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Army Officer Dies After His Wife Set Him Ablaze - Wife Speaks · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episode of Bantu Currency.
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  How are you all doing? I hope you're doing great.
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  For today's episode, we're going to be talking about a sad
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  situation whereby a wife allegedly sets her husband
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  ablaze and he died from his injuries.
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  Now let me just get the name right.
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  The husband is a doctor and wife.
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  The husband was a doctor and the wife was a nurse.
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  So the husband's name was Lieutenant Dr Samson Haruna
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  while the wife is nurse. Red teeth that long?
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  This is a very sad one because people go into marriages and
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  without really understanding each other, people think that
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  marriage is all about the wedding.
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  They had a very beautiful wedding.
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  They looked amazing. The wife was dancing, happy, you
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  know, just living life. Both of them were actually happy
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  on their wedding day. They looked amazing.
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  They did free wedding pictures. A military man marrying a nurse.
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  He was also a doctor. So you could imagine these are
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  people from at least a very balanced background.
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  They got married. They're both very young.
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  She, I think she's 32 and he's maybe 35 for around that age.
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  They were married for about less than six months.
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  And this has happened now. According to the story, the wife
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  said that she got married to the husband and there's DV, domestic
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  violence involved. She said she lost a pregnancy
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  and she complained but nobody was willing to listen.
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  She said that even the neighbours knew about their
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  situation. She said she was just on that
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  fateful day. They started arguing as usual
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  and then he called his brother and according to her, the
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  brother told him to move out of the house or to move her out of
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  the house. She was not willing to leave the
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  house so the brother told him to move into a different bedroom.
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  So according to her, he got a mattress and moved into their
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  store. You know Nigerian families or
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  Nigerian homes, they have generators and they have fuel
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  that they used in powering those generators.
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  So him moving into the store, according to her there's
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  generator, a fuel, gallon of fuel lying somewhere there and I
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  don't know how he fuel in a gallon that is locked.
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  We just pour on the floor and I don't know.
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  But according to her, she said that when he was moving
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  everything into the, the, the store, basically a store is like
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  an extra room where you store things, you know.
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  So when he was moving everything into the store, she said he
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  kicked the gallon, the gallon contents, the fuel spilled.
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  So he was now threatening to set the whole house ablaze.
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  And when she she was not, she said she was trying to get him
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  to, he held a lighter. So according to her, he thought
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  that the lighter was not working.
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  Maybe he had tried using it before and it wasn't working.
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  No smokers. I don't know.
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  So she said she he thought that the lighter was not working, but
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  he went ahead to trying to light it up.
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  So she said she was telling him not to light it up, that she was
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  going to, you know, record him and put him on TikTok.
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  She said she was just saying all these things, but when he was
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  getting serious she said she called his supervisor and then
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  the supervisor did not pick a call or did not respond or
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  something like that. And he was still going ahead
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  with that. And then he light up the match
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  and boom, there was fire, he was burned.
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  He was taken to the hospital. And he think last month he
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  happened 22nd of October, September.
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  And on Tuesday he died 2 days ago.
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  Now, when the incident happened, she was, you know, arrested,
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  taken to the army barracks where they were doing investigation.
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  They asked what happened. He was explaining, he said that
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  she didn't do anything to him. But according to her, his family
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  members were saying that no, she is a problem, they should detain
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  her or something. And now that he has died,
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  anyway, there was a video or there was an audio that somebody
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  recorded when they were asking her what had happened to her
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  husband. She was now explaining because
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  she was detained about 14 days and then released.
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  Let me just play that video for you to listen to what she had to
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  say. On the 21st.
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  On the 22nd near from on the 22nd of September he came and
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  drove me off from work. His standard brother asked him
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  to pack his things from the room and give me a frustrate me.
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  When I'm frustrated I leave the room.
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  So he bought a new mattress and then he packed to another room
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  to the store. The store had for an adult in
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  the room. So while he was packing he
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  accidentally hit the phone when he hits the foil the foil poured
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  in the house. So he has seen me he has bitten
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  me on so many occasions that I even had miscarriage.
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  So he was threatening me with lighter that he's going to
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  settle me is my parents don't come to carry me.
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  She may have put the phone in the corporation they have put us
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  there's a bar say look an item to buy a young coming in our
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  sanity. I'm going to set you up, please.
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  If she was joking this new light and I.
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  So she was just explaining that when how in house her basically
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  she said that they were having a fight.
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  His brother told him to frustrate her.
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  In fact, listen, she said. He kicked the lighter or the
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  fuel and then light himself. I called in 330 investigations,
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  checked my phone, I truly calls you.
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  I wish I really said and I was even tracing him.
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  I said I'm going to put this thing live on TikTok.
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  I was just joking about the thing, but I often carry my
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  phone. I said I'm going to put this
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  thing live on TikTok. So the prime engineer is to real
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  manageable give you put think what I'm supposed to be, then
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  you people should come cooperate.
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  Natural. I'm a civilian.
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  You are not supposed to treat me like that.
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  I'm not your personal. I'm a civilian.
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  You should treat me. OK, hand me over to police.
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  Let's police come and see what happened.
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  They were protecting Armenia. Swinging.
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  So now dinner. I got room for 13 days.
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  A bit of this, I need to know whether I'm just say I'm not
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  feeling investigation process, let me not influence the
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  process. When anybody see government
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  investigation has to connect some government investigation, I
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  am not guilty. Why we're still holding media?
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  Why we're still holding media when I'm not guilty?
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  Even my husband told you I did not do anything wrong.
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  My husband knew that I didn't do anything wrong and he knew while
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  I was keeping quiet so that his job will not.
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  Be at stake. Wow he kept sending people to
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  tell to ask how my how am I just take care of me as soon as not
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  at the mean how my Nelson that is his own way of telling me
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  calm down every time will be fine.
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  If you want to treat someone as a civilian, treat them as a
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  civilian. It's not a Bani wala for no
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  reason. This is sad.
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  This is sad because a young man, a young doctor, a young
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  Lieutenant, has just lost his life because of domestic
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  violence. Whatever the situation was or
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  whatever the situation is or whatever the situation would be
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  in the context of a marriage, people should always leave.
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  I always say listen before you get married.
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  Know how to resolve conflicts before you get married.
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  Make sure that the person you're getting married to is normal.
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  Because we see a lot of successful people who are not
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  normal. We see a lot of successful
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  people who have, you know, very successful careers, but they are
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  not OK. These two people obviously are
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  not good for each other because if you've been married for less
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  than six months and already you have lost the pregnancy due to
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  domestic violence, then I think there's something wrong.
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  I believe that maybe marriage, at least the first year, should
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  be honeymoon if you if you did it right, because one of the
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  other problem is money. Most time people get married,
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  they get in debt the because of the wedding they are trying to
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  have. They want to have like a lavish
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  wedding. Their wedding looks very
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  beautiful or look beautiful. They had a very, you know, kind
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  of societal wedding based on their standard.
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  But if they had borrowed money to do that wedding or if they
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  had emptied their accounts to ensure that they had that dream
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  wedding or whatever kind of wedding that they wanted, and
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  then they're getting into this marriage and there's no money,
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  obviously there's going to be quarrel, there's going to be
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  fight, there's going to be issues.
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  And this brings me back to the situation between IVD and Bimbo.
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  This was also something similar. IVD and Bimbo were having
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  problems. IVD decided to take back the
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  house because according to IVD he bought the house.
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  So Bimbo was like I will not leave the house, instead I will
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  burn down the house allegedly. So Bimbo allegedly bought fuel,
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  bought petrol, whatever you want to call it, decided to burn down
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  the house. She was pouring the petrol
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  everywhere and then when she lights because you know you're
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  angry, you're pouring things allegedly some of them.
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  Those things is going to get on you amigo holding is That's why
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  in movies the way I see the burn down houses is maybe they will
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  go in, they will spray the petrol wherever they want and
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  then they will kind of like trace a line backward where they
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  will be outside and then light up the matches and then the fire
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  will run inside and burn whatever they want to burn.
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  But if you're inside there with a very flammable liquid which
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  you're pouring with your hands, obviously some of them will get
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  on your hands. It's very easy for that.
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  Even the smell can attract that fire and you're going to get
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  burned. Allegedly, that was what
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  happened to Bimbo. Bimbo was bond beyond
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  recognition. She was taken to the hospital.
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  She died a painful death. And now this is allegedly the
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  situation with Lieutenant Haruna, but the family and the
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  army people are saying that the wife allegedly set him ablaze.
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  They are not believing her story, saying that he went into
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  the store, he was trying to set up a bed.
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  He then kicked the fuel container which now pour on the
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  floor. And he was OK, let's say poured
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  on the floor. I don't know how that got on him
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  because I don't know. I, I have no idea.
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  But if she is insisting that she didn't do this and they have
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  carried out their investigation because she said she was
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  arrested and detained for about 14 days and then released.
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  So if they had done their investigation and then released
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  her, I think maybe people shouldn't say she, she, she is
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  responsible. I don't know because this is a
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  very, very, very complicated matter.
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  It sounds straightforward, it sounds easy, but if your own
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  family member is involved in this kind of thing, that is when
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  you realise how complicated it is.
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  Because she might just be saying the truth.
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  He may just want to threaten her.
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  Some people will threaten to to end their lives if somebody's
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  living. But in this case, I think what
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  she said was that his brother told her to frustrate her to
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  leave the house. I mean, if it has gotten to that
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  point within six months of marriage where a sibling is
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  your, your husband's sibling is telling him to frustrate you out
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  of the house. They believe you have a job.
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  I understand that marriage to Nigerian women is, is is a badge
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  of honour. You don't want to leave because
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  you don't want people to say you got married and then you you
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  left the marriage. I understand that, but at the
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  same time is it is, is it worth it?
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  Is it worth it to just get married to somebody just to take
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  that box and then you leave in a box or you leave as a as a
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  mudger. When they say this generation
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  and don't want to get married, people think, you know, we're
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  being selfish. People think, you know, we we're
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  just thinking about ourselves. Most people are not normal.
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  Most people did not grow up normal.
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  Your normal for you might be abnormal for somebody else.
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  And if for whatever reason you get to align with that person,
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  you have to be able to walk away at the drop of a pin.
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  If you see that that is getting volatile, just imagine you get
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  married to somebody within six months, you've already lost
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  pregnancy due to domestic violence and within six months
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  your husband has already allegedly set himself ablaze.
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  I mean, just just imagine. This is sad making.
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  So rest in peace. The Army released information
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  saying that they condemn the murder.
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  I mean, if they are, if they said a murder, then I, I don't
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  know because she's still free. Maybe they released her before
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  he died and now that he's dead, maybe she's going to be
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  rearrested. I don't know.
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  But my brothers and sisters, marriage is not a dual die
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  affair. If you're getting married to
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  somebody who you, you, you know is is Hazanger issues about
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  mission. If you're going to get married
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  to somebody who does not align with your goals about mission.
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  Because at the end of the day, if you decide to get married to
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  that person, there's always going to be argument unless you
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  are willing to do everything separately, have a separate
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  account, have a separate. And then in that situation, then
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  you're going to have kids and you're going to be fighting on a
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  daily basis because of those kids.
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  For Married to work, you have to align financially, you have to
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  align physically, you have to align mentally, you have to
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  align emotionally. Gone are the days where women
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  will just sit down and take beers, or gone are the days when
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  men will just sit down and just be the provider and work
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  themselves to death. Our generation right now is
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  saying that I want better, both man and woman.
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  If you want better, pick better. If you want better, do your due
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  diligence before you marry anybody.
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  He's a doctor is not a guarantee that he's nice.
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  She's a nurse is not a guarantee that she can take care of you.
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  Anyway, let me know what you think.
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  Do you think that she is just trying to save herself by saying
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  that he set himself ablaze or do you think that he was that
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  mentally out there that he would pour petrol and set himself
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  ablaze? Do you, do you, do you find that
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  plausible? Let me know what you think.
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