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- Lucas: You know that feeling where you look up from your desk one day and realize you've been running on the wrong treadmill for six months? Luna: Oh, I've been there. It's like waking up from a fog and wondering how you ended up in this lane. Lucas: Right. And the standard advice is to do a quarterly career review — sit down every three months, assess where you're headed. But I actually think three months is too long. A lot can drift in ninety days. Luna: So you're proposing something more frequent? Lucas: I want to talk about a monthly career pivot review. One hour, same time every month, where you ask yourself a short set of questions to see if you're still pointed where you want to be. Not a full performance review — just a personal check-in. Luna: I love that. I actually started doing something similar about a year ago, and it's the reason I made a shift from client-facing work to project management. But tell me more about how you frame it. Lucas: Before I get into the mechanics — and this ties directly to why we keep this show ad-free — if this kind of practical boundary has helped you think about your own career, we'd love your support. We deliberately don't run ads on these episodes. It's a principle: no one telling you to buy something in the middle of a conversation about protecting your time. If you want to support that choice, the link is buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. Luna: Yeah, it's a small way to keep this exactly what it is — no sponsors, no interruptions. Just the two of us talking through something useful. Lucas: So back to the monthly review. I structure it around four questions. First: 'What did I work on this month that actually mattered to me?' Not what my boss thought mattered — what I felt was meaningful. Luna: That's a hard question. Because you might realize you spent forty hours on a presentation that nobody will remember in two weeks. Lucas: Exactly. And the answer isn't always pretty. But once you see the gap between what you value and what you're doing, you can start closing it. Luna: Second question? Lucas: Second: 'What drained my energy this month?' Not just tasks, but interactions, meetings, email chains — anything that left you depleted. And third: 'What energized me?' Because you need both sides to make a decision. Luna: When I did my pivot, the drain was a weekly status call with a particularly demanding client. The energy came from building out a project timeline that actually got used. Those two answers made it obvious. Lucas: And the fourth question is the kicker: 'Based on those three answers, what is one small change I can make next month?' Not a giant career overhaul — one tweak. Maybe it's delegating that draining task, or volunteering for a project that energizes you. Luna: One small change per month adds up to twelve per year. That's a lot of direction correction. Lucas: Exactly. And the reason I advocate for monthly instead of quarterly is that research on habit change shows that feedback loops shorter than ninety days are more effective. A study from the Journal of Applied Psychology found that weekly self-monitoring boosted goal attainment by 40 percent compared to monthly. But monthly is still way better than quarterly, which is basically a half-hearted new year's resolution rhythm. Luna: So you're saying quarterly is too slow to catch drift, but weekly might be too much overhead for most people. Lucas: Right. Monthly is the sweet spot. It's frequent enough that you actually remember what happened, but not so frequent that it feels like a chore. I block one hour on the last Friday of every month, same time, no exceptions. Luna: I do the same. I also add a fifth question: 'What boundary did I uphold this month, and which one did I let slip?' That one has been huge for me. Lucas: That's a great addition. Because boundaries aren't set once and forgotten. They erode if you don't revisit them. Luna: Exactly. My biggest slip was saying yes to a last-minute request on a Friday afternoon. That became a pattern until I flagged it in my review and decided to implement a 'no Friday yes' rule. Lucas: And that's the beauty of a monthly review — it turns reactive patterns into intentional decisions. You're not just drifting; you're steering. Luna: So let's talk logistics. How do you actually run the review? Pen and paper? Spreadsheet? Notes app? Lucas: I use a simple digital document with the four questions. I write stream of consciousness for about 45 minutes, then spend 15 minutes distilling the change for next month. But the format doesn't matter. What matters is that you do it. Luna: And that you're honest. I've had months where I wrote 'I spent 30 hours on busywork and I hate it.' That was uncomfortable to admit, but it forced me to talk to my manager. Lucas: Which leads to another point — the review also helps you have better conversations at work. Instead of saying 'I'm overwhelmed,' you can say 'I noticed that about 60 percent of my time this month went to reporting that doesn't actually inform any decision. Can we revisit that priority?' That's a much stronger ask. Luna: It's data-driven boundary setting. You're not complaining; you're presenting a finding. Lucas: Exactly. I've seen people use their monthly reviews to renegotiate their role, drop low-value projects, or even realize it's time to look for a new job. A friend of mine did a review every month for a year. By month eight, she realized she was consistently most energized by mentoring junior team members, not by her actual job duties. She pivoted into an internal training role within six months. Luna: That's a big shift. But it started with a simple monthly question. Lucas: Right. And the alternative is waiting for the annual review, where you get a rating and a raise that might not even reflect what you want. The monthly review is for you, not your employer. Luna: I want to push back a little, though. Doesn't this risk becoming another item on your to-do list? Another obligation that makes you feel guilty if you skip it? Lucas: That's a fair concern. I think the key is to treat it as a gift, not a chore. If a month is so chaotic that you can't do the review, that's data too. It tells you something about your pace. Luna: I like that reframe. Even skipping it is information. Lucas: Exactly. And if you miss one month, just do it the next. It's not like exercise where you lose progress. The questions are always there. Luna: One thing I'd add: I also review my calendar and email time logs. Not obsessively, but I glance at how many hours I spent in meetings versus focused work. That's another layer of truth. Lucas: That's smart. The data doesn't lie. A lot of people think they're working on strategic priorities, but their calendar says they're in back to back status updates. Luna: Exactly. And once you see that, you can make a change. For me, the monthly review is the only reason I stopped attending a weekly meeting that I didn't need to be in. I calculated I was spending about 12 hours a year in that room — 12 hours I could have used for something else. Lucas: And that's the small change that compounds. One meeting per month, one boundary per month, one pivot per quarter. Before you know it, you're working a very different job than you were a year ago — on purpose. Luna: So if someone wants to start next week, what's the first step? Lucas: Block an hour on the last Friday of this month. Write down the four questions — or five, if you add Luna's boundary question — and just start typing. Don't overthink it. The first one will feel awkward. By the third month, it'll feel essential. Luna: I'd add: set a recurring calendar invite with a note that says 'career pivot review — no rescheduling.' That protects the time from other things creeping in. Lucas: Exactly. And if you do it, I'd love to hear how it goes. The show's email is always open. But more importantly, you'll have your own data to guide you. Luna: One last thought — I think a lot of us wait until we're miserable to make a change. The monthly review catches the small discontent before it becomes a crisis. Lucas: That's the whole point. It's preventive medicine for your career. So here's to the last Friday of every month. Luna: Cheers to that.