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#276 Revival In Your Home: The Power of a Spirit Filled Marriage · The OneCry Podcast

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Speaker0: We're submitting to Christ. Yeah. And if the
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Speaker0: husband's submitting to Christ and the wife is submitting to Christ
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Speaker0: and the love of Christ and the leadership of Christ is
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Speaker0: coming through us to each other, it's just a recipe for revival.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the One Cry Podcast, a nationwide call
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Speaker1: for spiritual awakening. The goal: accelerating the movement of God through
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Speaker1: sharing revival truth, stories,
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Speaker0: Well, welcome to the One Cry Podcast. I'm Bill Elif,
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Speaker0: and this is my dear buddy Kyle Reno. And Kyle,
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Speaker0: great to see you today. Good to be with
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Speaker0: you, brother. And I know that you are just
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Speaker0: full of, full of a truth today that you're anxious
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Speaker0: to share with us. We've been talking about how to have a
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Speaker0: real spiritual revival in your home. And,
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Speaker0: uh, I don't know that there's anybody that's very interested in that, right?
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Speaker2: No, nobody needs
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Speaker0: that.
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Speaker2: Yeah, we all do
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Speaker2: for sure, you know. And man, you really helped foster the conversation
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Speaker2: in the last 2 weeks, the last 2 podcasts. I encourage you,
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Speaker2: if you didn't get to listen to that, go back and listen to it,
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Speaker2: based out of 1 Corinthians chapter 13. of God's
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Speaker2: love and how that love is portrayed through us in our homes,
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Speaker2: and how to honestly engage,
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Speaker2: cooperate with God to see his love come through you. If that's a
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Speaker2: husband, wife, father, mother,
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Speaker2: children, all those things, that's the only way that sets the environment
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Speaker2: for, for real revival in the home. And I,
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Speaker2: I have this statement I want to say, and maybe we have some Uh,
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Speaker2: singles that are listening to this that are aspiring toward
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Speaker2: marriage one day, or, or those that are single again,
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Speaker2: even those maybe that have the gift of singleness. And so I
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Speaker2: want— before you check out on us on this, I want to remind
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Speaker2: us something about God's word. We're going to be in Ephesians 5 in a second.
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Speaker2: That when the Spirit of God was writing through Paul, and this letter's going to
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Speaker2: land in the church in Ephesus, it was not like there was
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Speaker2: a married section and then the kids section and
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Speaker2: then the widows and all these ages and stages,
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Speaker2: that there was just a church filled with people across the spectrum.
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Speaker2: And what God knows is that we all need this truth no
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Speaker2: matter where we land in it. We need to know it so that the family
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Speaker2: might flourish. So that the family might— so no matter where you are in
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Speaker2: your maturation or season in life, We need to know these things, but it's
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Speaker2: gonna land in regards to revival in the home, our,
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Speaker2: our need for the work of the Spirit. So one of
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Speaker2: the famous— I do it every time, Bill. I know you have almost
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Speaker2: every marriage message. I end up landing at some point in Ephesians
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Speaker2: 5:22-33, you know, which really gives us
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Speaker2: the roles and the desire and the display of God
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Speaker2: in, in marriage. But I got really convicted walking and preaching
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Speaker2: through Ephesians that I preached this standard for
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Speaker2: marriage, uh, but I've left the power for marriage out.
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Speaker2: Why is that? Because you really got to go back to
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Speaker2: Ephesians 5:15 when he says,
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Speaker2: so be careful how you live. I'm reading from the New
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Speaker2: Living in this moment because I like where it renders a certain way here.
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Speaker2: Don't live like fools. But like those who
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Speaker2: are wise, make the most of every opportunity
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Speaker2: in these evil days. Don't act thoughtlessly,
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Speaker2: but understand what the Lord wants you to do. Don't be drunk
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Speaker2: with wine because that would ruin your life.
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Speaker2: Instead, be filled with the Spirit,
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Speaker2: singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves
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Speaker2: and making music to the Lord in your hearts. And give thanks for everything to
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Speaker2: God the Father in the name of the Lord Lord Jesus Christ.
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Speaker2: So just to pause for a second and say what God
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Speaker2: makes explicitly clear is to live the
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Speaker2: Christian life outside of the power,
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Speaker2: the daily empowering of the Holy Spirit, is not merely
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Speaker2: improbable, it's impossible.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: To, to live wise in this world,
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Speaker2: to, to live in a measure in holiness Here
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Speaker2: in this broken, defiled world, man, to, to not just waste your
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Speaker2: time, to not, to not try to find cheap substitutes.
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Speaker2: And he addresses specifically drunkenness in that moment, like to continually
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Speaker2: be trying to fill yourself with something that could never fulfill you.
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Speaker2: The only way to do that is to cultivate your relationship
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Speaker2: with God the Holy Spirit in such a way that he is empowering
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Speaker2: our holiness. He's empowering— Are following Christ.
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Speaker2: So it's impossible to follow Christ without being filled with
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Speaker2: the Spirit. Now, to say that,
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Speaker2: to know in a few verses right in this next section,
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Speaker2: he's going to call husbands to love their wives, he's going to call wives
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Speaker2: to respect their husbands. We're going to get into chapter 6,
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Speaker2: he's going to talk about the family dynamics. And so I want to say something.
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Speaker2: It's impossible to follow Christ without being
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Speaker2: filled with the Spirit in everyday ways. And it is impossible
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Speaker2: to be the husband that God intended for you, to call you to be.
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Speaker2: It's impossible to be the wife that God called
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Speaker2: you to be without being filled with the Spirit. So I got a statement.
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Speaker2: I think you're gonna love this, Bill. This statement that God wrote in my heart:
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Speaker2: when spouses are filled with the Spirit,
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Speaker2: marriages will be filled with life. Say it
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Speaker2: again. When spouses are filled with the Spirit,
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Speaker2: marriages will be filled with life. And you know this,
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Speaker2: Bill, there's something about walking into a home
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Speaker2: that's filled with God's life. There's something
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Speaker2: about— you've done it a thousand times— that you sit with a marriage that
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Speaker2: by God's grace is flourishing. And what's,
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Speaker2: what's true in that moment Is that there's more than
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Speaker2: they bring to the table to that marriage. They have God's empowering
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Speaker2: life flowing through them. So the goal
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Speaker2: should be to be a Spirit-filled spouse,
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Speaker2: to be a spouse that in every season is cultivating
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Speaker2: your relationship with the Spirit of God in such a way that you might—
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Speaker2: like we talked about last week— that you might love your wife well.
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Speaker2: That you might respect your husband fully. Now,
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Speaker2: a lot of marriages find themselves in those dry seasons,
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Speaker2: and what they need is for a fresh river. They might
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Speaker2: find themselves in a season where you're— well, hey, where life's got
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Speaker2: hard. And you know this, Bill. I mean, marriage,
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Speaker2: when things get heavy, those that are closest
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Speaker2: to you often become the enemy. You know, one thing,
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Speaker2: when, when, when I'm, when I'm hurting,
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Speaker2: I'm going to take it out somewhere. Who's closest to me? Well, in covenant marriage,
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Speaker2: it's your spouse. And what, what, what we need
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Speaker2: in those moments is the Spirit of God to empower us
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Speaker2: in such a way that I might do— I might love them in a way
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Speaker2: that I can't. So I want to give this a little, uh, alliteration just
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Speaker2: so you, you, you might remember it,
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Speaker2: okay? So how do we do that? And Bill, I'd love for you
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Speaker2: to chime in on this in light of our marriages. How do you become a
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Speaker2: spouse that is continually— the moment you're saved by Christ, you're indwelt
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Speaker2: by the Spirit, you're secure, sealed by the Holy Spirit.
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Speaker2: But how do you cultivate your, your relationship
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Speaker2: with God, the Holy Spirit, in such a way that you might become the spouse
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Speaker2: or the parent that God intended to be? I want to give you
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Speaker2: 3 A's here. One, acknowledge the
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Speaker2: Spirit of God every day. It's, it's pretty crazy to
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Speaker2: think that the moment that Jesus saved us into his forever family,
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Speaker2: the Spirit of God came to dwell within us,
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Speaker2: and then to live our Christian life without ever acknowledging
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Speaker2: his presence. That would be like a
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Speaker2: marriage living in the same home But you never acknowledging your
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Speaker2: spouse, never acknowledging that
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Speaker2: y'all reside together.
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Speaker2: So acknowledge him. So for me, that's every morning asking the
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Speaker2: Spirit of God to fill me fresh. It's asking the Spirit every morning— it's
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Speaker2: a practice— asking the Spirit of God to produce through me love, joy.
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Speaker2: I walk through all the fruit of the Spirit saying, I need, I need you
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Speaker2: to be you. Through me. So that's acknowledge. The second part
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Speaker2: is what I was just saying, is ask. Ask him to fill
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Speaker2: you. Ask him to help you. I, I can't tell you,
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Speaker2: and this is part of walking with the Lord for a while now,
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Speaker2: how many times I find myself in moments— if that's in my marriage,
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Speaker2: or moments with my kids, or moments in leadership in the church,
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Speaker2: or moments that I'm counseling with somebody, or moments
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Speaker2: that I'm in the community trying to be an effective witness,
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Speaker2: that my mind goes to ask, Spirit of God,
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Speaker2: give me what I don't have. Spirit of God,
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Speaker2: help me. Lord, help me in this moment.
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Speaker2: So it's acknowledge, ask, and then this
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Speaker2: is the faith part, and then act like he is there.
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Speaker2: Act like he will. Provide, like move toward
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Speaker2: your spouse. Like, you know what, God's gonna give me love for my wife.
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Speaker2: God's gonna give me wisdom with my kids because he's promised
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Speaker2: me all these things. Bill, can you imagine what
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Speaker2: marriages might be like if the husband and the wife
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Speaker2: in everyday ways were being filled with the Spirit?
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Speaker0: You know,
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Speaker0: Kyle, this is, this is the key. I mean, honestly,
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Speaker0: you You could do 100 hours
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Speaker0: of marriage counseling and it can't get past this
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Speaker0: one foundational thing. So,
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Speaker0: so many times through the years I've said,
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Speaker0: you know, here's a wife and her husband is a
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Speaker0: jerk. He's just a jerk. He just is.
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Speaker0: And I'd say, what does your husband need
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Speaker0: in your home more than anything else? I mean, if— and she
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Speaker0: said, well, I don't know. I said, well, would it help if he just encountered
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Speaker0: Christ? If he just came into a head-on collision
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Speaker0: with Jesus Christ every single day
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Speaker0: in the flesh? And she said, well, yeah, what could be
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Speaker0: better than him being around Jesus? I said, do you know that God's
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Speaker0: made that possible? That's the way— that's exactly—
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Speaker0: that's— no. Oh, yeah, absolutely possible.
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Speaker0: Because if she's a believer, Christ lives in you and
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Speaker0: you're in the flesh. You're the human vehicle
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Speaker0: for the life of God. Now, what he needs— That's right. Is to
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Speaker0: encounter the life of God. And guess what?
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Speaker0: God has put that life in you.
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Speaker2: Man, yeah.
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Speaker0: But you got to acknowledge,
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Speaker0: ask, and then just step out in faith.
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Speaker2: That's right.
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Speaker0: I think that last point is so vital,
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Speaker0: Kyle. I remember when I was a young believer and I
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Speaker0: was just learning about the filling of the Holy Spirit, and I would just
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Speaker0: admit my sin and ask the Lord to fill me, and then I'd say,
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Speaker0: now what happens? And I finally learned
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Speaker0: Just get up and start walking.
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Speaker2: That's exactly right.
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Speaker0: And follow the promptings of the
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Speaker0: Holy, listen to the Spirit and just follow the promptings of the Spirit.
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Speaker0: Well, that's a step of faith. That's being willing,
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Speaker0: that's walking by faith. That's willing to say to Christ,
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Speaker0: I believe that if I ask,
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Speaker0: you'll take charge. You'll take control. You'll fill me.
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Speaker0: And I'm gonna just act, walk and talk Manly Beasley used
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Speaker0: to say to me all the time, faith is walking and talking like what God
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Speaker0: said is really true.
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Speaker2: Amen.
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Speaker0: So just get up and act,
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Speaker0: respond, move forward in faith, believing that he's
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Speaker0: gonna fill you.
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Speaker2: Well, just imagine 2— so for revival in the
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Speaker2: home, starting with the spouses, this plays out. We'll talk about this a
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Speaker2: little bit more next week in light of parenting. But imagine
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Speaker2: 2 spouses come before the Lord In humility and
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Speaker2: need. Lord, today I'm coming saying, fill me with what I don't
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Speaker2: have naturally that I need supernaturally. You've promised that you would.
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Speaker2: I'm acknowledging who you are. I'm asking for you
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Speaker2: to do it. And so you come in humility, so you come low.
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Speaker2: But then the picture that God's giving me in mind, then we stand
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Speaker2: in confidence that he will fulfill his word.
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Speaker2: Yeah. I said, I'm gonna act, I'm gonna move toward my spouse
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Speaker2: going like, you know what, God's going to use me to be an encouragement today.
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Speaker2: God's going to use me to, to lead my wife in
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Speaker2: this moment. God's going to lead me in this because he's promised me.
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Speaker2: I'm standing on his word. I'm moving by the power
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Speaker2: of his Spirit. Yeah. I, I have this— the Lord's done this in me.
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Speaker2: Everything comes back to this for me right now, is I have God's word
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Speaker2: in my hand, I have the Spirit of God in, in my heart,
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Speaker2: and I'm going to move by faith toward the things that I know that Jesus
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Speaker2: wants to do. And so here we go. Yeah. If you
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Speaker2: move toward that. And then, and then there's this next part, Bill, verse 21.
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Speaker2: And further, he says, submit to one another out
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Speaker2: of reverence for Christ. So here's this, here's this picture.
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Speaker2: And because we're going to get into distinction of roles here in a second,
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Speaker2: I mean, like, there's, there is very much so God has distinct roles
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Speaker2: for husband, for a wife, and all those things. But before this, the next
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Speaker2: verse, it starts laying out all these things. But there is this, and you've seen
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Speaker2: it thousands of times. I've seen it hundreds of times. You've seen it thousands,
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Speaker2: probably, Bill, at this point. But you stand in an altar and,
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Speaker2: and you get this picture when people come to marry that that's the
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Speaker2: giving of oneself to another, right? Mm-hmm. Like that you're kind
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Speaker2: of submitting to one another. Hey, I'm, I'm giving
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Speaker2: myself to you to be your husband. I'm giving myself
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Speaker2: to you to be your wife. And there's this, in this sense,
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Speaker2: mutual submission that we're giving to— but why?
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Speaker2: Out of reverence for Christ.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: And, and, man,
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Speaker2: here's the beauty, and I've actually did this in my wedding ceremonies
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Speaker2: now, is that what God's ideal is,
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Speaker2: 2 followers of Christ, right, find in their
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Speaker2: pursuit of Jesus, find each other, right?
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Speaker2: And, and what, and what every spouse— I'm gonna say this, you may have
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Speaker2: heard me say this before, What, what every wise spouse
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Speaker2: comes to know, hopefully before they get married, married,
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Speaker2: is the truth is this: you'll never find in your spouse what you haven't first
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Speaker2: found in your Savior. I'm gonna say it again. You will never
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Speaker2: find in your spouse what you haven't first found in your Savior.
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Speaker0: Wow.
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Speaker2: And so out of reverence for Christ, so here we come to
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Speaker2: that moment. And listen, it's not just a one-time deal. It's not just at
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Speaker2: the altar on your wedding day, you know, it's not when you just exchange vows,
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Speaker2: is that we could say, I'm yours, I'm giving
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Speaker2: myself to you, I'm yours, because we're
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Speaker2: his. And, and that, that what you've
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Speaker2: established is, is not just me and you in this thing.
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Speaker2: That's revival, is that we are— we're
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Speaker2: given to each other out of reverence for Christ, 'cause we're his.
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Speaker2: We're his children. And that— so that
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Speaker2: we've established ultimate authority.
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Speaker2: We've established that Christ— out of
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Speaker2: reverence for Christ, we've come together going, he's king.
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Speaker2: Mm-hmm. He's the— he's both our dads, right?
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Speaker2: And he is bringing us to this. And so we're giving. And I'm gonna
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Speaker2: tell you, Here's the beauty. When Jesus is
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Speaker2: the authority, everyone can rest easy in
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Speaker2: their roles. Hmm. When Jesus
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Speaker2: is the authority, everyone can rest easy in
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Speaker2: their roles because we could say, I'm yours,
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Speaker2: because we're his. Can you imagine, Bill, if each married
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Speaker2: couple could come to that place? Of alignment
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Speaker2: to the Lord and then the right giving of themselves to
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Speaker2: each other?
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Speaker0: You know, I don't think
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Speaker0: I can quote it exactly, but Howard Hendricks,
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Speaker0: he was talking about roles and he said the husband
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Speaker0: is supposed to be the head of the home,
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Speaker0: but he's also to be the heart of the home. And he says
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Speaker0: if he's a head, without being the heart, he's authoritative.
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Speaker0: If he's the heart without being the head, he's a sentimentalist.
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Speaker0: But no, listen to this, no woman in her right mind
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Speaker0: would be unwilling to submit herself to
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Speaker0: a husband who doesn't lead like Christ and
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Speaker0: love like Christ.
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Speaker2: Wow, that's exactly right.
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Speaker0: Beautiful.
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Speaker0: So So we're submitting to Christ.
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Speaker0: And if the husband's submitting to Christ and the wife is
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Speaker0: submitting to Christ and the love of Christ and the
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Speaker0: leadership of Christ is coming through us to each other,
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Speaker0: it's just the recipe for revival. But when one or
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Speaker0: the other—
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Speaker2: That's right.
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Speaker0: Now one
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Speaker0: can resist. So it says— I love,
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Speaker0: Kyle, that it says before you get into the wives be submissive to your
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Speaker0: husbands, it says, hey, both of
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Speaker0: you submit.
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Speaker2: That's right.
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Speaker0: It's mutual submission to
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Speaker0: each other and submission to the Lord, which is being willing to be
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Speaker0: filled with the Spirit. You're submitting to him and his lordship.
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Speaker0: Now submit to each other in this mutual love and submission.
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Speaker0: Then we're gonna talk practically about wife, your role, husband,
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Speaker0: your role. But first of all, we're gonna do that towards
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Speaker0: the Lord.
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Speaker2: That's right.
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Speaker0: And he never steers us wrong. He never leads
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Speaker0: us wrong.
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Speaker2: He never does. Yes, I mean, just see the progression of it.
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Speaker2: So we're being filled by the Spirit, we're submitting rightly
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Speaker2: to one another, that mutual submission out of reverence for Christ.
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Speaker2: We're coming under the authority of Jesus Christ. And then it gets into
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Speaker2: the distinct— the marriage verses that we know. For wives, this means
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Speaker2: submit to your husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of
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Speaker2: the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of
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Speaker2: his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should
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Speaker2: submit to your husbands in everything. Now, I'm not gonna get into
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Speaker2: all the different dynamics of this. There's obviously equal value,
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Speaker2: distinct roles. We— I think we have
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Speaker2: in many ways tiptoed too much around this, to such a
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Speaker2: way that it, that it diminishes the
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Speaker2: call for the husband to spiritually love and lead.
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Speaker2: And when we do that, things get out of order inside of it.
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Speaker2: But we've also forgot our faith story. We forgot
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Speaker2: where, where this all began at the first marriage.
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Speaker2: Remember this in Genesis 2:20-23,
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Speaker2: it says, and the man gave names to all the livestock
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Speaker2: and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field.
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Speaker2: But for Adam, there was not found a helper fit
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Speaker2: for him. So the Lord God caused a deep
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Speaker2: sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept, he took one
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Speaker2: of his ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
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Speaker2: And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man, he made
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Speaker2: into a woman, and he brought her— first wedding right here— and
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Speaker2: he brought her to the man. And then the man said,
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Speaker2: this at last is bone of my bones and flesh
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Speaker2: of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she's taken out
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Speaker2: of That's Genesis 2:20-23.
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Speaker2: First marriage ceremony. The first father to bring the first bride
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Speaker2: to the first husband was God himself. Etta James
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Speaker2: was not the first person to sing At Last. Adam was the first
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Speaker2: person to sing At Last when he saw her come along.
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Speaker2: And God makes sure that we know that. For Adam,
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Speaker2: when all the livestock had been made, he had all the animals,
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Speaker2: all the things. What he didn't have was a helper.
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Speaker2: What he didn't have was someone that could help him walk through
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Speaker2: life well, help him, help him
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Speaker2: help humanity flourish. So let me tell you what I love
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Speaker2: built into this wife's role as a helpmate inside
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Speaker2: of this beautiful thing called marriage. God knew— Which built in for
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Speaker2: the man It is this awesome reality that we gotta face,
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Speaker2: is that we need help. We need help.
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Speaker2: Big time. Big time, big time. And, and God
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Speaker2: knew it, and that's why he made a wife for Adam.
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Speaker2: And for those of us that get married, that's why he makes
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Speaker2: a wife for us, 'cause the Lord knows.
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Speaker0: You know, so often,
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Speaker0: Kyle, we, we, we shy away from this verse.
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Speaker0: Because of the abuses we've seen,
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Speaker0: maybe, but we shouldn't.
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Speaker0: It's a beautiful thing. It's an admission,
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Speaker0: like you said, of the husband's need,
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Speaker0: but of the wife's willingness to
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Speaker0: come under his leadership and to just recognize
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Speaker0: there's a God-given order in the home.
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Speaker2: Yeah, for sure.
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Speaker0: You know,
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Speaker0: in every enterprise in society and work
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Speaker0: and in the military and school and everything, there's order
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Speaker0: and there's structure, and that's what makes the thing work
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Speaker0: right. That's right. And so for the wife,
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Speaker0: there's a wife saying, I recognize I'm
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Speaker0: a part of the divine order and I'm glad to have it so,
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Speaker0: and I'm glad to pay my play my very
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Speaker0: critical, uh, 50% part
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Speaker0: of this thing.
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Speaker2: Yeah, right.
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Speaker0: To be the helpmate, to support
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Speaker0: the mom, the, the wife. And yeah,
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Speaker0: it's beautiful.
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Speaker2: Well, and you know, here's the thing. Yeah, so here's the beauty
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Speaker2: now when you see God's story in full picture.
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Speaker2: So go back to Ephesians 5 when it talks about being filled with the Spirit,
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Speaker2: our need for Are you ready for this? Our need
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Speaker2: for the help of the Holy Spirit. Do you know that Jesus,
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Speaker2: Jesus, when he speaks about the Holy Spirit, calls him
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Speaker2: a helper? A helper. So, and,
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Speaker2: and, but do you think that Jesus is devaluing
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Speaker2: a part of the Godhead when he says that? No way.
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Speaker0: Well,
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Speaker2: no.
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Speaker2: What he's saying is distinct role, distinct role.
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Speaker2: And he's saying for the wife inside of this. And one of the ways
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Speaker2: I would just say, if you want revival in the home, I'm gonna make this
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Speaker2: real practical and I'll be done here in just a second. One of the ways
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Speaker2: that you get revival in the home, that wives,
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Speaker2: that you could help foster an environment that positions
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Speaker2: you for revival in the home, is by respecting your husband. Hmm.
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Speaker2: Ephesians 5:33 says, so again I say,
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Speaker2: each man must love his wife. That's when he sort of boils it down.
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Speaker2: And his wife— and should love his wife as he loves himself.
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Speaker2: And the wife must respect her husband.
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Speaker2: Well, for ladies that are listening, I'd like
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Speaker2: to just say this to you, uh, in a way that you just
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Speaker2: sense God's divine calling in you, in your marriage.
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Speaker2: Wives help their husbands when they respect
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Speaker2: them. Wives help their husbands
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Speaker2: when they respect them. You, you just can't
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Speaker2: imagine. And here's what I love. We— you
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Speaker2: stood at an altar, uh, years ago maybe now,
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Speaker2: and you stood there and you looked at that dude and you thought he was
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Speaker2: a stud. Yeah, yeah.
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Speaker2: I've not stood in that moment yet where, where,
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Speaker2: hey, A lady standing there thinking, I think I'm marrying a loser.
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Speaker2: No, nobody, nobody. You stood there and you had— here's the
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Speaker2: truth, if you're specifically— if you're following Christ, you had eyes of faith.
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Speaker2: You had eyes of faith. You, you believed in God's
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Speaker2: work in them. You believed in ways God would use them.
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Speaker2: And one of the things that, that you might need again is for the Holy
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Speaker2: Spirit To, to give you clear sight again.
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Speaker2: I know life's happened, hard stuff happens, moments of failure that
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Speaker2: he— hey, that he's missed the mark, he's made mistakes.
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Speaker2: But one of the ways that you help him fulfill is
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Speaker2: that you make the decision to choose to respect
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Speaker2: him. And I, I say that— say this because I've
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Speaker2: worked with a lot of marriages and seen a lot of this happen.
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Speaker2: You have no idea how a few words of encouragement
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Speaker2: from a wife— your husband will leap buildings in a
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Speaker2: single bound like Superman from a few,
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Speaker2: few words of a respectful wife. So that's a—
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Speaker2: and that a Spirit-filled spouse, a Spirit-filled wife
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Speaker2: will respect her husband. Well, now let me give you the next part real quick,
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Speaker2: and then Bill, I'll let you wrap us up and lead us into Prayer
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Speaker2: time. Verse 25. For husbands, this means— so go back
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Speaker2: to our role, guys. And by the way, guys, we get more verses
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Speaker2: and, uh, some more responsibility here.
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Speaker2: It says, this means love your wives just as
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Speaker2: Christ loved the church. He gave
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Speaker2: up his life for her to make her holy and clean,
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Speaker2: washed by the cleansing of God's word. He did this to
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Speaker2: present her to himself as a glorious church without spot or wrinkle
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Speaker2: or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and
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Speaker2: without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love
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Speaker2: their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows
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Speaker2: love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds it
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Speaker2: and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.
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Speaker2: Men, husbands, Bill and I,
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Speaker2: the call is for sacrificial loving,
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Speaker2: consistent leadership. The kind
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Speaker2: of— listen, the kind of leadership and role we've
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Speaker2: been given to is the continual death to self,
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Speaker2: to see her flourish.
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Speaker2: That I'm showing up in this marriage to see her flourish every day.
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Speaker2: I love what John Piper says. Headship, talking about our role,
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Speaker2: is the divine calling of a husband to take a primary
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Speaker2: responsibility Or Christlike servant
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Speaker2: leadership, protection, and provision
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Speaker2: in his home. So husbands, one simple statement: you
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Speaker2: want revival in your home? Well, it will help
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Speaker2: set the environment when a husband really leads his wife
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Speaker2: by loving her.
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Speaker0: Mm-hmm.
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Speaker2: A husband, he don't walk in and demand or domineer.
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Speaker2: that he leads by love. He walks in,
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Speaker2: how do I love this woman well today? How do I love my family
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Speaker2: well today? It's gonna call for sacrifice. It's gonna call for consistency.
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Speaker2: It's gonna call— and you ready? It's gonna call for the need to be
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Speaker2: filled with the Spirit. Yeah. To be filled with the Spirit in
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Speaker2: everyday ways. And by the way,
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Speaker2: this is our greatest witness to the world. Verse 32,
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Speaker2: and this mystery is great, But it's an illustration of the way that Christ—
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Speaker2: of the way Christ and the church are one. It's an
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Speaker2: illustration. Our marriage, guys,
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Speaker2: ladies, our marriage is our greatest witness.
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Speaker2: It really is. It is. I love Piper. Another quote from him said,
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Speaker2: most foundationally, marriage is the doing of God,
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Speaker2: and ultimately Marriage is the display of
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Speaker2: God. It's the display of God.
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Speaker2: And so we need the Spirit to fill us to
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Speaker2: be the kind of spouses to foster the
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Speaker2: environment. Bill, land the plane for us, man.
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Speaker0: Beautiful. You know, one time,
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Speaker0: Kyle, I was, uh, with a group of men at
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Speaker0: a retreat, and we were talking about this passage, and it
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Speaker0: says, love your wife as Christ loved the church. and gave
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Speaker0: himself for her. And I had a whiteboard and I said,
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Speaker0: guys, I said, tell me every way that Christ
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Speaker0: loved his disciples. What did he do? What did he practically do?
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Speaker0: And they got real quiet. And then one of them said, well,
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Speaker0: he taught his disciples. I wrote it on the board.
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Speaker0: He spent time. He listened.
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Speaker0: He paid attention even when they were saying not-headed
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Speaker0: things, and we just listened.
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Speaker0: I, I think we came up with about 35 or
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Speaker0: 40 things.
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Speaker2: Yeah.
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Speaker0: And I just paused and
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Speaker0: I turned and I looked at that whiteboard and I said,
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Speaker0: that's our job description.
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Speaker2: Amen.
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Speaker0: There it is right
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Speaker0: there. And you can't do that without the first
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Speaker0: thing that you said, Kyle, And that's being filled with God. You can't
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Speaker0: do it right. You can't do it in a way that brings life
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Speaker0: to your wife unless we're filled with the Holy Spirit.
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Speaker0: So let's pray this incredible— there's so much
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Speaker0: here, but let's take just a moment and kind of pray
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Speaker0: this in. In other words, we don't— Kyle and I,
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Speaker0: when we ask you to pray, we're not asking you to just— Listen
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Speaker0: to a nice prayer, or— but we're inviting
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Speaker0: you to now turn to the Lord and say, Lord, what I heard
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Speaker0: right there that you said to me from your word,
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Speaker0: I want that in my life. So I
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Speaker0: wonder right now if you would turn to the Lord. And if you don't have
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Speaker0: Christ in your life,
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Speaker0: period, then would you open the door And
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Speaker0: just say, Jesus Christ, I can't do this without you.
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Speaker0: I can't, I can't love my wife.
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Speaker0: I can't respect my husband without you.
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Speaker0: So Lord, come in and take control of my life. Would you just
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Speaker0: ask him that right now?
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Speaker0: And then would you say, Lord, fill me with your Holy Spirit today.
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Speaker0: I come to acknowledge and to ask.
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Speaker0: And then I'm going to stand up and just walk and talk like what you
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Speaker0: said is true, that you're going to fill me, you're going to flow through
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Speaker0: me. I'm going to believe you for that.
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Speaker0: Fill me with your Holy Spirit.
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Speaker2: Hmm.
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Speaker0: And then, Father, would you give us grace
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Speaker0: to mutually submit to each other just
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Speaker0: as we submit to you? And give
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Speaker0: wives the grace to humbly recognize
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Speaker0: the God-given order of the home and
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Speaker0: the willingness to play her glorious part
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Speaker0: in that in that way, and to respect her husband.
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Speaker0: And give us grace as men to love not with a
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Speaker0: Humanistic kind of affection,
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Speaker0: but with the divine quality that always
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Speaker0: responds in self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: Yes.
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Speaker0: Or fill us
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Speaker0: with love and flow through us like rivers of living water.
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Speaker0: Father, I pray in an unusual way for
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Speaker0: every listener today.
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Speaker0: God, would you send revival to their home?
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Speaker2: Hmm.
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Speaker0: Just a fresh breath of
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Speaker0: the life-giving power of God to their relationship
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Speaker0: as husbands and wives, as single individuals who
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Speaker0: are seeking to model what a godly home of one is
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Speaker0: like. And Father, use us as a testimony
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Speaker0: to a watching world who doesn't know, have any clue how to do this.
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Speaker0: And it's only found in Christ. We pray this, Father, for your glory.
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Speaker0: Amen.
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Speaker2: Amen.
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Speaker0: Well, Kyle, what a great word. My stars, I, I need to go back
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Speaker0: through and just listen to this about 4 more times.
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Speaker0: And, uh, we covered a lot of ground. And next week
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Speaker0: we're going to take it one step further into the home to that,
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Speaker0: uh, broadening the the base of
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Speaker0: this to our roles as, as mothers
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Speaker0: and dads and as children, right?
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Speaker2: That's
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Speaker0: right.
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Speaker0: So it's just as important. You won't want to miss that. Thanks so
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Speaker0: much for joining us today. Please call and invite
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Speaker0: thanks for joining in, and we'll see you next week.