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Clitical Thinking · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Hoping, and we talk back where we encourage you to
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  Speaker 1: hustle hard, laugh louder, and always.
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  Speaker 2: Keep it cute. So grab your coffee, cocktail and crown.
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  Speaker 1: Because it's about to go down.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 2: talks back.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl a j holiday. What's hey, y'all?
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy?
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck was that right?
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, hey, y'all. I love y'all so very much.
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  Speaker 1: Geeking out right quick?
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was happening. I'm so happy. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if it's all right, y'all. I got all my
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  Speaker 2: weave out and I got two balls and it just
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  Speaker 2: makes me feel so youthful and just full of life
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  Speaker 2: or something. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting my edges. Look, are you gonna get you some
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  Speaker 1: rolls oil?
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  Speaker 2: They're growing back now.
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  Speaker 1: We got out here, I was like, bitch, you got
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  Speaker 1: your real hair out? I hear that.
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  Speaker 2: What was smooth right there? It's some hair you.
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  Speaker 1: Got the ad just flourishing for the summer.
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  Speaker 2: Don't play with me. Don't play with me.
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  Speaker 1: I should have gotten me some braids. I just don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like putting them in and taking them out though
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  Speaker 1: it's just a whole process.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, but the in between time is so glorious.
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  Speaker 1: Because I be in yoga with a fucking wig scarf on.
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  Speaker 1: It wouldn't be wigging for the gym now there's a
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  Speaker 1: wig scarf. When I tell y'all, y'all, fuck that gym. Shit. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I think I'm about to just only do hot yoga
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  Speaker 1: because when I tell y'all, I burn way more calories
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  Speaker 1: than forty five minutes, and hot yoga like six hundred
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  Speaker 1: calories and forty five minutes.
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  Speaker 2: I can't do nothing hard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you damn. They can't breathe in that bitch. But
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  Speaker 1: and I be right in there like tussling and do
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  Speaker 1: all them positions. Hiah looking stupid. I already know.
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  Speaker 2: That's how everybody looks stupid when they start.
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  Speaker 1: But my hip hurt a little bit today. But see that.
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  Speaker 1: The thing is, I need this fucking stretch more.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I'm on day fifty eight of my seventy five
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  Speaker 2: hart and I look at the beginning pictures and the
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  Speaker 2: pictures now and I can tell, like my face, like
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  Speaker 2: I can see my body is changing. But I don't
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  Speaker 2: know why I thought that I would be looking like
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  Speaker 2: Billy Blanks by now, and I don't you know, So
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  Speaker 2: I just knew by the time I got to sixty,
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  Speaker 2: I was gonna be ripped up. But that's not how
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  Speaker 2: it worked. Like the training was like, I mean, this
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  Speaker 2: is seventy five days.
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  Speaker 1: It's good, but these not good results.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I got I got good results. But I
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  Speaker 2: just thought I was gonna look like I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what I thought. I just thought, yeah, by the time
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  Speaker 2: I get to sixty, are.
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  Speaker 1: You doing like creatine and stuff like that, because I
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  Speaker 1: put creatine into my little regimen. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: I know I don't eat enough protein though.
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  Speaker 2: Bro. That's that has been like the hardest part for me,
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  Speaker 2: outside of drinking all that water every day. The protein
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  Speaker 2: I've been doing. Like I found these muffins called Bootylicious muffins,
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  Speaker 2: and they're low calorie, low carb. They taste yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: they taste nice, and they got twenty five grams of protein.
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  Speaker 2: It comes like in a powder form and you gotta
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  Speaker 2: add water or milk or whatever, and I just add
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  Speaker 2: protein shake as my milk to it. And they're actually good.
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  Speaker 2: So I have those in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta bake them, that's what you're saying.
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  Speaker 2: The microwave cause like a little cup, like a noodle cup,
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  Speaker 2: and you just mix it with your water or whatever
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  Speaker 2: you want to put in it. And they put in
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  Speaker 2: the microwave for a minute fifteen seconds and it's a
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  Speaker 2: little muffin in a pot and it's so good. And
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  Speaker 2: I have that with my black coffee in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: Nice. And that's I just had two eggs this morning.
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  Speaker 1: I don't eat enough, man.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I realized. You're supposed to have a
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  Speaker 2: grammar protein for every pound in your body. Who are
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  Speaker 2: you eating that much protein in a day?
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  Speaker 1: And then because I don't eat meat, like it's hard,
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm tied of salmon. I don't eat when salmon
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  Speaker 1: tay's weird nowadays. So I bought like a big ass
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  Speaker 1: from Costco. I bought like a big ass box of
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  Speaker 1: lobster tails for like two hundred dollars. It was like
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  Speaker 1: twenty lobster tails, like the big ones too. Yeah, because
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  Speaker 1: it was gonna sell Mother's Day weekend, So I bought.
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  Speaker 1: So I beat lobster tails scallos. I made a little
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  Speaker 1: fry loft sale. That's girl's imagine like if you go
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  Speaker 1: to a restaurant and got a lobster dinner. How much
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  Speaker 1: that's gonna cost you. It's gonna be two hundred dollars
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  Speaker 1: for that want meal you and somebody else. So I
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  Speaker 1: got a whole box of them. That is actually not rich,
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  Speaker 1: that's rich broke.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's that's actually really good. And I noticed that
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  Speaker 2: you've been back to Costco, but you haven't mentioned my candle.
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  Speaker 1: But they don't have them no more. They're gone. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't see them when I went back in there.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted that really badly.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you know, I would have had to win
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  Speaker 1: the very next day that we talked about it, and
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  Speaker 1: I didn't, you know, But you should be able to
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  Speaker 1: order it online. I'll give you my Costco account and
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  Speaker 1: you could order it to your house online. Anything that
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  Speaker 1: you see that you might want, usually it's on the
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  Speaker 1: Costco website. Then that way you could just ship that
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  Speaker 1: ship to your house without stepping foot in the Costco.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that's cool. I also wanted you to buy it,
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  Speaker 2: but it's okay. I'll just.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, where the fuck was I putting that that thing was?
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  Speaker 1: That thing is the size of a waste basket for
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  Speaker 1: a bathroom.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so big. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta be careful with candles because a lot of
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  Speaker 1: them shit toxic. Man, you want a big, big, stupid
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  Speaker 1: ass toxic can do in your house.
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  Speaker 2: I want that. I want that toxic shit in the house.
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  Speaker 2: I want that candle.
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  Speaker 1: I was your weekend. I ain't do much this past weekend.
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  Speaker 2: My weekend I hit. I hit a wall this weekend, Auntie,
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  Speaker 2: you is tired. I could do no more. I could
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  Speaker 2: do no more. I just had to rest. I had to.
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  Speaker 2: I mean I did my works but like I literally
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  Speaker 2: did my workouts and got in the bed. That was it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean I went to m hmm, that'd be fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I did enjoy laying in the bed all day.
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  Speaker 2: Like on Sunday, I did my workout and then I
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  Speaker 2: got back in the bed. I tried to go. I
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  Speaker 2: was trying. I was supposed to go to New York.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't work out, but God said, lay down, and
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  Speaker 2: that's what I did. Shout out to Taylor. Taylor had
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  Speaker 2: her baby shower Sunday. I missed it. I sent her
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  Speaker 2: some nice things. I literally I'm broke right down, because stop.
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  Speaker 1: Saying you broke girl. In between blessings and bitch ain't
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  Speaker 1: never broke.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm in between blessings cuz five bitches, I never
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  Speaker 2: had baby showers this week. That's five hundred dollars gone,
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  Speaker 2: just buying everybody some shit, trying to you know, trying
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  Speaker 2: to bless everybody baby. And I just pray over that money.
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  Speaker 2: When I spend it on y'all day, it comes back
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  Speaker 2: to me.
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  Speaker 1: You're not spending it, You're circulating it. You see. Gotta
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  Speaker 1: chose those words wisely so the money can come back.
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  Speaker 1: So you circulated the money and bought the gifts, and
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  Speaker 1: it's coming right back around.
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  Speaker 2: Why I've been fucking.
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  Speaker 1: We ain't even fucking enough, because where's my goddamn baby, y'all?
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  Speaker 1: My birthday Sunday? Where is my baby?
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  Speaker 2: And then you don't never have no birthday party. I'm
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  Speaker 2: sick of you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't because it's like, listen, I like to celebrate.
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of sick of America. Maybe if I maybe
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  Speaker 1: I could plan a trip for real, like I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to do a solo trip. And I didn't even execute
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  Speaker 1: on that shit.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you bullshit it on that.
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  Speaker 1: I know I did. And now I'm like I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to spend that type of I wanted to go
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  Speaker 1: to Barbados, and I don't want to spend that type
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  Speaker 1: of money on the fucking flight now. And I only
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  Speaker 1: can go for like a couple of days, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I want to go for the whole fucking week, pack
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  Speaker 1: the fucking cat up and be out.
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  Speaker 2: Well, why you can't, Why you can't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do something. I'm gonna do something. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: do something because I do want to definitely be on
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  Speaker 1: the beach this weekend. So I'm gonna figure it out
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  Speaker 1: last minute, hop in the car or the plane and
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  Speaker 1: get out of here for a couple of days.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, do it.
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  Speaker 1: I want to figure it out. I am making me
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  Speaker 1: some fairy wings. Now what I heard recently, okay, because
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  Speaker 1: what I did do this weekend is bought some fucking furnitures,
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  Speaker 1: some new furniture. And one of my homegirls, who uh
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  Speaker 1: picked the chairs up I needed, she helped me with
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  Speaker 1: her truck. As she was leaving, I told her I
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  Speaker 1: was making fairy wings. So I did arts and craft
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  Speaker 1: this weekend and she told me, did you know, like
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  Speaker 1: the fairy shit is like another word for prostitution. I'm
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  Speaker 1: disgusted with you niggas. What How the fuck would y'all
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  Speaker 1: pervert fairies? Yes, they're saying fair I googled it. It's
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  Speaker 1: saying like fairy if if a woman says she's a fairy,
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  Speaker 1: that's like a cold word for selling pussy.
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  Speaker 2: Damn not tinker Bell being out here selling ass the
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  Speaker 2: whole time and we ain't even know.
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  Speaker 1: I am so sick of niggas, man Like, why do
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  Speaker 1: we pervert everything? Why we make everything positive and magical?
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  Speaker 1: Like as negative as possible? You know, why does that happen?
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  Speaker 2: I was so disgusted I ain't gonna lie. I need
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  Speaker 2: to eat lunch because when you said fair wings, I
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  Speaker 2: thought she was making.
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  Speaker 1: Some fair wing. How you like low gold dust like
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  Speaker 1: low goal uh oh, sweet sour sauce, like some little
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  Speaker 1: gold flakes or something like that lemon pepper shame. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I didn't do much this weekend. I did hot
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  Speaker 1: yogat and made some fucking fairy wings. That's it.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get this.
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  Speaker 1: So, y'all, this is this is so for me. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how y'all feel, but it says a
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  Speaker 1: new study. I don't know how I knew it is
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  Speaker 1: but it says new study shows women find men sixty
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  Speaker 1: percent more attractive if he can do manly task like
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  Speaker 1: mow the yard, fix the car, and pick her up
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  Speaker 1: and then use the imagery from a baby boy you
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  Speaker 1: remember his mama with ben Rhyme's getting picked up in
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  Speaker 1: that kitchen. Yes, live okay, it's so funny to find
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  Speaker 1: you know. Did you ever see the video? I think
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  Speaker 1: she was on a breakfast club. I can't remember. I
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  Speaker 1: think she was a breakfast club. AJ. She said that
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  Speaker 1: she did like a threesome for her fiftieth birthday, but
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  Speaker 1: it was actually with two men. I mean that's a threesome.
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  Speaker 2: Some people may consider it a train but she said, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: is it a It's only a threesome if they distouched right?
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  Speaker 1: Why because they like by at that point?
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  Speaker 2: No, because I thought everybody's having sexual with everybody.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I thought. So too, that's what I thought.
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  Speaker 1: But anyway over here, unlet's just pp So it's a
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  Speaker 1: steady show. Women find men up to sixty percent more
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  Speaker 1: attractive when they can do manly tasks like change the oil,
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  Speaker 1: chop wood more lawn, carry her with ease or drop
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  Speaker 1: and do push ups. It's not just man chocolate, some wood,
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  Speaker 1: me too. It's not just the muscles, it's the competence
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  Speaker 1: fixing things, lifting, heavy handling business without calling for help.
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  Speaker 1: And in a world of soft talkers and filters, being
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  Speaker 1: hands on is the new sexy. I've always been like,
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  Speaker 1: I like dirty niggas, like I like mechanics. I like
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  Speaker 1: fucking truck drivers. I like niggas who could build me
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  Speaker 1: a house. Definitely niggas who chop wood. Those are my
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  Speaker 1: kind of guys.
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  Speaker 2: It's this nigga on Instagram. He got that curly hair,
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  Speaker 2: brown skin, and he'd be out there chopping wood.
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  Speaker 1: Fine nigga be eating that fucking watermelon face. Yes, yes, yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we like that, like you know, a.
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  Speaker 2: New study that shit always been training.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think we women don't end up with these
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  Speaker 1: type of guys, though, you know what I'm saying. You
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  Speaker 1: either end up with somebody you gotta do all the things,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe he has the finances to pay for somebody
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  Speaker 1: to do the things. But I really I like to
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  Speaker 1: do things even if I have the money, Like I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to spend it on certain things that I
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  Speaker 1: can read a book and figure out, or watch YouTube
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  Speaker 1: and figure it out, so bitch be undereath the hood
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  Speaker 1: of the car and all the things. And I like
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  Speaker 1: men who do that, who do those same type of
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  Speaker 1: things like I like, I like problem solvers. I like uh, troubleshooters.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like I'm not getting under no car. I'll
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  Speaker 2: change a tire if I have to, and there's no
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  Speaker 2: cars passing by, and I can't just put a leg
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  Speaker 2: out into the street.
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  Speaker 1: But I just feel accomplished when I do things, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I like taking it apart and
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  Speaker 1: putting it back together. That's just what I like.
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  Speaker 2: So I like somebody who can compliment that type activity.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: My ex girldmama was like, don't dumping yet. I need
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  Speaker 1: him to finish the towel in my kitchen. We did
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  Speaker 1: that Chile bitch in the kitchen, and not immediately, so
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  Speaker 1: if you're listening, you know that. Really we were just laughing,
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  Speaker 1: me and my mama, You're bestie, was just laughing and
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  Speaker 1: joking and playing right. But shortly thereafter, yes, bitch, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't after I got her Chile.
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  Speaker 2: So cam Brian had the exotic dancer that was a
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  Speaker 2: part of the Cassie and Diddy case. That black man
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  Speaker 2: came out with the book Freezer Meat, and he proceeds
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  Speaker 2: to ask him was the pussy good? Like let us
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  Speaker 2: know how to put what the pussy was hitting for?
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  Speaker 2: And I thought that was so crash and just ugh.
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  Speaker 2: But then at the same time, I was like, I
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  Speaker 2: might have wanted to know, nasty. No, I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to know if Cassie pussy is good about Cassie's vagina.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean, I'm just thinking about how like I
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  Speaker 2: talked with my friends. They tell me they had, you know,
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  Speaker 2: fun over the weekend. I might want it to be
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  Speaker 2: like what that they care for?
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  Speaker 1: You send me a video?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I get why he might have asked that,
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  Speaker 2: but she is also a victim, and it's very public,
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  Speaker 2: and it just seemed very inappropriate to ask that man
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  Speaker 2: at And he didn't even answer the question. Basically, he
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  Speaker 2: was like, I don't I couldn't even tell you because
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  Speaker 2: I just wasn't in it, Like I was very concerned
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  Speaker 2: with my sexuality being tested by Diddy the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's just about him saying it on like
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  Speaker 1: a public platform, because I mean, of course we have
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  Speaker 1: these d these conversations, and you know, there's really no
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  Speaker 1: man that believes that Cassie is a victim. Unfortunately a
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  Speaker 1: very small percentage, and they're probably from our gay community.
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  Speaker 1: Regular heterosexual men feel like Cassie got what she deserved.
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  Speaker 1: Cassie was doing all the things because she wanted to
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  Speaker 1: do it. Cassie was a willing participant. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: them don't see the abuse part, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: They don't see the coaching, the grooming, they don't see it.
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  Speaker 1: They just you know, she signed up for that shit.
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  Speaker 1: That's really how they feel. So that's why.
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  Speaker 2: Cameron can get on the fucking podcast and asks, what's
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  Speaker 2: the plessy good?
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  Speaker 1: That is so disgusting? He get, oh my goddamn nerve,
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  Speaker 1: Like what the fuck happened to his airline? He was like,
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  Speaker 1: it just got so like he didn't get a new barber,
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  Speaker 1: that nigga. That shit that got pushbacks. It like a
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  Speaker 1: half moon. It like the moon right now, dog Crescent.
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  Speaker 2: It was just inappropriate. It was a valid question that
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  Speaker 2: I feel like men ask each other all the time.
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  Speaker 2: But it just was you got to read the room,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you gotta read the room, and that just
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  Speaker 2: was not nice or nobody wanted to hear that. Regarding
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: this situation, I.
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  Speaker 1: Think, yeah, I could have lived without it, because you
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  Speaker 1: sent me that post and all I said was ill.
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  Speaker 2: I said yuck when I got it, when I it
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  Speaker 2: was sent to me, it just.
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  Speaker 1: Was like, you said that out loud, growing ass, fucking
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  Speaker 1: fifty old nigga. Shut up anyway, You're too.
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  Speaker 2: Old to be just behaving that way.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So so. Glorilla recently changed her profile picture to
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  Speaker 1: Michael Jackson after the nose job allegations.
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  Speaker 2: It ain't allegation, she said she did.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah she did, and it clearly looks like she got
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  Speaker 1: a nose job. I don't know how you feel about that.
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  Speaker 1: What do they call it? Rhinoplasty.
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  Speaker 2: I'm an advocate of do whatever makes you happy. I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: I liked her own nose, but it's about her liking
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  Speaker 2: her nose. So if she liked a new nose, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I'm here for it. I don't have no but they
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  Speaker 2: eating her up because people are not happy with her nose.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: You know, people are not liking the nose. And then
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: another girl I can't remember who got there is done.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: They was like, you gotta let that nose sit a
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: little while for to heal and take it the actual
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: point it says it takes like a year usually. So yeah,
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: do you think made.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: Sallion and got her nose done? I don't know.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Her does does look different?
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people, I mean, Beyonce clearly
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: has a nose job. A lot of people there. Most
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: people I believe probably got this type of work done.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: We know Cardi B got a nose job. Mary J.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Blige got to know his job. Look, Kim got a
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: million those jobs. Like most people in the industry, they
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: end up.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: Removing their daddy's noses, Like this is my daddy knows
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: I want and it's wide and.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: Girl, my nose big as a motherfucker. This is my daddy.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Daddy knows all day long, and I'm gonna keep it.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my nigga knows and I love it.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can put enough makeup on it. You could
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: put like some contouring on it.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: You wanted to have a point, you can contour it.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: But I don't even care about that. It's these titties.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: I want to do something. That's why I got no
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: judging for nobody that if I go on a vacation,
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: doing that suction thing to my titties. You know what I'm
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: talking about?
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Yo, may do the booty. Yeah, that's gonna look crazy.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it. It's probably be bruised up the
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: whole vacate these bruised.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: And the last night of vacation, your titty is gonna
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: be gone. Wait a minute, motherfuckers.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: Again, put your right here real hard so they can swell.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Look lead them teddies alone the ship that we be
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: worrying about, Like, men do not give a fuck. They
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: don't so I know it right under. I know we
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: say it's for us, right half the things we do?
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Is it really though? Yes?
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: For us?
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, because niggas don't care.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: I told you he's second laid back and he's.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Good luck with her in her nose,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: like I mean, she's a pretty girl regardless, Like Glorilla
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: is really a pretty girl in person. She got like
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: a little distinct unique look, but she's a pretty girl.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: She looked like principal Hogh Tower to me. I don't
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: know her really with her she was beautiful, like that's
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: her kid or something, right, Yeah, she could have very
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: well been her daughter mm hm.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Anyway, shout out to the new noses hid y'all have
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: fun with that, y'all. So today we want to talk
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: about clinical thinking, not to be confused with critical thinking. Okay,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: so what's that you ask. It's more of a way
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: of thinking. It's more of a way of thinking that
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: blends intuition, emotional intelligence, wisdom, and basically like lived experience.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: It's that fucking gut feeling you know that women have. Right,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: it's clinical thinking that we're using. So it's like logic
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: with a libido. Basically, I can't wait to get We'll
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: be back, all right, y'all. So we're back and we're
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: talking clinical thinking today, right, So that survives gut feelings,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: like the feminine intuition that not everybody has, and a
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: lot of times we don't even be following our shit,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: but it's a real thing. You know, how you do
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: some shit and be like you know what I knew?
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I knew better, or like you think something about somebody
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: and you're like, man, I knew this niggame and shit,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: and you still you you ignored your clitical thinking skills.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Basically, So sometimes that clitical thinking can have you think
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: it wrong too.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I don't think so my clitical thinking be on point.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: It may not. It may not.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: Like at the very moment when you some shit happen,
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: you think back and be like, hmm, I was right.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: I'd be fucking knowing.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Sometimes my clitterist has led me a strength. He didn't
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: do it. He's innocent because I love the nigga so much.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: He did that shit. He did that shit.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: I think that's your heart. You might have been thinking.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: It wasn't the gut feeling.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: It wasn't the gut, it was my glitteriest.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Well, maybe you need to tune yours out. Yours might
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: not be all I mean, yours might not be on completely.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Love struck and love struck by somebody that you kind
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: of like, don't pay attention to logic and reason.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah, but you thought it though, right, So
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: your clitical thinking kicked in. But then I think my.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: Critical thinking kicked in. But my clitical thinking.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: No, the clinical thinking ain't gonna never like lead you wrong.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It's your heart and your mind
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: that be fucking you up. The clinical thinking is that.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I need out of the equation. I probably would have
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: kept my good sense.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: So what is a clinical thinker? One might ask, Right,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: So it's something in my spirit that says the same, right,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: and that's enough. That's all I really need. Right, boundaries
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: are just not up for debate. I don't need no
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: more information I need. I know exactly what's happening. And
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I picked up on it before you even put it down.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Like that's essentially what clitical thinking is. So it kind
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: of can be compared to like girl math a little bit. Right,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: So the things that make sense to women that don't
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: make sense to men, because I don't think that men
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: think as deep as women do, almost subjects relationships life
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: like they claim to be super simple.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: You just think these niggas is really fucking dumbn't it.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: You know, this past weekend I kind of said that
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: shit to somebody a little bit, a little t.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: T because that is.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I am not hard on men, not at all. I
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: don't and and really I think collective we may not
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: be hard enough. They think we'd be being hard, but
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: we really aren't. I'm not hard on men. I love men,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: I love black men in.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Particular, hard on these niggas and.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: You soft on niggas. I might sound like I'm hard
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: on them on this fucking podcast, but in real fucking life, bitch,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: too hard on a nigga? Me, okay, real.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: Life, Yeah, I'll be I'll be hard on the Okay,
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: I'm just talking about it, bitch. I still you give
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: a nigga more chances than for sure, That's what I'm saying.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: So like, I'm talking about it right because the more
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: women talk about things, that means we are still trying.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: It's when you fucking stop talking about ship is when
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: niggas need to be worried. I don't care about y'all niggas,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: no more so, and I am I open. I open
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: the door for anybody to talk say about whatever they want,
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: say whatever they want about black women. You know, if
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: we have there's plenty platforms for that shit. Okay, I do.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I'm not hard on men anyway. I do think a
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: lot of a lot of them are stupid and they
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: think that. Huh.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: I don't think these niggas are stupid. I just think,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: and I think they do think as deep as us.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: I don't think. I just when I say I'm harder
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: than you, I don't know. I just don't be going forward.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: I don't. I don't. That's I guess why I ain't
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: had no nigga since twenty sixteen. I ain't going for it.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: When I say men are stupid. Okay, when a man
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: says he's simple, what is he actually saying? Because I
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: know that men are very, very very like complex, nothing
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: simple about him.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: When I hear them say the simple, I don't think
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: simple minded. I think like they just want hot food
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: and warm cuchie and peace.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: So one thing I listened is I'm simple. I don't
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: like drama, right that. That's basically like the keywords they're
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: actually missing there is that I want to do what
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: the fuck I want to do, and I want you
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: to shut the fuck up. Okay, When they don't like drama,
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: that's them not taking accountability. They don't want you.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: They don't want to have to get into the in
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: depth conversation about something they could have possibly done, or maybe.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: You want something you want change in the relationship. They
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it. They want to be
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: dismissive of your feelings, and they like to brush us off, like, oh,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: you're so emotional. It's not like men. Men are emotional too,
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Because we always say motherfucks die whenmen get emotional. So
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: they just to me, it's just lacking accountability, and they
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: can just just scapegoat. I don't want to talk about it.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: You just full of why you're always complaining, why you
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: being petty? Because they don't want to take accountability for
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: what it is that you have a problem with.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one reason why someone would say that.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because a half the time we're just asking for clarity.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: So maybe you're not thinking deep enough. Right. This is
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: actually stemming from a conversation I had with a grown
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: man over the weekend. I'm like, man, I ain't calling
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: you no more. Cool, it's one of my friends. I'm like,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: I ain't talking to you no more because he basically
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: told me that I'm never going to get a nigga
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: to do all the things I want to do because
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: I got masculine energy. He threw that shit on me.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: You know, the talking points from all the red pill
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: niggas on these podcasts. I'm a very That's why when
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: you say I'm hard on man, that is just not true.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: Like, I guess I expect what I bring, right, so
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: like and bring masculine energy.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: How because I feel like to be a well.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: Rounded to what you bring. You should expect from a man,
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: something different than what you're bringing. You should be bringing
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: in your feminine softness.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I feel like you got to bring both. I feel
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: like men should be soft sometimes too. Masculinity is not
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: just because this friend of mine, to him, masculinity is
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: like cussing his family out. That is not like that's
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: you know, men are respectful. That's not masculinity. Like men
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: have control, right, That to me is masculinity being in
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: control of your emotions, maybe being a little bit more
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: stoic and not like cussing everybody out, like wanting to
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: fight and shit like that like that, that's to me,
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: that's not masculinity. Masculinity is more assertive, is more calculated.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: But really, those, when you think about it, are those
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: not feminine traits? I think women we think more critically,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: right clinically, I believe.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I feel like we haven't been allowed to be our
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: greatest feminine selves as black women. We don't just get
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: to like exist, be solved and be just cared for
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: and docile. I don't ever, I don't ever remember the
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: women in my life being able to just live in
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: that type of energy and be just cared for. They're
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: always taking care of business, always handling everything, always responsible
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: for everybody, even the men.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: And I think so now I'm more so in a
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: mindset is that I am now forcing you. I'm forcing
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: whoever I deal with to be the man I'm no longer.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: But you can't force nobody, That's.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: What That's what I'm saying. So right now I'm just
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: the fuck is just me existing? Right? So I don't
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: want to have to force somebody to be what it
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: is that whatever it is a man is, and whatever
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: masculinity actually looks like, because it's really not for women
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: to define, you know what I'm saying, So men have
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: to define it. But I know it doesn't look like
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: cussing your kids and wife out. That's not what the
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: fuck masculinity looks like. And you definitely can't talk to
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: me fucking crazy. So I don't know, But.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: What are the kids and wife doing?
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: I think his shit came out of frustration because he
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: does everything for his family.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, well then that's fair.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: That's not fair, you know, you just because you are
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: the provider. So you mean to tell me if you
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: were to actually lock in a nigga who's like full
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: provider all your needs. He then gets to cuss you
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: out when he gets frustrated. If I deserve it, what
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: could you do to possibly deserve that.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Maybe I'm he doing everything and I'm just being so
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: ungrateful and the kids don't listen and I'm just being
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: a bitch. Maybe I deserve to shut the fuck up, Timmy. Yes, yes, yes, daddy,
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: see you toxic. You don't believe that. Sometimes people deserve
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: they need to get cussed out.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I don't never need anybody to tell me to shut
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: the fuck up. Sometimes you do who the fuck you
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: talking to?
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you need to shut the fuck up, though, no.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: Never, you don't never need to shut When I need
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: to shut the fuck up, I don't be talking, and
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: see that's just whused when I'm talking.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: That's when you think. But sometimes other people, especially a partner,
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: might feel like, hey, you need to shut the fuck up.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: That's not what I've heard though in my relationships. What
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I've heard in my relationships is that I be building
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: recal charges against niggas, Like I just let all these
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: things add up and then I finally say something about it.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: Right now, it's the fucking problem that why didn't you
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: say this before? Like if I had said something every
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: single infraction, then I'd be nagging. So what is it
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: that you really want?
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but don't nobody want no Rico.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: Nigga said, I'd be building a Rico charge. Like it's
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: not a Rico cases that I don't nag about every infraction,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And then, especially like when
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: you cohabitating with somebody, you have to be cognizant and
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: conscious that it's not just you, right, so you gotta
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: you gotta make that other person comfortable and you expect
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: the same thing because y'all have to be in one
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: place forever together. So no, I'm not nagging by every
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: little fucking thing, right, But if one need to lead
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: to the next and then to the next, to the
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: next and next. Now by the yeah, it Rico is
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: fucking pending.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: I'll go that's a good practice.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know what to do.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Then. The only time I think that's a good practice
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: is when you stacking them up to leave. Otherwise, you
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: should address everything as it happens if it bothers you. Yeah,
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: but let's just stacking them up to say, Hey, this
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: is why I'm leaving. Then don't don't pull that.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: I've definitely done that too.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: Bit y'all write a journal or a nigga.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: I have a whole journal letter written say hey, this
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: is exactly why we're no longer. I have definitely done.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: That because one thing I don't like is let's say
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: I have an issue with my man and I bring
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: him the issue, and then instead of him addressing that issue,
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: he goes to tell me something from last May that
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: made him mad. It's like, why didn't you tell me
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: when it made you mad? Why are you trying to deflect.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: From one your thing today?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't do that now, because you're just trying to
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: like minimize what I'm saying by something that you were
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: set about it in May and I could have corrected
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: that and May had you said something. But now I'm
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: just pissed off. Yeah, and nobody hearing nobody at this point.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: So back to men saying that they're simple. Another example
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: of that is I'm simple. I don't need much. My
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: needs are basic, and that translates to feed me, fuck me, y,
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: let me chill, and don't ask me any questions, right,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: But what's really underneath? Okay, so you know It may
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: seem low maintenance on the surface, but it may also
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: mean that they're just really suppressing like their emotions. And
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: men often say how they have nobody to talk to, right,
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: they don't talk to their friends, they don't talk to
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: they women like, they don't tell people what they're actually
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: experiencing on the inside. And some may think that's masculinity, right,
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: just just dealing and not actually speaking up and saying
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: when something's bothering you, when you're having a problem.
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: But I think that's not even black a man thing.
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: I think that's a black thing. We are definitely like
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: we just deal shit happening. We just keep going, just
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: keep pushing. That's it. Hm, talk to nobody just.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: I don't okay. So like the clitical counter, the clitical
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: thinking counter to that is, it doesn't mean you have
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: to be like emotionally unavailable. Do you actually know what
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: you need? Are you used to not even being asked
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: what the fuck you need? Because men ask what you
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: bring it to the table, But what do you need
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: on the table? Do you know what you need as
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: a man? Do you know what you need out your partner?
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: If you ask a man that, half the time they
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: don't fucking know, don't know, They don't know what they
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: want to eat, and they keep putting it on us
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: as if we don't know what we want to eat.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: Imagine if your niggas say, uh, what you want to
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: eat and you be like, I don't care, just whatever
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: in the first place, he says you like, yeah, that
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: would kill that whole argument, right. It's really because they
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: don't know what they want to eat, so they yeah,
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: so they put it on us. That's a small example
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: of how the responsibility we so responsible for everybody.
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: But here's the thing, because I've had that happen. He'd
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: be like, what you want to eat? And I'm like,
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't care, and he picked something,
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: I'd be like I don't want that.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Or you pick something. He'd get there with the menu
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: and like, I don't see nothing out here I want.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: You had an opportunity to choose, so that shit could
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: go both ways. Why is the onus always on a woman?
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: Why I got to be concerned about your stomach and mine?
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: What do you mean, like, that's the woman's job to
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: be like the the nourishment, yeah, the nutrition for the family, not.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: In the dating. I guess right when you.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: If I see a whole fat family is the mama fault.
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: Don't kill me, y'all, don't sorry.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: I agree. I agree because I remember when one of
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: my sisters is she extra fine right now, chiad, but
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: you know she'd be letting her family stow eat bullshit
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: while she's dyeting. That is not okay. I need you
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: to make sure that they're eating whole foods as well,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying. You want to be
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: the only one alive because that's what I'm seeing.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: My nephew beating fucking h noodles. Them sit got eight
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: hundred milligrams.
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: Of sodium in it them, chit is so high they're
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: not even It's not even real food. I listen, if
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: it was apocalypse and that was all that was left
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: to eat, I would just go ahead and die. I
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: cannot stay in a fucking pack of noodles because I
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: ate so much of that shit between middle school and
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: high school, I ate it everywhere you could think of it.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: Put an egg in it, put some sausage. I even
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: ate noodles dry before, Like.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: That's a real struggle meal. That's really disgusting.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: It's gross. I'll never eat another noodle heck of noodles,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: forget about it. I did used to like those little
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: cup noodles with the peas and stuff in there, even
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: like those not even peas, that is three D printed piece.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: We got the fucking people's theay old dried ass three
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: D shit.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all. So we're going to go through like
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: clinical thinking versus critical thinking so you can get better
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: understand where it is I'm coming from, right, So let's
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: break this zern real quick, because like traditional critical thinking
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: is like spreadsheets and fucking data analytics and shit like that,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: and again, like clinical thinking is based off of lived experience,
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: like your intuition. So critical thinking is like logical, objective, rational,
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: right analytical, like step by step detached from emotion. Uh
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: typically masculin coded clinical thinking is intuitive emotionally intelligent. Okay,
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: So I think that most of the most of the
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: people who claim to be emotional intelligent or have emotional
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: intelligence are probably women, right, because we do tap into
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: our emotions a little bit more. We do anticipate others,
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: the needs of others over ours a lot of times,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. We know what you need
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: before you even know what you need. That's what emotional
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: intelligence is. And you know, I don't think men are
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: even programmed to think in that way, but we want
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: them to have all of this emotional intelligence. We think
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: that's what we want from them. I don't know. Critical
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: thinking is also like informed by patterns, just people's vibes,
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: past experiences, rooted in self trust and boundary setting. So
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: for example, say, for instance, your ex like calls you
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: like one o'clock in the morning. In the morning, right,
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: you chilling, drinking wine, listening to music. Critical thinking to
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: have you thinking like, I wonder what he wants, right,
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: I wonder if it's if it's an emergency. Clitical thinking
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: would be like, man, fuck him. I'm not answering the phone.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: You just block him midphone call and keep drinking a
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: wine and listening to music. That's political thinking. I don't
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: need to know what this nick needs. I don't care. Okay,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna just block his ass because I already know
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: what that involves, already know what he coming for, So
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: why even engage?
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Girl? I listen, that's so crazy because I one of
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: my old thing things.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: Hot shits, what do they call him find shits just
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: ships one of my old one of my old shits.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: Go message me do him? Oh no on Facebook message?
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: Please why? I just need to talk to you, please
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: and block me. So I unblocked this a motherfucker and
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: he called me and he gonna say some bullshit about
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: do my other ex nigga that he know about still
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: sell weed?
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: I was like, so he calling you for pluck talk? Yeah,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: not you to connect. I hung up so fast, not
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: your relationship manager.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: And reblock that nigga just as quick, like.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: Fads, Like, nigga, what you trying to sat my other
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: nigga up?
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: I don't know what you talk about? One ship up
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: from another ship. I ain't got nothing to do with that.
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: Put two ships together?
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like and after Oftentimes they don't want nothing, right, you.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: Don't want nothing, Leave me alone. I don't know. I
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: don't do drugs. Leave me alone.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: Here's another example. So you've gone on like three amazing dates,
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: but your gut is uneasy. Right, So they're attractive or
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: like successful, consistent, and maybe I should keep seeing them.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: But your critical thinking is he gives like love bombing, right, disappear?
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: He might disappear later, like your nervous system is on
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: edge fucking with this person. You just know something's.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: Off with him.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: He might have even did he probably didn't even do
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: anything just yet, but you just know that is your
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: clitical thinking skills kicking in, which could probably save your
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: fucking life. Because many relationships, I most relationships I've been in,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: I probably should have left day one. It was some
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: shit that happened. I just was like, let me get
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: the fuck up out of here aboard mission. And I
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: stayed for a couple of years.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: But here's nobody's gonna be perfect, though, So it's okay
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: to like ignore something, mind is.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: It, though? Because if we look at the data of
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: these relationships, is it good to ignore? I mean, if I.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: Don't want to say directions like you don't like I
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: hate too, you know, sit like that. You can get
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: past that, all right, or you can groom that into
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: something else.
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: But if you see that is the problem, y'all. Bitch,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Just thinking y'all could change people At this big age,
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: people do change. I don't agree people mass you feel like.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: You're the same person you was when we started this show.
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: Uh No, you've grown listen, but so growing and changing.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: Are those the same thing? Is that the same thing?
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: Because I really I've been literally the same person, and
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: even like no, let me, let me not lie because
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: I'd be reading some like some of my old Facebook
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: shit and Twitter shit. I had to delete that stuff,
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: like what the fuck was I talking about?
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: You're dumb?
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: What you talking about?
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: You got to say? We're changing and growing every day.
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: So just even the I just went and listened to
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: like our first episode, I'm like super Hero like night
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: or some bullshit. I was saying, what did you talk about? Ass?
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: So yeah, so people do change, People do grow people
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: and men too, especially when they start they did stop
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: working as good, they really start changing.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Then it's interesting they have daughters.
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: They start changing when they had little girls. Stuff like
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: that will change a man. But don't nothing them change
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: them worse than they did stopping.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Looky humble them a little bit.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that Dick's change up or the desires.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if that's true, because I feel
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: like they still be wanting to put that gummy worm
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: on a bitch, like just still just getting a new
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: bitch to show her the gummy worm. It's still exciting
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: to them. They don't care about being embarrassed. They retired
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: that wet rag. They just want to stuff it in
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: as many bitches as possible. All right, So like a
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: friend keeps subtly throwing shade critical thinking, maybe I'm just
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: being too sensitive. Let me watch a few more interactions
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: to confirm clinical thinking. That comment hit sideways. She's not
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: for me. Distance activated. You know what time it is like,
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: don't trick yourself into thinking somebody ain't doing what they're doing.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: I have been around people where somebody says some sideways shit.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna address it right then and there, because I
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: have lit things like sliding get home, like saying I
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: should have, would have, could have, and I'd be disappointed
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: with myself, like damn, I should have. I should have
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: fucking cussed that bitch out. I should have Da da
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: da da da.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: It's a hitch from two thousand. It was twenty twelve
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: that I still think about because her mother fucking NaNs
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: out and I let some shit she said slide, and
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: I used to regret it right to day, I still
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: like I be laying in bed like I should have
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: if I fire a bitch to this day.
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: Look, I have a first cousin that I don't fuck
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: with on any level in my mind right because of
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: it might have been around like it might have been
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: earlier in twenty twelve. Did I even tell you all
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: this story? So my cousin asked me to be in
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: her wedding.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you just share no hold on.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: She didn't ask me to be in her wedding. She
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: asked me to be the usher. Yeah, okay, this is
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: my first cousin. So imagine you living in Atlanta and
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: a bitch you asking you to come to South Carolina
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: to come to her wedding, but be an usher. Right.
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: So when I thought about it, I'm like, I don't
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: think I want to do that. I talked to my
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: mom about it. She was like, girl, you don't want
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: be no usher? So I called her back. I said, hey,
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: you know what I think I prefer just like attending
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: the wedding, right girl? Why I got to the U.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: She had a bridal shower, and I guess her maid
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: of honor. Her bestie was like the spokesperson for the
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: shit they had spoke about me, and she was introducing
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: each of us. She introduced my sister Sam first. She's like, yes,
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: my cousin Sam. This is my cousin introducing us to
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: her maid of honor. And this is my cousin Sam,
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: and this is Ashley and the homegirl these aka bitches too.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: The homegirl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: she's not a bridesmaid, usher or anything. And my voice
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: literally was gone, y'all, I have fucking like laryngitis or
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: something like I had no voice, so imagine me. I
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: would sound like this trying to curse the bitch out.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: But this is how my cousin let some random bitch
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: play with me. My cousin barely know my fucking life,
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: and I'm still holding a grudge to this day. I
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: still want to have that conversation with her because I'm
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: trying to figure out why the fuck y'all thought y'all
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: could play on me just because I didn't want to
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: serve food to my family at this big, immaculate wedding, Like,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: why would you try to like downgrade me to a
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: fucking server? Am I tripping? Y'all?
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: Girl, So my best friend at the time, she was
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: dating my first cousin's brother, so she's dating my cousin.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: She ended up doing it with she ended up doing
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: it instead. They were black and white like a fucking waitress,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: and she had people from the church doing it. Why
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: did you need me to do that?
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: So you were the only family member that was gonna
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: be an usher?
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, my other cousins was bridemaids. Why do I
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: don't want to and I live I live at a
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: town we barely speak, Like your mind told you to
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: call me to do that, And it's not like I like.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Maybe cooking and wanted you to help with the food.
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: Imagine like one of these Instagram weddings. That's how her
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: reception looked. I mean, big long rolls of full like
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: all this food, like these ushers. That the thing that
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: she wanted me to do, what my best friend was
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: doing was serving food to our family with a black
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: and white outfit on Why would you have your first
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: cousin doing that?
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: So I get that in the event that no family
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: was working, then I get while I was like, why
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: are you only ask me and you got people outside
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: of the family doing everything, but I'm the only family member.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: But then you came with people, it came with staff.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: It was just like I need my family to help
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: assist to make this they beautiful. Then I would not
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: mind a mind doing that. I wouldn't mind being an
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: usher because it's not about me. It's about her, her
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: beautiful day, and this is my cousin. I want her
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: to have a beautiful day, so I will I'll help
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: because when it's my turn, I'm gonna need everybody in
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: this stand.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: I would never call my first cousin and ask her
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: to serve food at my wedding. I would never do
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: that to her if it was that's a grading. That's
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: how I felt. That was highly degrading, Like I'm your
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: first cousin, Like, why would you want me serving food
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: to our family?
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: Families? Families do that though family.
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this ain't even no bullshit wedding though, See you're
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: not thinking on the scale, I said, one of these
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: Instagram fucking wedding is the ship was immaculate. Why and
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: I bought the fucking beautiful dress to wear to her wedding?
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: That's it because it wasn't like that. It wasn't like
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: a situation where the whole family was, you know, yah.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: Pitching it and helping. No, it wasn't. No, it wasn't
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: nothing like that. My homegirl was fucking pissed the whole
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: time because she didn't know what all It wouldn't tell
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: either when she is stept the position as an usher. Yeah,
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: and she was serving us food. That's that's fucked up
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: to have your brother's girlfriend, who should be his date
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: at your wedding doing that. But because they used to
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: have a problem with her, because they my uncle, their
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: dad never really fucked me. I mean from a little girl.
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: He would say shit like me, oh hair cousin is
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: glamor queen like still to this date, that's how you
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: treat me.
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: So I feel like that kind of rubbed off on
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: like his kids and how they see me. Well, maybe
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: not my boy cousins, but it's something there. So yeah,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: I still have like, yeah, some anna, I have some
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: anna about that.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: Have you seen this cousin?
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, But I just feel like now I can't address
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: it because then it would be petty. But it bothers
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: you very seventeen years and divorce's so married, So I like,
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: I just gotta let it go. But I'm telling y'all
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: because like, who the fuck else I'm gonna.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Tell that she happened to the show about it.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: And then we'll talk about it at that time. And
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: you know what the worst thing about it is people
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: do things and then when you address it, they I
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: don't even remember that, yeah, because you weren't on the
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: receiving end of the bullshit.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: But sometimes people don't even know that they're offending you.
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: So that's why it's important to address it, like I didn't.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: I don't remember it because I didn't know it was
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: a thing.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: Oh she's not a bridesmaid usher or anything. Why do
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: you ask my sister that?
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: Right? It was introduced right before me. They had That's
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: what I fucking know.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: And this is what clinical thinking is, right, It's just
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: you knowing the bullshit. It can't nobody tell you any different, bitch,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: because it's a gut feeling. It is an inner knowing
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: that cannot be fucking debated. I'm not tripping, y'all. Bitches
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: tried me. Y'all really tried it. So I was never
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: able to address it. So I still that shit might
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: have been two thousand and nine, bitch, I'm go, lie,
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: I much g lie. It might have been like two
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: thousand and nine. I still feel some type of way
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: about that shit, because why did I deserve that? That's
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: what bothers.
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: Me when people the fuck you think you are, you
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: fly ass dish coming up in here, think you go
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: upstage the bride. You ain't gonna do that this time, bitch,
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: serve out that chicken ho that's what you're gonna do.
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: And here's the thing, here's my personality. When I tell y'all,
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: when I get married, y'all motherfuckers better show up like this,
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: y'all wedding. That's how I feel. That's how confident I
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: am about myself. I know that's where that bullshit came from, right,
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: them not wanting me to show up in all my
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: mother fucking glory but for my wedding. Bitch, if you
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: were the wedding party, if you just a wedding, guess
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: when I tell y'all, y'all better act like this, y'all
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: shit for birthdays. I want everybody to be extra fucking fine.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: I never like one of those people do don't want
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: their friends to outdress them on their fucking birthday. That
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: is weird.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: O't behave to care about my birthday, but aren't my wedding.
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: Please don't come in a white dress.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: I don't care.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: Don't come in here wed bit your whole ass and
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: should have having a white dress anyway, you don't wear one, bitch,
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: wear a black dress my wedding. I don't be like,
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: do you hate me?
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Because yeah, but it's never going to like a wedding
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: gown though, you know what I'm saying. So even if
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: somebody were to have on a white dress, it's never
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: going to like a wedding gown.
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: Tacky ass bitch coming in a white dress to a wedding,
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: I'll be I'll be like, this is an all white wedding.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: Why are you here? Are you trying to give your
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: man a message? Propos bitch?
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: Maybe and listen it's all open over here. Yes, do that.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: And if you feel beautiful today, I want everybody to
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: feel good.
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: But I don't want you to be tacky. Don't be
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: taking I don't think that's tacking. Don't be attagging. Bitch.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: I invited you because I didn't think you were one,
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: and here you come being one.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: You can listen where anything where motherfucking tied out to this, motherfucker.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: Don't come in white.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: Leave like a black tie event. No white even black tie,
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: no white.
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: No, no white dress. You can have a dress with
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: white in it with you.
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: I want everybody look back to you and escorting me
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: out of the winds. I got uninvited. And after she
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: showed up.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: Right, the bride will call you later. That's what they're
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: gonna tell you as you leave out. The mother bitch.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: I don't want it all these years to get married.
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: You come into my ship in a white dress. You
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: gotta be fucked up.
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: But there's no way for her to look like you
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: though on that day. That's how I'm confused. No, you're
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: damn right you won't because you won't, y'all, head at
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: you've been mourned.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: Yes, it advans, but I think all my friends know
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: that they got sense enough to know not to come
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: to a wedding in a white dress unless it's all
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: white wedding where some people have that where everybody comes
• 56:15
  Speaker 2: in white, which I don't like that either. Yeah, but yeah,
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: don't do that.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: Look at your little ponytails up in the riverside picture.
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: You see it, all right, So y'all, Clitical thinking doesn't
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: mean ignore logic at all, right, So it just adds
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: like an extra layer of protection, Okay. Emotional wisdom pattern
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: recognition based on just the fucking truth, right, It's just
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: you know, that's intelligence too. So don't let anybody tell
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: you that you making shit up, that it's just feelings,
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: or that you overreacting, bitch. You know what you know,
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: and that's clinical thinking. So it's not over analyzing everything.
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: Is not ignoring facts of feelings or facts four feelings,
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: I should say. Or it's just not like just being pest,
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: petty or sassy. It's just recognizing the patterns again, knowing
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: your fucking gut and trusting that inner feeling. That's it.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: That is what clitical thinking is. Hat's coming soon, all right.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: So you know what I do want people to do.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: I want y'all to send me, send me some send
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: us some messages, uh with like your best Uh? He
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: said he was simple, but stories. That's what I want
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: to see, Like mint, When what did a man tell you?
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: Like he said, I'm simple, but such and such and
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: how did he actually act? Right? All men say that
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: they're simple and they have these minimal needs. I want
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: to hear the stories.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: Let's hear it. Let's hear that, because.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: Them niggas ain't simple anyway, You good, Tammy?
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: Last, all right, y'all. If you enjoyed this episode, y'all
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• 58:34
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• 58:38
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• 58:40
  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, y'all sofiicial team BAM. I love y'all
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: so much. Remember speak now.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: And never hold your motherfucker piece. Okay, never never hold
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: your gut feelings. Click some clip notes.
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: Yes,