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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Ki Tese Warding Off Temptation: Three Laws, One Guiding Principle 9/3/25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  This is somebody, somebody now to get.
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  About a year you you we used to work out like make sure real.
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  Estate, OK, say SD is Brusha Kite.
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  Southeast has got many laws and many of them are quite random as
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  we'll see. And the robot, you say, a lot of
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  it relates a time. Let's screw it up the rabbits.
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  A library relates to the time of the year that way, in which is a
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  rule which is preparation for Shanah.
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  Or I mean open up quintetail and mechama al iveka, if you go out
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  to war against your enemy. Unetanah.
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  First of all, the wording Iveka. I don't know grammar that well,
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  but the wording enemies means plural enemies, correct?
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  Unetanah, Hashem gives, provides him into my hands.
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  So it's multiple enemies and it says God puts him, that single
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  enemy in my hands. That's an opening question to
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  the Barishar. Why are we using the word?
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  And you're going out against all the enemies.
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  That's why I use the words and God gives you him and the hand.
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  Bishavita Shivya only take a captive.
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  What are we going to? What's the matter?
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  We're talking about the Aita Bishviya you see among the
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  captives. Eshed you fatouar a woman, a
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  beautiful woman, the Hashaktaba and you honor when the character
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  calls the rightly shot and you take her to be your wife.
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  That's a nice way of saying he takes her.
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  All right, so that's what I if this incident happened.
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  So that's what I was telling you a law that applies the unique
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  sentence man wants a non Jewish woman, but it doesn't say stop a
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  guy wants to go. Yeah, it says a guy is out in
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  war. It's in this is a warrior.
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  It's in this setting. He's in the army.
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  This is a girl, she's got to has control of her you want.
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  This. It's not just that it's the
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  enemies. A girl from your enemy.
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  It's a non Jewish girl. It really could be this.
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  It's the same issue. No, like aren't there certain
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  like enemies we're not allowed to have like met, get married
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  to? Yes, he 1 of this includes
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  those. Right, I thought that's what
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  it's alluding. To owing to those enemies, No
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  all non Jewish girls from war. But what's interesting is it's
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  only this setting. It's what I was a wartime
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  setting, a wartime situation. You want her, take her home.
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  Here's what you should do I'll bring her home and you do the
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  following shave her head, do her nails restaurant bun says
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  somewhere she said to me is let her nails for a long time.
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  This is the opposite. Make her nails disgusting.
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  There's ciat so much of ya remove the kind of clothing that
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  she wore towards she was wearing beautiful clothing.
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  It was meant to lure us in. Even.
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  Now she's not. She's bold and now is.
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  The Well, you're in the process of removing your trucks.
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  See if he's still 1. Yes, see if he's still 1 and
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  she's going to see in your she's going to see in your home, she's
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  going to cry about her father and her mother Yerah Yamim for a
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  month afterwards. Then he's got to bring put by
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  himself. I have relations with that.
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  This is a very strange law, specifically because it's giving
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  us a certain setting and give us a certain guideline.
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  So there's a literal meaning of the law, which is a, but it's.
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  Not war and I just someone's just.
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  Clear No, only correct. Only allow this option during
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  war specifically. Just.
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  The age you do anything during war.
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  Oh, so according to submission him he had one time with her
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  before anything and then he had this.
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  Process. They were allowed to do that.
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  That's the summation we learned, yes.
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  All right, now wait. See.
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  Conversion involved nothing. Now the Rambam not.
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  A good question. It is our process, the Rambam
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  Lance, and this process is a process of conversion.
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  Through this process, we'll see a detail.
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  There are multiple layers. It is, according to Rambam, the
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  fact that she cried over her father and her mother literally
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  meant she cried over the fact that she has to leave her past
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  in her past ways. And it's called the process of
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  conversion. This literally was conversion.
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  There's many ways of Salah. The literally alaghah is that a
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  guy finds a girl at war and there's what he does.
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  He wants her, he likes her. Tudah gives her a clear
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  description of your fator and she's beautiful.
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  And then this really does. So he doesn't.
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  Want to bring her back? None of this applies if he.
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  Doesn't want to bring her back. He's required to because he.
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  None of the supplies. It's only if he wants to take
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  her home and marry her. OK, that's step one.
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  That's a literal meaning. So the strange thing is why
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  that's why I give you a is the is the woman allowed to him or
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  not? She's not.
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  You said before using the word he wants to marry her as a nice
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  way of saying. It really means it likes.
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  It really means it's. Retractions.
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  I'm going to go through all that just for a one night.
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  Well, it means a good track, the whole altera.
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  That was the whole point. Nightly can't be more out here.
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  And now if you still like her after she's bald and you're
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  already with with her once you got to say, oh, you still like
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  her, There are that then. So let's understand this thing,
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  I think. Thank you, you know.
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  So now, now let's go through the 1st a little more.
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  That's the literal me and everything.
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  Everything more than if Hashim explained that TRA is also
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  talking to this time of year, talking about the Itzara.
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  Take that law and help. Firstly, take that law and apply
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  it to this time of year and apply it to the ETC.
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  Let's play it out ready and we'll adopt from the actual law
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  over the etcetera. When a guy has to deal with his
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  Yetzara law against enemy and he being Yetzara, we ask the
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  question, why does he use the wording multiple enemies and
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  then it says it gives you him in your hands.
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  Is it multiple or is it one? Let's go with the inside of our
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  zone for a second and we'll see how these things jump back and
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  forth. We all have a lot of different
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  things that are pulling out. Several times they came out and
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  tells us the inside out appears to you in 1000 weeks, many
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  different plus. So yeah, that puts puts us into
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  a corner, then rock and hop as usual, pushes you one way then
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  pulls the other way. That's the answer how it works.
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  So the opening, the pasuk with this angle is a guy who's facing
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  multiple poles. Understand it's all one enemy or
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  one tribe. They use them.
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  That's why you use the word singular at the end.
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  Take him captive. Now this is the word you fought
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  or the answer I was talking about over here is the guy is
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  pulled in, he's attracted like crazy and nothing stopping.
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  And it's what all it does in this process.
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  This is just because of the war that he's feeling like.
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  So that's what I want to say. It's important thing.
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  How did you have a halacha that's unique in this setting
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  but doesn't exist? There's no such a guy is not
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  allowed to do this seems. Like a lean.
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  You know, this was a regular setting.
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  You understand this is force conversion, base force
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  conversion. Something is force.
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  She's a captain and Salah is not legal any other time of year or
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  any other situation. It's only during war.
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  So I think if you go down the road of Yitzahara, you
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  understand that fungal of the port and that is one of the
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  greatest powers of the Yitzahara is the MO is the feeling during
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  the current setting. For example, any example of
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  attractions, someone, something attractive right there during
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  the moment, it's like you can't stop, but after the fact, no big
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  deal. It's the moment.
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  Saying anything is true with a comment.
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  Someone says something to you, you dying says something back.
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  After it's all over, you kill us.
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  Something happened to me this afternoon.
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  Even I heard someone who I helped out.
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  I helped this guy out like a tremendous amount and I heard
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  this sign. Basically I heard this this sign
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  to me pretty much like a lack of I could have to to an A.
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  Shame where I hear from the last.
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  Or no, no, as this is the guy calls you a lot of night.
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  No, a lack. I could have thought something
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  amazing and immediately my ration was on Costco.
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  Just not directly say anything. It was silly.
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  You know, it's kind of a little funny.
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  You're not the shamble. Though exactly.
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  And a couple of hours the Galal is like come, who cares as he
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  disguises the case, whatever is doing his thing in the moment.
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  But in the moment this is yet the power of the etcetera is
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  literally in the moment. Whether it be anger, attraction,
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  frustration, stress, screaming, many of those things, screaming
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  at the case, screaming at your kids is number one.
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  That's a perfect example. All these examples are things
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  that we would never do and our mind was sane and when normal.
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  These things all seem ridiculous, but during the
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  moment they get you. That's where the TADA is the
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  perfect example etcetera is a more is a situation.
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  That's why it doesn't give you a, give you a situation and
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  then. But this situation is war.
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  Or what about any other situation?
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  So try as a tribe they give you so why they try giving the
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  worst? Don't they give you leniency in
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  the way out? No, they happen.
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  They ask, you know, come home. Because the worst situation is
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  by far the strongest form and extreme of a trash transfer.
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  The guy is in a crazy zone. He's in Gaza and he sees an.
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  Arab. Is it crazy?
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  He's also you're. Not getting.
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  Tired he has control of versus a captive.
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  She's beautiful. It's what I gives a description.
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  She's beautiful. He's completely out of this
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  element. It's almost justifying it if
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  there's other way around the hostages in the tunnel if it was
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  a mosque guy that wants to. What do you mean though?
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  They don't have any speaking in their world, of course, there's
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  no shopping to stop, right? This is the challenge and This
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  is why it's what I was giving me this case as the it's our case.
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  This is why this is the prototype of the concept of
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  yetzerup, because this is the one that every yetzer
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  austeration by high inversions of this and the goal is to
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  figure your way up. And if what you go for, I want
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  to take a couple weeks about the setup, I'm the one and if the
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  past six is the words you're going out to war against your
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  enemy and God gives you a hint in your hands.
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  An important point with the Itzer Allmights is to know you
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  and I have no shots. We are no match yet.
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  So no, we're not even close. The camera tells us that if not
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  by a chance, help the it's a key to beat us up alive.
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  The attraction, the feeling, the urge, the moment can eat us up a
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  lot. You have no shot.
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  So what do you do? That's the case.
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  Hey, Daniel, how's to give up? Let's go.
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  Here's the key. This next class so we get right.
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  All you have to do is recognize a going out to war.
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  Understand and you have a battle to fight.
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  In other words, understand and during all these moments and you
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  are facing off for the answer that when you know that going
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  in, then you deal with it differently.
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  When you know certain situations, take your doubt, you
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  know certain conversations are going to lead to a bad place and
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  you know certain sees enough for you, certain parties are wrong,
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  all those things and you go in without mindset, Kita said.
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  You don't you understand what you're dealing with.
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  That's your only job. Your job is not to win the.
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  It's a. That's a.
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  Saying, though, that we're not. We're not supposed to fight it.
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  We're supposed to just have an out.
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  OK, this law, we'll get that in a second.
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  When you fight that battle, when you go in without mindset, don't
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  expect to overcome it. Rely on the fact that God will
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  make you win. That's the reality.
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  God makes allows us to win the it's a time anyways.
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  Either he gives us the strength or oftentimes he makes a workout
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  that it's not really as desirable or you're not really
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  as attractive. You're not really as fold in as
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  you would have been without this advanced mindset.
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  That's the pasuka, Tony. Ike's asking a fundamental
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  question. The fundamental question is
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  this. Why not just fight it in the
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  army? But Torah says or she says like
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  this, oh, we can't win with that.
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  But she says, how is the Torah letting this guy out of this
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  Group A weird thing? Torah's giving you Aloha process
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  to get this girl, says Rashidi's words.
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  LO de brau turaya la que negra ET Sahara Turada is dealing with
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  the ET Sahara, is it? We know if Hashem would not make
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  this woman illegal, so to speak, God has no choice.
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  If he not will not make her legal, he's in a be sued.
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  The guy would marry her illegally.
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  God has no choice. And then we'll gotta see Matir
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  with this process because otherwise we're in trouble.
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  It's. Impossible to fight, so they're.
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  Saying that scenario, there's no way there's nowhere.
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  Give this Russia a son. So I learned this, you learned
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  this, and you say that's the. Berlin Day example of that area.
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  Oh, this scenario it's all Yeah, mind the example I would say is
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  if a guy. Is still.
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  Applied I was in mind the scenario if a guy is in some
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  crazy place and no one's around you know yourself as a league.
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  The reason this story is so unpowered is because in some
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  wacky place and no one's around and there's a woman there.
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  She's unbelievable. That's a modern day example for
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  people to be expected to control themselves.
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  Plainly not that simple. You need a plan.
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  That's what I was telling. You really need a plan.
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  It doesn't work with her. That's.
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  What I thought forced marriage, you can't divorce.
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  Honest rape. You can't divorce.
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  This is not rape. This is unique.
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  You're right about that. That's not what this is.
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  So let's go through the process. Isn't this discouraging?
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  Or she is telling you that the guy.
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  Is it's about against her will Who?
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  It's a little first time the will.
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  It's not called rape. It's considering too.
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  And. I raid the first time.
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  I don't know, first time is capped by war.
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  I'm not trying to look. She might be.
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  Just listen that way. If that's mean, she, she wasn't
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  interesting, right? She might be implicit.
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  What kind of celebrate, right? It's kind of tough if she, if
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  you have a tsunami, if she likes it, by the way.
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  To the point, by the way, why is she dressing beautifully?
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  You guys looking to trying to trying to keep him distracted
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  and weaken it Yeah. So it could be it's not covered
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  now. I think this Rashi at first went
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  very disturbing. Shot, shot.
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  So I saw Rob, I say. Not only that, yeah, he ended up
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  in the war for a reason, meaning meaning if he was guided into
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  the war in a way and. Then boom, he's in the
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  situation. That's why the Cheetah guys,
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  they dodged the war. So they're playing so, so
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  there's this. I think they answered like this.
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  I saw the shot. You could look at it one way
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  negatively look at very positive.
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  This is the only example we have, and the entire 12 the only
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  one. Well, the Tarah gives you a
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  loophole because you have no other troops and it's.
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  Not even a sin. It's not a sin, which means if
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  this is the only example, Tarah gives you a loophole, that means
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  that I Shyam understand you get Sarah and God knows what you're
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  dealing with and God understands that he will never put us in a
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  predicament and we cannot handle because if we would, he'd give
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  us an out. The proof is this one case from
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  the fact that in one scenario where man does not have the
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  power to control himself, Hashem gives us a bit of a process of
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  an excuse that indicates that God is dealing with the insider
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  just like we are, and He knows who we're dealing with.
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  And He has a plan for each and every scenario.
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  And the one that there's no plan, He gives us an excuse.
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  But it sounds like it's as impossible as you're saying.
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  I'm sure there's plenty of soldiers that had a chance to do
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  something the. Person has some level of
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  control, so so I don't need this Stellaris.
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  It's the most high end type of scenario, but it sounds like it
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  sounds like you. You would have done that at the
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  IDF. There you'd be a rest.
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  Of well, nowadays they're watching everything, man.
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  The old days and the old days, they watch nothing sounds like
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  he's giving he's giving this in that pursuit says like he's
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  giving him the opening to yeah, that is to to get in to give in
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  to the guitar. His his because he's telling you
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  that. I understand and I understand.
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  It's great. Campus is no ordered, right?
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  Yeah, I say, curious. Don't go, hey, I'm thinking of
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  etcetera and I understand that's not going to I'll be cleaned up
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  and I miss. Be very trouble.
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  I understand every etcetera and the point is you need a process,
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  you need a plant and every single situation got as a plant.
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  That's the point of the Basu, all right.
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  That is that example. It's supposed to be an example
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  of the general idea that you just said that Hashem will bail
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  your back. Basically means if a person
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  cannot control himself, there would have been a Bella.
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  I mean the fact that there's only one Bella in the entirety
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  without this case is it? That means that every other
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  situation you find yourself in, you have both do you can buy it,
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  but Sony is going to help you. This is the most extreme case,
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  but he's saying if you do this, I'm going to help you.
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  So all the other cases, you're good.
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  Yeah, it's the same way. All these as you can handle.
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  So there's the proof throughout everyone else.
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  Doesn't. It man, just don't take the
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  buyer out of you always. What am I don't take the buyer
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  out alone. Now listen to this.
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  Bring somebody with you'll buyer then otherwise.
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  Listen to this point. Ready a player like this, This
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  is the idea. This must be all the way from
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  me. I'd the Gemala says what a war
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  those three people better he'll give you the money another way.
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  Those three people were told to face the Abu Dazra and they went
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  into the fire instead. Three people famously in history
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  and the Gemala says that if they would have been forced to serve,
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  they would have kept they would have been forced to serve Abu
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  Dazra. Real pressure pushed into it.
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  They would have given it. They would have a force to be
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  given the option. So they chose the fire.
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  So Rabbi asks, how do you know that they would've been forced
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  over The Cave? How?
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  Do you know? We're by the Brian.
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  I I met Hannah, Michelle, you people in history by Daniel
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  Tory. Yeah.
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  So how do you know if they would've been forced?
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  They were caved. Answer is this is driver.
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  I always saw it. He says because they God didn't
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  give them that test. God gave them a test to the
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  level that they can handle. Had God-given them a bigger
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  test? I'm sorry, had the fact that God
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  didn't give them that test is a proof that they were a kid?
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  Because a sham does not give you a test so you can't handle.
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  It's a rule. Furnace is not forced.
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  Not forced. Not saying love was forced.
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  Don't try it. Don't.
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  Do anything right and there's just like a gun to that.
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  But there's not really a safety. It's your choice, sorry.
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  That level they can handle with the pressure they can have.
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  This is the idea. OK, let's go back to our
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  Prashia. But this is the overall side
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  point about the Essera again. Let's get the sharks I want to
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  take care of. Let's take a few sharks there.
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  This number one, we have the literal meaning of our Prashia.
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  We have this story which we got back into in a minute #2 we have
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  the answer background full time. And that is if I'm in the
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  inside, you need to be key to 7 Mahama.
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  You need to understand it looks like many enemies is really only
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  one. He's done the same.
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  When you go out the battle, a sham will allow you to win.
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  You can't win it alone. This is the mindset and the try
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  is giving us the one out and all case.
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  A person can take a loophole and that is because outside of this
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  case we are able to control our hits and it out fully.
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  So why is it that I give you 1 case, one example that the guy
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  can't control himself was pretty seeing it.
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  One example in history, one example in life.
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  That's it does already come up with.
• 19:47
  What's the message over here? Let's go control further.
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  Tata says, what do you do with this?
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  140 days. 40 days, Change her clothing, shave her head, let
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  her nails grow long, make her cry.
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  She's got no makeup. She's got very she comes very
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  ugly. 40 days. What's the process?
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  We can't do anything for 40 days.
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  No. And then forty days.
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  What is the power? What's the purposes?
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  I want to play this out in the inside of my son.
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  This is key. We said before that the main
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  power of the insider has is the moment.
• 20:23
  If you go a little deeper, the main power, the strongest Co-op
• 20:27
  of the inside out, a number one tool up its sleeve, illusion,
• 20:33
  making things seem better than they are, as the greatest power
• 20:37
  of the inside that has is an illusion making something seem
• 20:41
  awesome, crazy good. That's the power of the inside
• 20:45
  out number one power. I did the moment was the first
• 20:47
  time you said he did it the first 2.
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  If there's still that story you want to hire anyone more, it's
• 20:52
  it's still a an illusion with my proof.
• 20:57
  The Kumaran says tell my Shiah comes.
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  I must tell it's come out before I've heard this Kumarasuka God
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  is going to take the etzara and shout it.
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  There will be Sadiqim saying them and they'll be Reshaima
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  saying there and Sadiqim are going to cry and the evil people
• 21:17
  are going to cry. So the king are going to look at
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  the Itzara. It's going to look like a
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  humongous no so. The king are going to look at.
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  It I'm going to look at it that way to the Shahim are going to
• 21:29
  look at the itzara and it's going to seem as thin as a hair.
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  We're talking about the same temptations, the same desires,
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  the same woman, the same I thing, the same line to all the
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  things. For a Sadiq, looks like a huge
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  mountain. For a Shah, it looks like a thin
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  hair, he explained. This came out.
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  I'll tell you, I'm pleased that it's very important.
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  I hate friends. Come on.
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  Hey. After that, said he came.
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  It's a huge mountain to climb to fight the hits out.
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  And the shame. It's a hair, but why is it the?
• 22:02
  But it's open now. It's all right.
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  Why do they cry? I'll get to the cry in a second.
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  But he explained. Even what is the matter?
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  What in there looks like right? I'll tell you why in a second.
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  Here's the idea, here's the concept.
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  What do you think it means If they said they came, it's a
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  mountain. The shame, it's a hair.
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  The thing is like this, as far as I accept it first Alique, but
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  he never did you accomplish he never a key right.
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  So the answer Ah, was multiple moments of illusions of crazy
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  awesome like scenes that he wasn't allowed to do.
• 22:33
  There's this, there's that there's the other thing, all
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  these other things at the table. I can't do anything.
• 22:37
  So that's a mountain. It's a humongous illusion.
• 22:39
  If you talk to take a little, take a young 8 year old guy and
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  take him to Vegas and tell him this is all I'll suit to you
• 22:44
  right. The child, you literally put him
• 22:46
  in a straight jacket. You can't go gambling, you can't
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  do this, you can't do that. You get like torture because he
• 22:51
  never did, never did any of this.
• 22:53
  Arun Shah has caved to everything and because he caved
• 22:57
  that his after the fact, after the fact, he's looking back and
• 23:00
  he's saying it's nothing. It's a hair.
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  It really wasn't that valuable. It wasn't that enjoyable.
• 23:04
  It wasn't worth it didn't really make my life better.
• 23:07
  It didn't make me that much happier.
• 23:08
  It didn't develop myself. And so therefore to the Sadiq,
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  the moment he's has a life full of moments that he never
• 23:16
  actually caved to that built the whole illusion to do I shot say,
• 23:20
  hey, this is the mind theatre now.
• 23:24
  So what is the solution if it's all about the illusion and all
• 23:26
  about the moment, 2 points you bring out with the solution.
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  And This is why I'll get to another question.
• 23:32
  Why do we have ilu? I don't have ilu.
• 23:35
  Do you want to tell the person do to Shuva?
• 23:39
  Do you change your ways? Work at it, Already have 40
• 23:41
  days, therefore this is a long time.
• 23:45
  It's been to work it. I've to work it.
• 23:47
  Here's the concept. The way to handle the hits is to
• 23:52
  work it is to push it off, is to delay.
• 23:56
  Whether it's a reaction, a desire, something you want to
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  say, something you want to do, just drive around the corner one
• 24:05
  more time. Take time and it's before you
• 24:07
  make that phone call. Think again before you say a
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  comment, right? Look away before you look.
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  All these things just delay the move.
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  Have a level of control inside of you.
• 24:17
  Just delay it and the whole thing changes.
• 24:19
  The whole situation changes so that today gives us the
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  prototypical example of KVD etcetera, a beautiful woman at
• 24:25
  war and the most strong desire a man can have, right?
• 24:29
  And then gives us the end of the story.
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  There's nothing more ugly than a lady with shave heads and dirty
• 24:37
  nails who's crying constantly, who's dressed in time
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  requirement, right You got from A-Z.
• 24:45
  How'd that happen? Times.
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  They're exactly how'd that happen.
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  Time process. Give it a minute.
• 24:53
  Don't get to the moment, don't get to the illusion.
• 24:55
  And that is the call against the answer.
• 24:57
  Now this is how Prasha. This is why this is considered
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  the Elu Prasha. The Pasuks is the words.
• 25:04
  You wait a month, says the Tsar. You know what you're talking
• 25:12
  about. This concept is the process that
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  we're in right now, a process that we tell ourselves.
• 25:17
  Whatever we're thinking about, whatever we're facing, slow it
• 25:20
  down, think twice, have a level of, you know, a little bit, a
• 25:25
  little bit. It's something that holds you
• 25:27
  back and drop patience, right? All these things.
• 25:29
  I give you examples. People have.
• 25:33
  I was a high school kid once. People have filters on their
• 25:35
  phones, all right. Filters.
• 25:38
  Filters on phones. Kids have filters on phones.
• 25:40
  Do you think people not to get around filters?
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  Yes. Never have it.
• 25:44
  Never have you think people not to get around filters and most
• 25:47
  of them, many of them can find their way around.
• 25:50
  Most people are savvy. I was able to find my way around
• 25:52
  every filter and everything I've ever had with school and if I
• 25:56
  could do it, most kids feel so what's the purpose?
• 25:59
  The purpose, just as an example are the same turn, same thing,
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  just take a second at some level of OK, I'm gonna stop, I'm going
• 26:07
  to think and have control. That's the idea and that's the
• 26:10
  purpose of the food. It is that's the purpose of
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  available. That's the deal with you,
• 26:13
  etcetera. Fine.
• 26:16
  And the barshaw continues. Pasuk said.
• 26:18
  By the way, if you don't like her after all this, which is
• 26:20
  very probable, let her go home. Don't sell her.
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  That's not fair. Let her go home?
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  No. It's sell and am I like what the
• 26:27
  stat is if I may actually marry them at.
• 26:29
  I'm sure it's very, very few because he married this girl.
• 26:32
  Too busy so about no he married us or not he holding you the
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  same was so forgive you go right I don't know if it was during
• 26:39
  the war yeah they took her out right but it wasn't this type of
• 26:43
  scene or something else. She was a special, strange type
• 26:45
  of special woman, right? A little different, but yeah,
• 26:50
  it's going says right after that, Asuk says a guy's got 2
• 26:57
  wives. This is a great kind of show.
• 26:59
  I thought he does. He got 2 wives he hates.
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  I think it is 2 months. Once he loves, 1 he loves and 1
• 27:10
  he hates. Basuk says the adolo Bani and he
• 27:13
  has children sons. How Vava Sinrada when he loves
• 27:17
  when he hates Both have sons. Baja happens to be the oldest.
• 27:22
  His real Bajor came from the white.
• 27:24
  What he hates when he's deciding his inheritance at the can
• 27:32
  choose the first born according to his liking.
• 27:35
  It's been out of his first born is his first born.
• 27:43
  He gives the pish 9, which is a double portion to the He give
• 27:49
  his dad A2 the oldest real son and everything that he has.
• 27:58
  This is his real like that person.
• 28:00
  Also, he probably doesn't like that son.
• 28:02
  He doesn't like the mother, but so that's what I was telling
• 28:04
  you. That son has for his right.
• 28:08
  It's a halacha of the Horde. You know what's funny?
• 28:11
  This is the basuk. This is the basuk that tells us
• 28:16
  the laws of the Horde. Very strange way of bringing
• 28:18
  that love of the Horde of the Horde.
• 28:20
  The first born against Double porch.
• 28:21
  We all know that we've had that before.
• 28:22
  This is what I told you this way.
• 28:25
  Strangely, again circumstantial case we.
• 28:28
  Still do some. We definitely do.
• 28:30
  We definitely do. Does this all by the will.
• 28:33
  Yeah, we do. We do.
• 28:34
  Will as they fire. Our girls also.
• 28:36
  The girls you're not from. Corn.
• 28:37
  They're not bad if you do. Holy head girls.
• 28:39
  No, this girl, no girls have to be supported by their brothers,
• 28:43
  but if it's complicated thing, but this is the brush the will
• 28:46
  can circumvent it, but this is to us.
• 28:50
  So you started with the guy married in fatwa.
• 28:52
  Let me go to this. Here's the before I said about
• 28:55
  she and these Jews stories, both very strange, are connected if
• 29:00
  the guy decides and OPS in to marry the fatwar.
• 29:05
  If you realize the result will be.
• 29:08
  Hate the wife? He's going to have a wife that
• 29:09
  he hates. All right.
• 29:12
  Then the Sarah continues. And then it says if he has his
• 29:15
  son, Ben Soreiro Morde, a son, the wayward son, which we'll get
• 29:20
  the details in a second. And then there's Charmeal Bacola
• 29:23
  Abe Bacol Imol. He doesn't listen to his parents
• 29:26
  at all. And he's a wayward kid.
• 29:27
  If he is through a tour, his parents are trying to rebuke him
• 29:31
  below Ishmael and he won't listen.
• 29:34
  They bring him to the gate and the Philippine kills this woman
• 29:37
  right and Agamu predation right Third law.
• 29:43
  He started with weird number 1. He.
• 29:45
  Just the kid that doesn't listen from a mother.
• 29:48
  That what's exact, what's exactly does exactly does this.
• 29:52
  A kid who stole sadhu means the words so there, there go more
• 29:57
  there. He stole.
• 29:59
  He has specific age 13, right over 13.
• 30:01
  He stole some money for meat and wine.
• 30:05
  He's a girl in his kid. He's stealing for that purpose.
• 30:09
  The parents are trying to stop him.
• 30:10
  He won't listen to them. They bring it to bedeen.
• 30:14
  The parents bring it to the bedeen.
• 30:16
  They bring him to the gate of the city, Basuk says.
• 30:19
  The parents say over our child isn't listening and therefore
• 30:24
  the bedeen says all the people the city take stones and stone
• 30:28
  this cake gravy seeming kids right.
• 30:32
  How often has this happened? History 0 says woman, the Amar
• 30:35
  and 7/18 it never happened. Wild it the same thing like
• 30:39
  stoning no mother it. Never has son had.
• 30:41
  My wife's stories about many moments.
• 30:44
  Oh, they have to comply to no. I did never happen.
• 30:47
  No mother would ever take their children #1 Now in the two it
• 30:51
  says he doesn't listen to his father and mother's voice.
• 30:53
  It has to be at the parents very, you know, a specific
• 30:56
  science. The parents have the exact same
• 30:58
  voice, which never happened scientifically.
• 31:02
  So why do we have? So the girl says, what do we
• 31:04
  have again? I'm showing you right.
• 31:06
  There's a very random shot. It's very powerful.
• 31:09
  Why don't we have it if it never happened?
• 31:10
  A little bit says they come up. The reason we have this part
• 31:13
  shot is topic to deadly tense. I said to everybody, for your
• 31:19
  redeemed the meaning. OK, then there's a very right to
• 31:21
  come out and says and whether you should learn this topic and
• 31:24
  get a reward for learning this topic.
• 31:26
  This is the most random point, a strange story that never
• 31:29
  happened according to one opinion and the purpose of the
• 31:32
  existing to be learn and get reward.
• 31:34
  Now what does that mean? Talk about this today.
• 31:37
  What does that notice ready. Here is the lesson I've been so
• 31:41
  that morning. Let's go do it step by step, but
• 31:42
  then I'll get to it. First of all, the opening lesson
• 31:45
  is that often I shot it so far 3 odd stories if I taught two eyes
• 31:52
  1 he hates and sooner and more. We're not just telling you this.
• 31:56
  We gave you a clear process and illu how to deal with yetzerna.
• 32:02
  We gave you a 40 day process to get out of the moment and out of
• 32:06
  the scene and out of the attraction and make it and
• 32:08
  realize that it's ugly and really that it's a hair and be
• 32:10
  able to control it. We gave you that process.
• 32:13
  If you do not listen and you still are under the desire and
• 32:19
  under the temptation of the inphaltora, which means you do
• 32:22
  not have a method to get out, understand there's a different
• 32:26
  list. A deeper lesson is you didn't
• 32:29
  realize that it's a hair, You didn't realize that it's ugly.
• 32:31
  That didn't work for you. A deeper lesson is KV, did he
• 32:35
  hit Sahara or ruin a person's life?
• 32:40
  That's the second list. That's what I then tells him.
• 32:43
  He married his wife, he hates her.
• 32:45
  What is he here? Because he came to ya, said
• 32:47
  Rashi. A led to B.
• 32:49
  He came to ya, said he married the fatwa, which means he caved.
• 32:53
  Therefore he has a wife that he hates.
• 32:56
  If fatwa becomes wife that he hates, then the tudal talks
• 32:59
  about having a son. It's a wayward son.
• 33:01
  Why is that coming into the picture?
• 33:02
  Because if he caves, it's going to lead to having a wayward son.
• 33:07
  Tara's telling us a second point about the etcetera.
• 33:10
  Hey word binge just on a kid that doesn't listen.
• 33:12
  Where would it means this kind of kid what you got to did in a
• 33:14
  second off the pat Tara's telling you something about the
• 33:16
  etcetera. If you do not control it, it
• 33:19
  will create a crack and it'll go and go and go and it'll destroy
• 33:23
  the person's life. So one way or another person's
• 33:25
  got to get the message from Al Prasha.
• 33:27
  Figure it out, work it out is a lit what else say it it.
• 33:32
  Like snowballs, you said. I want dig it in.
• 33:35
  What is the message of this king?
• 33:37
  If I never had was the message. So there you go.
• 33:40
  More so there means sorry, wayward.
• 33:45
  He ran off the path More there means rebels again a deep
• 33:51
  message about the SRO. The problem with this kid is
• 33:56
  he's going off now listen, join the wrong thing and he has
• 34:00
  nothing to stop. It's one thing that the kid is
• 34:03
  going a weird path, but at least here's something that's going to
• 34:08
  bring him back, something that's going to be a bumper or
• 34:09
  something. But if he's wayward and is known
• 34:13
  at home, he's not listening to anything.
• 34:15
  What opens the app and really the purpose of this but not a
• 34:18
  shot even though it's never happened.
• 34:20
  Coincident opinion. The purpose of a shot is false
• 34:23
  to realize inside of us we have certain things that go wayward
• 34:27
  if. You're up before 13.
• 34:29
  He's happy right after their team.
• 34:30
  I run you there. All that that develops prior to
• 34:33
  their team back to go allow it. Before the marrying the G,
• 34:39
  that's all right in the NA, so it's.
• 34:40
  Saying it's not his fault. Yeah, I understand.
• 34:43
  Well, if it never happened, it's only meant to be a metaphor,
• 34:45
  right? But if it did happen, you're
• 34:47
  right. It's a good question.
• 34:48
  It's. Not his fault saying you're
• 34:49
  creating it. Yeah.
• 34:51
  And so I was trying to tell you you're creating it in the long
• 34:53
  skin of the things and try to tell you in a small story,
• 34:56
  recognize the problem with the situation is he's going off,
• 35:00
  he's listening wrong and he's got no king pulling him back.
• 35:03
  And he's telling all of us that all of us have different things
• 35:06
  that we may do that might be mistakes or we have to have
• 35:09
  something that peels us back in. We have to have that control.
• 35:12
  We have to have that, so to speak, that filter, that fence,
• 35:15
  that buffer. You have to have something that
• 35:18
  wheels us in. That's the point of this power
• 35:19
  shot at this point of this tour. That's why it says learn it and
• 35:23
  get a reward. So, so, so could you apply that
• 35:25
  today? If you have a gluttonous kid,
• 35:27
  for example, around that time, you would say it's it's you're
• 35:32
  just succumbing to the SRA and. Yeah, I have an absurd reason.
• 35:36
  No, I mean if you have to have a kid and and he's a gluttonous
• 35:39
  kid, you would say that you're meaning as the father, as a the
• 35:43
  adult. You did something you.
• 35:45
  Use that result as an indication.
• 35:47
  No, you can't judge. It so connects you.
• 35:49
  You can't judge yourself. No.
• 35:50
  A guy's got a wild kid. He can't say that means he's a
• 35:53
  bad guy. No right.
• 35:55
  Sure, there's so much going on, but these are the three stories
• 35:58
  in our power shot and these are the lesson that we have one and
• 36:01
  telling you the act to have it a little concept number 2 is
• 36:04
  telling you he had the words alias to B&B leads to C in this
• 36:08
  trouble. Now this is a big question on
• 36:10
  the Benson M word. What is the biggest question on
• 36:13
  this cave? It never happened.
• 36:17
  But if it did happen, if it was possible, the law would be
• 36:21
  stoned The Cave. Never happened.
• 36:24
  He didn't. Commit the crime here.
• 36:26
  The question is Jack the class? The question is, is it Gemma by
• 36:29
  Ishmael? He didn't commit the crime.
• 36:31
  The kid didn't do enough that he's all stolen.
• 36:33
  It sounds like the hummus. What's it going to cry by?
• 36:36
  Ishmael says, hey, Ishmael. But his mother was sitting there
• 36:41
  and starving and crying, and Raham sent him away.
• 36:45
  Raham, Santgar and Ishmael awake and there was starving the
• 36:49
  death. There was crying and Hashem said
• 36:53
  let's go save him. Malachim said the father of all
• 36:58
  Arabs who's going to give the Jews all this agit and all this
• 37:02
  headaches. He is later you're going to save
• 37:05
  him. Why do you want to save him?
• 37:07
  Because the point huh? God said we judge him at the
• 37:12
  moment. Bahashin who Sham right now,
• 37:16
  this kid is not a bad kid. I do not care about his future.
• 37:20
  It doesn't matter what he's going to become.
• 37:22
  You judge him at the moment, asks every single rabbi and his
• 37:27
  parisha, every single one simple question.
• 37:31
  How can you tell if there's a rule of Ishmael by Hashem, then
• 37:35
  a person they judge the way they are right now.
• 37:37
  We get reward, we get punishment for they are today, regardless
• 37:42
  of the fact that God knows our future doesn't make a
• 37:44
  difference. We ignore that and at the same
• 37:46
  time have the law of Ben Ceramic.
• 37:48
  What did Ben Ceramic do? All he stole some money to meet
• 37:51
  and wine his wayward. He's not listening to his
• 37:54
  parents. How bad is that?
• 37:56
  Now, a lot of kids out there today have probably fit this
• 37:59
  bill and many of them fit this bill.
• 38:01
  They don't listen to their parents.
• 38:03
  They might have took some money from mommy's pocketbook.
• 38:05
  They might have charged the car for the restaurant when the
• 38:07
  parents told not to. Ben Ceram, whatever, he killed
• 38:09
  the kid. What does this mean?
• 38:11
  So the concept, says the Gemara, is that we're killing him, We're
• 38:17
  doing him a favor by killing him, we're doing him a favor.
• 38:21
  Something in Mafi Take Me Out of his misery.
• 38:23
  What are they even doing in that favor?
• 38:24
  Says the Gemara. Because Atti, in the future he's
• 38:27
  going to end up such a kid whose thoughts of this way will one
• 38:30
  day become a real thief and will one day become a murderer.
• 38:35
  So because he's on his way to that, says the Gemara, we're
• 38:38
  going to kill him now, see, but. We didn't kill nobody.
• 38:41
  And it happened. But the reason that I gave you
• 38:44
  is technically speaking, in that case, it would be good for him
• 38:47
  because you say anything in front of his future.
• 38:48
  One second, who cares about the future?
• 38:49
  We go with the now future. He's not great now.
• 38:53
  He's got a bad future. Hey, but he's not enough.
• 38:57
  So what's going on with it? Do you go by now?
• 39:02
  He's not guilty. This.
• 39:04
  Do you go by now? Do you go by later?
• 39:05
  What's going on? How about you show him?
• 39:07
  If an adult steals, he doesn't get tests, does he?
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  No, no, so you got he gets luscious, so he gives the money
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  back, he doesn't get anything right.
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  How do you answer this question? This I think is a very important
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  answer for us. We hinted doing already.
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  An answer is fundamental and that is always have the options
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  change a regular person, even in Ishmael.
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  The reason we do not factor in the future and because currently
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  the future has a way out. When a person has a structure
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  and he does it every once and he has nothing holding him back.
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  Not his parents, not the bad Dean, not the rabbi, has nothing
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  doing, nothing holding back. And right now we see this guy is
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  driving off the Cliff at 100 mph, nothing stopping him.
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  Every person, every one of us, we all have yet sailors, we all
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  have a million things pulling us.
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  We have to have something that pushes against it.
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  You need that, that even if you're a soda, you have
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  something that makes you weird in a sense.
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  You have an anger thing, you have frustration thing and
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  something that you nervous saying that makes you tempted.
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  But you have something, whatever it may be, a fear, some level
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  you have to mind nervous what it's going to do to your
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  children. Something that is your buffer
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  and your fence to stop it from going overboard.
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  And if a person has neither one, no control of his desires and
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  nothing stopping you, good luck to that person.
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  So even though God judges a person by Shehushan where he is
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  now, he has to have the tools of the future.
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  And every Jew has those tools by either being a good guy or being
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  God of temptation. Aside from that.
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  Yeah, aside from that or in trouble.
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  That's why this guy is joking right now based on his future,
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  even though Ishmael was not. Because this person is worse.
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  That's a message of you. He's at a points to open a lot.
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  He's done. He is now.
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  I wanted to go Toyota hyena looked at this before couple
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  more points. It does the words this kid a
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  Nenu Shomaya, this is a nu shomaya.
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  He doesn't he can. I mean a nenu Shomaya means he's
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  a non listening type. I mean, every person has some
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  level of stubbornness, some level of ego, whatever you might
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  call it, that says someone tells me something, I ignore it.
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  There's another guy, a guy who's in it's, I know Charmaine.
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  Listen, an inner Charmaine is a guy that's got nothing and no
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  one home. There's nothing to talk to.
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  Every one of us have to have, is it?
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  Everyone of us had to have. Every one of us has to have some
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  degree of something that talks to us.
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  He's a guy who doesn't listen to anything at all, doesn't listen
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  to one time, doesn't listen. OK, It's not a lesson over here.
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  It's like. In the beginning, he said, Oh,
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  Iveka, that was the being. Nervous for my 6 year old,
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  right? And that's both of all because
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  it's really all one and all these things a person needs to
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  know and the reason is so important today and because you
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  don't realize this Yed Saira is literally luring every single
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  horn guarding a sexual a very my 11 year old.
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  They are all the things that we're afraid of just to rest
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  assured the following as crazy as the world is, as wild as the
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  kids are and as nervous all we are at the fact that our kids
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  seem like they don't listen. Look at the results of the mind
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  of their kids. Married them doing just fine
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  somehow, some way. The buffer might not be you're
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  yelling at them or you're putting control on them.
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  The buffer might be at one point in time they just wake up or
• 43:04
  they just look around and say I want to be like darker, not like
• 43:05
  darker, like Daddy, whatever. It is something that pulls them
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  in. That's my little talk to myself.
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  So they haven't had the same voice, the father and mother.
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  In order to be a real Benson and Muned, dad has the same voice
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  and I need to have that. The parents need to get killed.
• 43:21
  What's the same voice, though? The woman does it.
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  Really mean voice and only applies don't know how.
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  That like this? It sounds like he's got 2
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  daddies. Yes, but she sounds like a mask.
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  I don't know that back way. Just your question via point.
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  Same message here, right? Let me answer your point.
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  So I learned this. I saw lesson like this.
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  Since I want to translate, let me ask you a question.
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  At some point, if the father and mother, father and mother are on
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  the same page, father and mother talk the same tune.
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  Good thing or a bad thing, you know, I hear.
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  It's bad, but it's it's not a big.
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  Good tum, bad gum no. No.
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  Same tune. Not good thing or a bad thing?
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  You're not. Of course.
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  That's Shalom. I don't want no.
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  Well, if I like the the. United in Europe, I think they
• 44:19
  I, I personally can earn. The wife wants, doesn't want the
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  girl to wear his curse. The father does.
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  It's the same page. It's a different page.
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  So I think that really the that is everyone would think the best
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  thing is father and mother are talking the same tune 1000% and
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  that's the best way. Beautiful.
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  And then same. Values, same exact wants.
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  They both wants the choice, but the same way they both want
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  this. I think that's very good, but I
• 44:50
  actually think in a certain sense is a hint to this.
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  There's even a better level. The better level is that the
• 44:55
  father and mother both have their own angle, mother their
• 44:59
  own angle. The mother has a woman angle.
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  The husband has his angle. He doesn't care that much about
• 45:04
  the things the white worries about, and Dwight doesn't care
• 45:07
  how much that happens Natural. That's yeah, they break.
• 45:10
  So far they are. Oh, you did write.
• 45:13
  That as long as there's chemistry, as long as there's
• 45:15
  chemistry which united in the United in their values, that's
• 45:19
  actually better than there's two parents seeing in the exact same
• 45:23
  200,000%. Why?
• 45:25
  Because sometimes, exactly sometimes I've seen it when 2
• 45:30
  barons are too much at certain level.
• 45:33
  I give this the concerning way the kids just go a little little
• 45:38
  leap, a little off the rails, a little strange, but the
• 45:41
  healthiest way when it's a developed understanding of what
• 45:44
  you want your child to look like, develop comes from this
• 45:47
  developed chemistry. Developed chemistry is not
• 45:50
  everyone's seeing the same thing, same values, of course,
• 45:53
  same wishes for you if you had to look a certain way, but you
• 45:56
  push at it. That means she wants one thing,
• 45:58
  you want another thing. You'll give a little, she gives
• 46:00
  a little obviously uses this is a concept and I think it's key.
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  I think that's why it's what I was telling you and then I sure
• 46:06
  may have a call. I didn't call anymore.
• 46:08
  He doesn't hear. In other words, the problem is
• 46:10
  there's one voice. There's too much one voice.
• 46:12
  There's there's a purpose of father and a mother.
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  There's a reason God gave us this structure and valuable and
• 46:17
  powerful. I said, I think the same message
• 46:19
  over here is no, it makes. More sense than the guy than the
• 46:22
  G having AD. Voice.
• 46:23
  Yeah, if he's actually we're going to they come up.
• 46:24
  This is so, yes. Is our PB.
• 46:26
  Yeah, so they know it. Like now the drug goes on to all
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  the laws. I want to tell you one other
• 46:33
  thing from Alpine shot again sign message from Alpine Shot
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  and that's what I says hello of mitzvah.
• 46:41
  Let's go positive from here. KKK can't seaport when a person.
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  What time is that? 90. 50 Sure, how do you look?
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  Sorry.