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- speaker-0: of frictions and resentments in families come from not having clarity in role. You are the CEO and I am the COO of our house. speaker-1: I'm not watching this shit. I know a lot of people that have three kids. Both parents work because they have to make ends meet. speaker-0: There's a misconception that you're gonna have kids and your life is not gonna change and you're not gonna sacrifice and you're still gonna have depths of career that you thought you were gonna have. speaker-1: think something gives and unfortunately what I see most of the time, the children end up suffering. speaker-0: Nobody talks about the silent struggles of a mom who puts her whole life around her kids and has nothing else going on for her outside of her family. I know that you're a grownup boy now and you have done your own laundry like twice. Very split. And I'm happy about it. You should confess sometimes too. Hi everyone. Welcome to the Uncomments podcast where we challenge the ordinary and explore what it really takes to build a fulfilling life. I'm Parisa. speaker-1: How spoiled are you? page. speaker-0: And before we start, I want everybody to know that we're not on good terms today. ⁓ Yeah. ⁓ speaker-1: Go ahead. speaker-0: I'm not going to tell them why because it could have been solved much easier. It was just a battery to be changed but hey, I didn't sleep from 2 a.m. until 7 a.m. for five hours while you were in deep, deep, beautiful sleep like it's nothing. speaker-1: think communication is key in a relationship. speaker-0: How do you communicate with somebody who is so deep sleep that if there's a storm they won't even wake up? speaker-1: I was up and I asked you, why is it dark barking? And if you could have told me that. speaker-0: I can't sleep. speaker-1: If you said, I can't sleep, not the dog, then it would have different story. And I would have fixed it. speaker-0: Such a good wife that I didn't want to wake you up to change the smoke detector battery. I was saying beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep five times every 60 seconds. For hours, I took it and I did not say anything. Just so you can have your beautiful sleep. speaker-1: I was up at 2am, you could have told me that, I'm gonna fix it. Instead you woke me up at 5am. From a deep sleep that I was arguing with you in my sleep. speaker-0: Much better than two? You're going to tell me thank you so much for letting me sleep for three more hours instead of waking me up at 2am to go get a ladder and go change that. Thank you. speaker-1: Thank you very much. speaker-0: Not accepted. Thank you, not accepted. Anyways, we're going to talk about different roles and responsibilities of parents in a family and household and I feel like... speaker-1: I'm not washing dishes. speaker-0: I know you don't. I think everybody knows that you don't touch dishes or laundry or mopping or anything that has to do with the house. It's very true. We'll get there. We'll get there. Let me get started, then we'll argue, okay? speaker-1: That is not true. Yes. We're going to talk about your period. speaker-0: No, we're not talking about my period. speaker-1: that is here and that is- I'm just, hey, I talked about men's testosterone and how it affects things. I'm talking about women's period. Why not talk about that? What can we just talk about? speaker-0: This is not a bad scene. been trying to talk about this topic for the last three episodes and every time you change it because you don't want to get there that you don't touch anything in our house. speaker-1: I didn't even know that was a topic of discussion. I mean, this podcast is about life. It's about how we deal with life. You know, it shouldn't be like so formal. So we have a situation. speaker-0: We don't have a situation. Sir, it's not wise for you to talk about this topic today. Let the period pass, then we'll talk about it. I agree. Then we'll talk. speaker-1: about. I'm with that. great. There's acknowledgement of the period. speaker-0: I did not acknowledge anything. You did? No. What was I saying? What was the topic again? speaker-1: Period. Ayayay. They was trying to blame me that I don't do shit in the house. speaker-0: responsibilities of adults in a household. And I want to talk about it because we do live in a very modern life these days. And we kind of have a traditional setting in our home, but things has changed as we have had the first and second and third kids every time there has been an evolution of roles. And as speaker-1: Yeah. speaker-0: I was working before, then I started working from home, then I stopped working, then now I'm doing stuff. So it's like every time there is a shift, this whole thing, the way we maneuver our life and our roles and responsibilities and everything changes. Plus on top of that, every time there is a crisis, like we had the accident with our son, things change a little bit to accommodate. So I want to talk about it because we're in the middle of it. And I know a lot of people struggle with it. I know a lot of people believe in the equality of men and women. I don't know how well it works out for them, but we tried a little bit of equality thing, then we drifted away and so we've been through it a lot in the last nine years. So I want to talk about it. I think it's very interesting and important and we're in the middle of a shift in our roles again. Now that I'm, doing this podcast, I'm doing stuff outside of the house again. So... What do think? speaker-1: I will not joke much today. The audience gets it. But okay, go ahead. Yes, I'm willing and I'm here and I would love to talk about roles and what? Responsibilities and regulations. mean, responsibilities. speaker-0: Responsibility. ⁓ God, give me patience today so can get through this and this man stays in one piece because he's the father of my kids and I kinda love him, okay. Well, I wanted to talk about this because I feel like a lot of frictions and resentments in families between parents and husband and wife come from not having clarity in roles. And the more clarity it is in the roles and responsibilities of each person, the more freedom we have. I don't have to second guess, ⁓ you got that or I got that or there's no overlap. We don't step on each other's toes. And also if there is an area that I think you got it and you think I got it and nobody's attending to it, then it creates chaos, it creates argument, it creates resentment, you know. So that's why I thought it's a... Good idea to talk about it. I feel like with us, we have had a lot of transitions between roles and responsibilities, but the basis of our household has always been on the idea that you work, you're the main provider. I work and I support. Recently, it got to a point that I stopped working and now it's shifting again since we were doing the podcast. So there has been a common denominator that... you got the finances, it's on your shoulder, providing is on your shoulder, and the household is on me. We went to this guy's seminar, his name is thankfully so easy to remember, Dr. Adam Smith, and he was talking about the roles and responsibilities of a man and woman, kind of like the man being the CEO of the household and the woman being the COO of the household. And I feel like... That's the case with us. I feel like you are the CEO of our house and I'm the COO of our house. You make a lot of major decisions. You make a lot of decisions with the business, with money, with finances. It's almost never that I'm unaware of it. If I have any input in it, ⁓ intuitively I add to it. And I make a lot of decisions for kids, for their upbringing, for what they eat, where they go, our friendships, our parties, what happens in our house, the kind of food that we get. the kind of meat that we get and everything that has to do with our health, kids upbringing, our longevity, things like that. speaker-1: I do a lot of my own longevity stuff and I bring you lot of longevity things that we need to do within our family. But the basic stuff is, yeah, I agree. speaker-0: Yeah, the air we breathe, the type of, I'm working on what air purifier to use, like the type of sheets we use, like that kind of lifestyle longevity, right? Now, if we had a case that I had to work to help with financial stuff or in situations that the woman is the main provider, things obviously shift, right? ⁓ But I feel like... The most amount of peace that I've had since we have three little kids, two years old, that's gonna turn three soon, five and eight, and we homeschool the kids, the most amount of peace and comfort of mine that I've had in the last many years is the six to eight months that I completely stopped working. When I do work, any sort of work, you know, doesn't, like right now this podcast, It doesn't, it's not considered work work for me, right? But when my mind goes towards something that's outside of our family, home, kids, I do have a conflict internally. And I don't know if that's based on a belief system, but it's a, I feel like my capacity is, has been spread thin and now our groceries is not on time and, and something gives in. It could be the tidiness of the house. could be kids' nutrition or classes or something always given. Now, I can't imagine having three little kids at home and full-time working. I mean, I don't think that's even possible. speaker-1: That's not possible. I mean, can't homeschool and work. It doesn't work like that. speaker-0: Well, even if not homeschooling. If the kids are all, I mean, the three-year-old wouldn't be at school anyway, so don't start that. We started that early for the other two. I think it was a mistake. I wouldn't do it again. But even if the other two were at school, just thinking about what needs, what goes into our household running properly, it's a lot. And I'm very good at systemizing things. and having color coded calendar that from nine to 9.45, I take care of this from 10 to 10.15 is for this. Like I'm doing all that stuff, but I still miss a lot of things in my brain. You know, it's in front of me, but it's just the mental capacity too. speaker-1: think it has a lot to do with ⁓ the level of love and compassion and depth that you want to bring to the family. I know a lot of people that have three kids, both parents work because they have to make ends meet. speaker-0: Or not, or they choose to work because they prioritize. speaker-1: Or they choose to work. Or they choose their lifestyle. mean, you and I have this discussion all the time that what is our lifestyle going to look like? We're not ⁓ too high producing people in our family. So I think something gives. And unfortunately, what I see most of the time is that the children end up suffering. Even if they're at their best schools and so forth, their parents aren't as involved with school, if they're both working. I mean, we pulled our kids, our older son out of probably one of the best schools in the country. We pulled them out because they were inadequate. That's what happened. That's why we thought we were gonna put them in a great school, blah, blah. And they don't get the one-on-one attention. speaker-0: if they're both working. speaker-1: And it's, and I don't care if they're public, I like public school. We had this discussion all the time. It is a huge topic, but ⁓ as it may be, the parents involvement within the school and the child has a lot to do with the outcome of what they get. It's not like anything else. It's what you put in, you get out. speaker-0: Yeah, especially at a certain age, you know, maybe if they're three or four, it's not that important or five. But then as they grow older, it's way more important to be involved with school and everything if they go. speaker-1: I think at any age, because kids go through developmental stages that they need oversight and they're not gonna get the oversight from school. So that's a school discussion. But then if the parents are working, then that really changes the dynamic of what happens at the school. So what you're explaining is I think you're a great mom. Thank God. because otherwise after last night, if you're not a great mom, don't know how things would be, but you're a great mom and you give everything and all for these kids. I think we both do. I'm personally so happy about, A, I had kids all their life. And one of the things that I've learned is that I fucked up a lot of things in life. You I don't want to fuck this one up. And I've really. put my attention on our kids and I know you have and what we bring to the table is a lot. And when you have that level of depth and connection and work, it's work. speaker-0: But it takes a lot of sacrifices. Sacrifices, You know, I think that's a misconception. Most parents, they do have a lot to give to their kids. It's a matter of choice if they want to or not, you know? And if consciously, how much is available to them to give, right? I think in the Western societies, there's a misconception that you're going to have kids... speaker-1: Yeah. speaker-0: and your life is not gonna change and you're not gonna sacrifice and you're not gonna compromise and you're still gonna have that depth of career that you thought you were gonna have and you're still gonna be the overachiever and you're still gonna travel with your friends and with your husband alone ⁓ five times a year and like all that stuff, it's an expectation that the kids are gonna come and you still carry on with the life that you had more or less. While in our culture, in our countries, completely the opposite to the extent that moms suffer a lot from not having a life because they have kids. They have to sacrifice themselves and their lives for these kids, right? And that's their biggest badge of honor. So I've seen that side of like my mom and our mom, which is not good. It's not good for the mom and it's not for the kids either. Cause I always thought growing up that I owe my mom something. speaker-1: Which is not speaker-0: because she sacrificed herself for us, right? And that's a huge burden to carry. And on the other side, what's happening today in this modern world and in the Western societies, to me is completely off reality. It doesn't match the reality of having kids because if you're not willing to adapt and be flexible and change your identity, like we talked about, and become the mom or the dad that the kid needs to be. growing up in a healthy way, then the kids is going to suffer. One of the biggest regrets I have with our kids is that I tried to sleep train our daughter and I lasted two nights and those two nights were probably the hardest nights of my life. I cried so much, she cried so much, but I cannot believe that I did that to this kid because of all the books that I read about sleep, all the sleep training books that I read. everything that the pediatricians told me, the culture of, ⁓ kids need to be sleep trained so the mom can sleep. Or framing it in a way that babies need to know how to self soothe, which is a very selfish thing because they don't have that ability and they're connected to the mom. That's not how in Eastern societies kids are growing up. All the kids and parents sleep together. I'm not saying they need to co-sleep until they're older, but there is a certain level of connection with the mom, especially with the mom, but with parents, that happens on a physical level until they get to an age that they can actually co-regulate, they can actually. Our kids started moving in to our bedroom one by one after they got older. And after we got to this realization that my thought process as a modern mom and as a career woman was not serving these kids and was not serving us. You know, I was torn the whole time. So we went through that route of me trying to work and being a career woman and you being the main provider and then got to a point that I'm like, well, these kids need me and they usually need the mom way more than the dad. And there are other households, our friends that we know that the mom is the main provider and the dad is kind of stay at home dad or takes it. slower and puts things on a back burner as far as his career and success to attend to the kids, which works out for them, but both parents trying to thrive and achieve and prioritize success, it just, I don't know how that work could work. speaker-1: Yeah, I don't know if I agree with the success of those families. We've talked about this before, but in very rare cases, I think it works when a man is super feminine and a woman is super masculine. But when you have a masculine man and a masculine woman or a woman has become masculine because of work accolades, ⁓ revenue generation, whatever it is, and they take that role. and they become the main breadwinner in the house, which automatically makes the man become more feminine or do more feminine things. And I'm all about equality, don't get me wrong, but kids need their mom. I mean, I can see with my own kids. I give them all the love in the world and all that. I'm not home all the time. When I come home, they hang out with me a little bit, but they need the mom. When shit happens, they need the mom. That's the source of nurturing, being suited. speaker-0: Well, think a lot of dads could choose to be nurturing too, the same as a lot of moms choose to be put on their masculine hat and act in that role. you're right, feel like historically, biologically, the nurturing and soothing part has been on the woman. speaker-1: biologists just like the testosterone talk that we had last time, right? the testosterone, whatever. It's just like women, like the breastfeed. speaker-0: A man can breastfeed these. speaker-1: ⁓ is that right? I had no idea. speaker-0: I think they can. I made that up. No, but they wear these things that look like boob and then they... speaker-1: Kids get milk from the mom and while they're holding them skin to skin, that's a connection that a child will never have with a dad. speaker-0: Well, I couldn't breastfeed our kids for that long. I did it for few months. But you did. But then I did for a little bit. But then after that, I have a lot of feelings when it comes to breastfeeding because I just couldn't do it. And I was planning on doing it. ⁓ And I tortured myself for months for it. But then it wasn't just like I could hold a baby and give him the gift or her the bottle, which you could do too. the way. But I feel like on hormonal level, the connection between the mother and the child, I mean the child comes out of the mom, right? And I know biologically there's something with the dad, but there hasn't been that much connection until the child comes speaker-1: The nine months of the babies inside of the woman, the babies hearing your heartbeat all day long, 24 hours a day. And when they come out, they smell you like a dog. ⁓ speaker-0: And I feel like it's kind of unfair to the mom too on many other levels, you know? I say that based on experience, because I put the kids in a separate room after like a couple of months that they were in our room, the babies, just so like you could sleep better and then I could go and attend to them and come back and all that stuff. And that was a choice at the moment. ⁓ I'm not that happy with it, but that's what that could work for us at that moment, right? We did that. but it gave me this super vigilant, is that the right word? Vigilant. Vigilant, super vigilant situation that based on every little tiny noise, every little tiny sound, every little tiny movement, I wake up and I still wake up to this day because I was waiting for him to move so I can run and I wouldn't get up and get out of the bed and walk. A lot of times I would just... transition from being flat on my back to running in a millisecond, a lot of times I would get to the room and then wake up. You know, that's how fast I would just naturally that was my instinct as a mom to just get to the baby, right? And it was in a way, now that I think about it, it was kind of a torture. It was really a torture and I still, I'm still trying to get to sleep because the smallest sound makes me jump. not wake up because it's uncomfortable. I jump with stress to run. So it's unfortunate for both baby and the mom if the mom has to leave the baby and go to work at three months or six months. It's just, I can't imagine how that could work, but that's the norm. speaker-1: Yeah, no, no, I agree. So going back to the conversation of the roles and what happens is what people do and give requires time and energy. And if you're going to spend your time and energy to raise kids at that level, then you're not going to have that time and energy and focus for your work or anything else for that matter. speaker-0: It's going to go on a back burner. Yeah. It's to go on a back burner, usually for the woman. That's what happens for a few years, at least until the kids go to school for some other families like us for a longer time. Because the kids don't go to school and we choose to home school. But I know at some point all kids, when they get at least to like 10, 11, 12, 13, they're like, they don't want to have to do anything with their mom and dad. They want to go. They want to go to school. want to be with their peers. So it happens at some point. But it's hard. It's been hard for me to accept that everything else in life goes on hold and I only do anything that has to do with the kids. That's it. Even though I enjoy my kids, even though I love being present for them, everybody talks about the suffering of a mom who works and can't see and spend time with their kids as much as they want to because they have to and who... and it's very valid, but on the other hand, nobody talks about the silent struggles of a mom who puts her whole life around her kids and has nothing else going on for her outside of her family. speaker-1: Look, people's characters are different. I've always told you, you need to do something because you're built in a way that you need to perform outside the kids, even with the kids you're... I'm not going trade about that. to not to do that eventually has a, I think a negative feedback loop that is going to be there. I've always... speaker-0: Which is a very masculine. speaker-1: Asked you you need to do something even even at a time that you didn't want to do anything it lasted for a month or two and you start doing something just cannot not do it and I agree with that and it should be like that and it also allows you to be a better mom I think if you're a hundred percent all the time with these kids these kids are fucking crazy They're the handful especially I don't know about other kids, but our kids are oh my god speaker-0: It matter. Yeah, I look at their dad. Because you're jeans of course. speaker-1: Look at the mom. My mom's fault. She cursed me. She's always told me, you're to have kids just like you. So, you know what I went through. But our kids are wild and being with them 24 seven is just absolutely ridiculous. And I'm glad you're doing the podcast and we're doing the podcast, but you know, you're doing the heavy lifting on it. I just bring the looks and the smarts. That's all I need to do. My role. speaker-0: But at home, I mean, we have a completely traditional way of doing our home. speaker-1: Yeah, but our home is a little bit is a little different as well because luckily we have help. We have a full-time nanny. We have teachers. The kids go to all kinds of different schools. Classes. your mom lives with us. She's with us for three years now. ⁓ speaker-0: My mom is a different story because she helps a lot but also she moved from Iran to here three years ago, no English. She can't make any single phone call. Like I have to manage her life for her too. So she helps and I have to take care of her too in a lot of ways. But thankfully we do have help at home with a lot of stuff. speaker-1: 100 percent. So the rules, like I have no problems cleaning or cooking or whatever. I actually enjoy cooking. don't like washing dishes. speaker-0: When was the last time you cooked, sir? speaker-1: Bye, next take. speaker-0: Three years ago? It is true. So... Page only knows one dish to make and that's beef stroganoff and it's very good and the last time you made it, I think at least three years ago it was... speaker-1: I cook steak with all the stuff on it. I make the best breakfast ever. speaker-0: Yeah, Sundays you make breakfast. That's, I give that. speaker-1: And but but I'm gone. Right. I'm gone. I'm gone all day long. I'm you know, I'm changing my schedule. We have another role to manage, which is a dog. So we have a puppy and which I think is a great, great addition to our family. She's beautiful. She's sweet. We lost our puppy. I mean, our 17 year old puppy that came with a wife and he's gone. And the kids. you know, was apparent that the kids are having some issues and Paris was having some issues. I think it's, so it was a great addition. Very sad. So now, you know, I rearranged my schedule. I'm still struggling with my schedule. I'm scheduling more time to be home in the morning so I can see my kids in the morning. And before I would be gone at 5 a.m. and come back home at six at night. speaker-0: I do not have any issues. But I still think with this whole concept of the CEO of the house and COO of the house, it actually works. It really works. is a void for each one of these roles. And I don't know if I was trying to be the CEO too, and we both would clash every day. For sure we would clash every day. Because when it comes to hardcore decision making, you do a lot of it. I feel like I am involved in a lot of decision making for the overall health and well-being of our family, but I feel like my decision making is in a different way. Like you do it in a very masculine way, analytical, thought-oriented. I bring more intuition to the table. And even on your business decision... speaker-1: Even on the big decisions. should I keep? Who should I let go? Our growth and some of that. speaker-0: Which I'm not maybe not directly involved in it, but it's just intuitively I can tell sometimes and I don't get into your jurisdiction if I don't have to, but sometimes I have something to add for you to consider. Or in our household, if everything is organized and going well, you don't have to interject. But when you come and tell me, this and that, there's a concern, then I'm like, okay, that's my jurisdiction and now you're getting in it. there should be a problem. Like there should be something standing out concerning you. That's why you're putting your finger on it. But if I didn't look at it that way, like your comments would maybe cause turbulence in our relationship or especially the way you make comments, in a, what did you say? Gingerly way? Not so gingerly way. Like that. Yeah, in a very masculine way of making comments. speaker-1: It also involves like you letting go of a lot of things like having an organized house. I know with three crazy children it's relatively impossible but. speaker-0: You mean you letting go of a lot of stuff? ⁓ the organized. How many times an episode you want to bring up this organized house situation? Just so everybody's prepared. Listen. How about once the episode is enough? This is the third time you're saying it this. speaker-1: ⁓ In this episode? Yeah. I have not said that in this episode. I'm getting better with the disorganization. But to be truthful, it's gotten a lot, lot, lot better than a year ago. speaker-0: Yeah, without a single contribution from you, sir. Thank you very much. Sure. speaker-1: But to be honest, I'm glad your mom is around. She does a lot. She does a lot. And I like that she does a lot, you know, because I want my kids to feel that people are productive. It really bothers me that she's around and she is not pursuing something, ⁓ anything. I don't give a shit what it is. Because I want my children to see that Productivity is part of every human being's. speaker-0: Well, that comes down to roles and responsibilities of grandparents, which is very different than parents roles and responsibilities. I know she lives with us, but it's completely like she has her own ways of treating the kids, treating the house. it's just, it's a different world, you know, that she goes through. speaker-1: Yeah, no, I understand. Yeah, so what are we at now? How are the rules now? speaker-0: Well, the speaker-1: Rolls. I'm gonna do my roll well or not. speaker-0: Your role of providing is very well. Thank you very much for your services. speaker-1: Am I providing the other role as a good husband? Yes. All right. Am I providing a role of spending time with my children and doing well with my children? Okay, so what else am supposed to be doing? speaker-0: ⁓ I mean it would be nice if every once in a while ⁓ when I fall asleep in the kids bed at like 9.30 and it takes them forever to fall asleep and I'm super tired and I haven't slept for a few nights, you would put the dishes in the dishwasher. It would be nice if you did that. I know that you're a grown-up boy now and you have done your own laundry like twice. speaker-1: I wanted to know that I used to my own laundry all the time. Normal, you know, but now... speaker-0: Used to. Now I'm so spoiled. speaker-1: I have to provide so much more for 15,000 people now and have maids and this and that, I figure, and we have all this help, I figure I even focus more on what I do well and let them focus more on what they should be doing. speaker-0: think that's a good idea. I'm not complaining. Okay. I'm just saying I'm I think it would be good if you cooked like once a year, that would be nice. Maybe once a month, it's nicer. I miss you a bit, Strogonov. speaker-1: So over. I'll do that no problem on the weekend nights that we're home. I'll cook I actually love having meals speaker-0: ⁓ that's another thing. This man has to eat. What did you say the other day? I don't like to eat like peasants because I only put one dish in the middle of the table, not five different sides and appetizer and stuff. speaker-1: I believe that sharing a meal as an experience, all this other training that I've done. speaker-0: It's an experience that other people are in charge of creating in and I'll just show up. speaker-1: It's a mission, my mission, to create experiences for my family and the people that I love. speaker-0: But other people are supposed to create that experience for you. speaker-1: ⁓ If we're living in household and your roles and responsibility is to not you because most of the time it's my mother-in-law that is cooking or if it's you... speaker-0: True, because if your mother-in-law cooks, we all can't fit in through this door because she puts so much oil and it's too yummy. speaker-1: true. ⁓ But it's like if we're doing it, you know, I wanted to and I have no problems putting napkins on the table, forks and knives, maybe helpful, you know, water, know, salt and pepper, stuff like that, just minor things that would accompany them plot of food. speaker-0: So you're okay doing that? speaker-1: I do it every night because it's not on the table. speaker-0: Are you complaining that you're contributing to that experience that you want? speaker-1: Yeah and so anyhow I said I'd like to live to eat like a king like a peasant ⁓ speaker-0: Because what I put on the table was all in one, it was the omelet in one dish instead of having this side and that side and like, sorry. Sorry for my shortcomings. speaker-1: Yeah, so it's okay. I forgive you. It's all good. And then, you know, then we had the cheese and the fruit and then we had like yogurt and all what else we had like, and then it was a beautiful breakfast and we just sat there and enjoyed and took our time. It wasn't like here's here's eggs. Eat eggs. I eat eggs. That's why I eggs and cheese and yogurt. Bread, two kinds of bread. We have hot tea and coffee. speaker-0: you see what I put over? Next time you help with providing an experience for your family, do it gladly instead of complaining that you have to do it, God forbid. My God. How spoiled are you? Please explain to everybody how spoiled I am. speaker-1: Beautiful. ⁓ I do it all the time. That's spoiled. How spoiled are you? speaker-0: very spoiled. And I'm happy about it. You should confess sometimes too that your wife takes care of you very well and you complain non-stop. Thank you very much for listening to this. I'm so happy that my husband is in one piece still, even after like, ⁓ we didn't talk about roles and responsibilities of changing a battery for the freaking, what is it called? Smoke detector? speaker-1: got the smoke. speaker-0: smoke detector battery that starts beeping at 2 a.m. and doesn't let your wife sleep all night long, not even for one minute because it goes off every 60 seconds and I counted. speaker-1: First of all, you have sleeping problems to begin with. Before the children, because if the room is in dark, if the... I ⁓ mean, it's crazy, we can't help speaker-0: You're changing this epic. response. The dog barked because of the beep beep beep beep beep beep speaker-1: You not tell me... Honey...