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Calling Fear's Bluff - Hypnosis to Expand the Comfort Zone - Hypnosis Only · The Hypnotist

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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, give permission to release any
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  emotions, any sensations, any feelings that aren't useful for
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  you right now. Tension isn't needed.
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  Stress isn't needed. So just allow anything unuseful
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  to feel like it's melting away and leaving your body in your
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  outward breath. And when you breathe in, breathe
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  in deeper than you normally would.
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  And as you exhale, just allow that outward breath to elongate,
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  to keep on going and going maybe twice as long as a normal
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  outward breath. And each breath allows you to
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  drift deeper and deeper, and with your eyes closed, notice
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  how much easier it is to focus on the sound of my words, the
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  rhythm of my voice. And I wonder if you can notice
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  how the world outside can simply wait, because this time this
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  space belongs entirely to you. And you might become aware of
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  the weight of your body, the places where you are supported,
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  the chair or surface holding you, doing all the work so you
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  don't have to. And with each breath, without
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  forcing anything, just allowing, you can feel something beginning
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  to settle, like a snow globe that's been shaken and is now
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  settling into stillness. Your unconscious mind is always
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  listening, always learning, and it already knows so much more
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  than your conscious mind gives it credit for.
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  And that's perfectly fine. And I wonder if you can imagine
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  a trail, a road or a pathway, your pathway stretching out
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  before you, perhaps through a forest or nature, with the light
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  filters through the leaves in that particular way that it
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  does, where every step takes you somewhere quieter, somewhere
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  more you. And as you walk, you might
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  notice that the sounds around you have a quality of distance
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  now that the mind's usual chatter becoming like birdsong
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  in the far trees, present but peaceful, requiring your
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  attention at all. Take steps there on the path
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  through the forest, 10 steps deeper. 9 and then eight.
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  Each step double S your relaxation. 765 the ground
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  beneath. Feel solid, real.
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  You are safe, 432 and 1, and maybe there's a clearing in the
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  forest. And here you are in this place
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  of deep knowing where your unconscious mind can receive and
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  where something important is already beginning to shift.
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  And there is a story, a very old story that every human lives out
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  without perhaps realizing it. And your unconscious mind knows
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  this story well. Once there was a person who
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  lived in a world that felt just manageable, A world with edges,
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  edges that felt safe, edges that felt known.
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  And within those edges, life was predictable.
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  It had its rhythms, its routines, its familiar shapes,
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  and sometimes, in certain situations, when the world felt
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  too large or too watchful, A sensation would arrive, a
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  tightening, A quickening, something the mind called
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  danger, even when there was no danger at all.
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  And for a long time the instinct was to step back from that edge,
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  to find safety in the smaller space.
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  The mind learns early that if you avoid the thing that
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  frightens you, that horrible feeling goes away.
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  But here's what your unconscious already suspects, or perhaps
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  already certain of. Avoidance doesn't shrink the
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  fear, it feeds it. It enlarges it.
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  It is a room that grows with the darkness you feed it, and
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  shrinks very naturally when light or action is brought in.
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  And now something has shifted, hasn't it?
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  Because you already know this. At some level, you've already
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  begun to answer a call, a call that comes not from outside, but
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  from somewhere deeper than thought.
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  And that call sounds like this. What if the very thing I've been
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  avoiding is the thing that will set me free?
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  Your body, in its wisdom, has been preparing you all along.
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  That quickening you feel before a challenge, those sensations
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  you once called anxiety, is the body summoning its resources,
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  calling in its reserves, getting ready.
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  An athlete before a race, an actor there on the edge of the
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  stage, the speaker before hundreds of people.
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  They all feel it. That aliveness, that readiness.
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  The body's saying I know this matters.
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  I am here and nothing will deter me.
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  And what if from this moment, you could meet that sensation
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  not with resistance, but with recognition?
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  There you are. I know what you are.
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  You are my preparation. You are the edge of my comfort
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  zone. You are my body getting ready to
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  be brilliant. FEAR, fear.
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  False evidence that appears real.
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  There's something important to understand about this guardian
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  at the gate, this sensation that stands on the border of your
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  edges, of your comfort zone. Imagine for a moment you are
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  walking through a dark room and in the shadows something looms.
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  Something large, something that feels threatening.
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  The minds is danger. The body braces.
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  Then you reach out. You find the light switch and
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  what you thought was a monster or a villain is a coat on a
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  chair. What was scary, enormous,
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  dangerous, is ordinary. What felt real was simply false
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  evidence appearing real FEAR. False evidence appearing real
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  fear is not always a signal of danger, it's a signal of
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  significance. It's the psyche saying this
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  matters. Pay attention, you are about to
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  grow. I want you to picture a child
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  that was so afraid. You helped them cross that
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  threshold of fear into something they could do.
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  What you did for them, you can do for yourself.
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  You already know how because you showed someone else the way.
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  Darkness only needs one thing to dissolve.
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  Light, and action is light. Movement is light.
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  The simple decision to take one step toward The thing is light.
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  In the old stories, the hero is always tested, not once, but
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  repeatedly. And each test is not a
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  punishment, it's a gift in disguise, an opportunity to
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  discover what they truly are made of.
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  And there is a rule, a simple but powerful rule, one that
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  works like a compass in uncertain terrain.
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  When I notice anxiety that serves no useful purpose.
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  When I notice fear that is protecting me from nothing, I
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  move toward it until the feeling subsides.
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  What if that is how you call fear's bluff?
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  You look it in the eye and you say I see you and I'm doing it
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  anyway. The bluff collapses, It always
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  does, because it has no substance, only the appearance
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  of substance. And the moment you step forward,
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  reality reveals itself. And reality is almost always
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  kinder than fear promised it would be.
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  And each time you call the bluff, something happens in the
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  nervous system. A new pathway forms.
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  A new reference point is created.
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  The unconscious mind files it carefully and notes we did that
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  and we are still here and actually we are more than we
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  were before. Feel like this is the next
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  stepping stone after? Let's see.
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  And what if you unleash a desire to call the bluff of fear?
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  To move beyond the edges, expanding the comfort zone?
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  There comes a moment in every hero's journey.
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  The darkest moment, the greatest challenge, the thing that seems
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  too large, the situation that seems designed specifically to
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  undo all progress. In the old stories they call
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  this the Nemesis, the supreme test, the dragon at The Cave
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  entrance, the storm before the harbour.
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  And here is the secret that only those who have crossed this
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  threshold know. The Nemesis is not there to
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  defeat the hero. The Nemesis is there to reveal
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  them. They show the hero what and who
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  they have become. So when the test comes, and it
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  will come as it comes for every person, rather than fear it, you
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  can welcome it, as strange as that sounds.
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  You can say I've been expecting you.
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  This is the thing that proves I have changed.
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  This is the fire that tempers the steel.
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  And every time you face the thing outside your comfort zone,
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  every time you take that step into the daunting space, your
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  whole comfort zone expands. Not just in that area, but
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  everywhere. Because courage is not
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  compartmentalised, it belongs to all of you.
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  Stand up in front of people who might laugh and something
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  happens to your fear of smaller judgments.
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  Volunteer for that difficult thing and the ordinary difficult
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  things become easy. Face the one big fear and the
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  100 small fears. Loosen their grip.
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  And what is the reward for all this?
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  For calling the bluff, For moving toward the shadow?
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  For stepping into the daunting thing, What if it's a life, a
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  future, a self that is more capable, stronger, larger than
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  it was? I want you to imagine a circle
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  drawn in the sand. Everything inside the circle is
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  familiar, safe, known. Everything outside the circle in
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  the sand is unknown, uncertain. This is the comfort zone.
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  And just imagine, every time you step outside the circle, it
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  grows. It expands to include where you
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  went. The circle gets bigger.
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  Your world gets bigger and the person at the centre of that
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  circle gets bigger too. A goldfish in a bowl remains
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  small. A goldfish in a lake becomes
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  large. Those things that once caused
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  dread would then feel manageable.
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  The sleep that was broken by tomorrow's worry now comes
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  naturally because your nervous system has learned through
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  experience, not just through words.
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  That the world on the other side of fear is survivable, is
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  worthwhile, is often wonderful. And just as you have already
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  begun to notice a different quality to the mornings, a
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  different relationship with the sensation in your chest before a
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  challenge, this is only the beginning of how different
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  things will feel in every great story.
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  The hero returns home, but they return changed, carrying
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  something they didn't have when they left.
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  A gift, a wisdom, a medicine that they now offer to others.
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  You are already living this. Every breakthrough, every
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  progress within you is an opportunity to guide someone
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  else. You already know where you are
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  in this story, but I want you to imagine that future where you
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  return the conquering hero in possession of that gift that
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  benefits you, but also that you can give to others.
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  And just as a candle can light other candles, your gift doesn't
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  disappear if you give it to others.
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  The work you do on yourself never stays contained to you.
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  It ripples. It models, it gives permission
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  to those who watch you simply be someone courageous, brave,
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  confident. That shy, timid version of you
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  from the past flourishes, expands, because you are someone
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  who faces the daunting thing, someone undeterred.
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  And your unconscious mind can carry all of this forward, not
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  as an instruction to be remembered, but as a knowing
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  that is already part of you, already woven into how you move
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  through the world and your future.
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  Because from this place of deep knowing, allow these
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  understandings to settle into the places where change lives.
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  Not in the mind that thinks, but in the body that acts, in the
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  nervous system that remembers, in the unconscious that guides.
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  Whenever you notice fear that has no useful purpose, you will
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  know it as false evidence appearing real, and you will
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  choose action. Action calls the bluff of that
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  fear. And every time you step outside
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  your comfort zone, your comfort zone expands and you expand with
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  it. You can always call fear's
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  bluff. You can move toward it until the
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  feeling dissolves and disappears.
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  And the more you do it, the harder fear is defined.
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  Because your hero's journey is already underway and the test
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  you face are not obstacles, they are the very evidence that you
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  are growing, evolving, improving.
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  Because you are becoming someone who acts despite the feeling,
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  and with each action you become more of who you are truly meant
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  to be. Very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken with a new set
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  of beliefs around fear and anxiety, a desire to do what is
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  beyond the comfort zone, to find it fun to call the bluff of
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  fear. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake.