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LESSONS LEARNED LISTENING TO A WOMEN OVER 50 PODCAST · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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Welcome everybody to Uncluttered and Unfiltered with a podcast
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for women over 50 and oh boy are we being women over 50 today.
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We. Are.
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We are so, so little background today.
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Christine and I are, it's a Saturday afternoon that we're
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recording this and we are going to try something new, which is
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we are in our own homes. I'm in my home, Christine is in
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her home. So hopefully the sound is good
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and you are able to hear us. OK.
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But we want to tell you a little bit about the process that
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brought us to this because this is an episode about we've
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learned from doing this podcast these things.
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And on our end, we've learned a few technical things.
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So first, let's tell about what happened last week when we were
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attempting this. And for the life of us, we could
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not figure out why these microphones that we just bought
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in Amazon and this program that I downloaded and thought I had
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done enough research about why we couldn't hear ourselves.
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We were on mute. We, both of us.
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We both had a, we had both mashed the button on our
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microphone that said mute. Yeah, it was flashing.
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And it took us maybe 20 minutes to come up with that.
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Idea Yes, we had to use our phones in conjunction to figure
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out why we couldn't hear each other.
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So then, then we thought that maybe today we were having
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issues and we thought it was because we didn't have the
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button on them on the headphones turned on.
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But I don't think did it turn out that was what it was.
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No, it wasn't. No, I didn't have.
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I had to go into some setting on my.
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Computer. It's just, I don't know, I'm not
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into this kind of technical stuff.
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Well the the the point of the story is that we learn and we
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hope you learn. So I went into ChatGPT and I
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asked the question, what can someone have learned if they
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have listened to all of the episodes of Uncluttered and
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Unfiltered? And the list it turned out was
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super cool. It was like.
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Everything dead on. It was dead on.
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It was everything we had hoped. It was things about
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organization, but it was also things about health and Wellness
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and finances, relationships, friendships, alone time.
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It was really cool, and that's with your help.
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Everybody listening contributed topics they wanted to hear
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about, so we were really grateful.
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And you weren't surprised. You said from the beginning
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that's exactly dead on. I, I thought it was exactly dead
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on and it made me just smile because that's exactly what we
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were hoping to achieve. Is it what it laid out, which is
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like you said, a little bit of everything for women over 50.
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So. So I, I thought it would be fun
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to do an episode of things that we have learned, you and I have
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learned through the course of doing this.
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And yeah, some of it's going to be the very same things that you
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guys have learned from listening.
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But here I am like face to face with Chris week after week.
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And I have learned a great deal, whether it's something that she
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has told me or something that I picked up from someone we've
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interviewed. So I want to start with the 1st
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and most important thing that I've learned and you guys
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probably learned along with me. Maybe some of you knew it.
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And this was from an episode that we did about true crime.
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I never knew that you could murder someone with Visine eye
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drops. Oh, the things I've taught you.
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I mean, I can't even, Yeah. I mean, you know, me being the
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crime junkie that I am, if, if there's a way, I'll let you know
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because I've seen every episode of Dateline in 2020, so I know
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every way there is. So that's one of them.
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And the thing about that is I guess it's something kind of
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undetectable until now. I guess people probably in in
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the and the labs look for the advisees.
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Yes. So you can't.
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Do it. Anything anymore between cameras
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and the detection of chemicals in your body, I don't know why
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people even waste their time. They're going to get caught.
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Just saying. OK, so that's something I've
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learned. I also learned from you about
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the potatoes, the potatoes. We explain the potatoes to
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someone who maybe this is their first ever time listening to our
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podcast. Well, this was told to me by a
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friend of mine and it just rings true when someone in your life,
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it could be a friend, it could be a family member, your kids,
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whoever, they come, they vent, they tell you, oh, they cry,
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they carry on. And then they leave.
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And then you're like all hysterical and think about it
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all day long. And you call them and you go,
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how are you doing? And they're like, about what?
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And then you're like, what do you mean about what?
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Like, no, I'm fine, I'm fine. But all day you've been worried
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and stressing. And so every time think about
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how many people do that to you in your life.
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They're bringing you a potato before you know you have a sack
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of potatoes. You're like, I don't want any
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more potatoes. I'm good.
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You know what? I mean, so the trick is to nip
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it in the bud to hand back that potato before it's in your lap.
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So some of the things that you taught me and hopefully everyone
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else listening were to say things like, are you looking for
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my advice? Do you need my help?
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What is it exactly you're you're hoping to gain from bringing me
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this issue that you have? And especially when you have
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adult children. Yeah, And I just went through
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this this week where I was telling my husband, oh, our
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daughter let a prescription expire without doing what I
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suggested she do a month ago when our doctor changed
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practices. And that is get your records
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taken from one doctor, move them to the other doctor, go ahead
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and see her. So you have a record of being a
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patient at her new practice. None of this happened.
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And so now she's no. So now she's scrambling.
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And my husband said to me, well, how are you enjoying those
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potatoes? And like, you know what,
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fortunately they were fast potatoes because I said that's
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what you can do at the minute clinic.
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You can go there. Yeah, they'll renew.
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You can. You can find a way, but and then
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she took it from there because I think both of my kids are
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learning. Uh oh, this this lady.
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Auntie Christine is making it very difficult to drop potatoes
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in Mama's lap. I love that they're like cursing
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me under. Oh, you told her not to take our
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potatoes? Yeah, we have.
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To carry them ourselves, Everybody out there that has
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adult children, it's hard and it takes practice.
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It doesn't happen overnight. You practice on both ends.
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Yes. Practice on both ends.
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The other thing I learned is that if you don't watch out for
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your pelvic floor strength, your organs can literally fall out of
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your body. You knew that when Laura Bunso,
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when Laura Bunso, the physical therapist joined us for the
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episode about pelvic floor strength.
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I just, I mean, the look on both of our faces, even though you
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you kind of knew, but we were both like, I'm sorry, say what
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what like, and that is an issue for people.
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This kind of thing does happen. So if you are concerned, you can
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go back and listen to our episode about strengthening your
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pelvic floor. It's a it's a good idea.
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It's a very good episode, so much to learn it that I had no
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idea. And you know, get as we get into
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the organizational aspect of it, one of the things I learned was
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about the Swedish death cleaning.
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Can you elaborate on that? I love this concept because I've
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followed this through all the years I've been an organizer.
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And it's not waiting until you die and let someone else take
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over getting rid of your stuff. It's doing it while you are
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alive, having parties where you give your stuff away, giving
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things to your grandkids, your kids now while you're alive and
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not waiting and making it somebody else's responsibility.
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And I have preached that for years.
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And I just think, you know, people always call me in when
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someone passes away and they're left with all this stuff.
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So I see the emotional side of someone going, I've had to deal
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with this and I don't want to deal with this.
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I've already lost so and so a parent, a spouse, and now I have
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to go through all their stuff. So doing it before you die is
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helping your family. Just going through your own
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stuff and only keeping what you really really need and getting
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rid of the rest. And listen, they don't need the
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aggravation of going through your stuff.
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They're too busy waiting for the autopsy to come back and see if
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Visine is in your system. Yeah, they're, they're too busy
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saying this is suspicious. This is.
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Sketchy. She just filled out that life
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insurance application. Right.
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That's a dead giveaway, by the way.
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That's another thing, yeah. Exactly.
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OK. So as long as we're on this
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subject of organization and that I wanted to ask you this because
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I just this is off off topic of our little recap we're doing
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right now. But I saw on your neatly
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designed Instagram, that's Christine's company that you
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these guys rolled up in their truck to take away everything
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from the garage. And you referred to them as my
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guys. And I'm like, they must, every
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one of these companies must know you around town.
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They're they're really like, there she is.
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She's got work for us again. I just, you know, I really think
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that people do not rely on enough of, on other people to
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get the job done quickly. And that's where I come in,
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because I have things disappear in hours.
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It was very cool. I'd like to send everybody to
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that. I'm going to link in the show
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notes that video because it was really cool that this garage was
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just full, just full of everything.
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You can think of it because they had purged their home and put it
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all into the garage. And then up rolls this truck,
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which is one of the things I was going to say I learned from you.
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And that is when you're doing a big purge, when you're doing a
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big clean out, schedule a pickup so that you don't procrastinate,
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that you don't take your eye off the ball or find yourself
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wondering what you're going to do with everything.
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If that truck is already scheduled to pull up into your
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driveway, it's got to go. Well, even this client said
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you're right. When I went back the very next
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day, she goes, everyone tried to pick through the stuff.
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And I said, I told you that's why we had him come at like 8:30
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in the morning. Because people in your family
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and yourself will try to pick back through things that you've
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already decided to let go of. And so it's so important to
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decide where the items are going before you even start a project.
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Another thing and and I loved that we had guests to talk about
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both of these topics, but dry eyes and flat feet.
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All right, so I learned well, I, I, I mean, I, I know everything
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dries out. We've talked about that before
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everything dries out, your hair, your scalp, your, your, your
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nasal passages is your eyes. And of course, woo Hoo
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everywhere else. So, but as you age, but the dry
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eyes, we learned together that there were some recourses beyond
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just doing the drops that are on TV all the time.
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We learned that the the plugs, I and I had this done.
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I think you did too. I put the little plugs in your
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tear ducts. Yes, I had to.
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There are just all kinds of things and then you even had a
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procedure that the eye doctor that was on our our show and you
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can go back and find that pretty easily too in our in our index
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that she did a procedure where she cleaned out under your
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eyelids and everything all the build up.
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You loved it, right? I loved it.
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I think that that's like, you know, you go to the spa for, you
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know, certain things of facial to me that should be, especially
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as you get older, something you just include because it feels
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good. And when they're doing it.
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And then also your eyes feel so clean and you know all the
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debris you collect for make wake up and sleeping and rubbing your
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eyes or it just cleans everything out.
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And doing it twice a year I think is a must.
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So the, the procedure, I didn't write it down.
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It starts with blef, right? Blef, blef something.
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But it's, it's you can ask your eye doctor anyway because you
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wouldn't want to try to do this without finding out if it's
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right for you. Anything we have said a million
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times, we're just not doctors. We're just super curious.
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The feet thing, that was a very recent episode where podiatrist
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Doctor Don Miles talked about how we lose fat.
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Well, you brought it up that we lose fat in the bottom of our
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feet. And then Christine says, and I
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have no idea, I read that people are having silica and injected
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into the feet so that they can wear their high heels.
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What? What wild so but you're I would.
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Do it. I would do that too.
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If I if I really thought it would help, I would do that
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because I'm one of those people that has have to wear those
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inserts of gel padding in the ball on my foot because if not
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it just it, it gets painful. But but she did say it was
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temporary. So for me, I think I would just
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go with the inserts all the time.
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But I guess if you were somebody who that really is, you're out
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there fashion forward all the time and you want those heels.
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She talked about the wedges and the block heels being better
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than it's all about just the the balance of it all and spreading
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your weight through the bottom. So that was a great episode.
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If you missed that, it was pretty recent.
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What about you? Are there any favorite moments
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or any anything Chris that like? I do.
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I am good. First of all, doing the Golden
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Bachelor, all those episodes, I absolutely loved it.
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Number one, I thought it was so funny and #2 I am like
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fascinated with the over 50 dating scene because it's so
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bizarre once you hit a certain age to get out there again and
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start dating. And we had the woman on about
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dating. And I love so.
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Much. Yeah.
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And I learned so much from her too, because I felt like her
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tips are bringing you to this day and age.
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You know what I mean? You can't date the way you used
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to date. And I just find it fascinating
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because I'm a woman who has been married 37 years.
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So I would need help like that woman gave because it's so
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different out here. So I love to hear what men are
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thinking, what women are thinking, how it all works, this
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stage of life. I'm fascinated.
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You know what else I loved about her?
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She, I don't have her last name in front of me of Doctor Kimmy,
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Kimmy, Kimmy, she was great. We'll have her back.
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She was great. She was great.
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She talked about the red dress moment and that aligns very well
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with something that I learned from you, which I kind of was
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not really thrown into it until I had a recent career change
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where I am back on TV on a daily basis.
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But the red dress moment was she put on this red dress and she
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just felt fantastic. And it changed her confidence
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level. It changed her energy.
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It changed the way she felt people were responding to her.
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And you have always said it's worth it.
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It's worth your time to put on a little bit of makeup or put on
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an outfit that looks nice. Not expensive, not fancy, but
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something nice when you leave the house.
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More than and, and I am well known, in fact, locally in
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Jacksonville, they I still am in contact with the radio station
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where I did mornings for so many years.
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And I was striving to work the other day and they were talking
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about pajamas and sleeping in the nude and wearing pajamas.
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And they brought my name up and said, well, Eden wore pajamas to
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work. So I mean, that's kind of my
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thing. I always wore sweatpants,
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pajamas. Now I have to get a dress on,
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curlers in my hair, a full face to make up even the lashes.
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And I got to say, the whole day, I have energy, I feel.
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I'm smiling at everyone, they're smiling back at me and I just
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think it really creates. And I'm not saying everybody
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needs to do that every day, but I just you'll.
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Sign tinted moisturizer, Yeah. You know what I mean?
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That maybe, maybe a little mascara.
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Like tinted moisturizer, some bronzer and some mascara.
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I mean it can be very very simple.
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Very. And that's something we also
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talked about with George Brescia.
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Fashion, fashion icon George Brescia was on.
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And from him, we learned a lot about colors.
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We didn't necessarily abide by everything.
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I mean, you still tried. George, I tried to wear red, it
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just is not my thing, but I tried.
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But I started leaning more towards blue because he
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suggested that. So I think we all learned a lot
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from him. But what I love too is he said,
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you know, you're not invisible. He said that so many of his
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clients will tell him that they'll run to the grocery store
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and think they're not going to see anyone.
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And then they run into somebody and he's like, of course
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someone's going to see you. You're not invisible.
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So. And so that's.
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Always run into somebody. Always.
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Don't want to know how many times that's happened to me
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where I'm like, I'm just going to go run in for one thing.
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And then you see two people that you're like, I just wanted no
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makeup, sweatpants. I just want to run in.
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So he's right. You're not invisible.
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You're going to see someone somewhere.
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What else? Anything else that we want to
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hit on? Because I know we've had so many
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episodes. Oh my God, we've had it's it'll
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be three years in August. It will.
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I mean, that's a lot of episodes.
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A lot, a lot. There are so many things that
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we've covered. I learned that Christine Stone
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hates with a fiery Passion Pit in her belly storage units.
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Yes, I do. I think, I think the only people
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that are winning from that is the people who own the storage
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unit owners. Because so many people are
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investing their money into these units.
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They never go there. They don't know what's in them,
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but they're paying a monthly or yearly bill to keep them because
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the thought of going through sentimental items is just
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unbearable. And it's a monkey on your back.
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That's what you called it. It's something that you're
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always thinking about, like I need to do this.
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Why am I not doing this? So and of course there's and you
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learned that I set alarms. Yes.
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For everything. That's my alarm going.
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Off so much because you also hate to talk on the phone.
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You hate it, I hate it. I mean, you'll do it for.
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Me, I will. Do it for me.
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But I can tell you're doing it for me.
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You know what I mean? Yes, but I also learned from you
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that too much falls through the cracks when we don't have phone
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conversations. I learned from you that there is
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so much more that you can get done when you're willing to
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invest the time, pick up the phone and call someone.
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In fact, even in at work now, I'll do that because it just
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solves. I had a woman, I was on a text
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thread and she's yesterday and she said can we just chat?
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Right, right. And we did.
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Texting, everything gets lost. In everything gets lost.
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Like, like I was telling you, oh, shoot, I thought you meant
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this. Like, yes, because people are so
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busy that they're short reading it.
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They're not thoroughly reading it because they have maybe three
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other texts going at the same time.
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Well, and that was part of another thing I they learned in
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the course of things, and that is slow down.
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We just had an episode about that.
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Slow it down, slow it down. Give the person on the other end
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of this conversation the time they deserve.
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Right, I totally agree with that.
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Yeah. And and I wasn't doing that.
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And so I'm learning. I learn every day and I learned
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that I can learn. And if you are listening to this
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and you don't think that you're able to learn a new trick
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because you're an old dog, it's just not true.
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We learn. And one thing I can say that I
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have learned from you in these past three years, I've never
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seen anyone who can learn so quickly.
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Like, I am not a quick learner at all.
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I'll eventually learn it, but not quickly.
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You can pick up on something so quickly.
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And it fascinates me because I'm like, is it because she's 58 and
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four years she'll be like me? Or like I start try to analyze
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it. How does she learn it so
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quickly? Then I start to think maybe she
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was born that way. Like I analyze it because I'm
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like, fascinated how fast you learn new things.
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Anyway, that was a sidebar. Oh my gosh, that's funny.
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And I appreciate that. And I also have learned that
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there's a difference between 62 and 58.
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It's four years of youth, four years of becoming more and more.
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No, I'm kidding, because I mean, you're, you're fantastic at 62.
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I'm fantastic at 58. Everybody should understand that
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we are absolutely the new versions.
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All of us listening. The world today is different.
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We're not 62 from when you know, our grandparents were 62 is a
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completely different way The Golden Girls.
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Yeah, but she's just say one thing when people say 52's the
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new 42's, 68's the new 58. I physically maybe you know, the
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way you look on the outside, but I, I'm here to say inside, no
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matter how well you take care of yourself because I do.
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I eat good, you know, whatever it's it's just your body is not
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the same. The recovery is so much slower,
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so much slower, but also the mental like you can't accumulate
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58 soon to be 59 years of stuff and not have the a little bit of
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judginess about you a little bit of I I should have asked me
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because I could have told you this was going to happen going
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on. And let me let me give you an
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example. So today I was out driving and I
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saw these 4 little girls and these girls had to be 11 or
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under and three of them were on electric bikes.
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One of them one is on an electric scooter.
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They had helmets on. I don't either but I remember
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thinking gosh I looked so forward to the birthday where I
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got a 10 speed and what is it like for these kids right now?
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Where a couple kids in their class have electric bikes, is
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that now the goal? Instead of I can't wait till I
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get a 10 speed, Now it's I can't wait till I get a little
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electric bike. And I was like, am I being like
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an old lady right now? Am I having those thoughts of
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it's really none of my business? Well, I'll age myself even more.
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I won a banana bike, remember With the banana.
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Yes, the banana. Seeds I won that in a contest at
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a movie theater, and you would have thought I won $1,000,000.
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So I mean that I know what you're saying.
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Like we got so excited about the such different things.
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I don't know. Yeah.
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I mean, that's where they say boomer, boomer, boomer, boomer.
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I think what basically we've done now is recapped 3 years and
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we've only skimmed the surface. So please, if you're new to us,
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go back and listen to some other episodes.
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We have a whole library of them, maybe a little rougher than
27:37
others because, you know, we've tried a lot of different things,
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a lot of different ways. Also, I want to let everybody
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know that there are things that you can do that will help move
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this podcast along, like leaving reviews and giving us the thumbs
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up and telling a friend. That's what we mostly would love
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is if you would tell one friend that's a woman over 50, sister,
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cousin, whoever. And by all means, please do join
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us on Facebook. We have a private group called
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Uncluttered and Unfiltered Ladies Only.
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Just put that in your search bar.
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We'll see your request to join. We'll let you in.
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And you know, it's not like any shady stuff goes on in there,
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but it's a safe place because the only people in there are
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other like minded women. So we would love to have you
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there. In the meantime, remember the
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idea that you just can't learn anything because you're too old?
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You can let that go. And don't look back.