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Money = Freedom (Not Greed) · Natty Unfiltered

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  Welcome to Natty Unfiltered, the podcast for moms who love their
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  kids but know they were meant for more. I'm Natie, mom of
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  three real estate agent and online entrepreneur,
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  and this is where we talk confidence, mindset, money, and building
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  a life that actually feels like yours. And today,
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  we're talking about money,
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  and not in a surface level way, but in real,
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  honest way, especially as moms. And the guilt
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  that sometimes comes with wanting more of it.
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  Money gives you options, and that matters more
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  than people admit. I feel like we've all had
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  heard that phrase, money does not buy
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  happiness. And yes, I get the intention behind it,
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  but let's be real for a second. Money gives you options,
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  and options change everything.
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  It gives you the ability to say no to things that drain
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  you. It gives you the ability to say yes to things that matter.
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  More times with your kids, less stress about bills,
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  freedom to travel, to rest, to. To breathe a
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  little easier, to work anywhere,
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  to be able to have. Explore options that you
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  otherwise won't have if you don't have that financial stability.
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  And yes, I think sometimes we downplay that like it's not important.
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  And we try to say, well, you know, yes,
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  as long as you're healthy and happy, that's all it matters. I don't need to
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  have a lot. Listen, I think that health is very important because
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  doesn't matter how much money you have, if you're not healthy
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  or there's things going on, you know,
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  nothing else matter. But if you've ever
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  been in a situation where money felt tight, you know how heavy
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  that feels. So wanting more money, that's not
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  shallow, that's not greedy. That's you wanting a different
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  kind of life. Why? Moms, especially feel guilty
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  about wanting more money. And I'm sure it's probably not
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  all of the moms. I don't want to generalize it,
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  but I think a lot of us can relate to that.
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  And this one hits deep because I felt this,
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  too. There's this unspoken expectation that as a mom,
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  you should just be grateful. Grateful for your family, your home,
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  your health, what you already have. And you know what? Don't get me
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  wrong, you can be grateful and still want more.
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  I always say be grateful for little things. I mean, life is
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  so short. Be grateful for the things that you have, even the little things.
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  You know, getting up in the morning, having the car to drive, having the roof
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  over you, over your head for the food in your fridge,
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  for the family that you know, you have.
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  All the little things. I think that if you constantly complain and you're not grateful
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  for what you have, the universe is not really going
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  to provide. So be grateful for what you have.
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  But then, of course, you want to have more. I want.
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  Of course you want to have that financial freedom, the financial abundance,
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  because money gives you that freedom.
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  Money gives you the ability to do more.
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  So but somewhere along the way, those things just, you know,
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  they get twisted. Like, if you want more money, more freedom,
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  more success, it means you're not appreciative enough.
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  And that's just not true. Wanting more doesn't mean you are
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  ungrateful. It means you see the potential for a better life
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  for you and your family. And who does not want to have a better life?
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  And honestly, that's a beautiful thing. Financial stress
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  quietly affects everything. I think people underestimate
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  how much money stress impacts your everyday life.
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  And it's not just about paying bills. It shows up in your
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  mood, your patience, your energy,
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  your relationships. When money is tight,
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  every day feels heavier. You, you know,
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  you bicker with your significant other about money. You bicker with your kids
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  because they want more. And I'm not saying that you should be
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  giving all that you can to your kids,
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  because they need to also know the value of a dollar.
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  They need to also know that even if you're able to
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  give them and buy them whatever they want,
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  that you're not going to, because they need to appreciate what they have.
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  And there's always going to be somebody that has more
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  than you do. But you need to realize what
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  you have is enough and be appreciative for what you have.
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  Little things feel bigger, you feel more overwhelmed, you feel
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  stuck. And I've had moments like that
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  where it's just constantly in the back of my mind.
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  So when we talk about wanting more money, we're not
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  just talking about numbers in the bank account. We're talking about a
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  peace of mind. Money doesn't change who you are.
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  It amplifies it. There's also this belief
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  that money changes people. And I actually used to think
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  the same way when I was much younger, until I realized that's
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  really not the case. And so you've probably heard, money makes people
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  selfish or money ruins people.
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  But here's what I've come to believe. Money doesn't
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  change you. It reveals you. If you're kind,
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  you'll be even more generous. If you're grounded,
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  you will stay grounded. And if someone
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  becomes a completely different person with money that
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  was already there, money just amplified that
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  person. You know, sometimes people like you Think just because someone
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  has a better car in their garage does not
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  make you to be like that little person.
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  And that you do not matter. You still
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  matter. Does not matter. It doesn't matter how
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  big your bank account is, you still matter.
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  Just because somebody has more, it does not make
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  them a better person. It does not mean that the
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  person needs to treat other people with be disrespectful,
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  not treat them like a human being because they have
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  more than you or other people around them. So instead
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  of fear and money, focus on who you're becoming
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  while building it. Because money in the hands of a good
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  person, that creates impact.
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  And believe me, I've been around people who have
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  quite a bit and you will never be able to tell that they have the
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  money that they have because they treat others with respect.
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  They treat others that they matter. And they don't showcase
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  how much money they have in their bank account.
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  And I've seen people who maybe have half
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  of what other person or people have and
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  they act all that mighty. They only want
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  to be surrounded by people who, who have the same. They don't feel
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  like they have room for people who have less. Even that
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  could be a good person. To me, you need to judge a person
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  by the person that they are. And if they're shitty person doesn't
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  matter how much money they have, why would you want to be surrounded by that?
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  But if somebody is good, why would you want to. Why wouldn't you not want
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  to have a person in your life in your corner that is good even
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  if they're not on the same level as you are?
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  To me it speaks volume of a person of
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  how they treat others does not matter how much money they have.
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  Building wealth is a form of self respect.
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  This is something that I really want. I really
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  want to land building financial stability.
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  Building wealth, not just about money,
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  it's about how you value yourself in your life. It's about
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  saying I deserve to feel secure, I deserve
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  to have options. I deserve to not live in constant
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  stress. And not just for you,
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  but for your family. You creating stability,
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  you creating opportunities, you are creating a different
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  future. And that's not greed, that's responsibility.
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  In the best way. You don't have to choose between
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  being a good mom and making money. I think this
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  is one of the biggest internal conflicts,
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  this feeling like if I focus on making money
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  or building something, am I making, am I
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  taking away from my kids? And I've thought
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  about this a lot because yes, time matters,
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  being present matters. But also showing your kids
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  what it looks like to build something, to go after
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  goals, to create life with intention,
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  that matters too. You're not choosing one over
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  the other, you showing them what's possible. And you're building
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  a life where you can be present and financially secure.
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  It doesn't have to be either or.
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  And it's okay to want more and to go after it
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  unapologetically. At the end of the day,
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  I think what I want you to take from this is simple.
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  You're allowed to want more. More income,
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  more freedom, more ease in your life.
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  You don't have to justify it, you don't have to shrink it, you don't have
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  to feel guilty about it. Because the moment you stop feeling bad
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  for wanting more is the moment you start actually creating
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  it. And so just go after your
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  dreams and your goals and you know,
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  wanting to have that financial freedom, because I
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  know how it feels when the money is tight
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  and the bills need to be paid and things just coming up,
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  and you just feel like, how am
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  I going to survive? And you think
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  that, hey, when you have that financial
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  abundance, you're not worrying about those things. And you
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  can concentrate on things that you know that you
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  can do. How you can work when you
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  can say no to things, when you can take
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  a vacation, make improvements in your house,
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  maybe get a second home. The possibilities
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  are endless. And there's nothing wrong with going
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  after it, but at the same time,
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  staying grounded as a person. So if
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  this episode shifted how you think about money even a little,
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  I want you to sit with that and remind yourself, wanting more
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  doesn't make you greedy. It makes you aware of what's
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  possible. And most importantly,
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  stay true to yourself. Be kind to others,
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  even if they don't have the same as you do.
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  Because being nice doesn't cost anything.
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  If this spoke to you, share it with another mom or woman who,
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  who needs to hear this message. And don't forget to follow and subscribe
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  to Nadian Filtered, because we're building something bigger here together.
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  Until next time.