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“Your Power Doesn’t Need Permission” · Just Be True ~ A Soul-Led Podcast

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Hello! Welcome back to Just Be True, a soul -led
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podcast. This podcast was born from the deep
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desire to live authentically, to strip away the
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mask and expectations, in the old stories and
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remember who we truly are. Each episode will
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explore what it means to live in harmony with
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your soul's truth through real conversations,
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intuitive guidance, and powerful moments of reflection.
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I'm Summer, your host, and I'm thrilled you are
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here today. So this week's theme, Your Power
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Doesn't Need Permission. This came to me in a
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very unexpected way. I had originally planned
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to talk about family dynamics, the patterns that
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quietly take more than what they give, but after
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a vivid dream and a moment of reflection, the
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message shifted. And so I've learned to trust
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these moments. They always have a purpose and
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a reason. And so what came through wasn't about
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the situation itself. It was more about where
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our power lives inside of it, right? Inside of
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a situation and inside of ourselves. So what
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does it mean to own your power and what does
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it actually look like? So owning your power isn't
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about confrontation. It's about presence. It
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shows up in everyday moments, the kind we don't
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always recognize as turning point. It looks like
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being in a conversation where you normally would
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explain yourself and you choose not to. It looks
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like feeling that familiar knot in your stomach
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and finally listening to what it tells you. It
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looks like realizing you've been accommodating
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something that doesn't feel right. And shouldn't
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be deciding to stop. You know, I know this. I
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have actually lived this. And recently I have
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observed others living this. There are moments
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when it would be easier to stay quiet I know
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easier just to walk away and just keep it to
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yourself Right to keep the peace to avoid the
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discomfort that comes from Honesty from speaking
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up and from staying in your ground But every
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time I ignore that inner nudge I could feel it
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somewhere in my body and my energy and in that
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subtle sense of disconnection from myself. And
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when we disconnect from ourselves and we're not
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sticking in our power we could feel sick at our
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stomach, we could feel a tightness in our chest,
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we could feel a heaviness in our shoulders, you
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know, or a heavy sense of dread. And owning your
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power often begins right there. When you choose
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not to abandon yourself Realizing that The sensations
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that you're feeling in your body or that noise
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that's going on inside of you That's saying speak
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up say no do more do less right? So you start
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owning yourself And you're choosing not to abandon
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What is right? Owning your power can show up
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many different ways. Not responding right away
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when someone pushes you for an answer. You can
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easily say, hey, I need some time to think about
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this, instead of giving them automatic care.
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I mean, even today, someone asks, hey, do you
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want to do, they wanted me to do something for
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2026. and bringing in the new year and holding
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like a group event. I'm like, you know what?
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I really need some time to think about this.
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What are you visioning for this? And let me decide.
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You know, so, you know, and I'm still sitting
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on the fence about like I really haven't quite
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made up my mind yet. And guess what? They're
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not gonna get an answer until I make up my mind.
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Right? I'm not giving an automatic yes. I'm not
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committing myself to something that I may not
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be truly ready to commit myself to. And it's
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perfectly okay to say no or say, you know, let
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me think about it and get back to you, right?
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You know, you may feel that not giving an automatic
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yes is going to disappoint someone and is perfectly
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okay to let them be disappointed, right? It's
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better than you rushing in to fix a situation
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If you're not You know responding right away
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Because you need time You know to think about
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it or take into considerations You're doing justice
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to yourself and if they're disappointed that's
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their problem right that comes from Their own
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inner issues that they may have. Right? You're
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not responsible for other people's feelings or
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their emotions. You know, that's completely theirs
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to own. So if they're being disappointed because
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you can't give them an answer right away, they
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need to look at themselves. And they need to
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determine where that disappointment is coming
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from, not to push it back on you. Right it's
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also perfectly okay to choose rest Right and
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to not do something Because you don't always
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have to like do do do many times The guilt that
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comes from us saying no You know that guilt comes
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from our past and the conditions in which we
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have experienced Or it's usually the conditions
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of other people's expectations that they put
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on us. And the only expectations that you have
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to live up to are your own. Those that you choose
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to honor. And I've mentioned it before and I'll
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probably mention it a million different times.
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It is perfectly fine to put yourself first. You
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do not have to live up to other people's expectations.
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Right? So, and I know when you tell somebody
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no, or you've been like, you know, give me some
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time to think about it, and you're not immediately
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responding. When you first start doing this,
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it can feel extremely uncomfortable. Especially
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if you spent years, you know, doing for others,
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you spent years being the one who would adjust
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and change your schedules and smooth things over
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to make others happy. You know and that's because
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you've shared too much of yourself and many a
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times you've probably shared yourself pretty
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thin To where you felt that you were I'm overstressed
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overworked over committed You know, so here's
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the important thing that I want to know Just
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because someone is unhappy with your boundaries
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that you've said does not mean that your boundaries
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wrong And when you begin to own your power, not
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everybody is going to like it. I'm telling you.
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And the thing that's going to be most impacted
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are your close relationships. So whether it's
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family, friends, coworkers, these long standing
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dynamics, or these roles that you've always been
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playing, people are going to notice the change.
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They might start questioning your new choices.
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You might have a subtle guilt or pressure start
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creeping in, right? Because you're not doing
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or you're saying no or you're stepping into your
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boundaries and owning what is rightfully yours,
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right? And that unfamiliar urge to explain or
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justify or soften your truth You don't have to
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do it and people are going to want you to do
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it and it's perfectly okay to walk away from
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that. Because owning your power does not require
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explanation. The only thing it requires is your
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alignment. Your alignment with yourself, your
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higher self, and your inner power. That's the
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only thing that is required. You owe no one an
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exclamation for your self -care, your self boundaries,
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only your truth. And when you stand rooted in
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yourself, whether it's quietly or loud and proud,
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a dynamic shift starts taking place. not because
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you're forcing it, but because you're showing
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up differently. You learn to be comfortable with
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these shifts and to sit with them and own the
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power that you have in them. Because this shift
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is important. This shift allows you to own truly
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everything about you and makes you feel empowered.
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It's more about the feeling than the ownership
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of that empowerment, which is really most important.
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And there's going to be times when it's going
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to be really challenging. And through observation,
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I've noticed that this can be very hard when
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you're being gaslighted. So I've observed how
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subtle and not so subtle gaslighting can cause
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people to feel crazy. For trusting what they
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sense and know to be true You know, I mean how
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many times if you've been in a situation where
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you know something's true But then there's someone
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on the other side of that is telling you no,
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that's not right. It's this and that And over
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time this can quietly erode your self -trust
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and can plant seeds of doubt that Where clarity
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once lived? I mean, and this can happen in just
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a few short moments, or it can happen over a
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period of time. Depending on the situation, depending
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on who you're working with, or who you're dealing
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with in this, right, and how they're showing
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up, you know, and how you're standing in your
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own truth. Owning your power begins with recognizing
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that your experience is valid. And that self
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-doubt is often learned and not inherited. So
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in other words, like if you're getting that self
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-doubt, that's a learned behavior and probably
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from years and years and years. And so it's changing
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your mindset, learning to trust yourself more.
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Gaslighting is not about truth. Gaslighting is
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all about control, protection, or avoidance.
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So most people who gaslight are not trying to
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make someone feel crazy in a calculated way.
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Instead, they're trying to protect something
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within themselves. And that has very little to
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do with you or the person who's being gaslighted.
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It's about them trying to control a situation,
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protect something, are avoidance. Avoidance can
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be avoidance of, you know, responsibility, avoidance
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of the truth, or avoidance of that they actually
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feel out of control in a situation. And so they're
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trying to gain that control back. They're trying
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to protect, you know, whatever's going on, right?
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So how can we reclaim that power when you're
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being gaslighted? Well, when gaslight is present,
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The goal Intention or not is to make you doubt
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your own perception and over time this disconnect
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You know can make you lose your self -confidence
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it can Alter your sense of reality and it can
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pull you away from your intuition if you start
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down and So reclaiming your power isn't about
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funding or providing anything it's about coming
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back into alignment with yourself anchoring into
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your truth right and knowing that your truth
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is valid so gaslighting lives in the mind it's
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all control and power of the mind but the power
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your power your self -power lives in your body.
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Right? You can feel it. You can own it. When
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you start feeling confused, unsettled, or suddenly
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unsure of yourself, do yourself a favor and just
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pause and ask yourself a couple of questions.
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Right? So you can ask yourself, what do I feel
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in my body right now? Is my body calm? Is my
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body tense? Is my body heavy? Or is my feel like
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I'm looked? These are gonna be signs that that
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gas lining is taking effect, right? Because it's
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showing itself in your body. If you're calm,
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it's probably, you know, you're good. Your body
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often knows the truth before your mind does,
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right? And then your mind tries to reason it
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away. So instead of trying to reason something
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away of why you're feeling anything, right? Ground
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yourself. Take a few deep breaths. Step into
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stillness. If you're in a situation where it
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helps to touch, touch something, whether it be
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a wall or a plant. or the ground or whatever
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something that helps bring you back into yourself
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right to help restore your inner authority and
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then when something starts coming up you know
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you can ask yourself and it doesn't have to be
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out loud right but in that situation you can
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ask yourself you know or you can acknowledge
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to yourself Write that this doesn't feel right.
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Why does this not feel right? See what comes
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up. Remind yourself, my experience is real. I
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know my truth. So you may want to say, am I abandoning
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my truth in this moment? if you are on that the
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experience that your experience is real and is
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valid also owning the reality that you do not
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need to explain what's going on it's more of
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like trusting what's going on so trusting that
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feeling that doesn't feel right trusting that
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they're trying to pull you away from reality
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When you can start Stepping back into the trusting
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of yourself and of your own knowing your power
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returns in that moment And you stop debating
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your truth internally Also one of the most draining
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patterns I'm especially if you're in a long -term
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relationship with someone who's Takes on these
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gaslining behaviors is to stop looking at that
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individual For reassurance and for understanding
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and for validation Because that person is never
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you know, there's a am I gonna see I don't want
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to say never I'll take that back but there's
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a very high chance of that person May not ever
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see your reality Because they're living in their
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own truth regardless if their own truth is made
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out of fear and and Insecurities right or your
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truth is made out of truth and power and belonging
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You know and being one with yourself where there's
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a separation and fear and anxiety right feel
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the difference there and So you don't want to
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go to someone who's in that fear and control
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mindset to gain validation for your own reality,
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for your own truth. Because they may never see
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your own truth. And so you're not gonna gain
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that validation from me. And why would you want
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to be validated by someone who takes on these
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behaviors? Right? And who's owning that. So.
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I want to empower you to be able to no longer
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seek outside of yourself for that validation,
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but to turn inward, to be grounded within yourself
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and know that the only validation you need is
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your own truth and to live and own your own truth
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and not look at an outside source for that validation.
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Now I do understand that this is nice to have
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another physical being to be able to validate
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what you're going through and be able to understand
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what you're going through and be able to help
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support and nurture you. Then find that grounded
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nurturing support through other means, through
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another person or individual. than the person
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that you're having a conflict with or having
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the gaslighting things happening with you, right?
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So find that support system and lean into that.
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You know, your truth doesn't become more real
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because someone else agrees with you. Your truth
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becomes more real because you're owning it. and
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you're believing it within all of you. It's also
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important to create internal boundaries. So even
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if external boundaries aren't possible in a certain
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situation, internal boundaries are. And these
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internal boundaries may sound something like,
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I don't need to absorb this version of reality.
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Or I can listen without internalizing. In other
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words, you can listen to what they're saying
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and be an observer of what's going on versus
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owning it and taking it into yourself. And you
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can choose clarity over confusion. So a lot of
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times like, someone is taking on this behavior
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they can give you words and situations that provide
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more confusion because they don't make sense
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in the moment or you know they didn't happen
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right and so remembering the truth and remembering
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you know what is taking place and provide yourself
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your own clarity. This protects your energy and
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it also preserves your self -trust and it's so
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important And this is extremely critical something
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to always remember Feeling unsure of yourself
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doesn't mean you're weak broken or wrong It often
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means that you've been conditioned over time
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to question your own knowing. And so, you know,
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the last decade is all been about recognizing
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our conditionings that we were brought up with.
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And it's not necessarily that those conditionings
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were wrong or the way we were brought up was
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wrong. We were brought up with the knowledge
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that was best known at that time. And so we're
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stepping into a new reality. And the vibrational
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and the awakenings of our planet is rising. And
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so we're becoming more aware of our past conditionings
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and how they're no longer suited for our present.
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And that's all this is. Right? So it doesn't
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mean you're weak. It doesn't mean you're broken
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or wrong. It just means you've been conditioned.
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And so we're just breaking that conditioning
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and stepping into what's right for now. So reclaiming
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your power begins with compassion. Of course
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you're going to feel unsure. Look at what you've
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been navigating through. Look at what you've
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been doing with. Allow yourself to rebuild trust
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with yourself. Give yourself compassion for that.
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And allow the rebuilding of trust in yourself.
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You also don't need a dramatic exit or confrontation
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to reclaim your power. Sometimes it can be as
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simple as saying less, observing more, keeping
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your truth close to you, and making decisions
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privately to honor you. You don't have to go
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out with a bang or making a lot of noise about
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it, making a lot of drama about it. Power grows
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when you consistently choose alignment over explanation.
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Again, you don't owe anybody an explanation.
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You own your own truth and that's all that matters.
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So when you're being gaslighted, reclaiming your
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power isn't about providing your reality. It's
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about believing in yourself again. Your perception
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matters. Your experience is Always valid and
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your power lives in your willingness to trust
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yourself So let's say that again Your perception
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matters Your experience is always always valid
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And your power lives in your willingness to trust
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yourself So let's take, let's do a little bit
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of general reflection, okay? So let's take a
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deep breath in. And exhale. Another deep breath
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in. Big exhale. Let's ask yourself. Where in
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my life am I being asked to trust myself more?
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Where in my life am I being asked to trust myself
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more? Where have I been overriding what I know
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to be true? Where am I? You've been over whining
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what I mean, no to be true. Now notice what comes
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up. It's not to judge it, but it's to understand
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it. What services may be anything from how you're
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allowing others to treat you to expectations
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you continue to carry. Our moments where you've
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been made to question your own perception Sit
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with that Feel free to when we have time to journal
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about it and to really connect with what you
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receive there So you can you know start working
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on what it means to own your own power and step
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into your own truth. Your owning your power doesn't
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happen all at once. It's practice and small consistent
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choices. It's choosing honesty over harmony,
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alignment over approval, and presence over appeasement.
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And some days that simply just means saying less,
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staying more firmly in what you know. You don't
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have to explain yourself. You can just be in
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your knowing and be in your owning of your truth.
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Owning of your truth is more powerful than anything
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else that you can do. And believing in it within
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yourself and owning it within yourself. I don't
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care what other people think. My power is me
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being in my truth and owning it. We don't have
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to do it for approval for others. We have to
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do it for approval of ourselves. We don't have
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to do it to meet other people's expectations.
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We have to do it to meet our own expectations
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of whatever that is. And that can change. in
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any time so whatever your expectation is today
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may not be the same expectation you have tomorrow
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or a year from now or 10 years from now so as
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we move through the week just pay attention to
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where you feel steady and where you feel pulled
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away from yourself your power doesn't need permission
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It doesn't need agreement. It only needs your
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willingness to honor it. So I empower you to
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step into your power and own it completely. So
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I say thank you for being here, for listening,
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and for walking this path with me. It's truly
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amazing. And I can't tell you how much it means
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that I am able to do this, bring this information
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and share it with you. If this resonated, I ask
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thank you. I appreciate your time. I appreciate
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your listening ears in your curious heart and
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until next time I hope to see you again. Have
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a great day.