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Are Women Doing Too Much In Dating? Gender Roles, Male Friends and Relationship Boundaries · So Shameless

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  Speaker 1: But it's not good to drink it on an empty
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  Speaker 1: stomach because it could, you know, do some unladylike things.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm doing good today.
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  Speaker 3: Really?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: Can you guess?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: Do you fall in front of your man? Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: Mmm. That's peace. Just.
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  Speaker 1: See, I think it gets to a point, but mine's
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  Speaker 1: don't be stinking, so.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, my boy. No, you want to know what's funny?
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  Speaker 2: Hear me out. Hear me out.
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  Speaker 1: No, let me tell y'all some real shit. When I'm alone,
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  Speaker 1: it smells crazy. Am I rolling and I'm staring at
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  Speaker 1: the wall?
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  Speaker 2: What was the song? No, when I'm alone... I smell
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  Speaker 2: it right now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry for talking like this. I'm really trying
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  Speaker 1: to be more ladylike these days, but this.
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  Speaker 2: Is the truth.
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  Speaker 5: It's okay.
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  Speaker 1: When I'm alone, my farts stink. But when I'm, like,
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  Speaker 1: laid up, they just don't stink for some reason. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what it is. I swear to God.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think you focused my shit.
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  Speaker 2: I swear to God.
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  Speaker 6: Like.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's just, I don't know. But it's really, he's like, yo,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. That's because he likes you.
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  Speaker 1: Nah, because I be even like, you know when you
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  Speaker 1: try to fart, like he ain't hear it, so you
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  Speaker 1: trying to see if he notice you.
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  Speaker 2: See if it passes nose. He just be smiling. I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: you ain't catch that. We good, we good. Please don't
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  Speaker 2: get Tahoe started on flatulence.
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  Speaker 3: Yo, I don't, this new era of women. It's like,
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  Speaker 3: and I was talking to my homeboy the other day.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all really don't give a fuck about being women no more.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 4: Because y'all bosses now. So y'all don't give a fuck
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  Speaker 4: about what... I don't mean I'm women.
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  Speaker 2: We're human. We're human. Man, woman, human. They don't even
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  Speaker 2: think we take a shit. I fart.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I was watching... I was on Instagram the
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  Speaker 4: other day. And this dude, this big.
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  Speaker 3: fucking dude comes across the street with his three kids, right?
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  Speaker 3: He runs up to this dude that was a shorter,
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  Speaker 3: skinny dude and he's like, yo, your daughter, your son
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  Speaker 3: hit my daughter? Your son hit my daughter? And he's like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what you're talking about. Yo, yo, yo,
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  Speaker 3: he hit your daughter, his son? So you could tell
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  Speaker 3: the big dude was going to put it on the
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  Speaker 3: little nigga. And the nigga was like, that's my baby
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  Speaker 3: mother's son.
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  Speaker 4: I ain't, I ain't, my son, I ain't got nothing
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  Speaker 4: to do with that.
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  Speaker 2: Right? And he like, who, who?
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  Speaker 3: That kid right there? Go beat up that kid. In
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  Speaker 3: front of the baby father and the mother.
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  Speaker 4: Right? So the kid goes over, puts hands on the
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  Speaker 4: kid and all that.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, If I was that woman, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not fucking that nigga no more. I don't give a
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  Speaker 3: fuck if that's not my son or none of that.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's expected for you to do man shit.
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  Speaker 4: It's expected for you to man up right now.
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  Speaker 3: You ain't got to win. You ain't even got to
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  Speaker 3: fight the nigga. But you can't come off like a
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  Speaker 3: punk and just out. You just dry snitch on my son.
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  Speaker 4: Yo, look over there. That was him. That ain't my son.
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  Speaker 4: That was him.
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  Speaker 3: So you can't get in a fight, but my son
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  Speaker 3: can get in a fight. No, it's expected to do
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  Speaker 3: masculine shit, right? Which includes getting beat up, sometimes die
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  Speaker 3: for your kids, die for your woman.
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  Speaker 4: You're supposed to.
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  Speaker 2: So it's expected for women.
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  Speaker 4: To do feminine shit.
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  Speaker 2: To not fart. The chat already spoke.
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  Speaker 1: I will never bring this up again because they told
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  Speaker 1: me you don't play that shit.
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  Speaker 2: So I was just letting him know. Sisters, let us go.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for the beverage. That's all I should have said.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for the backwards.
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  Speaker 7: Look, that was a very good analogy. Because I was like,
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  Speaker 7: where the fuck's he going with this? But okay, I
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  Speaker 7: do understand. I think, yes, I'm not going to just
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  Speaker 7: be busting one off right here.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: She be wildin'. I don't be riling. Hot boxing me.
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  Speaker 2: You already gave it to him.
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  Speaker 4: Under the covers? That's it.
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  Speaker 3: And you sitting there watching this shit, and that shit
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  Speaker 3: just comes. And it happens slow, too. It's like a
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  Speaker 3: slow creeper.
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  Speaker 4: You be like, oh! Yo. The fuck?
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  Speaker 7: My father, God rest his soul, we be driving in
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  Speaker 7: a car. Next thing you know, the nigga roll up
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  Speaker 7: the windows, lock them shits, and fart. He be like,
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  Speaker 7: basking in the ambiance.
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  Speaker 4: Basking in the ambiance. Absolutely foul. All right.
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  Speaker 2: That's so fucked up.
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  Speaker 4: Welcome back to So Shameless.
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  Speaker 3: I just want to say I'm really enjoying the energy
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  Speaker 3: in here today. Missing you, Dodge. Missing you, Trom. Where
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  Speaker 3: should I go with this? Oh, Paris is back.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, guys.
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  Speaker 2: I'm back.
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  Speaker 4: Lola's here. Okay.
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  Speaker 8: Hi.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like we should just get into some real
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  Speaker 4: toxic shit. What do y'all think? I got a bunch
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  Speaker 4: of them. I got a bunch of them. Right? Y'all
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  Speaker 4: know I like to say the toxicity for the second episode. Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yesterday is here, of course. But you're always here.
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  Speaker 2: He's always here.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: If I'm here, yes, he's here. Just know that. Yes, sir.
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  Speaker 3: I'm talking to this nigga about how he didn't always
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  Speaker 3: want to call out. He always wants to call out
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  Speaker 3: from work.
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  Speaker 4: Am I lying? Yes. Nigga, what are you talking about?
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  Speaker 4: Did you not call out from work?
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  Speaker 9: Bro, I've been here for two years and I missed, like,
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  Speaker 9: Six days in two years.
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  Speaker 4: How many did I miss? Multiple. You've been on vacations.
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  Speaker 4: You've been on cruises. You've been on all types of shit.
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  Speaker 4: I can't go on vacations. I'm not trying to hit this.
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  Speaker 4: I can't go on vacations.
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  Speaker 1: He's shot.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not trying to hit this.
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  Speaker 2: He's shot. I like that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not trying to hit this. So you work here? Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm here all the time. The boss don't be here,
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  Speaker 4: so I ain't got to be here. I'm here all
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  Speaker 4: the time. You are here a lot, but you call
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  Speaker 4: out a lot. I don't. Pull it up. Pull it up.
• 5:01
  Speaker 4: I could just scroll up a little bit. September 9th,
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  Speaker 4: are you available? No, I'm not. No, I have a
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  Speaker 4: school thing to do. Tell them to move it. The fuck?
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  Speaker 4: Fuck them kids. You make them kids after us. I'm
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  Speaker 4: talking about for me. Wait, are you going to school? Oh,
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  Speaker 4: you're in school, too? Yeah, I'm going to get my
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  Speaker 4: master's for education.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, period.
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  Speaker 4: Hello?
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  Speaker 2: I love that. I love this. Everybody in there back
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  Speaker 2: to school.
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 2: I'm right with y'all, too. Let's do this thing.
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  Speaker 4: That was a mean card to pull out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: He didn't even say it. He didn't even tell us that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want him to grow?
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  Speaker 4: He didn't say that. But why is you... September 9th.
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  Speaker 4: What's happening September 9th? I have a meeting with a school.
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  Speaker 9: My AP got me a meeting with the director of
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  Speaker 9: a school to see if they can get me in
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  Speaker 9: a program for fall.
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  Speaker 4: If not, then I'm going to get in for spring.
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  Speaker 2: You better work.
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  Speaker 1: See, that's the type of him we was talking about.
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  Speaker 1: The one that don't need to announce, but it come
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  Speaker 1: out when it needs to.
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  Speaker 4: He just hemmed me, for real. He definitely just hemmed me.
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  Speaker 1: He definitely just hemmed me, for sure.
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  Speaker 5: And he hemmed me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: For real.
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  Speaker 3: Why wouldn't you say that? Why wouldn't you hit me
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  Speaker 3: on the side like, yo, you know I'm going back
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  Speaker 3: to school for the Masters?
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  Speaker 4: We talked about that. We've never talked about you going
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  Speaker 4: back to school before.
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  Speaker 2: Wrong nigga.
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  Speaker 4: Wrong bitch. Wrong bitch nigga. Wrong circle moment.
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  Speaker 2: Wrong bitch nigga. Wrong circle moment.
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  Speaker 4: That's peace. Wrong bitch. You got me. Good call, man.
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  Speaker 4: That's a good call, right? Thank you.
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  Speaker 5: That was great.
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  Speaker 4: That was great. Support from the ladies. That's what men need.
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  Speaker 4: They need support from our women.
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  Speaker 2: That's funny as hell.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, I don't know what you niggas out
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  Speaker 3: there is doing, but y'all niggas need to stop fucking
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  Speaker 3: all your dope-ass female friends. Because your dick ain't never
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  Speaker 3: did nothing good for you in your motherfucking life. And
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  Speaker 3: you're about to ruin this fire-ass friendship that you got.
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  Speaker 3: Fuck up with her. Her friends ain't going to like you.
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  Speaker 3: You're going to be at the bar with your bum-ass
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  Speaker 3: nigga Idris.
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  Speaker 4: Just you and him. He ain't got no money.
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  Speaker 3: Where you could have called her, her friends. They make
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  Speaker 3: it live around you. They pulling other bitches. They giving
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  Speaker 3: you advice. Somebody trying to style on you. Here she
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  Speaker 3: come with the, yeah, wrong bitch. y'all need to yo
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  Speaker 3: yo especially if you.
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  Speaker 1: Know you ain't giving what you're supposed to give you
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  Speaker 1: gonna be talked about for the rest of y'all friendship.
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  Speaker 9: Don't do it Tahoe you cooking yo cause I think
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  Speaker 9: there's a thing with men where it's like every woman
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  Speaker 9: that they interact with it seems like they have to
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  Speaker 9: deal with in some type of way and that shit
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  Speaker 9: is a no I.
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  Speaker 2: Don't like that I don't like that narrative at all
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  Speaker 2: I hate.
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  Speaker 9: It it's like I don't know it gives creepy to
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  Speaker 9: me cause it gives like you can't just be It's corny.
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  Speaker 4: It's energy sucking. You're sucking the life out of everywhere.
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  Speaker 3: Some niggas I can't bring around women because he got
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  Speaker 3: to try to fuck something.
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  Speaker 4: Like, yo, damn, nigga.
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  Speaker 2: It's also very hurtful. Like, I have wrote this poem.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to recite it.
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  Speaker 4: Come on, let's go.
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  Speaker 7: I don't remember it by heart, but I will send
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  Speaker 7: it to you. But it was just like, why don't
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  Speaker 7: the boys want to be my friend? As a young
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  Speaker 7: girl that did not grow up with her brothers and
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  Speaker 7: don't have a lot of men in her family, when
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  Speaker 7: a guy considers me like his sister... That means a
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  Speaker 7: lot to me. Just for the nigga to turn around
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  Speaker 7: and want to fuck?
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  Speaker 1: So my question to you is like, as an attractive woman,
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  Speaker 1: do you feel like it's hard to find... good platonic
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  Speaker 1: men friendships not fine as in looking but just basis
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  Speaker 1: I met you in a mutual setting and now we're
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  Speaker 1: friends do you feel like it's kind of hard for
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  Speaker 1: you um it's hard for me to trust maybe they're
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  Speaker 1: not all thinking of it that way but if we
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  Speaker 1: haven't been friends for a long period of time and
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  Speaker 1: we haven't you know formulated that relationship where I trust
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  Speaker 1: you in the back of my mind it's always like
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  Speaker 1: hmm like I hadn't met this guy I knew he
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  Speaker 1: was a friend of my cousin so We were all
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  Speaker 1: out and about.
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  Speaker 7: And I was like, what's your Instagram? Because I know
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  Speaker 7: my cousin would post his Instagram. So I'm like, what's
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  Speaker 7: your Instagram? He was like, I'm sorry, shorty, I'm married.
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  Speaker 7: And I was like, oh, I don't want you.
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  Speaker 2: But I thought that shit was dope, right? I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I fucked with you.
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  Speaker 7: So whenever he would see me out, he'd be like, yo, cousin.
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  Speaker 7: Because I told him, you know, you're my cousin's friend.
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  Speaker 4: He shot you out the sky. He shot you out the.
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  Speaker 1: Sky, though.
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  Speaker 2: That shit was fire, though. I love a man that's like.
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  Speaker 2: All you can do is respect that. Yes, like, yes.
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  Speaker 7: That's the type of nigga I'm talking about. So, like,
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  Speaker 7: whenever we'd see each other, he'd always show me mad love.
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  Speaker 7: And then one day he had hit me. He's like,
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  Speaker 7: what you doing?
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, I don't know. He was like,
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  Speaker 2: come pull up. We going out.
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  Speaker 7: And then over the course of time, the conversation was like,
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  Speaker 7: I'm trying to kick it with.
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  Speaker 4: You, nigga.
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  Speaker 10: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: Blew it. Fucking blew it.
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  Speaker 7: Damn, I had so much respect for how you handled it.
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  Speaker 7: And he was like, I'm saying I want to hang
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  Speaker 7: out with you. And then, of course, I get to
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  Speaker 7: be me. You don't want to hang out with me, nigga.
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  Speaker 7: You want to fuck me.
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  Speaker 8: Hello?
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  Speaker 2: Damn, why you got to say it like that? Why
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  Speaker 2: you got to do this?
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, you making it weird. So, let me ask you.
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  Speaker 2: For everybody's advice, right?
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  Speaker 1: I've been in relationships where my partner would tell me,
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  Speaker 1: all of your male friends want to fuck you. And
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, nah, I got some really good platonic
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  Speaker 1: male friendships and they have not bust the move.
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  Speaker 2: But he like, if you give them the opportunity, they're
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  Speaker 2: going to take it.
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  Speaker 1: So like, am I naive for thinking that all my
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  Speaker 1: male friends don't want to fuck me?
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  Speaker 9: No, I don't think you're naive for thinking that. I
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  Speaker 9: think some of that is truth because I don't think
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  Speaker 9: everyone agrees.
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  Speaker 2: But I've had male friends that has never... I don't agree.
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  Speaker 2: I can be in the same bedroom with them.
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  Speaker 1: In a technical intimate setting, not necessarily like close up.
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  Speaker 2: That's weird.
• 9:49
  Speaker 1: But we could just be chilling in a setting, just
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: us kicking it like this and nothing has happened.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like, why don't I have the right to
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  Speaker 2: think that he doesn't want to fuck me?
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  Speaker 4: I think that's his insecurity. I think there's levels. to it, right?
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  Speaker 3: Because a lot of niggas are waiting in fucking, they're
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  Speaker 3: in just stealth mode. A lot of men are in
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  Speaker 3: stealth mode, but that depends on what a nigga thinks
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  Speaker 3: of himself and his character. Once I'm established as a
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  Speaker 3: friend to a woman, I will never, never look.
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  Speaker 4: At her like that again. Ever, right?
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  Speaker 3: But there's not a lot of niggas that got that
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  Speaker 3: type of, Discipline? Or something where they're able to, because
• 10:25
  Speaker 3: men look at women as sexual beings mostly only. I
• 10:30
  Speaker 3: don't look at my sis as a sexual being, right?
• 10:33
  Speaker 3: There's other levels of what a woman can serve in
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  Speaker 3: my life than being a sexual being. Most men, a
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  Speaker 3: lot of men, look at women as strictly sexual beings.
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  Speaker 3: What can you do but suck dick and fuck or cook?
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  Speaker 2: But once we already established that, why are you still
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  Speaker 2: sexualizing me? Like, I just helped you.
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  Speaker 4: With your girlfriend. Because that's all you really are.
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  Speaker 2: At the core of his being.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you hang around and you got to deepen your... Like,
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: you got to really, like, be the bro.
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  Speaker 4: Don't matter.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even want to... If I'm strictly going around.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: brothers or bros or my male friends, I don't even
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  Speaker 1: want to be sexified.
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  Speaker 2: Like, let me put on some calm.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even want you to even be a little
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  Speaker 1: tempted because I'm not, I'm not shy of the fact
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  Speaker 1: that I know I'm an attractive woman, but I don't want,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes I just want to have a good conversation with
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  Speaker 1: my parents.
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  Speaker 4: You just want to be with your friends. You just
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  Speaker 4: want to be in a friendship.
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  Speaker 2: You've been outside. You run to the store. You look crazy. Girl.
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  Speaker 2: Nigga's still trying to holler at you.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: So it don't matter what you put on when you're
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  Speaker 2: around those friends.
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  Speaker 7: If they don't look at you the way you want
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  Speaker 7: them to, which is like a sister to They're not
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  Speaker 7: going to one day.
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  Speaker 4: So I have a question, Paris. I'm sorry, I'm not
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  Speaker 4: going to go on.
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  Speaker 9: So you said you have male friends that you've hung
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  Speaker 9: out with and everything has been cool.
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  Speaker 4: Cool.
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  Speaker 9: And Tau said that if given the opportunity to, that's
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  Speaker 9: what we were talking about, right? So do you feel
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  Speaker 9: like that changes the thing? If you feel like those
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  Speaker 9: guys would not take the chance if you give them
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  Speaker 9: the opportunity? Does that change how you view it?
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  Speaker 1: So basically you're asking if I was to... give them
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: a pass do i feel like they would take it
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: honestly i feel like they wouldn't my because i don't
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: just go around brother brother but i'm not really that
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: like kind of person so if i build a brother
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: sister relationship with a man they they look at me
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: when i'm dancing like get that get out of here
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: like they don't even want to because you you know
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: when you know when a man wants you you know
• 12:13
  Speaker 1: when he's watching you you know you know and they and.
• 12:17
  Speaker 3: That's why i said for your man or your guy
• 12:19
  Speaker 3: friend whoever that was that was like yo that's a
• 12:22
  Speaker 3: little bit of insecurity on his part because it could
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: to me it was it's also like that nigga wants
• 12:28
  Speaker 3: to fuck you that nigga wants to fuck you yeah
• 12:31
  Speaker 3: you might I might be able to see yeah these
• 12:33
  Speaker 3: certain niggas but you saying all of them that's you
• 12:36
  Speaker 3: trying to kind of like get her away from all
• 12:39
  Speaker 3: them other niggas so that you know she can't have
• 12:41
  Speaker 3: certain positive male relationships in her life that don't contain
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: that cause I have you ever thought I want to B,
• 12:49
  Speaker 3: I think you're beautiful.
• 12:51
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Awesomely beautiful.
• 12:53
  Speaker 3: But it would turn my stomach if you ever called
• 12:55
  Speaker 3: me like, I'm trying to suck dick.
• 12:57
  Speaker 2: I want my friends to think I'm gross.
• 13:00
  Speaker 4: No, literally. These are my.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: Friends that I can show up for whatever. If she
• 13:03
  Speaker 3: needed a place to stay, yo, pull up. Matter of fact,
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: I probably wouldn't stay here because I think it's inappropriate.
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: I would probably stay in a crib. I'll go to
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: a wifey crib or whatever it be. But I feel
• 13:11
  Speaker 3: like we all need friends of the opposite sex. That
• 13:14
  Speaker 3: can be supportive of a community without thinking that the minute...
• 13:18
  Speaker 3: Because I can't imagine if dodge or court hit me
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: on some.
• 13:25
  Speaker 4: They want a piece of dick?
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: Certain things should be like.
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: I would be like, yo, I might cut you off.
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: That'll fuck the friendship up. I might cut you off.
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: That's a valid reason.
• 13:36
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? Like, yo, I don't even...
• 13:38
  Speaker 4: So how do we even back to.
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 13:40
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying?
• 13:42
  Speaker 3: So that being that, I do feel, yeah, I think
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: men can be extremely insecure.
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: That makes sense.
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: No matter how powerful we might come off, inside somewhere,
• 13:56
  Speaker 3: it can be very insecure about especially women's behavior because
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: we trophy y'all. Y'all are our prizes and shit like that.
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: Hate that, by the way.
• 14:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we trophy y'all a lot.
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: And then it puts an unfair expectation on your relationships,
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: your behavior, you know what I mean, the way you
• 14:12
  Speaker 3: present yourself, whatever it may be.
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: But, hey, we ain't all perfect. None of us. Male, female, grandma, moms,
• 14:22
  Speaker 4: none of us. You know what I'm saying? Absolutely. I'm
• 14:27
  Speaker 4: going to go into what? What? Why are you smiling?
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: That was a good one.
• 14:30
  Speaker 4: That was good?
• 14:31
  Speaker 2: That was really good.
• 14:32
  Speaker 4: That just happened.
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, organically.
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 14:35
  Speaker 7: Oh, yeah.
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: I'm going to talk about, let me see, what is this?
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: I'm just going to, this woman that I saw on,
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: I think, Facebook.
• 14:45
  Speaker 4: Or something. Facebook tanning up. This is Twitter. This is Twitter.
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: Shut your black ass up. This is Twitter. And this
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: might be a little long, but I do want y'all
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: to hear the whole thing. Okay, y'all.
• 14:55
  Speaker 6: So, I am trying to figure out if as women
• 14:58
  Speaker 6: we just need to stand up and do better or
• 15:01
  Speaker 6: if maybe I'm just being a hater and this is regular, like,
• 15:05
  Speaker 6: this is the regular dating scene. So, I have a
• 15:08
  Speaker 6: homeboy who is, you know, he's, out dating he's dating
• 15:14
  Speaker 6: about like three or four women right now and so
• 15:17
  Speaker 6: it's this one girl who he went on two dates
• 15:20
  Speaker 6: he's taking her on two dates and so.
• 15:23
  Speaker 3: I personally think when i heard that i already thought
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: she was hating i just want to let y'all know
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: the minute.
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: You start your pocket watching why you dick watching why.
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: You watching i'm fucking with and then you picking this
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: other one i just listening from here i thought she
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: was hating i'm not saying she was but.
• 15:39
  Speaker 6: She's like, okay, I'm planning our third date and I'm
• 15:43
  Speaker 6: going to pay for everything. And so he shows me
• 15:47
  Speaker 6: this itinerary that she made. And the itinerary starts like
• 15:50
  Speaker 6: at 8 a.m. and it ends at like, I don't know,
• 15:53
  Speaker 6: like midnight, 2 a.m. So it's like an all day
• 15:56
  Speaker 6: date she has planned with this guy. And so he's
• 16:00
  Speaker 6: telling me about it. And so, and I know how
• 16:04
  Speaker 6: people are, not just men, how people are. Someone could
• 16:07
  Speaker 6: be doing something really nice for you, but there still
• 16:11
  Speaker 6: could be something like in the back of your mind
• 16:15
  Speaker 6: that's just not being very kind. And so what I
• 16:20
  Speaker 6: mean by that is, I think I mentioned to him
• 16:24
  Speaker 6: or I said, did she lose points with you by
• 16:30
  Speaker 6: doing that?
• 16:31
  Speaker 5: And he was like, he kind of looked.
• 16:32
  Speaker 6: At me and he was like, Yeah, because it looked
• 16:38
  Speaker 6: like she don't give no niggas. Like she's desperate. I
• 16:40
  Speaker 6: took her on two dates. And now she's like, feel
• 16:44
  Speaker 6: like she has to like pay me back. Or it's
• 16:46
  Speaker 6: just like, it's just a date. That's what niggas do.
• 16:48
  Speaker 6: They pay for dates. He's only paid for two dates. Like,
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: and now she feels like she has to go all about. Like,
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: I feel like she's literally auditioning, which I know some
• 16:57
  Speaker 6: of y'all don't say, well, that's what dating is.
• 16:58
  Speaker 5: You're auditioning. Auditioning. I can't even get the word out.
• 17:03
  Speaker 6: But it gets to a point where it almost seems
• 17:06
  Speaker 6: like desperation. And I feel like there needs to be
• 17:10
  Speaker 6: a middle ground because I feel like there's women like
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: her who are tap dancing.
• 17:15
  Speaker 5: And then there are women like me who.
• 17:18
  Speaker 6: I think I'm so over the dating scene where I'm
• 17:21
  Speaker 6: just like, I probably should be nicer to men. But
• 17:27
  Speaker 6: then I see what happens when you're nice to men.
• 17:30
  Speaker 6: They looking at you like you a fucking loser.
• 17:32
  Speaker 5: Like, is he going to go?
• 17:33
  Speaker 6: Sure, he's still going to go. But I don't think that...
• 17:36
  Speaker 6: I think he was honest with himself. And he's like,
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: it wasn't really impressive. Like, it actually screams desperation that
• 17:43
  Speaker 6: she planned and, like, created a whole itinerary.
• 17:46
  Speaker 5: Like, 8 a.m. this time. 2 p.m. we doing this. Like,
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: it's a bit much.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Um.
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: Do I think that's something cute to do for, like,
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: someone who you've been, like, dating for, like, you know,
• 17:59
  Speaker 6: a long time or, like, you're in a relationship? Like,
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: get to the two-month, three-month mark or something. Like, are
• 18:04
  Speaker 6: you doing this on day three? Like, you really look desperate.
• 18:06
  Speaker 6: And I think what makes— I think, you know what, that's
• 18:08
  Speaker 6: probably what it is. I don't think that it necessarily
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: makes her look desperate. I think it's a nice thing
• 18:14
  Speaker 6: to do. But I think that because I.
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: Know what he's doing, it— is not sitting right with me.
• 18:21
  Speaker 6: Where I'm like, he literally went on a date the
• 18:24
  Speaker 6: day before and he has a date planned the day
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: after you.
• 18:28
  Speaker 5: He already has a date scheduled with the next bitch
• 18:30
  Speaker 5: the day after you.
• 18:31
  Speaker 6: Like, you're treating him like he's your only one and
• 18:38
  Speaker 6: you're really just an option to him.
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: So I don't know. I don't know why I'm even
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: talking about this. I just want.
• 18:43
  Speaker 6: I think what I want to do is get a
• 18:45
  Speaker 6: message out to women.
• 18:46
  Speaker 5: Like, you know when a man likes you. The fact
• 18:49
  Speaker 5: that she.
• 18:50
  Speaker 6: she's probably going to like try to hang out with
• 18:52
  Speaker 6: him the day after or try to figure out what
• 18:54
  Speaker 6: he's up to for the next few days.
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: And he's going to be unavailable to you is.
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: Going to kind of be a red flag where, but
• 19:04
  Speaker 6: I don't know.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: So maybe he don't say he working or something, but
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: I don't, The end.
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: If you do, the end if you don't.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: The end if you do, the end if you don't.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: And this is why I say, this man is literally
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: dating for the sport. You got men who date for
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: love and men who date for the sport of it.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: That nigga, he is chasing women.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: This is why.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: men chase women that don't like them and they feel
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: like that that's a throw for them that's what the
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: sport is it's the chase it's the yeah but then
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: y'all sit here and be like well women ain't doing
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: this and women she don't fucking like you but when
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: you get a woman who like you now she looks
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: desperate do you want to like you and put an
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: effort or not I don't understand the whole desperate analogy
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: now I can understand him thinking that he's her only
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: nigga like i i get that aspect but i thought
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: y'all was dating like what what are they dating for
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: the same thing because she felt like she it seemed
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: like she dated him because she really liked him he's dating.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: Her when do you even know what when a chick
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: is when y'all are dating for the same thing when
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: because you said it in the beginning After the first date.
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: How do you know?
• 20:09
  Speaker 11: No.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: We need to get that together quickly.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: And you think I'm telling the truth? Or am I
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: telling you something that will get me to second base?
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: Hmm. I feel like she did too much.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Because real quick, before you even go there, I'm just saying,
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: first date?
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: Yo, nah.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: I've been in a relationship before. I was in a
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: relationship for four years. You know what I'm saying? I'm
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: a relationship type of guy. But there's a lot of
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: bullshit out here, so I'm trying to see what's what.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: When I find somebody I want to be with, I'm
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: absolutely going to be with them. What does that mean
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: to you? Would that mean something to you?
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: We got him. That mean something to you? Because all
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: I said was, bitch, I'm trying to date until we
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: get to fucking to see if I like you enough.
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: But then I don't even know.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: But some woman is down with that.
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: Okay, but I didn't say nothing. You just said first date.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: We going to have a conversation.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: I didn't say nothing.
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: You said after the first date. You're not going to
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: know until we go through seasons. That's sad. You're not
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: going to know.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: That's sad. And that's why mean bitches run the world. See,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: the thing is, when we talk about dating intentionally... We
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: can't talk about whether a man is dating intentionally or not.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: It's about if I'm dating intentionally. So for me, intention
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: means if.
• 21:19
  Speaker 7: I meet somebody, I kind of want to get maybe
• 21:21
  Speaker 7: a week or two in chatting with them, talking on
• 21:23
  Speaker 7: the phone, texting, before we actually set the first date.
• 21:26
  Speaker 7: Because I might not even want to hang out with you, right?
• 21:29
  Speaker 7: So now, okay, you've passed that two-week thing. Let's go
• 21:32
  Speaker 7: out and we're hanging out.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Cool.
• 21:35
  Speaker 7: Eventually, as we start to progress in dating... Yes, we'll
• 21:38
  Speaker 7: figure some things out. But this is what I was
• 21:40
  Speaker 7: talking about as it pertains to providing. When we talk
• 21:44
  Speaker 7: about why do y'all make men still provide if we're
• 21:48
  Speaker 7: in a different era of life?
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: This is why.
• 21:50
  Speaker 7: Because men have to provide a certain level of interest
• 21:54
  Speaker 7: before you can be able to take them serious. Because
• 21:57
  Speaker 7: if you're just giving it to them, if all of it...
• 22:00
  Speaker 7: I get what homegirl was saying. I don't necessarily see
• 22:02
  Speaker 7: her as a hater. I see her as someone that's
• 22:04
  Speaker 7: trying to enlighten women to kind.
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: Of take it easy.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: We have to allow.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: No, it's not. We have to.
• 22:10
  Speaker 7: Allow men to be the man that we want them
• 22:13
  Speaker 7: to be. And if we want to be courted and
• 22:15
  Speaker 7: we want to be, you know, desired and wanted, then...
• 22:20
  Speaker 7: Like she said, two dates in and you're already planning something. Now,
• 22:23
  Speaker 7: it's nothing wrong with if y'all go somewhere for the
• 22:26
  Speaker 7: third date and you decide like, all right, I'm going
• 22:27
  Speaker 7: to put my card up and pay a little something.
• 22:29
  Speaker 7: But when we're investing too much time too soon, it
• 22:32
  Speaker 7: becomes underappreciated.
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: Let me ask you a question.
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: You just mentioned, real quick, yes, I know you waiting
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: in the steam, right? You just mentioned provide as if
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: just taking a person out on a date is provide.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: Women provide too. Women provide in all types of ways too.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: So her saying, look, You did it.
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: You did your big one.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: We went to Mace shows. We went to Prime, whatever
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: it be. I'm going to do my one, too, and
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: show you that I'm a nigga.
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: I'm a catch. I ain't just some bitch that look
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: good and all that. No, I'm a catch. I show
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: up for niggas. Here, I bought you. Look, I got
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: a discount over here. I copped it. Don't even worry
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: about it. Nigga, look at you. Like, you copped something
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: for me? It depends on what type of nigga.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: And this is why I started with you.
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: But that's why I said she hating.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, so then let's not even talk about whether the
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: girl is hating.
• 23:18
  Speaker 7: I said from the beginning, you don't need to just
• 23:21
  Speaker 7: meet somebody yesterday and tomorrow y'all going on the first date.
• 23:24
  Speaker 7: You should be dating with a little bit of intentionality too,
• 23:27
  Speaker 7: because that could avoid, you could have avoided creating this whole,
• 23:30
  Speaker 7: I think that shit is dope. That's some shit I
• 23:32
  Speaker 7: would do. And I've done things like that for men.
• 23:35
  Speaker 7: And if we're going based on patterns, maybe I shouldn't have.
• 23:38
  Speaker 7: Because I've done things like that where I've planned a
• 23:40
  Speaker 7: full day date and I'm giving you the effort that
• 23:43
  Speaker 7: y'all claim that women don't do and we make y'all
• 23:46
  Speaker 7: do everything. And then when we do it, it's kind
• 23:47
  Speaker 7: of like, she's desperate. I don't ever want to do
• 23:50
  Speaker 7: that shit again.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: But you're that type of person?
• 23:52
  Speaker 8: Go ahead.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: I was going to say, I think.
• 23:55
  Speaker 9: Men have that same problem where it's like, yo, we're
• 23:57
  Speaker 9: supposed to do stuff and we do it and then
• 23:59
  Speaker 9: we're not met with.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: The results that we might want.
• 24:01
  Speaker 9: We don't know who to do it for. But we
• 24:03
  Speaker 9: have to do it continuously. So it's not like, oh, well,
• 24:05
  Speaker 9: because you didn't do it, I can stop doing it
• 24:07
  Speaker 9: for all the rest of the women. We have to
• 24:09
  Speaker 9: continue to show up the same way. It's like the
• 24:11
  Speaker 9: bumblebee theory. Bees go around to different flowers, pollinating the flower,
• 24:14
  Speaker 9: and they don't know which flower has it.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying?
• 24:16
  Speaker 9: So it's like, yo, we're not going to stop pollinating
• 24:18
  Speaker 9: because we don't know if this flower has it or not.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: We have to keep doing it. I'm outside. I'm pollinating.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: But then, okay.
• 24:24
  Speaker 7: So with that being said, if you have a roster
• 24:27
  Speaker 7: of what she said, let's say there's three or four
• 24:29
  Speaker 7: women dating, right? And what you want is a woman
• 24:32
  Speaker 7: to be able to match your interests. And now you
• 24:35
  Speaker 7: go on two dates with this chick. She's clearly cool.
• 24:37
  Speaker 7: And now the third date, she's like, babe, I got
• 24:39
  Speaker 7: a full thing planned, a full day date.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: We're going to do this, this, and this.
• 24:43
  Speaker 7: Between the four women that you're dating, does she then
• 24:45
  Speaker 7: get to the top of the list?
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: If you're dating with intention.
• 24:48
  Speaker 9: If I'm dating the four women and the four women
• 24:51
  Speaker 9: have not planned anything as of yet, oh, she's going
• 24:53
  Speaker 9: up to the top.
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: She's rising to the top of that. For sure.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: For someone that is dating with intention.
• 24:58
  Speaker 7: But if you're not and it's just like, like you said, ego,
• 25:02
  Speaker 7: this bitch.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: On my dick.
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: Not every relationship I've been in, the bitch trapped me.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: Every relationship I've been in, she just did so much
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: that it was like, yo, you my girl.
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: She did way too much. You couldn't even deny it.
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: The pussy was amazing. She was fire.
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: But she did all of these extra things where the
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: other ones started falling off because she was making more.
• 25:22
  Speaker 5: Room for herself.
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: Bitch, move. I'm cooking.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: Look, I got you tickets to the Barclays. You going
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: over to Angelique's. I know you doing your content shit.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: I got you tickets to the Barclays.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not bumping her out the way for this
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: other bitch just because she got on Red Bottoms.
• 25:36
  Speaker 7: The same thing with the pollination. As women, like I said,
• 25:38
  Speaker 7: I love doing that. I'm a trick for a nigga
• 25:40
  Speaker 7: that I'm, oh my God, a trick. But as you said,
• 25:43
  Speaker 7: with pollination, when you hear shit like this, it becomes like,
• 25:46
  Speaker 7: I don't really know who to do that with. And
• 25:49
  Speaker 7: so for me, I'd rather just completely pace myself until
• 25:53
  Speaker 7: I'm a little bit more certain that you're worthy of
• 25:55
  Speaker 7: this energy and effort and money.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: I got fucking kids, nigga.
• 25:59
  Speaker 7: If I'm about to spend some money on you and
• 26:00
  Speaker 7: I got these fucking kids, you better be damn sure
• 26:03
  Speaker 7: worth it. That's how I feel. So I can see
• 26:05
  Speaker 7: both sides. I want to be that lover girl that
• 26:07
  Speaker 7: does all that. But to then hear that a man
• 26:10
  Speaker 7: says that's desperate, because if y'all play this back, when
• 26:13
  Speaker 7: she said the whole day-day, I started smiling.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: I thought it was so cute. And then it's like,
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: the bitch is desperate.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: I don't agree with that.
• 26:21
  Speaker 9: I think, like I said, he took her out on
• 26:22
  Speaker 9: two dates and if her response was like, all right,
• 26:24
  Speaker 9: like you said, you did that, this is how I'm
• 26:26
  Speaker 9: coming this time. I think that's dope. And I think
• 26:28
  Speaker 9: that's the shit that we always arguing about. We're arguing
• 26:30
  Speaker 9: about who's giving the energy. And it's like, yo, that's
• 26:33
  Speaker 9: are matching up energies, I would think, in that particular situation.
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: I love how you put it, though.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: That's where it's like, why should I stop being a
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: dope person? Yeah, I can't stop because you didn't go good.
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: The people you're sharing your body with, most likely by
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: the third date, she done sucked mad dick already. Most
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: likely by the third date, you done shed your most
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: precious shit.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: In the world. I'm wrong. I'm wrong.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: Another reason why you don't need to rush to the
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: first date.
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: She done did mad shit already that is kind of,
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: that is such. So what?
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: I can't show up as a better, more than pussy
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: ass bitch.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: Like I can't. I mean, most times after the first season.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: Which is why I said homegirl hating. I don't think
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: she's not hating. She don't want to do all that
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: for the old niggas. You know why she's hating? She
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: said she over niggas.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: Because look at her niggas.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Her friends have made her over niggas.
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: No, no, no. She's hating because once she started mentioning... Sorry.
• 27:20
  Speaker 7: Why would you put that in your mouth right before
• 27:22
  Speaker 7: you start talking?
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
• 27:24
  Speaker 9: When she started mentioning what other, what he had going
• 27:27
  Speaker 9: on after her, so she was like, oh, well, when
• 27:29
  Speaker 9: you're not with him, he's going to be occupied these days,
• 27:31
  Speaker 9: so don't you feel a way about that.
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: What that got to do with, what does that have
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: to do with her?
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: Y'all only saying it made her a hater because she
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: said something publicly, but if she would have checked him
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: on that privately, y'all might have perceived it a little
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: bit different.
• 27:42
  Speaker 9: I'm saying she's a hater because that is that, scenario
• 27:46
  Speaker 9: him whatever he's doing on the outside that's fueling her
• 27:49
  Speaker 9: opinion about him it's not just a take it's not
• 27:51
  Speaker 9: just like oh I think this is what you're doing
• 27:53
  Speaker 9: it's creating a situation where she's a narrative where she's
• 27:56
  Speaker 9: thinking like okay well because you're doing this that then
• 27:59
  Speaker 9: means that you're not going to take her seriously or
• 28:01
  Speaker 9: you shouldn't take him seriously because he's doing this.
• 28:03
  Speaker 7: She wasn't talking about him I don't think what she
• 28:06
  Speaker 7: was talking about wasn't it wasn't about her friend this
• 28:09
  Speaker 7: is my homeboy this is my friend as women I'm
• 28:12
  Speaker 7: telling y'all this is what my niggas be doing take
• 28:15
  Speaker 7: your time.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: That's what I think she was saying.
• 28:17
  Speaker 7: I don't think she's going to look at him any
• 28:19
  Speaker 7: different because if they've been friends long enough, she know
• 28:21
  Speaker 7: this nigga is who this nigga is. But baby girl,
• 28:24
  Speaker 7: take your time because this is what these niggas be doing.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: That's actually slow hate on me, your friend, too. That's
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: actually slow hate on me, too.
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: Like, just because we friends don't mean your friends can't
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: secretly not fuck with you.
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: But damn, I can't- Not fuck with your behavior.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: I can't make you accountable for being.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: A fucked up- You not. I'm dating because I ain't
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: got a girl. I'm single.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: It's not like he's- No, do what you doing. It's
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: not like she was saying he got a wife and
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: he a fa- No, he's dating because he's single.
• 28:52
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: Why are you trying to warn a bitch you don't
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: even know just because I'm single?
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: Because she a woman.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: But she ain't warning a bitch that's a gay woman.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: I don't know if the nigga's name is Paul McCartney.
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: But y'all women, y'all say all the... Shit.
• 29:05
  Speaker 9: But y'all women say all the time, y'all be like, yo, girl,
• 29:07
  Speaker 9: if he not doing X, Y, Z, date the other niggas.
• 29:09
  Speaker 9: Let the niggas take him to date. Let the niggas
• 29:11
  Speaker 9: do this. Y'all say that all the time, so why...
• 29:13
  Speaker 9: Why is it something different now?
• 29:13
  Speaker 7: So if women say that all the time, why can't
• 29:15
  Speaker 7: women also say, take it easy, baby girl, because these
• 29:18
  Speaker 7: niggas be out here doing the most. And then when
• 29:20
  Speaker 7: you do the most back, they call you desperate.
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: Matter of fact, this is what I'm going to do
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: right now. Since y'all done opened up the can of worms. Oh, God.
• 29:27
  Speaker 10: Let's take a few steps back now. Let's say I
• 29:31
  Speaker 10: meet you.
• 29:32
  Speaker 5: I like you.
• 29:34
  Speaker 10: I see you a serial dater, though. You might not
• 29:38
  Speaker 10: know I know what's going on, but we might be hitting.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: The same spots.
• 29:42
  Speaker 10: And I see I just took you out yesterday, and.
• 29:45
  Speaker 5: You on a date with another man. But we're dating.
• 29:47
  Speaker 5: We're dating. We're dating together. They're not together. We're dating.
• 29:50
  Speaker 10: Because you dating, that gives you, like, but what that
• 29:54
  Speaker 10: show is that you're a serial dater.
• 29:56
  Speaker 7: But you're out.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Why are you out?
• 29:59
  Speaker 10: We'll be falling out with nobody else.
• 30:01
  Speaker 5: We're dating.
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: We're not in a relationship, babes.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: That's not what I'm saying. We're not in a relationship, babes.
• 30:08
  Speaker 10: How you gonna lock that in if a nigga see
• 30:11
  Speaker 10: what your potential is?
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: When a nigga comes to the table and it's like, yeah, like,
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: you feel me?
• 30:15
  Speaker 5: I'm interested.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: You feel what I'm saying?
• 30:17
  Speaker 5: And I want you to be mine. I want to
• 30:19
  Speaker 5: make this an official date.
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: I don't have to.
• 30:22
  Speaker 10: Date no more.
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: Exactly.
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: Until you say that, we're gonna go outside.
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: All right, so you telling me that Oh, shit.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: I was a little overstimulated for a second.
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: What the fuck?
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was too much.
• 30:33
  Speaker 7: Over-talking and there was a lot happening. I don't really
• 30:36
  Speaker 7: understand what is the issue with any of them are saying.
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: All of these people are true. I don't want to
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: date a woman that's serial dating. Although I think that
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: y'all should... I would tell my friends to. I would
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: tell my female friends to.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Y'all don't want to date a woman that's serial dating,
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: but y'all still out here serial fucking on the low.
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: So why... So what's the problem? Because they are just hypocrites.
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: Y'all and us.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, double standards. I hate the double standards.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: No, you don't. No, you don't.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: Yes, I do.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: You don't hate it when it benefits y'all.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: No.
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: You don't hate it when it benefits y'all. I hate
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: the double standards. I don't want to know a woman
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: just don't care about....
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: So I have a question. Being around mad different dick energy.
• 31:14
  Speaker 9: So y'all have to be in a relationship in order
• 31:16
  Speaker 9: to not deal with other men? In order to just
• 31:17
  Speaker 9: deal with one guy at a time?
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: Or exclusively dating? Yes. For me to be exclusive and
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: not dating anyone else, I should be in a relationship.
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: So there's no other metric where.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: Based on my personal experiences, I choose to no longer.
• 31:33
  Speaker 4: Has it worked for you? Zero dating. Has it worked
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: for you?
• 31:37
  Speaker 8: No, no, no.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: What I'm saying is the opposite.
• 31:39
  Speaker 7: I have done the whole, I'm only dating him, even
• 31:42
  Speaker 7: though we have not made it official.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: And that hasn't worked for me.
• 31:46
  Speaker 7: That has left me hurt and confused because we're playing
• 31:49
  Speaker 7: this relationship thing by having this exclusive dating thing. And
• 31:53
  Speaker 7: then it becomes like, well, we didn't make it official.
• 31:57
  Speaker 7: I don't ever want to put myself in that situation.
• 31:59
  Speaker 7: So I'm not purposely like, okay, me and Yes is
• 32:01
  Speaker 7: dating and now I'm purposely going to go and date
• 32:03
  Speaker 7: multiple people. But if the situation appears, why not? I'm
• 32:10
  Speaker 7: not going to turn down a date.
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: Because I'm never going to look at you the same.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Then that's your fucking business.
• 32:13
  Speaker 7: And that's what I mean by dating intentionally because maybe
• 32:16
  Speaker 7: that just means that you and I are not aligned
• 32:18
  Speaker 7: in what we think dating should be.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: Do you not understand how men move?
• 32:21
  Speaker 9: I was going to say, also, isn't it a practice
• 32:23
  Speaker 9: how you play thing? So if we're dating, right?
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: That's what you think.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: And I'm telling you, I did that, yes.
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: No, I understand.
• 32:29
  Speaker 9: I completely understand how you could try that and it
• 32:31
  Speaker 9: could go left and you could feel like, you know what?
• 32:34
  Speaker 9: I'm not doing this shit again because I have to
• 32:35
  Speaker 9: basically put myself out there to allow myself to get hurt, basically.
• 32:38
  Speaker 9: But I think in order to... actually progress in that space,
• 32:42
  Speaker 9: that's something that you kind of have to do. Like,
• 32:44
  Speaker 9: you're always going to be in that position. You have
• 32:45
  Speaker 9: to put yourself out there and kind of got to
• 32:47
  Speaker 9: see what happens on the other end. You're never going
• 32:48
  Speaker 9: to be 100% sure before you put it in.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: Boy, my bad. Thank you. My bad. Take it easy.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: Put it in. I'm just like, yo.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: He's so sorry.
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: I thought we was all friends in here. My bad. Saying, wow, shit.
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: My bad. In front of the people. My bad.
• 33:02
  Speaker 8: Paris.
• 33:03
  Speaker 6: Yes.
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: You dating a guy. You like the guy. But you
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: don't really... Y'all ain't got it there yet, right?
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: Do you want this guy to see you or know
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: that you're out actively dating other people if you're really
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: interested in possibly furthering it with him?
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: I feel like being honest is the best way to
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: go because you never want to have somebody under the
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: impression of one thing when it's really the other. Especially
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: when I feel like if you let a man know
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: that he's the only one... See, I don't know, because
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: it could go both ways too.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: I feel like if you let him know.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: He's the only one he might treat you a little
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: bit different, being that he might think that you're only
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: exclusive to him. But at the same time, depending on
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: the nigga, if you also telling that he might start
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: treating you like shit because he feel like, well, I'm
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: your only nigga anyway.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: So it's just like, yeah.
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: Then date people that like you. Go back to that.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: I mean, respectfully.
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: Go back to dating people that like you.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: But I'm saying there's two different types of niggas, for
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: my perspective.
• 33:56
  Speaker 4: I was talking to my homegirl the other day, and.
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: I can't remember the exact situation, but I remember telling her, look,
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: Don't let the nigga find out there's other niggas, because
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: for one, there's two bad things can happen versus the
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: one good, the truth thing.
• 34:14
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: You got the truth thing where they can be like,
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: all right, that's cool. The truth thing for me, it
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: turns a nigga's head into.
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: All right, well, she doing her. I'm doing me. I
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: ain't really going to look at her like that. Who
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: knows what the fuck she doing?
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: That's the one.
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: The other thing is where the nigga now starts love
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: bombing you because now he's in an ego war with
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: the other niggas.
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: I got to get you away from them niggas. That's
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: what I was about to say too. So I'm going
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: to do whatever it takes just to get you away
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: from them niggas. And then once it's done. And once
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: it's done, bitch, please, how am I? You was fucking
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: mad niggas.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Like, you don't even know who you dating no more
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: because now the nigga, it's strictly about his ego. It
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: ain't got nothing to do with you no more. A
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: nigga will do whatever, right? And that's that love bombing shit.
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: And so then on the third part of it is,
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: I just don't know if... I do believe women should
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: not put all their eggs in one basket. I do
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: believe that because I think that niggas got y'all fucked up. Yeah,
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: my bad about this, Mike.
• 35:14
  Speaker 10: No, it's okay.
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: It's okay. Right?
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: I do think that niggas got y'all fucked up. And
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: like I said, I'm going to do me regardless because
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: I run the relationship play. The men run the relationship play.
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: The women run the pussy play.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: Okay. You understand what I'm saying? So.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, Tish just said, and I, in the chat,
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: I agree with her. She said, and I don't even
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: like dating multiple niggas, but life has taught me to
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: date them all.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: I'm the same type of person.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like every time I try to date multiple men,
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm a lover girl. I feel like
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: all I know how to do is be in a
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: relationship and just be that, which I don't think is
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: a good thing. Because I do feel like as you
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: get older, you should learn how to date respectfully because
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: everybody's not going to be your husband. But that's just
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: a me thing. I feel like every time I date
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: multiple guys... I be feeling like I'm in multiple different relationships. Like,
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: it really, it really, like, I guess I don't really
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: know how to.
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: It sounds fun though, your mindset, right? It sounds fun
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: as shit.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but at the same time, it's not because when
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: it comes down to it, you could, say you having fun, right?
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: You having fun all summer, it going to winter, you
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: could still be dang, Valentine's Day coming up.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: Who you choosing?
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: Now you got to wind up choosing somebody now.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: A lot of birthdays.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Your birthday, like it don't stay on a high of like, yeah,
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: I'm messing with you. I'm messing with you. We having
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: a good time. Because one of them niggas going to
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: want to be chose eventually.
• 36:23
  Speaker 8: And then.
• 36:24
  Speaker 7: But that's why you should be. And I've read this somewhere.
• 36:26
  Speaker 7: That is why you should be dating multiple men. First
• 36:29
  Speaker 7: of all, dating multiple men, even though Tahoe says after
• 36:32
  Speaker 7: the third date, you probably fucking.
• 36:34
  Speaker 10: Mm-hmm.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: You should be dating. And sometimes I don't have to
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: include sex.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: Who's not fucking after the third date?
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Some people ain't. No, you don't have to be dating.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: You don't have to be fucking everybody you date. Some
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: people ain't. So I don't love to interrupt when I'm
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: giving it all out. I'm just laying it out there. Respectfully, though.
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: That's a fact. That's a fact.
• 36:48
  Speaker 7: If you're dating multiple people, I have read that the
• 36:51
  Speaker 7: reason why we should date multiple people is so that
• 36:54
  Speaker 7: we don't get so caught up on the little minute
• 36:57
  Speaker 7: things that one person does that we're like... Oh, this
• 36:59
  Speaker 7: is amazing. That compare and contrast thing when dating is
• 37:02
  Speaker 7: very important. Because while you're saying, well, then Valentine's Day,
• 37:05
  Speaker 7: who's going to get chose? The nigga you like the most.
• 37:07
  Speaker 7: Because by that time, you would have realized that's the
• 37:10
  Speaker 7: one I want to be with.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: I don't like.
• 37:12
  Speaker 7: How he didn't, you know, let me know that he
• 37:15
  Speaker 7: was going to be a little bit late. But this
• 37:16
  Speaker 7: guy's like, hey, I'm running late. And he told me earlier,
• 37:19
  Speaker 7: you know, like you're able to compare and see what
• 37:22
  Speaker 7: most aligns with who you are.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: But I feel like it also depends on what you're
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: dating for. If you're dating just a date.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: But we're talking about dating intentionally. OK, so dating intentionally. Yeah,
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: I definitely understand where you come from.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: In my case, I feel like if it's like I'm
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: just getting out of a relationship, I'm not trying to
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: take nobody serious. I just want to date for the
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: fun of it. I know you're not sitting here trying
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: to make me your only girl anyway. Then it's like
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: having fun with it. But as far as like intentionally,
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: that's one reason why I feel like I like to
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: date one person, not only just for the intentions and
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: the benefits and stuff like that.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: Once again, I'm a lover girl. I like to feel
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: all in love. I like the theatrics. I like everything.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: And it's like, I like the fuck. I can't fuck
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: with y'all. So it's like, if I could just fuck
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: with this one nigga and he fuck me good, it's like,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: I'm good where I'm at. See, and that's, I'm the opposite.
• 38:04
  Speaker 7: I do love fucking, but I like fucking who I'm
• 38:06
  Speaker 7: emotionally attached to.
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: Like, mentally. It has to be all that. You know
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: what I mean?
• 38:12
  Speaker 7: I can't just be like, oh, damn, I wish I
• 38:14
  Speaker 7: could get a nut because I got a rose.
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: I got a barber. I got all the things. I
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: don't need that. But the man that I'm emotionally attached to, oh,
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: I want that. All day. Every day. Fucking bunny rabbit, jackrabbit. Honestly.
• 38:25
  Speaker 7: But I don't like enough of these niggas. I don't
• 38:27
  Speaker 7: be liking these niggas because they really be boring.
• 38:29
  Speaker 8: Yes.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: Their conversations be whack.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 38:32
  Speaker 7: They be thinking they him and they really not. They
• 38:35
  Speaker 7: don't impress me. They don't turn me on. They're not knowledgeable.
• 38:39
  Speaker 7: A lot of times, all they lead with is their money.
• 38:41
  Speaker 7: And it just be like, ugh, I'm not interested.
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: And the nigga that do got character, he know how
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: to do all that, get in your pants, and you
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: choose him out of all these other niggas. And he
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: off-dating spring now. Valentine's Day come around. Spring is a
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: month and a half away. Hey, the bitches is outside.
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: I'm outside.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: It's like, what are we going to do?
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: That's literally the thing.
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: I didn't really like what Paris said when it came
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: to switching it up. If she's a lover girl, be
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: a lover girl. Because switching it up You get good
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: at what you practice.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: Man, listen.
• 39:16
  Speaker 4: Whatever you practice, you get really fucking good at.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: And that's the problem.
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: I'm too good at it.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to do other shit. I don't
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: know how to date. I don't I don't know how
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: to date. I don't know how to date. I feel
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: like every time I take somebody serious or I get
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: into a relationship, I wind up getting played for taking
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: it too serious. So it's like, what are we really
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: doing here? It made me feel like at a point,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: am I too young to be thinking like this?
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: How old are you, Paris?
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: I'm 28.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: But I always felt like this. And granted, looking back now,
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: I was very, very young.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: What the fuck these little niggas got for me anyway?
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: But it's like, as I get older, it could also
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: be my type, taking accountability.
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: It could also be my type.
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: What's your type? I was about to ask that.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: Well, I feel like... Well, now my type is starting
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: to shift. But I feel like my type most... We
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: being honest.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: I have a problem with falling in love. Not falling
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: in love.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: I have a problem with really heavily fucking with the
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: fun niggas. And that was my problem. Because I felt
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: like I'm going to be the person to change the narrative.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: Because I got to take accountability.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: I got to do it. I feel like I'm the
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: one that.
• 40:20
  Speaker 8: But.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: It was working until it wasn't.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: So I'm the type that dates somebody that's not really
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: used to taking somebody serious, and then they wind up
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: taking me serious, and now I feel like, oh, see, look.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: The playing work, like, I'm different. I'm so different. And
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: it turns out I wasn't fucking different at all. The
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: nigga was just probably running game more. He just probably like,
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: you know what?
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: I could play well. Probably really did like you, though. No,
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: I don't even deny that I was loved heavily.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But I feel like once you give too much
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: of yourself to somebody that's not ready to.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: Receive it, they thought they was.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: But now that they see how much it is, they
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: either feel like they have more time to play with you.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Or they just don't see your value because you already
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: gave everything. So it's like, what's left for me to value?
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: And that's why nowadays I feel like, so to answer
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: your question, butt niggas, outside niggas, scammers.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: You going to have me doing this? You going to
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: have me doing that? That's my vibe. I love it.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Gangsta niggas all that. Yeah, that was my type. But
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: now I want to.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Date somebody who truly values me even when I'm not
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: in the same room with them.
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: Even if he ain't fun?
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: No, I'm never going to not date a fun nigga,
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: but I feel like the category of a fun nigga
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: nowadays is just a man who goes outside and likes
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: to do these things, but has literally no substance. Like,
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: they know how to have fun outside. They know how
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: to pop a bottle. They know how to take you
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: to a spot, take you.
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: On a million dates.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: But that's not their life like that.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: No, that's their lifestyle.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: But when it comes to intimacy, not sex necessarily, when
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: it comes to intimate settings, they just surface level.
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: The bitches come with outside. Understand that, Paris. Before.
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: She said fun. The bitches come without... No, she want
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: the nigga that's taking her where it's at.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: But she said she's shifting.
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: Guess who where it's at.
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: I did say I'm shifting.
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: But you said you always going to date fun niggas.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: No, but I said the definition of what people say
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: fun niggas are.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: That's the definition that I was using right now.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is, as far as verbatim, being
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: a fun person with a personality... that's I can't you
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: can't I play too much like you you have to
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: match my I can't date no boring ass nigga like
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: life too short like what.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: The fuck you serious all the time for what nigga
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: we all fighting.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: Something like we need somebody to make us smile I
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: don't got time for no nigga that's too serious but
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: as far as like um The definition of a fun
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: nigga in the dating world is just somebody who's fun
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: to be outside with.
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: But I do need somebody who... So what would fun
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: look like in a different way? As far as the
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: more positive way?
• 42:41
  Speaker 7: Yes, that you're working towards. Because you have to name
• 42:44
  Speaker 7: these things so that you can identify it when you
• 42:46
  Speaker 7: see it.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: So my version of what a fun, verbatim, a good
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: guy would be.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: um you just matching my vibe like you know how
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: to go out have a good time we don't have
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: to be in front of a million people we know
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: how to just have a good time with us you
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: know how to have a conversation we could go do
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: some fun shit let's climb some rocks or some shit
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: i don't know let's play a game at home let's
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: laugh let's make little jokes and stuff like that that's
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: my definition of a fun guy just somebody with personality
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: that just match my vibe like i need that a
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: lot of these and that's another thing too these fun
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: niggas be angry When you get home and you secluded
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: with them niggas, they be angry. They be mad at
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: the fucking world. But they go outside and look so charismatic. Well,
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: a lot of these fun niggas be broke as fuck.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: And a broke nigga's always angry.
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: That's a lot of these niggas. Because everybody got money outside.
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: Everybody's celebrity outside.
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: That's why I'm always in the house.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: Everybody wants some real shit.
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: I've become very frugal in my old age.
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: You know how many times I dated a nigga? And
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: then we get alone. And I'm like, what the fuck
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: is happening? I got catfish. I got.
• 43:45
  Speaker 4: Money fish? Money fish. I got money fish. Money fish
• 43:49
  Speaker 4: is crazy. Do you date niggas for the money that
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: they have?
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: I don't, but I feel like I should consider that more.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: I think that's the new season I'm getting into now.
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: Money? Yes.
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Like, you have to have a certain level of money
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: or have things going on because I feel like I
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: always date for love because I never was the type
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: to look at a nigga for his money because I
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: got money. So I don't really lead with that, but
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like when you lead with too much love,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: I feel like that the lines start to get blurred
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: and then when it's time to have those type of
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: conversations it makes it that much harder if you didn't
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: make that clear.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: I don't know if I would I don't know if
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: I'm against a woman dating for a nigga that's in
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: a good position in his life that's a different yes
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: I don't think I'm I don't necessarily know if I'm
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: gonna get there but who I am with money and
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: the life I'm able to provide and cause there's seasons
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: right right I met you at this one point in
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: my life and things was going well. I was taking
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: you to Hermes. We was doing whatever, you know, just
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: on some whatever shit. Life is good and I got it.
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: I'm in surplus. But with every hill comes a valley.
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: And that's just the nature of investing or, you know,
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: trying to be an entrepreneur or whatever. And so for
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: a woman that would start to date for a nigga
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: and you put the money into like a big category
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: when he's down, to me, that's always yielded a place
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: where she... doesn't find as much value where it's like
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: ah but did you just a different.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: Nigga because you had money or did you dare because y'all.
• 45:11
  Speaker 7: Was compatible but i'm asking about you he's talking about
• 45:14
  Speaker 7: you because the difference is there's money and there's ambition
• 45:18
  Speaker 7: right if you're dating an ambitious man like tahoe said
• 45:22
  Speaker 7: investments you're not always up but you know that his
• 45:24
  Speaker 7: mentality he's gonna get back.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: Up i'm definitely i feel like i've been in that
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: situation and i feel like i'm open to it because
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: especially being an entrepreneur you're gonna that's just the lifestyle
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have it sometimes you're not like I'm okay
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: with that.
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: Because I'm gonna keep it real with y'all and this
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: is a big thing that's happening in my life right
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: now I haven't really spoken about it um when I
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: met my lady I had run into a six figure
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: bonus amazing right what I do I went and invested
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: into so I was buying her jewelry $ 4, 000 watches she
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: got mad bags all types of shit we going on
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: vacations all types of shit.
• 46:02
  Speaker 4: I tried to invest in a restaurant, Treehouse, over there
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: on Marcus Garvey.
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: I bought it. I tried to buy it. I tried
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: to buy it, but not signed the paper, whatever. It
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: turned out to be a scam. This shit cost me $ 150, 000
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: that I've been paying.
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: Off for the last five years. Paying that off, right?
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: Bro, I got, yo, my entire personality, I want to say,
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: was just different. I was not able to do the
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: same things. I was not able. And I forgot who
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: I was. I literally forgot that other version of me
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: that wasn't in turmoil. And in the midst of that,
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: lost friends. My other show was fucked up. So I
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: was tumbling like through hell. And recently, over the last
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: six months, I know my cousin's like, yo, you should
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: spend the money. Because I paid off all my credit. Like,
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: my loan is over next week.
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: Not this week. Next week, my pension loan is up.
• 47:00
  Speaker 4: I paid off. You know what I mean? My credit
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: then ran up to eight and change. So she's like,
• 47:07
  Speaker 4: one day after another, here's a bag coming for her
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: or this coming. And I'm like, oh, shit.
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: I forgot I was really this nigga. Like, I like
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: tricking on my bitch.
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: You know what I mean? But I couldn't for mad long.
• 47:20
  Speaker 3: If we didn't meet in a way that wasn't like that,
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: Say if she would have just saw me as a
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: money nigga or whatever, she would have bounced on me
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: a long time ago.
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she would have never made it to the.
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: She would have bounced on me a long time ago
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: because I didn't even remember tricking.
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: I haven't. You know what I'm saying? I don't know
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: if it's tricking, but it's like.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: But what caught you up was ambition.
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: I'm ambitious.
• 47:41
  Speaker 7: You're very ambitious. You're always going to take risks. You
• 47:45
  Speaker 7: have a big persona and you know it can get
• 47:47
  Speaker 7: you far and I'm going to do this and I'm
• 47:49
  Speaker 7: going to do that.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: That's what.
• 47:51
  Speaker 7: women need to start looking for the ambitious man because
• 47:54
  Speaker 7: essentially he's never going to go broke anyway because there's
• 47:56
  Speaker 7: always going to be something in the cut for him
• 47:59
  Speaker 7: to fall back on.
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: But you need an ambitious man that makes good decisions.
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: Well, that's a fact.
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: That's very true. That's very true.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Don't be ambitious and be fucking us up.
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: There's ambitious niggas and there's niggas that have you in
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: a hole somewhere. Nigga always like, yo, let me get $ 3, 000,
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: I'm going to flip it.
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't be ambitious with my money, nigga.
• 48:15
  Speaker 4: Get rich quick scheme.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: That's a fact.
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: Love this conversation. I got a few more I have
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: a half an hour more of your time?
• 48:23
  Speaker 4: Half an hour. And we out of here. We good. No,
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: you was out here selling cat. I didn't know what
• 48:29
  Speaker 4: you was doing. Honestly. One of these niggas watching this shit.
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: Hello.
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: You got money? I'm going to take the highest bidder.
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 48:36
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: Just kidding.
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: Just kidding.
• 48:41
  Speaker 11: One thing I personally don't do at all is like
• 48:44
  Speaker 11: women's pictures. It's my opinion that it's extremely disrespectful. Here's
• 48:47
  Speaker 11: my rationale behind it. For one, I think that when
• 48:49
  Speaker 11: you like a woman's photo, you are essentially telling her
• 48:51
  Speaker 11: that she's pretty. In my head, if I like your photo,
• 48:53
  Speaker 11: you're going to think that I like you. For one,
• 48:55
  Speaker 11: I don't. For two, if I did, I shouldn't. And
• 48:57
  Speaker 11: for three, if I did, I shouldn't be telling you anyway.
• 48:59
  Speaker 11: All of that is just too much for me. I
• 49:00
  Speaker 11: don't think liking a woman's photo is any different. For
• 49:03
  Speaker 11: me and my woman being outside and a woman walking
• 49:05
  Speaker 11: by us and I turn and I look, I think
• 49:07
  Speaker 11: that's the same thing to me.
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: Disrespectful. It's sloppy. It's loud. It's thirsty.
• 49:11
  Speaker 11: You telling her that she look good without you actually
• 49:13
  Speaker 11: saying it, even if she do look good, okay? It's
• 49:15
  Speaker 11: not my job to tell her. There's plenty of, there's
• 49:17
  Speaker 11: a thousand other niggas that's going to tell her. And
• 49:19
  Speaker 11: this is the most disrespectful part to me. It's what
• 49:21
  Speaker 11: that other woman can deduce from me liking her photo.
• 49:24
  Speaker 4: And God forbid you like more than one. Now she
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: thinking my girl a dweeb. She like, oh, I can
• 49:28
  Speaker 4: take her nigga. Her nigga easy. Her nigga ain't worth having.
• 49:30
  Speaker 11: And that's the last thing I want is to make
• 49:32
  Speaker 11: my woman look stupid or not be respected by other women.
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: Now, I'm going to be honest with you.
• 49:36
  Speaker 11: Even if I was single, I wouldn't be liking women's
• 49:38
  Speaker 11: photos because I don't think it's much of a benefit
• 49:40
  Speaker 11: to it. I don't want the woman that I end
• 49:42
  Speaker 11: up with in the future to ever see my name
• 49:44
  Speaker 11: hovering around somebody's photo in a little heart box saying,
• 49:47
  Speaker 11: look at your thirsty ass nigga over here.
• 49:49
  Speaker 4: Nah, I don't want that. So, fellas, even if you single,
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: just chill out. Be smooth. You don't got to like photos.
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: Be reserved. Be more tactical than that. Period.
• 49:58
  Speaker 7: Until he mentioned that he had a woman, I was
• 50:00
  Speaker 7: a bit confused. But once he said, like, I don't
• 50:02
  Speaker 7: want my woman looking like a dweeb, it was like, okay,
• 50:05
  Speaker 7: I can respect.
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: Oh, it made it about you.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, period.
• 50:07
  Speaker 7: Like, because what is the big fucking thing? I want
• 50:09
  Speaker 7: everyone to stop being so goddamn strategic all the time.
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no. Disagree. Thousand percent disagree. So, both you.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: And Yes have liked a picture of mine or two.
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: You're my friend. Period.
• 50:21
  Speaker 3: My people know you're my friend. I'm not just liking
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: random shit. And I'm like, look at my explore page.
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: There's nothing but ass up and down my explore. That's
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: because I look, I stare at them, and I keep going.
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: But liking ass pictures.
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: I'm not commenting. I'm not liking. I'm not signaling. I'm
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: not doing none of that.
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: Because you're in a relationship.
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: But that's what I was saying. I'm not doing none
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: of it.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: And to the other point that he was saying, shorty,
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: I don't need nobody to think that I'm on their back.
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: I'm him.
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: That's exactly what they're going to think. And they're going
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: to think they got one up on you just because
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: your nigga mine. See, there's a lot of women that's
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: weird like that. Just because you're a man like my picture,
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: I'm that much more than you. And that's why I
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: hate this whole dating publicly thing.
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: Because once somebody know that.
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: You're in a relationship and then you do a little
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: weird shit like that, people start to think that they
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: know something about your relationship. And then it just makes
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: it just give them something to talk about.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: I don't play that liking shit. I don't remember. I
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: said I thought he was single.
• 51:11
  Speaker 4: Oh, we got him.
• 51:12
  Speaker 7: I mean, before, I thought he was in a relationship.
• 51:14
  Speaker 7: I thought he was talking just as a regular man, like,
• 51:17
  Speaker 7: I'm not liking no pictures.
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: It's like, nigga, shut up.
• 51:19
  Speaker 4: He said if he was single, he wouldn't.
• 51:20
  Speaker 7: Yeah, once he said, you know, it was a single thing,
• 51:22
  Speaker 7: I was like, okay, he's in a relationship. I could
• 51:24
  Speaker 7: understand how that might look.
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: He said even single, he wouldn't.
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: Single, I don't think it's that serious, but in a relationship, no.
• 51:31
  Speaker 5: Like, nigga, whatever.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: It's not that serious.
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: You would get mad at your person for liking?
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: What the fuck are you doing? If I'm in a relationship,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: nine times out of 10, from the relationships that I've
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: been in, they always been a big thing. It always
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: been a big public thing. And from the peeps that
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: you did see, It's like, it's so many eyes and
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: attention and it's over. Like, and then my thing is
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: this too. I don't know what the fuck you liking
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: it for. You could be liking it because she look good, right?
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: You could be liking it because you fucked up before.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: You like how she look now. You could be liking
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: it for so many different reasons.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't know. I don't want to know. I don't
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: want to figure it out. Don't do it.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: Because now if I like a nigga with a fucking
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: big ass dick print, what the fuck are you going
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: to say?
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: Wait, what?
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: That's how your algorithm set up? No.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, if somebody's sitting
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: in a fucking bikini or some shit, or even just regular,
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like you should give that access. I
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: personally feel like that's a disrespectful thing to do in
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: a relationship because it gives something to talk about.
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: And I don't think that's respectable.
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: Because once again, you don't want to be casually minding
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: your business on Instagram and you see a nigga jumping
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: up and down in his sweats and I'm right there.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: He doing fucking calisthenics and shit.
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: His dick is right on his leg.
• 52:38
  Speaker 5: I ain't going live, bro.
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: I see my girl, she liked or she follows this rapper.
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: She don't even listen to rap.
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: I'm right.
• 52:48
  Speaker 5: How'd you see that?
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: How'd you see that? How did you see?
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: You know, it suggests shit. And it'd be like, followed
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: by your bitch and 189 of a thousand motherfuckers. It'd
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: always be like that. Your girl commented. And I looked,
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: but I was like, I ain't really insecure like that.
• 53:01
  Speaker 4: But it did give me a little like, I'm going
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: to listen to this nigga's music and all that.
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: Now his music got all that.
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: Nigga music is all right. Nigga music is all right.
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: But I'm like, she don't listen to rap.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: So obviously she might probably got an attraction to the nigga.
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: Maybe she followed him before we was together or whatever
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: it may be.
• 53:16
  Speaker 7: Maybe she grew up with the nigga and seen like,
• 53:18
  Speaker 7: oh shit, that's.
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: The nigga from second grade. He ain't from New York.
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: He ain't from New York. He ain't from New York.
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: Tower of the Desires. He found out all the info.
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: He found out all the info. He said, nah. Oh no,
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: this nigga. You just found this nigga, yeah. But I
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: mean- It's too much.
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: I try not to be so sensitive about shit because
• 53:36
  Speaker 3: I believe that you're going to.
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: You're still you. You're still you. So I don't really
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: try to.
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: Especially how I'm going to get mad at her and
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: I'm on here talking about fucking bitches from seventh grade
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: or fucking bitches this year or fucking it because, you know,
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: I got my other show and shit. So I be
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: talking about wild shit. So how I'm going to really
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: be policing.
• 53:55
  Speaker 4: Right. You got to follow when I'm talking about, yeah,
• 53:57
  Speaker 4: I went to this bitch crib and her friends there,
• 53:59
  Speaker 4: I fucked both of them. Like, she got to... You
• 54:01
  Speaker 4: know what I mean? Yeah. So I try to.
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: measure how much outrage I could really have when it
• 54:08
  Speaker 3: comes to shit like that.
• 54:09
  Speaker 4: That's a very good point, Tom.
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to seem like I'm controlling in
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: relationships because I feel like that's not my problem.
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: But you're a little too gangster to be so sensitive.
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: But most gangsters are sensitive.
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the cover.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: But what was we just talking about? The insensitive, sensitive people? Nah,
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: because I feel like y'all was saying that in a
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: different context.
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: She said, nah, hold on a second.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: Because wasn't y'all saying it in a way where.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: It's like, I'm going to throw rocks and hide my hands.
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: Like, I'm going to insult you, but don't insult me back.
• 54:41
  Speaker 4: Right, right, right.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't do no shit like that. So you
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: don't like niggas' pictures either when you're in a relationship?
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not. Absolutely not. I don't.
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: Unless it's my brother, male friends. And when I have
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: those male friends or whatever, I make sure that they're
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: familiar with my guy and vice versa. Like, I would
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: never leave room for confusion and be like, who the
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: fuck is this nigga?
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: And she posts them. Like, she posts them on her feed.
• 55:02
  Speaker 4: They do photo shoots and shit like that.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: All types of shit.
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: So she's like, actively, I'm in a relationship. Even though
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: I'm shaking my ass at Scarlett's.
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: I'm shaking my ass on my friend's story. I'm shaking
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: my ass in the club.
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: I'm shaking my ass on my car. I'm shaking my
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: ass at home. I'm shaking my ass in front of
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: your mother.
• 55:18
  Speaker 4: But she's actively saying, look, this is my nigga. Look
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: at his face. This is him.
• 55:22
  Speaker 5: No, absolutely.
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: And I respect my relationships 100%.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: Obviously, it did get tricky with stuff like that, but.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: Overall, I do like for my partner to still have...
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: I still want you to be who you are. I'm
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: not coming with a million rules and a million this, that,
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: and the third. But I do feel like that's a
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: form of disrespect. And I would just prefer for you
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: to have that respect for me as I would for you.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, would y'all agree to
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: a y'all relationship? Can't nobody ever say that's wrong or right.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: Especially when it's a certain... not to make it so
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: dramatic but if you see jay-z liking up somebody like
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: photo y'all gonna be like hold it must be going
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: through something shit in a relationship that's just naturally what
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: people do in certain types of relationships so it's just
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: like i don't i don't want that type of like
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: we've been broken up for a year and people still
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: bringing up our names to each other like i just.
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: I don't like he said i'm gonna stay my ass
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: off of social media i'm on a burner account I
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: don't know.
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: No, I know. I see.
• 56:14
  Speaker 9: Well, yeah, I'm listening to this. I'm like, wow, this
• 56:15
  Speaker 9: is fun. This is all fun. So I'm a, I'm
• 56:19
  Speaker 9: a liker. I like stuff on the gram, like, but
• 56:20
  Speaker 9: I like a lot of shit. Like, so it's not
• 56:22
  Speaker 9: like exclusive just to women, but, um, there is a thing.
• 56:26
  Speaker 9: Cause I know what he's about to do. So there
• 56:27
  Speaker 9: is a thing within the community. And for some reason
• 56:30
  Speaker 9: they just, everybody in the community, somehow some, some way
• 56:34
  Speaker 9: so happens to catch me in a certain community of, uh, people.
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: Plus size community people.
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: Okay. BBWs.
• 56:42
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: You look like a BBW liker.
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: Period.
• 56:46
  Speaker 4: Why you breathe like that? Because you didn't say it.
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: I like thick women.
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: I'm liking y'all shit.
• 56:51
  Speaker 5: What up?
• 56:51
  Speaker 4: No, I... Like, what are we hiding for?
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: No, no.
• 56:54
  Speaker 4: I'm not hiding it. But, no. Tahoe and our community.
• 56:57
  Speaker 4: Don't believe me. I'm just saying. Yeah, see, look. It's
• 57:00
  Speaker 4: right in the Discord. It always says, like, buy, yes, say,
• 57:02
  Speaker 4: and follow. Everything. No, that's not true. Everything moving followed
• 57:05
  Speaker 4: by yesterday. That's not true.
• 57:07
  Speaker 9: Listen, I like to support the independent creators. I like
• 57:10
  Speaker 9: to support the independent creators. I know my base.
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: What's an independent creator?
• 57:15
  Speaker 4: Independent content creators.
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: Oh, just period?
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.
• 57:18
  Speaker 3: You know how embarrassing to every time a chick picture pass,
• 57:22
  Speaker 3: it say liked by yesterday.
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: Why is that embarrassing to you?
• 57:24
  Speaker 4: It's just like, yo, have a.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: It do make him look easy. It make you look easy.
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: But I'm not. That's the funniest part. It does. It does.
• 57:31
  Speaker 4: It does.
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: It makes you look kind of easy.
• 57:33
  Speaker 7: And see, that goes into what the difference is between
• 57:36
  Speaker 7: how people use social media.
• 57:37
  Speaker 8: Exactly.
• 57:37
  Speaker 7: Because even if it wasn't just the BBWs, yes, like...
• 57:42
  Speaker 7: He likes Jordans. He's into fashion.
• 57:44
  Speaker 4: He likes music.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: He likes Aperol Spritz. He likes a lot of things.
• 57:49
  Speaker 4: As a creative.
• 57:51
  Speaker 3: We follow each other. I don't never see the Aperol Spritz.
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: But that's what I'm saying. Maybe that means you're just
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: a whole bunch of ass.
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: If you only see him in a whole bunch of ass,
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: that means you're looking at a bunch of big ass.
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: It makes you look easy, bro. And it makes you
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: look hungry.
• 58:05
  Speaker 3: Just because you follow them and you follow them, their
• 58:09
  Speaker 3: pictures is going to pass.
• 58:10
  Speaker 4: And if you stare at it long enough, the algorithm
• 58:12
  Speaker 4: is going to say, okay, good. We got you. We'll
• 58:14
  Speaker 4: swing this back in 15 minutes. You ain't got to
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: shout out to her. Yo, I liked it. Yo, I
• 58:20
  Speaker 4: liked that one. You don't have to do all that, bro.
• 58:23
  Speaker 9: But listen, bro, I like to support the creators. Why
• 58:26
  Speaker 9: can't I support the community that I want to support?
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: Well, pick and choose. Choose 10. You got every single one.
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: Liked by yesterday. Bro, you like Maul, bro. You like Maul.
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: You're like Maul. Except he do money bags and you
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: just do likes. And it's embarrassing. Well, listen, I've been.
• 58:42
  Speaker 4: As your family... He's my cousin. I love him to death.
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: I love him. I'm never going to stop fucking with him.
• 58:46
  Speaker 4: I love him. It's embarrassing. Listen, I've been cutting it down.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: Don't cut it down. If that's what you like to do,
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: fuck what everybody else is.
• 58:52
  Speaker 4: No, listen.
• 58:53
  Speaker 9: No, I've been cutting it down as of recently. So
• 58:55
  Speaker 9: everybody should be fine.
• 58:56
  Speaker 7: You know how they had that thing where it was like,
• 58:58
  Speaker 7: as a creator, it costs nothing.
• 59:00
  Speaker 4: Why are you cutting it down?
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: Because you niggas is cutting his ass.
• 59:02
  Speaker 9: No, I'm cutting it down because I talk to somebody
• 59:05
  Speaker 9: and I'm dating somebody.
• 59:07
  Speaker 4: Okay. So I'm just trying to be better about it. Man, listen.
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: Now you agree with homeboy.
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: If everything else popped up, I feel like that would
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: change the narrative. But the fact that it's only ass
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: do make you look easy.
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: That's just what it is.
• 59:18
  Speaker 4: It only be ass, I hope. I don't see no
• 59:20
  Speaker 4: Aperol ads. I don't see no fits. All the shit
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: she talking about. They don't send any Jordans.
• 59:25
  Speaker 3: We follow with each other and we always interact with
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: each other. So what you interact with and you repost,
• 59:30
  Speaker 3: I would see.
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: You be reposting?
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no. I ain't never see that.
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: Reposting is like, that's going to happen.
• 59:36
  Speaker 4: Reposting, that's like. Oh, yeah. That's like adding to your profile.
• 59:39
  Speaker 4: If your girl reposts a nigga on her Instagram.
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: You have a problem with that? Repost what? Like a
• 59:43
  Speaker 4: picture of a nigga. Like he just took a picture.
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: But why would she do that?
• 59:46
  Speaker 4: That's crazy. I just wanted to know. I just, I
• 59:48
  Speaker 4: don't even, I would be so confused.
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: Like, what you reposting this nigga for?
• 59:52
  Speaker 4: Is it content? Because I'm me.
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: So what are you doing? No, it's almost, this is embarrassing.
• 59:56
  Speaker 3: People know me. What is you, what you trying to say?
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: That's a bit weird.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: That's just, that's actually like you, you, you.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: That's OD.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah. That's great. That's a bit weird. You walk
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 4: in with a nigga hugging, like you hold their hands.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 7: We usually repost things we want to share with our community.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 4: When we was in an open relationship, right? She had
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 4: an open, when we, when we were.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: Why were you? Was this in the beginning?
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 4: No, we like fucking people. What do you mean?
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's so cool. Oh, you were upside down pineapple?
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Well, no, no, no, no, no, we aren't. No? No,
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 4: I don't swing. We don't swing.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's strictly for swingers.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 4: When we were, yeah. Okay. When we were at a time.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: That's so cool.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: She was on hinge. Mm-hmm.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: One of my homegirls hit me like, yo, bitch over here.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 4: I'm like, nah, she can do her thing. I'm doing
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 4: my thing. She doing her thing. That's what it is.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 4: And that's why you got to have female homegirls. Yeah.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: Wait, but how that female homegirl seen that? She looking
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: for girls too?
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: She was on edge.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 5: Oh, okay.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: She's looking on edge. But how does that work?
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: Like, well, I know how an open relationship works, but
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: I guess what made y'all choose that that was right
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: for y'all's situation?
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 4: You don't listen to all this stuff. You don't watch.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 4: It's because you don't interact with my stuff. You don't
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: see this type of shit me into.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: I never see hard and soft stuff come up. I
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: see it from time to time, but I'm guilty.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 4: Of what?
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: I've not seen as much episodes.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 4: Because you don't interact.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: No, I be seeing it, but I don't see y'all
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: as much no more.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: I feel like I used to see y'all more because
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: when we first came on and then I followed you,
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: I started seeing more of the content.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: But I don't really see it that much no more.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 4: Let me see your phone. You got to be muted.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 4: Muted my shit? I thought I muted it.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 2: That's kind of crazy. Muting it is crazy. I have
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: a question.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 7: What is the difference between an open relationship and dating
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 7: multiple people at a time?
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 4: Are you single and dating multiple people at a time?
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm saying, what's the difference then?
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 7: Is open relationship strictly for physical pleasure or are you
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 7: dating most people too?
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 4: Not necessarily.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 9: I think the open relationship, I think that's more of
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 9: the knowledge between both people knowing and having an understanding.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 9: And I think dating just multiple people while you're single,
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 9: I don't think they have to know that. you're dating
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 9: other people.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 4: Am I right? Yeah.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: Like you and Oprah, you have a primary relationship. This
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: is your primary relationship, but you're going out to, for
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 3: whatever reason, to experience other shit with other people. Whether you,
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 3: you might, I might just like the fact that this
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 3: chick cycles. And I cycle, but my girl don't cycle.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: And I need somebody to cycle with.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 4: And at the end of the day, I get my
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: dick sucked at the top of the hill.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: Oh, you're sexual.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 4: It can be.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: So she getting piped down by like a You ask.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 4: It too much.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 3: I don't need to think about all that. When I
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 3: was in an open relationship, I choose to block that out.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 4: It's happening. Niggas don't need that. She's living her life.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: Like an Adam 22 kind of situation.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 3: No, she's living her life. I'm living mine, but we
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 3: not like, I wasn't like, yo, I just fucked a bitch.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: I need a dragon report.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 5: You know what I mean?
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: But that's a whole art of self-conversation because we did
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 3: have certain interesting conversations.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: I have to go in there. That's some cool shit.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 3: Listen, it's very mature. But for me, and I don't
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: want to speak for her, right? Because it gets weird
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 3: when you speak. Because somebody, like when I talk about
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 3: liking my ass, everybody's like, it's got to be her.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 4: See, you don't see that. But at 50 years old, bro,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 4: I'm turning 52 in February.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: I keep forgetting this nigga is 50.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like, bro, I get one life.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: Black men are really vampires. I love it. Yeah, you
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: look awesome. You look great.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 3: I want to live my motherfucking life and take care
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 3: of my motherfucking family And we're going to figure that out.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 11: Right.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? I don't want to lie
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 4: to nobody, neither.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be no underground, like, doing some
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: under shit that's disrespectful to you.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 4: And I'm breaking your heart, breaking my kid's heart. Too
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 4: old for that shit.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 2: So that's not currently your situation.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: It just was with the past situation.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 4: I mean, I'm open to it. Anyway. All right. Oh, Lord.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 3: This is the last one.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 3: Funky Deneva, the public shouldn't have to deal with your
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: nosy child. This is about a child that was, I think,
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 3: autistic in a restaurant. So let's see what he has
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 3: to say.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 5: Absolutely not. You go get takeout, okay?
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: Hi.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 10: I'm here.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 5: I'm right here. Right? Hey, guys.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 6: If you don't want to walk around in public, then
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 6: you should have been the takeout order.
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: I have to deal with you and her.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 5: You can deal with everybody else.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 4: Now, I know some of you Hold on real quick.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 3: So a young lady was in a restaurant with her
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 3: autistic child and you heard the child. So the child
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: was stimming. That was crazy. The child was making noise.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: And an older woman came over like, yo, what's up
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: with your child? Why is she making all this noise?
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: And she's like, bitch, listen, my child's autistic. I got
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 3: to deal with this. I don't really want to deal
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: with you. I got to deal with this shit at hand.
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 3: So can you go back to your seat or you
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 3: get the fuck out?
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 4: Funkin' Deneva has a problem with that.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 8: I carry this belief that, oh, it's a public space
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 8: and if you don't want to deal with the public,
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 8: then you go get takeout or you don't get to
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 8: come out public.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 5: You're wrong, you're ignorant, and you know what's wrong with
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 5: the planet. I am sorry.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 8: There, in my opinion, is a reasonable expectation of peace
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 8: when you go into public. If you got a baby
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 8: that stems out loud, I think that it is very
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 8: selfish of you to come into a family restaurant where
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 8: people have an expectation of a reasonable, peaceful, experience and
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 8: basically say, oh, well, everybody around got to deal with it.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 4: And I am not.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 5: Suggesting that somebody said peace in public.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 5: Peace in public.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 8: There is a reasonable expectation that the person next to
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 8: me is not going to be doing something that is.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 5: So loud and so distracting and disturbing that I can't
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 5: enjoy my meal. And it's no different than being on
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 5: a goddamn airplane.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 8: Nobody should have to fly from Atlanta to LA with
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 8: your child for whatever the reason.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 5: Screaming, kicking the seat, flailing their hands.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 8: There is a reasonable expectation of peace when being in
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 8: certain public spaces.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 4: Now, I am not.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 5: Saying that people with autistic children cannot go out to eat.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 4: What I am.
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 8: Saying is you choose where you take them. Y'all wanted
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 8: to go out and eat as a family, y'all should've
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 8: went to Chuck E.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 4: Cheese.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 8: That was somewhere that that child could've screamed to the
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 8: top of their lungs and nobody would've gave a damn.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 8: Y'all should have went to Dave & Buster's. Y'all should
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 8: have went to the county fair. Y'all should have went
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 8: to the city park and to a food truck. Y'all
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 8: should have went to a mall food court. There are
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 8: plenty of places that you can take a child who
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 8: has decorum and behavior issues and whatever.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 5: And not just autistic children.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 8: If you have a disruptive child, you take them somewhere
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 8: where the environment can accommodate them.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 5: Whatever issue that they have, you do not, you do not.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 8: Get to come to the family-friendly local restaurant that's been
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 8: here for 30 years where people come in and they
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 8: order their chicken parm and their sweet tea and your
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 8: child sitting here screaming and stimming and making noise and
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 8: flailing and then you tell the rest of us, we
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 8: got to deal with it.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 4: No, you're wrong.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 10: You are wrong.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 8: And y'all can go and make every think piece that
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 8: you want to make. I do not give a damn.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 8: You can put me on every mommy blog. I do
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 8: not give a damn. And it's not about me trying
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 8: to limit where your child can go. But it's not
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 8: your fault that you got dealt that hand.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 5: And it ain't our damn fault either.
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 4: Okay?
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 5: You do not.
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 8: Get to take disruptive children into spaces and subject everybody
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 8: else to your child's disability or whatever their problem is.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 8: It's not right. You have the herd and then you
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 8: have the outliers. That's not the way society works. Society
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 8: doesn't bend to the few. Society bends to the many
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 8: and the few have to get with the program.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 5: And some people say non-parents will never understand.
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 4: And maybe we won't.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 5: And I'm not negating that. I'm not negating that.
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 8: Somebody said disabled people have rights too, and they can
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 8: go wherever they please. They absolutely can. And you know
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 8: what else they can do too? Deal with people in
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 8: public having an adverse response to them being there.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: Who's going to go first?
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, man.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: You got it, Laura.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 4: Are you going to ask who's going to go first
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 4: and then just pick up the mic?
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 2: I'm just waiting for someone to start. You're the only
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 2: one that... Do you guys have kids too?
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 4: I have autistic children. I have two children. I don't
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 4: have kids. Okay.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: I feel like the parents should speak first.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 4: You could go outside. You could meet me. You could
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 4: meet me. Go outside and tell me. Oh, you just...
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 4: All right, go ahead.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 10: Yeah, I.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 7: Funky Donnieva does a lot of yelling and carrying on
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 7: to get the people riled up.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 3: Um.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 7: I think that there is truth to be said on
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 7: both sides where it's like, yes, there is a reasonable
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 7: expectation that if I go to Philips, I'm not going
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 7: to hear all of the noises that I'm trying to
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 7: escape from. I know for me personally, I also have
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 7: a thing with loud noises. Like I've realized with my
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 7: daughter running track, I need to have headphones on because
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 7: things sound too loud. When I go to the dentist's office,
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 7: I get really overstimulated with loud noises. When I'm on
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 7: the bus, and someone has their phone playing to the
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 7: top of it. It really does a lot for me.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 7: So I like to be out of situations with loud noises.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: And if I'm.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 7: Going somewhere and the noises are loud, okay, when I
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 7: see that the child is autistic, it is what it is.
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 7: I'm not going to banish them from society because this
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 7: is how society is. And for someone like Funky Dineva.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: Who just.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 7: 50 years ago, his people, his community were having to
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 7: prove themselves worthy of being in society. And he could
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 7: turn around and make such a declarative statement about it.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: Is it frustrating?
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 7: It can be very fucking frustrating. But I know that
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 7: mom is frustrated as shit. And she just needed a
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 7: moment to feel normal. Is it frustrating? Abso-fucking-lutely. But I
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 7: can't control what anyone else does. And when I talk
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 7: about accountability a lot, I always talk about in terms
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 7: of I can't change the serenity prayer. God grant me
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 7: the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 7: courage to change the things I can and the wisdom
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 7: to know the difference. I can't tell you to tell
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 7: your fucking child to shut up, but I can certainly leave.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 7: Now on the flip side of that.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 4: OK, yeah, you know what? Chuck E.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: Cheese sounds OK. And Dave and Buster's and all the
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: loud places sounds OK.
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 7: He has a point there, too. But I definitely think
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 7: that it's kind of like a. Society does not just include,
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 7: what do they call it? Neurotypical folks. And we got
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 7: to learn how to adapt.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 3: Let me just say real quick. Imagine, this sound like
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 3: Dave and Bust is, or you could go to this.
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 3: That sound like Negroes only over here. Yeah, that's what
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 3: I was just about to say.
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 4: You said it. You made a good point, Lola. Not
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 4: to cut you off, Tyler.
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 9: I feel like I don't like us as people, black,
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 9: it doesn't matter, sexual orientation. I don't like when we
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 9: get into the business of discriminating against people. I feel
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 9: like once we as people get into that business, I
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 9: feel like it makes us like the people that we
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 9: fight against.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 9: So I feel like him making that whole thing. I've
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 9: seen a mom on the bus one time. She had
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 9: two kids. They were autistic. And the look on her face,
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 9: you could tell that she was having the worst day possible.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 9: And it was a guy that got on the bus
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 9: and he was making us ado about the thing. And
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 9: there was a lady sitting down and she was just like,
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 9: she was like, yo, she like, um, you don't understand
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 9: that mother's going through so much. And I thought about it.
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 9: I was like, you know, just for two seconds to
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 9: think about what it's like to be that lady. I
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 9: was like, damn, I know she wished that people were
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 9: just looking at her kindly.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 4: Just, just not looking like she's annoying them. Right. And
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 4: like you said, having some type of normal life.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 9: Because I know in that type of situation with kids
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 9: like that.
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 4: It's not normal. You know what I'm saying?
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 9: So you're not doing the same things, but you try
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 9: to want to feel like you are. You still want
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 9: to go to the same place. You still want to
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 9: have the same experiences. And you want your kids to
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 9: have the same experiences, too. And I think it's important
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 9: that we support each other, the parents and the kids,
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 9: you know what I'm saying, in those situations. Because once
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 9: we start ostracizing those people, now it's on some shit like, yo,
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 9: y'all got to go over there while we over here.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 9: We get to have fun over here while y'all got
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 9: to go. And it's like, that's not really fair for
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 9: the parents and the kids, too.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 4: Although.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 9: The situations might be a little loud or maybe not
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 9: what you were expecting. But I think we have to
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 9: have a little bit more grace in those situations.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 8: Grace.
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: I feel like the empathy in me will always feel
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: bad for a mother in said situation.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: I have an aunt who has two autistic kids. My
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: best friend has an autistic son.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: And it's like I have a different level of respect
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: for their tolerance to be able to have patience and kindness.
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 2: To deal with an autistic. I've seen it firsthand. You
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: can be as patient. You can be as nice. You
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: can be as repetitive. You can be as whatever. And
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 2: they're going to give you a run for your money.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: And it just kind of is what it is.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: So, and I do feel like it's very important not
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: to discriminate in those types of situations because just like
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: y'all said, they already having probably the worst day ever.
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: They just probably trying to get some things done. They
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: might not have had a babysitter. You don't know what
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 1: the situation is. And yes, they also do deserve to
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 1: feel normal and experience things without having to feel like
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 1: I'm only good over here and just be made to
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: settle in these type of situations. I feel like where
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 1: I have a problem is with the misbehaved kids. That's
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 1: where I feel like I get irritable. And what I
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 1: mean by that is I don't want to be outside
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: enjoying my food. There's nothing wrong with your kids, but
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: the little niggas sitting there looking at me when I
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: eat my food, like.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: Or he coming up to me slapping my ass and shit,
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 2: and you just like, hello?
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: I don't like all of that. I don't like all
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: of that. For example, I seen this mother. I was
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: in Zara the other day. Her kid's ripping and running
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 1: through that motherfucker. She just sitting there looking at, hey, hey.
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 2: Get your kids. This is not the place for that.
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: Because if somebody trying to peacefully shop, I don't feel
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: like that's appropriate.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: Even when you're eating, you don't want little kids running
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 2: around your food, respectfully.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: But I feel like that's the only time I get
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: irritable because I feel like I am not a mother.
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 2: I don't have any kids.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 1: But I feel like if it was a niece, if
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 1: it was a this, if it was a that, if
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: we're in a space where people are coming to enjoy
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 1: their whatever, I feel like that's a place where you
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 1: should be able to control your kids and not make
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 1: it to where somebody can have the right, technically, to
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: speak out against you.
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 2: And your kids.
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 1: But if it's a sense of autism and stuff like that,
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 1: I feel like you should empathize with them. Because you
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: don't know what they had to go through this morning
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: to even get to this point. So I don't feel
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: like it's necessary to. Plus, we're not staying here all day. Yeah,
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: enjoy your fucking hour and go. And go.
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 2: It's not that serious.
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 4: It's not that serious. You nailed it at the end, right?
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 4: When you said you're not going to be here all day.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 3: Yo, I've bought on a flight and I hate when
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 3: the parent with the kid gets behind me on a flight, bro.
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 4: I hate it. Absolutely.
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 3: But I know I'm getting off this flight in five hours,
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 3: nine hours, whatever the fuck I'm going. I'm getting off
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 3: and I'm going about my merry ass business. I'm not like,
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 3: what do you mean this parent has to deal with
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 3: this kid, the other kid? Because most of the time
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 3: when that parent has that baby right there, they got
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 3: another one.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 3: And they go in somewhere, they have a reprieve from
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 3: whatever the fuck they got going on, right?
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 4: Boom, that's my one thing.
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 3: Two, I really am having a hard time liking Funky DeNiva.
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 3: He's doing his, they're doing their best.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 2: Oh, is it they?
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 3: I don't know, but because they're in that community, I'm
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 3: going to do my best to show respect.
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 4: I don't know what they identify as, right? Here's the thing.
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 3: I cannot believe, and you said it already, That somebody
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 3: from the LGBT community can be saying something that's just
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 3: so overly dismissive of a whole community of people. To
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 3: say society does not bend to the needs or wants
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  Speaker 3: of the few when y'all are fighting for y'all rights today.
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 3: The gay community is fighting for equality. So, no, society
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  Speaker 3: don't bend to the rights of the few.
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  Speaker 4: Sorry, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody hetero. Y'all got to deal with the way we
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 3: doing it. That's not right for the... And then autism
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  Speaker 3: and babies and kids.
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  Speaker 4: Like, you... Women. I thought y'all fucked with women.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all was just telling the women to get with y'all
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  Speaker 3: and fuck the heterosexual niggas. The women is most of
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 3: the times has got to deal with the autistic kids.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 3: I've been, I'm a father of autistic kids. I'm seeing
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 3: it's mostly women. Shout out to the fathers that's out
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  Speaker 3: there doing it. But I go to the basketball shit
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  Speaker 3: one day. Autistic, you know, they got the program for
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 3: the autistic kids. My kids love playing basketball.
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  Speaker 4: Boom. There's this woman there with a black son. And
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 4: he is difficult to handle. He's rude.
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 3: Ripping and running through the thing, taking a ball, throwing it.
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  Speaker 3: So the, you know, the volunteer instructors is trying to
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  Speaker 3: get him in hand. They realize, you know, they can
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 3: do so much with him. They can't put their hands
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 3: on him. They can't rally him like that because he
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 3: just keeps running and, you know, he's stimming crazy. And
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 3: she's doing her best. But she's literally having a breakdown, bro.
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 3: Because not alone the fact is there's other kids in
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 3: here that he's disrupting. It's embarrassing to the other parents.
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 3: It's embarrassing to the instructors. And we had to gather
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 3: around this woman and tell her it's okay and let
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 3: him just get this off. We understand that this is
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 3: your break. We understand that you want him to, but
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 3: this is just him and it's okay. And the least
• 1:17:09
  Speaker 3: person that needs to be judgmental is you or us
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  Speaker 3: because we all go through this shit.
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  Speaker 5: That's necessary.
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 4: That's love.
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  Speaker 3: We really rallied around this woman. And so for me
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 3: to sit here and think that just because you wanted
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 3: your chicken parmesan, Yeah, and that's the shit he was saying, too.
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 3: It was like, yo, bro, that's not that serious. Yo,
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  Speaker 3: you got to go to Chuck E. Cheese or Dave
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 3: and Buster's or go to a park to eat. I
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 3: got to have a pizza?
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 4: Supreme or Supreme?
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 2: Wait, I heard Chuck E. Cheese pizza actually good. From
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 2: what I heard.
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 4: Chuck E. Cheese pizza is rocking. I used to work there.
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 4: I used to work there.
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: It's fine.
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 2: But I get your point. I get your point. But I... Well, sorry.
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: I didn't... Sorry to cut you off.
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 1: What I wanted to piggyback off of you two, I
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 1: think Funky Dineva has built a brain off of being
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: a villain. And I feel like being that that's made
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: him so positive.
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 2: I mean, popular.
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 10: Popular.
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 2: That's where he got to stay now.
• 1:17:58
  Speaker 1: So even if he tried to be a little bit
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 1: more humble, he wouldn't get the same attention. He has
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 1: to talk at you. And he has to be, I
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 1: don't care. That's just what it is. This is what
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 1: I said. If you got to post me on the
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: mommy blogs, then it's okay. That's the only way he's
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 1: going to stay relevant. Because if he seems more, I guess,
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: leveled or normal, it's not selling.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 4: That's the crazy thing about.
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 7: Funky Donnieva is that he's been doing this going on
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 7: 20 years.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 2: And within the last.
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 7: few months or so when I started seeing him pop
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 7: up again he's great a lot you know we're all
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 7: getting older so who he was 20 years ago I'm
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 7: just looking at him like you look like an old
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 7: miserable gay that's what you're giving and it's not it's
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 7: not conducive to the growth that you're trying to have
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 7: within your community you just look old and fucking miserable
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 7: and like the fact that there was a general of
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 7: old gays that did not make it because they died
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 7: from the AIDS epidemic, and you have the ability to
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 7: still be here and live, and you're just shitting on
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 7: everybody else just to do so, it's fucking disgusting.
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 2: But one thing I wanted to ask, so you guys have....
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 7: You took them to the basketball and it was for
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 7: just autistic families. It was something like that. Is that
• 1:19:14
  Speaker 7: not something of what Funky Don Eva is saying that
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 7: maybe we need to create more spaces so that community
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 7: can rally around with stuff like that happens?
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 4: No, that's not what you're saying. I know.
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 3: What do you think that that should be? No, this
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 3: is a program for, what he's talking about, eliminating for
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 3: the others. Like, he's talking about segregation. Like, you know
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 3: what I mean? Like, this is not, yo, this is
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 3: a place where people who are specialized to care for, right?
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 4: That's not that. Like, are you saying that there should
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 4: be autistic restaurants?
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 7: No, I'm asking, do you think that that would be
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 7: to help better serve the autistic community or the neurodivergent community?
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 2: A room for just autistic people at fucking Olive Garden?
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 7: Do you think we should create more spaces that eliminate
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 7: people's judgmental behaviors?
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 4: Absolutely. Fuck it. I don't see no harm in it.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 3: But that doesn't mean that I can't go in the
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 3: fucking art garden or go in the cheesecake factory.
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there should be more spaces. Absolutely.
• 1:20:11
  Speaker 7: Because the way you guys rallied around that mom was community.
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 7: People that don't know and are ignorant to what you
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 7: go through wouldn't have thought to be able to say, Listen,
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 7: you're good.
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Because they don't know.
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 7: And sometimes that is why we have to make our
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 7: own spaces so that it's never coming from like, I
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 7: don't like y'all because y'all are Black.
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 2: No, we all Black.
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 7: So it's not that. I just don't like you because
• 1:20:33
  Speaker 7: you're a bitch. Or I don't like you because you're gay. No,
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 7: we're all in here gay, but you're fucking annoying. I
• 1:20:39
  Speaker 7: don't have an issue with you because you're autistic. We
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 7: all have autistic children. You know, what can we do?
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 7: Sometimes we have to create these safe spaces because, again,
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 7: I can't control whether someone else is going to create
• 1:20:51
  Speaker 7: that space for me. Now I have to create those spaces.
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 7: So when we see shit like this, it then becomes,
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 7: as a father of two autistic children, what can I
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 7: do to further create these safe spaces?
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 3: I think advocation is a big deal. I think using
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 3: my platform in a certain way that he is not.
• 1:21:07
  Speaker 3: Because that's just irresponsible and hateful. Like, yo, bro, we
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 3: got enough going on. Right now, we're being fucking hung.
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 9: There's so many things going on right now.
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 4: That's not even on there. That's what we're doing.
• 1:21:21
  Speaker 2: He thrives off of ignorance.
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: So that's his realm, but that's why If that's your personality,
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: that's what you do, then you got your crowd.
• 1:21:29
  Speaker 2: But this ain't it.
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 4: This ain't it.
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 3: Great episode. Paris got to go over here and go
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 3: be a star. I got to go get my two
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 3: autistic kids, get them something to eat.
• 1:21:38
  Speaker 2: Where are you going to take them?
• 1:21:40
  Speaker 4: Not Chuck E. Cheese. I can tell you that right now. Paris, again,
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 4: tell these people where they can find you.
• 1:21:45
  Speaker 1: Y'all can find me on every platform. Not really on
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: Twitter too much, but y'all can find me on TikTok, YouTube, Facebook.
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 2: Instagram. Power is Danielle. Power is Danielle Cole. One of
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 2: the ones. I'm near y'all.
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 4: Talking about something, child. Lola.
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 3: Every time I have you on here, it reminds me
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 3: of why I invite you. You're such a powerful... I
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 3: heard you out there doing on the flies now. You
• 1:22:08
  Speaker 3: got your camera in the street, interviewing people.
• 1:22:11
  Speaker 7: I need somebody to help me with the editing. I
• 1:22:12
  Speaker 7: got all this content and that shit is overwhelming.
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: It's annoying.
• 1:22:16
  Speaker 3: I would refer you to somebody, but you don't be
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 3: liking the pay. She didn't want to pay the garbage
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 3: man to pick up the extra shit.
• 1:22:21
  Speaker 2: No, fuck that.
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 4: All right, all right, all right. I don't have time.
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 4: Can you please tell the people we're talking about this?
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 4: We're talking... Where to find you?
• 1:22:27
  Speaker 7: Lola the Divine on every platform. I'm not on Twitter either, actually.
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 2: Fuck Twitter.
• 1:22:33
  Speaker 4: Fuck X.
• 1:22:33
  Speaker 2: Fuck X, right? But find me on threads, though. You
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 2: could definitely catch me in these thread streets. I'm all
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 2: in them.
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 4: Yesterday.
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 9: Yesterday, here, catch me on all platforms. Yesterday, three S's.
• 1:22:43
  Speaker 4: That's it. Sounds good and amazing. We love you all.
• 1:22:47
  Speaker 4: Be safe out there. Please. And fuck you, funky ass nigga.
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 2: Peace. Peace.
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 4: What a day. What a day.
• 1:22:59
  Speaker 5: This is great.
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say that too. The chat
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 1: wasn't going down. I overly enjoyed it. I always like
• 1:23:07
  Speaker 1: to have a great conversation.
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 2: That's what I do. I pop shit. I talk shit
• 1:23:10
  Speaker 2: all day. I just love to talk. That's my problem now.
• 1:23:13
  Speaker 7: I like my girl's BBW. Ethical non-monogamy is different from
• 1:23:19
  Speaker 7: dating multiple people. Okay, thank you, because I.
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 2: Didn't know, you know. Now we're attacking special needs. Yeah,
• 1:23:25
  Speaker 2: they was very upset about that. Who are you to
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 2: limit my ability? Fucking dumb bitch.
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 1: Ooh.
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 2: Next time my kid doesn't even eat pizza. People will
• 1:23:35
  Speaker 2: always be judgmental. That will never change, but you'll not.