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Your Need For Control Is A Sign You Are In Your Masculine · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a Matchpathic Doctor, 70 Energy Healer, Akashic Reader, Intuitive, and Energetic Business Mentor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you guys have been loving these little mini episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, today, if you have the need to control, this episode is going to be for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your need to control is a sign that you are in your masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is because for you it is safer than being in flow and being in your feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you're not familiar with these terms like masculine and feminine, I have done several podcast episodes on being in your feminine and everything like that that I would go back and listen to.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also now have a podcast directory on the website, which is super exciting.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna be linking that down below.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can kind of go and really scroll through all the episodes and find the one you want to listen to next.
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  SPEAKER_00: But and this is controlling, not just you know, controlling where you go for dinner, controlling what you eat, controlling everything around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um it's that need to always have the plan, to be the one planning, to know all the things, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So control is also the need to know all of the things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And some other signs, if you're not familiar with like masculine, feminine, that you're in your masculine, are that you are a perfectionist, you are hyperbody focused, or hyper direction focused, you're burnt out, um, you can't slow down, you have trouble like slowing down, taking time off, you always need to be go, go, go, you always have this long to-do list that ends up leaving you exhausted, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the the key thing about this and the reason that you are in your masculine is because it is safer than allowing flow and letting go of control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you let go of control, your body then perceives something as not safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so this stems from really early on.
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  SPEAKER_00: This stems from what you learned when you were younger.
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  SPEAKER_00: So something that happened when you were younger taught your younger brain that control means safety and masculine is safer to be in than your feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the feminine part of you often learns from a young age that it's not self-safe to trust the masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then you shift into that to provide that for yourself, even though your natural instinct or your natural biology is to be in your feminine, and that can be that that energy didn't show up for you or support you when you needed it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it could be that dad wasn't around, or maybe dad traveled a lot, or dad put so much pressure on you, and in order to receive love, you needed to be perfect, to you know, get all these good grades to make the soccer team.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was just too many expectations put on you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then you felt the need to jump into your masculine as a means to control the world around you because your brain is thinking, if I control, then I'm safe and receive love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And especially as our women, our primal drive is love and connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men is passion and purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if your primary drive is love and connection and that's threatened, your natural state is gonna go into whatever it believes it needs to in order to receive that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Therefore, if you grew up feeling, and I'm gonna use the word unsafe, but just know that dad, like only showing you love if you got an A and not if you got a B, is making love unsafe to you in your child brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so just know that that sometimes I think people can hear unsafe and think it has to be this like larger or more traumatic thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, so you develop your own masculine energy to protect you and your heart from getting hurt again, from either not getting the love from not being perfect or for being this and not that, or perhaps you've had brothers and your dad treated you differently than they treated them, or you know, there's there's so many different possibilities it could be when I work with my clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you'd be surprised all the things that that come up when we do this, but it's important to understand that this is where it comes from because the feminine really wants to feel the depth of that love, and if she can't feel that, and if it feels unsafe, you will continually be stuck in your masculine trying to control everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what happens is you end up feeling so drained because you have that desire to feel love in every moment, and when that love stops flowing, then you feel exhausted, depleted, and empty.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're on this vicious cycle of trying to receive it by being in your masculine, not receiving what you need, but not being safe enough to feel in your feminine, and then the cycle continues and continues.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just wanted to hop on here and remind you guys that both Land the Man and Goddess Activation are open right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Land the Man is all about receiving a man who leads and creating a relationship that nourishes your soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a two-part live series where I will be covering the blocks to why you can't receive, how to communicate with men, how to stop mothering him and emasculating him, as well as creating polarity in the relationship that lets things be hot, lets him lead, but also is that nourishing, yummy, safe feeling in your soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then of course we have goddess activation for the woman who really wants to ignite her self-love, be intimate with herself, feel magnetic, show up in her power, and break down all of those things, all of the unworthiness that she has practiced herself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And igniting into that goddess, we're going to be releasing self-doubt, we're going to be healing from perfectionism, setting boundaries, embodying a radical self-love, actually opening yourself to receive love, which kind of goes hand in hand within the man, the frequency of self-love, trusting your intuition, tapping into your goddess power, connecting with your higher self, and really living in an alignment to become magnetic for all that you desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm so excited for both of these to be open right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, they'll also be linked down below if you have questions about either of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Definitely reach out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm very excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goddess Activation, you guys know, is one of my ride or dive programs, and hundreds of women have seen profound shifts.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to bring it to you guys in a way that if you can't join one-on-one yet, then you're able to learn all of this stuff from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, let's go back and jump into the episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, if it is not safe to be in your feminine, your brain will not let you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when you can't control something, all hell breaks loose and your nervous system freaks out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure, like I this used to be me, so I fully know this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I have my glance with this, I fully get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because your nervous system is like, oh my god, I can't control.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I can't control, I am not safe and I will not be loved and I will not be enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which that is the extreme that kind of like your mind goes to when this is the experiences you had growing up that made you feel this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, note that if you are in your masculine and you have the need to control, you're not gonna be receiving a man who leads.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I work with this a lot with my clients when you know their boyfriends or their partners or their husbands are not leading, but they're the ones who are like taking control and emasculating them by being in the masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And oftentimes, just me putting them in their feminine, their husbands, partners, boyfriends, whatever, naturally step more into their masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're like, I didn't even say anything, and he's doing all these things, he's planning days, he's taking out this, and like, I didn't even say anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, Yes, because it's an energetic thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You shifting yourself into the feminine naturally brings him into the masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is also important because your need to control is very unrealistic, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't control everything in life, so trying to is just kind of setting you up for failure and setting you up to feel frustrated, anxious, non-well, just shitty to be honest, and it gets you stuck in that vicious cycle.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, if you are someone who really needs to control everything, then when you can't, that frenzy breaks out and that nervous system gets overloaded.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you heal your relationship with the feminine, you are able to step more into flow with ease and you don't feel the need to control because you no longer look at control equals safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now for you, no control, no safety, also like no love.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have trust and safety within yourself, but you have to have that come from within, not from external factors, because like we said, anything as small as I don't know, it raining when you planned to walk an outside walk, like and then that you know, you you freak out because you can't go on your walk because you need to go on your walk because then you have to do XYZ and now it's raining, you can't go on your walk, or I don't know, a flight gets canceled, or whatever it is, like these are small things, but there's also big things that we can't always control in life that happen, but it's your ability to go with the flow, which is your feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So hopefully you guys understand this.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really wanted to break this down for you in an easy to understand way.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this resonates with you, I have a few of my containers that can help with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have goddess activation, which is honestly self-led.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's all about activating your feminine and learning to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is gonna help really get you out of your masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can so honestly, as soon as you sign up, you get instant access, so you can start healing now.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's reprogramming in there, there's honestly, I don't know even how many hours.
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  SPEAKER_00: I should count how many hours of there's like maybe 40-50 videos.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's so much in there that you can start to like work away on.
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  SPEAKER_00: So join that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to stop controlling in your relationship and you want, you know, to receive a man who leads, we have land the man that is going to help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether you are trying to get into a relationship where a man leads or you're already in one where you would like him to lead more, land the man is going to help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also gonna help you learn how to communicate with him and not emasculate him.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're in your masculine now, we're gonna be covering all the little things you're probably doing that you don't even realize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, for example, if you ask him to take out the trash and then you go, I'll just do it, that's emasculating.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, right, there's all these little things that you may not realize that are going we're gonna be going over um lots in Land the Man.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll leave that down below.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also bundle goddess and land the man together, so I'll leave that link down below.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, if you need the deeper work in this area and you are craving more support, there is one-on-one for you spots, you know, kind of open and close at random times.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, depending on when you are listening to this, feel free to just DM me on Instagram and we can see when the next spot is open, or if you have questions about either of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you have the need to control, you are in your masculine, and we need to heal this because honestly, it is so delicious to be in your feminine, your feminine into a natural state, and also know that feminine can look different from everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you to think the word feminine and think it has to be pink and like frilly in dresses, you know, that your individual expression will vary from person to person, but you flow more, you receive more love, you're more magnetic, you receive more money, you have more flow in life, more happiness, more joy, more pleasure, more more everything, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the more we can get into the feminine, the more it's gonna help all areas of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: With that being said, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, and I will see you in the next one.