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HHBSO 22: It's Not Fate, I'm Just Lazy · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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  Hello, Welcome to Heats Hot, but something's off with me.
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  Just Joey T for those watching the video version of the podcast
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  that's available on Spotify on my YouTube channel.
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  Just Joey TI am wearing a headband that I usually wear
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  when I'm in the bathroom and put a moisturizer or toner or
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  whatnot on my face. My hair has gone so long that it
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  is actively poking into my eyes. So even when I'm at home I'm
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  wearing a headband like this just to keep the hair out of my
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  eyes. Or I'm wearing a hat and I
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  haven't actually done up my hair, like try to style my hair
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  for I think two or three weeks now and I'm just going to the
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  gym with a hat. Anytime I go off the house to do
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  anything, I'm wearing a hat. But I grew up my hair early in
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  the pandemic, and it's been some version of long for, I don't
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  know. We're three years now since the
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  pandemic started, and I've got an appointment with my hair
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  stylist this week to get it to be quite a lot shorter.
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  I was rewatching one of my YouTube videos from, I don't
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  know, the end of about a year ago, and my hair was quite a bit
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  shorter. And I think I'm going to take a
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  chunk of my hair, oh, I'm going to have them cut it to be like
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  half the length that it is. You can't see it exactly how
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  long it is right now. But if I pull it down in front
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  of my forehead, in front of my face, it definitely goes down.
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  I think I can touch the tip of my nose, like the bottom of my
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  nose. That's how long it is.
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  I love that. Well, I don't love it, but I'm
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  kind of thankful in a unthankful way that my hair has a lot of
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  volume because a lot of people sometimes get comments.
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  They say, oh wow, your hair looks so great, it's got so much
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  volume. What do you do to it?
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  And I told them there's no product in my hair and I didn't
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  use a hair dryer today. I got that comment, like earlier
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  this month. So I'm kind of thankful that my
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  hair has a lot of volume in it because a lot of people would
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  love more volume. I hear people complain about how
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  the hair is a limp and flat all the time.
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  You always want what you don't have, right?
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  The grass is always green on the other side.
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  So I actually want my hair to not have so much volume.
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  And it's really annoying when my hair is shorter because my hair
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  was just straight out in every which direction.
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  It doesn't want to lay flat. And for shorter men's
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  hairstyles, that is not usually like a desirable thing.
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  But when I grew my hair out early in the pandemic, I found
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  that that, oh, with the hair that I have, it's kind of nice
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  have it be longer because it kind of weighs and pulls the
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  hair down so that it doesn't just like fly in whatever
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  direction by itself. And it's actually kind of easier
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  to style, but it's sometimes long hair is annoying.
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  I don't know how people that was super long hair.
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  Usually girls that have hair that is down to their neck or
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  below their shoulders have really long hair.
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  It just sounds like super annoying.
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  I mean my hair is not even that long.
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  Honestly by men's standards is kind of on the longer side, but
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  like hair can go way longer. It's already so annoying.
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  So this week I'm getting it trimmed.
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  I would get have gotten trimmed earlier except my hairstyles,
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  which I love. He's great and he's where my gym
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  is and he does an awesome job. It's the first time I found a
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  hair stylist that first of all, I was just like a good person.
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  Like it's good to chat with him, could hang out with him, but is
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  also like a good hair. Styles actually understands my
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  weird hair. He is not the least expensive
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  person to go to for a haircut, and on my It doesn't fit into my
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  budget to get a haircut from him as frequently as I would like.
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  So the last time I went in for a haircut, I'm going every two
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  months to get a haircut, and my hair grows fast enough that if
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  the money wasn't a concern, I should be going to him every
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  three weeks. So we're pushing 12 weeks,
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  honestly. And I sometimes will cut my
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  hair, trim the side by myself. So that's what I did about a
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  month ago, but it's so unmanageable now that I'm going
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  to go see him and then drop the cash that you have to, you have
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  to tip your hairstylist. Honestly, it's like when you go
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  to a bar that you have to tip. The bartender is kind of sort of
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  like that. One of the reasons I'm getting
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  the haircut now because usually these days, because I'm at home
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  so much, I'll get a haircut before I go to some sort of
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  event. So if I'm about to go on the
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  cruise, go on a vacation, go on some sort of trip where I'll
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  see, like I don't know, actual people, then I'll get my
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  haircut. But I don't have any parties or
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  any trips or anything coming up. But one of the reasons I'm doing
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  it now is because I'm going to try to get into TikTok.
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  This is how old and out of touch I am with what quote UN quote
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  kids are doing these days. I had to Google like what are
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  some easy to make type of TikTok videos because I need to get
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  into TikTok for like marketing reasons.
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  So it's partially to start getting more comfortable with
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  TikTok for the business that I'm trying to start.
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  As part of the strategy is marketing is so key when it
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  comes to any sort of business, especially these days.
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  We need to market on Instagram, on Twitter, on TikTok, on
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  Facebook, like everything. The the old, not old but the
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  more traditional way of advertising where you run ads on
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  websites and that kind of stuff. I mean that's there's still a
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  place for that, but people spend so much time on social media
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  that I have to have some basic understanding of all the major
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  platforms. And I don't really use TikTok,
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  so I don't really understand. It's like a whole different
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  role. I feel like TikTok is not like
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  Twitter. And by the way, I refuse to call
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  it X I'm just going to call it Twitter because X is a dumb name
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  and like I'm just going to call it Twitter.
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  Like that isn't like Twitter and it's not like Instagram.
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  And none of those things, they're all, they're like
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  Facebook or all. They're all different.
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  They're all a little bit different.
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  But I know that TikTok is pretty important from a marketing point
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  of view. So there's the business I'm
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  trying to start that eventually I'll probably need to somehow
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  advertise and TikTok have a presence there at least.
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  But I'm also wanting to have just my own personal I was going
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  to say influencer, but I'm not. I want my own personal presence
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  on TikTok as well. And Tik Tok's algorithm is also
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  quite different on YouTube, for example.
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  So YouTube's the platform I am the most familiar with.
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  If you are able to consistently and regularly release content,
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  the YouTube algorithm praises and rewards consistency.
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  So my YouTube channel ages and ages ago, 3, not 8-9.
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  Ten years ago. I used to post every week or
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  twice a week or something like that because I was doing diary
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  style vlogs and that's easy to just crunch out.
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  That's before the channel morhed into what you see today which is
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  all about the cruises. And I've got kind of arty
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  videos, the travel videos and like the advice video, which is
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  kind of fit into like a niche. And I don't do the typical
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  vlogging videos on there anymore.
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  And for me, I'm kind of sort of migrated a little bit away from
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  YouTube. I'm not there to try to make the
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  algorithms happy. I'm not there to really make
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  money. Honestly, there's a way to
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  monetize your YouTube channel, so if you meet certain
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  requirements, you can be part of their.
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  I forgot what the name of the program is.
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  It's like the YouTube partner program, something like that
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  where you get some of the revenue from the ads that run on
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  your videos. You'll all have seen as that
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  when you click on YouTube video, there's an ad that runs and
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  there are maybe there's an ad in the middle and that kind of
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  stuff. So obviously Google does ads,
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  but the creator, whoever made that video, they can be eligible
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  to meet the requirements to get a share of the ad revenue as
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  well. I don't know what the
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  requirements are. I was able to join the program
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  like many many years ago, like 6-7 eight years ago when the
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  requirements are like way, way easier.
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  If I start a brand new now, I don't think I would qualify.
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  But honestly you need so many views on your YouTube videos to
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  actually make any remotely significant amount of money on
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  that. I've got 18,000 subscribers.
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  I don't put out videos regularly anymore.
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  I put videos out when I feel like it.
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  But I do like YouTube because it's so great for there to be a
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  lid that anyone can put any sort of video out there.
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  And TikTok is kind of so like the next generation.
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  So I think one of the things I want to do on TikTok is go back
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  to a vlogging I used to just when I'm doing my everyday
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  thing, I would just turn the camera on.
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  At the last time I did that was early in the pandemic where I
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  did a vlog on YouTube every single day for like over 100
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  days. You can literally talk about
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  anything, but yeah, I'm going to start to get into TikTok if you
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  all have. There's only a three of you that
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  makes comments on the YouTube version of this video, but any
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  of you all have any TikTok advice how to get started on
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  TikTok? Put them down below in the
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  YouTube comments. So it's a little bit of tangent,
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  but if I'm going to be starting to do videos all the time, I
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  need to look decent and this hair that I haven't cut and
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  trimmed or anything in two months is not going to do it.
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  So I'm getting the haircut partially so that I can start
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  playing around with recording videos for TikTok that that
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  that's like the main that's like the main reason every LA reason,
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  you know, anytime anyone does anything in LA, it's for like
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  the image, you know, in like some way shape or form.
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  But you know if I'm going to start really putting myself on
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  camera again on the daily or on the regular on something I throw
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  on the Internet, I should. I mean, the least I can do is
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  honestly like get a haircut. So there you go.
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  Speaking of LA by the way, I got my car.
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  I got delivered this week. Awesome.
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  It came early. I'm mobile again.
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  I can actually go places, but Speaking of Elway and driving, I
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  live just off of Santa Monica Blvd. which is one of the major
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  roads that kind of cuts through. It cuts through a whole bunch of
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  different cities in the LA, in LA County, so like goes from
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  Santa Monica on the West End of it and it goes to Los Angeles
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  through Beverly Hills, through West Hollywood, into Hollywood,
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  I think. So it it kind of is a really
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  it's a one-on-one a major streets only got two or three
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  lanes the stretch in West Hollywood, but they're repaving
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  it. So none of the markings are
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  there, but literally earlier this week, two cars ran red
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  lights right in front of my face.
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  So I walked to the gym and back. Most days, and literally just
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  this week there's a Mini Cooper I was about to I was waiting to
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  cross and the light was about to change and I hadn't crossed yet.
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  But like, right in front of my eyes this Mini Cooper just like
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  blatantly ran the red light that you know when you're driving,
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  you're coming up to intersection and you're you're going, you
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  know, the cars moving at the speed of traffic and you like,
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  speed up when it turns yellow and you just barely make the
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  red. Or like, the light turns red
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  while you're into intersection kind of like that you're pushing
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  it. That I can understand because
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  like, we've all been there, honestly.
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  Like the light was already red for like a bit before this guy
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  even entered the intersection. And the way he was, like he
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  slowed out a little bit, but it's like he was just like
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  nudging his way, elbowing his way into the intersection, which
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  is like very annoying for me. And then there's this other car.
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  Oh my God, this, this, this effing Camry.
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  I was waiting to cross Santa Monica Blvd.
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  It didn't have any of the markings on it.
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  So I can the drivers are a little thrown by that, but it
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  still has lights and the light had turned red.
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  And then the little flashing pedestrian person, like the
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  pedestrian crossing sign, said you can cross.
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  So I started crossing and I looked left and this can be just
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  didn't see the red light, like literally.
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  And I do this thing now where when you're walking as a
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  pedestrian in Los Angeles, so many drivers here are not used
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  to looking for pedestrians. I don't know what it is, but
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  I've driven for long enough in various cities that I have
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  learned the lesson to, you know, before you come out of a
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  driveway, before you come out to the road, there's usually a
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  sidewalk. You need to look for pedestrians
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  as you like. Go from one St. to the next.
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  Anytime you're at intersection, you need to look for
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  pedestrians. If you have like a stop sign, if
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  it's like a red light or you're pulling out of the driveway or
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  like a parking lot, you always have to look for pedestrians.
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  So it surprises me so many people do not look for
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  pedestrians, just when they when they when they come out of a
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  driveway or whatever. When they when they cross the
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  sidewalk, they don't look at this shit.
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  But this Camry I had started crossing and this Camry had ran
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  the red light to my left. I was, like, coming at me going
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  very slow to be completely honest.
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  But like, she stopped, but she stopped in the middle of the
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  intersection because she just didn't see the red light.
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  And like, I don't know, I do this thing now where I glare at
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  drivers that don't see me if I'm like, about to cross their path.
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  And like, I'm on the sidewalk. There's this one crosswalk that
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  I usually take between my house and the gym, and it's not an
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  intersection. It's one of those zebra
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  crosswalks that's just randomly in the middle of the road, which
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  I don't think is the best design.
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  But anyways, it's going to be one of those things where you
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  have to depend on the drivers to kind of see you.
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  And you as the pedestrian just kind of have to wait on the curb
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  and wait for a driver that is going to slow down for you
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  before you cross because it's like a major Rd.
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  It's not a pedestrian crossing. That's typical that drivers
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  expect drivers expect you to be. They drivers expect crosswalks
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  to be at intersections. This was not in intersections,
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  in the middle of a block. But yeah, that's always like it.
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  That's always weird every time I have to take that crossfire
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  because sometimes you get a person that sees you and you're
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  kind of between parked car. So like, I kind of understand.
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  But there are some drivers were like, I know they see me and
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  they just like blatantly ignore the pedestrian because in LA
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  sometimes it just feels like it's such a car place and a lot
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  of there, a lot of LA is not very walkable.
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  So I guess there's not unless you go to Hollywood and like
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  that that that's a shit show with tourists and everything.
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  But yeah, I I did this thing where I just, I if I'm if you're
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  pulling out of the driveway, I'm like right there and you don't
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  see me. Like I I will glare.
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  But like, I mean one time but sometimes I just want to like
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  yell at the cars. Like I was just today I was
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  walking home and I was, I was on the sidewalk.
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  This car coming out of driveway was only looking left.
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  But you know they're only looking for cars.
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  They're not looking for me. And like he comes out right in
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  front of me and I almost felt like saying, hey, you need look
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  both ways when you come up the driveway, you know, like just
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  you're crossing a sidewalk. Do you not know how to look
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  right that I can get like so effing sarcastic with that kind
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  of stuff. So for me that's annoying.
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  Like when when I'm at the pedestrian I'm annoyed at the
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  way people drive and but when I'm driving I'm also like, I'm
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  just annoyed by drivers all the time.
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  I'm I'm just constantly annoyed by other drivers.
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  It is so annoying. People make fun.
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  That and LA people are not very good drivers.
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  Someone asked me about this, actually said Oh yeah, you you
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  live in LA like drivers there are like horrible right?
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  I don't think drivers, initially they're not the best drivers, I
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  will give you that. But I think in LA, in a weird
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  way, it kind of sort of works because here are my theory.
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  Everyone is kind of sort of the same level of a mediocre driver,
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  what everyone kind of sort of drives in a similar fashion.
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  There's compatibility, right? If you get a whole bunch of
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  different types of drivers in the same place, some are far,
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  some are slow, some people pay attention, some people don't,
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  some people are raging, some people are not.
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  I think that's where it actually might be more dangerous.
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  But when everyone kind of sort of goes to similar speed,
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  everyone kind of drives the same way.
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  Everyone is not paying attention to the same stuff.
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  In a way, it kind of sort of works because everyone's doing
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  the same thing. So everyone is predictable and
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  everyone around you kind of drives like you.
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  The fact that everyone does the same thing, I think that's where
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  it kind of sort of works. Like when you merge into a
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  freeway in LA, everyone kind of merges the same way.
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  So it in a weird way that works. When I was living in Washington,
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  DC, and I didn't drive that much there, but I remember when I did
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  drive, I had to go into like the middle of DC for whatever
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  reason. That's like some people are
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  driving quickly and their pants are on fire.
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  Some people are not a Nasser. I thought it was actually more
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  dangerous and scary because you get a mix of all sorts of
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  different drivers driving all sorts of different ways.
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  And that's where I feel like you get more road rage, you get more
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  people like speeding. That's people are less
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  predictable because you don't know if a driver coming at you
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  is crazy or not crazy or they're fast or slow.
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  They're aware of you. They're not aware of you.
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  So, and we're away. I feel like most people, vast
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  majority of people here in LA are stereotypical LA drivers.
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  And it kind of sort of works. But as a pedestrian, it can be
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  real annoying real fast. All right, I want to talk about
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  that job situation for a hot 2nd.
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  It's not going. I feel like this the first time
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  where I've applied to this many jobs.
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  I threw my resume out there and I pretty much have had zero
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  tickers. I think the economy, the job
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  market is despite what you see on the news, it really depends
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  on what industry and type of job you're going for, right?
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  It's been a lot in the news in the US about the unions that are
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  variously taking actions. So we have like the writers, the
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  actors, the auto workers, and I just heard Kaiser Permanente.
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  We just want to like the hospital systems here when the
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  medical systems, I think they're on their verge of striking.
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  So there's all this like union potential strike action or
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  actual strike action going on right now.
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  So for me, I'm not a part of union though sewing resumes out
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  there and not getting that much, not get, not get much response,
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  which is like whatever. But I'm thinking this might be
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  kind of, sort of, I don't know, God's way of telling me maybe
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  you are not meant to go back to a 905 and the type of IT job
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  that you were doing before, I mean.
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  I've said before I would kind of sort of like it.
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  Right now, I don't have a problem with it.
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  I'd said before that it's not the IT work that I didn't like
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  so much. It was like the work culture,
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  the way my boss has treated me, that kind of stuff that I didn't
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  like before. But yeah, on the flip side of
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  that, I'm pretty lazy when it comes to applying for jobs.
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  I have one resume that I sent to everyone and I just throw that
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  resume out. I fill out the form name, phone
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  number, e-mail, I just blah blah blah.
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  And I just hit submit and I'm not doing the custom cover
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  letters. And I was reading there was this
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  debate where on LinkedIn or something I guess whether it
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  would be better to try to message someone like the manager
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  or like the executive for like the team that works for the
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  company you're applying to for that job or you should just kind
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  of put the resume out there. But so this person that made
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  this post on LinkedIn, where the post was basically, if you're
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  gonna apply to a job posting at a company, like don't try to
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  message the manager or the VP or the director or whoever, because
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  you know, like a million people would do that and he's like a
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  director of whatever VP person. And he says, well, if you
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  message me, I'm just going to say you have to go through HR
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  anyways. But then all these other people
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  respond and say, oh, I would have got this job that have not
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  if I didn't message the whoever and then that's how I got this
• 21:37
  job. So like there's all that kind of
• 21:38
  stuff. I'm also the thought that I
• 21:41
  don't want to have to message and whatever bugs someone
• 21:45
  because when I was a manager or director or whatever in my
• 21:49
  previous jobs and someone messaged me, I'd be thinking you
• 21:53
  need to go through HR. So yeah, I don't know if this is
• 21:57
  like God's way of saying, you know, work on your work, on
• 22:01
  starting your business and work on your whatever other stuff.
• 22:05
  Maybe, you know you shouldn't be going back.
• 22:08
  But that kind of means that it's kind of so like fate.
• 22:12
  And I don't really believe in fate.
• 22:15
  I think I kind of believe in, I don't really believe in like,
• 22:20
  you know, getting some sort of signal like where things are
• 22:25
  meant to be are not meant to be. I'm usually more of a type of
• 22:29
  person where it if something happens, it happens, if it
• 22:35
  doesn't, then it does it. But I don't usually subscribe to
• 22:39
  the theory that things are meant to be or not to be in the sense
• 22:43
  that something is fate or it's kind of sort of predetermined.
• 22:47
  I'm more of the thought that things are partially luck and
• 22:52
  chance and partially just a random chaos of the world.
• 22:59
  I guess that's a chaos theory, I think.
• 23:01
  I've never looked it up. But don't quote me.
• 23:03
  And also partially just actions that people take, including
• 23:06
  myself. That contributes to whether you
• 23:08
  know something happens or not, right?
• 23:11
  Yeah. But I've never really believed
• 23:13
  in faith. And something that I've always
• 23:16
  held is that there's, I don't believe that there's one person
• 23:20
  out there for everyone. I've never believed that.
• 23:24
  My theory has always been there could be a number of people out
• 23:31
  in the world that if you met them, I guess right place and
• 23:37
  time, you know, there's a little bit of a luck and chance that
• 23:41
  factors into it. But there could be multiple
• 23:44
  people, a number of people that if you were somehow able to meet
• 23:49
  them and able to develop a relationship with them, then you
• 23:55
  could be like very extremely happy with them.
• 23:58
  You could fall in love with that person.
• 24:00
  But I don't believe that there's only one person out there for
• 24:03
  everyone. And it could be possible that
• 24:07
  you meet multiple of those number of people or you might
• 24:12
  end up not meeting any of them. But I always believe that
• 24:16
  there's definitely a number, not just one person.
• 24:20
  There's multiple people out there that through luck or
• 24:23
  chance or circumstance or whatever, that if you're able to
• 24:27
  meet one or multiple of them that you could be very, very
• 24:33
  happy spending the rest of your life with them.
• 24:36
  It doesn't fit into like that fairy tale of like, oh, like
• 24:40
  this is like my, this is like the one, blah blah blah, blah,
• 24:43
  blah, blah. Yeah, I just never, ever
• 24:45
  subscribe to that. But I also don't believe in
• 24:48
  fate. Yeah, I don't believe that, oh,
• 24:52
  anything in my life was meant to be a certain way.
• 24:56
  I think sometimes it's nice in like a friendship situation to
• 25:03
  say to someone like, oh, you didn't get this job.
• 25:07
  Oh, you know what? It was meant to be like this job
• 25:10
  wasn't meant for you're. You're meant for something
• 25:12
  better. Or, you know, if you had a bad
• 25:14
  breakup or something, you're comforting your friend.
• 25:15
  It's like, oh, he's not the one you were meant to be with him.
• 25:22
  Those are not the types of things I think I I ever said
• 25:28
  that to any friends. You know what?
• 25:30
  I don't know, but that's because I don't believe in that stuff
• 25:36
  anyways. I think that's probably not
• 25:37
  something I would want my friends to tell me.
• 25:40
  Not that my friends would listen to this anyways, but yeah, so I
• 25:47
  don't know. The other thing I keep reminding
• 25:50
  myself though about this job situation is everything is
• 25:55
  temporary. And I was just watching on
• 25:57
  YouTube or doing a video and she mentioned the exact same thing
• 26:01
  and it's like, that really caught my ear.
• 26:02
  But I have come to realize this. I'm only four or five years ago
• 26:11
  and everything in life in a way, is temporary.
• 26:14
  My existence is temporary. This house is temporary.
• 26:20
  Jobs are kind of sort of temporary.
• 26:23
  The relationships you have could be temporary.
• 26:26
  They're very few things in life that are so permanent that if
• 26:30
  you commit or don't commit to something, things are so
• 26:34
  fleeting that you shouldn't get so caught up with it, right?
• 26:40
  Things will go away, but then new things will appear as well.
• 26:44
  I think I mentioned this once on the podcast, but sometimes I'll
• 26:48
  I'll say sometimes I think of myself three years ago or even
• 26:53
  five years ago. We just, you know, like not that
• 26:55
  long ago. But could you imagine your life
• 26:59
  today as it is three years ago or two years ago or four or five
• 27:03
  years ago? And every time I ask myself that
• 27:06
  question, the answer has always been no, I could not have
• 27:10
  imagined my life the way it is today, three years ago.
• 27:15
  You know, if I had The Time Machine and I any, any at any
• 27:19
  point in time over the last, like ever over like the last my
• 27:23
  whole adult life, at least when I was, you know, like a
• 27:26
  teenager, like going to school and stuff.
• 27:28
  Like the family life is like very whatever.
• 27:30
  Like obviously when I was in the ninth grade, I could have easily
• 27:33
  said, oh, you know, in three years when you hit Senior High,
• 27:37
  you're going to graduate, go to college.
• 27:39
  It's like okay. Yeah, I probably could have
• 27:40
  expected that. But ever since I graduated
• 27:44
  college and I came up to like the real world, pretty much like
• 27:48
  the everything that I've experienced, including like my
• 27:54
  living situation, my friendships, relationships,
• 27:58
  which they're not that many of and all that kind of stuff.
• 28:02
  The experiences I've had, the things I've experienced, it's
• 28:06
  it's been so like a constantly changing thing that in a way I
• 28:15
  just have to remind myself sometimes everything, everything
• 28:19
  is temporary. So being quote UN quote jobless
• 28:24
  is temporary. I mean, I'm not trying to give
• 28:27
  myself a free passage, just like sit in my house all the time and
• 28:29
  like not trying to make something happen, right?
• 28:33
  But again, that's where it goes back to my point of I feel like,
• 28:38
  you know, it's things that happen.
• 28:40
  Yes, it's a little bit of luck and chance of circumstance, but
• 28:42
  it's also dependent on actions that people take, including the
• 28:45
  actions that I take. You know, like if I want to
• 28:47
  change a situation, I should feel empowered to like do
• 28:52
  something about it. If I don't like that I don't
• 28:53
  have a 95 job, then I should put effort into getting a 95 job,
• 28:58
  right. If I'm not happy about my one of
• 29:01
  my relationships you know I should I should try to take some
• 29:05
  action. I not the type that sit around.
• 29:08
  I'm going to say, well this situation sucks, but I'm sure
• 29:11
  it's going to work out in the end without me trying to do any
• 29:15
  taking a sort of action to change that situation or make it
• 29:19
  better or whatever. And sometimes the advice I give
• 29:23
  people, especially if it's like a job situation, is, you know,
• 29:26
  what if if you if I have a friend that hates their job and
• 29:31
  they're always complaining about it, I would actually recommend a
• 29:34
  friend. Have you thought about working
• 29:37
  somewhere? I just I was on LinkedIn just
• 29:39
  now and one of my good friends from Google that I worked with
• 29:44
  and he got hit by the one of the mass layoffs at Google,
• 29:50
  unfortunately. And he just posted how he just
• 29:54
  had, you know, taken on some contract work after being laid
• 29:57
  off by Google. And then he was basically he was
• 30:02
  starting to explore life outside of Google because he he was he
• 30:05
  was cut into Google right out of college.
• 30:07
  He worked there for like 10 years or something like that.
• 30:11
  So he pretty much his entire profession career has just been
• 30:14
  Google. And then like Google lays them
• 30:16
  off. But I also remember saying when
• 30:20
  I was after I quit Google and he was still there and once about
• 30:24
  we talk and he would be like, yeah, this thing and that thing
• 30:27
  is so kind of messed up at working, blah blah, blah.
• 30:29
  And I know that type of work that he does, but I would always
• 30:32
  nudge him to be like and I'm not telling you to quit your job,
• 30:35
  you know, that's up to you. But like just see what other
• 30:38
  options are out there. Jobs are not permanent,
• 30:43
  especially in this day and age. Like anyone could be laid off at
• 30:46
  any moment. And like I if I find a job
• 30:50
  tomorrow, like a 95 job, or just work for any company, I go into
• 30:54
  it with the attitude that I'm just going to be in the present.
• 30:57
  I'm just going to take it a day at a time.
• 30:59
  But I'm definitely for sure not going to depend on the company
• 31:05
  or this employer for anything remotely longterm.
• 31:08
  Like you could you could you could like find me tomorrow and
• 31:11
  like that. Just, you know, something, if
• 31:13
  it's a layoff or something or someone just, yeah, just gets
• 31:18
  fired for some other reasons. Like companies can do that so
• 31:21
  the company doesn't love you back.
• 31:23
  So I just have to remind myself, you know what?
• 31:26
  If I want something and I want to pursue something, Yeah, a
• 31:30
  little sprinkle of luck is required.
• 31:32
  Sometimes you just have one of those days or weeks or months
• 31:35
  where you know, it's just shitty and like things are not going
• 31:37
  your way. We've all had bad days,
• 31:39
  honestly, where one thing goes wrong and nothing goes wrong and
• 31:43
  the third thing goes wrong and it's just like, those are days
• 31:46
  where you really need to just really, really trying.
• 31:49
  But yeah, maybe this is one of those few times where I kind of
• 31:56
  sort of can't believe that the universe might be nudging me.
• 32:02
  I don't. I'm not going to say, you know,
• 32:03
  it's his fate or is predetermined or this is meant
• 32:06
  to be that I'm having some trouble finding a nine to five
• 32:11
  job when I've been kind of looking at the job postings
• 32:14
  pretty much every single day for the last month or so.
• 32:19
  Yeah, I'm not gonna say this is predetermined, but it could be a
• 32:24
  sign possibly that, yeah, maybe some greater power, possibly
• 32:31
  things. I shouldn't go to the 95 right
• 32:34
  now, so I'm going to keep working on my business.
• 32:37
  I need to set up a call with some lawyers.
• 32:40
  I need to talk to them. Lori casters to make sure, like
• 32:43
  I'm starting this business, like, properly.
• 32:48
  But yeah, it's kind of, it's kind of weird.
• 32:49
  I didn't think this career break would last this long for sure.
• 32:52
  But when I first saw the career break, I was like, I I was, I
• 32:56
  was burnt out. And I didn't know.
• 33:00
  I mean, I could have, in retrospect now, like I can
• 33:03
  probably if I really tried to have just kept the job and just
• 33:08
  literally be doing the minimum, getting the paycheck, whatever.
• 33:12
  But I was so burnt out and I was pretty unhappy that, like, I
• 33:20
  just needed to put myself 1st. And it's.
• 33:25
  And it's the weird thing about money is I've had a decent
• 33:29
  income for most of my professional career, which I'm
• 33:31
  also thankful for. I've got a little bit money in
• 33:33
  the bank and that'll up a little bit.
• 33:35
  Has had a lot of, had some savings and stuff, but it's also
• 33:38
  one of those things where when you have the steady paycheck
• 33:44
  coming in, you, you have, you have problems, the paychecks not
• 33:48
  big enough or you know, you you can't.
• 33:51
  Some people, they just don't make that much money.
• 33:54
  And you know we're hearing about the cost of living and the
• 33:56
  inflation, all that kind of stuff.
• 33:57
  And a lot of workers, not, you know, they're not getting pay
• 34:00
  raises to keep up with the inflation.
• 34:02
  And, you know, when it's a problem to pay your bills.
• 34:05
  Yeah, that sucks. I mean, start to earn more and
• 34:08
  more money, though. Sometimes more money, more
• 34:11
  problems, like a different set of problems.
• 34:13
  Right now you, you have to pay way more in taxes and that kind
• 34:15
  of stuff. But also sometimes, you know,
• 34:20
  sometimes money isn't a problem when you have it and when you
• 34:24
  don't have it, it's like a whole other set of problems, right.
• 34:28
  So feel like money's a problem no matter where you have it or
• 34:30
  not. It's just a different set of
• 34:32
  problems. It's easy for me to, you know,
• 34:34
  see celebrities or people that are very financially successful,
• 34:39
  if you will. And from my point of like, not
• 34:41
  having a city paycheck come in and for me to look, watch TV or
• 34:44
  whatever, and look at those people and be like, Oh yeah,
• 34:47
  they, it must be so easy just to have like, I don't know,
• 34:51
  boatloads of money coming in every week, every month, every
• 34:53
  year. I mean, no one lives the perfect
• 34:58
  life. So I think I'm just a little, I
• 35:01
  don't know, jealous of how do you have the steady paycheck
• 35:04
  coming here right now? I'm a very part of my upbringing
• 35:08
  it this work rears head because not having that regular
• 35:13
  paycheck, I've been always taught to value that regular
• 35:18
  paycheck, the consistency, so not having it come in.
• 35:21
  I think after this is my 10th month into the career break, I'm
• 35:25
  going to have to use air quotes for that quote, UN quote career
• 35:28
  break, 10 months in. I think that's where it's
• 35:31
  starting to like wear on me a little bit that I haven't had
• 35:37
  steady money coming in for a while now.
• 35:40
  So well, we're going to keep. I'm going to try my best.
• 35:44
  I'm gone so lazy. I mentioned this on the last
• 35:46
  podcast, but I'm I'm doing better.
• 35:48
  I'm we're moving in with we're getting on with the the small
• 35:52
  business. I'm going to take it a day at a
• 35:55
  time and you know if there's a company out there that it's
• 35:58
  going to look at my resume. I won't say no, but I won't
• 36:03
  think it's gonna be fate or not. But yeah, if they hit me up and
• 36:07
  wanna give an interview, I won't say no to that and we will end
• 36:11
  the podcast with that. Remember the video version of
• 36:14
  this podcast? You wanna check out my always
• 36:17
  awesome ways of pushing my hair back?
• 36:20
  I was wearing a hat last time on the last podcast and I was
• 36:23
  editing the video and I noticed that the hat kept slipping back
• 36:27
  from the start of the video where it was on properly and
• 36:29
  then by the end of the video it was like slipping back.
• 36:33
  But anyways, yeah, video version of this podcast, it's available
• 36:37
  on Spotify, my headphones are coming off.
• 36:40
  Video version of this podcast is available on Spotify and also on
• 36:43
  my YouTube channel. Just Joey Teens next time.
• 36:46
  Bye.