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Why Not Today? Season 1 - Episode 26 with Maranda Rains, Personal Stylist and Image Consultant · Why Not Today? with Leslie Kane

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  All right. Good morning. My name is Leslie Kane and I am the host of the Why Not Today
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  podcast. This is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not
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  today? I started this podcast to honor my father, Patrick Kane, who often said, why
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  not today? I'm based in Reston, Virginia, a Planned community right outside of Washington,
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  DC. And thank you guys for joining us today. And I'm excited about my guest, Miranda Reigns,
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  who don't really know it all. We haven't even had laid eyes on each other, even on Zoom
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  until just now. Never met her in person, but I'm excited to have her share and share her
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  story and share a little bit of what she does. And I always like to talk about connections,
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  how you meet people. So Miranda is in the Mary Kay world with me, but we're not going
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  to talk about Mary Kay today. Somebody, Miranda, because, and I don't want to give her a whole
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  story because I guess she started this really because of COVID, I think, created a new business
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  for herself and helping people, helping women feel better about themselves. And we're all
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  about that in this podcast, giving women courage and confidence. So somebody I heard about
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  her, somebody recommended her, spoke very highly of Miranda. And then I actually have
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  invited her to do an event for me and Mark, for me and my customers and team members,
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  but I really love her message and her story. So I wanted to hear from her today. So I'm
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  super excited, Miranda, to have you here with us. So why don't you share a little about
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  yourself today and a fast, fun fact or a fascinating fact that people might not know about you.
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  Well, thanks for having me, Leslie. It's a privilege to spend time with you and to be
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  invited to be a part of your podcast. And so I, again, my name is Miranda. I live in
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  Tyler, Texas. So a Southern girl, if you're looking at a map, I'm between Dallas, Texas
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  and Shreveport, Louisiana. I am married to my hot honey named Paul. We've been married
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  over 20 years. We all, we both forget exactly how many, so we don't hold it to each other.
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  But I'm, gosh, I think we're on 22 years now and we have our oldest daughter, Bella Gray,
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  who will be 18 in March. And then we have a nine year old, Bristol Fay. So we are parents
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  and we, gosh, we just love lake life. We love Texas life. We love traveling. We love eating.
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  We love doing all the, all the fun things. And a fun fact is in addition to our careers,
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  which we both pursue and enjoy and, and love, we are also full-time pastors. We are, we've
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  been pastoring Lakeview community church here as lead pastors for 13 years. And we just
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  choose to be bivocational. And prior to that, my parents pastored for 28 years at the same
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  church. So fun fact is that we are also in ministry and are blessed to have a phenomenal
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  church, great staff. So if y'all are ever this way, you're all invited.
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  What fun. I had no idea about that, about you. That's really pretty cool. And I think
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  we're going to be friends because I love lake life too. I live on a lake. It's not a big
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  lake. But then I spend a lot of time at a friend's lake. That's a lot bigger lake. So
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  I'm like, I have my little lake and my big lake. So I'm a water girl and love to travel
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  and gone more than I'm down.
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  Yes. We love like life. So are you on a lake or just, well, we live. So with Tyler, we
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  have Lake Tyler. Okay. Our church is called Lake view. Cause our church is on the lake.
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  A lot of our, a lot of our members live there on the lake, but we actually have a lake house
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  on Lake Jacksonville, which is 45 minutes down the road. And a fun fact about that is
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  if you know, Patrick Dempsey from you, we call him a dreamy, if you will, from grace
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  anatomy, his lake house is around the corner. Oh wow. That's fun. On our upper deck. We
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  like, I mean, I think we're nosy, but we do, you know, pay attention and we drive by the
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  jet skis and just see what's going on. But yeah, they're around the corner. So that's
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  a little fun thing.
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  So, um, yay. Well, exciting. So I'm hurt. I'm excited to hear your story, but before
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  we hear your story and your courage, tell me what does courage mean to you? You could
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  describe her.
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  You know, courage to me is just, it's hard to put simply Leslie, but I just think of
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  courage and faith as a synonymous thing. It's just, I feel when you're courageous, you are
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  just blindly pursuing. You are just, I mean, running with hair on fire in pursuit and you're
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  not worried about what you see, but how you feel and know the plans that are for you are
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  in that direction or to prosper you. So I think that that courage is synonymous to faith
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  just in blind pursuit of.
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  I love that definition. So I've, I've created, I don't know if you checked on my website,
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  but I've created courage cards with everybody's courage to be able to share. So we will definitely
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  see that one. All right. So what have you done in your life that takes courage, obviously
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  being a pastor, but would love to talk, you know, if there's specific things in your life
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  that took faith and courage, but also, you know, your newest adventure. I mean, they
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  say if you have to need something done, give it to a busy person. Right. You are busy.
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  There's some courageous stories or what you've done or let's talk about what you're doing
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  now too.
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  Well, you know, let's say, I think that, you know, if we look at our life and just look
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  at all the things that we've done with faith and, and courage, I think we all could really
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  testify to, to times where you've had to make courageous decisions that that was, you had
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  to. And then there are times where you stepped out on faith and took a leap and made courageous
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  decisions for the current situation that you're faced with. And so for my life personally,
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  that's been stepping out of my comfort zone by nature. I am introverted by nature. My
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  personality is not to be in the front or the limelight or the center. I kind of prefer
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  to observe and look in the back. And so I think anytime I've had something arise where
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  I've had to take myself out of my personality or out of my preference, it took courage.
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  And so I could take that back to, you know, my freshman year of high school, changing
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  schools to a new location with the move that we had that took courage to go somewhere new
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  and be a part of, you know, hard enough. Yes. And high school, but because of that one decision
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  that changed my college plans, it changed all kinds. It was such a gift to do that.
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  The relationships I built with that decision. So looking back, I could see that path was
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  for me. And that was the best choice at the time. But in the moment, you know, you never
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  know. It's scary. And I remember because of that high school, if we're, if we're tacking
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  on decisions, one thing that led to another with courage, because that pivotal change
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  at 15 years old, going to a new high school, it also led to an opportunity for graduation
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  and ranking. And at that point, I was looking for every scholarship opportunity available
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  to me for college. And so it was presented that I'd be a part of the Miss Texas Pageant
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  System, Miss Texas USA Pageant System, which again, not in my comfort zone. Never. I was
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  a pastor's kid growing up. We didn't do beauty pageants and nothing against it. We just weren't
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  educated on what that looked like or what that was. And being, you know, a competitor
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  on the inside, taking a courage, a courageous step to say, this is not my world. This is
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  not what I'm familiar with, but I may try this. And then that step led to basically
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  where I am today, taking that experience and learning how to natural neck for color diagnosis
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  and natural neck for putting things together. Fashion wise, a natural neck for body shapes,
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  what silhouette serve, what body shapes. And then in college, because of those experiences
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  through Miss Texas USA, I competed a couple of years in that and the connections and the
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  relationships. And then in college, one friend would have me dress her or go shop for her
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  or pick out things for her and diagnose her. And then it just led. And of course, this
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  was all, you know, 25, almost 30 years ago. But back then you did everything in person
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  and face to face, but all of those courageous steps, which then led me and built confidence
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  for me to pursue a career in sales and marketing, which with Mary Kay, and I'm grateful for
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  23 years of doing that. But throughout those years of just building skill and confidence
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  and knowing color and running with the natural ability of, again, what looks go together,
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  what things compliment women best. It led me to a couple of years ago, friends saying,
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  Miranda, I know we used to do, you used to shop for me. And now that we're in the season
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  of all being at home, we're in a season of cleaning out, will you help me with my closet?
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  Will you help me go through and make sure everything I own serves me? And then it snowballed
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  from there. One other courageous decision was to just step out and run with something
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  that you know, you feel confident in, you feel skin. But I feel like sometimes Leslie,
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  when we, when we feel something is for us, but yet the nerves creep in. I think sometimes
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  we also have to listen. Yeah, the doubt, the nerves, even if you want to say anxiety about
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  starting something new and should I, is this something I should run with or pivot with?
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  Sometimes we have to feel, take cues about what people around us are asking, are implying,
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  are seeking our advice to others, are seeing talent in you. Others are seeing skill in
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  you that you may or not looking at yourself, owning it. But sometimes if you are, if people
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  keep asking you for something, your opinion on something, your advice or your help, then
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  they're, they're letting you know, I believe in you. I feel that you're skilled in this.
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  I see great things in you. And so that may be an indicator when you don't have the courage
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  or faith, people are having that for you. Borrow their courage, borrow their faith in
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  you to step forward in that direction. And that's, that's what happens. So fast forward.
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  Here we are four years later. And yeah, I've been blessed. Yeah. So I mean, gosh, you said
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  so many cool things. I love that you're Miss Texas and you know, being from Northern Virginia,
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  there's not a lot of pageant world. I never really knew much about it. But yeah, that
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  takes a ton of courage. But yeah, I love what you've done with the style thing and talking
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  about, I love what you just said that you kind of listened to other people, you know,
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  so we have that idea in our head and it's kind of that voice. And, and I always say,
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  listen to your first voice, not all the doubting voices. Right. And it's so many why not today
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  moments and that's kind of how I started the podcast. It was like, I just had this idea
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  and kept talking to a friend and then somebody mentioned the phrase why not today? And I
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  told her that she's like, well, that's the name of your podcast and why not today and
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  just started and I just did it took one step at a time, which sounds like kind of what
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  you're doing. And I love, you know, listening to what other people are saying. So let's
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  talk about this business that you've created another side hustle. Don't you love that?
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  We all have so many different things. What can we do? So tell me what that looks like.
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  What do you provide? Do you work with women, men? Is it just clothes? Is it makeup? Is
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  it accessories? Share a little bit about what you are and how you can serve people. Absolutely.
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  Leslie. Well, my goal is that I just want women to be, and men, it could be also a bit.
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  I'll talk about women specifically in this moment, but I want my friends to remember
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  their worth, their value and their beauty. I think a lot. Well, we are so hard on ourselves
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  with the expectation that we have to be and do and have a certain look, our static, you
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  know, whatever that means, but ever social media and staring at zoom screens all day.
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  I mean, yes, magnified. Yes. And no one, we're no one is, we're going to let Miss Texas be
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  Miss Texas and Miss America be Miss America and all that. But we need to be us. We need
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  to be confident in our own skin. But I do feel with that comes awareness, awareness
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  of our coloring. I think every person, men and women should have clarity on their coloring.
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  Where on the color wheel would do we land? Because there are colors that serve us well
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  and some that do not. Right. When we, this is my opinion, but when we wear colors that
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  serve us, you have you ever lessen put on a shirt and say we went and saw our mama and
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  you walked in the door and your mom was like, what's wrong with you? You know, your mom
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  was telling you, you look sick that that that color doesn't. Yeah. Nobody said her and her
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  mom or friend have a code word when they go shopping and you don't like something somebody
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  else has on you go, that looks really comfortable. And that's, that's yeah. And then when likewise,
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  when you put something on and then all of your friends are like, Oh my word, you get
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  back from vacation, your teeth look so why your skin's glowing. What they're saying is
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  that color serves you. Our eyes take in color first. And what I found throughout all the
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  years again, going back to my college years and pageantry, because we had to be camera
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  ready and all of that is realizing most people have no idea color, like no one, excuse me,
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  no one knows the colors that served them well. We can look at a color and say, Oh, I can
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  appreciate that or I don't like that. But
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  in the eighties, was it eighties, whatever they had that color me beautiful and people
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  all their colors. And I still have people say, you know, I'm a warm or I'm a cool. I'm
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  like, I have no idea what that means. You know, I know the comments that I like that
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  I feel good in, but are they really the colors and the color I'm wearing today is really
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  not a color. We're very often. So when we're done, you have to
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  That's, that's the key is, is finding out where we land on the color wheel and our closet
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  may not be every well, in my opinion, it's not going to be every color of the rainbow.
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  It's going to be a part of the color wheel that serves your undertone, chroma and value.
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  And that's why I love diagnosing friends, men and women. What is your undertone of your
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  skin. Where do you land on the chromatic scale and the value scale and that little recipe.
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  We take the color wheel and now we've shrunk it. And so if you buy clothing or likewise
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  women with their lipstick, let's say their makeup. When you wear colors that serve you
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  well and that's all you have in your closet. When you wake up in the morning, you get dressed.
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  It is fun. We don't walk in our closet and like, oh, I'm frustrated. I have nothing to
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  wear. Nothing looks good. Nothing goes together. So the color serve you well your wardrobe
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  is mixed and matchable, you know, interchangeable, if you will.
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  And animals. Remember those
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  Yes.
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  But we want to also acknowledge color and your body shape because there are silhouettes
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  that serve us really well and things that we should avoid and we're all wonderfully
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  and beautifully made. So no one's trying to make one shape into another. We all need to
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  recognize this is who I am and this is what I should consider wearing. And then also in
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  our style lane. If you are casual sporty or if you're boho eclectic or if you're a trendy
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  girl or lean classic wherever you land be you, you do you. So we need to find and shop
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  for and have a wardrobe. In my opinion, that serves us with color, shape and style in mind
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  and I love quality over quantity. That's, that's just me personally. And that's kind
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  of how I work with my clients building a
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  A capsule wardrobe at the beginning. So in other words, good basics that serve you. And
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  then we go from there. But I really just want to build confidence in my girlfriends and
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  let them know with your makeup in your clothing. This is your best. And we know in the morning
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  when we can spend our time on ourself. It might be a little self centered hour. It's
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  okay. It's okay to invest time in yourself. It's okay to feel good. Look at. But what
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  I know is when we do that in the morning and we walk out the door where we're not worried
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  about our hair. We're not worried about our coloring our makeup or outfit. We're not worried
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  about it anymore. Then we can take the rest of the day, Leslie, and we can focus on the
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  person in front of us. Right. Cause when we've invested in ourself, it's not about us anymore.
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  We are done with us. The rest of the day can be about the people in front of us. And that's
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  really what we're all called to do is serve one another and love one another. But it's
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  hard to do that when your mind's always thinking about, Oh, I wonder how I looked at it. Yeah.
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  It really, to me is the basis of, of health for your mental health, your physical health,
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  emotional health, it's just being confident and what you can bring to the table and your
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  best. Love that. And that's really what I've been trying to do with my business. Um, not
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  just Mary Kay, but with the podcast is giving people courage and confidence. And that's
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  kind of the subject we've been circling around, obviously the courage part, but you know,
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  how do you give people confidence and, you know, make people feel better about themselves,
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  that, you know, color that they like and feel comfortable in and just, you know, so many
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  women aren't courageous and confidence and confident. I don't know if you've heard this
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  statistic, but a girl's self-esteem is highest at age 10. Self-esteem is highest at age 10.
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  And so try to teach people, you know, early how to give them confidence and color. So
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  I know you do, um, like zoom events with groups. So you're doing one with me in March. So if
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  anybody's watching this before March or listening to this and wants to join us, let me know.
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  But, um, tell me what other things do you do one-on-one? So what does this look like
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  when you do a group or a one-on-one? Tell me how that works and what you do.
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  I love working one-on-one because I can get very detailed and typically we schedule a
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  power hour virtually. So obviously I'm in Virginia and you're in Texas. So let's say
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  I got you to work with me. What does that look like? So virtually we would set up a
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  one-on-one hour together and, um, I would have you, we would work with, um, you'd show
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  me some, like of your favorite pieces in your closet. So I can get a feel for your, for
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  your style, what you love and what you're drawn to. I would do a body shape assessment.
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  So I would have you literally stand up, stand in certain positions and move your arms a
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  certain way and that way I can diagnose your body shape. And then therefore tell you within
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  that power hour, what your shape is and then what silhouettes are best for you, what we're
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  going to avoid at all costs. Then we would go through your coloring and this will play
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  a little bit in your makeup bag. I love to use makeup because if we were in person, I
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  could drape fabric and, and visually look at you and tell, but over the camera and of
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  course, virtually we'll use the power of lipstick and makeup, jewelry, accessories to help me
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  diagnose you on the color wheel. And then once we have that power hour, once I have
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  you diagnosed, then we can go, I can do personal shopping for you. I can, um, more importantly
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  help you edit your closet so we can go through your closet, be a blessing with things that
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  do not work for you. We're going to bless somebody else with those sweet little things.
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  They are not for you in your body shaping color.
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  We just helped my mother clean out her closet this weekend and I'm like, there was things
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  she's holding on. I'm like, mom, if you haven't carried that purse or worn that and it's sitting
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  in your closet, you could be blessing somebody else to use it that has no of this and you
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  have a ton of them.
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  Yeah. Sometimes you need a friend. I got a friend I'd tell her that I grew, I love you,
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  don't you buy another leopard sweater. She had 12. You need no more, no more. And we
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  added that.
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  Funny how we can do it so easily for somebody else. So I had helped my mom and a friend
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  clean out closets and then I was talking to a friend about cleaning out my office and
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  I'm looking at things like, I can't get rid of them. Like, okay, I need someone to come
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  do that for me at my house.
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  Yes, that's what we do. We edit. But again, it has to do with your coloring and your body
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  shape. So what you own in your closet at the end of the day works and serves you. So when
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  you walk in, it's your closet. This is not Dillard's. We don't need an apartment store
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  of every size you've ever been over the past 15 years. We need clothes that fit you right
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  now. And then we need them to be, you know, simple and easy to put together and accessorize
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  whatever your style is. That's where it's a little bit different. But so I do a lot
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  of one on one and we can take that from editing to shopping and I do a lot of group events.
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  So for friends who have, well, maybe even just a bunch of girlfriends getting together
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  or businesses where they have staff that need to maybe sharpen their image because they're
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  representing that brand or that company are for Mary Kay friends who just want to talk
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  about image in this beauty business. I can teach general classes for an audience over
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  subject matter like body shape or I can talk about basics or how to accessorize properly.
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  So I can do, I can do group events as well that are more just general. And I hate to
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  say rules because when it comes to fashion, guidelines to be our best. These are all just
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  suggestions for a best approach. And so whether that be the topic, there's so many four ways
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  to wear a t-shirt. I mean, there's just so many topics we could cover just based on the
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  audience, but it doesn't have to be, you don't have to be a certain age. This doesn't have
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  to mean you have to be a certain, a certain styling. You don't have to have a certain
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  economic situation to afford certain brands. These general classes can just help everyone
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  where they are. They're beginner to the expert.
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  That's awesome. So I know one of the tips and my friend said she liked his accessory.
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  So she called me after she was just raving about you. And I'm like, how many accessories
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  do I have? Do I have enough?
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  Exactly. Just little things that make the difference. And you know, at the end of the
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  day, because we're wanting to be our best and we're beautifully, wonderfully made, whatever
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  that looks like, but it's just little things that help build confidence. Just little, little
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  tweaks here and there make all the difference in the world. And if a friend can just tweak
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  one thing and change the way she feels for the day, you know, I tell a lot of women that,
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  you know, when you have a good hair day, ain't nobody going to tell you nothing wrong. You
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  know what I mean? With a good hair day, nothing can go wrong. It is, you walk different, you
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  talk different. That's how we should feel every day.
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  That's awesome. I love that. And I had a friend one time that I'd lost some weight. I went
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  to visit her out of town and we went shopping to get new stuff. And I literally stood in
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  the dressing room and she just brought me things and things I'd never tried. And I don't
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  know if you're familiar with Chico's, the clothing store. So they purposely don't have
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  mirrors in the dressing room. I don't know if you know that because they want women to
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  walk out and see. And you know, when I show people Mary Kay and colors and stuff, I'm
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  like, okay, let's finish the whole thing and then look like not pieces. And I always tell
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  people just like you had mentioned earlier, like when you have a new look that somebody's
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  not, they may not say, oh, your makeup looks good or your shirt looks good, but they're
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  like, something looks different. You know, I don't know what it is. I had a customer
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  one time I told her that and I said, wait to see what your husband, just probably not
• 25:12
  to say he likes your makeup. And so she sent me an email one day, she goes, okay. It was
• 25:16
  like, wait for it was a subject. She goes, I was doing my makeup. The husband walked by
• 25:20
  the bathroom. He goes, did you get your hair colored? Yeah. Yeah. It was different, but
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  didn't know what it was. What a cool business and being able to help women and confidence
• 25:31
  and courage and those little things. And as you said, have it. And I love how you describe
• 25:35
  you helping your friends just come beside people to help people to revamp thing. And
• 25:40
  I think, you know, we have changed our style because of what's been going on the last couple
• 25:45
  of years and a little more casual and a little different. I remember one time my sister said
• 25:51
  for friends comment, Leslie is always dressed up, which I wasn't, but I had jewelry on and
• 25:58
  I had makeup on my hair. Those little things. Yes. Make a difference. It makes the difference.
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  Yeah. And that you care and you look like you didn't just roll it. But I remember one
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  day I was trying to stay in the office or stay home and I always get up even during
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  the last couple of years, I always get up even if I'm not going anywhere and do my hair
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  and makeup. And one day I didn't. And I put on yoga pants and a t-shirt and didn't real.
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  I was just felt yucky. So I'm like, all right, forget this. I'm going to get dressed with
• 26:27
  clothes, you know, nicer clothes and some jewelry and do my makeup. Cause I just felt
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  you know, even at home, you know, you just, you feel more confident when you do. You do.
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  And I'll say this to you, Leslie. I feel like when we invest time in ourself, I know I,
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  while God talked about, you know, just putting that, that investment of time, it helps you
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  look at others more clearly. And I also think that when you invest time in yourself and
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  whatever that may look like for some women, you know, not a lot of makeup, a lot, you
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  know, that looks different forever, but in our own way, investing our own time to look
• 27:09
  and feel our best. When we walk into the room, it's not that we're wanting to be the center
• 27:15
  of the room or attention or anything like that. That's not never even on the radar,
• 27:18
  but when we walk in the room, you can't help but take people's breath away because today
• 27:26
  the most important commodity we have, I feel is time. We've got our time. And when you
• 27:32
  walk in the room and you are put together in your style, whatever that is, it ought
• 27:38
  to be a certain thing. But when you look your best and are put together, we turn our heads
• 27:42
  and take you in and we're like, man, she looks awesome. Or she's so cute. And also because
• 27:50
  you're walking in with confidence because you're walking yourself. And here's what it
• 27:54
  says. This is what I know. This is what I know. When you invest the time in yourself
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  and you walk in the room, you carry a spirit of excellence about you. And other people
• 28:05
  with a spirit of excellence can relate and are attracted to other spirits of excellence.
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  So when you walk in the room, your spirit of excellence, me over here with spirit of
• 28:15
  excellence, I see your spirit of excellence. We're attracted to one another. And that's
• 28:19
  who you end up drawing into your circle. That's who you end up drawing into your life. And
• 28:25
  birds of a feather flock together. So at a glance we can say, oh, she has spirit of excellence
• 28:31
  or he does. And that's who I want to talk to you in this room. That's who I want to
• 28:34
  get to know and hear their story and find out why not today for them. Like what's going
• 28:40
  on with them and draw some curiosity. We see and recognize that. So the power of spending
• 28:46
  time in your on yourself in your best lane, so worth it for your, for your own clarity
• 28:53
  and, and way to be focused on others, but for you to draw people to you and into your
• 28:59
  life by setting an example of what you feel and your value and worth this.
• 29:04
  Yeah. Love that. And I've never really thought of it that way, but it does make perfect sense.
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  Somebody recently asked me if I feel other people's energy and at first I'm like, I don't
• 29:13
  know, but then I started paying attention to it. And there's people that I spend time
• 29:17
  with that you walk away and you're ready to tackle the world or just on a conversation.
• 29:22
  And then there's other people who are like, oh my gosh, that was just painful. And you
• 29:27
  know, paying attention to that. And I'm really working on taking care of my word of the year
• 29:34
  of space. And so working on the space and who is around my space and who gives me energy
• 29:38
  and who sucks me dry and you know, paying attention to those people. So I love all that
• 29:44
  you're sharing and we could talk forever. And I can't wait to have you share more in
• 29:50
  our event in March. So if anybody is listening to this and wants to join it or join Miranda
• 29:56
  and other things. So I always ask too, before we get off phone, when we talked about regrets
• 29:59
  and I always kind of talk about that, but what, let's just talk about encouragement.
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  What encouragement would you give somebody else to say why not today?
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  Well, I would just be mindful that if I can get spiritual for just a second, but scripture
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  reminds us that the enemy comes in to steal, kill and destroy. That is, that is what he
• 30:25
  wakes up every day doing. He's on a mission. So we have to be aware that God has plans
• 30:30
  for us. And, and in Jeremiah, we're reminded that these plans are for us to prosper. There
• 30:36
  are good things in store for us, but we are in a battle to, from the enemy to, to be destroyed
• 30:43
  at every level. So every time we go into pursue something, there will be the voice of the
• 30:50
  enemy trying to creep in. There's going to be doubt come in because that's his goal.
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  But what I, what I would like to say is for an encouragement is you have to be careful
• 31:00
  what voice you're listening to. And you have to be prayerful and mindful about it. We cannot
• 31:07
  listen to, to the writer, to the left of us. I know there are people who we love, who are
• 31:13
  family and close friends, but sometimes not even their words are positive and encouraging
• 31:19
  and uplifting, but because they don't know our heart, they don't know our mind, they
• 31:23
  don't know our goal and our pursuit. So even though they mean well, we can't listen a lot
• 31:29
  of times to those voices. You have to know the voice you're tuned into to listen to.
• 31:35
  And a lot of times I'll just say, Lord, and, and, and through this situation of making
• 31:39
  a hard pivot in our life, my husband and I were both 20 years into each of our careers
• 31:45
  and we're presented opportunity where he had to make a pivot. And we just said, Lord, we
• 31:50
  have to hear your voice. We have to know without a doubt, please confirm within us. And despite
• 31:56
  the naysayers, despite what things look like, that's where faith and courage comes in, just
• 32:01
  blindly chasing the obvious. But when we pray about it, we also have to be slow to respond.
• 32:09
  We have to make sure that we're quiet and we're listening to the right voice. So I would
• 32:15
  just encourage everyone to just look at it and, and know that you'll feel peace. You're
• 32:22
  going to feel joy when you're pursuing things in the right direction that are made for you.
• 32:27
  You will. And scripture says that the Lord will bless the work of our hands. So we pursue
• 32:32
  it and then we work for it. But yeah.
• 32:37
  And yeah, so true. And it reminds me of when I decided to make the pivot in my life to
• 32:42
  quit my full-time job to pursue Mary Kay full-time and made that decision. And it was really
• 32:48
  a why not today? And it was the date in the time was to go shopping. I'm not even a shopper,
• 32:53
  but my national sales director was going shopping. I wanted to go. And I remember I made the
• 32:57
  decision the date I was going to resign and leave. And every day my mother called me like,
• 33:01
  are you sure? Should you do this? And I'm like, you know, I just, I knew that that was
• 33:08
  what I need to do. And the same thing with this podcast. I just knew I didn't know what
• 33:12
  it looks, look, would look like. And I still don't know the end goal. It's going to look
• 33:17
  like I have big ideas and I just don't know where it's going to go. I mean, my goal is
• 33:20
  it to be a movement and to change people and give people courage. So, yeah, I love this.
• 33:26
  So I always ask the question and try to connect back to my dad. And I know you knew nothing
• 33:30
  about my dad and you emailed me and you're like, how am I supposed to answer this? So
• 33:35
  it's interesting because this podcast was kind of started, it was started in honor.
• 33:39
  So I was trying to connect, you know, things that I hear are similar. So the one thing
• 33:42
  that I heard you say is you had to do a different path in your life, which took you a totally
• 33:48
  different place. And so in high school, when you had to make that pivot, and I think my
• 33:53
  dad was very similar and my brothers were at the eulogy when he passed away and shared
• 33:58
  about my dad always had it plan A, B, C, D and things pivot. And so he grew up in California
• 34:05
  and played football in high school and was supposed to play football in college. And
• 34:11
  the night he graduated high school, he got in a horrific car accident and almost died
• 34:15
  and lost the sight of one of his eyes. So the logo for the why not today is my dad's
• 34:19
  logo, which is an eye patch and a hand around mustache. And because he always had an eye
• 34:24
  patch. And so he was supposed to go play football in California, I think USC, but because of
• 34:29
  that, he had to pivot. And he didn't go to college till six months later. And it's kind
• 34:36
  of a funny story how the world is so different now. But his dad's like, you should go to
• 34:41
  Notre Dame, your grandfather lives out there. So they put him on a train and went to Notre
• 34:45
  Dame, Indiana, how much I mean, now, it's so hard to get in. But went started Notre
• 34:53
  Dame graduated, stayed there. And my mom lived in the same town in South Bend. And she he
• 34:58
  met my dad, my mom because of that. So if that pivot haven't hadn't happened, like so
• 35:03
  many sequence of things, you know, something bad, we always look at, okay, those terrible
• 35:08
  things. But because this terrible thing happened, look at what the difference he was able to
• 35:13
  make and probably wouldn't have left California otherwise. Right. So yeah, it's kind of a
• 35:18
  cool path. Just never know. You never know all your faith and your courage and say why
• 35:23
  not today? Well, thank you so much for being a guest. And I loved hearing you talk and
• 35:28
  I'll probably be talking with a southern accent today. But so how can people find you if they're
• 35:32
  interested in pursuing you with your styling business? Is there a name for your business
• 35:36
  or? Well, I just you know, because I was helping friends at first, and it turned into other
• 35:42
  things. So it's it's Miranda's closet clients is my Facebook group, private group. But you
• 35:50
  can find me on Instagram, I think I'm out of out of friends, or on Facebook, but Instagram
• 35:56
  Miranda rains and I spell it M a M a r a, a rains r a i n s Miranda rains on Instagram,
• 36:05
  also on Facebook, but anyone's invited to be a part of my private Facebook group. Anyone
• 36:10
  can join. It's a private great. So you'll find me see my face just asked to be a part
• 36:15
  my share your contact information. Oh, great. Great. Yeah, absolutely. So Instagram, Facebook.
• 36:20
  Yeah, I'm gonna go I don't know if I've joined it. I need to. So well, thank you again. I
• 36:25
  love talking to you. And again, if people want to join us in March, and I'll share that
• 36:28
  in the show notes to the information about the thing we're doing in March. So I love
• 36:33
  hearing your story. Remember to that. The Why Not Today podcast is on iTunes and Spotify
• 36:39
  and every other place. If you could like it, share it, review it, I would appreciate it.
• 36:43
  The website is live finally, and it's why not today podcast.com. And we do have t shirts
• 36:49
  and cups. So if you want to be courageous and say why not today? We're here to help
• 36:54
  you. So look also looking for guests if you know people that have been courageous or done
• 36:59
  something courageous. So again, Miranda, thank you for joining me today. It was a pleasure
• 37:03
  and I feel like I have a new friend. You do likewise. I appreciate you. Thank you for
• 37:09
  having me. All right. Well, thank you. And thanks everybody for listening. Bye.