Latest / ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women / 148 // How to End Your Day Confidently with ADHD

Transcript

148 // How to End Your Day Confidently with ADHD · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

• 0:00
  A few episodes ago, we talked about how to start your day with confidence.
• 0:04
  And in today's episode, we're going to talk about how you can end your day to
• 0:09
  build a confident life with ADHD.
• 0:14
  Are you tired of feeling like you don't fit in? Like you're not good enough the way you are?
• 0:19
  In this podcast, I will give you the strategies to build God-centered confidence
• 0:22
  so you can know in your heart that you do belong.
• 0:25
  You are enough and you are made on purpose and with a purpose.
• 0:44
  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast. I'm your host, Kelsey.
• 0:48
  And as I said in the intro there, today we're going to talk about how you can
• 0:52
  end your day to live confidently with ADHD.
• 0:57
  That is what we are learning here. We are learning how to live confidently with
• 1:02
  ADHD, with exactly who we are, with the brains, the beautiful brains that we've been given?
• 1:08
  How can we live confidently doing what God has called us to?
• 1:14
  So at the end of your day, I would encourage you to try some of these out.
• 1:17
  As I typically say, some of these might work for you.
• 1:20
  Some of them might not. Don't feel like you need to do all of these.
• 1:24
  These are things that have been helpful for me.
• 1:27
  It doesn't mean that this is what you need to do.
• 1:30
  So always take it with a grain of salt and figure out which of these are helpful,
• 1:34
  which of these do you need to change, which of them do you need to
• 1:37
  throw out and replace with something that you've decided
• 1:40
  on all right number one at
• 1:43
  the end of your day I would recommend that
• 1:46
  you reflect reflect on your day
• 1:49
  of what went well what supported
• 1:53
  you in having that go well what were
• 1:56
  the choices that you were happy with that you
• 1:59
  were proud of what were maybe some of the
• 2:01
  things that didn't go well what led up to
• 2:04
  those it's with this reflection that we can learn and
• 2:07
  that we can grow now with this keep number
• 2:10
  two in mind and that is to give yourself grace the point of reflecting is not
• 2:15
  to judge yourself or to shame yourself or to make you feel bad in a new way
• 2:20
  it's to look back at the day and look back at the things that went well give
• 2:25
  yourself a pat on the back be proud of yourself.
• 2:28
  Celebrate those moments. And then also look at the things that you weren't happy with.
• 2:33
  And think about what led up to them. What was going on in that moment?
• 2:39
  What would you like to do differently next time? What kind of supports do you
• 2:43
  need in place in order for that to be true?
• 2:47
  So for example, if I have had a poor sleep, I am impatient and cranky and more
• 2:54
  likely to snap at my husband and my kids.
• 2:56
  And when I reflect back on that, I don't feel very good.
• 3:00
  It's not something that I enjoy. I
• 3:03
  don't like it when I get caught in that but instead
• 3:07
  of sitting in that shame and that judgment it's more
• 3:10
  helpful for us to reflect give ourselves
• 3:13
  grace and then number three is to learn to
• 3:16
  learn from your day to learn from what happened to learn from what you experienced
• 3:21
  and so often that takes backtracking a little bit and saying okay well why did
• 3:27
  I have a bad sleep was there something going on out of my control or was it because I,
• 3:33
  you know, the night before decided to scroll on my phone?
• 3:38
  Okay, well, why was I doing that? Maybe because I didn't have anything life-giving
• 3:42
  throughout my day. I didn't plan any rest, any breaks, anything that I would enjoy.
• 3:47
  So then I was angry and I decided to take revenge by going on my phone all evening,
• 3:53
  being exhausted, having a poor sleep.
• 3:55
  So sometimes it can take this reflection and this looking back to see what happened throughout the day.
• 4:03
  Number four, I already kind of mentioned this, but I want you to celebrate what
• 4:08
  you've learned and how far you've come.
• 4:10
  Maybe there's something you are working on, a goal you're working towards.
• 4:14
  Maybe you set a goal to text a friend this week and you did that.
• 4:20
  Celebrate it. Be excited about the things that you have done and the ways that you've grown.
• 4:25
  And that doesn't mean that now that you've done that once,
• 4:28
  you need to do that every day from here on out and
• 4:31
  that it needs to look perfect it's about celebrating and recognizing what it
• 4:36
  is we have done the ways that we have grown the things that we have learned
• 4:42
  because it's important to focus
• 4:44
  on on those positives instead of always running away from the negatives.
• 4:50
  Number five, end your day by making new goals and planning out tomorrow.
• 4:58
  It's going to help you to sleep. I believe it's going to help you to sleep better
• 5:02
  when you have a plan mapped out for the next day.
• 5:06
  It means you're going to get all your thoughts and your ideas down on paper.
• 5:10
  You don't feel like you have to remember everything.
• 5:13
  And I'll link a planner below as well that you can use or you
• 5:17
  can use whatever kind of planning works for you but with this one it's nice
• 5:21
  because I gave you a page where you can just write out all of your ideas everything
• 5:26
  that's in your mind get it all out onto the paper and then on the next page
• 5:31
  you can then plan it out having a plan I find,
• 5:35
  helps me to sleep better so that I know I've thought about the next day I'm
• 5:40
  not as worried that I'm going to forget about something especially if I keep
• 5:43
  that planner somewhere visible, where I'm going to look at it first thing in
• 5:47
  the morning and throughout the day.
• 5:48
  And it makes me feel like I'm living my life with purpose and intentionality
• 5:54
  instead of allowing my life to just happen to me and feel chaotic and out of control.
• 6:02
  Number six, to end your day confidently. You've done all these things.
• 6:06
  Maybe you've journaled at the end of the day. Maybe that's how you reflect.
• 6:10
  You've learned. You celebrated. You've planned your next day.
• 6:13
  Now I want you to let go of control give
• 6:17
  it to God because at the end of the day we don't have control over so many things
• 6:23
  and it pains me to say that because I wish I wish we did I hate the fact that
• 6:30
  there are things that are out of our control but it is so much more freeing.
• 6:37
  To give it to God, to do our best, and then say, hey, God, I'm giving this to
• 6:41
  you. I'm giving you my worries. I'm giving you my fears.
• 6:44
  I'm giving you my insecurities.
• 6:47
  Take these from me and allow me to have a restful sleep.
• 6:52
  Because when we, I know for me,
• 6:54
  often when I get stuck in rumination and catastrophizing and, you know,
• 6:59
  trying to plan things out and have control over things, I do not sleep very
• 7:04
  well and when I do not sleep very well it just snowballs into the next day and
• 7:09
  then I don't have I have another day that's not very good so go through these
• 7:13
  steps or if you have a different step that works for you or you want to take
• 7:16
  one of these out that's fine,
• 7:18
  have your plan for how you end your day and then once you've done that surrender
• 7:23
  it and say hey God I'm giving this to you I trust you and I trust your provision
• 7:30
  I believe that will bring you a lot more peace than trying to do it all yourself.
• 7:36
  I hope you found something helpful from today's episode. Don't forget to scroll
• 7:40
  down and click that follow button so you don't miss out on future episodes.
• 7:43
  I look forward to the next one. Until then, God bless.