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Holding Joy and Grief At The Same Time · Purpose of Heart Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Purpose of Heart, the podcast, where real stories meet God's promises.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Priscilla Allman, and every week we dive into powerful conversations about purpose and the pressure through caregiving, illness, grief, addiction, and more.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've ever asked God, where are you in this?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever experienced a season of your life where something beautiful was happening?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, while at the very same time your heart was carrying deep grief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you were celebrating a milestone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you were stepping into a new opportunity or walking into something you had prayed for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yet, in the quiet moments, there was still a heaviness, a loss, a goodbye, a person you wish was still there to witness it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you find yourself asking, is it okay to feel both?
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're gonna talk about what it looks like to hold both joy and grief at the same time, and how God meets us in that in-between space.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Purpose of Heart, the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Priscilla Allman, and today we're gonna be talking about um complexed and layered seasons, um, and sometimes when stuff doesn't really just make a lot of sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are times in life when emotions feel really clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know if you're happy, you know if you're grieving, but there are seasons where those lines also blur, where joy and sorrow seem to exist side by side.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if we're not careful, we can feel like there's something maybe a little bit wrong with us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I want to remind you that God created a space for both.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a kind of unique tension that comes when life holds two opposing realities.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might be starting something new while mourning something that you've lost, graduating but grieving someone who isn't there, celebrating while quietly holding sadness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes people around you only see the good.
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  SPEAKER_00: They see the achievement, the blessing, the answered prayer, but they don't always see the part of your heart that's still tender.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you may feel pressure to choose one emotion, to be fully happy, to move on quickly, to just focus on the positive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But scripture shows us something different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ecclesiastes 3:4 says a time to weep, a time to laugh, a time to mourn, and a time to dance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life is not always one or the other, sometimes it's both.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the most comforting truths is that Jesus understands Greek.
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  SPEAKER_00: In John 11, we see a moment where Jesus stands at the tomb of Lazarus.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even though he knows what he's about to do, even though he knows that um resurrection is coming, scripture tells us something so simple yet so powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus wept, and that's John 11, 35.
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  SPEAKER_00: He allowed himself to feel the weight of loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: He did not rush past it, he did not ignore it, he did not dismiss it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This reminds us that grief is not a sign of weak faith, it's a reflection of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we can feel guilty for experiencing joy in the middle of grief.
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  SPEAKER_00: We think, how can I smile when I'm still hurting?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I celebrate when I've lost something so meaningful?
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  SPEAKER_00: But joy and grief are not opposites that cancel each other out.
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  SPEAKER_00: They can exist together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Psalm 35 reminds us weeping may endure for night, but joy comes in the morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: This verse doesn't say weeping disappears immediately.
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  SPEAKER_00: It acknowledges its presence and still makes room for joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy doesn't mean you've forgotten.
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy doesn't mean that the loss doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy doesn't mean that the grief is gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: It simply means light can enter, even when parts of your heart still feel heavy.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the reasons these types of seasons can feel so confusing is because grief does not move in a straight line.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some days feel lighter, other days the weight returns unexpectedly.
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  SPEAKER_00: A memory, a date, a moment you wish you could share, and suddenly the grief feels close again.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is part of the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Psalm 34, 18 says, The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart and saves such as have a contrite spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: God does not expect you to rush your healing, He meets you in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: He draws near.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not when you've moved on, but right in the middle of the brokenness.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how do we practically walk through seasons where joy and grief coexist?
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  SPEAKER_00: Here are a few gentle practices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give yourself permission to feel both.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to choose one emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can celebrate and still miss someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can feel gratitude and still feel sadness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Both can be true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Invite God into both spaces.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we bring our prayers only to the joyful moments or only to the painful ones, but God wants both.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can say, Lord, thank you for this blessing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But and also, my heart still hurts.
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  SPEAKER_00: God's not overwhelmed by the complexity of your emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if we're gonna be completely honest, he knows exactly what you're feeling better than you even do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you might as well just tell him anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: He can also help to clarify some things for you, too.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can honor also what you've lost.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grief often carries love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so take time to remember, to reflect, to honor the person uh or the season that mattered to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That remembrance isn't weakness, it's meaningful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stay present in the moment that you're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so easy to feel pulled between the past and the present, but there's grace for today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even in a mixed season, there are small moments of peace, connection, and beauty.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allow yourself to receive from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you find yourself in a season where joy and grief are walking side by side, I want to gently remind you that there's nothing wrong with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is part of being human.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a part of loving deeply, this is a part of life that holds both beauty and loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in the middle of it all, God is present.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's present in your joy, he's present in your grief, he's present in the quiet moments in between.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for spending this time with me today on Purpose of Heart, the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with someone who may be walking through a similar season.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember this: you don't have to choose between grief and joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the most meaningful seasons are the ones where both exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: And God meets you right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, my friends, I'll see you soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't wait to walk with you again in next week's episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: See you there.