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Season 2 - Episode 129 - You get to decide… Carrying your story · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So in our continuing Quest on you get to decide sounds like a
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  bit of a game show, doesn't it? You get to decide.
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  We are talking today about carrying your story with you.
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  So once you've gone through this whole thing about telling
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  yourself the story, because you made a decision based on the
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  perspective, remember day, when we were talking about
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  perspective and we talked about creating the story.
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  Now, we're going to talk about carrying the story because
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  that's story is so influential to you.
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  I cannot express how thankful Story influences.
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  You it's what you tell yourself. It's it's everything about how
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  you see the world in your stories.
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  Because remember what I said yesterday about how we as human
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  beings live and die on Stories. We Tell them constantly people
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  throughout eons have told stories but the stories we tell
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  ourselves are some of the most critical important stories in
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  the world and anytime we start using the word, Zai am or this
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  is what this means to me. We are getting these really
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  solid identifiers about things and talking about how that is
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  part of our identity soon as something becomes identity
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  driven. Well, there you have it.
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  Now we have to really pay attention because when identity
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  shows up, oh boy, that is a very very, very big deal and you can
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  identify you can see your identity in lots of things that
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  you say about yourself. Like what do you believe about
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  yourself? If you've never sat down and
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  actually, We mapped out this you know idea of who you are on
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  paper, it is fascinating like what do you believe about
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  yourself? What are your strong points?
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  What are your weak points? Where do you see yourself
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  wanting to grow? It is a fascinating exercise and
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  should be definitely done. And if you haven't done that
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  before, do it, sit down and debrief yourself about that
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  story. You tell yourself about you,
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  because what's more important in your head, then you mean we all
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  know that our primary Any questions always come back to
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  ourselves. Like what does this mean to me?
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  And if you can determine what things mean to you, then you can
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  start to really assess how you see things in life.
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  So very, very, very important aspect of this and carrying that
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  story forward with you, anywhere you go.
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  So one of the things that I carried with me, when I was a
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  child, all the time, incidences with my mother and her anxiety.
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  As you guys know, I learned anxiety through my mother.
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  Was definitely a learned behavior and because I had the
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  dichotomy of I could be completely calm when I was with
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  my father and I had absolute certainty with him.
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  And when I was with my mother, I would have uncertainty because I
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  didn't didn't know what was going to be coming at me.
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  So I learned that. And that was part of my story
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  and I felt like when I was by myself, I couldn't trust myself
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  sometimes so I would always gravitate towards wanting to be
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  with my dad. I didn't like to be without him.
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  That was a story that I told myself and everything that I did
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  when I was younger until he passed away.
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  When I was in my mid-20s, I had to run by him.
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  I wanted to talk to him about it.
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  Now on the surface that doesn't seem like it's a big deal.
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  Of course you'd want to talk to your dad about something if you
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  trust your dad and it's not a big deal.
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  But what was a big deal? Was the reason I was doing it
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  and it was based on the fact that the story I was telling
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  myself about myself and other words, I'm Sharing that story
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  with me was I couldn't trust myself, I had to run it by him
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  and if he said no, that had a lot of weight to me.
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  So when he told me not a good idea to be a teacher, not a good
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  idea to be, you know, a writer all those things he was trying
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  to protect me. Great.
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  I understand that that was part of his story and I appreciated
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  that but ultimately that stopped me from doing some of the things
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  that I really wanted to do in my life.
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  I mean, just for a period of time because obviously, I
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  wouldn't Be here with you. If I had actually taken that all
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  on, but that only happened when I learned to change my story
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  about myself. So this is incredibly important.
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  What story are you telling about yourself?
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  And right now out there, there is a large percentage of people
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  who are allowing a story about themselves.
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  That is not empowering to take over, just because things happen
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  to us. Doesn't mean that has to be the
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  way our lives go. We are not victims.
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  We are not able. We are not able to get past
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  that. We are screwed.
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  Yes, we can all believe that we're survivors and we can move
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  past it and we can change our story, and we can make it just
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  like it's part of something if we choose to.
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  And again, this is something you have to choose to.
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  I never, ever, ever let the stories that I had real problems
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  with six miscarriages suck. Let me tell you that.
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  I had six of them. That sucks sucks.
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  Beyond all recognition. Drop me to my knees crying.
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  Having them so bad that it was just a.
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  I can't even explain how horrible it was.
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  I never let it Define me. I never let it change who I was
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  as a person. I never let it become my story.
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  That was driving me. It was just a A story, not the
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  story. So you get to decide you get to
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  decide. So, I will make the point again,
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  go in and really understand the story that you're carrying with
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  you and what it's doing to you every day because if it's not
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  empowering you than it's breaking you and that's a
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  problem. Okay?
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  My friends work on it and I will see you tomorrow for the next
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  part of that. Bye.