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Clarity vs. Overthinking (S5) S7:E4 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Okay, guys, so we'll kick this off here
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I want to talk to you about what
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today's show is about.
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Today's show is a very interesting topic.
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It's series five, show seven, episode number four.
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It's about clarity versus overthinking.
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And we know the master weekly theme is
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from fear to forward, choosing light, clarity, and,
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of course, momentum.
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This episode explores how clarity comes from action,
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not overthinking, and how decisive thinking builds momentum,
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confidence, and emotional strength.
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Oh, who am I?
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, graduate student, and a passionate lifelong
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learner.
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It's my privilege and my pleasure to be
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with you here this evening.
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First point is why overthinking feels productive, but
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it isn't.
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Overthinking creates motion without progress.
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It's like if somebody was here, and let's
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say they were putting something in order, right,
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and it looked like they were putting something
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in order, but really, they were doing it
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wrong.
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And then somebody would have to basically come
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back and undo what they did and redo
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it, so that would be just a waste
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of time.
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You know, when we do something wrong and
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it's not efficient, then we've got to go
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back to the drawing board, lose all those
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steps that we put in so well.
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And start all over again.
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And I know that's hard for a lot
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of people to understand, but you know, guys,
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it's the truth.
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And a lot of people out there say
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they want the truth, but then what I
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find out when I talk to them is
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they really don't want the truth.
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And so that's an interesting predicament that some
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people do.
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They say one thing with their mouth, but
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then their body acts a different way.
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Almost like they're two-faced to themselves, right?
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All right, number two, guys, number two is
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this.
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Clarity comes from action, not rumination.
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Movement clears the mind faster than any thought
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can.
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And I know that sounds hard to believe.
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Try it.
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When you're moving, your life just sort of
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changes, okay?
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And I know sometimes you'd be like, how
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are we going to do this?
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And the way we do it is by
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becoming intentional.
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I think that's an important thing to understand,
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is being intentional.
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When we can be intentional, our life can
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really accelerate in a positive direction.
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All right, that's important to know.
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Number three, how mental noise blocks intuition.
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Noise drowns out inner guidance.
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I don't know if you guys know this.
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And when it drowns out the inner guidance,
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it's like, well, it's like we're not getting
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a clear picture, a picture of what something
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really is, as opposed to an illusion of
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what we think it is.
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And that can be a very interesting thing
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for a lot of people, because the media
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is designed to get you to believe something.
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Let's say that this box is red.
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Even though the box might be blue, the
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media is designed to convince you that it's
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red, so more people buy red, just for
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example.
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Number four, the cost of second-guessing.
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Doubt delays momentum.
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Second-guessing can drive yourself absolutely nuts.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people don't realize, is how this can
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drive people nuts, and why it can drive
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people nuts.
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I think the reason why is because people
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don't understand what it means.
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Let's get right into number five, shall we?
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All right.
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Number five is why simple decisions reduce stress.
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Simplicity calms the nervous system.
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Did you know that?
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Yes.
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Simplicity calms the nervous system.
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Maybe you're having a challenge right now, and
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you're wondering what's going on, or why something's
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going on, but suddenly you say, oh my
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gosh, I suddenly get it, or I suddenly
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understand.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, how can I say, they don't
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really get, but they understand one thing.
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They understand what people think it is.
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But that might not be what it actually
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is, OK?
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That's important, guys.
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Very, very important.
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And when I say important, I mean important
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enough for us to think about what it
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is.
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And what it is becomes a perception of
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ours, a perception that we think is one
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way, but actually we find out it's a
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different way, a way that we didn't even
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expect or that we thought existed, OK?
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That's an important thing.
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And so hopefully that means something to you
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and to everyone around you.
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Let's jump into point six, and that is
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clarity versus confusion.
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Sometimes people intentionally confuse things because they want
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you to make a mistake.
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They call it the competitive advantage.
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I call it being rude.
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Clarity versus confusion, yes, clarity settles our mind.
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Confusion just spins it around like a whirlwind,
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you know, like going on a merry-go
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-round, right?
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You can't really think when you're spinning.
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You've ever been on one of these rides?
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I think one of them you probably remember,
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like in the Tilt-A-World or any
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other ride that goes more than 20 miles
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an hour, like your brain's like, oh, right?
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Or my favorite is the Scrambler, right?
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That's another good one.
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Number seven, guys, how to trust your first
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grounded answer.
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Your calm answer is usually right.
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Now, we're going to have a whole series
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on a very important topic.
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I'm not going to let that out of
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the bag yet, but it's something I recently
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learned about myself and something I think you
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can learn about others.
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And what I want to say here is
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very important, and that is your calm answer.
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You know, sometimes when somebody's trying to get
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you to do something, when you can pull
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away, when you can calmly decipher something, right?
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People say, oh, you know, I got to
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have an answer now or I got to
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know now.
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There's nothing wrong with saying, you know what?
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I need to sleep.
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I need to think about it.
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I'll get back to you, right?
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Or if you're on the phone, that sounds
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great.
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Let me look it over, and I'll give
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you a call back when I can in
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a few days.
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But it's in person.
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People don't feel like they have the ability
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to do that, but you absolutely do.
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That's a great idea you're presenting.
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I'm going to need a few days to
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go over it.
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Oh, I need the answer now.
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Like on the phone, people feel like they
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can just brush the person off and ask
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for time.
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But when they're in person, I guess they
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feel kind of scared to do that.
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You shouldn't.
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Absolutely not.
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Number eight, guys, why certainty is overrated.
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You don't need guarantees to move.
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If you're waiting for somebody to pat you
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on the back, well, move anyway.
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All right?
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Move anyway, because when you move anyway, you'll
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find that there never is a perfect time.
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There never is a perfect place.
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There's just the opportunity.
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And you can make it perfect and do
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something amazing with it.
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But that comes from belief, guys.
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That comes from belief.
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Number nine, clarity grows when you stop forcing
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outcomes.
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Clarity grows when you stop forcing outcomes.
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That's a very, very interesting one.
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Clarity grows when you basically stop forcing the
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outcome.
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So release sharpens our direction.
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Release sharpens our direction.
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And whenever we release, it's like we get
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this epiphany moment.
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You know what I mean, right?
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Number 10, thinking less, choosing better, fewer thoughts,
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improve choices.
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We've learned that with the, what was that?
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I think it was called the, I don't
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remember the name of it now.
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It was called the SAS technique.
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Neville Goddard actually gave this to us.
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And the SAS technique is a very interesting
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technique.
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Assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled by
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Neville Goddard and act upon it with conviction.
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So sometimes it feels like nothing's working.
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So Neville was very clear about this.
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Even though people sometimes skip it, SATs fails
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when the mind is straining instead of yielding.
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So when you feel like you're not doing
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anything, you're actually doing more than you think.
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Common blocks, a lot of people say, is
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you're monitoring the results.
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You're trying to force beliefs.
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You're looping affirmations while you're still awake.
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You're emotionally invested in getting something instead of
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being it.
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You're attaching urgency.
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I need this to work.
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All of these keep you out of that
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state.
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Visualize to get something means no convincing, no
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repetition marathon, no hype, no effort.
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If you're doing hypnosis instead of drifting SATs,
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it can't lock in properly.
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So this may sting a little bit, but
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it's the real truth.
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Your subconscious does not respond well to abstract
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magnitude.
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Billions is conceptual.
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Your subconscious lives in sensory normalcy.
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Neville also said we use mudane confirmation scenes.
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The SAS technique, S-A-T-S, sleep
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akin to sleep, is I'm wealthy, I have
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billions.
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So that's bad SATs, okay?
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Let's talk about good SATs.
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You feel drowsy.
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Your images are faint, not vivid.
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You almost don't care.
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Your body feels heavy.
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You could fall asleep at any moment.
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Instead of a long recording, try three to
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five minutes of something, right?
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Start with safety, identity.
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Everything is handled now.
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I don't need to fix anything.
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Life is moving in my favor.
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The ordinary scene is a calm smile, relief
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in your chest, ease in your breathing, a
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quiet thought.
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It's already done.
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So I say this to you because when
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you're calm and you let go, your brain
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sort of works for you, right?
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Number 11, why clarity feels calm and calm
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is clarity embodied.
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So we have the calm mind.
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It's like everything operates in harmony, best way
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to explain that.
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Number 12, letting go of mental loops, release
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restores momentum.
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So you don't need to have loops.
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Nope.
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Number 13, the discipline of decisive thinking.
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Decisions are a daily skill, not something you
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do once and you forget about.
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They are daily, daily, daily, daily.
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That's a very, very important what I think
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that I want a lot of you to
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know about.
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Number 14, why clarity is a practice.
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Clear thinking is trained.
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Reducing complexity restores focus, less creates power.
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How clarity improves execution, clear minds act faster,
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okay?
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When we're clear, we don't have baggage.
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We don't have other things that are holding
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us back.
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That's very important to understand.
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Number 17, guys, why clarity accelerates momentum.
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See, direction creates speed.
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When we know what we're doing or we
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know where we're going, that's important to know.
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Very important to know.
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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But it takes time.
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Does that make sense?
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Hope it does.
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And so sense comes from people
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knowing where we're going and what we're doing.
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Okay, that's a very important thing to note,
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okay?
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When we know we're going, it takes less
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time to get there.
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We don't have to decide.
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We know how to process and we know
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it.
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We don't have to get hung up with
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how we do it.
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Direction creates speed, number 18.
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Cutting through emotional fog, clarity slices emotional very
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cleanly.
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The emotions have to be clean.
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Why clarity beats certainty.
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Direction matters more than the proof.
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I know we all want the proof.
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I know we all want the results.
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But it's more than that.
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It's absolutely more than that.
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It's about an inner feeling.
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The inner feeling allows us to get insights
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to take inspired action.
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Direction matters more than the proof that many
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seek.
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Number 20, guys, how to simplify choices.
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Remove options until truth remains.
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Remove options until truth remains.
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That's an important thing to note, right?
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I think that's a very important thing for
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people to understand.
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And I think a lot of people, you
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know, they get stuck in their ways.
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And they feel that, well, if they can't
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do something one way, then there's no way
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for it to happen.
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I want to tell you something.
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When our Lord or God actually closes a
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door, it seems like there's no way out
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of the building.
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Somewhere, I promise you, he's going to open
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a window.
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And it might be small at first, but
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you're going to be able to crawl through
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the window or maybe even step through it.
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And you're going to find that you're going
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to have an amazing life that's going to
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open up into things you never dreamt were
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possible.
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You might get exactly what you want or
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something even better.
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So don't be judgmental about the package that
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it's coming in or the method.
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Number 21, guys, mental decluttering techniques.
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Clear before you choose.
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Clear before you choose.
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When you clear, you're able to choose something
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pretty wild.
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But we have to just let go of
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what's on our mind.
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What I've learned from being around for a
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long time is that we try to push
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sometimes too hard.
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And I don't know about you, but pieces
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in a puzzle go together a lot easier
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when you creatively play with them and you
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put them in the puzzle.
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You don't try to jam them and get
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them in a – right?
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I remember having – do any of you
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guys remember the toy?
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It was called – I don't think they
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still have the toy anymore.
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It was called Perfection.
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Anybody remember that?
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I think it was Perfection by Milton Bradley.
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Does anybody remember Perfection?
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I don't know if they still have Perfection.
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And Perfection, it was this timer game.
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And so the way Perfection worked, they have
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a version now you can get on eBay.
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And so I still remember this.
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Some people are selling it for very minimal
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amounts of money.
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So the way how Perfection worked was pretty
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cool.
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You had all these pieces, okay?
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And what you had to do is you
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had to take all the pieces, and you
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had to put them in the appropriate spots.
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They were like, what was it, 1, 2,
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3, 4, 5, 5 times 5.
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So you had 25 pieces, and you could
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set the timer anywhere from 0 to 60
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seconds to put the pieces in.
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Now here's the thing that's kind of interesting.
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When you got all the pieces in, you
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would hit the Stop button, okay?
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It will switch.
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But if you didn't get the pieces all
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in, you know what happened?
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The table would push up.
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So when you start, you'd push the table
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down, and it would just push up, and
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all the pieces would just pop, or like,
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oh.
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So those are pretty good games.
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I remember Perfection.
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And then they had a newer version of
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Perfection that came out, a little bit different.
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But they're all kind of the same.
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I don't think you can buy Perfection anymore.
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You can get it on eBay.
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But why did I bring this up?
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I brought this up because a lot of
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times we don't get where we want to
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go because we haven't practiced.
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Maybe you're climbing up a rock wall.
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And the first time you climb up, I
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don't know about you, but I think the
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rope just kind of spun, and I was
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like, oh, I just came right down.
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You have to realize that you can't be
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an expert immediately, okay?
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And so I'm going to say something I've
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said many times before.
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You don't have to be great to be
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a success.
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But you do have to take the first
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step to get there.
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So you don't have to be great to
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be a success.
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But to be a success, you do have
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to start.
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So you don't have to be great to
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be a success.
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But you have to start.
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And once you start, then you can evolve.
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Number 22, guys, why clarity improves confidence.
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Confidence grows when doubt fades.
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I've said this before.
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So when doubt fades, it's like we're getting
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this silent cheerleader.
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Does that make sense?
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You've got this cheerleader in your mind, and
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the cheerleader is saying, oh, wow, you can
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do it.
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See, many people, myself included when I was
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younger, I always waited for other people to
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pat me on the back.
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You don't need to do that anymore.
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You can be your own cheerleader.
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What about your own cheerleader is that you're
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always there for yourself.
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Maybe sometimes people are cheering me.
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No, they got tired.
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But you never get tired.
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You always cheer for yourself.
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Number 23, guys, making peace with incomplete information.
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Move without all the answers, guys.
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There's a process in computers for an algorithm.
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And the way it works is one of
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the methods, it actually guesses.
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It's a loop optimization.
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It guesses.
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And if it guesses wrong, it might guess
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right.
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It keeps processing.
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If it gets to a certain point and
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it's guessed wrong, it has to start all
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over and throw everything away.
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But sometimes, a good percentage of the time,
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it guesses right.
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So it saves some time.
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So there's a tradeoff there.
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Number 24, clarity through alignment.
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It's aligned values simplify decisions.
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Clarity, alignment.
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We don't get alignment overnight.
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We get alignment through showing up, being consistent,
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and living our core values.
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Number 25, guys, why clarity creates relief.
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Relief follows clear choices.
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When we have clear choices, we suddenly don't
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get stressed.
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We achieve what we want to do a
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lot easier.
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Number 26, letting clarity replace anxiety as direction
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dissolves anxiety.
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Let me say that again.
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Letting clarity replace anxiety.
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Direction dissolves anxiety.
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When we have our focus, our direction, our
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anxiety is minimized.
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Let me see if I can give an
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example.
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Maybe you're studying for a test, or you're
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doing this thing for a test, and you
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have so much anxiety.
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But now you've done so many practice problems,
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and now when you do it, it's like,
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well, this doesn't bother me that much anymore.
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Because now I feel confident.
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My anxiety has dropped to either nothing or
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maybe half.
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Number 27, guys, how clear thinking saves energy.
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See, confusion, I don't know if you know
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this, guys, confusion uses a lot more brain
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power.
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Yes, it does.
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It uses a lot more brain power.
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And that's a very important thing to realize.
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We want to use our energy for the
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right thing, and we don't want to waste
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our energy.
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I think that's really important to know.
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I know sometimes we're thinking about things like,
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oh my gosh, how can I do this,
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and how do I get this to work?
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And I think the way you get it
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to work is you have to give yourself
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some truth.
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You have to give yourself some truth.
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And that truth is not always easy.
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It's not always easy.
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And easy is not something that some people
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debate about.
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Easy is just something that affects whether somebody
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wants to go forward.
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I find that when something is not easy,
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we work a little bit harder, but then
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we appreciate the success from it.
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We appreciate the success from it.
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Pretty neat, right?
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Think about what that means for you.
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Think about how that changes your life.
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Think about what that could do for you.
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Quite a bit.
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Quite a bit.
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Number 28.
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Choosing direction over doubt.
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See, direction beats hesitation.
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We get clarity.
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Less exhaustion.
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More productivity.
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And this, you know what happens, guys?
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We yield to success.
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A lot of times we don't reach success
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because we burn out early.
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We burn out early.
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We've eaten all the candy in the bag.
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We've eaten all the popcorn before the movies
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even started.
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And then we get discouraged.
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You know, sometimes people say things to you
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or to me.
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And many years ago I'd be like, oh
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my gosh.
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That's terrible.
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And I would allow that to impact my
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life.
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And I'm like, okay, they said that.
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It's interesting.
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I don't agree with it.
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So I disassociate with it.
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I don't put energy into it.
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And it doesn't control me.
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When you try to, let's say, either defend
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or to take so much energy to put
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into something, if you don't agree with something,
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just let it go.
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Let it flow away like a cloud, just,
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you know, taking away your stress and all
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your worries.
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When we put that fight in, okay, if
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you don't agree with something, just don't do
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it.
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You don't need to get attached to it.
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See, that's what's causing the challenge for a
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lot of people.
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That's what causes the challenge for a lot
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of people.
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And knowing the next step can be a
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problem.
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And the last point, guys, is clarity.
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Clarity is emotional intelligence.
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Clear thinking is emotional mastery.
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Please visit BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of my,
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of course, amazing, inspiring creations.
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your computer or mobile devices 24 hours a
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day.
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And I'll catch you real soon, everyone.
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Be well, okay?
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And remember, clarity versus overthinking will yield you
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success every day.