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The Power of Therapy & Talking It Out · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Have you ever felt like you're carrying a mountain on your
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  chest, but the moment you talk about it, it feels lighter?
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  That's the power of therapy and sometimes just talking it out.
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  Today we'll explore why speaking your truth out loud can heal you
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  more than silence ever will. Hello everyone, this is Doctor
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  Mukun. Welcome back to my episode in
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  the Roadblock broadcast, The Power of Therapy and Talking It
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  Out. Let's dive into today's episode,
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  Breaking the Stigma alright? Too often therapy is
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  misunderstood by the people you know.
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  Like people think if I go to therapy then something must be
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  wrong with me. But therapy isn't about being
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  broken my dear people, its is about being human.
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  Even the strongest minds need a safe space to unload from your
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  mind. Talking to a therapist, a
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  trusted friend, or even a journal isn't a weakness, it's a
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  strategy. I call that, and I know this
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  part is very hard for men, even more worse than compared to
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  women. I know that because usually what
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  women does is they definitely have some friends or trusted
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  people or you know like their sisters or something will be
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  there. So they usually talk,
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  communicate and the feel lighter.
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  But for men it is entirely different game.
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  Mostly men go silent, they do not want to talk about it, they
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  just want to mask it and eventually they go bitter.
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  That is why I would like to enforce this once again,
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  especially for men. Guys, nothing is wrong because
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  holding it too much will damage you more than releasing it out.
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  So try try talking it to someone you trust or just try talking it
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  to yourself. If those things don't work, I
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  highly suggest you to book an appointment to a professional
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  therapist or a psychiatrist and talk to your therapist.
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  That will definitely definitely help you unpack so much from
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  your mind and makes it much more easier for you to heal.
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  Alright, please kindly do your do that right?
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  Specially for men. All right, why talking heels?
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  When we stay silent, pain grows louder inside us.
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  But the moment we give it words, we take back control of it.
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  It's like taking it out brings clarity, reduces the emotional
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  weight. Help us to see new solutions.
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  Reminds us we are not alone. Silence isolates people, talking
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  connects. But mind you people, these are
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  very sensitive topics specially for everyone.
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  These should be only shared for the people you really really
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  trust with your life. If not, I highly suggest not to
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  share with anyone including your family members.
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  If you do not feel like that something trustworthy, then 100%
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  go with the therapist that your family should not be aware of.
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  Because I know in society and in our surroundings even the word
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  we say oh I see so on South therapist or I get consultations
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  so often and all these things. There is a huge stigma around it
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  is already there. People think something is wrong
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  with you and all these things are there.
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  Those are real, I know that. So that is fine.
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  If you feel like you do not want to share anything with anybody,
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  that is absolutely fine. But make sure at least you write
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  it down or you talk you to yourself in a mirror or you
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  record yourself. It will help you in one way or
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  another to feel or make you you know get that emotional weight
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  of you know it gives so much clarity and what not.
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  So just being silent does not help in this phase.
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  So if nothing works then definitely go consult.
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  Do your research and go consult a good therapist or
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  psychiatrist. They will definitely help you
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  out in to overcome this issue. Alright, and I will give you
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  some practical ways to talk it out.
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  Alright, these things works in real life #1 like I said,
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  professional therapy, like trained experts who listens to
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  you without judgement. That's number one thing you can
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  do. It's you know how a thing works
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  #2 trusted circle one or two people who truly want the best
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  for you. I know for women it might be
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  possible, but for men I do not think it is possible because I
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  do not think in this generation men even have friends at this
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  point of time, specially the true ones.
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  We all dealt with snakes covered as friends throughout our lives.
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  So it is very hard to find a trusted circular, trusted group
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  of people these days. So I understand that.
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  So do not worry about that. Anyways, creative outlets, like
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  I said, recording yourself, journaling like something I am
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  doing right now, podcasting like right, So it all works.
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  I mean, just pull your camera out, hit the record button and
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  say something and then stop recording and observe how you
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  feel. So much lighter.
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  It works guys. It works In some way or another
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  it works. So try it.
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  Nothing strong. You don't need to post it on
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  social media or anything. Just try it for your own sake
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  and it will definitely work. And #4 spiritual conversations,
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  for example, a prayer can help you out, meditation or just
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  talking to yourself, talking to God.
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  Sometimes that will be the purest form of therapy.
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  We never know it works. Have you seen someone just
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  standing there and talking to themselves and they feel much
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  lighter? These things works guys.
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  Nothing to be wrong about. So you can do that and I will
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  also decode something. Prayer is nothing but simply
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  talking to yourself, saying what you really, really mean out of
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  this world, noise or chaos, that is all it is.
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  So it works, but do not try to like if I just said prayer.
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  So most people think the prayer definition is so different for
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  so many people because most of them think prayer is like, I
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  want this, I want that, God, please give me this, give me
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  that. No, no, no, no, no, no.
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  That is completely wrong. Perception.
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  Prayer is actually meant for you to bring back all your senses
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  and bring back all your focus to your current state of mind,
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  which should be calm and focused.
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  That is the whole point of doing a prayer, not just to fulfill
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  our wishes. God is not sitting there to
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  grant everything you ask, isn't it?
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  So anyways, let's move on. I would also like to share some
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  personal insights from my life. I will be very honest here.
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  So I had moments where silence almost kill me inside.
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  But every time I opened up, even if it was just speaking my
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  thoughts into my, the heaviness lifted and I felt that many,
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  many times. That's completely fine.
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  You know, it helps. It helps in some way or another.
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  It's not something to be worried about.
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  I mean, we have to worry about in some way, but come on, we
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  have to let things out to something that enters our heart
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  or mind needs to also exit at some point.
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  So talking does not erase the problem, but it will changes how
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  we carry it. And the difference can be life
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  saving. You know, most men go through
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  this process of hurt, pain, all these resilience, all these
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  things and they just hold on to themselves for very, very long
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  period of time. And you know what happens after
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  certain point of time? We all heard it in the news here
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  and there. So and so young guy died with a
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  heart attack. So and so I went through a
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  person's loss and lost his life. Specially all these things
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  happens to men because most of the people does not care about
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  men's feelings and they think its weakness.
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  I do not know how and when this happened but most people think
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  that way and I strongly do not think it is not about men or
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  women or any other genders. It is all about you being a
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  human being in the 1st place. So irrespective of gender or
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  what not, you have to respect yourself and no one is coming
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  guys, you have to take the first step.
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  I know the world can be very cruel sometimes, that specially
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  towards man, it is going to be very very, very, very very cruel
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  and even our own people gonna dismiss your feelings.
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  I know that. So in order for anyone who does
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  not have any support system or anything, just follow my
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  advices. You know, it will definitely
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  help you in one way or another. There are so many free advices
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  also there what I said in this port, in this episode.
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  So it will definitely help you but while doing it, do not
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  sugarcoat yourself alright? Be the truest and Royce form of
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  yourself. So that is going to help you in
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  so many ways that you cannot even imagine.
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  This is possible and for most people, these things will
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  definitely help you to get out of the situation.
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  But if you go into somethings like, you know, especially like
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  military people or security, all these people, they go through
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  hell of a trauma that we cannot even imagine.
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  And for them, I do not think it really works.
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  They literally needs a therapist because the things they went
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  through and all these things are very, very different from
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  average human beings. They literally lost their lives
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  or amputated or got shot. We never know.
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  So their traumas are very very different.
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  Don't compare yourself or if you want to feel it much easier,
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  just think about like people who are laying lives for your
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  country and when you compare with them, your trauma or your
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  problem will become a little bit smaller so that you can feel at
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  ease at least a little bit. But trust me, if you are someone
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  like veteran or a military person who works in security and
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  stuff like that, then definitely I highly, highly, highly suggest
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  you to get a good therapist online and talk to them, keep in
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  touch with them and get the suggestions from them every now
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  and then. Definitely it will helps you in
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  one another so that you can slowly try to have a normal
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  life. So yeah, I know guys, you got to
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  be very, very kind to your fellow human being in the 1st
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  place because your colleague, your friend or a random person
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  on road, you never know what they are carrying.
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  You never know, somebody might be at verge of taking their
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  lives off. You never know.
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  Because I would like to share something, you know, I have, you
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  know, like we have seen this in when I was in college, I think,
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  I think first year or second year we are all like, you know,
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  having study groups and stuff like that.
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  And suddenly one guy just jumped out of a building from second
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  floor. You know why?
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  Because some professor or someone said something and he
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  got just triggered and he jumped out of a building and that
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  shocked everybody. He looks normal, he speaks
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  normal, but you know what? He is carrying that pain from
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  way longer time for various reasons.
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  That's why I always try to tell people you never know what the
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  other person is actually carrying.
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  They might smile, they might be kind, they might be all jolly
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  and stuff, but still, we never know.
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  So try to be kind as much as you can.
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  But I am not saying kind in every situation, but at least be
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  kind when you notice someone is going through something, be
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  considerate and kind as much as you can.
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  It helps them. You know one way or another you
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  are trying to save someone's life.
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  You never know that but it does help that person.
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  Unintentionally. You will become the lifesaver
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  without you knowing that you are a lifesaver of that person.
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  That's the power of kindness guys.
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  So try to be kind as much as you can and saves a life.
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  Alright so here is my challenge for you.
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  Who is the one person you can talk to this week?
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  Or what is one thought you have been holding in that you can
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  finally put into your words? Remember, therapy isn't about
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  weakness, its is about wisdom, and talking it out isn't about
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  bothering others, its about setting yourself free.
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  Keep that in mind guys, never forward this.
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  Alright? Thank you so much for tuning in.
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  If this episode gave you something to think about, share
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  it with someone who needs to hear it.
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  Until next time, keep moving, keep growing, and keep building
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  the best version of yourself. I know you can all do it.
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  This is Doctor Mukun signing off.
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  I'll catch you on the next episode.
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  Bye bye. Take care.