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Consistency, Practice & Affirmations with Devi Brown · Deeply Well with Devi Brown

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Deeply Well. This show is a soft place
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  Speaker 1: to land on your journey. A space where we explore
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  Speaker 1: what it truly means to live well from the inside out.
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  Speaker 1: Not perfectly, but honestly. This is Deeply Well. Hey everyone,
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  Speaker 1: welcome back to Deeply Well. I am Debbie Brown and
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  Speaker 1: we are back this week with another Q & A episode.
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  Speaker 2: I love these.
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  Speaker 1: And this one is especially for those of you who
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  Speaker 1: have read my book, Living in Wisdom. Hardcover, paperback, both
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  Speaker 1: are in stores. This book was really created from the
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  Speaker 1: depths of my heart as an invitation to deepen your
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  Speaker 1: relationship with yourself, to return to the wisdom that already
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  Speaker 1: lives within you and explore what it means to really
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  Speaker 1: live from that place more fully. When we get the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to inhabit our bodies, it changes everything. So today
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  Speaker 1: we're continuing that journey together through your questions, reflections, and
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  Speaker 1: the ideas from the book that have stayed with you.
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  Speaker 1: So whether there was a particular passage that opened something
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  Speaker 1: within you, a practice that you've started exploring, or a
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  Speaker 1: question that emerged as you moved through the book, I
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  Speaker 1: want to hear all about it from you. So send
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  Speaker 1: us what you've been sitting with. We may explore it
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  Speaker 1: in an upcoming Q & A episode. I put a
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  Speaker 1: couple prompts out on threads, on YouTube, and also Instagram. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: those are all the places I am. But for now,
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  Speaker 1: let's just spend some time with some of the beautiful
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  Speaker 1: questions that have already come in. So I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: lean really heavily on our amazing show producer, Denisha, today.
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  Speaker 1: The questions that we received today were written in. Previously,
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  Speaker 1: we've used like a call-in method, which we still will,
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  Speaker 1: but these were written in. So Denisha is going to
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  Speaker 1: read a few questions for me, and hopefully we can
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  Speaker 1: dive in deeply to some of the ways to really
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  Speaker 1: be in practice and in process with ourselves.
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  Speaker 2: Let's go.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 1: Denisha, if you would please share with me the first
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  Speaker 1: question that we have today.
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  Speaker 2: For someone who continually starts a daily practice and then
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  Speaker 2: falls away from it, how can they return with compassion
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  Speaker 2: and build greater consistency?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my God, I love this question. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: this question is honestly the foundation of my teaching style
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  Speaker 1: when I'm leading intensives or workshops or retreats. I teach
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  Speaker 1: in person really, really deeply with a lot of nuance
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  Speaker 1: about the process of what it truly is to slowly
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  Speaker 1: build your practice. So I'm really grateful for that question
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  Speaker 1: because I think that's the place we all find ourselves
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  Speaker 1: in when we start. And it keeps probably 98, 99%
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  Speaker 1: of people from ever trying again or locking into something
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  Speaker 1: that could be really supportive and expansive for them. So
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  Speaker 1: I think my advice for anyone getting started and building
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  Speaker 1: a practice or someone that is looking to really reignite
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  Speaker 1: and get back into something that feels consistent and evolutionary
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  Speaker 1: for wherever they are in their lives, is to first
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  Speaker 1: study your barriers to it. Understand what in you is
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  Speaker 1: rejecting it. It's very hard to move forward, especially in
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  Speaker 1: a place of like authentic investment and receiving with something,
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  Speaker 1: a mechanism inside of yourself that you don't fully understand
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  Speaker 1: that keeps pulling you back. And often we just notice
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  Speaker 1: the feeling of, oh, I really don't like doing this
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  Speaker 1: or it gives me anxiety or I feel restless or, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I think too much. Yeah. So because it's not naturally
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  Speaker 1: happening for me with ease, it's not for me. When
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  Speaker 1: in effect, that is actually also part of the practice.
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  Speaker 1: It's noticing what comes up that is keeping you from
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  Speaker 1: doing something that is good for you. And I think
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  Speaker 1: we can explore that in so many ways. And once
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  Speaker 1: we kind of lock into a way that we understand
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  Speaker 1: it even about one thing, it's so easy to then
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  Speaker 1: apply that precision and experimentation to absolutely everything in your life.
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  Speaker 1: But notice what exactly it is that you're feeling rejecting about.
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  Speaker 1: Is it the sitting still? follow it up with your
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  Speaker 1: first layer of answers of why that's an issue. Usually
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  Speaker 1: if it's like restlessness or just overthinking, what I've noticed
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  Speaker 1: is that the first things that start to come up
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  Speaker 1: for people are, oh, I think too much. It's because
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  Speaker 1: my mind is too busy. I'm type A. I have ADHD.
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  Speaker 1: Or I, in some other way, I just have too
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  Speaker 1: much going on. I am, you know, the pillar of
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  Speaker 1: my home, the I'm a daydreamer. I'm thinking about this, right?
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  Speaker 1: We come up with this list of things. And I
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  Speaker 1: think that when those things first start emerging as our
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  Speaker 1: answers to these questions, they seem perfectly rational, right? Like
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  Speaker 1: it seems like, yeah, that makes perfect sense. I am
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  Speaker 1: really busy. I'm probably busier than most people. So I
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  Speaker 1: think too much or I have these things. So these
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  Speaker 1: are the reasons why. And I think what becomes really
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  Speaker 1: powerful is When we stop, when we slow down enough, one,
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  Speaker 1: to observe it, see what it's stemming from. We also
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  Speaker 1: get to see that, like, in fact, it's not that
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  Speaker 1: we're just so different and so othered. It's a common
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  Speaker 1: thing that anybody who's ever attempted it has pretty much faced.
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  Speaker 1: It's part of what the human condition is. Like, we
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  Speaker 1: have been overly stimulated, overthinking by design. and constantly pulled
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  Speaker 1: in such a multitude of ways, most especially in the
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  Speaker 1: force feeding of this belief that we should always be
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  Speaker 1: multitasking or accomplishing and accomplishing multiple things and thoughts at
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  Speaker 1: the same time. So when we start to get some
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  Speaker 1: of those things on paper or in front of us
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  Speaker 1: more clearly, we then get to like really analyze and
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  Speaker 1: notice how true any of it is or isn't.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: And especially when we get to take away this kind
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  Speaker 1: of egoic specialness where we think we are the one
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  Speaker 1: person on earth that this isn't for because our lot
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  Speaker 1: in life is just so different that there's no way
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  Speaker 1: it could work for us. When we get that first layer,
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  Speaker 1: just kind of like slough it off, surrender it. Then
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  Speaker 1: we get to like a little deeper gooey center and
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  Speaker 1: get to really explore what it is, right? So Under
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  Speaker 1: that first layer, okay, you think too much, as does
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  Speaker 1: every human alive. What else?
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  Speaker 2: What else?
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  Speaker 1: What else is keeping you from it? Oh, I don't
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  Speaker 1: have time and I should be doing this or that.
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  Speaker 1: You scrolled 45 minutes today. So we know you have
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  Speaker 1: the time, right? Or you did X, Y, and Z
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  Speaker 1: for X amount of time. We know you have the time.
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  Speaker 1: We know you can find time. And I say this
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  Speaker 1: for the majority of people. There is a percentage of
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  Speaker 1: people who that in this moment, you might be hearing
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  Speaker 1: this episode at rock bottom or at your absolute thread
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  Speaker 1: bared hanging on end. And there could be literally no time.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, if that's you, your body is probably
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  Speaker 1: already responding to some signs of burnout. There's probably just
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  Speaker 1: so many extreme things if that is your current predicament.
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  Speaker 1: And for you, I would say, most especially, Do not
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  Speaker 1: judge yourself and be hard on yourself. And if there
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  Speaker 1: is no time, find just the brief seconds in between thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Find the moment that you don't have to be walking
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  Speaker 1: fast and you notice that you are and stop and
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  Speaker 1: take three deep breaths in a row and then keep going.
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  Speaker 1: That might be the practice until there is space to
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  Speaker 1: deepen it. But there are still things that you can
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  Speaker 1: use to show up in that moment. Okay. Okay. So
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  Speaker 1: that piece now plays to the side, but it's important
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  Speaker 1: to know for, you know, whatever, whatever the percentage of
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  Speaker 1: people listening, um, that are overburdened. However, um, for some
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  Speaker 1: of us that may be in a season where there
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  Speaker 1: is that spare 15 minutes, that spare 30, perhaps even
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  Speaker 1: a spare 45 at some point, um, Notice when you're
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  Speaker 1: giving a very simplified, dare I say, lazy answer to
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  Speaker 1: why you can't do something. And then really push yourself
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  Speaker 1: to come up with the real reasons. Go a little further,
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  Speaker 1: dig a little deeper. It might feel a little sticky
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  Speaker 1: at first, a little heavy at first, but you'll push
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  Speaker 1: through it quickly. And when you do, you get to
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  Speaker 1: some of those deeper layers and roots. And some of
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  Speaker 1: the things that I've seen when I teach is You know,
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  Speaker 1: we might climb under all of the high achieving perfectionist
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  Speaker 1: type A successful layers of, you know, responses to why
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  Speaker 1: there is no time and space for practice. And then
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  Speaker 1: when we climb through all, all, all, all of those
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  Speaker 1: kind of, those explanations, We get to a deeper layer
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  Speaker 1: of maybe caring for yourself is uncomfortable because you're not
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  Speaker 1: used to it and no one ever showed you how.
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  Speaker 1: Or perhaps it's, you know, there wasn't enough care in
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  Speaker 1: childhood and that feels sensitive. You've always had to be
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  Speaker 1: the one to meet your needs. So now as an adult,
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  Speaker 1: there is a piece of you that rejects that and
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  Speaker 1: fights that and wants someone else to come and do
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  Speaker 1: it or wants the easier solution, the different solution. very understandable,
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  Speaker 1: most likely will not unfold that way. So it's important
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  Speaker 1: to know if that is a barrier or a sensitivity
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  Speaker 1: so we can find a workaround for it so you
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  Speaker 1: still get what you need. So the investigation part can
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  Speaker 1: be really, really potently powerful. And it is part of
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  Speaker 1: what the practice is. It's part of, you know, when
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  Speaker 1: I say things like bring creativity into your practice, your
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  Speaker 1: practice can.
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  Speaker 2: Be, should be creative.
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  Speaker 1: It should be uniquely designed for who and what you
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  Speaker 1: are in this particular time. That's what I mean. And
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  Speaker 1: so the investigation is part of how you build it.
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  Speaker 1: And I think for so many, that part gets bypassed
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  Speaker 1: because it's too connected to judgment of you not getting
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  Speaker 1: it right, you not getting it perfect at first. Just
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  Speaker 1: preserve the time if nothing else is you're getting started.
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  Speaker 1: And if you've identified that you have 15, 25 minutes
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  Speaker 1: every day to start creating a practice in the beginning,
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  Speaker 1: even on the days that you don't know what to
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  Speaker 1: do or sick of doing whatever you're doing, commit to
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  Speaker 1: staying in that container of time and not moving. If
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  Speaker 1: you've identified a certain corner in your house, an area,
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  Speaker 1: a place you're going to go to do whatever these
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  Speaker 1: things are, even on the days you don't end up
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  Speaker 1: doing it or feel you're not doing it right, stay
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  Speaker 1: in the container of it for the exact amount of
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  Speaker 1: time you promised yourself you would. That is still a
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  Speaker 1: big win. Even if you're there screaming, rolling your eyes,
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  Speaker 1: hating every second of it, the more you do that,
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  Speaker 1: and it will not take long, the easier it is
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  Speaker 1: to start to sink into and really expand into whatever
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  Speaker 1: this time and space needs to be for you. Because
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  Speaker 1: self-care is meant to be experienced as fuel, as the
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  Speaker 1: fuel to keep you going, as the mechanism within which
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  Speaker 1: you can meet your needs. And sometimes those needs are
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  Speaker 1: gonna be, you are screaming into a pillow, and jumping
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  Speaker 1: up and down or swaying your hips or hugging yourself
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  Speaker 1: for that amount of time. Sometimes it's going to be
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  Speaker 1: you're in a meditation that's making you cry and making
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  Speaker 1: you uncomfortable. Sometimes you'll be in a meditation that is
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  Speaker 1: making you smile and feel a peace like you've never
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  Speaker 1: known or creative inspiration in a way you've never known.
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  Speaker 1: We don't always know what's going to meet us in
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  Speaker 1: our practice or what we're going to need it for
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  Speaker 1: that day. But a thing that I found to be
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  Speaker 1: deeply true is that when you commit and devote yourself
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  Speaker 1: to staying with whatever that is in that process, a
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  Speaker 1: need will get met that day, however it unfolds, and
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  Speaker 1: something will expand inside of you. And your capacity to
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  Speaker 1: hold your practice for the way you need it every
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  Speaker 1: single time will stretch, stretch, stretch, stretch, stretch open. So
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  Speaker 1: I think that is a really important first step in
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  Speaker 1: building a practice and in connecting to a consistency that
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  Speaker 1: feels really sustainable. It is imperative that you extract any
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  Speaker 1: idea of perfectionism or rightness or performance or showcasing of
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  Speaker 1: it or any of that to it. And just really
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  Speaker 1: let Holy Spirit come in, let your body come in,
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  Speaker 1: let your needs come in, let anything you've been holding
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  Speaker 1: that needs to be cast off or surrendered, just let
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  Speaker 1: it in and out and through and the rest will unfold.
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  Speaker 1: And then you get to get really creative, right? Because
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  Speaker 1: when you start meeting one need or two needs, then
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  Speaker 1: you clear space and now you can approach other things.
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  Speaker 1: And so Maybe in one season, your spiritual practice is
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  Speaker 1: really showing up and serving you emotionally. And maybe in
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  Speaker 1: another season, now that area of your life has some
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  Speaker 1: space and it has some scaffolding and support to it.
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  Speaker 1: So now your practice may be really focused on your
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  Speaker 1: physical life and your physical self or your integrated self,
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  Speaker 1: letting it change from season to season, day to day,
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  Speaker 1: week to week. That is all part of the process too.
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  Speaker 1: Commit to the container of the practice, but give yourself
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  Speaker 1: over to how that practice wants to share itself from
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  Speaker 1: day to day. Hope all that made sense. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: for the question. Okay, Denisha, we are ready for question
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  Speaker 1: number two, please.
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  Speaker 2: How can we create an affirmation that feels personal, powerful,
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  Speaker 2: and true, especially when we're struggling to find the right
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  Speaker 2: words for what we need?
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  Speaker 1: Ah, that's a good one. Affirmations are my jam. If
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  Speaker 1: you've been following me for any amount of time, especially
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  Speaker 1: dating back to like the karma gang era, um, which
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  Speaker 1: started in like 2018, I think karma bliss started in 2015. Um,
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  Speaker 1: affirmations I believe in with my whole soul. And I
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  Speaker 1: think anything you do to speak life over in yourself
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  Speaker 1: is more than enough and it's perfect. But personally, and
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  Speaker 1: this is probably because I am a double Gemini and
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  Speaker 1: I got ADHD. I'm a thinker and I'm a communicator.
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  Speaker 1: So I am just always in my bag of words.
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  Speaker 1: Like how do we use words to alchemize, to transcend,
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  Speaker 1: to transform? So I like to go deeper into affirmation.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you can hear affirmations like I am love. I
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  Speaker 1: am strong. I am abundant.
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  Speaker 2: Great.
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  Speaker 1: I want to add like 25 words to that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I want to have a centering statement, a mantra, a creed,
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  Speaker 1: something that feels like a summoning from within that we
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  Speaker 1: get to really Create from the depths of us, own,
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  Speaker 1: and then add our own vibrational quality to it with
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  Speaker 1: the tonality and the power of our own voice, the
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  Speaker 1: authority of our own energy. So the way that I
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  Speaker 1: approach affirmations and in my book and also just like
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  Speaker 1: throughout my post and website, I've shared a lot of
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  Speaker 1: the affirmations that I've created in extreme times of personal transformation.
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  Speaker 1: And it felt like every time I was connecting to
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  Speaker 1: the words and saying them out loud, they were becoming
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  Speaker 1: more and more true and more lived. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to give you a couple of baselines for how I
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  Speaker 1: experience affirmations. One, I think it's important to expand your vocabulary,
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  Speaker 1: expand your verbal world, your expressive world in what it
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  Speaker 1: is that you're identifying you want to become or need. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the way I approach affirmations, and I learned this particular
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  Speaker 1: style originally from Drs. Ron and Mary Holnick, who have
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  Speaker 1: an amazing, amazing book out called Loyal to Your Soul,
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  Speaker 1: and also just had an amazing program that I did
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  Speaker 1: with them for many, many years. Their system is that
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  Speaker 1: They work with affirmations from a sense of harvesting different
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  Speaker 1: words that represent qualities that you want to embody. What
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  Speaker 1: I mean by qualities are really like an innate essence
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  Speaker 1: of how you are naturally arising in real time, what
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  Speaker 1: you are naturally giving out and radiating and being and
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  Speaker 1: living and And quality is also in terms of characteristics.
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  Speaker 1: You know, what is a character trait that you want
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  Speaker 1: to own and live? What is a quality, a way
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  Speaker 1: of being, a way of sharing that you want to live?
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  Speaker 1: You want it to be who you are, how you give,
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  Speaker 1: how you receive, how you're perceived, how you serve, you know,
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  Speaker 1: in all the finite ways possible. of whatever moment in
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  Speaker 1: your life you're in. So I approach affirmations from that
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  Speaker 1: sense of I'm constructing a statement that is gonna be
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  Speaker 1: representative of who I am becoming next, who I want
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  Speaker 1: to be next, what behaviors and actions and choices I
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  Speaker 1: will be making right now in real time to support
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  Speaker 1: the words I'm saying to become and be and live
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  Speaker 1: as this next expanded version of self. So I have
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  Speaker 1: like a list of words that I work with and
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  Speaker 1: they're found in the book. If you're looking on YouTube,
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  Speaker 1: you can kind of see me holding them up now.
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  Speaker 1: It's a lot, a lot of words, a lot of columns.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm going to just read some of them out
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  Speaker 1: right now. What I like to do, and again, this
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  Speaker 1: activity is in my book and I think I have
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  Speaker 1: it in a blog somewhere, but you want to pick,
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  Speaker 1: I do a little more. I was taught like pick
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  Speaker 1: two words. I'm like, pick four. What are all the things?
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  Speaker 1: I would say pick a small handful of words. Don't
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  Speaker 1: be an overachiever and don't try to force it all
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  Speaker 1: into one thing. Simplify, but give it power. pick an
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  Speaker 1: assortment of words, and then put them together in a
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  Speaker 1: statement that is happening in the present moment. So if
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  Speaker 1: you're picking a word like resilient or forgiving, you want
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  Speaker 1: to create an affirmation that says, you know, I will forgive.
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  Speaker 1: It would be, I am forgiving X, Y, and Z,
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  Speaker 1: or I am living in the essence of forgiveness. You're
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  Speaker 1: saying it as if not only it's already true, but
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  Speaker 1: you're saying it as if it is already a felt
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  Speaker 1: action and behavior that your body, brain, and heart already
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  Speaker 1: know well. It's a tried and true path that you've
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  Speaker 1: already been living. And so I want to find just
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  Speaker 1: really quickly, maybe an example of one of the ones
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  Speaker 1: I did in my book, and I'll tell you the
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  Speaker 1: words that I picked. Oh, that's a good one. Let
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  Speaker 1: me see. Let me try to teach this real quick.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what I got. Okay, so one of the
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  Speaker 1: affirmations I wrote for myself was, I am trusting and
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  Speaker 1: savoring the experiences of my life, joyfully surrendering to spirit
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  Speaker 1: and effortlessly expanding my heart to all that is. When
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  Speaker 1: you first hear an affirmation like that, it might sound
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  Speaker 1: incredibly positive and jovial and like so lighthearted, right? almost ethereal.
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  Speaker 1: I am trusting and savoring the experiences of my life,
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  Speaker 1: joyfully surrendering to spirit and effortlessly expanding my heart to
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  Speaker 1: all that is. That sounds like the life of someone
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  Speaker 1: who things come very naturally to, that is able to
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  Speaker 1: move through chaos and challenge with happiness and acceptance and
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  Speaker 1: lightness of being, right? This affirmation I wrote in one
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  Speaker 1: of the darkest places of my life, one of the darkest,
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  Speaker 1: most grief-filled, challenging, unimaginable moments of my whole life. And
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  Speaker 1: the feelings I wanted to have was that I could
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  Speaker 1: really trust life was that I could trust God, was
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  Speaker 1: that I could trust myself and my choices. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be able to come into experiences, even if they
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  Speaker 1: were challenging, and find a way to savor any morsels
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  Speaker 1: of teaching or goodness or light or service that could
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  Speaker 1: be found in them. I wanted to reorient my relationship
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  Speaker 1: to the word surrender. And I didn't want it to
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  Speaker 1: always feel like a falling on my knees, face pressed
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  Speaker 1: against the ground, raw in agony type of surrender. I
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  Speaker 1: wanted it to feel like something I could do with
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  Speaker 1: one deep breath, with the twinkle of an eye, with
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  Speaker 1: the hand holding on the heart, with an opening of
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  Speaker 1: the full pure potentiality that's available in uncertainty. And I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to be able to keep my heart open effortlessly
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  Speaker 1: and keep it growing and stretching and expanding and radiating
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  Speaker 1: with openness to any and everything that I met on
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  Speaker 1: my path. So when I explain it this way, you
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  Speaker 1: can understand that this was not about rainbows and puppies.
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  Speaker 1: This was not about using positivity to bypass or, um,
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  Speaker 1: dissociate from anything real or hard that was happening but
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to give myself a deeper faith and a
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  Speaker 1: deeper connection to the moment I was in and find
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  Speaker 1: a way to experience it no matter how challenging it
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  Speaker 1: was experience it in a way that there could still
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  Speaker 1: be beauty in it there could still be divine miraculous
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  Speaker 1: nature to its unfolding that even if it was tears
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  Speaker 1: today it could be crying with still an open expectant
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  Speaker 1: faithful heart to tomorrow and that both were equally valuable
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  Speaker 1: the today and the tomorrow the past the today and
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  Speaker 1: the tomorrow and so reading that again I My words
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  Speaker 1: that I chose in this season were trust. And so
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  Speaker 1: I expanded that word into trusting to fit what I
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  Speaker 1: was writing. It was savor. It was joy. It was surrender.
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  Speaker 1: And I believe it was expansion. But I'll say it
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  Speaker 1: again here. I am trusting and savoring the experiences of
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  Speaker 1: my life. joyfully surrendering to spirit and effortlessly expanding my
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  Speaker 1: heart to all that is. So if you're in a
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  Speaker 1: part of your journey, and I really, God, I just
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  Speaker 1: really recommend this for everyone, even if you don't think
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  Speaker 1: you're a writer, even if you feel uncomfortable doing things
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  Speaker 1: that maybe feel this sincere or feel this emotional, or
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  Speaker 1: feel maybe even this precious, right? I think for some,
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  Speaker 1: something like this could even feel, I don't have a
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  Speaker 1: better word for this, but maybe like too girly or
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  Speaker 1: too sweet or too sensitive or whatever, whatever it feels
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  Speaker 1: like for any of us, right? Notice what your barrier
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  Speaker 1: to it is. Notice when your eye roll happens. Notice
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  Speaker 1: when the rejection comes in or notice when the longing,
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  Speaker 1: the yearning to do and feel and have something like this,
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  Speaker 1: to speak to yourself in this way, to feel yourself
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  Speaker 1: this way. However it's pushing and churning and poking and prodding,
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  Speaker 1: just notice it, just observe it and see what that
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  Speaker 1: tells you. So as you approach an exercise like this,
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  Speaker 1: and it's important to also know when one feels complete,
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  Speaker 1: when you've been saying it and reading it to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: to a point where it actually clicks into place and
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  Speaker 1: you're like, oh wow, the experiences I'm having in my
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  Speaker 1: life right now are actually reflecting that this is who
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  Speaker 1: I am. Then you get a chance to kind of
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  Speaker 1: just live in that. It may not need to be
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  Speaker 1: said or expressed every day and you can move on to,
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  Speaker 1: you know, a new set of qualities or a new
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  Speaker 1: category in your life that you want to focus on.
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  Speaker 1: this potent word magic on and in. So start by finding,
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  Speaker 1: really spending time with the dictionary, the thesaurus, a grouping
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  Speaker 1: of words that feel inspiring, invocative, powerful, potent to you.
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  Speaker 1: And see which ones you want to be right now,
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  Speaker 1: which ones speak to a way you're trying to elevate
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  Speaker 1: or transcend your in your life? What qualities do you want?
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  Speaker 1: What characteristics? What experiences are you calling in? Choose the words.
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  Speaker 1: Let the words change form. Get the root word, but
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  Speaker 1: change it. Is it an ing at the end? Is
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  Speaker 1: it an apostrophe s? Is it an er? Change the
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  Speaker 1: word grammatically to whatever it needs to be to fit
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  Speaker 1: your statement. And then bring it all together. Let yourself
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  Speaker 1: write it out and small paragraph and then spend time
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  Speaker 1: chiseling it down until it gets into maybe two or
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  Speaker 1: three powerful, sovereign, authoritative statements. And then say it every day,
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  Speaker 1: write it down everywhere. Keep it in the notes of
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  Speaker 1: your phone, write it on a piece of paper, put
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  Speaker 1: it on the mirror, put it on the door. Put
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  Speaker 1: it next to your bed so you say it as
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  Speaker 1: the first thing you wake up and the last thing
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  Speaker 1: when you go to bed. But speak it with power
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  Speaker 1: over yourself and your life as if it is already true, present,
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  Speaker 1: and lived experience.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you'll do that.
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  Speaker 2: It's so good.
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  Speaker 1: Felt good to answer those questions. I hope we continue
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