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Being A New Pet Parent with Molly Mesnick & Michelle Money: Will You Accept This Advice? · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hi everybody, this is Trista Setter. I am your host
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  Speaker 2: for a new series that I'm doing called Will you
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  Speaker 2: accept this Advice?
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  Speaker 3: Get it.
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  Speaker 4: Anyway?
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing this so that I get to chat with
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  Speaker 2: some of my favorite.
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  Speaker 4: Bachelor Nation ladies.
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  Speaker 2: We get to connect on real life stuff, stuff that
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  Speaker 2: I hope all of you can relate to that's really
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  Speaker 2: in the back of my mind. So hopefully you can
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  Speaker 2: relate to all of it some of it, and if
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  Speaker 2: you don't relate to it, hopefully you'll still listen, cause
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  Speaker 2: these are great Bachelornation ladies. I am so excited to
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  Speaker 2: talk to my guests today. There are two of my
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  Speaker 2: good friends from Bachelor Nation, Michelle Money and Molly Mesnik,
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  Speaker 2: two women I know all of you know and love
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  Speaker 2: who are both moms and also moms of fur babies.
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  Speaker 4: They both just.
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  Speaker 2: Got the cutest puppies, you guys, if you don't follow
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  Speaker 2: them on Instagram, they're the cutest puppies and they are
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  Speaker 2: the newest members of our Bachelor Nation crew. So I
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  Speaker 2: want to welcome Michelle and Molly. I can't you, guys.
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  Speaker 2: I have to officially introduce to everyone out there listening
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  Speaker 2: and watching our newest members of Bacheloration.
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  Speaker 5: Winnidy, I can't I do Whinny the little boop nows.
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  Speaker 4: It's Benny right or Benji.
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  Speaker 1: Ben Hogan what we call him.
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  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, she's a little fluff.
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  Speaker 4: How old is your dogy?
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  Speaker 5: She's exactly twelve weeks?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Benny is nine weeks.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, you guys, you guys, Oh my, hi, Benny.
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  Speaker 2: Hi.
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  Speaker 1: We don't deserve that, are you? No, we don't deserve that.
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  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 6: How are you liking being a dog mom, Mollie, Hey,
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  Speaker 6: you guys.
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  Speaker 5: I have never owned a dog in.
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  Speaker 3: My life ever, Jason, Jason has never owned a dog
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  Speaker 3: in his life, So this is like, this is new.
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  Speaker 1: Very numerous dog.
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  Speaker 3: But she is really really good, Like she is super smart.
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  Speaker 3: She sleeps well, she wakes up maybe twice last night.
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  Speaker 5: She woke up once. She came to us, great trained
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  Speaker 5: and litterbox trained.
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  Speaker 1: I heard that.
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  Speaker 4: I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I need to ask all of these questions. But
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  Speaker 2: before we do, do you need to go put Winnie down?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: I want to put her down for a nap so
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  Speaker 3: I can actually okay, okay.
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  Speaker 6: And I was thinking I'd have to do the same thing.
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  Speaker 6: But Benny has been so good, like he's just like
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  Speaker 6: he's just sleeping here at my feet.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you're an angel.
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  Speaker 4: Angel. Okay, so is he trained well?
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  Speaker 1: He is now, I've worked really hard.
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  Speaker 6: On it, but yeah, yeah, we've prey trained him and
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  Speaker 6: he's been really good. He has slept through the night,
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  Speaker 6: like three nights in a row, nine hours straight.
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  Speaker 1: Do you guys have dogs?
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  Speaker 4: We do, and we always have.
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  Speaker 2: I grew up with dogs, and then Ryan had a
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  Speaker 2: husky when we got engaged, and so she became my
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  Speaker 2: dog obviously, and then he gave me a five pound
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  Speaker 2: Yorky like early on in our marriage, named Tank. And
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  Speaker 2: then we got Sophie, who was a rescue who passed
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  Speaker 2: about three years ago. And then we have Quota, who
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  Speaker 2: is a rescue now. So we've had a lot of dogs.
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  Speaker 2: But I know, Molly, you're brand new to dogs. And Michelle,
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  Speaker 2: you just lost a dog, right.
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  Speaker 1: We lost thirteen year old German shepherd. I know.
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  Speaker 6: So I'm married into the dog world because I didn't
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  Speaker 6: really grow up.
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  Speaker 1: We had a dog, but I.
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  Speaker 6: Wasn't really connected to it. So I feel like this
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  Speaker 6: is my baby, like this is. It's crazy how it's
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  Speaker 6: very similar to like newborn babies.
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  Speaker 5: I think a baby basier. You could be right, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I think the baby is baby. Yeah, you like put
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  Speaker 5: them in a thing and you can walk away a
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  Speaker 5: dog totally.
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  Speaker 4: That's so true. You're so right.
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  Speaker 2: There are so many similarities. And I hate it when
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  Speaker 2: people like knock people down for saying that they have
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  Speaker 2: babies who are for babies, like Caitlin for example. I
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  Speaker 2: know that she just posted about something about how you
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  Speaker 2: know some troll was like, oh whatever, you always post
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  Speaker 2: about your babies. But dogs are a lot of work,
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  Speaker 2: and so are other pets.
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  Speaker 4: But dogs are a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of work totally, and they are like children.
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  Speaker 2: They are our children.
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  Speaker 1: But totally sure.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So Molly, did you grow up I don't think
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  Speaker 4: you grew up with pets. Did you with dogs?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 4: I didn't think so.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 3: I had like a hamster and a fish. So, but
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I think mister you maybe knew this. So
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  Speaker 3: Riley was born terrified of.
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  Speaker 4: Dogs, Yes, I did know that, Yes, all.
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  Speaker 3: Of her life and it was severe, like debilitating to
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  Speaker 3: the point where it was affecting her life, like through
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  Speaker 3: elementary school, like she couldn't go to someone's house at
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  Speaker 3: a dog or like her good friends would have to
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  Speaker 3: put her their ball.
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  Speaker 5: Came over and she would look at me and beg me.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, please help me, please fix this, like it's
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  Speaker 3: wrecking my life. And so we even did like exposure
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  Speaker 3: therapy with her. I would take her to the library
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  Speaker 3: where they have like service dogs read you could read
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  Speaker 3: with service dogs, so she could see from a distance
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  Speaker 3: like how sweet dogs could be. And none of it
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  Speaker 3: really helped. And I've had people on Instagram all the
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  Speaker 3: time being like.
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  Speaker 5: My kids afraid of dogs? What did you do for Riley?
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  Speaker 3: She this is like the most frustrating excuse for anyone
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  Speaker 3: going through it. But like she it was age and
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  Speaker 3: it was going to middle school, like your friend group expands,
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  Speaker 3: and so she had all these new friends and she
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  Speaker 3: was embarrassed about this fear. I know about it, and
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  Speaker 3: so she kind of just.
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  Speaker 5: Like forced herself to like dogs.
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  Speaker 3: So that no one knew she her friends have dogs.
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  Speaker 3: Do our friends, Oh, all of our friends have dogs.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone has dogs, but they would always be they grew
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  Speaker 3: up with Riley, so they would put.
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  Speaker 5: Them away when she came over.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, but over the past two years, she's gotten way
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  Speaker 3: more comfortable with small dogs, and she finally was like,
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  Speaker 3: I really want one.
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  Speaker 1: That's so cool. Yeah, good for good for her.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, she fought through.
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  Speaker 4: It, I know. And good for you.
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  Speaker 2: I know. I remember talking to you about it and
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  Speaker 2: for being so proactive about it and trying to like
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  Speaker 2: help her through that with the exposure therapy and you know,
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  Speaker 2: anything that you could do the library and all of that.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's really really important because it's like, there
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  Speaker 2: are dogs everywhere and you don't want you don't want
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  Speaker 2: your kid to be afraid. You know, that would be
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  Speaker 2: especially if she hadn't been attacked or anything.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, nothing bad happened, but it would just be sad
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  Speaker 3: when like a new friend would invite her to come
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  Speaker 3: over and she'd be like, you have to ask if
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  Speaker 3: they have a dog, because if they have a dog,
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  Speaker 3: I can't go. And I'm like, this is going to
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  Speaker 3: ruin your life. Like and she did, she did it,
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  Speaker 3: and she's great, so amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so Brielle, it looks like Brielle and Benny are besties.
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  Speaker 6: Besties, the bestist. She's like begging me to buy her
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  Speaker 6: a daughter. I'm my babe, you need to get a
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  Speaker 6: job first, and like also no, but she comes over
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  Speaker 6: like every day and they just have to keep this
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  Speaker 6: little bond. But these dogs really are so amazing at
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  Speaker 6: like healing, you know, like they give you that comfort
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  Speaker 6: I'm out like and so it's it's really grounded all
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  Speaker 6: of us. So yeah, Brielle loves him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So but how is she still you mentioned healing?
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel like she's still healing from her accident?
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  Speaker 2: Is this just a lifelong healing that's going to be
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  Speaker 2: you know what?
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  Speaker 6: Brain injuries are so interesting because you can't see, like
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  Speaker 6: I don't know right, Like I don't know if she
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  Speaker 6: still has residual issues from it or not. We just
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  Speaker 6: assume she doesn't, right, So yeah, you know, and so
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  Speaker 6: much of it is like, you know, her accident. It's
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  Speaker 6: been six years now since her TBI. You know, she
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  Speaker 6: was fifteen years old when it happened, and that span
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  Speaker 6: of life is like you're also like growing up hormones,
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  Speaker 6: you know, so it's hard to know like is this
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  Speaker 6: like hormonal you know, emotional up and down rollercoaster because
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  Speaker 6: of the TBI or because she's like, you know, seventeen
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  Speaker 6: years old. So she is doing so fantastic. You would
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  Speaker 6: never know that she had suffered and gone through so much,
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  Speaker 6: but we like to just assume that she's totally healed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Good, And for everyone out there who's listening and doesn't
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  Speaker 2: isn't up on the story. Brielle is Michelle's daughter, and
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  Speaker 2: she suffered a horrible traumatic brain injury after a skateboarding accident.
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  Speaker 2: And is I mean I have just seen her through Instagram,
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  Speaker 2: of course, but I would assume that if you met
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  Speaker 2: her in person, you wouldn't be able to even tell me.
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  Speaker 1: No, you never know.
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  Speaker 6: In fact, she's so like I think that going through
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  Speaker 6: something is so difficult for her, Like she's had to
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  Speaker 6: really the biggest struggle that I think she's had is
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  Speaker 6: learning to trust herself, because she was struggling with memory
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  Speaker 6: issues and she couldn't like she didn't know if a
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  Speaker 6: memory she had was real or something that she created
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  Speaker 6: in her head, and so she lost kind.
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  Speaker 1: Of her ability to trust herself.
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  Speaker 6: And so she's had to really work on that part
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  Speaker 6: of herself, and she has worked so hard, and so
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  Speaker 6: it's almost like it's made her more confident, more.
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  Speaker 1: Secure in who she is.
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  Speaker 6: She's had to really focus on building that relationship with
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  Speaker 6: her and her higher self, and so yeah, not only
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  Speaker 6: would you not know that she's been through anything traumatic,
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  Speaker 6: but you'd be like, oh, my gosh, this is like
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  Speaker 6: she's like a thirty five year old and a twenty
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  Speaker 6: one year old body, right, So right, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Michelle, her story for Riley and all of her friends.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, for forever, Like you're getting on that scooter,
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  Speaker 3: if you are getting on that bike, if you are
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  Speaker 3: getting on whatever contracture you are putting.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, put the helmet on.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, that's the one of the most beautiful things
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  Speaker 6: that's come from this. Is like we'll run into people
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  Speaker 6: all the time who are like, I have my child
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  Speaker 6: to wear their helmet all the time because of your story.
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  Speaker 6: And I mean there have been stories of families who
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  Speaker 6: have messaged us and been like I wasn't going to
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  Speaker 6: put the helmet on, but I remembered your story. I
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  Speaker 6: put the helmet on, and my child got hit by
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  Speaker 6: a car like my child would have My gosh, the
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  Speaker 6: crazy stuff like that where you just have to think, like, Wow,
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  Speaker 6: there was like a higher purpose to all this, you know, Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: For sure.
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  Speaker 2: So when you and you looked at puppies, was the
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  Speaker 2: breed something that you guys looked into both for Riley's
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  Speaker 2: issues and for Brielle's issues, just because you know that
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  Speaker 2: obviously she's going to be or the puppies going to
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  Speaker 2: be around Brielle a lot. Did you guys both consider
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  Speaker 2: the breeds when you were looking for puppies based on
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  Speaker 2: what your family needed, Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I mean we did. I definitely. I never thought I
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  Speaker 5: was going to get a dog, never wanted a dog.
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  Speaker 3: Jason did not want a dog, and so if we
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  Speaker 3: were going to get one, it was going to be
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  Speaker 3: something small, something hypoergenic, something that doesn't shed, like I'm
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  Speaker 3: a psycho clean freak, and I wanted one that was
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  Speaker 3: obviously small for Riley, but just the brains and the
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  Speaker 3: smart and so when he's a multi poos so she's
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  Speaker 3: got poodle in her, which makes her super smart, perfect Maltice.
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  Speaker 3: She's just cozy and cuddly and all that. So it's
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  Speaker 3: perfect for our home.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and we just love I've always loved goldens. I've
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  Speaker 6: always loved goldens. So it was just as simple like, yes,
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  Speaker 6: I need a Goulden. They're just they like smile, ye, smile.
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  Speaker 6: They're so sweet.
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  Speaker 4: You're a picture of Michelle this morning.
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  Speaker 2: I think you put you put it on your story
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, you, guys, this is not Ai.
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  Speaker 4: This is my actual dog.
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  Speaker 6: It's like what Mike and I will just be like
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  Speaker 6: sitting there going like that's our dog, Like this is
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  Speaker 6: our dog, Like how this is such a perfect little
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  Speaker 6: creature and he's ours. Like we exchanged money and then
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  Speaker 6: we took the dog and now it's ours.
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  Speaker 1: It's so weird, so crazy.
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  Speaker 4: I will say, you know, you're in the like baby
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  Speaker 4: phase where they're cute and cudi.
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  Speaker 2: And all the things. There is a teenage phase when uh, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry to say, what has been the hardest that
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  Speaker 2: that might be a little bit hard coming up. So
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  Speaker 2: just for preparation, I have had quite a few dogs.
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  Speaker 2: What has been the hardest part so far of what
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  Speaker 2: you guys are dealing with. I know I'm sleeping wonderfully,
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  Speaker 2: but they.
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  Speaker 1: Sleep with so much.
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  Speaker 6: But I think it's like just you have to be
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  Speaker 6: so on top of getting them out to go potty,
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  Speaker 6: like they if he goes pee in the house, it's
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  Speaker 6: my fault, right, Like you have to literally take them
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  Speaker 6: out like every thirty minutes, and you're kind of like, well,
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  Speaker 6: he didn't drink that much water. I'm sure he's fine,
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  Speaker 6: and then you like turn a corner and there's like
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  Speaker 6: a puddle and like, oh my gosh. Like but that's
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  Speaker 6: been the hardest part, is like getting him to like
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  Speaker 6: really want to go out and go potty on his own.
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  Speaker 6: But I know it will just come with time, But
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  Speaker 6: that for me has been the hardest.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, for me, it's just the freedom is gone. You know,
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  Speaker 3: my life was chaotic with like work and kids and
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  Speaker 3: activities and all of that. Just like not having the freedom.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh, when will we get to
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  Speaker 3: the point where she just like exists in our house
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  Speaker 3: and I can come and go as I please.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, yeah, litterbox be nice. Well, the little box.
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  Speaker 5: The litter box is great.
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  Speaker 3: Like I've been able to leave like two hours at
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  Speaker 3: a time and not worry, Like she's.
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  Speaker 1: Fine, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, But so you have her in a crate and
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  Speaker 2: then her litter box is in the crate.
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  Speaker 5: Well, she's in during the day.
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  Speaker 3: She's got a pen that has her crate in it
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  Speaker 3: that's open, and then her litter box is also in there.
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  Speaker 3: But like when we're found, we leave her pen open
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  Speaker 3: so she can just come in and out, and she'll
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  Speaker 3: like stop in the middle of playing and just walk
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  Speaker 3: in there and go pee.
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  Speaker 1: It's wow.
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  Speaker 3: And I really thought for a while, I was like
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  Speaker 3: the first couple days, I'm like, I want to keep
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  Speaker 3: this litter box forever. This is so easy. We'll have
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  Speaker 3: so much freedom. But I'm like, I don't know, I
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  Speaker 3: feel like that brings a whole other issues, you know,
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  Speaker 3: Like I want her to be that goes potty outside,
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to see it month total.
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  Speaker 5: I guess the vet was like.
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  Speaker 3: Just move it closer and closer to the door, and
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  Speaker 3: then move it right outside and then I'll get her
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  Speaker 3: to the potty area.
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  Speaker 2: And then also traveling like you don't want to be
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  Speaker 2: you have to bring a litter box right when you try.
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  Speaker 2: And then Heather, my producer, just got a puppy recently
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  Speaker 2: and she was saying that you can get fresh grass
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  Speaker 2: delivery to your house each week, delivered to the house
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  Speaker 2: in one piece that rolls out on a tray.
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  Speaker 4: Have you guys ever heard of that?
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  Speaker 1: Never in my life. Not crazy, that's amazing.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't have like a yard, I both of
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  Speaker 2: you have yards, so this is an issue for you.
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  Speaker 4: But for people, like in apartments in New York City.
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  Speaker 2: Or whatever, like what a great option, I know, Or
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  Speaker 2: if you're traveling, you could actually do that to hotel rooms.
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  Speaker 1: Probably the house.
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  Speaker 4: So smart. I love that, Heather, I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, And if you can't get to the outdoors, if
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  Speaker 2: you're you know, stuck inside working on podcasts, then you.
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  Speaker 4: Just there you go, there's your little litter box. I
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  Speaker 4: love it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So are either of you ever going to be
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  Speaker 2: the kind of dog parents who let your dog sleep
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  Speaker 2: in your bedes?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 1: No? Yes?
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  Speaker 4: Did Lobo sleep on the bed?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 6: And I would try to get him to and he wouldn't.
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  Speaker 6: He was really no, he would not.
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  Speaker 1: I literally okay with it, I mean not.
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  Speaker 6: Really, but we're gonna We're gonna have to get used
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  Speaker 6: to it because I want to spoon my golden Oh
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  Speaker 6: my gosh, I know, I don't know, and maybe I'll
• 16:37
  Speaker 6: regret it and maybe I'll change my mind. But like,
• 16:41
  Speaker 6: because Lobo was such a like lone wolf, and he
• 16:44
  Speaker 6: was like he was dog aggressive actually, so we really
• 16:46
  Speaker 6: couldn't take it anywhere.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Like I wanted.
• 16:50
  Speaker 6: I always wanted to cuddle with him, and he just
• 16:52
  Speaker 6: was not a cuddly dog, and so I want this
• 16:56
  Speaker 6: dog to be just like a velcrow dog.
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: So I am allergic to dogs.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Actually, even though I've had dogs all I know, right,
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: even though I've had dogs all my life, I have
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: had tons of dogs. And when Ryan and I got
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: married and I started living with him and Natasha are
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: husky at the time, I did shots so that I
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: would be less.
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: But I still.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Have like if I pet my dogs or any other dogs,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: and I have to like immediately go wash my hands
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: because if I touch my eyes or any other part
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: of my body, I get hives. So I am the
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: person I cannot have my dogs sleep in my bed,
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: like even on the couches. I'm like, really sorry. And
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I know, Molly, you're a little bit of a clean freak,
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: so I can't imagine that when you will be allowed
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: on my couch.
• 17:56
  Speaker 5: Okay, on the couch.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: It's it's actually the one who was like, that dog
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: is not sleeping in our room. Like Jason didn't want
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: the dog. He did not want the dog. And guess
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: who Winnie gets the most excited to see.
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: Yeah, she's also so small that I think I would
• 18:13
  Speaker 6: be afraid at all, Like like, yeah, I.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: Don't know he.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: Didn't want the dog in the room, and now that
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: she is not, her create is not in our room.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: I think it's better that way too, you know, because
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: like our schedules are kind of wonky, and I want
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: to kind of on a little schedule.
• 18:31
  Speaker 5: I don't know, We'll see. It's been one week. Everything
• 18:33
  Speaker 5: could change.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: I'm so dead.
• 18:36
  Speaker 6: But I cannot believe we got puppies at the exactly
• 18:39
  Speaker 6: I know, I know the.
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: Exact same time.
• 18:43
  Speaker 5: Puppy is being raised by Ai.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: By the way, like if you saw AI search during
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: the day, it is the most random stuff, all just
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: about the dog, Like what do I do if the
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: dog did?
• 18:57
  Speaker 6: It's so nice to have that because like I'm like,
• 19:00
  Speaker 6: I don't even know what I would do, Like yeah,
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: raised by Oh.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: My gosh, you guys are blowing my mind. I mean, yeah,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: I use chat GPT for like what kind of college
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: essay can my kids write? You know, like that kind
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: of stuff.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: But not no, it's like is.
• 19:15
  Speaker 6: This bush that my dog is eating? Is this going
• 19:18
  Speaker 6: to kill him?
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Is this?
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: Totally okay.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: So I do want to go back to the like
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: sleeping in your bed issue.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: I want to know.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: I'm really curious to find out if Michelle, did you
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: have Reell sleeping in your bed since you're.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Like I did, Yeah, I don't want any judgment. I
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: don't want any judgment.
• 19:36
  Speaker 6: In fact, no, d it was like an issue with
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: her dad because she'd go to her dad's house.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: And here's the deal.
• 19:42
  Speaker 6: I was a single mom and it was for me.
• 19:47
  Speaker 6: It was a I her bedroom was just right down
• 19:50
  Speaker 6: the hall, but like, I felt more safe having her
• 19:54
  Speaker 6: sleep in bed with me. I'm not saying it was
• 19:56
  Speaker 6: the right decision, but for my own piece of and
• 20:00
  Speaker 6: for me to almost like get sleep, like I just
• 20:02
  Speaker 6: wanted her with me. And and I don't regret it.
• 20:06
  Speaker 5: We did the same.
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: I wouldn't we did.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Riley slept with us for a long time, probably longer
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: than she should have, and I finally was like, Okay,
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: you're too old.
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: You kind of have to move out. And now I'm like,
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: I wish I could have you back in my bed.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 20:20
  Speaker 6: That's the thing that screws you over, is like you
• 20:23
  Speaker 6: get to this place where you're like, Okay, great, I
• 20:25
  Speaker 6: think it's time for you to sleep in your own bed,
• 20:26
  Speaker 6: and then like yours go by and you're like, prey,
• 20:28
  Speaker 6: will you come have a sleep over with me and
• 20:30
  Speaker 6: sleep in my bed.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: And she's like, no, Mom, I won't.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I don't know.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: I feel like I didn't have my kids sleep in
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: my bed, but I feel like I wouldn't be able
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: to sleep because my kids like flailed and you know
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: whatever and kicked and stuff, and I wouldn't have gotten sleep.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: Even though when they were babies, like you know, I would,
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: I would nurse and kind of nap with them, but otherwise, gosh,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think I would actually get any See if
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: my kids slept with me. You did touch on a
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: good point though, with my kids getting older and potentially
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: leaving the nest, leaving the nest, let's be honest, I
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: am trying to cherish those moments and gosh, I mean
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: any moment that I had with them, like snuggling in
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: bed is definitely something that I cherish.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: So I agree, like do you do what's right for you?
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: And so true?
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so you know what, sleep with your puppy
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: and hopefully, well.
• 21:31
  Speaker 6: You know, I'll have a conversation in like a year
• 21:33
  Speaker 6: from now and it would be a completely different conversation.
• 21:38
  Speaker 5: So dog and I will be sleeping with my kids.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: That's exactly right, that's what's gonna happen.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Okay, So are they allowed to see other animals and
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: people because of their shot situation? I know that you
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: can't like introduce them to other dogs or people before
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: they have their shots.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: Are they good?
• 21:57
  Speaker 6: And tell me what you think might? But but I
• 21:59
  Speaker 6: think it's kind of confusing. Hard is like that window
• 22:02
  Speaker 6: of time where you need to socialize them and have
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: them experience different sounds and you know, uh stores and
• 22:10
  Speaker 6: like grocery carts, like is kind of before they're able
• 22:14
  Speaker 6: to get their second round of vaccines. So what they
• 22:17
  Speaker 6: kind of tell you to do and what I've been doing.
• 22:20
  Speaker 6: In fact, we just took him to home depot this
• 22:22
  Speaker 6: morning and love it. We took him in on his
• 22:25
  Speaker 6: little leash, but then it's like then we picked him
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: up and put him in the cart because you just
• 22:29
  Speaker 6: don't want him to be getting too exposed, like walking
• 22:33
  Speaker 6: around in certain areas.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Is that what your understanding.
• 22:36
  Speaker 5: Is, Molly, Yeah, for sure.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: And like we just went to the vet earlier this
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: week and she she was like, I said, I have
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: some friends who have small dogs, and she's like, if
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: you know the homeowner and you are the dog owner,
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: and you know that those dogs are vaccinated, have them over,
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: like have the doct over so that they can play
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: and see it. So we're going to have a puppy
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: over this weekend to not a puppy, an older dog
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: to come over and see her.
• 22:56
  Speaker 5: Just yeah, because they need to interact otherwise.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Totally.
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:00
  Speaker 6: And because my last dog was dog aggressive, and they
• 23:03
  Speaker 6: do kind of believe it was because they didn't socialize them,
• 23:05
  Speaker 6: but I think it was just kind of his breed.
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: He was a German Shepherd. And I'll tell you what,
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: when your dog is not socialized, it is so like
• 23:15
  Speaker 6: debilitating because your whole life revolves around going home to
• 23:20
  Speaker 6: take care of your dog. We could not take him anywhere,
• 23:23
  Speaker 6: and so it's been so important for Mike and I
• 23:25
  Speaker 6: to really socialize. And Golden's I think are naturally just
• 23:28
  Speaker 6: little lucker bombs, but like you just to be safe,
• 23:32
  Speaker 6: like I did.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I took him over to my.
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: Brothers where he has two dogs and they did grade
• 23:37
  Speaker 6: and then my best friend Angie where she has a
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: little dog.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: So when you know that the dogs that.
• 23:41
  Speaker 6: They're around are vaccinated, then I think that's smart to do.
• 23:45
  Speaker 6: But I have a question for you, Mollie Well, and
• 23:47
  Speaker 6: you Trista, do.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: You take your dogs to dog parks? Because I didn't
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: know this was like a very controversial.
• 23:52
  Speaker 6: Thing, like side a controversial well for some people that
• 23:56
  Speaker 6: are like I will never take my dog to a
• 23:57
  Speaker 6: dog park. That is like asking for your dog to
• 24:00
  Speaker 6: get attacked or like learn about behavior or like, And
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, I guess I never thought about that,
• 24:08
  Speaker 6: But do you guys take them?
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: So I am not.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: I'm kind of one of those people that get nervous
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: around other dogs if you don't know them. And so
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: we have found dogs that that our dog loves and
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: like his best friend is named Booker, and he'll come
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: over and just play in the backyard. It's the cutest thing.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: Or we'll go on walks with them. And it's been
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: amazing too because if we go out of town, then
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: they'll come over and either take Coda for a walk
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: or come over and play in our backyard with Booker
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: and Coda.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: So at least he has some wiggles out.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: You know. So I would definitely recommend getting to know
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: people like, you know, if friends of yours have dogs
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: that are that are friendly and willing to play. I
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: feel like there are definitely people who go to dog parks,
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: but I think think it's just a personal preference. You know,
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: if you go, you go, and you know your dog,
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: you know that if they're going to be awf a leash,
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: you know how they're gonna act react two different dogs.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: I would say it probably the vets would tell you
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: to do it later.
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: Obviously they need.
• 25:17
  Speaker 6: To have a I mean, yeah, obviously way later, not
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: any not anytime soon. But like I'm saying, like in general,
• 25:23
  Speaker 6: like when they're actually back seated, like, yeah, some people
• 25:27
  Speaker 6: just do not go to dog parks.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: I don't think we will, only because like whin, he's
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: three pounds and they think she's going to be like six,
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: and so that just screams like come eat me.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Come eat me.
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: Yeah, totally, I don't think I will be doing that.
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: But my friend has a great a little like outdoor
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: doggie day care place that she takes her dog and
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: Tuesdays and Thursdays it's small Dog.
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: Day and so that's so nice.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: Her up for small Dog Day every once in a
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: while so she can do those kind of things.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: Yes, I think that's genius.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: I actually have we have a place here called Wags
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: and Whiskers or something like that, and it's.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: A doggy daycare.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: But they also do playtime, so I would highly recommend
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: that as well, if you can get into a place
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: that you know friends of yours can recommend, just so
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: they can be socialized after their shots. Are it's so important,
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: so important? Okay, so we're going to go back to
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: you mentioned home Depot. Home Depot is notoriously amazing about
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: allowing dogs to come in. Would either of you consider, obviously,
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: when he's super tiny, would you consider using a sling
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: or a stroller for opportunities.
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: I've already used both, already have books, I have a sling.
• 26:46
  Speaker 5: I have a sling.
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: Okay, I have not used a stroller because Jason Mesnik
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: will murder me if he sees a crowned.
• 26:52
  Speaker 6: With shameless shamelessly bought the stroller and it was so nice.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: To have, Like whatever, I don't care, what are we doing?
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, we are raising a puppy.
• 27:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: I did put like a bow in Winnie's hair the
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: other day and he was like, what are.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: It's so funny?
• 27:12
  Speaker 6: On men, I have such an opinion about that stuff,
• 27:15
  Speaker 6: Like I wanted to buy him like a little sweater,
• 27:17
  Speaker 6: and I'm like, Mike will kill me if I put
• 27:20
  Speaker 6: a sweater on my goggle.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: You guys, when Tank was little, because he was five
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: pounds full grown, I bought him like the kids used
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: to wear these teeny tiny little black puffy coats.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: And I bought Tank a little black puffy coat. It
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: is so cut.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's so mean, Like I'm already taking Halloween costumes
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: and like scene.
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: And you know what, I didn't think about this earlier,
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: but you guys kind of got your dogs at the
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: perfect time because you can go outside. You both live
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: in areas where you're going to be dealing with winter.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: So I feel like, if you are going to buy
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: a puppy, definitely think about buying one in the spring.
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: I know, or the summer.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: I have to.
• 28:15
  Speaker 6: I can I share my story about how I thought Benny. Yes, please,
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: because it's so special. So February we had to put
• 28:24
  Speaker 6: Lobo down. Our hearts were broken, and so I'm like,
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: I really just need another dog. So I've been looking
• 28:30
  Speaker 6: at Goldens for months and months, and turns out you
• 28:34
  Speaker 6: have to get on like these lists and then you
• 28:37
  Speaker 6: put money down, you get on a list and then
• 28:39
  Speaker 6: come to find out you're like number one hundred and
• 28:41
  Speaker 6: seventy five on the list, and I'm like, this is insane.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize how hard.
• 28:46
  Speaker 6: It was to get like a pure bread golden and
• 28:48
  Speaker 6: so from a really good breeder, right, Like, you want
• 28:51
  Speaker 6: to make sure you do like a really good breeder.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: So I put my name on all these all these lists.
• 28:57
  Speaker 6: And in the meantime, my little brother got diagnosed with
• 29:05
  Speaker 6: brain cancer. So this was about four weeks ago, and
• 29:12
  Speaker 6: our family has been just torn up inside. Well, my
• 29:17
  Speaker 6: brother had a really beautiful experience when he came out
• 29:19
  Speaker 6: of surgery getting his tumor removed, where my dad, who's
• 29:23
  Speaker 6: passed from colon cancer, came to him and had this
• 29:25
  Speaker 6: amazing conversation with my brother. And in that conversation, he said,
• 29:31
  Speaker 6: I'm here to help you. You guys need to talk
• 29:33
  Speaker 6: to me like as ask me what you ask me
• 29:36
  Speaker 6: for help and I will help you. And so I
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: went to bed that night and I was like, Dad,
• 29:44
  Speaker 6: I need a puppy. I really need a dog. Our
• 29:47
  Speaker 6: family needs a dog.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: My brother his name's Doug.
• 29:50
  Speaker 6: I'm like, dog needs a dog. Please help me get
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: a dog. So the next morning I had this impulse
• 29:56
  Speaker 6: to just email the breeder that I really wanted, which
• 29:58
  Speaker 6: is like hearing you tather, this wonderful company and I
• 30:04
  Speaker 6: forget the name. Anyway, I sent this email to them
• 30:06
  Speaker 6: and I said, hey, please keep me in mind if
• 30:08
  Speaker 6: anyone backs out of getting a puppy, because we just
• 30:12
  Speaker 6: found out my brother has brain cancer. It would be
• 30:14
  Speaker 6: such it'd be so wonderful to have a puppy right now,
• 30:16
  Speaker 6: no stress, but if anything happens, just keep me posted.
• 30:20
  Speaker 6: Like an hour later, I get a phone call from
• 30:22
  Speaker 6: her and she's just like, Michelle that you're not going
• 30:26
  Speaker 6: to believe this, but we just had this girl back
• 30:30
  Speaker 6: out of this puppy and I just started bawling, just
• 30:34
  Speaker 6: like saw me and I'm like, oh my gosh. And
• 30:36
  Speaker 6: I'm just like she's like, do you want the puppy
• 30:39
  Speaker 6: and I'm like, yes, I want the puppy. So it
• 30:43
  Speaker 6: was this beautiful orchestration of timing because I wouldn't have
• 30:48
  Speaker 6: gotten a dog tail like like you said, like till
• 30:51
  Speaker 6: next like winter, and I'm just like, our family needs
• 30:54
  Speaker 6: a puppy now. And so I'm like, my dad made
• 30:56
  Speaker 6: all of this happen, and so the the only reason
• 31:00
  Speaker 6: we have him is because of my dad and my
• 31:03
  Speaker 6: sweet brother who's just dealing with crazy. You know, our
• 31:06
  Speaker 6: whole family is just like what's going on. But our
• 31:09
  Speaker 6: dog has brought us so much joy and laughter and
• 31:12
  Speaker 6: like lightened all of our load while we're dealing with
• 31:15
  Speaker 6: something so heavy. So he feels like very like he
• 31:20
  Speaker 6: was meant to be with us.
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: Oh that's so special, I know.
• 31:26
  Speaker 6: And then I found the girl that was originally going
• 31:29
  Speaker 6: to take him, and I just sent her this message.
• 31:33
  Speaker 6: I'm like, oh my gosh, you followed your instinct to
• 31:36
  Speaker 6: say no to the dog right now because she had
• 31:38
  Speaker 6: other things going on.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: It was really a hard decision for and I'm like,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: but your decision helped my whole family.
• 31:45
  Speaker 6: Just heal, like it was just this beautiful, like synchronicity
• 31:48
  Speaker 6: of life that just was meant to happen.
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: I love that, kidding. It is a beautiful story.
• 31:57
  Speaker 6: Doug is amazing, My brother is amazing. He's so positive
• 32:02
  Speaker 6: and has such a great outlook on life. But this
• 32:06
  Speaker 6: is hard. This is going to be a hard road.
• 32:09
  Speaker 6: So we're trying desperately to get him into some clinical trials,
• 32:14
  Speaker 6: and every day we're kind of like waiting to hear
• 32:16
  Speaker 6: back and you know, setting out more applications and stuff.
• 32:19
  Speaker 6: But you know, like God has such an amazing way
• 32:24
  Speaker 6: of like teaching and helping us see the positive in
• 32:29
  Speaker 6: things when things can be really hard. And you know,
• 32:33
  Speaker 6: if anyone can overcome brain cancer, it's my brother Doug.
• 32:39
  Speaker 6: Like he is so strong and he's so positive, and
• 32:42
  Speaker 6: I just believe that he's going to like fifteen years
• 32:45
  Speaker 6: from now, we're going to be like remember when you
• 32:46
  Speaker 6: thought you had eighteen months to live and like look
• 32:49
  Speaker 6: at you now.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: I'm just convinced that's going to happen.
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: Well, I'm like a firm believer in the in healing
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: powers and positivity when it comes to people with you know,
• 32:58
  Speaker 5: these diagnoses and cancer and all that. I think positive
• 33:01
  Speaker 5: attitudes have insane.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Totally totally and don't bring that out.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: And dogs, yes, they do, they do, they do, And
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: actually I feel like they also have healing powers. Have
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: you guys ever heard of how like a dog saliva
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: if they.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Lick like a wound.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Then I mean I'm not recommend I'm not a doctor obviously,
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: but I have heard that they that they can heal physically,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: not even not even just emotionally by petting them.
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: I don't know that I didn't, Yes, something like that.
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: Let's let's ask pay chat.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Sure, I have my dog lick my wounds.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I've heard all those stories of like
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: dogs having instincts of something going on.
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, being able to.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: Actually smell cancer.
• 33:52
  Speaker 6: Yes, I saw a story about certain dogs that can
• 33:56
  Speaker 6: smell I think it was ovarian cancer or something they're.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Like, would Doug would getting like a I mean, I
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: guess Benny, I'll just be his rescue dog.
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean Doug lives with has it's like his dog.
• 34:09
  Speaker 6: It's Doug's dog.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: He lives. He lives with you guys right now.
• 34:12
  Speaker 6: He moved in with us when he right before he
• 34:15
  Speaker 6: got the diagnosis, and so he's kind of here between
• 34:18
  Speaker 6: here and my mom's and his house. He just doesn't
• 34:20
  Speaker 6: like to be alone and so yeah, so he's kind
• 34:25
  Speaker 6: of with us quite a bit. So it's perfect because
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: he really does kind of feel like bends his dog.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: Yes, that's so so so powerful. I just I absolutely
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: love that story such a such you know that it
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: was meant to be, you know, he meant without a doubt, right, Yeah, yeah,
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: totally Okay, So switching gears in terms of, like when
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: we rescued Coda and when we rescued Sophie, you have
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: to sign this agreement saying that you're going to fix
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: the dog just because they're rescues and you know whatever.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Is that something that you guys both got your dogs
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: from breeders, right, Molly, Yeah, I got yours from breeder? Yeah.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Is that something that you guys are considering doing? Have
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: you thought about that? And why I'll do it? Yeah?
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with my dog having her period.
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: I already have a thirteen year old girl, No kidding.
• 35:30
  Speaker 6: I don't know what side of TikTok I'm on, but
• 35:32
  Speaker 6: I'm like on all the like, vaccines are dangerous, don't
• 35:37
  Speaker 6: fix your dogs, like all the like.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: My brain is just like going like.
• 35:41
  Speaker 6: This, and but I'm like, I honestly haven't even gotten
• 35:47
  Speaker 6: to that point yet to even think about it, because
• 35:49
  Speaker 6: I'm still at the point where I'm like trying to
• 35:51
  Speaker 6: figure out the vaccine situation because lots of people, I mean,
• 35:54
  Speaker 6: they don't say you want to vaccinate it, you should
• 35:56
  Speaker 6: vaccinate your dog, but like what I'm gathering is that
• 36:00
  Speaker 6: like they don't need as many as we're giving and
• 36:04
  Speaker 6: I'm just like, I don't even like, I don't know
• 36:06
  Speaker 6: where to begin with all of this, so I can't
• 36:07
  Speaker 6: think about that right now.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: And you know what I did with my kids, so
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: I was I was definitely really thoughtful about their vaccines.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: I believe in them as someone who believes in science,
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: but I also didn't want to bombard their their systems,
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: so I broke them up and didn't do them all
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: at once. And I believe Heather just said that you
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: can do that for dogs too, So maybe that's something
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: to talk to your vet about. Is not like getting
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: them all at once, but maybe you know, I don't know,
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: do you know?
• 36:37
  Speaker 6: What I'm learning through all of this is like there's
• 36:41
  Speaker 6: just too much information.
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: Oh god, there's so much.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: There's just too.
• 36:44
  Speaker 6: Much, yes, and then and then I get like decision
• 36:48
  Speaker 6: like paralysis, and I'm just like, right, I don't know
• 36:51
  Speaker 6: what to do now because I know too much about
• 36:54
  Speaker 6: every option, and so I've really been overwhelmed with like
• 37:00
  Speaker 6: this is the way you train your dog, and this
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: is why you create train your dog, and this is
• 37:04
  Speaker 6: what you feed your dog, and everyone has a different
• 37:06
  Speaker 6: opinion and I'm just like.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: This is wild, Like.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: You guys, this is very similar. You can all you
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: can both attest and agree with me that this is
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: very similar to raising kids. Everyone has an opinion, there's
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: all different theories, right, And so what I guess what
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: to think about is how did you deal with that
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: when your kids were tiny and there were all these
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: opinions and overwhelm coming at you.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: I didn't have to deal with it.
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: There was no social media, you know what I mean,
• 37:38
  Speaker 6: Like I was four years old, there wasn't like I
• 37:41
  Speaker 6: didn't have opinions. But like, for example, I have my
• 37:44
  Speaker 6: best friend who's pregnant and the vaccine conversation has come up,
• 37:49
  Speaker 6: and I'm like, I can't imagine what you're being bombarded
• 37:53
  Speaker 6: with because just focus like just my dog alone, Like totally,
• 37:58
  Speaker 6: I just can't imagine. I don't wish it on anyone
• 38:01
  Speaker 6: because it's like there's just an abundance of opinions and
• 38:06
  Speaker 6: options and like it's too much.
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think raising today a brand new baby today,
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: So when we all had our baby, so.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: Different, Yeah, totally different.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: True, But now it's like you're you're fur baby is
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: you know, just as important to your family? Yeah, I
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: feel like and yeah, it's hard to not get overwhelmed
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: when you deal when you are overwhelmed because I need this,
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: I need this information. You both have older I know
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: obviously stepchild, but for you, Molly, but you both have
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: older kids than me, how do you deal with the overwhelm?
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: And like, please just help me give me a tip
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: that how do I deal with overwhelm?
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Please?
• 38:47
  Speaker 6: I will say this, like, I really firmly believe that
• 38:51
  Speaker 6: we all have an inner guidance system within us. It's ours,
• 38:56
  Speaker 6: it's specific to us, it's different than yours and everyone else.
• 38:59
  Speaker 6: Like there's and knowing that we have inside of us
• 39:02
  Speaker 6: that only we have access to. And it's so important
• 39:07
  Speaker 6: to raise our children to have a relationship with their
• 39:10
  Speaker 6: own inner being because we're not going to always be
• 39:13
  Speaker 6: there to say like, no, don't do this, and yes
• 39:15
  Speaker 6: do that. It's like and how am I to know
• 39:17
  Speaker 6: what you should or shouldn't do? It's this is your life.
• 39:20
  Speaker 6: So for me, I always come back to what feels
• 39:25
  Speaker 6: true for you. When you get really quiet and you
• 39:27
  Speaker 6: get all the noise away and you're sitting, you can
• 39:31
  Speaker 6: always find the answers within you, and you have to
• 39:35
  Speaker 6: trust that those impulses you have are your guidance system.
• 39:39
  Speaker 6: Leading you to what is right for you because there's
• 39:42
  Speaker 6: just too many opinions out there. So that's what I've
• 39:45
  Speaker 6: always tried to do with Brielle, is like, trust what
• 39:49
  Speaker 6: is feeling intuitively right for you and just trust it.
• 39:53
  Speaker 6: And then when you do, you build that trust muscle
• 39:56
  Speaker 6: kind of up and you look back and you're like, wow,
• 39:59
  Speaker 6: that was the right to say decision, And now I
• 40:01
  Speaker 6: have the evidence to show that I can't trust my
• 40:03
  Speaker 6: own self.
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 40:05
  Speaker 6: True.
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: I mean, so you're a great mom. I've known you
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: for forever, and your kids are wonderful and they're strong
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: and confident in all of that. Like they're at to
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: the age now that they're so much older where it's
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: you know, like you've done your job and it's time
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: for them to right and they will be great and
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: they will make mistakes, and those mistakes need to happen
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: because that is how they learn.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: How you learn on their own.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: So painful, like I take I'm like, I take care
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: of everything for my family, like to a detriment. It's
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: it's a problem, right, I'm like a control freak and
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: I take care of a lot of things. And with time,
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: I've had to learn how to do and it's even
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: just over the past like two years. His first couple
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: of years of college, it was like, Okay, you got
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: to make sure you do this and make sure you
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: do this, and it's like.
• 40:50
  Speaker 5: That wasn't helping him.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: And I finally got to the point like I'm not
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: going to remind him and I'm going to let him
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: fail and then he won't make that mistake again, you know.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: And so it's like good parenting. That's such good parenting.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: Deadlines he needs to make and I'm not hounding him
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: about you got to do this or it's not going
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: to happen. It's like, if you don't make it happen,
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: that's on you, and that's helping him grow.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: So true, so good, so true.
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: Thank you guys.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: I mean, you're both amazing and I'll probably be texting
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: you from now on.