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Romeo In The Morning 4-27-26 · Romeo & Friends

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Speaker 1: That was going on as Romeo, Oh, what do we
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get into today? The raiders a little bit.
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Speaker 2: We talked about divorce is a failure on both parts
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and then what card do you play when you want
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to get what you want?
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Speaker 1: Let's see what happened. So it's funny.
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Speaker 2: Buddy of mine was over the house last night and
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his wife called him. Well, his phone was sitting on
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the counter and I looked at it and it was
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his wife's full name, right, And I thought, why do
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you have your wife's full name under her contact in
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your phone?
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Speaker 1: Should you have some sort of pet name for her
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something like that?
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Speaker 2: Already four to or seven at seven, yo, rome I
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have it as baby.
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Speaker 1: Most of the time.
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Speaker 2: When I get mad, I change it to I change
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it to his first initial. Oh, you have it as babe.
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But most of the time, most of the time, when
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I get mad, I change it to his first initial.
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So you actually take time to change it, all right,
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A four to seven and seven?
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Speaker 1: What's going on?
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Speaker 3: Good morning, Romeo. I was listening to your guys conversation
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and I personally have been married twice six years and
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I have his personal last name in my contact and
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this is because this is because in the events that
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God forbid, they need to get in touch with him
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in emergency contacts. I don't want to be like my love,
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my sweetheart, my my boot thing or anything like that.
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Speaker 1: Well what about what about my hobby? What about I
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don't know.
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Speaker 4: What?
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Speaker 3: In emergencies, I want him to call him by his
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first lass name and be like, what the hell? I
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don't know, it's just weird.
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Speaker 1: No, I think that's weird o.
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Speaker 3: But it works for and I'm I don't I'm assuming
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that he has my personal las name and it is.
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I don't know what he is.
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Speaker 1: What's indus? Have you ever checked?
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Speaker 3: Huh, you don't know.
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Speaker 5: I've never checked.
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Speaker 2: Oh, you need to find out.
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Speaker 3: I don't know.
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Speaker 5: It works for us.
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Speaker 1: Would let me ask you this.
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Speaker 2: Would you be bothered by the fact if it was
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if he had some sort of pet name for.
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Speaker 5: You, you know, I wouldn't be bothered.
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Speaker 3: I just would be like, do you have my first name?
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Speaker 2: Right?
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Speaker 1: In case of emergency.
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Speaker 4: Plan?
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Speaker 3: I have to plan for everything different.
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Speaker 2: Okay, that's that's a little psychotic right there.
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Speaker 1: That's you're doing way too much. But okay, I understand
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your logic.
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Speaker 4: And brob, you know how you're talking about putting the
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names on your phone. One time we were at a
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Walmart and this this young guy, he had a heart attack, right,
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and he had his phone with them. So my wife started,
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she pushed on.
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Speaker 5: The iclane, you could serri so and so.
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Speaker 4: Sure, So she started saying random names, and I was like,
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he's the most common one, say like call dad or
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call mom or something.
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Speaker 3: I say, you know, and Syrie wouldn't wouldn't understanding.
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Speaker 4: So she said, called babe and it called his girlfriend.
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Speaker 3: Really yeah, so you know, well the paramedics to to
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the hospital.
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Speaker 4: So we let we let her know that her man
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had had a heart attack at Walmart. That lady that
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just said she keeps her man first name is doctor
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bid you know, but something happens we don't know his name.
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Speaker 1: Well that's the other Well you well, what you would do.
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Speaker 2: What I think her logic is you look at the
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last name and then you find the last name and
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that if it's you know, that would in turn tell
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who her spouse is.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, I understand what you're saying. I get it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get it.
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Speaker 4: You know, the most common thing, and Siri will pick
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it up and call that person.
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Speaker 1: Okay, thanks for calling me all right. You know, like
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I said, I think it's weird.
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Speaker 2: I think it's weird if you to have your significant
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other's full name as their contact their full legal name
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is their contact name in your phone.
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Speaker 1: I think that's weird. You should have a nickname, a
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pet name, something like that. All right. So buddy of mine.
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Speaker 2: Was at the house yesterday and he had a phone
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sitting on the Counterwear's wife called him, and the name
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that came up on the contact when the phone rang
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was his wife's name, her first name or last name.
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Speaker 1: And I thought that was strange. I thought, that's your wife, bro.
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Speaker 2: You don't have her under some sort of pet nickname, honey, wife,
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love of my life something, I mean, anything but her
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full name. Man already four two five four or seven
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a seven yeard roam. I have my boyfriend's nickname as
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I don't think I could say.
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Speaker 1: That word on the radio.
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Speaker 2: But okay, but when I'm upset, I put his full
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government name in because he hates his first name. That's
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the other thing. Who's changing the contact name?
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Speaker 1: Who's doing that?
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Speaker 2: Unless it's a woman or a man that you started dating. Okay,
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so you meet them, you put their full name in
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when you meet them. Then you get start dating, maybe
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it changes a little bit, but once you get married, man,
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you gotta have it. You don't use their full name.
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That just seems so professional, doesn't seem like you really
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love or like no thought or love when into the contact, Like,
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don't you guys put any emotion into a contact? Contacts
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name already four two bovo or seven and seven roam
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that last callers lyne. If something happens, they obviously they're
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obviously going to say, I'm gonna say, is this mister
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so and so?
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Speaker 1: Oh?
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Speaker 2: Is this mister so and so she's hiding something? Okay? Ah, Rome,
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my sancha's name is Pizza Hut in my phone.
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Speaker 1: That makes sense.
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Speaker 2: Uh, let's see, hey, Rome, what's up. Back when I
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used to sleep around, I would nickname the girls I
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was messing with by their sexual talent. The best one
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was throat Wizard.
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Speaker 1: That's kind of funny.
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Speaker 2: So now that you're not messing around, what is your uh,
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what is your girl's contact or your wife's contact?
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Speaker 1: Already four two favour seven and seven?
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Speaker 2: Like I said, I would think that your wife or
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your husband, you'd have a little more love and respect
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for them. To put something special in your contact list
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as opposed to just their name. So yesterday a buddy
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of mine was at the house, right, and so he
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his phone was sitting there, and his wife calls him. Well,
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the contact name that comes up is his wife's full name.
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Speaker 1: And I thought that's a little odd. I think it's odd.
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I think it's weird.
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Speaker 2: I think if you're gonna have a wife or a
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husband or girlfriend boyfriend, you gotta have some sort of
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pet nickname for them that just shows how much you
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really love them, how much you care about him, right,
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not just the full name is just so professional and
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just I mean, no thought whatsoever. I mean, come on,
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do you call your wife by that fool nickname when
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you when you address her? I mean, that's just it's
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weird to me already four two five, four or seven
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to seven, just like you guys know my boy, big Boy.
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I got his name, and big Boy, that's how I
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know who he is already four two five four seven.
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Oh big boy texting me, he says, send me a screenshot.
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I guess his phone is linked up with his daughter's
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phone somehow, So when his wife calls, it says, mom,
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that's kind of funny already four two by Vos seven
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to seven. Uh, Roland, let's see big r with this work.
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Have their full name and have wife in parentheses. Now,
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I don't think so like Roland. When Roland texts me
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right now on my personal phone, it comes up rolling Cowboys,
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because I know he's a big cowboy fan.
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Speaker 1: But it's not. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: By the way, for those of you who don't know,
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I get text messages through the radio station. I get
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text messages on my own phone as well, But no,
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it's not.
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Speaker 4: No.
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Speaker 1: You gotta have a pet nickname for you and your wife.
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Speaker 2: It shows how much you really love her, something that's
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between the two of you.
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Speaker 1: Already four two Bovo or seven to seven of you.
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Speaker 2: I just don't think you care enough about your significant
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other If in your contacts you have their their legal
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name as opposed to some sort of pet pick pet nickname,
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that shows how much you really care about them. Let's
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talk about the contact names, all right.
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Speaker 1: So here's the deal.
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Speaker 2: Buddy and Mien was at the house and his phone's
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sitting there on the counter. We're sitting there talking, having
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a couple of beers with counter. The wife calls him,
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comes up her full name, first name, last name, and
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I was thinking that's a little straight. You don't have
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a pet nickname for your wife. I mean, you gotta
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for your wife, your husband, boyfriend, girlfriend. You gotta have
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some sort of special name that's just between the two
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of you that you two know about. Whether it's something funny,
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whether it's something meaningful, meaningful and loving. But there's gotta
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be something that's just kind of between the two of you, right,
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shows you really care. So when you put your wife,
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your husband, boyfriend, girlfriend in under your contacts on your phone,
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there's gotta be something there that differentiates that person from
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the rest of your contact right already four to bavo
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or seven to seven year roam. I have my girlfriend
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under Princess with two hearts, been there same for six years.
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See that's a good one. Hey, good morning Rome. I
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had my husband's name under my honey, but he told
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me one day that he wants to be on the
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top of the list, so I changed his nickname to ass.
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That's kind of funny, all righty four two seven seven yo? Rom,
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You like my contact for my wife heart for love, Grandma,
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Grandma because she's my old lady. Middle finger because I
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hate her sometimes and a burger because she loves to eat.
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Speaker 1: It, does it?
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Speaker 2: Says Mia Moore with a heart, a grandmother, a middle finger,
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and a hamburger.
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Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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Speaker 2: Hey, Rome, I have my guys first and last name,
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but that's but that is this, but that, but that
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this conversation is going.
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Speaker 1: I think I'll put roommate.
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Speaker 2: Oh, I have my guy's first name. But of the
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way this conversation is going, I think I'll put roommate.
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Speaker 1: That's kind of funny, Rome.
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Speaker 2: Also an emergency, see, if someone can get your phone,
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they're gonna look up look for wife babe to notify
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the Oh you're talking because the woman who started called
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in and said she keeps her husband's full name because
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if there's an emergency and they need her phone to
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contact somebody.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, wife babe is aw is right? I mean, what
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would you look for if.
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Speaker 2: You found if somebody was you know, something was happening
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to somebody you had to use their phone to call
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their significant other.
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Speaker 1: What would you what word would you look for a
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wife babe? Something like that. You wouldn't know to look
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for a full name.
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Speaker 2: That's why I say, just the idea of it though,
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to me, is it's meaningful something between you and your
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significant other that means something. Everybody should have some sort
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of pet name or some sort of nickname that you
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have between you and your significant other that means something,
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and that should be their contact name in your phone.
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The other on Friday, somebody texted me, Hey, rome any
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please not making fun of the Raiders. That hurts my feelings.
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How can you be so mean? Hold on, my mom
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is asking if I'm on breakfast. I'm fifty five year
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old man who drinks truly love my wine, but you
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just hurt my feelings when you talk about the Raiders.
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Fernando Mendoza is God and he's gonna save us. All
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I gotta go. I'm checking my balance on my EBT
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so I can make sandwiches later. You gotta be one
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of the stupidest people on the planet if you think
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Fernando Mendoza is gonna make the Raiders better next year.
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I mean, you really got to be a moron. But
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I'm sorry. I'm sorry for hurting your feelings. Okay, at
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least he texted me. He didn't have his mom call me.
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Speaker 1: All right, eh room, Yeah, I love when you sing.
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Speaker 4: It.
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Speaker 2: Romeo Mendoza is not even gonna start next year. They
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signed Kirk Cousins. The groom him. I know, I know,
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I saw that. I think Kirk Cousins makes more money
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than any The guy must have made like a billion
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dollars play an NFL quarterback and he's never accomplished anything
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in his career?
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Speaker 1: Has he? Has he ever accomplished anything?
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Speaker 2: But yet he's gonna go to the Raiders and groom Mendoza.
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What is Kirk Cousins the comp That's that's how good
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the Raiders are.
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Speaker 1: They brought They brought in.
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Speaker 2: A quarterback that has basically stole money from every team
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he's ever played on. I don't believe he's ever won anything.
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Has he except maybe a playoff game? Has Kirk Cousin
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won a Super Bowl?
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Speaker 1: I don't think so.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, that's the guy they're bringing into Mentor. Leave
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it to the Raiders to get a second ar eight
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quarterback to mentor their first round draft pick.
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Speaker 1: Already four to seven to seven?
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Speaker 4: What's going on? Gilly put up Gilly back from the draft,
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baby from the draft. How was it? It was good?
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It was really good. We went over there. We flew
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over there Tuesday.
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Speaker 1: And looks like it turns into a good party.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know what we were at, well, you
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know that place by the back of your hands. You've
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been there so many times. But right there on this
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trip they got rolling, you know that place rolling?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I was suddenly finished.
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Speaker 4: Yeah okay. And then anyway, everybody was having a good time.
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But you know who made apses of themselves.
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Speaker 1: Right, Raider fans.
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Speaker 4: Yep. Every once in a while they would do their
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chance Raiders that said, having won one to nineteen eighty three,
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and so they kept doing that. Well, you know, the
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only time they were quiet is when they came over
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to the bar and told Dawn, which was the lady, Yeah,
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you know, serving the drink, she is there, any way
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we can breakdown our chat. And that's a damn. That's
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the only time you guys get quieted when you guys
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got to pay your bis. So one guy went in
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the corner at his dad to zell damn, you keep
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yelling out, hey, this is for going for your dad.
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Oh yeah, Oh.
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Speaker 1: Those guys are such clowns.
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Speaker 4: But I will tell you this, the customer service that
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you get over there, compared to California comparison it's different.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it is, it is. You're right, You're right. It's
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a different town.
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Speaker 2: It's a different town, different people, different, Yeah, it is all.
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Speaker 4: Right, Gilly, Okay, brother, I'll talk to you to this,
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all right, all right?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, just send me, Gilly, just send me whatever you're
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gonna send me already four two seven seven.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: It's it's embarrassing the way the Raider fans think that this. Yeah,
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you'd be better off just I don't know why you
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guys just didn't go get Derek carrback. He would you'd
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be better off getting him back then? Who cousins?
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Speaker 1: What a joke? Alrighty?
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Speaker 2: Four two five four seven seven, Hey, roam. The biggest
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head scratcher for me was Ty Simpson going to the Rams.
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So what are the plans for Stafford? And they're trying
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are they're saying Simpson will be the number one? The
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number three are the number three in the depth chart.
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I don't know, you guys act like you guys act
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like I'm some loser who doesn't have a life and
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things to do that I actually.
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Speaker 1: Watched the draft and care.
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Speaker 2: I mean, the only reason I know about Mendoza because
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somebody told me and all my dumbass Raider fan friends
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think they're gonna win a super Bowl with this clown.
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Speaker 1: But no, you guys think what the hell's time in?
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Who else? Ty Simpson?
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Speaker 2: Okay, come on, man, you guys need to really get
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a life, all right? Would you send me here? Hey, rom,
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I thought you were a football fan. If you were
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a real football fan, you would have watched the draft
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this weekend to see what your team did.
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Speaker 1: Now you're an idiot that if you.
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Speaker 2: Think the draft is something in that's so important as
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for you as a fan to make you a fan,
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you are pathetic, man. I mean what you're living vicariously
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through somebody else to what make yourself.
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Speaker 1: Feel better or worse? I don't, I don't. I don't
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even know how to explain it. It's so pathetic.
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Speaker 2: I mean, what what to be a real football fan
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you have to watch the draft. I don't own that team.
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I don't get anything from the football team that uh
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that I support, So why would I waste my time?
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I mean, it's just like fantasy football. What kind of
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losers are you to think that you think you actually
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accomplish something by playing fantasy football?
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Speaker 1: Get a life, man, that's ridiculous. Wow, Hey, good morning Romeo.
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Speaker 2: Lots of dudes are back to regular jobs today. They
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became part time sports analysts over the weekend. Oh my god,
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you do gotta say the one thing that you do.
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I will say this about sports. The one thing that
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is good about sports is everybody should be able to
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have their opinion about sports right about what they think about,
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what they about their team, or how they feel about
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their team, what they think their team is going to do.
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Speaker 1: I do agree with that.
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Speaker 2: The problem is most of you clowns take it way
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too far and you think because you play fantasy football that.
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Speaker 1: You're actually a GM of a football team.
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Speaker 2: No, you're still just some dude that needs to get
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a wife for paying more attention to your family, and
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stop acting like fantasy.
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Speaker 1: Football is life.
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Speaker 2: You're living vicariously through other men that are actually accomplishing something.
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Speaker 1: It's pretty great, by the way, the NFL is.
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Speaker 2: Those guys are pretty damn talented and have worked their
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asses off to get there, and some of the most
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elite athletes in the world. Right, and you guys live
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like vicariously through them, like you've accomplished something. And the
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draft is even worse. You're over here watching the draft
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of people that have absolutely no history in the NFL,
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no playing time with real NFL players that are far
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and far far better than these kids coming into the draft. Now.
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I'm not saying they're not gonna be great players. I'm
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not saying that these kids from college aren't gonna be
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great at some point, but they are nobody's compared to
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the NFL players in the league right now.
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Speaker 1: And you guys are so I mean, what is wrong?
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Speaker 2: It really shows that there's something wrong with your life,
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Like what is missing in your life that you have
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to live vicariously through sports? I mean, are you ALBUNDI?
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Do you not like your wife? Do you not like
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your family? Are you alone?
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Speaker 1: I mean, my god, right, I gotta tell you guys something,
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And I just, man, when are you.
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Speaker 2: Guys gonna learn? A friend of mine, so he got divorced.
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It's been over two years since he's gotten divorced. Right,
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it didn't work out. Him and his wife were married
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for like ten years, didn't go. It didn't work out.
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I think he cheated first, then she cheated second. So
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it just was never, you know, never gonna work out.
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And he's complaining he's still complaining. Two years after divorce,
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he's still blaming his wife and complaining and saying, well,
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I wouldn't have cheated if she would have done this,
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and she would have done that. And first of all,
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after two years, get over it, my god. I mean,
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divorce happens, and it seems to be very it seems
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to be more and more common nowadays. But at a
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certain point, get over it. You know, it didn't work out.
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I'm sorry, it's it's it's and it's kind of rough
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to say that, right, Well, Roam, you never went through
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a divorce like you know, and there was this, There
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was that, and the trauma and the and the pain
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and the agony and the you know, the the mental
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the mentally draining you know how it drains you mentally
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and this and that.
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Speaker 1: Right, I get it. But at some point.
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Speaker 2: You have to realize that divorce is failure on both
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of your.
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Speaker 1: Parts, not just one.
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Speaker 2: And you could you could all say, well, he cheated
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on me or she cheated on him, or whatever the
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case may be.
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Speaker 1: But somehow it.
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Speaker 2: Got to that point. Okay, Now, if you just married
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a cheater, okay, I get it, there was never gonna
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work in the first place. Because he was a cheater
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when you met him, right, or when you met her right.
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I just heard the story the other day from a
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friend of mine. She was telling me a coworker was complaining,
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wasn't complaining, but cheated on her husband. Husband found out,
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went out there. Now they're going through a divorce. And
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her explanation as well, that's just who I am. It's
21:37
in my DNA because my mom was a cheater, and
21:40
that's my aunt was a cheater, So we're just cheaters.
21:43
So that's how she justified it to herself. Okay, so
21:46
maybe that's a little bit different. I don't know, but
21:49
it really is failure on both parts involved in the relationship. Okay,
21:56
And you guys can say, well, you guys can look
21:59
at the outcome or how you got there or what
22:02
it is, Well this this.
22:04
Speaker 1: Is more wrong than that, So it's his fault or
22:07
it's her fault. But the reality is.
22:11
Speaker 2: It's failure on both your parts, and you guys need
22:15
to get over it. I mean, it's just at a
22:19
two years. I mean, this guy's been divorced for two
22:21
years and he still complained about what she did and
22:27
why it was her fault. I mean, you guys, gotta
22:33
understand you.
22:35
Speaker 1: You're blamed. If you went through a divorce, you're partially
22:39
to blame as well. Okay.
22:41
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying what the other party did wasn't important,
22:45
wasn't worse. But I'm saying, is it got there somehow,
22:49
So take some responsibility.
22:51
Speaker 1: And move on. I just don't know how people can
22:55
live like that. This guy, just how can you live
22:57
like that? Alrighty for two.
23:00
Speaker 2: Four seven to seven already fourteen ft four seven seven. Hey, Romeo,
23:06
you're absolutely right about the divorce. I cheated on my
23:11
wife three years ago we got divorced, and she still
23:15
blames me for our divorce to this day after three years,
23:20
even though she won't admit that the reason I cheated
23:23
was because of her hold on a second, that is
23:26
not what I said. Okay, don't get me wrong. I mean,
23:31
I'm not saying that one is worse than the other. Okay.
23:38
What I'm saying, I'm not saying that her driving you
23:40
to cheating in your mind, and you cheating makes you
23:43
right and her wrong. That is not at all what
23:46
I'm saying. You're still wrong more so than she is wrong. Okay,
23:51
you should have not cheated. But my point is she
23:55
has some blame for your relationship that led you to cheat.
24:00
That doesn't mean you were right, okay, but it's you.
24:06
Guys gotta stop, You gotta get over it, and you
24:09
gotta just my gosh, three years so she's still complaining
24:13
after three years?
24:14
Speaker 1: I mean, how happy? How unhappy? Are you.
24:19
Speaker 2: Accept accountability for your relationship not working and move on.
24:24
Speaker 1: You can't live life like that. That just does not
24:27
sound fun at all.
24:29
Speaker 2: I mean, I have a couple of friends who are
24:31
just still they're becoming worse people because of their divorce,
24:37
yet they're still in relationships. I just don't know how
24:43
that could be, how that's possible. They're just not happy
24:47
people to be around.
24:49
Speaker 1: Just I don't know.
24:51
Speaker 2: And if you're just gonna blame somebody else when and
24:54
you don't realize that a divorce is a failure on
24:56
both parts, Yeah, you need to figure that out already.
25:00
Four two, five, four, seven to seven your room. You're
25:03
talking about divorce and people not getting over it. Do
25:06
you think the person that blames the divorce on the
25:11
other person is the one that didn't want the divorce.
25:15
Speaker 1: To begin with? Maybe?
25:19
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, if you get cheated on,
25:24
then it's the person's who's cheated's fault. But you still
25:30
have some blame, right, I don't know. Oh wait, hold on,
25:34
let me finish the text message, because let me tell
25:37
you what happened with my uh, with my divorce Romeo
25:40
or my relationship. I wanted to have more children and
25:44
my wife didn't, so we ended up divorcing, and I
25:49
ended up getting with another woman to have more children.
25:52
And my wife blames me for the divorce. So she
25:57
still is bothered by it to this day, and it's
26:01
been five years.
26:02
Speaker 1: Now.
26:03
Speaker 2: Do you think maybe because she didn't want the divorce
26:06
is why she's still harping on it.
26:09
Speaker 1: Maybe? I mean, yeah, I guess that could be a reason.
26:13
I mean, I just.
26:15
Speaker 2: Relationships don't work sometimes, and I mean you want to
26:18
have I mean, you can't if your wife does not
26:21
want to have any more children.
26:22
Speaker 1: Obviously you know there's nothing you could do about that.
26:25
Speaker 2: You have to and evidently you made a decision to
26:28
move on, which I you know, some people will say
26:31
that's right, some people will say that's wrong.
26:33
Speaker 1: I'm not really sure.
26:34
Speaker 2: I won't make a comment out right or wrong, but yeah,
26:37
I guess I could see why she still blames you
26:39
because you know, I don't know if you left for
26:43
a selfish reason, or maybe it's selfishness, I don't know.
26:47
Speaker 1: I mean, you.
26:50
Speaker 2: Might be right, but you see these people who complain
26:56
about divorce, who complain about what happened, blame somebody else,
27:01
But yet they've moved on in their own relationship, gotten remarried,
27:04
gotten new relationships, but yet they're still holding a grudge
27:09
against their ex husband or wife. I mean, I don't
27:15
understand that. Already four two fought four seven to seven.
27:20
So you might be right. You might be right with
27:22
what you're saying.
27:23
Speaker 1: All right, divorce, Uh yeah, divorce.
27:27
Speaker 2: You guys got to get over it at some point
27:29
in your life. I mean, I'm not saying get over tomorrow.
27:32
I'm not saying a week or a month, but maybe
27:35
over a year you're I mean, after a year or two,
27:39
you should.
27:39
Speaker 1: Be you should be over.
27:40
Speaker 2: And I would think already four two fought, four seven
27:43
to seven A Romeo, I think that last caller was right.
27:50
The person who didn't want to get divorce is the
27:54
one that blames the other person. My husband cheated on
27:58
me a couple of times and thought I was just
28:00
supposed to accept it. Now. I did accept the first time.
28:05
So then he did it again after he said he
28:08
would never and I didn't accept it. I ended up
28:11
divorcing him. He thought I was just He thought I
28:15
should just accept it like I did the first time.
28:18
Now he still runs around to this day talking about
28:22
how bad of a wife I was and that if
28:26
I was a better wife, he never would have cheated
28:28
on me.
28:30
Speaker 1: So maybe that guy is right.
28:32
Speaker 2: My husband never wanted to get divorced, so he's the
28:34
one talking about me and holding a grudge.
28:39
Speaker 1: Well, okay, I mean, maybe the guy is right. Maybe
28:43
he is right whoever.
28:44
Speaker 2: But it's just the idea that there's a certain point if.
28:49
Speaker 1: Especially if you moved on.
28:51
Speaker 2: How can you move on in another relationship but yet
28:56
still be complaining about.
28:57
Speaker 1: The old one, You know what I'm saying.
29:00
Speaker 2: Just it's a little troublesome already fourteen five, four or
29:05
seven to seven, Oh man, I was talking a little
29:08
bit about divorce because I have some people in my life,
29:10
some friends that are a couple of years out of
29:13
their marriages, and they're just still blame their partners. And
29:17
it's not just men, it's women. To just move on
29:21
after a few years. And what's even crazier is there're still, uh,
29:26
they've they've moved on, they've got new girlfriends, and they've
29:29
got new husbands or new wives, and they're still harboring
29:33
bitterness about their ex, their their past marriage.
29:37
Speaker 1: And I guess, I guess you should. You can still
29:41
harbor it, I guess.
29:43
Speaker 2: But when you publicly tell people about it and complain
29:46
about it, I mean, what does that say about you?
29:49
I mean, you were you have fault in your divorce
29:52
as well. No, it's not one sided, Okay, A marriage
29:56
or a relationship not working out is not one person fault.
30:00
It's both person's fault, person's peoples. It's both of your faults.
30:05
Speaker 1: Okay. Now, one the way it ends might be very dramatic.
30:09
Speaker 2: And and you shouldn't have done it in that way.
30:13
Speaker 1: I mean, but.
30:15
Speaker 2: If you just come home and say, hey, I want
30:17
a divorce. I'm not happy with this, I'm not happy
30:21
with that, and your partner says, well, I'm not going
30:26
to change or we're not going to Okay, let's get
30:29
divorced or I.
30:30
Speaker 1: Don't want to. I mean, it's.
30:34
Speaker 2: The problem is somebody does something big to get a divorce,
30:37
somebody does something big, a big dramatic scene, and then
30:40
now you're the bad guy, okay, whether you and usually
30:44
it's cheating. Usually it's cheating already four two or seven
30:48
to seven. But something led to that, and that's the problem.
30:53
You know, if you want to go cheat because your
30:56
wife's not having sex with you, then just tell your
30:59
wife you want a divorce and move on. You know,
31:03
if you want to cheat because your husband spends more
31:05
time at work or with his buddies than he does
31:07
it with you, then just tell him you want to
31:09
move on.
31:10
Speaker 1: But that's not how it normally works out.
31:12
Speaker 2: But there is a problem there, I mean on both parts,
31:15
and I think a lot of you guys need to
31:16
see that. And once you see that, you can move
31:18
on from it once you take some accountability. Already four
31:23
to bob or seven to seven in Romeo.
31:27
Speaker 1: Divorce is tough. It drains you mentally.
31:31
Speaker 2: My wife and I went through a three year divorce
31:35
because she wanted all this money from me, which I
31:37
didn't think she deserved, and it was just a battle
31:41
and a drain. So I can see why people harbor
31:46
bitterness over their partner. Maybe not because of the relationship
31:51
and the way it ended. But because the divorce is
31:54
so draining mentally, do you ever think.
31:57
Speaker 1: About that.
31:59
Speaker 4: Now?
32:00
Speaker 1: I didn't, but you could be right. You could be
32:03
right right now? What's going on?
32:08
Speaker 5: So these is pretty crazy. My brother got an amborced, okay,
32:13
and so they moved out to Wisconsin because his ex
32:19
had an opportunity to open up a new for where
32:25
she worked at and run it. She did that, and
32:28
then after that she had an opportunity to go to
32:32
Texas to do the same thing, and she cheated on
32:37
my brothers. She's now with that guy that she met.
32:43
Moved back to Bakersfield and now she's with him, and
32:47
she wosing my son or my brother and sons to
32:51
call him dad.
32:56
Speaker 1: Wow?
32:58
Speaker 5: Yeah, where I rather go ahead?
33:01
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry right here in Bakersfield.
33:03
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so did your brother go with her or
33:06
stay here while she went?
33:09
Speaker 5: They moved all the way to Wisconsin. They didn't move to.
33:12
Speaker 1: Texas, gotcha.
33:14
Speaker 5: So you know, he had to move back to Bakersfield.
33:18
He had to sell the house that they you know, got,
33:21
and all kinds of crazy stuff. And it's wild the
33:26
things that she's doing, and like how they moved all
33:30
the way from Bakersfield to Wisconsin. It's wild and you know, like, well,
33:40
I don't know, she has the kids calling him dad
33:44
and all that.
33:45
Speaker 1: How is the kid.
33:48
Speaker 5: One it is twelve and the other one six.
33:50
Speaker 1: Do the kids know the difference or are they being brainwashed?
33:54
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, so yeah, because like custody battle, you know,
33:59
So they have one week with the mother and then
34:02
the next week with my brothers.
34:04
Speaker 4: Yeah, sure, Well, anytime they come back.
34:07
Speaker 5: They're like running to my dad.
34:09
Speaker 4: Or my brother.
34:10
Speaker 2: No, they'll unfortunately, unfortunately, your brother is just gonna have
34:15
to wait it out.
34:15
Speaker 1: They'll they'll at certain point.
34:17
Speaker 2: Probably in the next well I don't think they'll leave
34:19
each other, but when they're gonna want to live with
34:22
him before probably by the time their teens don't want
34:25
to move in with your brother.
34:27
Speaker 5: They don't even want to be there now.
34:28
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I get it, but unfortunately, your brother's gonna
34:34
have to wait this one out until they can make
34:36
that decision exactly.
34:39
Speaker 5: They do not want to be with her at all.
34:42
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. Well, I wonder why she won't give them up.
34:45
I wonder what she what her deal is, if they
34:47
she knows. I wonder what.
34:48
Speaker 5: That's all about good mother. She wants to look like
34:51
he cares. And you know, when they are living in Wisconsance,
34:54
she has abandoned everybody.
34:56
Speaker 1: Oh well, she is a cheater. So yeah, she is
35:00
a cheater, so she's already looks bad.
35:03
Speaker 2: Yep, exactly, You guys, just all right, thanks for calling.
35:15
Speaker 1: What'd you sent me here? Alrighty four two five four
35:17
seven to seven?
35:18
Speaker 2: Yo?
35:19
Speaker 4: Rome?
35:20
Speaker 1: What do you got here? It says, hey, yo, Rome.
35:23
As for my divorce, I.
35:24
Speaker 2: Had continuously spoke to my ex wife about stuff I
35:28
had issues with her. She would repair the issues temporarily,
35:31
maybe a week or two.
35:32
Speaker 1: Tops i'd ended up.
35:34
Speaker 2: I did end up cheating, and I should have just
35:38
left her, but didn't just because I had hopes she
35:42
would change. But never did I know that. I know
35:48
what I did was wrong, but she should have been.
35:52
She shouldn't have been surprised that we ended in divorce.
35:58
She is the one who initiate the divorce, and till
36:01
this day she still isn't over it and weaponizes my
36:06
kids to me, It's been four years. She's been in
36:10
and out of relationships, and I'm just cool by my
36:14
well being lonely.
36:16
Speaker 1: Which brings me to my question for you.
36:18
Speaker 2: She's brought over eight guys around my kids, as in,
36:23
she's moved in and out of eight plus guys into
36:28
her apartment.
36:29
Speaker 1: What do you think about that?
36:31
Speaker 2: I've only brought one woman around my kids, and it
36:33
was a serious relationship, but that ended and haven't brought
36:36
anyone around my kids. Do you think I should be
36:39
more open? Or is she overdoing it? That's a very
36:44
good question. She's probably overdoing it. It's probably messing with
36:49
the kids when she does that. I mean, you can't
36:51
just move men in and out, you know you can't.
36:55
You probably shouldn't just be moving multiple men in and
36:58
out of your house. That probably does not bode well
37:02
for the kids. I'm just guessing. I'm sure the kids
37:05
are a little a little confused, depending on how old
37:09
they are and what age.
37:10
Speaker 1: But yeah, so there you go.
37:14
Speaker 2: I like how you said though you always blamed her,
37:18
you always told her she needed to change. You ever
37:21
think that maybe you needed to change as well in
37:23
some manner? So yeah, your story sounds kind of like
37:29
a typical Bakersfield Hallmark story right there? All right? I
37:34
Ney fourteen four seven seven, Hey, Romeo, I can understand
37:40
a divorce or even a breakup being mentally draining. But
37:44
why harbor bitterness? Well, I mean, yeah, harbor bitterness because
37:51
you still love somebody, right, I mean, let's be honest.
37:55
The problem is not harboring the bitterness. Right, You and
37:59
I go through a divorce, yes, or break up. You know,
38:02
we have feelings for each other.
38:03
Speaker 1: We love each other. Hell, we got married, went through
38:04
the whole process.
38:05
Speaker 2: Right, you go through all that, You're gonna have a loyalty,
38:09
a commitment, a bond, You're gonna have a lot of
38:12
you know, you probably shared a lot of things. It's
38:14
gonna be It's tough, you know, it's tough to lose that.
38:18
So I understand the bitterness, you know, because especially if
38:22
somebody did something dirty to you, you know which you know,
38:25
even though I will always say divorce is failure on
38:28
both parts.
38:31
Speaker 1: You whatever led up to.
38:33
Speaker 2: The divorce, how both parties had a responsibility in that. Now,
38:38
it's the way that you get there that can cause
38:42
a problem. Cheating's gonna cause bitterness, you know, leaving somebody
38:45
leaving you for another person's gonna cause bitterness because you
38:49
weren't good enough. I mean, the bitterness is understandable. The
38:55
problem with it is when you're still bitter after you've
38:59
supposedly moved on to somebody else, and that's the bigger issue,
39:05
or the or or just continuing to be bitter forever
39:11
instead of moving on and getting over it. I mean,
39:15
that's a that's a big story here in Bakersfield, you know,
39:21
that's I know lots of people that are that are
39:24
remarried and when their spouse isn't around, they will still
39:31
talk bad about their ex and it's it's it's strange
39:38
to say the least, but I mean, there's a lot
39:41
everybody's going to be bitter. Man, you can't it's human
39:43
nature to be bitter about something. Someone does you dirty,
39:46
or you feel you feel like you've failed at something,
39:49
you get bitter about it, you know, I mean, maor
39:52
divorce is a failure and it's a failure on both parts.
39:57
So there's the bitterness is understandable. It's when you hold
40:02
onto that bitterness for years and years that's.
40:05
Speaker 1: When it becomes a problem.
40:07
Speaker 2: Let's talk about the cards you play to get what
40:10
you want, right, there's a lot of you out there,
40:13
especially in your relationships. You know, you got that card
40:17
that wild card that you're just holding on to that
40:19
you'll play for women most of the time it's sex.
40:23
Speaker 1: You know, it's for your husbands.
40:24
Speaker 2: You just if you want something out of your man,
40:26
you just give them sex and kind of get what
40:27
you want.
40:28
Speaker 1: So you play the sex card.
40:31
Speaker 2: I was thinking about this the other day because a
40:32
friend of mine was over at his house and we
40:35
were having some beers, beers and whiskey in the backyard,
40:39
just hanging out, you know, and his wife, he plays
40:43
the drunk card on her, on her husband, on my buddy,
40:48
and he knows it, and he still can't stop it,
40:53
right because he's he's kind of a cheap dude.
40:56
Speaker 1: Like he doesn't really like spending a lot of money.
40:58
Speaker 2: He doesn't really like going and you know, spending money
41:00
on vacations and and things like that or you know,
41:05
concert tickets or he's just kind of a dude. He's
41:07
kind of a stay at home dude. And he uh,
41:11
but man, once he once he starts having a couple,
41:16
he loosens up. He wants to hang out. I mean,
41:19
he's a fun guy when he's drunk, just absolutely incredible
41:23
to be with. And he starts paying for stuff money
41:27
and he has money, so.
41:28
Speaker 1: It's not like he's breaking the bank.
41:30
Speaker 2: But every time his wife wants something or she wants
41:34
to get something for the kids, that's kind of an extra,
41:38
you know, kind of a something they want that you know,
41:43
he really wouldn't want to buy or pay for. When
41:47
he's uh, you know, sober, he plays that card. She
41:50
just waits, and now everybody knows it. Her kids, her
41:56
dad's out having you know, dad's drinking, having fun. He
41:59
likes to have more fun. You know, he figured and
42:02
he knows it. We all make fun of him because
42:04
of it.
42:05
Speaker 1: Just wait.
42:06
Speaker 2: We even say that in our friend group, like just
42:08
wait till he gets drunk. Then was like if we
42:10
want to go, like if we want to plan a
42:12
weekend to go do something, we just wait till he
42:15
gets it, gets a little tipsy, and then we say.
42:17
Speaker 1: Hey, let's go do this with everybody. Okay, yeah, let's
42:20
do it. And then there you go.
42:22
Speaker 2: Right, So, everybody's got a card like that that they
42:24
play with their spouse, with their relationship. I mean, maybe
42:29
you got a card you play at work, You got
42:31
a wild card in your back pocket that you use
42:33
to get what you want?
42:35
Speaker 1: What is it?
42:36
Speaker 2: And for two, five, four or seven to seven. All right,
42:40
So let's talk about the cards you play to get
42:42
what you want, right, The sex.
42:44
Speaker 1: Card, the drunk card, I don't.
42:47
Speaker 2: Know, pick a card that you use to make me
42:50
feel guilty card, whatever that may be, to get what
42:53
you want. Everybody does it. The sympathy card. Is that
42:57
what that is called?
42:58
Speaker 1: All righty?
42:58
Speaker 2: Four two five four seven into seven eight Romeo, it's
43:01
funny that you say that, because every time I want
43:04
to go out to dinner and I don't want to cook,
43:08
I play the sex card not having sex with my husband.
43:11
Speaker 1: I just take a shower, start.
43:13
Speaker 2: To get ready, walk around half naked, and he starts
43:17
looking at me like what's going on?
43:18
Speaker 1: And I say, oh, I just want to go out
43:20
to dinner.
43:21
Speaker 2: And every time he takes me out to dinner, doesn't
43:24
matter if he just worked all day, doesn't matter, if
43:28
he's got other things to do. He always takes me
43:31
out to dinner.
43:35
Speaker 1: But that's what I mean, It works, right.
43:36
Speaker 2: I don't know if do guys have a card to
43:38
play with their wives? I mean, do you guys have
43:40
a have a wild card or something in your back
43:43
pocket to use to get what you want out of
43:45
your wife or your girlfriend. Or girlfriend's probably pretty easy.
43:48
But your wife, I mean, how.
43:51
Speaker 1: Exactly does that work? All right? Hey?
43:54
Speaker 2: Fourteen five, four or seven to seven? Because men, I
43:57
think men are pretty stupid, right, Either you get him
44:00
or you give them sex, and they pretty much give
44:02
you whatever you want, especially if they actually love you
44:04
and care about You're right, it's that simple.
44:07
Speaker 1: I don't know what dudes do. What card do you
44:09
play to get what you want? Already? Four two, five,
44:12
fours seven to seven? All right? So everybody's got a
44:15
card they play right in their back.
44:17
Speaker 2: Pocket just in case, you know, they got to use
44:19
it for something to get what they want.
44:23
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you got? Already? Four two five, four
44:26
seven to seven? A Romeo.
44:29
Speaker 2: I know this might sound a little shady, but I
44:32
am a single mom with three kids, and going out
44:37
to dinner is very expensive nowadays, so I always play
44:41
the Grandpa card. I call my dad, or I have
44:43
one of the kids call my dad and say say, pop, pak,
44:48
can we go out to dinner? And every time he
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says yes and takes all of us out to dinner.
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My mom knows I play that card, She's okay with it,
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but I don't know if he does or not, but
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it always works.
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm playing, right. Everybody's got a card they play.
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Speaker 2: Hey roam, If I need him to do something and
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he lags on me, I explicit I explicitly say I'll
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just do it myself, he jumps right up.
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, right. What cars do you play?
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What cars do you play? To get what you want? Already?
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Speaker 2: Four two five fours seven to seven. By the way,
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that one where you uh, where you say you'll do
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it yourself.
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Speaker 1: I've heard that card where where.
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Speaker 2: The wife will say, well, I'll just call my dad
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to do it, and he will also jump right up
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and get it done already four two, five fours seven seven?
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Speaker 1: What card do you play to get what you want? Already?
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Four two pop four seven to seven?
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Speaker 2: Uh hey, Romeo, my wife is down to have sex
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with me anytime, but if I want some freaky crazy
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uh sex, I have to give her a couple of
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drinks and his own. I guess you play the drunk
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card to get what you want too. That's all that's
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all it takes.
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Speaker 1: Hey, rome Hey.
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Speaker 2: What I do is just always I let these females
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know what number they are kind of like the DMV.
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If you're a number twelve and you know there are
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eleven girls in front of you, you know you got
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to step it up and go above and beyond beyond
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to matter. I know you like to make these chicks
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think they matter. I make sure they know they only
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matter based off performance. If a number twelve doesn't want
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to step up, she knows there are eleven chicks that will.
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I usually bring out the usually brings out their best efforts. Okay,
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I guess, I guess there you go. My man is
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running his life. You must have a lot to offer
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for huh.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Well there you go, aren'ty four
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two or seven seven?
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Speaker 2: Hey Romeo, you don't think it's wrong for couples to
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manipulate each other like that playing a wildcard, are using
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some sort of sex or money to get what they
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want out of their spouse. People are just supposed to
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love each other and do things for each other because
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they want to, not because they get something.
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Speaker 1: Out of it. Well, yeah, I get it. I mean
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I don't know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, you're right, But unfortunately, I guess you
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got to understand. I think most most relationships today are
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what do you call it transactional. I mean, I just
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I don't think just the world we live in today, man,
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nobody's loyal, nobody cares and loves in the same way
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that they used to. I just, I mean, I I
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agree with you, but I just think most relationships today
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are transactional.
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Speaker 1: I mean, wouldn't you agree with me?
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Speaker 4: Throw me over in the morning, every morning morning ninety
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four point one