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Self Mastery Starts With Honesty · King Dems Podcast | Growth Mindset, Leadership, AI and Business Insights

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  So you talk about holistic success.
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  So what does self mastery mean to you in a world full of noise
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  and pressure? And how does somebody begin that
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  journey to self? Mastery.
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  Damn bro that's a great question.
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  I think self mastery, there's, there's a lot of different
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  elements to it. First it's it's a willingness to
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  take a look at where you are currently and accept that.
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  Honest with honesty. I think my the biggest turning
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  point in my own self mastery journey was when I decided to be
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  100% honest. Honesty will get you super far.
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  It'll get you like 80% of the way there.
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  And here's how it happened for me in the past, I had a really
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  bad habit of telling little lies to people to get them to like me
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  more. I don't know why, bro.
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  I'll just confess that it was something that I did and I went
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  to UCLA and I joined a fraternity called Lambda Chi
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  Alpha there. And it was like my rush, my rush
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  term. And we were picking our Big
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  Brothers inside the fraternity to be our mentors, right?
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  And I put these five guys as 54321, but I told #1 and #2 that
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  they were both my number one. I still know their names, bro
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  Austin Kopp and Adam Hakim. Those are my two guys.
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  They are my top two guys. And bro, throughout the process
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  of figuring out who is going to be my big bro, this lie came out
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  and it was exposed in front of the whole fraternity dude.
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  And I had to get bro. It was terrible.
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  I felt so ashamed, I felt embarrassed.
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  And it really, 'cause we do these, I did this instinctively,
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  just try trying to survive. I think like everything that
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  somebody does, it's a survival mechanism that we feel we have
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  to do, but we don't have to do. But Long story short, man, I had
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  to give an apology in front of the entire fraternity and I had
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  to take a good look at myself, man.
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  And this is life gives us opportunities to take a good
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  look at ourselves and change. And after that, I decided, man,
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  I need to be 100% honest and not just to other people, but also
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  with myself. Like, how am I feeling?
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  What are my genuine thoughts right now?
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  And then creating space for that.
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  So I think honesty is an incredible first step in self
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  development and self mastery. Honesty, honesty and the search
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  for truth about ourselves, about the universe.
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  I think those are two very, very good things.
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  Honesty is the first step. Truth is the.
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  Direction, You know, in, in Nigeria we have we have a saying
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  that's quite popular. They say honesty is the best
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  policy. I agree with that.
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  I agree with that bro, because telling lies is like weaving a
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  spider web that you have to navigate yourself and it'll
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  eventually catch me inside of it if I, if I tell it, you know,
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  it's just it's not, it's not worth it, bro.
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  It's not worth it, bro. My my good friend Akon, he, he's
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  from Ghana, he says anything that cost me my Peace of Mind is
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  too expensive. Anything that's going to cost me
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  my Peace of Mind is too expensive.
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  And I agree 110% man. So those are my thoughts on that
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  bro. It's interesting you're actually
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  aligning with a proverb from from Nigeria.
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  So I'll say it in Yoruba and Abu translate it so they say see
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  Yoruba lofo Guan Dungushi, Buria.
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  Meaning if the lie is told and it exists for 1000 years, the
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  truth will still eventually conquer it.
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  I agree with that 110%. The truth will always come up
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  bro. Because the experience of life
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  is truth. We're experiencing truth
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  everyday man. Like life itself is truth.
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  And if I have a misperception or a misconception about how life
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  is, life experiences will show me that I am wrong.
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  Like there's certain universal principles that are just so true
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  that even if I believe they're not true, my life experiences
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  will prove them true to me overtime, so I agree with that.