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Why You’re Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People (and How to Heal the Pattern) · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone who appears
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  Speaker 1: distant or emotionally unavailable? For example, they are hot and
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  Speaker 1: cold or they say they're not ready for a relationship
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  Speaker 1: or commitment. You know this isn't good for you, but
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  Speaker 1: instead of giving up on them, it leaves you wanting
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  Speaker 1: them more. You're not alone in feeling this way and
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  Speaker 1: it's completely normal. Today, we'll be talking about why this
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  Speaker 1: happens and what you can do to avoid it. healer.
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  Speaker 1: Even if you notice that your crush is a bit
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  Speaker 1: on the emotionally cooler side, you may still be drawn
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  Speaker 1: to the idea of being the one that inspires them
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  Speaker 1: to change. That's when you delve into psychology books, analyze
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  Speaker 1: their childhood wounds, and google the best strategies to help
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  Speaker 1: them open up. This is because, as humans, we all
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  Speaker 1: have an innate desire for positive transformation. And the thought
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  Speaker 1: of accomplishing such change in someone can be incredibly attractive.
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  Speaker 1: All this comes to show your empathetic nature. But unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot fight their battles. They need to want help
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  Speaker 1: before you can help them. Until then, being there for
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  Speaker 1: yourself is the best thing you can do. You may
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  Speaker 1: also be unconsciously attracted to these individuals due to past
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  Speaker 1: wounds or experiences. Maybe you had an emotionally unavailable parent,
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  Speaker 1: causing you to crave their love and attention. Now, you're
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  Speaker 1: finding familiarity in this dynamic and subconsciously seeking to heal
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  Speaker 1: those past patterns. You might believe that if you manage
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  Speaker 1: to get them to open up and love you, it
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  Speaker 1: would be like filling the void left by your parents'
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  Speaker 1: emotional distance. The Need to Hide These past wounds can
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  Speaker 1: sometimes create intimacy issues and dating these kinds of partners
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  Speaker 1: can paradoxically seem like a safe space to you if
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  Speaker 1: you struggle with showing your true self. Do you often
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  Speaker 1: fear that by being the true you, they won't like
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  Speaker 1: what they see and will leave? Or maybe you feel
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  Speaker 1: that by showing your authentic needs and desires, they'll think
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  Speaker 1: you're too much? A partner who keeps their emotions at
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  Speaker 1: a distance won't ask you to share all the complicated stuff.
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  Speaker 1: They're not really interested in the real, messy parts of
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  Speaker 1: their partners. And if you feel the need to hide,
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  Speaker 1: being with them feels like a relief. Surprisingly, emotionally distant
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  Speaker 1: partners are not always cold and withdrawn. At times, they're
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  Speaker 1: warm and open, showering you with affection. But then they
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  Speaker 1: pull back, leaving you craving more. This tricky mind game
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  Speaker 1: is called intermittent reinforcement. And what makes it so attractive
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  Speaker 1: is the more they pull away, the harder you're drawn in.
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  Speaker 1: Those rare moments of closeness turn into emotional treasures, making
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  Speaker 1: you excited to experience them again and running back for
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  Speaker 1: more every time. This type of manipulation is highly toxic
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  Speaker 1: and these people may do it intentionally to keep you trapped.
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  Speaker 1: Being aware of this tactic may help you recognize it
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  Speaker 1: right away and protect yourself from being manipulated. Captivating Independence
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  Speaker 1: You mistake their emotional unavailability for independence. They seem strong
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  Speaker 1: and resilient, capable of handling every situation and finding a
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  Speaker 1: solution to any problem. And doesn't that sound like a
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  Speaker 1: perfect partner? Well, while independence is important, your partner should
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  Speaker 1: still see you as an important part of their lives.
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  Speaker 1: Finding someone who cares about shared activities and taking care
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  Speaker 1: of each other while still allowing space for individual growth,
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  Speaker 1: should be the top of your priorities to avoid this
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  Speaker 1: independent trap. Now you've seen some reasons why these people
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  Speaker 1: might appear so appealing, but have you ever wondered why
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  Speaker 1: they are this way? To find out, check out 6
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  Speaker 1: reasons why someone is emotionally distant. If you found this
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