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Joy Taylor & Joshua Neal on Dating Confidence, Crushes & Chalantness · Two Personal with Joy Taylor

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  Speaker 1: You don't want a woman to fall in love with
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  Speaker 1: someone that isn't you.
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  Speaker 2: Men have since the beginning of time figured it out.
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  Speaker 2: Pursue us, don't annoy us. Make sure that we see
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  Speaker 2: that you're interested. Don't bug me all the time.
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  Speaker 1: I want to be famous. I want to be good.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be a movie star. I want
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  Speaker 1: to be in good projects.
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  Speaker 2: The idea of someone it can and often is better
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  Speaker 2: than the reality of someone.
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  Speaker 3: You only get credit for being tall for you're in
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  Speaker 3: the league.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, if you're not in the league, whatever, brother, you
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  Speaker 1: might as well be out here with me.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, guys, welcome, It's too Personal. I'm joy Taylor. Thanks
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  Speaker 2: so much for joining us again. If you are new here,
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  Speaker 2: make sure you hit subscribe. You appreciate you coming and
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  Speaker 2: hanging out, and of course follow us on social media
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  Speaker 2: at two Personal Show. I'm so excited for this week's episode.
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  Speaker 2: This week's guest is Joshua Neil. He played Kei Sean
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  Speaker 2: in One of Them Days, which is such a funny movie,
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  Speaker 2: and his character is just incredible. He's very, very funny
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  Speaker 2: and I really enjoyed chatting with him. So I'm excited
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  Speaker 2: for you guys to hear that. And he's also a
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  Speaker 2: producer and you've definitely seen his viral contents on social media.
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  Speaker 2: If you haven't, go check it out.
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  Speaker 4: He does this hotel series that is very, very funny.
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  Speaker 2: But he's a very creative guy from the Bay and
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  Speaker 2: now he's a friend of the show. So excited to
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  Speaker 2: talk to Joshua Neil later on, and of course we'll
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  Speaker 2: do Never Too Personal. If you want to be a
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  Speaker 2: part of the show, to Personal Podcasts at gmail dot
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  Speaker 2: com can send in your stories or.
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  Speaker 4: Your questions or thoughts.
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  Speaker 2: And you can also when you follow us to Personal
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  Speaker 2: show DMUs on Instagram as well. But I've been doing
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  Speaker 2: this thing for my rants at the beginning of the show,
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  Speaker 2: well for one week now, so now it's going to
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  Speaker 2: be true. I usually try to talk about things that
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  Speaker 2: I'm passionate about that are happening in the world, but
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  Speaker 2: you know, in the spirits of the show being too Personal,
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  Speaker 2: I've been trying to think of things that I can
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  Speaker 2: talk about that are going on in my personal life
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  Speaker 2: that I want to share. So this week I have
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  Speaker 2: been confronted by a few people who are really close
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  Speaker 2: to me with a note that I have gotten for
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  Speaker 2: most of my life.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm the kind of person that really likes.
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  Speaker 2: To get feedback from people that have earned the right
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  Speaker 2: to give me feedback, meaning they have been in my
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  Speaker 2: life for a long time. They know me very thoroughly.
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  Speaker 2: They know intimate details about me, they know my heart,
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  Speaker 2: they know how I move. There's somebody whose opinion I
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  Speaker 2: respect and who I know is giving me this piece
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  Speaker 2: of advice or this note because they really love me.
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  Speaker 2: And I've gotten this note from a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: that I know care about me. And when I get
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  Speaker 2: notes continuously, I try to apply them. So last week
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  Speaker 2: I talked about being more vulnerable because that is something
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  Speaker 2: that people around me are telling me that I need
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  Speaker 2: to work on.
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  Speaker 4: I'm really struggling with this note, though.
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  Speaker 2: And it's about being too accessible. It's something that I
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  Speaker 2: have definitely struggled with for my entire life. One because
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  Speaker 2: it's a part of my personality. I'm just somebody who is,
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  Speaker 2: you know, down to earth. I treat everyone the same,
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  Speaker 2: for better or worse. I am very open. I like
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  Speaker 2: to laugh, I like to connect with people. I like
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  Speaker 2: to have conversations, and I kind of open myself up
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  Speaker 2: to people very quickly because I don't like to spend
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  Speaker 2: time in awkward situations, and for most of my life,
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  Speaker 2: I've been very, very bad with boundaries. I don't really
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  Speaker 2: let people do the work to earn my trust. If
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  Speaker 2: I feel a good energy with someone, or I observe
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  Speaker 2: certain things about their behavior and their personality that I
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  Speaker 2: vibe with, I kind of just move too fast with people.
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  Speaker 2: And this is not exclusive to dating at all. This
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  Speaker 2: is in business, this is in friendships, this is with family.
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  Speaker 2: I have been thinking a lot about this over the
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  Speaker 2: past few weeks because I've been getting frustrated with just
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  Speaker 2: dealing with what I deem as disrespects. And I think
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  Speaker 2: I read it as disrespects because I am such an
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  Speaker 2: open person and I give so much access of myself
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  Speaker 2: to people that I just assume that people are going
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  Speaker 2: to respect that and treat me accordingly.
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  Speaker 4: And maybe that's my fault.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe I shouldn't assume that just because I am giving
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  Speaker 2: something that is precious to me, which is my energy
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  Speaker 2: and time and affection and attention and just space around me,
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  Speaker 2: that automatically people are going to respect that. So maybe
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  Speaker 2: that's on me. One Two, I really have this ability
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  Speaker 2: to connect with people that I think sometimes causes this
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  Speaker 2: reaction where people.
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  Speaker 4: Get very very.
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  Speaker 2: Liberal with how they speak to me or how they
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  Speaker 2: behave around me. For example, i may have a normal
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  Speaker 2: relationship with someone that works around me, like I'm a
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  Speaker 2: client or something, and I don't respond, and the reaction
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  Speaker 2: to me not being close to them is very inappropriate.
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  Speaker 2: They're very angry with me, or they're you know, judging
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  Speaker 2: my character and it's like, I'm just like trying to
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  Speaker 2: book an appointment here.
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  Speaker 4: And it sounds really.
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  Speaker 2: Crazy, but it happens to me a lot where people
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  Speaker 2: grow this really intense, almost inappropriate attachment to me and
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  Speaker 2: I'm just living my life and they're taking everything that
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing very personal. And this has happened a lot
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  Speaker 2: to me. It is it's been really dangerous for me.
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  Speaker 2: It's caused me a lot of problems over the course
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  Speaker 2: of my life. And I'm just trying to figure out
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  Speaker 2: how to be more protective with my energy without having
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  Speaker 2: to change my entire personality. Access that you give to people,
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  Speaker 2: and the amount of access that you give to people
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  Speaker 2: is very important. And as you grow older, as you
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  Speaker 2: have more at stake, say you have a family, say
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  Speaker 2: you have a marriage, you know, say you have businesses,
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  Speaker 2: or you're a public figure, whatever your situation is, having
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  Speaker 2: too many people around and people that haven't earned it
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  Speaker 2: or appreciate your time and space in whatever capacity it is.
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  Speaker 2: And most importantly, people that properly contextualize the relationship that
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  Speaker 2: you have. Are you actually friends or are you are
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  Speaker 2: you a client? Are you actually friends or do you
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  Speaker 2: just work with each other? Are you actually friends or
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  Speaker 2: are you literally just neighbors and happen to live next
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  Speaker 2: to each other? Putting real contexts behind what you should
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  Speaker 2: expect from people, The type of intimacy you should expect
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  Speaker 2: from someone, the type of access you should have with
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  Speaker 2: someone is so important.
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  Speaker 4: And I am just trying to.
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  Speaker 2: Figure out how I'm going to adjust that, because it's
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  Speaker 2: a note I'm getting from a lot of people that
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  Speaker 2: I'm too accessible, and I just don't I don't know
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  Speaker 2: how to change that. I don't want to have to
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  Speaker 2: put on a put on an armor to move around
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  Speaker 2: life any more than I already do. So for me,
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  Speaker 2: it just feels like, ugh, like I'm already carrying this
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  Speaker 2: whole chain mail armor around. I gotta I gotta drag
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  Speaker 2: an ax as well. It's like, can people just be normal?
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  Speaker 4: But they can't.
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  Speaker 2: And I actually saw this this uh. I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if it was a meme or something, but the quote
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  Speaker 2: just really struck me because we talk a lot about,
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  Speaker 2: you know, teaching young boys to deal with rejection, and
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  Speaker 2: how important it is to teach young men that it's
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  Speaker 2: okay to get rejected and that it's not appropriate to
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  Speaker 2: react with this over the top or violent your reaction
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  Speaker 2: when you get rejected. Rejection is a part of life.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes I don't know that we teach young girls
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  Speaker 2: rejection either, And the meme was just teach your daughters
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  Speaker 2: that it's okay if somebody doesn't like you, And it
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  Speaker 2: really just hit me because I don't know how much
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  Speaker 2: we do of that. It's always this attitude of everyone's
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  Speaker 2: supposed to get along with each other, and if I
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  Speaker 2: don't want to talk to you anymore, I'm a terrible person.
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  Speaker 2: Or if the chapter of our friendship has ended, there
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  Speaker 2: needs to be some sort of over the top reaction
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  Speaker 2: so that happening. Like no, there's many different versions that
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  Speaker 2: you will be at different times in your life. And
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  Speaker 2: just because you don't bring somebody with you, or just
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  Speaker 2: because you choose to go in a different direction, or
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  Speaker 2: just because you choose to not work with each other
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  Speaker 2: anymore does not always have to be the most dramatic,
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  Speaker 2: horrible ending. You don't have to get vengeance for someone
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  Speaker 2: not being in your life anymore. And if that's how
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  Speaker 2: you feel, I do think that you need to evalue
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  Speaker 2: eight what does this person actually mean to you? Or
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  Speaker 2: were you taking advantage of your relationship with them? And
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  Speaker 2: it's just something that I've had to think about a
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  Speaker 2: lot over this year of how much access I've given
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  Speaker 2: to people, how generous I've been with my time, how
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  Speaker 2: forgiving I am with people that are close to me.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't want to change everything about myself and
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to turn full villain because I know
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to come back, and it's just been
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  Speaker 2: it's been hard for me to figure out how to
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  Speaker 2: balance all that. So if you have any suggestions for me,
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  Speaker 2: let me know. But that's what I'm dealing with this week.
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  Speaker 2: Very excited to talk to Joshua Neil, very very funny conversation.
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  Speaker 4: So let's get to Joshua.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so excited to.
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  Speaker 2: Have an actor, producer, and a master of viral contents
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  Speaker 2: on the show today. He played Kashan in one of
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  Speaker 2: them days, alongside Sizza and Keiki Palmer, Joshua Neil.
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  Speaker 4: Welcome too, personal.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you for having me, thank you for
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  Speaker 1: all those kind of words you said about me.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we're gonna get We're gonna get a
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  Speaker 4: little personal.
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  Speaker 2: I saw the movie, so I have an obvious question
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  Speaker 2: I have to ask you, but we'll get to that
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  Speaker 2: a little later.
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  Speaker 4: We forgot the ball. Where's the bowl? It's time for
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  Speaker 4: the bowl. Well, welcome to the show.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate you coming down, and you are actually you're
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  Speaker 2: from the Bay.
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  Speaker 4: So what's it?
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  Speaker 2: What's it like? What's the difference between the Bay and
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  Speaker 2: the La to you? Do you like La because this
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  Speaker 2: is where you know, this is where the action is.
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  Speaker 2: I like LA.
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  Speaker 1: There's just it's just never any downtime here, Like there's
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  Speaker 1: too much stuff to do here, and I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't get a lot of work done here. It's
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  Speaker 1: like Monday through Sunday stuff to do restaurants, to go
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  Speaker 1: to clubs, to do bars, to visit everything.
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  Speaker 2: Are you a club guy?
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  Speaker 1: I mean if well, if there's a table I can
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  Speaker 1: sit at, yeah, like you know what I mean? But
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  Speaker 1: it's just that when I stand around, I know everybody's looking.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody goes to the club to stand.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I do, well, it depends, Like I know,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like if you go to a club, you
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  Speaker 1: always you're requested to be there, you get a table.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Me, when I go, it's like, first, let's let's get in.
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  Speaker 1: Let's hope we get in. Then you get in, and
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  Speaker 1: then it's just like all right, Like if it's open borro,
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  Speaker 1: I'll have something in my hand and then I'll just
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  Speaker 1: like stand around.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well you're you're a gentleman. What do you think
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  Speaker 2: about the new phenomenon of like the men on the platforms?
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  Speaker 3: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 3: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 2: Get specific? Please? Like the men at the clubs are
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  Speaker 2: on the stage, Yeah, they're like standing on the tables,
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  Speaker 2: They're like standing up. I see too many men in clubs.
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  Speaker 2: I don't need to see y'all respectfully.
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  Speaker 4: That's for the ladies.
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  Speaker 2: No, No, that's okay. I mean I feel like there was
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  Speaker 2: a time when those platforms were for women dancing, and
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  Speaker 2: now there's just men change on them. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I feel like there's a lot of jewelry being bought.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like we got to make sure people see
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  Speaker 1: this stuff, you know what I mean. It's like they
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  Speaker 1: got to get the high ground, which sometimes I understand.
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  Speaker 1: It's like you got to make sure like.
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  Speaker 2: You're who is who?
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  Speaker 4: Who are you showing off for the girls?
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  Speaker 2: Ah?
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  Speaker 1: I mean if I had jury, well, I'm in my defense,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not really a jury kind of person. This is
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  Speaker 1: all etsy stuff. This is this is reasonable prices. So
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  Speaker 1: whether I'm on a platform or ground, I don't care.
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  Speaker 1: But if I had jury on.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it's for other men.
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  Speaker 1: Oh oh oh really yeah, Okay, why do you feel
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  Speaker 1: that way because.
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  Speaker 4: If you're trying to I mean that thing, well, there's
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  Speaker 4: women in the room.
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  Speaker 2: Would you agree with me?
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  Speaker 4: This is for it's for other men. Yeah, it's giving
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  Speaker 4: attention for other men.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, not in that way, but it's like there is
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  Speaker 2: there's this thing at clubs where like men are just
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  Speaker 2: like feel like they're showing off for other men because
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  Speaker 2: like the things that impress women are not men standing
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  Speaker 2: on platforms.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, what is it that impresses women?
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  Speaker 2: Not that?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so you feel like it's the guys that kind
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  Speaker 1: of like I got this jury.
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  Speaker 2: Look at me. Yeah, we're like, we're wondering why you're
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  Speaker 2: up there and not not up there? Got you doing
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  Speaker 2: something else? Okay, let's get started with the we forgot.
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  Speaker 2: We forgot to bring our personal bowl over. Okay, so
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  Speaker 2: we start, we start the show with a personal question.
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  Speaker 2: So I didn't, I don't. I don't know what's in here?
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  Speaker 2: All right, you have to pick and then we'll go
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  Speaker 2: from there.
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  Speaker 3: Can I look at it first? And now you have
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  Speaker 3: to and I have to give it to you.
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  Speaker 2: You read it and then answer it. Of course, m.
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  Speaker 4: You have to read it out loud.
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  Speaker 2: I had to see what it said. Okay, all right.
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  Speaker 1: He says, how has your relationship with sex changed as
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  Speaker 1: you've gotten older?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? I don't have much of sex life. You. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if you know how to answer this question.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so sorry.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let me think.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, would you like me to answer it?
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  Speaker 2: And then maybe that will help you. I think because
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  Speaker 2: we we were actually before we started recording, just behind
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  Speaker 2: the scenes, we well, I didn't share my you actually
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  Speaker 2: didn't share your losing virginity story. You just talked about
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  Speaker 2: what you could potentially have lost your virginity and you didn't.
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  Speaker 3: Am I allowed to share that? Well, when I lost
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  Speaker 3: my virginity, No.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't. No, we were talking earlier about you put
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  Speaker 2: a moment you almost lost your virginity, right, but you
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  Speaker 2: chose not to, right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we could talk about that. Okay, Yeah, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: the same anymore.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, well, okay, we're getting sidetracked.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. The point is we'd already kind of talked about,
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  Speaker 2: you know, the different ways that you behave with sex
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  Speaker 2: because you had an opportunity to lose your virginity and
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  Speaker 2: you didn't, and like, perhaps if you had already not
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  Speaker 2: been a virgin, you would have done that thing that
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  Speaker 2: we were talking about.
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  Speaker 3: I was very intimidated. She was really pretty right.
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  Speaker 2: So I think my relationship with sex has changed as
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  Speaker 2: I've gotten older, and that I am way more confident
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  Speaker 2: in my body than I was when I was younger.
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  Speaker 2: I have divorced completely from the church guilt that was
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  Speaker 2: drilled into me for many years about like what it
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  Speaker 2: means to have sex and what like how you should
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  Speaker 2: feel as a woman after having sex. So I don't
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  Speaker 2: have that involved in like how I approach your look
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  Speaker 2: at sex anymore. And I also think that having an
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  Speaker 2: emotional connection to someone is not something that you should
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  Speaker 2: be ashamed of, which may sound weird, but for a
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  Speaker 2: period of time, there's like this idea that you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's almost like cool to just have sex and not
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  Speaker 2: care about someone. And I don't mind if you do
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  Speaker 2: or you don't, but I do think for me personally,
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  Speaker 2: I like to have some kind of like at the
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  Speaker 2: bare minimum, Like I like, I gotta like the person,
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  Speaker 2: like as a person, and now I really have to
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  Speaker 2: trust the person because I have a whole lot to lose,
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  Speaker 2: and that is a risky proposition to to only like them,
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  Speaker 2: Like I have to know a good deal about someone
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  Speaker 2: before I even think about being intimate with them. And
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  Speaker 2: when you're younger and you're like, you know, still getting
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  Speaker 2: to know yourself and know your body and know your
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  Speaker 2: your rules and boundaries for yourself, those things aren't always
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  Speaker 2: something that you consider right, Well, I'll.
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  Speaker 1: Be honest with you, like I'm being honest, Like I
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  Speaker 1: think it's my I think it's kind of stayed the
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  Speaker 1: same for me throughout my life, Like when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to like, for one, I've always been somebody that I
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  Speaker 1: need to I need to like you a lot. We
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  Speaker 1: need to be in something official for us to even
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  Speaker 1: get there. You have to be dating, yeah, for sure,
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  Speaker 1: because I don't even I don't even know you're a stranger.
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  Speaker 2: Yah, yeah, I need to. I need to.
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  Speaker 3: I need to really know you.
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: And honestly, like I was raising the church, so I
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: think that had a lot to do with it coming up.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: It was kind of like you gotta be.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Married, you know, blah blah blah, And I kind of
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: never really let go of those values from the time
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I was like really young to now.
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: So I feel like.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: I need to be in something really important with you
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: to go there, because that's like huge to me, that's
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: a big deal.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I think that's a huge deal. So it's
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: kind of stayed the same for me, like being younger
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: and being older now.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: Well, being a public figure now, do you find more
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: temptation to stray away from that or do you? Are
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: you still steadfast in that? And I'm still steadfast in that.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: I don't really look at myself as a public figure though,
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: Okay you are, I mean, yeah, but like do you
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: really I mean, but so are you like do you really?
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: Like sometimes do you?
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah? I'm really bad at being a public figure. I
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: think we've all figured that out.
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: But yes, like you are you what do you mean
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: you're an actor?
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I mean yeah, but like I don't I feel like, like,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: for instance, people say, like you're in the industry, right,
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, I am, but I don't really feel
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: like I'm in the industry.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: I just feel like I'm doing this stuff.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's good to well, okay, I have
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: been sold that it's not good to be that way. Okay,
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: I see both sides of it, because I do feel
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: how you feel like. I just feel like a person
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: and this just happens to be my job. But there
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: are things that come with being front facing that are
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: not not the same as doing a job that does
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: not require your personality, that does not require you putting
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: your face in front of the camera, your body in
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: front of the camera. And you know, there's a lot
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: of things in this business that just require things from
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: you that are not required in other businesses. Sure, and
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: as you grow in the business, there are more opportunities to,
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: you know, make mistakes if you aren't treating yourself in
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: a certain way. Oh for sure.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think Okay, like yeah, I'll get I'll say, like,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I'm a public figure.
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: You are a public figure.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: You want to claim it though, you know what I'm saying.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: I just don't like claiming it because it's like once
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: you say it's kind of like.
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: But it's okay, that's what you do.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: True, Okay, I'll just claim it for right now for
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: the show's sake.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: But I'll say, okay, what would you like to don't
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: let me, don't let me presure you. What do you
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: see yourself? Ass? That's it?
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: No, seriously, because I've even had friends sometimes now that
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: I will say, like like I'll be like hanging around
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: friends or something, and they come around.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: They're just like, oh, like, what's a big shot, what's up?
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: Big time? And I'll be like, don't even don't do
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: that well.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: With your friends. Yeah, yeah, I can't understand that anybody.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Because I do like to keep it. I'm serious when
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: I say this, I do like to keep it. Just
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: I don't want to go up here. Just keep me here.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be a public figure. I don't
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: want to be a big shot. I just want to
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: be the same. I just want to make content and stuff.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Because I do feel like it keeps me in a
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: place that I like to be, especially how people see me.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be a I don't want to
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: be anything. Just keep me here and it honestly it
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: makes it easier for me to like just live and
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: create my stuff.
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: How do you interact with fans?
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Like what's up?
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Just say what's up?
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: Like a lot of times people sometimes people DM and
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: they're like I saw you in the cafe, but I
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: don't want to I'm like, you should.
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: Have said something.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: And every time I see a supporter, I talk to him,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: we'll take a picture. I'll take a picture if they ask,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: which I still think is like you know, like you
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: really want to pay? Okay, Like yeah, but I still
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: take pictures and all that kind of stuff because I
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: feel like this it can it's here.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: Now, it can be gone tomorrow.
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: It's very fleeting tomorrow.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: One little video on Somebody's like I always hated that
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: guy one you say, run wrong thing, post the wrong thing.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: And somebody's like, I always knew that guy was a loser.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Why would he say that? And so I'm just like,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm just grateful people like my stuff. Just
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: keep me here. I just want to just regular, just
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: keep me there. I don't want to be anything else.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Just watch the videos and laugh and like we'll just
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: make stuff together.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Are what are your long term aspirations in the business.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I want to be in a sorry about that.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I want to be an established writer someday be a
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: writer's team, writing for like some kind of show or something.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: I'm not sure. So your your ultimate goal isn't to
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: be in front of the camera, if.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Yes and no, like okay, for instance, like Childish can't
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: be nof instant that's like my number one influence.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: Like everything he does.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: I'm just like it's crazy that she's good at that
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: many things, directing, writing, acting, music, very good at all
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: of them, producing him and his brother, Like, so I
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: just want to be My goal is to at a
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: healthy pace and the correct way evolve into whatever it
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: is I'm supposed to be as an artist.
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: So you consider yourself more of a creative.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, Like that's what I ultimately want to be.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be famous. I want to be good.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be a movie star. I want
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: to be in good projects because that's what I feel like,
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: like I was fortunate enough to like I was like
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: filled with a lot of love growing up, especially for
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: my mom like my dad. I never had to question
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: my stuff about anything. I was always encouraged about everything
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: that I did, so like I was always trying to
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: figure out, like how can I get good at this?
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: It was never.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Looking for anything other than just like, how do I
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: get good at this? Because I got so much like
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: attention and love at home. So like when it comes
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: to maybe like the other stuff, I'm kind of like,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: I don't like it doesn't really do anything for me.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: But if I can, if I can get good at something,
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: I know I'll be here like a long time.
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: Did you always want to try acting?
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: I was acting in high school.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: If my drama teacher saw me today, he'd be shocked
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: because he hated me rightfully, So what.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Do you mean rightfully?
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: So hopefully, so like I found ways to get out
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: of place, and just like because of sports and you know,
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: running track. It was a travel team, so I got
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: to get out of a lot of like classes and
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. But he couldn't stand me in high school.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: But I think now it's because he knew well, I.
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: Think he's probably heard of you.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: His name is, mister Vega.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: If you're watching this, hey, mister Vega, I'm doing you
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: were wrong, mister Vega.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you were kind.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: But I think he was mad at me because he
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: saw the potential maybe and he was like, you don't
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: even understand.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: Did he tell you that he saw potential on you?
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: No?
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: I didn't, But that's what I tell myself now, you know.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: But I think I took acting classes in high school.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I took acting classes in junior college. And then once
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I was like playing football and I didn't want to
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: play anymore. I was kind of like, I went to
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: the movies. This is a true story. I went to
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: the movies one day.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: It was a low day.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: I didn't even think I went to practice this day.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Nobody noticed, you know what I mean. It was like
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: nobody cares. And so lottery ticket was out at the time.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: Around this time, it was like bow wow.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: Brandon T.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Jackson was like scorching. And I went into the movie
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: theater and I saw this movie. That was probably the
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: first time that I was like, yeah, I want to
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: do this, like I should pursue acting like full time
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: like this. So I remember calling my mom telling her like,
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: I know what I want to do. I want to
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: pursue an acting career, and she was like, are you sure.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: That's what you want to do.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, i'mnna do this while bost and
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: then like after the semester was over, I drove my
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: car back to California did the Girl running after that.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: So I loved one of them days. I thought it
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: was so funny and really it felt kind of like
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: it felt like a hang like I felt like I
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: was like in like there, like in the movie. You
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: have a very specific role in.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: The movie, really caring gentleman.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: Yes, I would not. I don't know if I would
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: describe him as a gentleman, but uh, he has some
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: he has some manly features. What did what was the
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: reaction features? Which thank you?
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: Because like me, so it's like you're pretty much person.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: No you're not, like no, yes, it's you.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: That's not what I mean. You know what I'm talking about.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to be a lady here talking about are
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: you gonna make me say? I say, I know what
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: you're talking about. No, thought about it. I remember. Now
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: there's a specific scene in the movie. If if you
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: haven't seen the movie. I'm encouraging people to go watch
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: the movie.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Ice cream scene with me and Bernice. You're talking about
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: that one. K.
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a scene inside of.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: The apartment that is very revealing. I'm trying to think,
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: what scene you're doing? Yeah, okay, what was the reaction
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: to the to the to the film after it came
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: out for you for.
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: That scene or just like the movie in general?
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, for that scene. For that scene, was it
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: funny to shoot?
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: Hilarious? Everybody on set was just like dying laughing that
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: whole day. I didn't know I was going to be
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: wearing that one until the day of because.
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: We needed to do fittings.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we had to do fittings.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: It was all very very profish, very profresh, and we
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: needed to so pretty much like we wanted people, they
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: wanted people to see, like why Keishan's getting this free rent,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Like why he just gets to you know, just be
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: in this apartment and you know he won't get kicked
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: out for any reason at all. So at first it
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: started off with just like a cup, We're just gonna
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: do a cup. That's what I tried on, and it
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: had like a print on it. It was like cool,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: and then it was like normal.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: And then.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: I think.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: Like mid shoot maybe like maybe like a week before
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: that scene, we tried on something else. It was like
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: an actual like rubber you know, like you know, the
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: litt or whatever, and you know, I would try that
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: on and then we'll take a picture and then you know,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: the whoever reviews it reviews it, you know, and so
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, like.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: What was that job? I don't know, I don't know, Okay,
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: go on, and so I was just like okay, like you.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: Know, in my mind, I was like, oh, that's legit,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: like you know, we'll go here. This is the free
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: rent one.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: And then.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: And then I think like a week before shooting, we
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: we upgraded.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: We went we went bigger m M. So I'm like, okay,
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: like this.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Is a free mortgage with it, like this is you
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. We're really up in the states here.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, okay, we're gonna go with that one.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: And then the day of the shoot of the scene,
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: it was just like all laid out. It was just
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: like all these large toys and just like it was
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: you know, different colors and inches and whatnot, and it
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: was like, we're gonna try these on and you know,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: see which one we're gonna go with. So we ended
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: up going with with the one that was in the movie.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: You know, it was a knee lincher. Okay, if you
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: guys haven't followed what we're talking about right now, Joshua
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: wears a very comically large what is the word, what's
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: an appropriate word, just you.
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: Know, toy enhancements, enhancements.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: For the movie, and it's a it's a very very
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: very funny scene. Yeah, and I imagine that it was
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: funny to shoot.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: It was hilarious to shoot.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Nobody really wanted to come near me or look me
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: in the eye the whole day, which is fine, but
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: you know, it was it was a very funny day.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Like the movie was super fun to shoot. Everybody was hilarious.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Everybody was such a you know, team player. Lawrence lamont
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I believe it was his first movie directing, says his
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: first movie Kethy Palmer was amazing.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: You have East Ray, everybody loves each Ray.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: You have Patrick Cage playing maniac, you have you know,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: he's got playing Bernice. So it was it was a
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: fun time. I think it was Excuse me if I'm wrong,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: but I do think it was. It was Patrick's first movie,
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: and I think it was is he'sa Scott's first movie
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: as well.
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: But I could be wrong, but it was.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: So it was kind of like this we got to
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: really experience it together and have fun shooting it.
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: It was fun.
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: It's a very fun movie.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: It's yeah, And it's also I am just kind of
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: like a nerd about about content that is shot in
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: LA and it's like about LA because I live here. Yeah,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: so I like seeing things that I know where that's
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: at and and all of that.
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: But but yeah, it was, it was. It was a
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: great movie.
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: So you also do The Red Room, which is your
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: content series. You also you people send me your stuff
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: all the time. Yes, people, Yeah, your stuff all the time,
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: especially my guy friends. The your your Hotel series are
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: very very funny. Okay, but the Red Room and you
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: are you're giving, well, you're giving like relationship takes in
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: a lot of ways and you do give a lot
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: of direction to men.
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, what what inspired this?
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Well, honestly, like I feel like in the dating space,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I'm honest, I think things are social media made dating
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: way too serious, way too serious, way too serious in
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: terms of how to impress someone.
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: Or wait, yeah that I could, I could see that.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah what women like? You know what men like?
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: I think it's just like it's it's way too much,
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: it's way too materialistic.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah that that Liken one hundred percent. And I feel like.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: When you're somebody like me who doesn't have your stereotypical
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: resources right, you have to dig from within. You have
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: to win with just your be yourself, which sometimes can suck.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes he's not gonna like who
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: you are. But that's okay because my main thing for
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: the Red Room is like, you don't want a woman
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: to fall in love with someone that isn't you, So
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: just go in there and do these little things because
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you just gotta pray
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: she she likes you. If she likes you, it's not
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: gonna matter what you do. I don't like you.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: Who was your who gave you the most direction, like
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: for date, for like entering the dating world, Like did
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: you have like did your dad give you any like
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: don't do this?
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: Uh no, I it was my cousin Damien.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Did he give these solid advice?
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: He did, but he was he was always very confident,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: just coming up like he's ten years older than me.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: We grew up in church together, and uh, he always
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: had just like I used to just be scared to
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: like talk to girls and approach girls and stuff. And
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: he's just like, you just got to pull her card,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: bro like an ice, Like what is that? And he's like,
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: it's really just when you put her on the spot.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: You don't give her time to tiptoe around anything. You
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: tell her exactly how you feeling. You just wait for
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: the answer. And so I was like okay, and he's like.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, pull the cars.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: So I mean, I mean I just kind of sometimes
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: did that when I had the.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: Courage to do so.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: But now I'm kind of just like.
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: Go up to her, and this always works for me.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: It never feels it never feels I'm so serious, it's nothing.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: It's nothing crazy. You see a woman, you like, she's gorgeous,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: obviously that's why you want to talk to her.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: You're petrified.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: I'm always petrified to approach to woman every single time,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: so I don't do it often. But you go up
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: to her, say Hi, how are you. I don't want
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: to wearte your time because you don't want to waste
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: your time. But you do want to tell her how
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: beautiful she is, so you just go up to her.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: So I just wanted to come over her and tell
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: you're very beautiful. She's going to say thank you. Every
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: woman loves a compliment. No woman doesn't like to be
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: told they're beautiful, especially if it's the truth. So you
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: tell her she's beautiful, she's going to say thank you.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: You tell her your name. Hopefully she says my name
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: is such and such, and you go, yeah, that's all
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: I wanted to say. I hope you have a great night.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: If she wants you to stay around, she'll let you know.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: If she doesn't, the conversation will in there. When when
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: you didn't get your feelings hurt, you're not coming off
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: like a creep. You told her what you wanted to say,
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: and you left.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: That's actually really solid.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: It's listen, and it's just like because I think the
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: pressure comes from you have a plan.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't have a plan. Just tell her she's beautiful.
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: I have a little bit of a plan.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: I mean you can have a little bit of a plan,
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: but I mean, like, okay, when I say don't have
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: a plan, I mean like this, Yeah, I gotta be smooth.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: I gotta have a plan to get her number. I
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: want to lead the brow.
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: He has his voice. We found his voice, a gallery voice.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: Something else we're talking about off camera. Uh, that's good though,
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: that's good though. I feel like this has been used
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: on me before.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Okay, and I'm.
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: Okay with it, because that's right. You're absolutely right. If
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: I want to continue the conversation after that, very normal, however,
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: door opening conversation, I say something to follow up, to
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: continue that conversation.
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: If not, it's thank you have a nice night, and
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: that's it.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: And that's it.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: She's not interested. But if she is, she's not interested.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: You didn't spend any money on drinks. Nope, you didn't
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: follow her around the club.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you don't want to do that. We don't
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: want to do that. And the drinks.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: I usually start off with water, you know what I mean,
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: because it's just like the money, you're saving money, and
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: you're also you're giving her something healthy, you know what
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: I mean.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm actually not I'm actually not mad at that.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: I do not drink enough water. And it's also annoying
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: enough to get at the bar. So okay, starting with water,
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: I I do like this though, oay, I think what is?
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: What is? What? What makes you nervous about talking to women?
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: My entire self esteem could be crushed. You don't know
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: who you're talking to. I've been caught a lot of
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: things in my life for no reason. It's it's rough
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: out there. Okay, think about it. There's a lot of
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of people out there. You don't know
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: what they're going to say to you.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: What like for coming up to.
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: What's something mean that I wanted to set to you? Oh?
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: Like are you serious? Yeah? What do you mean? No?
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: That's what she said to me.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: Are you serious? Oh?
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: Are you serious?
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: On approach like are you serious?
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: What I mean?
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: What does? What's going on with her that would make
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: her feel that she needs to say that?
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: Scary out there?
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: It was kind of like the audence you see what?
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: And that's my point.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: It's the like you why would the fact that you
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: thought you could really come up to me as crazy?
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: That's what the response was, like, are you serious?
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I can defend this woman?
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: You know what I said?
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Nothing?
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Walked away like I was too scared to even say
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: my bad. I was like Lee let me get up
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: out of here.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: But why would it be you? Though?
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Because it was kind of like she had me convinced.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: It was like, you're right, why why would I come
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: over here?
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: But you gotta understand, like this woman was.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: For zero point three seconds when she said it, I
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I get it, because what am I
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: doing over here?
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you she was. She was scorching.
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: Okay, I guess I don't.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Well, listen, though, this brings me back to my punt.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: There's there's a lot of people out there. There's a
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: lot of mean people out there. None of this stuff
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: is far fetched.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: It can happen.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: That's why a lot of guys are like, I don't
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: want to I'd rather just keep the way that I
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: the positive things that I think about myself.
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: I want to hold onto those things.
• 35:36
  Speaker 4: Listen, I mean, listen, are you serious?
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: It is tough? That's that's that's that people always say.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: The worst you can say is no, yeah, I guess
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: there's so many other things that's true.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: I mean, I also don't I think it's.
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: Maybe different for me in a lot of ways.
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: Also because I work in sports, so a lot of
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: the people that listen to my show or watch the
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: show are men. So I don't auto assume when a
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: man comes up to me that he's necessarily talking to
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: me before that reason. Okay, Like it can in a
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: lot of ways just be like hey, like I just
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: wanted to say I watched like I watched the show.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: So I get a variety of people coming up to me,
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: and I don't. I don't default so like this man
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: is hitting on.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: Me, got you.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: So it's it's I think different for me because I
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: don't want to be rude to someone who's just.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: Hard for you to to try to like see like
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: is this guy hitting on me or is he just talking?
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: I mean that they decide that they're hitting on me.
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: They usually get to the point pretty quickly, oh really okay.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: And then sometimes it starts as they're just saying something
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: about the show, and then me being nice then is like,
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: oh wait, she's actually talking to me, Like maybe I
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: can maybe it's it's my day and it's not okay.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: You get hit on a lot.
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: I do I see that you're really pretty thank you.
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: I I don't. I don't know. I mean, getting hit
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: on is like it's been a it's been a journey
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: throughout my life. Like when I was younger, hit almost
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: very annoying because it's I'm like, I'm just trying to
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: go out with my friends, you know, like I'm not
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: in Like if you're being very forceful and having a gentleman,
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: it's like you're like a pest, you know. So I
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: was probably much meaner in those days.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: Got you, and then.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: Now I'm like, eh, I think there's an art to
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: approaching a woman that can be effective while also not
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: landing you in a place where you're like, are you serious?
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: Let me ask you? Can I ask you a question?
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: Where was Where was this.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Club in San Jose?
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: So you want me to tell you what the weather was? Like,
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: I remember the exacting.
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: Okay, so.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: Try Sorry, but you know, okay, I'm not defending her.
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: It was rude thing to say to you.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: It was it was very means. Okay, I was gonna
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: go with evil, but yeah.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, it was evil whatever, it was not nice. I
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: will not defend her on that. You deserve better, Thank you.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: So I don't know that that happens at like you know,
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: Mastros at the bar. You know, what do you mean?
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: What do you mean?
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: What do you mean by that?
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: What do you mean by that?
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: Well, like the club is a ferocious place, you know,
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: it's like there's a lot of very tense energy in clubs.
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: I have not been the nicest in clubs.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I say something, Yes, this brings me back to
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: the very beginning when you're like, why are the guys
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: up there?
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: And I think maybe those are like the villains that
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: are living out there, villain era, the.
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: Guys maybe they had that are you men are like
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: looking me on winning now men are living out there
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: their princess villain the era? For sure? There they are
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: the wicked witches of the West, really for sure right now?
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: Or is it the East? Like all of them are
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: just there's both.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: There's two okay, eastand West. Okay, I just I think
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: it's I think where and how you how you approach
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: women is important, and like what is this woman doing?
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: Is she? Is this a table full of women who
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: are having a lovely time with each other? They there's
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: not there's no male energy going on at the situation.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: They are clearly enjoying each other's company. And you're like
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: coming in interrupting something like you're probably gonna get smoked.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: Is this woman giving off the fuck off vibes? I don't. Well.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: See the thing about that is like sometimes she's smiling
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: when she has that vibe. It's like she said it
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: like if you were from Afar watching it happen, you
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: wouldn't think she was mad.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: It was like, are you serious?
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: So from Afar you're thinking it's going fantastic, You're like, oh,
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: she's smiling, he's over your charming her up.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: No, it was like, are you.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: Crushing your crushing your spirit? Yeah? So do you still
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: approach women in clubs?
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. I'm rarely in clubs.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: Clubs are not a You can find me.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: In cafes or at the movies by myself, okay, or
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: at Lake merrit Mostly cafes though, that's where I've kind
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: of approached a couple of women in.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: There, like while they're having coffee.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: But I usually wait till they're done with that. You
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: It's because I usually see a woman like, let me
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: say something, when I approach a woman, and I don't
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: mean it sound like a creep. I've seen you for
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: at least twenty minutes and I don't mean like staring
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: at you. I mean like I'm writing and I see you,
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: and it's just like.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: Ah, I think that's fine. Now you aren't watching me
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: for twenty minutes.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say watching. Yeah, that's why I
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: said I've seen you. Yeah, what I mean, I've seen
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: you for the past twenty minutes. And it's just like, Okay,
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: she's not meeting somebody.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: M hmm.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I mean because if she was like he's late, you
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: need better than that. You need somebody that's on time.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Of course, you know what I'm saying. So it's like, Okay,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: she's alone. She's in a cafe, so her mood's great.
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: Nobody comes to the cafe angry. It's like, why are
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: you kidding me? The vibes are good here. I'll come
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: here if you're in a bad mood. So it's like,
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: and she's doing something she usually loves. She's usually not working,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: she's passionate about something. She's writing something, or she's reading
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: a book, or she's working on like I don't know,
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: maybe she's adding stuff to her Pinterest.
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: Right, certain mood's good.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: So I usually about thirty minutes in, I'm like, okay,
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: let me go in here and just give me.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: But what's the what is the cafe approach? Because you're
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: not like buying second coffee.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I'll literally give you play by play. How I approached
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: this this woman in the cafe and it went really
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: really well. We actually went on a day too. Yeah
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: we don't really talk now, but ope, she doesn't see this,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: so I mean, we don't hate each other, we just
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: don't talk. So she came in really pretty. As soon
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: as she came in, it was like everybody was looking
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: at her and I was like, oh, wow, she's pretty.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: Like it was one of those like yeah, she's pretty,
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: like like she's one of these people that's pretty and
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: knows it. So I was like, I have to I'm
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: going to talk to this girl. I'm gonna do my
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my my my technique. You know, I'm
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: gonna just tell you what I have to say and
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get out of here. So I waited about
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: twenty five five minutes, twenty minutes or whatever. I went
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: up to her. I said hi, She said hi. I said,
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: I don't want to waste your time. I just want
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: to come over and tell you that you're really pretty.
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: He was like, thank you. I said, my name is Joshua.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: Now this voice I'm putting on right now, this is
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: my this is my this is my It's not deep,
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: but it's like not up here.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: It's like I'm gonna bring it down. So I was like,
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: my name is Joshua. Reached out my hand. She shook
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: my hand. She said her name. I was like, I
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: love that name. She was like, uh, she goes. I said, well,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: thank you. I said, well, listen, I'm not gonna waste
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: your time. I just wanted to come over here and
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: tell you that. She says, I like your grill. I
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: had a grill in my mouth at the time I
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: lost it, but I had two right here. I was like,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: thank you. I have a bottom one, but I didn't
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: wear it today. She goes, why didn't you wear it?
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: We got some cooking here.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: Prolonging follow prolonged. It's just like, what do you care
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: about my grill? All right? She doesn't care.
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: It's been around a long time. But these little two
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: bad boys right here, this does it for you?
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: Cool? It doesn't.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: It doesn't for me. So I was like, I have
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: a bottom one, but I didn't wear it. She's like,
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: why did't you wear it?
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: I was like, I'm at a cafe.
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: I didn't want to do too much.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: He's like that's right. She's like, where did you get
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: it from. I was like, I got it from Highland
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: Jury and South Layd Mall. I was like, you should
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: go by there sometime, but don't go by there after
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: four only in the morning.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: She was like why. I was like, it's kind of dangerous.
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: He was like really.
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, but not for me. I'm like
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: obviously a tough guy and everything. So she laughed at ever.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: We started a little conversation and I was like, yeah,
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: you gotta go by there. You gotta get you one.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: She was like okay, and I was like well. I
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: was like, I let me get out of here. Hopefully
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: I see you around or something. I didn't ask for
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: a number. I didn't ask for anything. I knew she
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: was gonna I knew I was gonna see her again.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: I'm dead serious.
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: Wait, so you you did not get any contact information?
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: Nope, it was a local cafe because Kim folks.
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: Okay, so this is this is a long play, then.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: It's a long play.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: If you're in Kim, folks, I'm telling you right now,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: you're gonna you'll be back. Okay, you'll be back. Everybody
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: that's here that you will.
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: Both be back there at the same time.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: He's gotta wait it out. Okay.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: I'm not done with the story though, Okay, okay, stay
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: with me. So I go back to my table, and
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: you know, I do whatever it is that I was doing.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: I don't know what I was doing. I was probably
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: like on YouTube or something, and so I end up
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: leaving or she leaves. She leaves out of I can't
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: even remember.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: She leaves.
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: Three weeks later, I'm in there. She comes back, she
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: puts her stuff down.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: I see her.
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: I go back to doing my thing. She put her
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: stuff down, and guess what happens. She comes and sits
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: on my table. So at this point, like my chest
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: hair is feeling really long and stuff. So I'm like
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: really excited or whatever. We talked for like a couple hours.
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: No, we actually chatted it up, like chatted it up.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: She actually So she goes back to sit at her desk.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: She does her work. I do my work, but this
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: time when we leave, we leave like together. I was like,
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna walk you to your car. So we're talking
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: and everything. She actually asked me, she was like, you
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: didn't even ask for my number last time, and I
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: was like, I know I was gonna see you again.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: I played that so well.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: I was like, I knew I was gonna see you again.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: So it came out really great. Got her number, and
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: then we actually went on a date or whatever. It
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: was a really nice place. We went to this like
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: downtown to Oakland, and like, we came in and the
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: wait was long, but it was only two of us
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: and there was like this little two spot open, so
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: we got right and it kind of made me seem
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: like I was the man because it was just like, Yo,
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: how long is the wait?
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: But he was like, it's gonna be thirty minutes, but
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: there's a juice.
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: Muson and I was like, right on, my man.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: So we got over there, and then we just had
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: like happy hour stuff, which is great because financially the
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: other works out for you, you know what I mean,
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: especially drinks, and then you got unlimited bread coming, so
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: she's not going to order all this food. She's already full,
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: you know. We're having little drinks here and there, and
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: then we shared a.
• 45:21
  Speaker 4: Kiss, a long play to kiss.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: That's great.
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you antic, So that was like a win.
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a win. You know. The thing about
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: women is we do not like oppressed man, Okay, we
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: do not like there is.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: I was watching The Red Room and one.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: Of the themes that I hope that men get from
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: what you're saying is.
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: You're talking about one of the one of the tips.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: Yes, what was it, the self confidence one?
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: Well? I think it kind of it sort of is
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: a thread through everything that you're saying. Okay, which is that?
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: And I say this all the time. I think I
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: said this a couple of weeks ago. Actually that it's
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: like men have since the beginning of time figured it out,
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: like pursue us, don't annoy us, make sure that we
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: see that you're interested, don't bug me all the time,
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: text me, don't text me every single day, text me
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: every day, but just not all day. Like there is
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: this increment thing and you just figure it the fuck out. Yeah,
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: And there's no way for me to explain to you
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: what it is. You just do it or you don't,
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: and then you get on our nerves. Then we don't
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: talk to you anymore. And it's just like that. Some
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: there's just no other way to explain it. But the
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: main thing is, and I do think listen, if you're
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: a guy who's trying to figure out how to approach
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: women or how to talk to women, I do think
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: that you should go and check out Joshua's.
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: Work because you're you're doing the Lord's work.
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: Really, look you there's something And if I could add
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: to that, if you don't mind, I think there's two things.
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: One she has to like you.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: Two to your point, sometimes you have to do everything
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: you said, but even if you want to, like mildly press,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: you have to act like you don't like doing it.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: That's what I do. Can I explain yes.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes I feel like I've had moments where I'm like,
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: she doesn't like the fact that I'm really passionate about
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: doing all this stuff at the pace that I'm doing it.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: So sometimes when I do it, I act to know it.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: I'm like, let's say I want to ask you to
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: the movies or something, I'd be like, are you trying
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: to You're trying to go to the movies.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: I'm about to go. I'm about to go see this
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: show real quick.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: You're trying to you're trying to go now, mind you.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: I really want her to come, but I also don't
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: want to press. I gotta you want to.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: You want to see this movie. It's like this Julia
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: Roberts thing, like you're trying to go. Yeah, I don't
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: like that. It works, I'm sure does versus very very
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: happy you want to come to this movie with me.
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: I go relight with it. I'm like, you're trying to
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: come to this this movie with me right now? Okay.
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: So the thing because it's like you're already my girlfriend.
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: It's like, if that's it, if it's your girl.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: That's different. Oh yeah, so you're trying to come to that,
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: that's different. But if you're figuring things out the like,
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: you can come over if you want. Oh that one,
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: Oh I'm not coming. I'm not coming. If I want, no,
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: I don't. I don't do that one. Come over, yeah please.
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: And then let me say no. But what if I want.
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: Why would you do that? Well maybe I don't want to,
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: but I but but if you say if I want to,
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: I definitely am not coming.
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: So just brings me back to the whole Just don't
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: be pressed about asking her to do this. Stuff is
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: because he might just you want to come over like
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: I'm not really doing much right now, Like you.
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: Were going to say no anyway you just said you
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: might say no. There's I'm one hundred going to say
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: no if you are, if you are nonchalant about it,
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: there's a there's a fifty percent chance I'm gonna say
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: no if you just ask me. These are terrible odds,
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: I know, but it's just stuff works. It's just I
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: know it doesn't make sense, but it's just what it is.
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: It just is what it is.
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: Okay, it is what it is. We don't because there's
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: it's the it's the walking of the schalantness.
• 49:06
  Speaker 4: Okay, like you got a shalant and then not shalant.
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: But you have to know when it's a balance though,
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: but you talk about that though. There's a balance and
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: the most important thing though, this is the most important thing.
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: I know you're passionate about this because the way you're
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: doing this is like.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: It's the most important thing. But you already said it
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: a few times. She has to like you. It doesn't
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: matter if she doesn't like you. She doesn't like you,
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: that's it.
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: Just move move on.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: There's billions of people and that is that is the
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: thing that I think a lot of men do either
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: refuse to grasp or it's like an ego thing, or
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: they just don't have the sensibilities around women who understands. Like,
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: some women do not want to be direct, like don't
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: want to hurt a man's feelings or are afraid to
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: because listen, some men are violent and insane, so we
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: do tend to be a little you know, non direct.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: Not are you serious when you approachest?
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: I haven't talked about that in years, by the way.
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's tough.
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: Thank you for being vulnerable about that. It's okay, but yeah,
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: if a woman likes you, it really you still have
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: to do this balancing act to maintain it. Yeah, but
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: it's much easier if a woman doesn't like you. It
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: doesn't matter how many tips or tricks or doesn't YouTube
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: videos you watch or interviews or any of that. Like,
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: it just it just doesn't matter. And that's okay. I
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: also to like, the goal is to find one person,
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: just one.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: That's also too I think with the whole listen, let
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: me say this is important. Sometimes like a lot of times,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: we really just like you a lot, So it's like
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: I really like, if you think about it, from the
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: time we were growing up, we've been seeing romance cartoons,
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: kids movies, animation, action movies. It's the girl, you get
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: the girl, you get the girl, you save the girl,
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: you sleep off her feet.
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: Like so, I think a lot of the times guys
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: just want the girl.
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: They like was Sometimes it's just like I think, the
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: issue is not knowing how to know, not knowing when
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: she when she doesn't like you.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: But it's is it the girl they like her, the
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: girl they want a little bit of both, because sometimes
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: you don't know. I feel like I deal with this
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: a lot where men will want but they don't actually like.
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: And it's not about like a long term commitment thing
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: or any of that that bullshit. It's that the the
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: idea of someone can, it can and often is better
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: than the reality of someone. Yeah, so you know, it's
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: obviously you have to desire someone, you physically see someone first,
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: like duh, that's how it works. We are That's how
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: this works. But if you convince yourself that you like
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: someone and you don't actually know them, like to your point,
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: you're a stranger.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: No, for sure.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: But I always tell that's why a lot of my
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: like red woms always tell people time, will tell you
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: just gotta you gotta take the proper time.
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: A lot of people like each other.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: You can like someone within the first ten minutes of
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: talking to them, but you don't know them from anywhere,
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: and liking doesn't really last long until you know them.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: So I feel like, yeah, there's a lot of times
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: people uh you know, want them and don't like them,
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: but a lot of times you can't tell the difference
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: between the two until you just take that proper time.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't take that proper time, and
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: you end up giving up so much of yourself within
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: this little time, and that's how really people get hurt. Yeah,
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: but at the same time not at the same time,
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: I think people like.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: To be liked, Yeah, of course.
• 52:32
  Speaker 4: I mean it's a much better feeling to shoot your
• 52:34
  Speaker 4: shot and it go in.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, listen, I I haven't been in anything in
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: a long time, like if I if I'm gonna bring
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: in stranger things by myself, I have no one to
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: talk talk talk to this about this finale with you know,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: not many great movies and shows have been out, and
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: I've had no woman next to me. On the couch
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: to talk to it about it. It's just you watch
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: it and it's like you go to sleep with that
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: good feeling, good TV. Nobody to talk to it about.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: It's just terrible.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: Not many how long Stranger Things has been out?
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a long time.
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: But are you dating?
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: Not really define dating?
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: Are you trying to ask?
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: What's your like? What's your okay?
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: Are you? Are you trying to find are you actively
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: trying to find someone to watch Stranger Things with?
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: My brain just went in so many directions with that
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: because it's like at this point I got to bring
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: it in alone, you know what I mean?
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: Like especially like have you been watching Stranger Things this
• 53:35
  Speaker 3: whole time?
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: It's like no, I haven't watched it, but I want
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: to watch it.
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: But you can't do it. You got to catch up
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: on your own. I can't catch you up.
• 53:39
  Speaker 4: Okay, so let's put Stranger Things inside?
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: Are you?
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: Are you actively not gonna understand? You know what I mean?
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: That's a lot to ask of anybody, Like Billy has hair, Now,
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: You gotta start from the.
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: Beginning hundred percent, like you're either in it or you're not.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: You could really lement your options exactly. So are you
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: actively trying to find a part partner? M?
• 54:02
  Speaker 4: Do you want to get married?
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Anyone? Kids?
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: Uh, yes, but only like marriage and love. I don't
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: see kids unless I see a wife first. I don't
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: even I don't even see kids unless I like fall
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: in love, right, you know what I mean?
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: So?
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so you do want to get married?
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 54:20
  Speaker 4: And are you?
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: So? Are you dating to eventually get married? Are you
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: dating at I'm dating.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: To eventually get married because I feel like if I
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: don't think I can marry you, what are you doing?
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: Right? But you don't know that until you date them? True?
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: Or are you one of those crazy people that's like
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: at all I already know?
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no no no, I don't.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: Well, honestly, it's funny because I don't think I already
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: know that, like we're gonna be something, but I am
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: quick to already know like this isn't this isn't gonna
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: get anywhere. Well that's good, yeah, you know what I mean.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: This guy once who was like, I'm not going to
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: date anyone unlessen than my wife, I was like, you're
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: a fucking idiot.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: Like right off the bat, that's crazy, But I'll say this, like,
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: are you.
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: Talking still single? By the way, Okay, so I'm not.
• 55:03
  Speaker 3: I'll say yes and no.
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: But are you trying though?
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Like I feel like like, are you approaching women
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: in the in the cafes?
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: Why do you keep bringing up the club you keep
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: but I heard club.
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: Cafe.
• 55:16
  Speaker 4: We're done with the clubs. You know, we know our
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: wife is not there.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Okay, I feel like yes and no.
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like, and this is just me, you're
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: always when the right person comes, like, it doesn't matter
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: if you were looking or not. They're the right person.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of like it you'll always be ready
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: for the right person. I feel that way. So it's
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: kind of like yes and no, I'm not actively looking,
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: but if a good woman comes along that you know,
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: I really like hit it off with.
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Have you found it like different to date now
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: that you even though you resist this moniker public figure? No,
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: mm hmmm.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: And you know what's funny is because I feel like
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: you got to know your strengths and your weaknesses, mostly
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: your weaknesses. So my weakness is coming up with this,
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: Like you're not six or five. You don't got that,
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: you don't have this deep voice, you don't have the money.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: But I always had jokes. So I was always in
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: the friend zone with girls coming up a lot. And
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: then as I got older, I grew a beard, which
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: kind of like bounced me out for the lack of
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: height and the deep voice, you know what I'm saying,
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: Because it turns out that a lot of tall guys
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: like they got the tin shop going on, they don't
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: got the full beard.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: You couldn't have it all.
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: You can't have it all, you know what I mean.
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: Like you're gonna either have height, deep voice, no beards,
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: like you can't have all three, you know what I'm saying. Anyways,
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: so I feel like growing up like I was always
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: able to, you know, talk with girls and like make
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: them laugh and stoop. So girls usually like me for
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: good conversation, you know, like I'm a good guy.
• 56:40
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: That went far?
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because after a while, it's like women are having
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: a ton of bad experiences. We are, and then here
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: he comes the corny joke guy. You know what I'm saying,
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: average height, full beard, got a little something going on,
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: can give you good movies and stuff. That's my strength
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: and everything. So I've never really had trouble in the
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: women's department because I just bring up stuff like I
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: introduced good TVD and I'm like, your last man, what
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: did he have you watching?
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: Terrible?
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: I'm really about to upgrade your whole life. Life is
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: really better over here, you know what I'm saying. So
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: it's like you really got to know, like what she's missing,
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And so that's what.
• 57:17
  Speaker 2: That's what I do. Yeah, I mean this this industry though,
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: like actors are not generally the tallest. I mean, I
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: don't think they do short.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: But I mean, honestly, like I'm at the five ten
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: and maybe a little bit of change. M hm, So
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: I five nine is the average hype for men across
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: five So it literally doesn't matter to me.
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: I actually think it's crazy when short girls complain about this.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: Girls usually want the six fivers. Well, yeah, I mean,
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: to be clear, I've dated multiple men who are six',
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: nine BUT i don't have like a heights.
• 57:57
  Speaker 3: Six nine is, crazy by the, way because what's even up?
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: There that's.
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: Ridiculous can you even fit? Close i'm, sorry never mind.
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: Is crazy is?
• 58:07
  Speaker 4: Crazy it's it's actually have.
• 58:10
  Speaker 3: LIKE i went to AN nba game. ONCE a few.
• 58:13
  Speaker 3: TIMES i was kind of.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: CLOSED i actually kind of did look up at like
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: the guys a little, bit AND i was kind of,
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: like that's that's that's.
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: Ridiculous, well they they definitely have a Different they live
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: in a different. World they literally see the. World CAN
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: i throw tall guys real? Quick?
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: Okay must just personally this usually gainst my, brand But
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: i'm gonna do it. Publicly you only get credit for
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: being tall if you're in the. League, okay if you're
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: not in the, league, Whatever, bro you might as well
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: be out here with.
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: Me what what if your league is chasing? No, no, bro.
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: And you better be a pro like like you like
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: all all All. American you know What i'm.
• 58:45
  Speaker 4: Saying ball plays, tall ball does. Play BUT i don't.
• 58:52
  Speaker 4: Listen i'm on your.
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: SIDE i am doing up.
• 58:55
  Speaker 3: There if you're not on the, pros what? Now what
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: do you doing up?
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: There?
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: Nothing calm down here with, me, BRO.
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: I, MEAN i. Don't i've had this conversation with a
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: lot of women because there is this like thing about tall,
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: men WHICH i. Get i've dated a lot of tall,
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: men But i've also dated men who are not, tall
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: and it. Is it really is no difference to me
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: Because i'm five, Two but for other women who are
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: around my, height they'll argue with me about tall, men
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: And i'm.
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: Just, like you sound.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: Ridiculous, NOW i have friends who are, very very, tall
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: also LIKE i have female friends who are five, ten five. Eleven, like,
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: OKAY i don't live your life like you you are,
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: TALL i.
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: DON'T i don't have these. Experiences i've been sure my whole.
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: Life i'm going to be. SURE i stopped growing in
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: like seventh, grade me, Too SO i. DON'T i don't
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: JUST i don't tell what tall women want to. Do
• 59:49
  Speaker 2: but for if you are like five six and a
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: half a, UNDER i don't want to hear you complaining
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: about tall men just like.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: Me, SERIOUS i think for, ME i do claim to
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: be tall BECAUSE i am a b. Average you claim
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: to be. Tall, yeah well the average hyph for minutes five?
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 4: Nine uh.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: Huh so If i'm above, average what AM i? Tall
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: there's no one.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: Between i'm not gonna take this from.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: You you CAN'T i you literally. Can't i'm above, Average i'm.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: Tall something wrong?
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: Here that's that's you're, Tall you're above? Average like, okay
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: BECAUSE i, mean because if you want to take, that,
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: like how would you do?
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: It i'm above? Average, okay but would? Someone so this
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: is this is WHERE i go with the tall would
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: someone when someone describes you as a, height, like what
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: would they? Say they would say you were?
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: Tall it doesn't really matter what they.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: Think i'm above. Average i'm not Saying i'm Above you.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 4: Can't you can't take it from.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: Me you need to live your. Truth it is the.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: Truth it's not mine the, truth the. Truth i'm above.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: Average i'm told you're above average is they're a word
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: for you, know you're above, average but you're not. Tall
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: don't think so you can't be above?
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 4: Average and not TILL i THINK i THINK i could
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 4: be talked into.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: THIS i feel Like i've done this pitch with girlfriends
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: before because, NO i do think that a lot of,
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: people a lot of women get really crazy about the height.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 2: Thing And i'm not here to tell anybody who are
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: what they should be attracted. To but when it comes to,
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: dating it's like you put all of these physical limitations
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: on what it is you're looking. For and to, me
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: when people complain about, like, okay there's no good, men
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: there's like and the first things that you start describing
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: are how much money they, make or you, know they
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: have to be in, shape or they have to be this,
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: tall and it's, like, okay when are we getting to
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: the characteristics of what kind of person they? Are for?
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: Sure and so if that is what you're looking, for Like,
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: god bless you and good. Luck BUT i don't think
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: it's you're censoring the things that need to be centered
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: in order to find someone who will fulfill your, life
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: who's gonna put you onto GOOD.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: Tv, no that's.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: TRUE a lot of people talk about what someone can
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: do for. Them you don't really hear people talk much
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: about how someone makes them, feel, right because at the
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: end of the, day like you're gonna get to that
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: point to where you want good, company you want good,
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: companionship and that comes with how someone makes you feel versus.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 3: What they can do for. YOU i personally think there's
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: plenty of good men and women out.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: THERE i.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: DO i really feel this. WAY i think, that for,
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: one it comes down to what you're looking. For is
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: what you're looking for good for. You there's a lot
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: of people that like things that aren't good for them,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: people but they're attracted to them for. Reasons we don't.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: Know that's something you have to figure. Out you got
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: a little rewire your brain a little. Bit, also how
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: much of this stuff do you really? Believe because you
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: see it every single? Day you have to ask yourself
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: how much of your brain is affected by what you
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: see when it comes to something that you when it
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: comes to things that you want in. Someone think about
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: what you see every single, day or the beauty, standard
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: what you see every single day at a homie talk
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: to anyone's like sending me girls to the group chat
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: all the, time but you have one like. This i'm,
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: Saying i'm, like, Brother i've never seen you ever bring,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: on bring around a woman that looks like.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 3: This And i've known you seventeen.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 2: Years you told him.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: That, YEAH i, mean it's my good. Friend, like what
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: are you gonna? Do stop being my? Friend at this
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: point we've been here too.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: Long, well it's ALL i think. Honestly amongst, friends it's important,
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: Too it's. Great IT'S i, Mean i've Had i've had
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: friends have honest conversations with me about. Dating i've had
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 2: to have those conversations as. Well sometimes they can get very. Uncomfortable,
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: yeah BUT i think if someone one THING i can't handle.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 4: Is an habitual.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: Problem, okay like you have a, oh you have only
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: a couple of times to hit me with the same
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: dating problem. Before i'm, like all, right well you're search
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: you're you're searching for this like and if you like
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: this kind of, situation that's. FINE i accept whatever it
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: is you want to experience in your, life which you're
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: not about to.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 4: Continue to complain about.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: IT i hate, that, like we have to fix the
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: problem or you just have to find somebody else to
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: complain to about.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: It what do you have in trouble with in your dating?
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: Life well you don't have to answer, that, No so
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: of COURSE i have.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 3: To ANSWER.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: I you know WHAT i. AM i am dealing with
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: a real issue of vulnerability in my life right, now
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 2: and that is making it hard to connect with.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 4: People so it's not.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: Necessarily a it's not necessarily like. Men it's more. Me
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: SO i don't really open up the way THAT i need.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: To it's, like you, know it's, use BUT i really
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: do have severe trauma from from trusting people and from
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: being from, betrayal AND i have to feel like an
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: immense amount of safety in order to even think about being,
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: vulnerable AND i don't know That i'm giving people the
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: opportunity to show that they have the capacity to do
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 2: that as. You i'm, sorry thank. You i'm working on.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: It i've got multiple therapists working over time to try
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: and rewire. It, no it's it's a it's a it's a.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: Process like it's. Not it's not SOMETHING i think gets fixed,
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: overnight AND i actually don't think it's something that somebody
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: else can. Fix, SO i, mean there's also the problem
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: of people are, liars AND i really would WISH i
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: wish they would stop doing. That And i'm not even
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: somebody who's, like, OH i don't ever tell a, lie
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: like people lie about, things you, Know like that's, fine,
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: Okay i'm in the, Car i'm really getting out of the. Shower.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: Cool BUT i, think LIKE i think how you approach
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: or start a relationship should not be based fully on.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 2: Deception and there's just no like at a certain age
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: and certain point in, life it's, like can you just
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: not do? That and SOMETIMES i think people get excited
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: about opportunities rather than like really thinking about how they
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: can make it. Work got does that makes? Sense?
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah would you say it's hard dating being like, YOU.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: I do it is hard dating. Me, yeah it's hard dating,
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: me and it's also hard dating as. Me.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay BUT i mean like not, YOU i mean
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: LIKE i don't want to when it seemed LIKE i
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: was taking like taking a dig at, YOU i mean
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: like because of who you, are like, Professionally like do
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: you think it's? Hard like people know who you are
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: and you're just, like, oh LIKE i just want.
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 2: To, YEAH i mean it makes it makes me very
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: cautious of. People AND i, think LIKE i said, EARLIER
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: i think some people like the idea of me rather
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: than the. Reality. Yeah AND i also don't want, kids
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: which IS i thought would make it actually easier to,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: date but it's. Not it's not the. Case go you
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: whatever reason everybody wants kids, now men not, women men want?
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: Kids have you always not wanted? Kids like is that
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: something you? Are LIKE i don't really want, Kids.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: Like, Yeah i've never won. Kids i've made the choice
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 2: to like compromise on that And god loves, me SO
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 2: i got. Me but, Yeah i'm not having.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: Kids, Okay well do you have do you still have
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: a type? Though, Like, OH i like this is WHAT i,
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: like like these.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: THINGS i like.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: A kind like low, key, funny dependable. Man.
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 4: Tall he doesn't have to be tall to be.
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 2: All he beats, all but he does.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 4: Not have to be.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: Tall i'm just saying that BECAUSE i know what it's
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: liked to do that to be.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 4: Tall, YEAH i mean your life experience has been as
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 4: a tall.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 3: Person, yeah we have like this whole community of tall
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 3: guys are on the.
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: World so it's, like what kind of, uh what qualities
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: are you looking forward to? Women?
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: Oh, man she'd last on my jokes BECAUSE i Think
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: i'm pretty. Funny so it's like you gotta know when
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: the quality is coming, across like it's the.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 2: Worst one Someone, well no one ever doesn't Think i'm.
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: Funny but if it's like.
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: If you're not really feeling the, quality like the fist
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: grease fire That i'm throwing out right, now do you need?
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 3: Work you know What i'm.
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: Saying.
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: NURTURING i love just a woman who's just naturally a.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: NURTURE i don't mean it in a way that's like.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: SERVING i mean it in a way that's like she
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: knows when something's wrong with. You if you're, not like
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: she can kind of are you? Okay you, know like.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 4: A like, Uh i'm mostly.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: Intelligent, yeah, YEAH i love honest and.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 2: EMPATHETIC i like, that like.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: No people are going through, something feel bad for people,
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: sometimes like.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 4: Se you like a very sweet?
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: Woman, absolutely, yeah, YEAH i have this. Crush but you
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: have a. Crush, yeah have you talked to? Her?
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 4: No why haven't you done the move?
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: Club seeing LITTLE ptsd that don't work all the?
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 3: Time you know What i'm, Saying, like you never? Know
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 3: what do you?
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 4: Mean you said it always?
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: Works, WELL i mean, yeah but there can be that
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: one time that it. Doesn't YOU i told you it's
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: a lot of evil people out. There you just never. Know,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: ALSO i DON'T i think it's it's not even a.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: Crush it's just LIKE i HOPE i can meet her.
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: SOMEDAY i don't know any of THE i don't. KNOW
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: i don't, know you know WHAT i. Mean it's, like
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: is she?
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 2: Famous? Yeah can we arrange? It i'm, sneaky very good
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: at making these things. HAPPEN i, mean, LIKE i, mean,
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: Honestly i'm not gonna. LIE i don't like. TO i
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: don't like to play, matchmaker, right but like once a,
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: YEAR i will. Dabble i'll, dabble do. It?
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 3: Really, YEAH i.
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 4: DON'T i don't mean only this is only helpful IF
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 4: i know.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 3: Her have you have you had some like some successive in?
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 3: HERE i have?
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: You? Oh, NICE i have.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 4: One i'm working on right. Now BUT i have to
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 4: Get yeah With.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: Rachel what, Man MAYBE i gotta MAYBE i can have
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: to tell me who she?
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 3: Is, Okay, NO i was gonna say, like because.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 4: IF i don't know, where it's, LIKE i don't know
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 4: IF i can.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: Help, okay, gotcha all, Right well let me look up
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: some people for you.
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 2: Too then you know WHAT i.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: Mean we'll do Like i'll do through my my people's.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 2: Lots of. Bread by the, WAY i don't like. Bread
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 2: so just so you, Know i'm kind of an expensive
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: date BECAUSE i don't fill up on.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 3: Bread oh so you're filling up on all ordered, food
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 3: all ordered.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: Food, yeah it's.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: Insane what do you mean you don't like? Bread like
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: you don't like sour, dough, garlic. NOTHING i, mean.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: Bread's, fine but it's just it takes the place of other,
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: food which.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 3: Is, right that's the.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: Technique, Yeah i'm quick to be like.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 3: That do we have? Bread not for?
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: Me we? Spread? Uh, No i'm. Not i'm not going
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: to do.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 4: THAT i want to eat the order.
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 3: Trude, yeah but have you just never liked?
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 2: BREAD i mean, bread it's, fine but like It's i'm
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: not going not a big bread person because it fills
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: me up and THEN i can't eat anything.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: Else oh so you're really like when you're, out it's, like,
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: yeah no anti we're anti.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 3: Bread we're going straight to the.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 2: Food, YEAH i mean you can have, bread you can
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 2: have all the bread you. LIKE i, however we will
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 2: be having the. Crudo and what is that sounds extremely?
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 3: Expensive what is that?
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: EXPENSIVE i didn't even want to SAY i didn't know this,
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 2: yet but you named a restaurant.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 3: EARLIER i, KNOW i.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 1: No clue what it, Was. MASTRESS i JUST i was
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 1: embarrassed to, SAY i don't know what that. Is is that
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: an expensive?
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: Place?
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah SO i don't know what it.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 4: Is but it's a chain.
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 2: THOUGH i mean it's a steak. Restaurant but that's.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 3: WHEN i get out of. Bounds, yeah you know WHAT i.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: Mean like if if if let me say, something If
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: i'm ever talking to a, girl this has never.
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 3: Happened When i'm.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Talking to a girl and she's, like, yeah we should go,
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: here And i've never heard of.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: It yet to. Know.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 4: WELL i mean the trick is to suggest something Your i've.
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: Never heard of.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: IT i got to bring My apple.
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 4: Card you have to you have to suggest the place.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 2: YOURSELF i actually prefer a like a.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 4: Low key local. PLACE i love those for a.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: Date, yeah like put me onto SOMETHING i haven't been through.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: Before that is that is not you, know it doesn't
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: have to be like a hole in the, wall but
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: like low key or like something that you really like
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 2: BECAUSE i am not a picky, eater, RIGHT i just
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 2: can't do super. Spicy but SO i actually prefer. That,
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: like let me tell you.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: Something all the places THAT i go, TO i, guarantee
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: like you've never heard of, them they're very.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 3: Affordable you ever been? Here what's?
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: That it doesn't necessarily have to be super.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: AFFORDABLE i Mean i'm just, saying, LIKE i feel like
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: you like to live.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 4: GOOD i.
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 2: DO i do live, Good BUT i also, like LIKE
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: i also eat with in my, fridge, okay like. Nice you,
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 2: KNOW i made some. Chicken i'm gonna eat that tonight for.
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 2: Dinner i'm trying to do. Better mastros is my my
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: rich auntie solo. Dinner where is that? At is that
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: it's In Beverly, Hills So i'll go they have a
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 2: piano at The hills In.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 3: Beverly, yeah they have a piano.
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: Person So i'll go to the bar there and uh
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 2: like have a martini and oysters and steak by.
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  Speaker 3: Myself see this is when brand. MATTERS i. Was let
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 3: me tell you a quick.
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  Speaker 1: STORY i was talking to this one, girl all, right
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: a couple of years. Ago, Fine i'm talking real stallion
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 1: taller than, me so you, know she was very, tall
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: very Because i'm, dormous so she's like, tall, Right, yeah
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 1: first TIME i came, over brought Her chick Fil, a
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: you know What i'm, saying which is kind of me
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 1: set in that like tone to say, like, hey this
• 1:13:42
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• 1:13:45
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• 1:13:46
  Speaker 1: her like this is What i'll be, on you know
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: What i'm. Saying she liked it. Cool we hit it.
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 1: Off that, Night she's, LIKE i want to go out to.
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: Dinner i'm going to go out to dinner with my.
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 1: Friends you should. Come let's like come with. Me So i'm,
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 1: like where is this? Place she names the? Place never
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: heard of? It Instantly i'm sweating Because i'm, like what
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: is that? Place and she said it's so QUICK i
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: couldn't google, it didn't know how many stars were walking
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 1: Into i'm already checking my bank. Account i'm coming out.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: Here i'm, Like i'm six hundred dollars. Strong mind. You
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: i'm not nervous about not being able to afford. It
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: i'm nervous about not being able to afford it in
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: front of her.
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 2: Friends you, know, well you also might be getting roped
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 2: into paying for her friends, too if you're you have,
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 2: to if you're the only.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: Guy you have, to you're trying to, impress you can't
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 1: just go, like, yeah me and her had the like
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 1: The caesar you have The Cesars house AND i had
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: the chicken and her other. Friend, yeah she's probably gonna see.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 1: This So i'm over here like doing the math in my.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: Head i'm, like, okay it's me her and it was
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 1: three other.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 3: People mind.
• 1:14:40
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• 1:14:42
  Speaker 4: Women we ordered like drug.
• 1:14:44
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• 1:14:45
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• 1:14:50
  Speaker 1: i go out to, EAT i order LIKE i haven't
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: got paid in three.
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 2: Weeks i'm very like it's.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 4: Treat yourself every TIME i go out to.
• 1:14:55
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• 1:14:56
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• 1:14:59
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• 1:14:59
  Speaker 2: Saying SO i get.
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 3: There it's An italian. Restaurant the lights are.
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: Low Now i'm really sweating because all the good restaurants
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 1: got the lights down. LOW i don't know what that's,
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 1: about but all the restaurants THAT i go, to the
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 1: lights are.
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 2: Up it's.
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 1: Bright you can see, everybody you know WHAT i. Mean
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: we get, there the lights are, down.
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 3: And SO i don't.
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 1: Order mind, you what's crazy IS i think she could
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 1: see it on. Me we're having a great, time mind.
• 1:15:24
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• 1:15:26
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• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: STORE i was, like let's get some, snacks like promise the.
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 1: Guy we got, Snacks we got some, cookies we got some.
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: Whiskey we're doing like this little pre. Game i'm trying
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 1: to fill her up with. Sugar do you know when
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: you eat, sugar he don't be. Hungry, Yeah so we
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 1: get some. Cookies she's gonna see.
• 1:15:40
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  Speaker 1: Sorry we get, cookies we get some like whiskey and.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: Stuff we eat all the. Cookies we have a little.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 1: Whiskey we're a little. Buzz So i'm, like this is.
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 1: Perfect we're gonna get to the. Restaurant she's not even
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: gonna really you know What i'm, saying mind. You we
• 1:15:52
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• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: whiskey woar. Off, immediately like everybody's talking, regularly like.
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 3: And so she leans. Up she goes are, LIKE I
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 3: i invited. YOU I i'm gonna. Pay AND i was,
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 3: like why.
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 2: Are you telling me?
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 1: That she's like you just you look like, nervous AND
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: i was, Like I'm i'm gonna be honest with. You
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: i'm gonna break. Character it's not really about me not
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 1: being able to. Ford it's just that your friends are.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: HERE i don't know your, friends which means that IF
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: i don't, pay the only thing they're gonna know about
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: me when we leave is who's that broke guy that
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 1: you brought with us that didn't pay for our?
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 2: Food?
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah you know What i'm saying, now mind.
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 4: YOU i DON'T i don't know if that's right or,
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 4: wrong but it just is what it.
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 2: Is, guys just don't. COME i. DON'T i don't know
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: how else to tell, You, like just don't just let
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 2: it be girls. Night you can't be. There you can't
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 2: be there hanging out being a. Man it doesn't play
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 2: something fellas, go don't. Go who cares if you end
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 2: up in her group? Chat you don't want to be
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 2: in a Group, actually you have to get you have
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 2: to get that. Experience the group chat is not a
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 2: place you want to. Be you don't want to be
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 2: Called Lord farquad in the group. Chat i've been in multiple.
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 4: Groups can't your? Nicknamed can be?
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 1: BROKE i had multiple nights WHEN i drove home with no.
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 1: Music it WAS i KNEW i group What i've had
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 1: plenty of times WHERE i was, like, oh she's gonna
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 1: drag my name through the mud and this. Thing but it's.
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 1: Okay it's all about character. Growth so she ended up
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 1: saying like this is WHEN i. KNEW i was, like
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: this might be the one for. Me she was, like she,
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 1: goes how About.
• 1:17:19
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• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: Scared she, goes this is how WORRIED i must have,
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: looked because he just brought this out of, Nowhere like.
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 2: What i'm gonna? Pay LIKE i you know it brought.
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 1: You and in my, mind the first THING i wanted
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: to say was why do we have to Have? Italian
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 1: we could have just went to wed. Regular we didn't
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: have to have all, this like the lights are down,
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 1: low like we could have went like somewhere real, easy,
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: Right BUT i just kept it. Cool she was, like
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 1: how ABOUT i give you my debit? Card she, said
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 1: how about to give you my debit card and then
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: when the waiter comes you just give them the.
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 3: Card, Honestly i'm not gonna lie to.
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: YOU i was, like that's the sweetest thing any woman
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 1: has ever said to, me because it was, like you're
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: really trying to protect my name and my little six
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: hundred dollars is IF i pay for this, Food i'm
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: gonna get back.
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 3: HOME i drove out here from the, bay you know
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 3: What i'm. Saying SO i.
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: Was, LIKE i, said why so when the waiter comes
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 1: back and he's looking at, me he's gonna call out
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 1: the name and hand it to. Me they're gonna know,
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: that like he called out your name and he's gonna
• 1:18:14
  Speaker 1: be handing the card to. Me it's gonna, look it's
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: gonna be. Embarrassing so, anyways what happened WAS i think
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: we were so kind of like. Slosh we were all
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: drinking that one of, them just like put out one
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: of them heavy, cars one of them think, think think
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 1: ones and and pay for. It BUT i knew ONCE
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 1: i heard that card it was always gonna go well
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 1: because my card is, like is.
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 3: The regular Plastic, yeah you know The Wells, fargo the red.
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• 1:18:38
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• 1:18:43
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• 1:18:45
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  Speaker 1: yeah you know WHAT i. Mean that is a dramatic.
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 1: STORY i have to process that. One but CAN i
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 1: say something real. Quick, yes this is why brand is very.
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: IMPORTANT a lot of guys make the mistake of not
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: staying who to your. Brand that's when they get in.
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 3: Trouble that's.
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: True if you're giving off rich, brand, brother you gotta have.
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 1: Money she's not gonna she's gonna expect you to always have.
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: Money if you're giving off tough, brand you gotta always
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: win your.
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 3: Fights you can never get beat. Up you're the tough.
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 3: Guy this is your.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: Brand if you're the you, know you're the athlete. Guy
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 1: whatever your, famous you gotta be like the guy me
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 1: whomen don't come to me for that they come to
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 1: me for like good conversation. Laughs LIKE i said before this,
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: interview IF i got beat, up she would not stop liking.
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 1: You she'll probably take care of me WHEN i get.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: HOME i never give off tough guy brand.
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 4: And restaurants with really highlighting this.
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  Speaker 1: Lighting, yeah if my card gets de, client it's happened.
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 1: Before it's LIKE i got it AND i go this
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: usually never, happens.
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 2: Like this is crazy to call the.
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 3: Bank i'll pay you back AND i have you.
• 1:19:45
  Speaker 2: Know, WHAT i like the honesty you. GOTTA i do
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 2: agree with. THIS i think you have to stick with your.
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 2: Brand it's. Important.
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 3: LISTEN i Think.
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying you don't have to impress the girl
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: that you. Like, yeah but to a certain degree she
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 1: has to be. Impressed and this is obviously WHEN i say,
• 1:20:00
  Speaker 1: THIS i mean this both. Ways obviously you have to
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 1: be impressed with who they are that has to be
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 1: impressive to a certain.
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 2: Degree like you do it for, me just you you
• 1:20:11
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• 1:20:13
  Speaker 2: to What i'm not, saying.
• 1:20:14
  Speaker 3: Have your cards declined and. Stuff, yeah don't do. That
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 3: i'm saying for someone like, me.
• 1:20:19
  Speaker 2: It's happened and it was kind of, like not a big, deal.
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 3: But that's my. Brand that's.
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 1: Possible with, ME i could possibly get beat, up my
• 1:20:28
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• 1:20:29
  Speaker 2: Decline, yeah but you're gonna watch really GOOD, tv the,
• 1:20:34
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  Speaker 4: Seems like the good deeds of men go.
• 1:21:46
  Speaker 2: Unnoticed SO i had to think about this a little
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 2: bit BECAUSE i DO i do tend to. AGREE i
• 1:21:58
  Speaker 2: think that social media is a. PLACE i don't think
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 2: social media is a place where, reactions, shares, comments, engagement, views.
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 2: Likes that's the. Point so whatever is more over the,
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 2: top whatever is more, engaging is going to be, highlighted
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 2: is going to be, circulated is more likely to wind
• 1:22:21
  Speaker 2: up in your. Algorithm and let's be, honest negativity, hate
• 1:22:28
  Speaker 2: things that are outrageous tend to fall in that. Bucket
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 2: so it's almost like you have these horrible things that
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 2: are being pushed your way all day, long and these horrible,
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 2: stories and you, know men are bad and men are,
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 2: awful and, look there are awful horrible men out, there
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 2: and those awful horrible men need to be held, accountable
• 1:22:49
  Speaker 2: and they're awful horrible things need.
• 1:22:51
  Speaker 4: To be talked, about.
• 1:22:53
  Speaker 2: And there are a lot of. Them but there are
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 2: also very good, men and there are men who are
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 2: doing great things for the, community that are just being good,
• 1:23:02
  Speaker 2: people that are being good, dads that are being good
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 2: husbands and not getting the attention or conversation that we
• 1:23:10
  Speaker 2: give to terrible. Men so it's almost like you have
• 1:23:14
  Speaker 2: to have this this this cute. Explosion it's like a
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 2: baby in a little bear costume and like like something
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 2: that's like so cute you can't stand, it or it's this,
• 1:23:24
  Speaker 2: horrible horrible, shit and there's there's not really any room in.
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 2: Between AND i think it's important to remember that social
• 1:23:33
  Speaker 2: media is not a real, place and so much of
• 1:23:37
  Speaker 2: what we see on the, internet what we see ON,
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 2: tv what we talk about what gets engagement is negativity
• 1:23:45
  Speaker 2: and or it's so over the top that it still
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 2: breeds the same type of, engagement but it's. Unachievable you,
• 1:23:54
  Speaker 2: know you're buying someone a, house or you know you're
• 1:23:57
  Speaker 2: going to to buy four hundred meals for, people like
• 1:24:03
  Speaker 2: things that the everyday person is not obviously able to.
• 1:24:08
  Speaker 2: Do and that doesn't mean that you're not doing good.
• 1:24:11
  Speaker 2: Things so, YEAH i do think that the good what is,
• 1:24:15
  Speaker 2: it the good good deeds of men can go.
• 1:24:20
  Speaker 4: Unnoticed BUT i also think that.
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 2: There is this idea that you have to do things
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 2: for attention that has now permeated every area of our,
• 1:24:34
  Speaker 2: lives and that's just not. True SO i push back
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 2: on the idea that, like you, know sharing you helping
• 1:24:42
  Speaker 2: someone or something is like, okay that like you're taking
• 1:24:44
  Speaker 2: away the good deed that you're. Doing like that's never
• 1:24:47
  Speaker 2: made sense to. Me of, course you're still doing the good.
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 2: Deed you Don't you can be praised for doing a
• 1:24:53
  Speaker 2: good deed and still do the good deed and still post.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 4: It people do this all the.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 2: Time WHENEVER i do any kind of charity, Work like, guys,
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 2: People i'm raising money and. Awareness that's why it's being,
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 2: posted and the good thing is still being. Done SO
• 1:25:08
  Speaker 2: i struggle with the idea that it goes totally unnoticed
• 1:25:11
  Speaker 2: BECAUSE i think the people that are in your life
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 2: that are closest to you should be the ones that
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 2: are most important about noticing.
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 4: It but it's kind of the world that we live.
• 1:25:18
  Speaker 2: In so shout out to the good men doing good good.
• 1:25:22
  Speaker 2: Deeds we need you to keep doing those and we
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 2: do appreciate, you even if the algorithm is not pumping that,
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 2: out SO i hope that answers the. Question it's kind
• 1:25:34
  Speaker 2: of a, question BUT i wanted to put it on the.
• 1:25:36
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• 1:25:38
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