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Ep. 2: What are we even doing? · We're Not Crazy... RIGHT?

• Erica and Jenn: Welcome to You're Not Crazy. Right. I'm Erica. And I'm Jen. And we want to tell a little bit about ourselves and our friendship Right. I am married. I have three children two of them are older children. I had my two older children young and then I have a younger son. And I am a real estate agent. My husband is the broker, and we have our own brokerage, a very small brokerage here in Central Florida. And I am a former school teacher. I worked for 15 years in the school system and left that life to help my husband. I have two children. one is about to turn 13 and the other is 10. my husband he's got a locally owned insurance business in town. And we have known each other for how long? I mean early twenties. Yeah. I want to say 15 years. Fifteen years? Sixteen, seventeen years. Yeah, because we met in Daytona. It goes all the way back to Daytona. We met in Daytona mutual people. Yep. And Jen and I have been through events together, we've been through weddings together. We've hosted parties. birthdays, all of the things. the nice thing about Jen and I's relationship is we know where we stand in our friendship. So we both have different friend groups and we do not always commingle those friend groups. I have different friend groups where I live. I mean, you live thirty five minutes away from me too, so that's the other thing. It's just we don't always get a chance to be yes with one another. Yeah. And we know where where each other stand in our friendship and that it it's nice because sometimes we go other than recently with the podcast, but sometimes we go a week or two without talking and we hook right back up, start where we left off. That was more so a past thing. I think, you know, we wouldn't we we may not talk all the time. We talk all the time now. Well, Jen travels a lot in the summer, so we don't ever get to talk to her. I try not to bother her when she's on vacation. Yes. Yeah. We it is kind of an unspoken rule, I feel like, when both of us go on vacation, we both will just kind of let the other be unless we have to share something, which happens. Yeah. But it's nice because you do things with other friends. You watch with other friends. And as do you. Date nights with other friends, vacation to the gyms, gym with other friends. Yep. We are not always together and doing everything together. And we meet back up and we just have a great time. Yeah. pick up right where we left off. Yeah. Yes, a hundred percent. Yeah. And I think I'm pretty much in my get approaching my forties, I have realized that in friendships, as long as you know where you stand with your friends You don't have to worry about that. Correct. Because there are people that do get jealous of other women. Right. It's never been something we have had to worry about. We've never felt like I'm I've never felt threatened by your other friend group and I've never felt like I'm not a part of it because you're off doing something else. It's been easy. And I think that's also a thing approaching forty. It it just shouldn't be that hard. Everything else in life is hard. This should not be one of those things. Friendship should be easy. Right. And we need that. Yeah. Because everything else is everything else is insane. It feels like it's so hard sometimes with husband in life and planning dinners and everything. Yes. That you need easy friendships. Yes. So this is a place This the whole reason that we decided to do this. This is a place where hopefully we can have some things that we can relate to other people. Hopefully it's it's it's relatable. but also it just shouldn't be a difficult, you know, it should be a fun lesson, hopefully, and maybe something to get people thinking about things in their own lives. Maybe we can bring something where it like makes life Easier or at least so that you don't feel like you're the only one in a situation. Which you're not crazy is basically where we're at. That's that's what we kept coming coming back to with this title. Is okay, am I crazy or is this? You know, start our voice messages off with Jen, I'm not crazy, right? Yeah, it because you just feel sometimes in your life alone, like when you're going through certain things, whether it be through your marriage or through situations with your children or as easy as like, am I the only one that doesn't want to think of another dinner meal or to do with this frozen chicken that I just pulled out of the fridge? Or even just like my child is spiraling off the handle. What is going on? I'm is it me? Is it what what's happening? Like is we both child. Right. If is it just my child that I'm having these issues with. Right. Because Everything on social media I feel like looks perfect. Of course. And that's part of the problem to an extent. I mean, I feel like there have been things over the years where it has been more relatable and, you know, at least my side of the algorithm has become more relatable. And maybe that's just age too talking, you know, where I'm like less interested in the things that look perfect. So hopefully this can be a space for that. Yes. I 100% agree. Yeah. And we cackle back forth. Constantly. So we also we send voice messages back and forth. Just voice messages almost exclusively. I mean, there's some texts, but and so that's part of why we decided to do this. I think once our voice messages started approaching like eight minutes long, I think that is when we said there there's something here to this. So and Jen, I know you're aware of this, but on the voice messages, you can hold down the play button and speed it up. So if you hold the play button down, you can speed it up to like one, one point five, and two. Yes. So I mean it does speed the voice up. It makes you sound a tiny bit more like a chipmunk. But you can Yeah, you can get the message. You can get the message. Yes. And and why voice memos? Because we're busy. We can't constantly be on the phone with one another. Sometimes you just need a vent and sometimes it's just that. It's like getting it out of your system so that you can then go on and move about your life and do what you need to do. Freely. Yes. And listen to it. And listen to it really quick and respond when you can. Yeah. There's no hey, I need to get to you right away. It's never been like that. So Yes. And speed up is if you're in the middle of something but I want to hear what you have to say. Yes. I can speed it up. Yes. Sometimes when you leave the eight minutes I can get through this. My ADHD, I'm like But yeah, so that's just a little bit about why we decided to do this. I mean, I think hopefully, this is you know, we're we're not looking for anybody's approval really either. This is mostly just for us. It's for us. And if you want to listen and join us, yeah. We are happy. Follow along and comment and engage. Yes. Yeah, we'd love to hear from you also. Yeah. Because we want to know that you're not crazy either. Yeah. Well, and this has been fun. I mean, it's a total learning experience from the studio to just learning what we have to do in order to make this work. It's been a little bit of a labor of love. And you know, we've there's been some injuries. There was an injury just a little bit ago in this tiny studio of ours. So I'm a little stubborn and And we have created an A makeshift studio. We will not be here forever. We will not be here forever. And we have made some interesting adjustments and we're trying to figure out lighting and the the microphones. There's a lot happening out of frame that I think would be comical to people if they saw it. Maybe we need to post that later. Yes. I forgot that it only has two legs because it's leaned up against It's leaned up against the wall currently. And so I went to go grab my water bottle. And I'm five three, in case anybody cares, but I could not reach it. And so I went to go put my leg up on the desk to reach over to grab it. And when I did, the whole desk just completely toppled over. And it pinched my finger. I'm still not certain if it's broken or not. Like the little tip of my pinky But again, it's been we wanted to figure this out on our own. That's that's we're a little bit stubborn, both of us. Yes. and so this is this is the product of us. We're new we're hey, we're here. We're learning. We're learning. Jen forgot the desk had two legs. We are here. We're here. We are I we and we're both Jen is a little stronger than I, but Jen is type A personality. Yes, for sure. I am type A, so it it's in me. So the lighting and all of that has been interesting for me. Yes. Just sits there and she's like, I know it's bothering you, so I'm just I'm gonna let you do whatever you wanna do. And that's kind of our friendship. I mean, we both take that role, I feel like, at different times. You know, there's times when It makes sense that you take over, and there's times when it makes sense that I take over or whatever. And it just yeah, it works. It's always worked. And I think that that's what's important to know about our friendship. Listen, don't move that thing too much. It's gonna go down. We have the tiniest table holding these microphones. They are holding on for dear life. Doing this, you're vulnerable. A hundred percent. And there's no one I would rather do this with. Truly. There's no way I could even have a conversation this long with I the last recording, I was like I went to Jen and was like, it I now see my resting bitch face. Yes. This is what the world sees is Yeah. There's a lot of things we're gonna have to get over and it's on it, you know, haters gonna hate and that is what it is. We're ready for it, but like it we're just normal humans. No, a hundred percent. Yeah. I was like, this is what people see when they meet me. Like 'cause you don't obviously s walk around with a mirror. Yeah. So everybody always says yeah, I had RBF, but I'm like Really? And then I'm looking at the recording. And I was like, I need lip filler. I have no Botox, but it looks like I had Botox. And Jen is like, I wanna get over it. Like Yeah, there's this is exactly this is it. And it just it is. It's just Yep, you get what you get. This is this is supposed it's unfiltered. That's the whole point. Filtered, yes. And I'm like, if people see that RBF and then I'm an observer, so when I meet people, I just I'm very quiet. And I don't has it made you be more cognizant? I mean, not that you're meeting a bunch of people randomly every day, but it makes you think about that. I mean, it definitely makes me think about it. I had prior boss who told me I didn't smile enough. And I it was it was such a silly comment, but it it did make me take pause a little bit. You walked around and smiled. No. No, I really didn't. It it makes you take pause, but honestly, this is me. And I'd rather be real. That's ultimately. People get to know me. Exactly. I just I have to observe can I be a bitch? A Hundred percent. Of course. Of course. But I don't want to be. No, we don't actively seek that out in our lives. Right. I'm just like when I meet people, I have to observe them so I know what to ask them. Like I'm trying to read them. And I read people very well. So that's what I'm doing. Same. And I'm like, I have to read you so I know what to ask you and like where do I go and how to approach you because I'm trying to read your personality. You're constantly observing. I find that about myself too. Constantly constantly observing things to just to try to make other people feel comfortable. And and maybe that's a problem too. I mean, I again with social media it's so hard. 'Cause you don't know is everybody thinking this? Is everybody trying to make somebody else comfortable? You know and And I don't think that we're necessarily trying to people please in that way. It's just not with the podcast. No, In person, I am very aware now of how I'm making someone feel. Sure. And I care about how I make someone feel. Of course. It doesn't mean that I'm not going to tell you what I think and I'm honest. A hundred percent. And that's what I've always loved about I do consider how I'm making you feel and sometimes that does stop me from Being a bitch. Yeah. Not really. But so as a real estate agent, I took a disc profile. And is that a specific test? I know there's so many out there. It's okay. It's literally called the disc profile. Okay. And I think it's like a hundred questions. They ask you about yourself. And I took this and I did it because you're trying to get a better understanding of who you are so you can best help your customers. And when I listened back to my disc profile, it made me cry. Because you've told me that, yeah. I'm like for someone f or s for even a test to understand you that well, like it told me things about myself that I knew was true, but I you were not almost You hadn't had it right. You hadn't had it put out in words before. Correct. Yeah. Like you know how you're in a situation and you're like, Why is this situation bothering me? And you're f you're the right word festering is fester was that was that the word that you were gonna say is that it yes i was gonna say that is it right yes god yes and so we'll letting it fester in that right okay so i fester in it and you're the dis profile when it tells you about yourself you're like my god that's what i am that's why when i go to parties that's why i am what i am it makes you see yourself in a different light my god it made me cry yeah i was like it's i have it saved on my phone I haven't listened to it. I might listen to it later. I wish my husband would listen to so he'd understand me. That would help. He won't listen to it. No. I think he's yes. Why are s why are they why are they so stubborn? I d I I know. I think this is a tr I think this is a trend. I don't think it's just us. It's so many out there. And listen, I know that there's probably some out there that are like perfect and amazing. Our ours are two. Ours are too Just in different areas. Yes. Man, they've got And I I attribute some of that to some astrology. Yeah. I mean Mike is a Leo. Okay. A true Leo. yes. See, that's why. That's a hundred percent why. They they just are stubborn by nature. So I think that has to do with it. Also they don't And so are we. No, we are, but not by fault level. They don't take time to understand a love language. Like When my girlfriends, I know your love language and my other girlfriend's love language, not saying names, and you pay attention to that and you give that to that person so they feel like they're special in your life. And my husband does do a good job at making me feel special, but if he truly understood my love language, his job would be a lot easier, is what I'm saying. Yes. Right? Yeah. Did I word that Yeah, I think that's that's accurate. Yeah. Yeah. so I did promise everybody that we would talk about your bladder. my gosh. Seriously? Well, first of all, I have I have a teacher bladder still. I know that's what we're gonna talk about. Okay. Because I've had teachers teachers do not get enough credit. This is something for real. This is like a PSA. Everybody needs to understand about teachers. They do not get enough credit for their their ability to hold their bladder. Especially after having children. Especially after having children. Real quick. Before we go into that. Yes. My mother in law is an substitute because she's retired teacher. Yes. And she has said now, and maybe I'm going this way too far. She has said now that the teachers have to open the door for each student to use the bathroom. Well, I don't know I don't know what that school is, how the setup is. So it's not across the board. Well, I don't know what the setup of that school is, so I don't I'm not familiar with how that would look. Well, I was just saying that. Teachers also need to get credit for that. Because when you have 18 and you have to and it's something to do with like all of the the violence that has happened in the school. I gotcha. Okay. Okay. So there was a so there were different I've been at several different schools and there were certain hallways where there was like a designated hallway bathroom. Well, it was just like a d a designated hallway bathroom, and it we had to operate a certain way in those hallways. and so sometimes there were sp keys that kids could use and then sometimes there were actual like aids or substitutes or something like that where they would go do that. So yes, I I get that. Yeah. But anyway, yes, I I have a teacher bladder and it's a problem. it's a problem sometimes. so I have had three children. Yes. And I can't hold at like I can for a little bit. But when I have to go, I have to go. Yeah. And same. Right. And no. Jen holds her urine for a very abnormal long time. I do. Abnormally long time. I do. Is the correct phrase. Yes. And she also, fun fact about Jen, hates using public restrooms. It's not that. I don't care about the public restroom. I ha I had to do it for years. No, but I'm gonna say something that you said to me and now I can't get it out of my head. Okay. So Jen doesn't like using public restrooms, which who does not say my husband likes using public restrooms. It's weird. I know it's weird, but it's weird That's a whole nother topic. We're not even gonna get into that one. So but Jen said that when she uses a public restroom, she has to shower that night. Now I always had shower before bed, but now I'm like, I did use a public and now I'm like I ha like it's one of those things you have to wash your face with absolutely shower because And listen, I'm just gonna say this. Okay, whether you hover or whether you sit, I don't really care. If you're in that public restroom and and it's happening, you have to shower. Not everywhere else. So You have to. But I'm saying I've seen you go like hours. Hours. Many, many hours. And I it's not because I'm dehydrating myself. Now No, she drinks a lot of water. I do. Other than today because she spilled all the water on the floor. I did. Because of my incident where I broke my pinky. okay, but I have not always been this way. That's also a fun fact that you probably did not know. I've not always been this way. growing up, when we would go on road trips, my dad would purposely dehydrate me, not in like a child services type way. But he would he would say, Okay, we're going on a long road trip. We got 16 hours in the car. your liquids have been cut off at 10 p.m. And you can have a little bit tomorrow, but like you are not having any more because I could not always do this. So it's definitely the school system that I have to thank for this. because you're bladder back then. No, I would I would always have to be the first one. I was always the first one. Family of four. Well, six actually, because family of four children. I always was the first one. I would be like, I literally I was always so nervous. I'm like, do I Can we can we stop? And it's not like they cared, but I just knew that that was like a slowdown on the road trip. Yes. You know. my dad also to get as much we we had a family suburban and it was like a nineteen ninety nine suburban. And a tank. It he would when we would pump gas, he would like be Shoving as much gas into it. Like he would kind of rock the whole vehicle to get as much gas into the vehicle as possible. So that we didn't have to stop. Like that's just that's just his personality. So he was gyrating like those. It was more of like a leaning up against it with his butt and like making it. Yeah. Back in the day that's probably how they did it. Yeah. my poor dad. Sorry, dad. Yeah. Yeah. Trying to make as much gas go into this giant suburban as possible. You just need to give Danny an idea. He's going to be in his truck. yeah. I think it's not good for it. I mean, back then, God only knows. It's what's not regirating the truck. I think putting as much gas. Well, okay, so they say that you're not supposed to do that. Like, what? Do you ever put too much gas? Too much gas. Okay. I'm moving past the rocky gas. Okay, so. My O C D I'm not really O C D. I'm just this we're gonna use this a little bit flippantly, okay? Don't take whatever we say literally. Yeah. Yes. That's just a giant disclaimer from now moving forward. Yes. but I don't know about you when you go to the gas station. Do you like to have your gas end on like an even dollar amount? When I did get gas 'cause that's right. Yes. Yes. Reason I have an electric car, not that I feel the need to defend myself, is because I wanted that specific car. Yeah. However, yes. Right? I think that that's a thing. I definitely think that's a thing. You want it to end on like twenty five dollars even. Not that that's a thing right now because that's a gallon. Yeah. But if it went over twenty five two, then you almost wanted to start all over again. But you can't almost but I just flick the machine I just flick off and go straight. Right, right, right. So you are less Yeah. I Jen. This is You're not allowed to move Jen. I can't move my toes. I just slightly shifted and the camera went a little wayside. I just want the third. fun fact about peeing in the car. Okay. in the car. Yeah. Okay. So I have a jar collection. my gosh, I cannot. It is I save all the jars. Every jar. But I I every jar. I've tried to get better. The thing is is that I use it for so many different things. Okay. Going on a trip, I put coconut oil on it because I use coconut oil to take my makeup off. I understand. I put so I use it for travel. I understand. What you are about to tell the world though is absolutely unacceptable. I keep a glass jar in my car. So when my son needs to use the bathroom, he pees in the jar and then I throw the jar away. I don't want to go into a public restroom. Okay. So he Back to it. We are back. We are back, baby. You freaked me out. this is a this is a me problem. I could pee in a jar. A hundred percent. Yeah, yeah. my gosh. By the way, we were in the public restroom in the airport. So I travel to Boston quite often because my family lives up there. And I go once a year for sure, but I try to go in twice a year. Anyways, so we're in the airport bathroom. And my child, the younger one, obviously, says to me, Mommy, why do you always have to wipe your penis? And I'm just like, why do they in the bathroom feel the need to talk about And it's always loud? it is, it is they use outdoor voices in there. yes. Because now everybody around thinks that you Yeah. Yes. And I did I do tell him Anatomical. Yeah. Yes. I do tell him that. However, it's just I don't know. Yeah. So we asked that and like because my penis needs to be dry. Yes. I don't know. I'm like, can we talk about this another time? Anatomically it doesn't work the same. This is why I keep the jars. No, but I do I cannot believe you did that. I cannot believe we're talking about the jar. Yes, yes. I do use the jars. I above my sink, I keep the cabinet full of jars. Anyone that goes to my house, and I love my jars. And again, bases, like if we have events full of For sure. All the other uses are completely acceptable. I just wholeheartedly disagree with that particular method. My ten year old loves I ha I too have some little jars. I have like five. It's repurposing. Yes. I'm not trying to s save the world. I understand. But the if anything that I can help because glass you can't recycle now where we are. yeah, you can't. Is it either you are or me too? Because I live in a different city. Yeah, I I I I'm not a hundred percent sure about you, but i they are no longer recycling glass where I am. That is they're actually not recycling at all. You have to take it to a center. I heard that. That's sad. It is. It is. But no, we have some jars and he'll like pack his lunches with his little blueberries in his and you know, stuff like a hundred percent down with that. Well, because when you have blueberries, you don't want to put in a ziploc bag. right. They would get squished. The jar is perfect. No no, I'm not I wasn't hating on the jars. You just have I would say probably fifty of them. I do. I do. Yeah. So I have five. Can we talk about where I get the jars from? Some wherever. Yeah. Everything. Well, you throw jam. Everything. Yeah. I mean, it's just jars always in the car. I will say that my husband has never used the jar. Okay. I needed to Again, more information than I needed to know about him. And probably more information that he's going to hear. And Yes. It is what it is. I can always take it out. I do I do sometimes wish on long road trips when I'm by myself I don't like stopping using the restroom. No, it's just I wish it were events. my gosh. That one you heard about that lady that did that. On like a long road trip. I think that's the same one. I think that's the same one, right? Yeah. Some true crime. No, but out of you have to the Out of that whole story, I remember her wearing a diaper Right, exactly. I think we were kids when that whole thing happened. Yes. We were shocked. Yes. I do kind of want to talk about our our social battery and our different methods of exiting social situations. No, seriously. First of all, I do want to talk about all of our friends are turning forty ish. Excuse me. Everybody's already forty. I'm turning forty. Yes. But I'm just saying within the last year we've had a lot of friends who have had big birthdays. You wanna know what's wild? Yeah. Is my friends in your area are already past forty, and the friends in my area I'm the oldest one. Yes. Yeah. It is kind of strange that it's like that. Yeah. And I'm just because I'm like, my God, I'm old. You're not. But I feel it. Yeah. I am convinced that I want to do some fun things turning forty. Yeah. You're in that f that stage. I do feel like there's certain stages to turning forty or you know, to big birthdays in general, I think. I think there are certain stages where that you go through and I remember about this time because we have birthdays around the same month. around this time last year, and saying the same thing. So I think that you're in that stage. And I didn't really freak out, but I didn't actually freak out until after I was forty. Well, I think I've already gone through You've gone through a lot. I've gone through the mental of it because all of my friend a lot of my friends have already turned forty. So I feel like Been there. Yes. And you have older kids, and I think there's something to s to be said for that too. Yeah. I just feel like I want to have fun with it. I don't post a lot about myself on social media. Like I don't post selfies or just pictures of myself, but I'm going to do that when I'm 40. Okay. Because I'm just I love that. I just I want to I know you've been talking about what you want to do. I just I want to do it. Like I feel like I've lived a strong half of life, and I feel like at 40-ish time we realize a lot about ourselves and relationships in our lives and and what matters. What matters is how strong we are as women. And I kinda wanna celebrate that. Yeah. I think it's important. And I we've gone back and forth about that, just in general. About like you kinda have to just embrace, you know, the the body that you've been given, the life you've been given or worked for. and I think that's all about how you go about life, how you Reap the w rewards. Like I'm trying not to be corny, but you know, yeah. I I have come to a happy place in my life. Like my body is not perfect, but I am just I but I'm happy with myself. Right. And I'm just accepting of like this is where I am. I'm proud of myself of how much I've grown and relationships, how to handle relationships like friends. Yes. and how to handle certain situations like even with children. And I'm just I'm I feel like 40 is going to be my best error. Yeah. Right. Yeah. you care a little bit less about things that really aren't important and you care more about things that matter and you know how to operate within those two. Yes. Yeah. Celebrating people's wins, seeing people on social media being happy for that. my gosh. I know. We have so many people in our lives that are like doing such great things. And and you know, I've I heard a quote one time, it was you you don't have to put out somebody else's light to make yours brighter. And I think that's huge. I'm in like a hot girl era where I'm like I can like live my life. I wanna have the best time of my life. Yeah. I'm gonna I will go on the girls' trips. Yes. I will have all the girls' trips. Yes. And but I'm also gonna I also want to spend the most time with my family and see everybody grow. Like I'm in but you're you know how to appreciate it now. I'm appreciating and I'm not apologizing for it. Right. I think when we were twenty, and this is just me speaking, But I having children during that time, you're in such a fog and you almost are just kind of trudging through motions and you don't really realize like, hey, this is this is the good part, you know, everything well, everything's the good part, but now looking back, you can say, Okay, well, that was awesome. You know, I think now we're able to be a lot more present in our lives. You can you can zoom out. Yes. Yes. Yes. Cause when you're in the trenches, you don't you know it's the good part, but I feel like you're saying you don't zoom out and really take it in. Right, because you have too much else. And now you realize that this is it. This is it. This is the good this is the good life. Yeah. Essentially. And Well, and also like it's our first time. I mean, you and I have talked about this, right? Like it's our first time doing this, you know? So So Right. And I con I do say that to my children and to my husband is that I'm also living life for the first time. Right. Like I feel like moms sometimes forget that the We have such high expectations on us. People hold high expectations of us. And it and not just our immediate family, I'm talking about exterior family as our as our parents do. Yeah. They they expect a lot out of us and they forget that I am the first time in this location or playing is as little as being at this beach and if I want to go do something for myself, because normally when you're on vacation, you do try to we are people pleasers as women and I feel like as wives and moms and I feel like we do make sure that everybody else is happy on vacation. Right. And when we want to take a second for ourselves, like this is our moment. Yeah. This is us doing it first. And That is another reason I won't apologize for ever going on girls' trip because sometimes like there are times that are maybe my husband doesn't want to do that. Right. My girlfriends want to do that. Right. Right. Well, and it's just different. I mean, those types of trips are just they're they're you know, they're for us. You're reconnecting with yourself on those trips. A hundred percent. Well, and also, I mean I that you know, girls trips or or vacations rather, there's a difference between a vacation and a trip. You know, I think with family a lot of times it's a it's a trip. It's take it's packing up all of your stuff and you've got your stuff to take to this other location and then you get to enjoy the location and that's wonderful. And, you know, but I think a true vacation is being able to relax and really again, sort of zoom out and see it all, enjoy it all. and I think that the girls' trips, whether it be, you know, more of a vacation relax or a trip, it's it's just you. Mindless. It's exactly. You you don't have to worry about your kids and what they're eating and what the husband needs and all of that. It's you can be a little bit more selfish. So I think it's good that you're taking those. Yeah. Yeah. And it's and it's just I I enjoy reconnecting with my friends. Mm-hmm. And having and just you feel like you I can be a hundred percent myself with my husband, he's my best friend. Yeah, of course. but being with my girlfriends is just Well I can be stupid. Yes. My husband hates when I'm stupid. Right. They they they tend to get a little annoyed. Yeah. He's like, stop laughing. Yeah. Not I laugh for a very long extensive period of time. Yeah. When I broke my pinky, she couldn't stop. I couldn't So that's when he's like, You n okay, you need to stop laughing. Yeah. Yeah. He loves when I laugh. I mean it's just that. and my girlfriends just walk away. Yeah. Yeah. No. No, but I mean it is. It's like you get into the cackles or you and I will just it at nothing. Yeah. Which is also unfortunate for other people sometimes. But no, our so let's go back to the social battery. Okay. Yes. If I have an event that day personally. No. Or just you. No, I'm saying in general. I feel like we're I'm speaking for both of us. Okay, okay, okay. I feel like we're in an event and you're peopling. By that night, I want to sit and stare at a wall and not people with anything. Yes. And do anything that's mindless. I will sit and do a puzzle with my son. I will watch a TV show. Yep. Read a book. Something. Yes. The social batteries with people ain't I have to shut down. You I have to shut down. Truly, yes. And when you are about to when you have to load your social battery to go out, that's a mental you I have to mentally get in that space. Yeah, I think some people go into so social situations and they come out of it and they're really energized. That is not us. I I envy people that thrive in social situations. I really do. Well here's the thing we do thrive. It just drains us afterwards. No, but I you know those people like Danny, my husband is one. He will walk into any social situation. He doesn't leave and and think, I'm I need to go chill now. Right. Right. Same. Same. Mine's the same. leaving someplace with him? Never. We're not leaving because it's so much fun to be there. He knows if he when I go home, I'm I'm done. I'm out. I'm peace. I'm so done. And also That do the great small talk. Like he can bounce and make small talk and he's excited to talk. Yes. And I want to talk to everybody, but it is it takes a some of my battery to do that small talk with everything. Yes. For him, it those people that can do it so naturally and love doing it and leave, like you said, that are so energetic energized after that. I'm I just I love those type of people. I'm just not I will never be them. We're we're not we're not never be them. No. I am also actively, by the time the night is done in my mind, I am actively looking for my way out. I am and I have learned it. I I know you were like this and I know when you're getting there, because you get a certain look in your eyes. I do. I get I don't know what the look is, but I do get it. I like looking you and I'm like you're not leaving. And you're like, but I am. But I am. That's the conversation. And I have gotten in trouble for my Irish exits over the years. So I'm nice now. I come up, I whisper to you, I said, I'm leaving. Just me. Just you. Because you're the only one that really like cares, cares. I can disappear out of everybody else and they're like, it's fine. Everybody's having a good time because I'm jealous that your social battery is done and you're leaving. Because we're the same and you want to go home too. You're done. I'm done. We're done. We are done. No, mine won't let me leave either. That's why I've learned Irish exit is the way. It is. There was something on like inst one of the reels that came up and it was something like if you do the Irish exit, you gain like X amount of hours back in your life. That's a no brainer. You wanna know what you that's all they needed to tell me. I did not believe everything on the internet. I know. I know. But I do want to believe that one. That's fine. You can live off of that. That's fine. I hate the internet for that thing. My mother in law like reads one article. She's like, do you I know. Listen, I know. I'm I'm not spiraling like that. But I do love that one for myself. You didn't even need to read any more. you know. But it does make sense. Yeah. I mean, if you were leaving someplace earlier than other people, you are saving time. Okay. I mean, I might waste it on something else entirely different. Like I don't know. Something dumb. Actually, it's mostly just pouring an extra glass of wine and going into my room and chilling out. I don't do that. No. I don't leave events. I don't go home and drink. Well, it depends. It depends on what time. I'm not doing that at like eleven o'clock. PM ever do that. Ever. Okay. Even if I drink, a day drink, and like we go home, I don't go home and crack a beer or open a bottle of wine. It really just depends on what it is. No, I'm not judging you. Yeah, yeah. I did 75 Heart a couple years ago. Yes. And one of the things was you I No alcohol. My things was I after 75 Heart, I said I'm not gonna drink alcohol in my house. Okay. So I so you've really maintained that? I do do it very really. Like my husband and I never make liquor drinks in our house. And can you tell I'm never at her house? Yeah. This is where No. No, we I don't do and I will occasionally open wine. I'm not saying I don't. I'll drink champagne, open wine if I have friends over, of course. Yeah. You're in the cul-de-sac. I got a cul-de-sac. Yeah, you're in the cul-de-sac. That's see, that's your caveat. I think that's you know yeah. But no, I just we d very rarely just sit at home and just drink. god. I don't do it. I'm saying I'm saying I very rarely do it. And if I'm at an event I don't ever go home and continue drinking. Okay. It's just weird. I had never thought about it really until just now. Yeah. But we we just don't. Yeah. And I don't judge people for doing it. I have friends that do it all the time. Yeah. No, and normally if it if it's like a we had a dinner out and it was we kind of called it an early night. I might have a glass of wine. I think it's more of like a I'll go home with my husband and we'll sit and just each have a little bit of wine and like debrief from the night. And I love that you guys do that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We that's really all it is. Yeah. And I love that you guys do that. there's oftentimes in the cul de sac we'll leave and I'll go to my neighbor's house and we'll have drinks. My husband makes amazing margaritas. Oof. Well you know I feel about tequila. Tequila. Tequila Tequila No I can't do it. Jin and vodka are the b about the only ones. So it's weird. I love tequila. I've always loved tequila. That's one alcohol that I've carried through my life that I've always loved. But my new favorite thing is gin. Yeah. Yeah. Well, there's so much you can do with it. It really is just like vodka. Yeah. Yeah. You can't just Gin is vodka. It's different. But with botanicals. I don't it's different. Okay. It is different. You're correct, because it's got the botanicals in it. Yes. I agree. Like so Hendrix, for example, will have I don't know what kind of gin you like, but Hendrix will have like there's a rose infused one, there's a juniper infused one, and so it's infused with some kind of flavor. Correct. And that's botanicals. Okay. Yes. So what plain gin is infused with what flavor? I mean, I'm sure it's derived well, either from potatoes or whatever, because again it's vodka. Yeah. but the gin itself, either potato or rye, I believe. There's also a wheat. Yeah, there's a wheat as well. Okay. Mm-hmm. And you like certain I do. I don't like a rye vodka. What is Chopin? Chopin is well I like I I yes, I like the potato. I do not like the rye. I just feel like you can taste it. Have you ever had a desire to go on to a distillery to like I've done one. I don't know if there are vodka distilleries that you can go visit. Are there? Are there? we can visit it. Okay. Where is it? Really? Attached to Islamorada Well, I know they've got rum down there. No, they have a vodka distillery room attached to the Islandrod room. Interesting. That sounds like a headache waiting to happen. I just said we need to go talk to the guy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. We'll have to ask all the questions. Don't bitch out on me now. Depends on what we're doing that day. That's our Sunday fun day. Okay. Okay. I have a fortieth birthday trip planned. Yes. And we will be in the sun. Even though you said you were ready to be not in a bathing suit anymore. no, we're gonna talk about that. okay. Okay. I have recently lost a little bit of weight. Mm-hmm. Like maybe six, eight pounds, whatever it is. However, my pant size went down. So my bathing suits that fit me no longer fit me on the bottoms. My top will always be the same because they're there. Yep. and I am very picky about my bathing suit bottoms. Very picky. They have high I think every woman on this planet is probably picky. Everybody all the bathing suits now like the high waisted and I like sure. I know. They don't listen, somebody needs to reach out and let us know. Like I actually I do have a couple of ones that I sent you that work well. Yes. For that. Yes. Yes. And I did like them. I tried them on last night. Yeah, they're really comfortable. No, they are. So what I don't like being in a bathing suit right now is my body is my body, but I haven't been able to take the time to find a new bathing suit bottom that I really like. And the brand that I was buying, they no longer make them the same. Yes. Frustrated. Yes. So I'm trying to find that bathing suit. And I'm I'm very leary about buying off random websites. Agreed. I bought winter coats recently off a random website and I couldn't return them. Terrible. Even though their website said it was a 30-day easy return. Right. So I'm a little leery and and I feel like Well, and we're in yeah. When you Google stuff, yeah. You just don't you can't trust everything you read now. Right. We're in that phase of like because people are getting paid so much for to write articles and to be an influencer influencers and all of that. Trust the sources. Right. So you're like Googling what's the best pair of jeans and you're like, I can't even trust this article because are they getting are they getting a kickback from exactly questioning that. Right. That's that's why I said I was like I've tried these on, they are so comfortable and they really are. Yeah. Truly. Yeah. And one of our friends does have a brand well two of our friends have brands that they are religious to. Yes. But but we look different. They're very b different body types. Yeah. So I just haven't found that. But the brand that you gave me, and I tried it, I loved it. I will say another thing off of this. Another thing that annoys me is I've recently found a pair of jeans that I love. And I got them in the mail, and I was like, my god, I love these. So I get on the website and I buy the other colors. Okay. no, did they fit different? Yes. fit different and you're like, what the f like I know. Okay, so here's what I've learned. I've learned that black and white tend to fit differently than a typical denim. Wash though. Yeah, that doesn't really make sense. So then they're using a different denim altogether is basically what I'm and it's so yes. Right. So then I'm like, I want to go back on and buy that same wash in three different Just have three different pairs. So that when they wear out Yeah or I did that one time. It didn't work out well for me. I had them for a very long time and I was like, Well, why do I like three of them? I do do that. I do have the old navy tanks. Well okay, but at the same time, they're gonna pill and they're gonna you know, show where if anybody wants a good tank. the high neck the high neck old sleeveless old navy tank is truly Yes you hold up for honesty. They do wash them a thousand times. They do. I do have Two white ones just because of having a rotation, you know, because I do wear them a lot. I would like casually, I wear them working out. You can dress them up, you can dress them down, you can wear them with a blazer. Yep. They're a good like everyone throw on a big chunky necklace and it's because it's got the high neck, it's yeah, it works. It is like when people were religious to the white T's. Do you remember that? You're like, everybody needs a white T and everybody needs an old navy high neck to be. I thought I had my white T and I don't think I like it anymore. I need to find a good one. So free people. has I like the crop tops and Free People has a good crop top. Okay. And I think Free People's Hard for me. I know well Lola Marie, the animal rocks them. Yeah. They're freaking sold out on their website. They're not the same. They're not the same. Well, you 'cause you want to be a hundred percent cotton. Well too. Or at least I do. Yes, no, correct. Also I am I could go on and on about fabrics. we'll go down that tangent some other time. Not with me. Cause we've already done it too much. No, because Jen the one thing about Jen and I is we we are truly complete opposites with a lot of things. Okay. Yeah. We are. Like politically everything. Like yeah, pretty much everything. Every end of the spectrum. Education, political everything. Yeah. And we just we accept each other That's because we can We can have conversations and be big girls about it. Big big girls. Yes. A big girl. Yeah. And when she says things that I'm like, I'm like, I'm gonna be a big girl, we're not gonna talk about this anymore. Or we talk about it for a second so that I can see your point of view. I'm totally down for that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We do. We're good with that. Yeah. so but Jen is obsessed with like fabrics and things. And I c the reason I don't want to talk about it. Yes. Is because I suck. Fabric thing. okay. When you tell you don't like certain fabrics, but why you don't like them, then I realize everything in my closet is that fabric. Okay, but that's whatever. You don't get there. Listen, there's something to be said for polyester. I'm not saying that there isn't a place for it. However, it it melts. It it doesn't hold up well over time. It's plastic. It's plastic. Not off your body. You said you didn't want to talk about it. I know, but no, now I want to talk about this. When are my clothes gonna melt? Okay. I would love it. I would love it if this shirt were silk. It is not. It's going in the trash when I'm done with it. It doesn't matter. No, tell me what material. what what material? It's polyester. Okay. The only reason I'm wearing it is because I had a fight with my closet before coming here as women do. And this is my go-to. Okay. I would I'm gonna replace it with something that's a natural material. It's gonna be probably silk. Am I gonna have to pay more? Yes, I will. The reason I'm throwing this out is because one, it wrinkles very easily. So when I have to iron it, you have to use it on a low setting. Well, guess what? Apparently I did not use this on the lowest setting at one point in my life. There are melt marks where it is tucked in. And that's that. Why don't you steam it? Good question. Moving on. Okay. wait. Okay. My steamer is plugged in and ready to go at all times. Good question. Moving on. It doesn't work as well. On this particular shirt, it doesn't work as well. Well, I can understand that. Yeah. I get that. So trash. So s when I get home. So silk does we're not talking about fabrics. Here we are. Here we are. Silk does not wrinkle. no, it does. But and you still have to baby it, but it breathes. Okay. Yep, you lost me at I have to baby it. I'm not babying anything. I get it. For most things I agree. I'm actually not. I'm terrible. It's like survival of the fittest on most of my clothing. Hundred percent. But if I'm gonna spend a hundred dollars on a silk shirt or more, I am going to treat it the way it needs to be treated. That's my point. This was a twenty dollar old navy tank. Or I mean top. So yeah. That I understand. If you're spending money on something You need to maybe it. Yes. Yes. That's all. See, we got through it without my yeah, we did. My new purses that I told you I bought are still in this bag. Why aren't you wearing them? I don't know. They're leather. I know. Where the purse? I know. Okay, you can't. You gotta wear the good things. That's the other thing. You gotta you gotta live the life, man. You've got to wear the good perfume, wear the stuff, wear the things that are in your closet. That was the other thing. I went shopping. I was nervous about today. I found absolutely nothing to wear on my body. I did come home with some jars. You did buy jars. I did buy a couple of jars. A cactus. what are you gonna use that for? I put my coffee beans in it because I ground my coffee every Okay. All right. I am a snob of coffee. I like my coffee beans grounded every day. Me too. It's so bad. No, it's great. Again, wear the things, do the things that make you happy, enjoy the coffee. Even if it has a little bit of creamer in it for crying out loud. Always has told me that coffee has roaches in them. So now I that's why I started grounding my own beans and now I like the taste of it, so now it's a thing. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I don't think that's true. She said peanut butter does too. Peanuts. I I think this might be something that was on the internet that we believed. I don't think that's true. Hey, and also if somebody wants to say that that is true, don't. Yeah. Don't. Cause I'm good. I grind my own beans, but listen, I don't need that in my head for the rest of eternity when I go out to get a cup of coffee. If I have to suffer. no no no. When I leave this room gone. No, I'll remind you. Well why? Just so mis Misery loves company? Yeah, loves Okay. So you bought jars. Yeah, I bought a jar or a couple jars yesterday instead of clothing for my body. And then I was like, you know what? Nope. We're gonna go into the closet and we're gonna wear the things that are in the closet. And this is I have to save up jars. What? If you would have saved your sauce jar you wouldn't have to buy a jar. Correct. Yeah. I mean But we won't tell your husband that you wasted money, it's fine. no, he saw it when I came in. He's like, boy, TJ Maxx again, huh? Like sure is, sure did. Yep. No, you know what? These are for the Ninja Creamy. yeah, we talked about that. Because I we got the one from Costco. It's the giant one. Of course it is. It's the XL. Because it's from Costco. but they didn't have another option. And so when I make the recipe for my like healthy ice cream or whatever, it's too much in the so I just needed an alternate jar for it to go in because it can't Whatever. It's a first world problem. so I I I weigh it out. Okay. But I do two cups of yogurt and two cups of strawberries. Greek yogurt? yeah. Just Greek. I do it does have vanilla and I know some people with vanilla flavoring, whatever, but it's just a vanilla yogurt and it's the twenty-five gram protein one. and two cups of strawberries. And You know, put in an inch creamy. And then when it comes out, I put like nineteen chocolate chips. So and nineteen is the number, just in case anybody wondered. The great thing that I love about if people want to buy plain grape yogurt is that you can flavor plain yogurt. Yes. So people think But this is for like my dessert. So you know I'm saying in general, people don't love like the vanillas. I'm like, you can buy plain grade yogurt. literally flavor it. yeah. I've added protein powder to that stuff before and it's great. Actually buy the plain Greek yogurt because I actually use it for sour cream. Sour cream, yes. And then I also I do mix vanilla with some honey or maple syrup in it. And then I put some fruit on it and it's it is a vanilla or flavored yogurt. Yeah. Essentially that's what it is. Yeah. Everybody's on the the cottage cheese kick. I'm not a cod cottage cheese girly. Yeah. but the Greek yogurt, a hundred percent. It's just easier to Yeah. I sneak it into things. I have a hard time with dairy. I try not to I know. I know. But that's that's a health thing for you. It is. Yeah. I didn't do dairy for a long time. Yeah. I feel better when I don't eat a lot of dairy and it sucks. I love I love cheese. Me too. That's always been a weakness. Yep. I love cheese. Dude, I can eat a whole block of cheese if you put cheese and tacos in front of my face. You're gonna feel it the next day. a hundred percent for five days. Yeah. But I am telling you, if you somebody put cheese and rich crackers, yes. I it's because the rich back in the day with the buttery, now we're learning everything is processed, so whatever. But you put crackers and cheese in front of me, the whole block is gone. I can't help I if I start eating a cheese board at a party, I need to like go lock myself in jail. Yes. Yes. I cannot stop, it's not even about I can't. I can't. I refuse to eat one because I'm convinced that the cheese does something it's got a little crack in it. No, it actually doesn't matter what you want. yeah, yeah. It's like Yeah, almost like a processed food situation. my god. Where they put something in it to make you want more. You can't eat one potato chip. There's a reason why you can't eat one potato. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, the cheese is, but I will it is my crypt. Tonight. Yeah. Like people love sweets. Like they love their chocolate or their ice cream. For me, if you put a block of cheese. Yeah. It has been so bad. Like and ever since I've quit with the dairy a lot, I poop every day now if anybody wants to know. It is nice. All that dairy just you're good now. Cheat tea. my God. So Jen and I are consuming Both have agreed that we feel like we're printing money right now. my god. It's just everything. Everything. And it's the time of year. It's the time of year. It's September, and it's like, okay, you can see the holidays on the horizon. Yeah. And your summer fall trips and you then you don't take into account that the kids' sports are starting. It's just Well and like even if you wanna play the girl math game where it's like, Okay, I paid for that trip, you know, way back when, you still are paying for stuff up front for the trip, you know. You're still having to Well oftentimes you know what I do is when they pay for a trip way back when it comes to it, I'm like, should I upgrade a little bit? Yeah. It's a little it's just a little bit more. Just just a few minutes. Thirty five bucks to be Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Definitely. Right. Right, right. Okay. So Jen and I recently just we were tired of also finding clothes for our age. Yes. There's so it's either junior or it's like w women with a capital W. And we don't have shopping in our area. No, it's pretty sparse. Yes. And then when you Somebody come to Central Florida, please. Help But but also like I'm so tired of buying stuff online and returning. Now, I don't know if I told you this, but you know that anthropology stolen. It's called like anthropology newly. Yes. It's a thrifted version. Yes, and I have bought things from there before. Yes. It's amazing. Anthropology The website, the thrifted website, is off of actual anthropology and it is off of free people websites. Yes. The only thing is that you are chancing when you're paying twenty-five dollars for this anthropology dress, you're chancing that it can come slightly used. Right. Or some of them it it's clearly states on the website that it can become it may become ripped or the zipper might be broken. Yeah. Chancellor I would say. Yeah. And you're getting a $250 dress for twenty five dollars. That's my birthday dress. yeah, that's right. Yes. I I everything that I've ordered off of there has bit came in really good. I actually got two winter jackets from there. Yeah. They were anthropology. Yep. And I got them for twenty five dollars each and they were like good jackets. A couple puffer jackets. Nice. Cute. One has like the Burberry print. cute. The other one in Black and it's hot pink inside. Cute. It's cute. Yeah. I do like that that quality thing. You know, when it's well lined and all of the See, I don't mind buying off those websites because you know the quality that you're getting. Mm-hmm. The only thing is with some of them is you have to You've got to look at the fabric. my God. my God. Listen, I recently got a tank from anthropology that I spent way too much money on. That then I had to, it has like applique flowers all over it. I had to sew each of the little flowers down so that they stayed down. And that's but I loved it so much. I loved the color and you know sometimes you just love things and you have to do it. But yeah. I wasn't thrilled about that. But I still wear it. I do love it. Dude, I was you know how psychotic I was about the birthday dress that I had. I love it so much. I still think you should wear it again for your birthday this year. I know, but I love it. And I think you should I went let me just tell the backstory with that. I went through I was at anthropology one day and I found this dress. And I bought it for my birthday that year. And I came home, tried it on, and I was with one of my girlfriends, and they were like, I like the black dress better. And this one was like had full colored print. It was gorgeous. Two years I regretted not returning that dress. Yes. Two years. And I did the Google image of finding the dress. Yep. And it popped up on the anthropology on Newly. Yeah. And I was like, What is this? And I got it for twenty five dollars. And you've it came in what perfectly brand new. Yeah. I love that dressing to throw it away. It is a little big now, but when you find the item that you love, you just have to keep you just have to keep it. And sometimes you do have to spend the money on items that you do really love. Like if I see something and I'm you know you get that locked in look. You're like and you get it when you're at home goods too, you're like, I love this. Yes. I will drop on it. Yes. Like I'm buying it. I don't care how much it is. Cause there are certain things. I just bought a banana table and I loved it. I saw it. And it's yeah. All right. It's a Well so you couldn't live without it? No. That's the thing. My husband always says he's like, Did you find anything you couldn't live without? You know? And sometimes the answer's yes. If I leave the store and I'm thinking about it You gotta go back and get it. There's one time I just I just did that. I was with my neighbor and we were shopping and I didn't get these footstool things. Mm-hmm. And I've regretted it every day since. So then you need to go get it? Do you no. They're gone. I went back two days later, they were gone. that's other home goods in the area because I had a picture of it. Did you go online? Couldn't find Not even something similar. That's the thing about home goods. Yeah, you really have to get it. Like something you've got to commit. You know, my mom and her f her best friend have a rule when they go into home goods. They don't get a cart right away. They just walk in and they walk and they look around. And then if they find something that they love, then they get a cart. Because if they walk in and they get a cart immediately, it means they're gonna fill the cart with a ton of stuff. But I can't do that because I immediately I'm already having anxiety talking to you about that. I can't Why? Because when I see it, I want it. Let's break this down. I because when I see it, I want it to cart. I understand it's gonna go away. Some I think it's like a luck thing too though. The person that's on speakerphone talking obnoxiously about hemorrhoids, it's gonna come and take that. And then I'm gonna have to chase her down. But they won't be able to because they're holding their phone like this and they they can't. So that's fixed. Got that going for me. I really can't do it. You know I've added to my list. Yeah. What's the list again? Petty hates. Yeah. We'll ha we'll get there. Maybe we'll do it for like a celebration. Yeah. I'll have my petty hate list celebration. But I really think that there's something to it. Yeah. also I have a list of cars that are not allowed in the left lane. my god. We're definitely gonna have to go through that list. We're definitely gonna go through it. Yeah. But I know I'm not I know I'm not the only one. Like I've I've polled my friends, I've polled people. That one, okay, I will say this. You are not crazy. For thinking the thoughts that you have about having a petty list and for have for having a list of cars that can't be in the left lane. However, you are a little bit crazy that you've made a notes list. Right, I understand that. That's fine. I'm I'm okay with that. You went into your notes app and said the VW are not allowed. It was cathartic. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Is not allowed. Yeah, the VW gosh. If you drive a VW bug, you have no business being in the left lane. None. or if you have canoes on your roof. Any type of trailer boat, if you look like you're getting ready to go do extracurricular activities with your vehicle, if it has a ladder, I mean, come on. There's there's there this is this is common sense. If it has a ladder. Yes. my gosh, you listen, you've seen the vehicles that that have like ladders. If you have a ladder in your truck bed or if you have one attached to your vehicle in any way, shape, or form, you have no business. That's final destination. You have no business being there. Everybody's seen final destination, or at least you know the premise. It's you know like the the truck that has the logs that are stacked, you have no business being in the left lane. Well, yes, they do. I mean, you also have no business being on the highway at all. I don't know how you're gonna get your lumber, honestly. Back roads. You have committed to studying for your driving. That's left lane. There's two lists. boy. They are separate. I'm not the only one that makes lists on their phones. You have the extensive list as well. Actually You have a list with me. D yes, we do have a list. You have a list of Erica stuff? We have a c we have a shared list is what I said. But I might have an Erica list also. You have a birthday coming. I'm trying to keep track of things. Can't share it with you. Jen's birthday we're gonna have to show the birthday cards to you. We'll have to bring those on. That we'll do that for your birthday. It's on my fridge. Okay. Well we'll bring in our cards for your birthday and we can share them. We make them ourselves. We make them ourselves. Yes. And we really think long and hard and it's really personalized to Yes. Yeah. I have nothing for you right now for your I'm gonna have to start thinking about those. Yours is first. So Yeah. I gotta I gotta get going on that. It takes some time. It does. Long thought process. Usually a rap either it brings up while our past once have been past Instagram reels. Yes. Or rap songs. Yes. Yep. What was yours that I s put pajamas in the bed? What was it? That was Bruno Mars. Bruno Mars. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah, because for my thirty ninth birthday I basically refused to have a party at all. And all I wanted was to have my friends over and like be in our comfies and have a glass of champagne, which we did. my city to Jen City. To do that. To bring her a box of champagne and pajamas and we did that. And yes. Yeah. I wrapped to her in a card. Yes. Yes. To Bruno Mars. It was like to the tune of Bruno Mars. Yeah. So And you had all the friends there that love you. Exactly. Yeah. It's really been an evolution. Yeah. This friendship. I truly believe like people need to understand with friendships that I have friends for different things in my life. there are some friends that you can do everything with. And I do have some of those. But there are also friends that I do certain things with that are good Certain activities. You've got your pickleball people. I have my pickleball people, I have my brewery people, I have my beach people, my shopping people, I have my travel people. I get to do all of those things in case anybody was wondering. like don't come in on my tra no, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. That we literally talked about at the very beginning. Yeah. our friend group evolved because we were down for whatever changes. Yes. Yes. We were literally down for whatever. Yeah. Our friend group is we are all very different. Extremely different. Yeah. Very different personalities. Yep. We don't all love the same things. We all do different activities. We all have different friend groups. But our friend group are the down for whatever girls. Yes. Yes. And we love that about each other. Right. And we're like that on vacation too. Right. Like quite honestly, when we we had our last friend's birthday And we got up, we got our coffee, we went on a walk, like we were doing all of the things that we wanted to do. And it was like, Hey, if you want to join, join. If you don't, don't you know? And it just I think that's Important. And we have a complete understanding that we're okay doing different things. exactly. You don't have to be there the whole time. It's fine. Like sometimes you have lunch with certain people. I mean, we'll talk about you. Yeah, I'll find you. I talk carefully, but like I will have lunch with some of the girls and you're not there, vice versa, and we're fine with that. But no, our friend group is down for whatever. And I'm not always saying that's a safe thing, but Right. Sometimes it can get a little bitch and she iris exits us. Yeah. And then which is four. Yeah. Three. And then y'all can talk about me. Then there's two. And then then we talk well a hundred percent I talk about Jen. And one of our friends just say she's little bitch, but Yeah. Yeah. Well yeah. Could being a little bitch, Jen. So wrapping this series, I say. Yes. Don't be a little bitch, Jen. Yeah. we're just doing the best that we can. Yes, with what we have. And if anybody has any suggestions, feel Throw them at us, but also we're trying not to spend a ton of money. Okay. We'll see you next week, guys. Yeah. Bye. Bye.