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Mental Wealth Expo: A Fireside Chat with Tyrese Gibson, Jason Wilson and Dr. Alfiee · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: How y'all doing.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna talk fast because you ain't here to
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  Speaker 2: see me. You here to see these two gentlemen I'm
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  Speaker 2: about to bring out. So let me just let me
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  Speaker 2: just say, it's an honor to have you here again
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  Speaker 2: on behalf of Charlemagne and God I Heeart Radio, the
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  Speaker 2: Mental Health Alliance, and my Nonproperty a Coma project, all
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  Speaker 2: our sponsors. We're so happy to have you. I'm just
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  Speaker 2: gonna tell you what's on my heart. I feel like
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  Speaker 2: this next thirty minutes is gonna be like some healing's
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  Speaker 2: gonna happen. And so let me bring out my first guest,
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  Speaker 2: this brother. You know him, you love him. He has
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  Speaker 2: three books. After this session because he cares about the
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  Speaker 2: people so much, he had to cut his book signing
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  Speaker 2: session short. So he's going to be back out there
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  Speaker 2: for a little bit of time to sign his book.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 2: The books that you all know are Battle Cry and
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  Speaker 2: the book we're going to talk a little bit about today,
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  Speaker 2: Cry Like a Man. There's another book coming out in January.
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  Speaker 2: The Man the Moment demands this brother. Every time I
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  Speaker 2: watch him, I cry. We met about I don't know
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  Speaker 2: ten years ago at an event for Sam said the
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  Speaker 2: Substance Abuse Mental Health Services Administration, and he was fascinating.
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  Speaker 2: Then he's captivating now, so please help me. Welcome mister
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  Speaker 2: Jason Wilson. All right, I can't say enough words about
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  Speaker 2: this other brother. I will say, I'm gen X. I'
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  Speaker 2: gonna date myself. I hope you don't get mad at me.
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  Speaker 2: I remember him from Cold Cold commercial. That's how I
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  Speaker 2: got introduced him. So where my gen X is at?
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  Speaker 1: Make some noise? That's right, yeah, gen X.
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  Speaker 2: All right, So this brother, what can I say? My
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  Speaker 2: family is a huge transform Oh there, ain't go but
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  Speaker 2: that's it.
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  Speaker 1: There, it is there, It is all right, thank you
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  Speaker 1: for me.
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  Speaker 2: Appreciate you. So he was like, I ain't doing all.
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  Speaker 2: Let I'm just gonna come out. I'm not mad, all right,
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  Speaker 2: let me start this conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't want to hear my wikip pitia page.
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  Speaker 1: It's all good, so let me just start. Hell.
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  Speaker 2: So, I'm just gonna start by asking each of you, gentlemen,
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  Speaker 2: what was it, if there's any one thing that encouraged
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  Speaker 2: you to start having a conversation about black men and
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  Speaker 2: their mental health.
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  Speaker 3: For me, it was I think when I was about
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  Speaker 3: to lose my marriage. My wife and I remember vividly,
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  Speaker 3: were in a heated argument in the kitchen and she
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  Speaker 3: simply I said, I wish I could spend more time
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  Speaker 3: with our son Jason, and she had said that she
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  Speaker 3: wished I had that same desire to spend time with her,
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  Speaker 3: and she didn't say it in a way that was combative,
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  Speaker 3: but I took it as something else I wasn't doing right,
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  Speaker 3: And in that moment, before I knew it, I hit
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  Speaker 3: the refrigerator and started yelling at the top of my
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  Speaker 3: lungs at the woman that I'm supposed to protect and love,
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  Speaker 3: and right before my eyes I saw her spirit like
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  Speaker 3: just doing do down. And at that moment the most
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  Speaker 3: I said, you need some work. You haven't released all
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  Speaker 3: that you've been through and as a result, it's affecting
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  Speaker 3: where you are. And so at that moment, because we
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  Speaker 3: were about to get separated, and I chose to say,
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  Speaker 3: you know what, I'm going to deal with what's been
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  Speaker 3: going on inside of me so that I can heal.
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  Speaker 3: And so that was the pivotal point where I started
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  Speaker 3: my journey to comprehensive manhood.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. How about you, sir? How about you.
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  Speaker 4: I'm still trying to recover from what my brother just
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  Speaker 4: saying right here. Thank you for having me. Of course,
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  Speaker 4: I like to start things off. I'm old school. I
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  Speaker 4: like to be formed. Thank you for having me on
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  Speaker 4: your stage and your platform. Thank you to Charlemagne man. Yes, brother,
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  Speaker 4: Charlemagne the God for doing this. Thank you, you should
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  Speaker 4: do this like for real in real life, because you, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Some of the ship you're doing your show.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my God compromises the mental health. And then he'd like, well, hey,
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  Speaker 4: I'm a compromise your mental health. Didn't put a band
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  Speaker 4: aid on it and do a conference.
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  Speaker 1: We'll talk about that later.
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  Speaker 4: I came in and had some fun because I got
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  Speaker 4: enough crying videos on the internet. So every time I
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  Speaker 4: see Charlemagne, I'm crying. I'm like this, mother, I'm so
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  Speaker 4: happy you ain't on this stage right now. So to
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  Speaker 4: be honest with you, my first and here's the thing,
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  Speaker 4: I think I'm really.
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  Speaker 1: Proud of us. I want to be specific.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure there's a couple of white people out here,
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  Speaker 4: but I want to be very specific and say that
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  Speaker 4: I'm very proud of us as black culture for normalizing
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  Speaker 4: the dialogue in and around I'm not okay, right, because
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  Speaker 4: we have been for years walking, living, breathing, time bombs
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  Speaker 4: and the other thing that's very confusing about us. See,
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  Speaker 4: can I talk to y'all because we've grown up? He
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  Speaker 4: can I be okay?
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  Speaker 1: All right?
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  Speaker 4: Because you know you know I'm crazy and I'm gonna
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  Speaker 4: say exactly what I feel. See, when we in the hood,
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  Speaker 4: we see a crackhead, right, and we know it's a crackhead, right,
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  Speaker 4: if y'all know what I'm talking about, I don't want
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  Speaker 4: like boogie niggas. So if y'all know what I'm talking about,
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  Speaker 4: all right, When you see somebody that's strong out on something,
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  Speaker 4: we know and re recognize them as being strung out
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  Speaker 4: on something, right, alcoholic drug head, Or when we see
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  Speaker 4: somebody that's a prostitute, we's like, oh, that's a prostitute.
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  Speaker 4: The problem with most of us is that we work
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  Speaker 4: so hard at creating these false perceptions that we're actually
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  Speaker 4: okay when we're not. And then social media has made
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  Speaker 4: it worse because you can actually cut and pace your relationship,
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  Speaker 4: you can put a filter on it. Your nose ain't
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  Speaker 4: that small, okay. So we have set ourselves up to
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  Speaker 4: mask and we are being assisted in masking.
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  Speaker 1: The way we actually feel.
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  Speaker 4: I often say, you would not be relationship goals if
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  Speaker 4: you upload how often you and your girl is actually arguing,
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  Speaker 4: but you're able to cut and paste out the fact
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  Speaker 4: that y'all been sleeping in two different rooms for the
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  Speaker 4: last three weeks. Y'all love each other, but you don't
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  Speaker 4: like each other. You irritate the shit out of me
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  Speaker 4: every time you talk, cringing, and so that's the reality
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  Speaker 4: of where we are. So what happens is we create
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  Speaker 4: the lie, and we live the lie, and then we
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  Speaker 4: also enjoy the fact that everybody believe it to be true,
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  Speaker 4: but it's a lie the whole time. So for me,
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  Speaker 4: without me knowing anything about mental health awareness, I go
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  Speaker 4: back to my first book. It's called how To Get
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  Speaker 4: Out of Your Own Way, and it's a hit in
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  Speaker 4: all of the prisons. Whatever I shit got rave reviews
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  Speaker 4: on Amazon too, But how.
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  Speaker 1: To Get out of your Own Way.
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  Speaker 4: At first it was supposed to be called get Out
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  Speaker 4: of your Own Way, and then I realized that how
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  Speaker 4: To is an invite because if you're in your own
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  Speaker 4: way and you don't know.
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  Speaker 1: That you're on your own way, then you'll see it.
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  Speaker 4: Go get out of your own way, and that's a
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  Speaker 4: comment and be like, Okay, well I'm not in my
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  Speaker 4: own way, so I'm not gonna read it. How too,
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  Speaker 4: is an invite for you to be a part of
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  Speaker 4: the dialogue and the conversation. And it's raw, it's uncomfortable,
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  Speaker 4: it's unfiltered.
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  Speaker 1: I go into everything.
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  Speaker 4: Childhood traumas, alcoholism, you know, mental emotional, psychological, spirit abuse,
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  Speaker 4: physical abuse, everything that I've seen and was exposed to
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  Speaker 4: in South central LA. I went all the way. And
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  Speaker 4: that's been me this entire time. I forgot what year
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  Speaker 4: came out. It's at least thirteen years ago. But before
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  Speaker 4: we normalize the dialogue around mental health, I was already
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  Speaker 4: on that journey to be transparent because.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, it's cool to get screamed for. It's cool
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  Speaker 1: to be looked at.
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  Speaker 4: Its handsome and sexy and songs and movie star and muscles.
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  Speaker 4: That's all great, But I really want you all to
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  Speaker 4: know that I'm a real guy and that I really
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  Speaker 4: feel things and I carry things, and I want you
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  Speaker 4: to look up to me for those reasons outside of
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  Speaker 4: the reasons of me having talent and all of the
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  Speaker 4: other things that I just mentioned. So that's where my
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  Speaker 4: mental health journey started from, how to get out of
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  Speaker 4: your own way.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you for that.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, please please, So Jason, could you t
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  Speaker 2: talk a little bit about I heard a bunch of
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  Speaker 2: things in what both you and Tyree said, and one
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  Speaker 2: thing that sticks out to me as a black person
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  Speaker 2: is that I feel like there's so much pressure. There
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  Speaker 2: are different kinds of pressure, I think for men and women.
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  Speaker 2: There are different pressures for people. Any marginalized identity you
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  Speaker 2: add on top of being black, it's more stress for you, right,
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  Speaker 2: And so I wonder if you could talk a little
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  Speaker 2: bit about your book Cry Like a Man, and if
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  Speaker 2: there's anything in there that both you and Tyrese could
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  Speaker 2: speak to related to what are those pressures that are
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  Speaker 2: on men, Tyreese, you spoke to some of them that
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  Speaker 2: prevent them from being able to express and be in
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  Speaker 2: touch with those emotions that they carry with them all
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  Speaker 2: the time.
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  Speaker 3: That's a great question. I've been working with boys specifically
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  Speaker 3: since say two thousand and five through the cave of
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  Speaker 3: a Dubum Transformational Training Academy, and it's the programming starts
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  Speaker 3: young with boys. We tell them big boys don't cry,
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  Speaker 3: and then when they get older, no pain, no gain.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a universal principle.
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  Speaker 3: If my brother Tyrese and I ever owned an NFL
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  Speaker 3: team and our star quarterback injured his achilles, we wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: tell him no pain, no gain and go back out there.
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  Speaker 3: But for me, and we've adopted these misleading mantras as
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  Speaker 3: universal truths. Do everything in moderation is another one. We
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  Speaker 3: say when it takes less than an ounce of cyanide
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  Speaker 3: to kill you. And so we've been conditioned to believe
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  Speaker 3: that where our worth is in what we do and
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  Speaker 3: not who we are. And so you wonder why your
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  Speaker 3: teenage son is apathetic and just disengage.
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  Speaker 1: You've taught him his entire life.
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  Speaker 3: Not to express his emotions, and now you have no
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  Speaker 3: idea that he's one day away from committing suicide, and
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  Speaker 3: so cry like a man. My journey started with my
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  Speaker 3: grandfather's lynching in nineteen thirty six, and I saw directly
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  Speaker 3: the effect, the negative effect.
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  Speaker 1: That has on the brain when you can't release it.
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  Speaker 3: My mother and her siblings it was think as five siblings,
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  Speaker 3: All of them except two developed dementia. They could never
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  Speaker 3: let go of the trauma. And then if I fast
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  Speaker 3: forward passed there. My mother's first marriage was very abusive.
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  Speaker 3: Her husband used to slap my brothers with the flat
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  Speaker 3: size of butcher knives, and then in nineteen seventy three
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  Speaker 3: she married my father in sixty eight. In nineteen seventy three,
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  Speaker 3: my first brother got murdered, so my mother had to
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  Speaker 3: deal with that, and then in nineteen ninety three, my
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  Speaker 3: second brother gets murdered. So I saw my mother trying
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  Speaker 3: to stay strong, as we're conditioned to believe we can
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  Speaker 3: be as black people, that we have to be perpetually
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  Speaker 3: strong and don't talk to no one, you can deal
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  Speaker 3: with it yourself. As a result of that mentality, my
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  Speaker 3: mother broke down mentally and had to be admitted to
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  Speaker 3: a psych ward.
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  Speaker 1: I share all that.
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  Speaker 3: To say is that growing up as young black boys
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  Speaker 3: in our community, the gold standard when I came up
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  Speaker 3: and what I call a glory, the golden area of
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  Speaker 3: hip hop, the gold standard was a hypermasculine black male.
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  Speaker 3: You couldn't hold your girl's hand, not in my city
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  Speaker 3: without the threat to getting beat down. So to survive
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  Speaker 3: in that community or that environment, we had to become hard.
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  Speaker 3: We had to become callous and as a result of that,
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  Speaker 3: we die. I believe today, because we're an emotionally incarcerated
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  Speaker 3: group of men, we are higher risk of suicide, We
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  Speaker 3: commit the most homicides, and yet we still wear it
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  Speaker 3: as a badge of honor to suffer in silence. And
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  Speaker 3: so the subtitle to Cry like a Man is fighting
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  Speaker 3: for freedom from emotional incarceration and emotional incarceration. It appears
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  Speaker 3: to be a safe place, but it's a self imposed imprisonment,
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  Speaker 3: mental imprisonment where a man isolates his heart from the world,
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  Speaker 3: and we've been conditioned that way from childhood even now
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  Speaker 3: as men. Even Drake says in one of his songs,
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  Speaker 3: I pop bottles because I bottle my emotions, and we'll
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  Speaker 3: be in the club like this, but we don't realize
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  Speaker 3: what that man just said. And as a result of
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  Speaker 3: repressing our emotions, we increase our chances of developing cancer
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  Speaker 3: by seventy percent, and then high risk behave as far
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  Speaker 3: as dying from premature dying of a premature death by
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  Speaker 3: thirty percent. And as a result of our boys being
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  Speaker 3: emotion incarcerated, I work with them. They can't express their fears.
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  Speaker 3: They're taught to be fearless when no, man, I know
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  Speaker 3: in here is fearless. If you don't have fear, you
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  Speaker 3: can't be courage courageous, and if you have children, that's
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  Speaker 3: like your heart walking outside your body. And I don't
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  Speaker 3: know one good father here who doesn't fear anything happening
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  Speaker 3: to their children.
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  Speaker 1: So as a result, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Lastly, as a result, I teach young boys it's okay
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  Speaker 3: to feel fear, but never succumb to it. So when
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  Speaker 3: you give a boy, and especially a man like me
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  Speaker 3: and Brother Tyree's age, who have broken boys still inside
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  Speaker 3: of us to need more healing, when you allow us
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  Speaker 3: to freedom to feel, we stop hiding behind this facade,
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  Speaker 3: as Brother Tyree said, and we can break down all
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  Speaker 3: of those barriers and actually stop intergenerational trauma and start
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  Speaker 3: intergenerational healing.
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  Speaker 1: Ay man, oh my god, thank you for that.
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  Speaker 2: Do you want to add anything to it?
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  Speaker 1: I hear you can. I say something.
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  Speaker 3: First and foremost, you know, I got love for you
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  Speaker 3: man and you This brother reached out to me when
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  Speaker 3: cry like a man came out and he, without me asking,
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  Speaker 3: promoted it on the social media. Twenty eighteen, something happened
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  Speaker 3: to my.
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  Speaker 1: Brother recognize talent This man got talent.
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  Speaker 3: So something happened to me, my brother, where he courageously
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  Speaker 3: had a moment in front of the world, where he
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  Speaker 3: cried and shared his pain. And what's it's extremely hypocritical
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  Speaker 3: that in one voice we complain about a narrative that
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  Speaker 3: isn't even accurate that black men aren't there for their children,
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  Speaker 3: because the CDC reported that black fathers are more active
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  Speaker 3: than any other ethnicity with their children. But the fact
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  Speaker 3: that there's a man, a black man, on social media
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  Speaker 3: of his stature, having a breakdown crying, not over a
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  Speaker 3: Super Bowl trophy, not over an NBA championship, not over
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  Speaker 3: none of that, but the fact that he can't spend
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  Speaker 3: time with his daughter, and the society at large mocks him.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm real big on like talking. That's that's
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  Speaker 1: faith and action works.
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  Speaker 3: So I would like to ask everyone in here, because
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure all of us have been guilty of even
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  Speaker 3: not even condemning those who may have even laughed at
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  Speaker 3: that moment of transparency that my brother had. And so
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  Speaker 3: I'm real big on resolving trauma because, like he said,
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  Speaker 3: he is human.
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  Speaker 1: I've talked to him.
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  Speaker 3: I won't share some of the things he's told me
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  Speaker 3: but we have to understand that hurts us. I was
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  Speaker 3: talking to men all out here today angry because they
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  Speaker 3: can't be with their kids and everything else going on.
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  Speaker 1: I said, brother, you're not angry, You're hurt.
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  Speaker 3: You're sad, you're depressed, you're frustrated, you're disheartened.
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  Speaker 1: Anger is a surface emotion. We express that easily.
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  Speaker 3: But when I teach boys to dig deep and men
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  Speaker 3: to dig deep and express what I call the hypersentary
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  Speaker 3: emotions before the emotional earthquake happens.
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  Speaker 1: So if everyone with me, I want to say it together.
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  Speaker 3: Brother, I'm sorry for not even standing up for you
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  Speaker 3: in that moment as a black man, seeing you vulnerable. Honestly,
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  Speaker 3: I should have dog checked anybody I saw who tried
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  Speaker 3: to talk about you or humiliate you, because I've been
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  Speaker 3: doing youth work since two thousand and three.
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  Speaker 1: And to see a father cry with.
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  Speaker 3: Your stature, your popularity and just want to release it,
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  Speaker 3: and your grief was to be with your daughter because
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  Speaker 3: you couldn't be, I just want to publicly commend you for.
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  Speaker 1: That and really give it up a tybree straight up.
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  Speaker 4: You do this other just.
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  Speaker 1: Take it in, take it in. It's for youth.
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  Speaker 4: So Charlemagne Johnna set me up to cry again. This
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  Speaker 4: is crazy, This is crazy. I should have stayed at home. Man,
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  Speaker 4: I got enough crying videos out here.
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  Speaker 1: Charloa Mane. But real talk, brother, you know I receive it.
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  Speaker 4: And because this clock, this clock is stressing me out
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  Speaker 4: right here. Whoever's running this clock, I think y'all got
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  Speaker 4: this wrong. There's no way y'all can have us two
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  Speaker 4: of us three up here, talkative communicators, and this clock
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  Speaker 4: says eleven minutes and twenty.
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  Speaker 1: So this is wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Somebody's got to go ahead and rewind this thing. Man,
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  Speaker 4: come on up here, man to fix this clock. Man,
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  Speaker 4: this is this is not right. Yeah, I'm serious, man,
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  Speaker 4: I got some stuff to say.
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  Speaker 1: My god, my god, my god. So yeah, yeah, I'm ballheaded. Ballheaded.
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  Speaker 1: That happened. This brother has been having my beard now
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  Speaker 1: for like twelve years. It's crazy. I'm waiting on them
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  Speaker 1: to send it back.
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  Speaker 4: So I want you to know that I receive the
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: love that you just gave my brother, from father to father.
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: That means the world to me that you would pour
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: into me and validate me. You've done this for me privately,
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: outside of doing it on the stage in front of
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: the audience, and I want you to know how much
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: it means to me, because.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: How do you inspire the uninspired? How do you motivate
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: the unmotivated?
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: You have to use your voice, your stage, and your
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: platform to recognize that what they're doing is not motivated
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: by money. It is a selfless act to give of
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: your time, your energy and be fully present, especially with
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: a bunch of boys that aren't your own, but you
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: make them your own by saying, whether you have a
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: father or not, a big brother or not, I'm going
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: to be all of these things and try my best
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: to be used to keep you motivated and encouraged, because
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: we all get robbed of reaching our full potential when
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: we don't have anybody standing in front of us to
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: say keep going. Now, I want to speak to I
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: want to pivot really quick because I could use these
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: thirteen that the clock ain't stop chat I'm concerned. I
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: want to use these thirteen minutes to try my best
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: to encourage somebody. And I want you all to really
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: receive what I'm about to say, because I came here
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: with a message. If I had to ask y'all anybody
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: in here, I don't want nobody to google it, look
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: it up. By just one person in here, just do
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: me a favor by a show of hands, Can you
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: tell me what was doctor Martin Luther King Junior's net
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: worth when he was assassinated on the balcony, one person
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: in here, if you can raise your hand, don't play
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: with me, little man. This is not Instagram. We're not
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: here to win the propularity contest.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: Can anybody raise their hand and say to me, this
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: is what doctor Martin Luther King's net worth was when
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: he was assassinated in Memphis, Tennessee.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: Can anybody tell me the size of his rims on
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: his car? Can anybody tell me what type of credit
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: card he had in his wallet?
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Anything? How about the square footage of his house? Okay?
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: The point I'm making is none of that shit matters. Okay.
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: So the calculated distraction that I want to speak to
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: is we are all out here focused on the wrong shit.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: Y'all spent more time getting dressed this morning than reading
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: the Bible, reading a book, or trying to come up
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: with a plan that can help change the community that
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: you complaining about every single day. The laws are the
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: laws because they know how to get together and change
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: everything about what they have a problem with. They will
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: buy up all this gentrification that is not a random concept,
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: that's actually happening. And the gentrification is happening where we
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: as black and brown culture lay our heads, but they
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: come up with a plan and they figure out how
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: to push us out, and we're just bitching and moaning
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: and complaining the whole time while it's happening right in
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: front of us.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: So I really want you all to.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: Understand that it does not take a thousand people to
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: change anything. It just takes one person to actually make
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: a commitment to change their neighborhood or their community, and
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: then things changed. The reason I'm pointing out doctor King.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: I know he was a civil rights leader at everything
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: that we know about him, but in my mind, doctor
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: King was the unexpected hero. This was a man that
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: went to Montgomery, Alabama because he was a pastor at
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: Ebenezer in Atlanta. But his father, doctor Martin Luther King,
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: sorry Martin Luther King's senior, was the senior pastor at
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: Ebenezer in Atlanta.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Doctor King wanted his own church.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: The first time he became a senior pastor was in Montgomery, Alabama.
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: Then there was a black woman that says to the
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: white man, my feet is hurt and I'm not going
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: to the back of the bus. So he got thrusted
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: into an unexpected civil rights journey. Did the boys bus boycott,
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: and then everything happened. Some of y'all do well on Instagram,
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: speaking up and speaking out about things that matter, but
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: you're not doing anything in real life. You all in
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: the comments, you writing your captions, you vocal and outspoken,
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: you in your Malcolm X bag on Instagram, but you
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: ain't doing shit other than posting. So the reason that
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: I am as vocal and outspoken about the family law
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: court system because I'm going to Congress. See, I am
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: currently assembling not just fathers, mothers as well, because a
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: lot of women in this audience. You make way more
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: money than your man, and he at the house playing
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: video games and delivering hot penis, and as soon as
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: y'all break up, he gonna try and come get half
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: of your shit.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: Just the way I'm dealing with it.
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: So y'all gotta understand that the reality of what happens
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: in that courtroom when you show up and you're dealing
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: with a divorce, alimony, child support payments and all the above.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: I'm not just on Instagram going at my exes. I'm
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: going at the family law court system. I've tried to
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: get the judge thrown off the bench twice. So these
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: are not tears in vain. I'm in motion. What do
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: you have a problem with? What do you have a
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: problem with? I'm asking what do you have a problem with?
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: If you don't have a problem, shut up. But if
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: you actually have a problem with four million black men
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: being in jail and every time you are an alpha
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: male you get pinged with mask of toxic masculinity because
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: they're trying to normalize gay Do you have a problem
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: they're telling women what to do with their bodies? Do
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: you have a problem. I'm not here to tell you
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: to vote Republican or Democrat. That ain't my job. I'm
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: going for Kamala, Kamala. I did that on purpose, don't don't.
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: I did that on purpose. Anyway, y'all know what I'm
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: talking about. I did that on purpose. Shut up, Kamala.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: That's right, that's right, that's right, Get it right, get
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: it right. Uh So, I'm just saying, like we have
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: a problem, But how much of a problem do you
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: have see this brother right here had a problem with
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: what's happening with black boys, and he went above and beyond,
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: and he does it every single day, whether the cameras
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: is rolling or not.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: What do you have a problem with?
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: Nothing changes because you at home complaining and sitting on
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: your hands.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: It only changes when you get in motion.
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: Come on, y'all, doctor Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, Medgar
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: Evers like, we can keep going.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: The movement only happens with movement. What are we doing?
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: It does not take a thousand people.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: If only one person in this room decides, you know what, man,
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: I do have a problem with?
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: It changes everything. Voter suppression.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: What are you gonna do about the fact that they
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: manipulating all these machines and people are out here working
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: hard to create new crips, new bloods, new gangsters, new murderers.
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: Niggas know how to load guns faster than nigga ever,
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: learn math and TAC takeaway subtraction. Do you have a
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: problem or are you just gonna be like man? They
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: over there while in and then everything stays the same.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: So I'm just letting y'all know. And I don't need
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: nobody to encourage me to do this. I live this
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: family law court system shit every day. I'm at fifteen
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: million dollars fighting to see my daughters. Fifteen that's legal fees.
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: That's movies, albums, and projects and concerts that have my
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: name on it that went away because I woke up
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: to the news that I was arrested.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Or whatever I'm being accused of.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: You think Disney wants to hire me after I get
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: accused of some shit that I didn't do. That's money
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: that had my name on it that went away. And
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: then I gotta go hire lawyers to protect me, and
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: then they trying to hit me over the head for
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: legal fees to protect her while she's accusing me of
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: some shit. And I'm not going at women. I'm going
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: at lyon women. That's so we clear. For every baby
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: mom in the audience who would never take that man
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: to court, raise your hand. See it's that. Let me
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: say some me. Oh God, let me sit down. It
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: was only like twelve hands up in there. God damn
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: they trying to get the bag.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: In New York. Huh.
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: I said, raise your hand, raise your hand part to
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: put my doctor king would raise your hand if you
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: never take your man to court it with seven of
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: y'all live in.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: There, thank pretty much, premuch. So we're gonna close out.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Yet the clock is wrong, but we beg They didn't
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: fix this clock yet, but I.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: Will before I give you, two gentlemen, the last word.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: The whole point was really for you all to talk
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: and need to just facilitate. One thing I'll say, and
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: then I ask you to give us your closing thoughts,
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: anything you want to leave the audience with. And the
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: one thing I will say is what's really or you said,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: stand up when you believe in something. One thing that's
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: really important to me is as black people, we all
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: have to rise together.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: And let me say what I mean.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: That means those of us who are black from any
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: part of the diaspora. We had a sister of here
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: today say she was Caribbean. That includes them. We have
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: African immigrant brothers and sisters, that includes them. We have
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: those of us who identify as African American from the.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Legacy of enslavement.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: That includes us. And as my brother said, it includes
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: all of us as women along with our brothers, black men,
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: our kings and princes, and it includes folks with other
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: marginalized identities, Black queer folks as well, black people with
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: disabilities as well.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: It's all of us.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: So if we don't all rise, what's the point. So
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: with that, what I just want to leave us with?
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: You know, I don't want to be a talking Everybody
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: who knows me knows I love to talk with these
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: two here. That's not my role today. My role is
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: just facilitation. So I will ask you to, gentlemen, in
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: these closing the clock is wrong two minutes and forty
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: five seconds? What would you like today? What would you
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: like to leave the audience with any parting words? And
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: I didn't get to ask my question, but I'm just
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: gonna put it in something I want you all to
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: take with you. Do we as black people, men, women
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: and other do we know how to receive love? I
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: just want you to hold on to that. We didn't
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: get to that today. But you're closing words, gentlemen.
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: Since that's really a negative at the clock, your I
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: guess question about do we really love ourselves? If I'm
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: just recalling every conversation I had today with all the
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: men who came up to me, and I would have
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: to say that's the common theme.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: We're so quick to.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: Basically surrender the blessings that we have over one moment,
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: and it's all centered around because we don't see the
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: real value in.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: Who we are.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: For me to break free from emotional incarceration and have
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: the marriage that I have, the life that I have,
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: I don't work for any of this. I work from
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: my home. Everything that I have. My affirmation comes from
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: my wife, my daughter, and my son. But none of
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: that and of course the most high, but none of
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: that could have happened if I didn't start loving myself.
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: My brothers, I'm gonna be transparent with you. The reason
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: it's hard for you to say vulnerable or vulnerability is
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: because the word itself doesn't really convey what we're asking
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: of what we need to do. If I had an
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: AK forty seven and I was shooting a gun in here,
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: the news would say he shot his gun at vulnerable citizens,
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: people who are endangered of getting hurt or wounded or killed.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: We're trying to tell you to have emotional openness, to
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: be transparent with your emotions, what you're dealing with. My
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: wife would touch me, brothers, and I would cringe because
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: I didn't understand.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: Why she was caressing me. How do you love me
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: that you rubbing my scalp?
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: And many of us if we real with ourselves that
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: superman Kate we try to wear every day is strangling
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: the life out of us.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: I got a call this morning.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: From a successful person that you know, his wife is
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: considering to leave and he cannot convey and release the
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: childhood trauma to her so that she can understand at
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: least why he cannot communicate. He's been conditioned by his
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: trauma and abuse to not love himself. So I'm telling
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: you the way to break free and start this journey
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: to healing is the first stop seeking for love everywhere
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: else and look in the mirror, resolve it there. And
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: as Brother Tyrese passionately conveyed, I'm just one person, God says,
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: I don't need an army. I need one boy, one stone,
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: one sling to take down the giant I got before you,
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: But I couldn't do it until I was real with
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: myself and got the healing. More resources than ever are
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: being poured into our communities. Why isn't it working? Seeds
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: are falling on unfertile ground. The ground needs to be
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: broken up the heartness of our heart, what our ancestors
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: had to deal with They had to stay and fight
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: or fly.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: Like y'all, we don't. We're free to find healing.
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: My father probably would have lived the longer life if
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: he could have been here.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: Love for yourself.
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: It sounds simple, but it's the greatest thing you could do,
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: because when I started loving myself, I genuinely started loving
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: my wife.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: I started treating my daughter the way I longed to
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: be treated as a son.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: I started communicating with my son instead of always having
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: to resort to yelling, calmly, just saying, son, why did
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: you do that?
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: What caused you to think that way? That's how my
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: son grew.
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: And then, lastly, because I'm healed, I can heal the
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: thousands of boys that I touch every day, and so
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: I just close with that.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: Crying like a man is more than shedding tears.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Just so you'll know, tears really stress hormones that get
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: excreted from your body when you cry. That's why you
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: typically feel better when you cry, all right, But it's
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: not just about that. It's about releasing the trauma and
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: emotional pain that's been stored in your heart for years.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Release it and be free.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: Stop allowing your trauma to time travel so that you
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: can fully live in the present period.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Do you have anything?
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Y'all gotta give some more love than my brother for
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: that one right there.
• 37:01
  Speaker 4: My god, it's like when this man starts talking. Man,
• 37:07
  Speaker 4: I start traveling somewhere in my head. I've I left
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: the room and then I came back. But I'm gonna
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: do this. Oh my god, set us up, charlat Man,
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: how you gonna have us to come up here and
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: do this and then put a clock on us?
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: Like that thing is aggressive?
• 37:45
  Speaker 4: Every time we're not looking at it, somebody is speeding
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: it up too.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: Man.
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: Uh man, I'm taking this home. Well, I'm gonna I'm
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: gonna wrap it up by saying I know I'm supposed
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: to encourage y'all, say something motivational, inspirational, but I'm gonna
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: close this out by telling y'all what I'm here to
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: do because I don't do charity. I believe in giving back,
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: not just financially, with my time my energy. When y'all
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: see me writing them long captions on Instagram, I don't
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: have people at my house. I like to put my
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: thoughts on my feelings out there in the world, hoping
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: that somebody out there to see it, be able to
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: relate to it. But I'm gonna tell y'all what I'm
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: here to do. I'm here to change things. I'm here
• 38:47
  Speaker 4: to normalize the dialogue that black man cry. We are
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: vulnerable when when an abortion happens or a miscarriage happens,
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: you skip over us. I've never had a miscarriage or
• 39:09
  Speaker 4: an abortion, obviously in my house or my family or
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: my marriage. That's not something I've ever experienced. But I've
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: known plenty of men who have experienced it. I came
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: here with one today, a still born he did not
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: want to live anymore after experiencing it. He's the best
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: father of two supermodel daughters. And he's my brother, my
• 39:38
  Speaker 4: capricorn brother. He's a Muslim man, strong alpha, everything that
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: we represent. But at what point did something happens so
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: bad where what you're feeling and carrying gets overlooked because
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: everyone normally gravitates towards the woman and what she needs.
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: Means as if we're not feeling that exact thing, we
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: may be out of jail. But have you asked the question,
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: what has happened to you mentally, emotionally, psychologically from your
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: experience in being incarcerated. You may be out, but are
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: you still carrying the things that affected you from living
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: in constant fear every single day.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: You may not be in the foster care system anymore,
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: But what did you see?
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: What did you hear? What did you experience? Does your
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: molestation matter as a man? How many more Catholic priests
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: are they going to announce that molested boys? And just
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: maybe all of these Catholic priests would be in jail
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: if they were all women that these Catholic priests were molesting. See,
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: I am unafraid and unapologetic about being vulnerable, honest, vokes
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: and outspoken.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: That's who I am.
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: That's what it's been because I realize quickly I may
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: not ever get to a level of elon musk money.
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: I live in something nice, I drive something nice, but
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: I've never desired. I love you because of your car.
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: I want you to love the person that's in the
• 41:22
  Speaker 4: car and then give a compliment to the car after
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  Speaker 4: that's a good brother in there. It's all in the
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  Speaker 4: way it lands for you. So I'm gonna tell y'all
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  Speaker 4: I am a multi billionaire. Some of y'all ain't happy
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: for me. I am a multi billionaire. My life in
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: my career started with a thirty second commercial. I am
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  Speaker 4: the walking, living, breathing manifestation of God's favor. Right here,
• 42:10
  Speaker 4: find somebody else who started their career with a thirty
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: second commercial that turned into thirty years. You may laugh,
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: you may make a mockery. I might be posting some
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: silly shit. I laugh at me too, But you cannot
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: question God's favor because if it's about talent, why hasn't
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: everybody else who did a thirty second commercial have that
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  Speaker 4: to go and turn into ten billion in box office
• 42:40
  Speaker 4: sell All these records go by one name, just one,
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  Speaker 4: just one. Insecure people will look at this as bragg
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: and inflexing. I'm not here to tell y'all my Wikipedia page.
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  Speaker 4: I'm telling y'all that I'm different front and I came
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  Speaker 4: here to change things. I came here to normalize things
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: that ain't normal. I came here to change things, and
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: I'm not done. What did you come here to? Do
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: you do understand that this place is gonna stay the
• 43:21
  Speaker 4: same unless you change it. Did y'all hear that I
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: have a problem with finish your sentence? Do you have
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: a problem with it? Or are you willing to do
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: whatever it takes to change it. I came here to
• 43:44
  Speaker 4: change things. I will be opening a movie studio that
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: will have hotels, restaurants, retail, car dealerships, all the above.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it, and one of you niggas gonna
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: give me the money to do it too.
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  Speaker 4: I have a problem with the things that I have
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: a problem with. These are the things that keep me
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: up at night. And I want to close this out
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: with this man. Please God, thank you for everything.
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  Speaker 1: God.
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  Speaker 4: I do not take these stages and these platforms for granted,
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: you could have anybody on this stage. Charlemagne knows everybody
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: could have had anybody here. So somebody, I hope and
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: I pray that we have been able to say something
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: that can change a life, just one.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be the whole room.
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: Some of y'all are so used to going to church
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: and screaming Hallelujah, and you go right back to doing
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: the same shit. When I am in the presence of
• 44:49
  Speaker 4: somebody that drops something on me that falls directly into
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: my soul, everything about that moment for me changes.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, there is nobody in this.
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  Speaker 4: Room that can purchase me into feeling differently because my
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: soul is.
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  Speaker 1: Not for sale.
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: As a matter of fact, most people with money irritate
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: the shit out of me. That's why I don't hang
• 45:16
  Speaker 4: around with celebrities. I connect to and relate to regular folks. Now,
• 45:21
  Speaker 4: with that being said, I'm gonna close it out with this, y'all.
• 45:24
  Speaker 4: I want to tell y'all something about the fire in
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: my belly. I want to be specific about the fire
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: in my belly. They always say hell is hot, and
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: they turn the fire and the desire into a negative.
• 45:42
  Speaker 4: I wake up every single day and literally what keeps
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: me up at night or the dreams and the visions
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: I tell people I dream with my eyes open. I
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: want to become the things I see. When somebody says
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: something or expose me to something, then I'm like, man.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: What is that?
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: I never dreamt that I was able to see it,
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: hear it, or be exposed to it after I woke up,
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: or I shook a hand and somebody made me aware
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: of something that was going on. The Fire and desire
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: in your stomach is a sign and an indication that
• 46:17
  Speaker 4: that's something that you're supposed to do. The things that
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: keep you up at night. It could be the way
• 46:23
  Speaker 4: the things is happening in the community, with the prisons
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: and the jail and the excessive force and the murder
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: and all of the things that stress you out. Those
• 46:33
  Speaker 4: are the things that God continue to show you so
• 46:36
  Speaker 4: that you can take the initiative to change things. A
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: movement doesn't happen without movement. What do you have a
• 46:46
  Speaker 4: problem with? What do you want? And if you decide
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: to not do it, you're gonna sit back and you're
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: gonna watch me do it. Because I'm not waiting on
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: none of y'all because I understand the assignment and that
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: nothing changes unless you change it.
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna ask y'all to do me a favor.
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: Don't just go to another conference. Don't be screaming and yelling,
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: and we're not about to pass out no basket.
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: For no offering.
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: Only thing you need to know is that you could
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: have been anywhere in any city, state, in country, and
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: you came here because someone that you're in a relationship with.
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: Every time you mentioned that clothing idea hair makeup, the
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: hair salon, any real estate tech, any time you mention
• 47:36
  Speaker 4: anything to this person, This negative ass dream killer is
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: shooting down your ideas and you laying up in bed
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: with the venom right there, pull the covers back.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: That's a snake.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: There is nobody I'm ever gonna date that's gonna stop
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: me from the things that keep me up at night.
• 47:56
  Speaker 4: So you look at your grab your stomach sometime when
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: you're in the mirror, and ask.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: God, what is in my stomach?
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: That's that's that's burning, that's keeping me up at night,
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: that I truly desire, that's what we want. And if
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: you don't get it done, watch me I will because
• 48:15
  Speaker 4: I don't feel bad for nobody.
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: Either you're gonna get it done or it won't be done.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: But don't get mad at niggas is out here getting
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: it done. God bless you. Thank you. Can we make
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: sure hilarious as all right?
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's gonna get a picture of all of us.
• 48:48
  Speaker 5: I want to thank y'all for coming out to day.
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: I want to thank y'all for coming out today. We'll
• 48:53
  Speaker 5: be here next year. I'm glad we could create a
• 48:55
  Speaker 5: safe space for Tyrese to get all that off his chest.
• 48:59
  Speaker 5: Thank you for coming to Really do appreciate y'all, and
• 49:02
  Speaker 5: you know this is a day of mental health, education
• 49:04
  Speaker 5: and healing and everything that everybody's been saying on your
• 49:07
  Speaker 5: stage is true. With Tyree said, it's very true. We
• 49:09
  Speaker 5: hope that you came out here today and you feel
• 49:11
  Speaker 5: encouraged to either continue on your healing journey or to
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: get started on your healing journey. And I really want
• 49:16
  Speaker 5: to stay. From the bottom of my heart, thank you
• 49:17
  Speaker 5: all for coming out today, and we'll see you all
• 49:20
  Speaker 5: again next year at the fifth annul Mental Health ex Book. Hey, hello,
• 49:30
  Speaker 5: yo yo, I just want to thank iHeartRadio one time,
• 49:33
  Speaker 5: and I gotta thank this queen right here, Dr Alfie
• 49:35
  Speaker 5: breelaying Noble. None of this happens without her, I mean
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: absolutely nothing, So thank you, doctor Alfie.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Hello, Hello, Hey, hey, Charltmagne.
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: I didn't know you was just short, bro, because you're
• 49:53
  Speaker 4: always behind the table sitting down on the breakfast club.
• 49:56
  Speaker 4: This is crazy. I'm actually taller than him. Did y'all
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: have fun today? God bless y'all. Y'all know what to
• 50:04
  Speaker 4: do right, y'all know what to do right?
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: All right,