of like, hey, how do we do this to where
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  Speaker 4: it could work for both of us?
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  Speaker 2: Or is this is it?
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  Speaker 4: Is?
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  Speaker 6: This?
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  Speaker 1: Is it?
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  Speaker 2: Like if you're going to be a stay at home mom,
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  Speaker 2: this is the rule. I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: I know I don't have a hard time I have.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I also don't ever want Robbie to know
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  Speaker 3: how much maintenance, how much money it takes to maintain myself.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, he does not know.
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  Speaker 3: He doesn't know how much I spend on my hair,
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  Speaker 3: how much I you don't get my eyebrows wax whatever,
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  Speaker 3: and how much my nails cost. Like I go every
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  Speaker 3: however many weeks to the nail salon. He probably thinks
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  Speaker 3: it's like ten dollars to get my nails painted, do
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  Speaker 3: you know.
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  Speaker 6: What I mean?
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  Speaker 3: Like, he's no idea, and I don't want him knowing that.
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  Speaker 3: I agree, I feel none of his business.
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  Speaker 4: But I guess it depends on how how much you
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  Speaker 4: don't want to mark anymore.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, that too, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just all about having financial independence.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I know.
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  Speaker 3: So we're talking about opening a joint bank account, keeping
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  Speaker 3: our step keeping the ones that we have and opening
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  Speaker 3: a joint one. And I'm like, I just don't need
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  Speaker 3: him to see on a piece of paper, like how.
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  Speaker 2: Much some of these charges he's a joint account for
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  Speaker 2: your No, no, no, And.
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  Speaker 6: That's the thing.
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  Speaker 5: It's like, I lie to him, I tell him how
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  Speaker 5: much you know he knows.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm like, I think seeing it on like a
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  Speaker 3: statement would really like.
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  Speaker 5: Be jarring, jarring.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I I feel like we might
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  Speaker 2: need a little more details on this.
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  Speaker 3: I think the fact that she's writing this in saying
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  Speaker 3: she's feeling uncomfortable makes me feel like she's gonna be uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, personally, maybe you can.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe you can take a break, take some time off
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  Speaker 4: from working and try and go back to work.
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  Speaker 5: Or maybe there's because she was saying.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe there's a different job that she can do that
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  Speaker 3: she enjoys part time.
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  Speaker 4: But also why why can he? Why does he not
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  Speaker 4: believe in having a joint bake account. That's also a
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  Speaker 4: feel I feel like we should revisit maybe that conversation.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody does weird stuff, like I know married couples who
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  Speaker 3: like venmo each other for the electricity bills, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean, Like everybody has their own way of
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  Speaker 3: dealing with things. So like I don't really fault him
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  Speaker 3: for that, but.
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  Speaker 2: I know, no, no, and I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I mean I think everyone he's probably used to having
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  Speaker 4: a certain amount of money and so then having someone
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  Speaker 4: use that money that he's working for with ma an
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  Speaker 4: adjustment for him too. I think you keep having conversations
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  Speaker 4: about this, and then I also think that maybe you say, hey,
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to take six months off work kind of
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  Speaker 4: like recoup and see if I like this arrangement, and
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  Speaker 4: if you don't.
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  Speaker 2: Like it, go back to work. You're young, that's true. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you're young.
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  Speaker 5: She's the youth of our nation.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm thirty years old. I'm engaging an amazing man,
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  Speaker 1: and we're getting married next year. For years, I have
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  Speaker 1: questioned and explored my sexuality, and through therapy, I have
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  Speaker 1: come to accept that I may be bisexual. I'm still
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  Speaker 1: figuring out exactly how I identify it, but I'm finally
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  Speaker 1: feeling comfortable being honest with myself. Recently, I worked up
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  Speaker 1: the courage to share this with my fiancee. I assured
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  Speaker 1: him that doesn't change anything about a relationship. I've explored
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  Speaker 1: intimacy with women in the past, but he's the only
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  Speaker 1: person I want to be with. This is simply a
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  Speaker 1: part of myself I no longer want to ignore. While
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  Speaker 1: the conversation did not go well. While he's generally supportive
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  Speaker 1: of the LGBTQ plus community, he made some hurtful comments
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  Speaker 1: that seemed rooted in his more traditional upbringing. It left
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  Speaker 1: me feeling like he wanted me to be different from
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  Speaker 1: who I really am now. The next day, he apologized,
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  Speaker 1: acknowledged his reaction was wrong, and told me how much
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  Speaker 1: he loves me. But now I'm feeling awkward and unsure
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  Speaker 1: of how to move forward. I want to give him
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  Speaker 1: time to process, but I also want to know that
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  Speaker 1: my future husband fully accepts, supports and loves me for
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  Speaker 1: who I am. How do I navigate the conversations that
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  Speaker 1: come next?
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  Speaker 3: This is.
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  Speaker 5: Beyond my pay grade.
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  Speaker 2: I mean this. I think this just as.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 4: I think you being honest with yourself and being able
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  Speaker 4: to share that information with him is a big, a
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  Speaker 4: big deal for you, and I'm proud of you for
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  Speaker 4: acknowledging it. And I also think that it's okay for
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  Speaker 4: him to immediately feel like unsafe in that, because you know,
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  Speaker 4: I think it's okay for him to go, wait, what
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  Speaker 4: does that.
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  Speaker 2: Mean for me?
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  Speaker 4: If if you, even though you reassure him you just
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  Speaker 4: want to be with him, that probably made him feel threatened.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that him having that reaction doesn't excuse
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  Speaker 4: him saying hurtful things. But I think maybe you just
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: need to reassure him that you want to be with him,
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: and this doesn't change how you feel about him or
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: your relationship or wanting to be Even if.
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: She wasn't bisexual, she's still attracted to other like to men.
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: So yeah, like, I guess maybe it just adds a
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: threat of like, Okay, I know it in terms of men,
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: she only wants to be with me, But what if
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: there's a woman that she's you know, attracted to more.
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: But I think he's probably seeking needing to feel safe
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: and seeking safety even with this new information. And I
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: don't think you should feel bad for sharing such an
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: important part of yourself. But I also think that maybe
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: he just needs to be reassured. So I think that
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: there's you know, he I think him acknowledging it and
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: apologizing is a big, big deal.
• 16:15
  Speaker 5: So you didn't go like ten toes down.
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And I also think that you know, you shared
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: something really vulnerable, and sometimes with those those moments and
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: then reactions that aren't exactly what we want, it can
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: feel a little uncomfortable and you need a little time
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: to readjust but I think you're going to be fine.
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: I think he acknowledged how he reacted was wrong, and
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: I think you shared something that's a very important part
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: of yourself, and I think you both did the best.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: That you could with at that time.
• 16:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I think I would just let him know
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: that he's safe and that you love him and in
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: your relationship is your priority and it was just a
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: part of yourself and something that you felt like you
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: needed to share for him to know.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Who you fully are are.
• 17:02
  Speaker 5: Great advice.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: I didn't really give advice, but but congrats.
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: Yeah you're engaged. She's engaged.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, all right, So play the game next? Or
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: what do you want to do here? Yeah?
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Game next? Okay, yeah, let's go. Okay, so do we
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: need to leave? Should we do it to where oh?
• 17:24
  Speaker 5: Our head spinning?
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: Should we do it to where we all? Because you
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: had to go to a meeting last time, that's why
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: you couldn't play.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, I don't need to play. You guys should play? Oh?
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: Because I was thinking, we all write down someone and
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: put it on the person's and then we turn our
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: cameras around. Oh, and so that, and then the audience
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: also has to try and guess.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: Oh you know what I'm saying.
• 17:46
  Speaker 5: I don't understand. I don't follow. But if you follow,
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: just tell me what to do.
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you just you just sit there and.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Tell the listeners who we have.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: I mean it could be a different way.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Instagrammers will know who we have because they'll be on
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: our forehead.
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, don't get to see it. But otherwise games, okay, okay,
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: whatever whatever you want. If it worked fine last time, Okay,
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: let's do it the way we did it last time.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: And if people would like to do it this way
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: that I'm talking about, let us know.
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: I don't know if anyone's gonna understand what you're talking about.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: I don't even know what to try what we're talking about.
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: I'm saying that Mark doesn't tell them, justus who are listening.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: He doesn't tell them who we pick, and we just
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: play the game and they try to guess too. Oh
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: see if they can guess who we have. So it's
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: an immersive experience. But we'll do it the way that
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: we did it last time. So let's pause our videos, okay,
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: and we're gonna step out of the room. Mark's gonna
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: let them know who.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: Well, we're gonna be right back, and we'll we're back.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: They're out of the room. It's just me, all right.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: So here are the celebrities that we have chosen for them.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: And then Becca chose left hand, and in my left
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: hand was Pink in my right hand. So Tanya's person
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: is Paul Rudd. Becca is Pink, Tanya is Paul Rudd.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: And now we'll bring them back, all right. They have
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: the post, it's on their head. Tanya has requested to
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: go first.
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: Can I have a pen?
• 19:35
  Speaker 6: Please?
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Mark, You may have a pen? Sure?
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: Am I a man?
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Yes? My a woman?
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: Yes? Am I a hot man?
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 19:47
  Speaker 6: I mean.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: Isn't that subjective?
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I think yes, though, I think yeah.
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: Is he known for being a handsome man?
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah?
• 19:55
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Am I an actress?
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: No? Am I married?
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: No? No, I'm sorry? Yes?
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, oh married? Yeah I was like. Wait, Am I
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: a singer?
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: Yes? Am I an actor?
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Yes? Am I married? Yes?
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: Do I have children?
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: I think so?
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: Am I a pop singer?
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: Yes? Am I over fifty?
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Yes? Am I younger than thirty?
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: No? I'm the hot man married actor? Have I won
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: an Oscar?
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: I don't think so.
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: No, no Oscar?
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Am I younger than fifty?
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: Yes?
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: So?
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: Do I also sing?
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: No? Do I have a current hit on the radio?
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: No?
• 21:01
  Speaker 5: Am I on social media?
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: I mean you're not known for Okay, that's fair, that's fair.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Am I on tour currently?
• 21:10
  Speaker 5: No? Am I a movie or a TV actor? Sorry? Sorry?
• 21:17
  Speaker 5: So sorry? Am I a movie actor?
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: Yes? Am I a rapper?
• 21:24
  Speaker 5: No? Am I in any current movies?
• 21:28
  Speaker 6: Like?
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: Yeah this year twenty twenty six came out in twenty
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: twenty six? Yeah?
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 21:34
  Speaker 5: Wow? Okay?
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Do I have kids?
• 21:36
  Speaker 5: Yes? Is my current movie about outer space.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: No, damn, Am I married to another celebrity?
• 21:47
  Speaker 5: I think so, I'd say so, I'd say so.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Am I married to another celebrity?
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I don't think so.
• 21:57
  Speaker 5: No, married to a normy?
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: Am I a singer from the two thousand's era?
• 22:04
  Speaker 5: Yes? Am I seventy plus?
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: No?
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Am I from a group?
• 22:13
  Speaker 6: No?
• 22:14
  Speaker 5: Have I seen this movie that I'm this man is
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: in currently?
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: I don't think so. Huh DoD blonde hair.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna say the answer is yes, So I'm under seventy,
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: I'm over fifty?
• 22:38
  Speaker 5: Hawtie? Am I household name?
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 22:41
  Speaker 5: I am?
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Is my name a color?
• 22:50
  Speaker 6: Yes?
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: This is so annoying. I have no idea who this is?
• 23:00
  Speaker 5: Go am my Brad Pitt?
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: No my pink?
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 23:05
  Speaker 5: Should I keep going?
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: I mean sure?
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: We give her a clue, Yeah, give me some clues.
• 23:11
  Speaker 6: Comedy seth Rogen, friends, Joey Tribbiani, Cotney Cox, you're a man?
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Matthew Perry No, Ross Skeeller No friends?
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, useful? Clueless?
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: Oh and oh the nick Jo.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Stupid, stupid.
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: I'm so bad at this game.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: You're so satisfying how bad you are.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: It's like when I tell you Paul Rudd wasn't even
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: on my radar. It was like Brad Pitt, George Clooney.
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: My favorite thing though, is that your job and like
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: everything you do is in the industry, like you are in.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: This probably I think I'm like it's like analysis paralysis,
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? Like, I'm just my
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: mind has so many names in it that it's.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Like I would never pick Brad Pitt of George Clooney.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: I would never go somewhere that famous. My goal in
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: this game is to find someone everyone knows. But it's
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: kind of nice, not yeah nice, not super super famous.
• 24:26
  Speaker 5: Yeah well good tonight.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: Like I wouldn't do Taylor Swift, I wouldn't do.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: George right someone.
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: So the other day we included some people who are
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: no longer with us, So that added a new element
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: that adds a question.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Of yeah, am I life right? Right right? We could
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: do that.
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: I got Marilyn Monroe and I didn't get it. I
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: could not get it.
• 24:45
  Speaker 5: I would never get that.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: It was so hard, and they were like that could
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: come on, and I was like, I gotta.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: Think of anything. It was so hard.
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: Paul's not like known for being haughtie.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: He is and Lolos agrees.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: I think he was known he was people's sexiest man one.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he definitely so.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: I think if you're on the people are like steering
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: me to like the George clooneyes and the Brad pict If.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: You win sexiest Man Alive, you could argue that that
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: person is known for being handsome.
• 25:11
  Speaker 5: Being handsome is also known for being funny.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: No, he's definitely known for like aging really well and like.
• 25:18
  Speaker 5: Yeah, just like a technicality that could have led me
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: down a.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Different So he was sexiest in twenty one, it's not
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: like it was.
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: Thirty five years ago.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: Well, I have to go get ready day, it's time
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: to go.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: It's a big night, big day, and uh it starts now.
• 25:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: But if you ever want to ride in or have
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: some suggestions of fun celebrities for us to train, I guess.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: New games, you might be get a new game we
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: would be good at, or one if you would be
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: good at.
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if you see a game from like three
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: months ago that it was really popular, let us know,
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: because that's when we how we like to jump on.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: We like to do it after everyone's done with it. So,
• 25:59
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• 26:05
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• 26:07
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• 26:08
  Speaker 4: We love you so by love you, bye bye