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God’s Design for Love: How Christian Women Should Be Treated in Relationships · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come,
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  Hey sis, today I want to go deeper into something every woman needs to hear.
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  How does God intend for you to be treated in a healthy, godly relationship?
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  Because let's be real, when we don't know God's standard, we end up settling for less than his best.
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  We have covered a little bit of this already, but I wanna cover some of it again
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  and then I wanna go deeper.
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  So here's five points and then we will cover red flags versus green flags.
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  One, God's design for love. In Ephesians 5.25 says, Husbands,
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  love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. That's the model.
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  Christ's love was sacrificial, gentle, and selfless.
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  If a man claims to love you, but it drains you, belittles you,
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  or causes fear, that's not Christ-like love.
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  Two, honor and value. First Peter 3.7 tells husbands to treat their wives with
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  respect as equal heirs in Christ.
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  That means a godly man values your voice, your calling, and your dreams.
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  He doesn't silence you. He celebrates you.
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  Three, protection, not harm.
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  In Colossians 3.19 says, do not be harsh with them.
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  Sis, God never designed you to endure harshness, whether that's words that cut,
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  manipulation that confuses, or actions that harm.
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  A good man provides covering, safety, and stability.
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  Four, partnership, not possession.
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  Genesis 2 shows us, women were created as a helper suitable for man,
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  equal and complimentary.
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  You're not created to be someone's possession or trophy.
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  You're designed to walk side-by-side in purpose.
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  5. Encouragement in your calling. Proverbs 31 celebrates a thriving, capable, godly woman.
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  A good man doesn't dim your light. He cheers you on, prays with you,
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  and supports the gifts God placed in you.
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  Now, I want to go through a list of red flags versus green flags, all right?
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  So the red flags, which is not God's design, are he belittles you,
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  mocks your dreams, or ignores your voice.
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  He creates fear, instability, or confusion instead of grace.
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  He uses control, manipulation, or harshness.
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  He pulls you away from God rather than closer. and he makes love conditional
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  based on performance or convenience.
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  All right, that's the red flags. Now let's go into the green flags, which is God's design.
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  He treats you with consistent respect and honor. He protects your heart,
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  your body, and your spirit.
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  He celebrates your calling and encourages your growth.
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  He loves with patience, kindness, and gentleness.
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  He prays with you, leads with humility, and reflects Christ's heart.
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  So sis, here is the truth. In a healthy, godly relationship,
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  you should feel safe, cherished, heard, honored, and uplifted,
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  not confused, and not diminished.
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  God's standard is not too high. It's holy.
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  And when you know what he intends, you can better discern who's walking in his will and who's not.
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  So, don't settle for someone who treats you less than God's daughter.
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  Date the man who reflects Christ's heart.
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  Date the man who honors your worth. In short, girl, date the good guy.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.