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Activating More Energy NOW! · Candid Coach Conversations

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Good morning, everyone. Have you ever wondered where is all my energy?
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What happened to my energy? It's gone.
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What happened? Good morning. Welcome to Candid Coach Conversations.
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I'm Kimberly Boyd, founder of Live Life Fully,
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and today I have with me the brilliant Teresa Anderson,
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certified Live Life Fully coach and author of The Table.
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Good morning, Teresa.
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Good morning. Hey everybody. ~
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So excited to see you. I know we've been talking off camera and when we've seen each
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other lately about energy and woo!
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Where does our energy go? And so I thought this would be a great conversation
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~ for our audience, especially here in Houston where it's nine bazillion degrees.
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I know it's awful.
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And energy
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seems to get zapped even quicker.
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And so I thought, ~ what a topic for a candid coach conversation.
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So
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Absolutely. Energy
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zappers. Ooh.
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Uh-huh.
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I'm trying think my most recent energy zapper.
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If I had to name it, is probably I think recently it's work.
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Work is my recent energies zapper.
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And
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Okay.
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I need to wrap my mind around maybe getting clear on I think as everybody knows
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I'm a therapist, and so I was kind of thinking about some things that
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my coach had said to me about the next five big moves.
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And I think sometimes I forget because I'm
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so used to doing work on a daily basis that I forget that I need
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to create systems for that space as well.
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And so the coaching really does help come alongside in my mind and remind
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me that I need to figure out
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what is is zapping my energy. So do I need to look at my schedule?
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Do I have too many couples like back to back to back?
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Like how is my energy being spent even in the therapy room,
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especially when I spend so much time there?
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So that would probably be my most recent energy zapper.
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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Okay, so in thinking about those five major moves,
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so you've identified most recent energy zapper work.
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And so it sounds like what I was hearing is about scheduling and
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how you are scheduling your day.
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And so if you had
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Right.
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to make five major moves, give us some examples of what those five major moves would
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be.
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Well, definitely that one, getting clear
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on my schedule and playing Tetris almost.
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Like, is there a better way to organize this?
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I like to think of it like that because it was my favorite game as a kid.
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~
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Yes.
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and then I think too, like, am I am I prepared?
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Am I taking the time maybe on a Sunday to be prepared for the week?
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Have I like,
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Beautiful.
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did I look over the particular clients?
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Do I have homework already ready to go?
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Like maybe saved in the chart.
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Am I doing everything that I actually can do to make the week the most successful?
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successful that it is. And then I think I would definitely be clear on
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What do I need to eat that day?
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What kind of do I need protein?
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Do I need extra protein on those days?
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Because I'm getting a little bit worn out by that fifth or sixth client.
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so I think about that, and then I had a coach one time tell me that I needed
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to jump up and down if it ever got too too dismal of a space and that that would
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reset my nervous system. And so maybe getting back to practicing some things like
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that as well. Yeah.
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So good.
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I love it. I love it. I love it.
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I made some notes here. I love that you talked about taking time
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on Sunday and thinking about the week ahead.
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So I love that. I think planning and preparing is so important.
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I have I personally do a reflection piece,
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so I reflect over the previous week and then I plan and prepare.
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Mm-hmm.
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And I also love Teresa and appreciate how you talked about like,
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am I prepared for work this week?
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Do
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Mm-hmm.
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I have the homework? Have I
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Made note of the charts, have I looked at who I have?
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Yes. And then I think the other thing that popped up for me
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was planning and preparing for work because that's your energy zapper right now.
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Yeah.
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And I don't know about you, but sometimes my work can if I'm
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not being intentional with my thoughts or my time,
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my work
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Mm-hmm.
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can come into my home, and then my home can go into the work.
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And so
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No.
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have I also planned and prepared home.
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Okay.
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Like my my comfort zone of or where I really enjoy being.
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Have I thought
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Mm-hmm.
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about the groceries for the week?
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I know you talked about nourishing your body for the day,
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which is so important. and then also if I go to work thinking,
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~ shoot, I didn't finish the laundry,
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I still wanted to mow the yard,
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I there's a dishwasher full of dish that is going to zap my energy.
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And so deciding
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Absolutely.
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where to leave it, and then also for me I
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Incorporate that incorporate that in my planning and preparing.
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I love that you talked about jumping up and down because
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We truly can generate our energy.
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We can
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Happy.
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when I would hit that two, three o'clock lull and then I'd be like,
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okay, it's coming, I could plan in advance,
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Mm.
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move
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my body, even a quick little stroll up and down the hull or something.
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Or if you can't do that, jumping up and down to get your body activated again.
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So yes.
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Yeah. Get your blood moving.
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Especially for us 'cause we're sitting the entire time and being
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at attuned and attentive and empathic.
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And so we're carrying a presence as well.
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And so we need to make sure that we're present for ourselves in those moments
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so that we can carry that presence for others,
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I think. Yeah. So
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So if you
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think about other energy zappers,
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Teresa, are and maybe you're not experiencing them right now,
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but hallelujah. ~
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Yeah.
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have there been other energy zappers in your life or people that you've even worked
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with, you're like, that's an energy zapping situation or what have you.
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~ absolutely.
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So many things can come against us even mentally.
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So we can just like what you said,
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overthinking, over like ruminating on the all of the things that need to
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be done and what we haven't accomplished and that idea of being able
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to really like cast down those imaginations and stay present in moments
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and be really intentional about our presence.
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Like, am I letting my brain go a million different directions?
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Am I being cognizant of my phone and that it's going off or that somebody else
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is trying to get my attention?
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Am I really securing this time to sit with myself and do the things that
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I need to do to be present in my day for all of the people that I love
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and all the people that I'm purposed to help?
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And I think that's where we have to get really clear sometimes:
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is what does that look like? And I know you have an amazing morning routine.
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I'm trying to get there. I'm not quite there yet,
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but I definitely want to get better about a solid morning routine.
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Hmm. Well and if you're doing it,
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you're doing it. Like you're not even trying anymore.
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You're doing a morning routine,
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which is amazing. Yes, I do
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Yep. Right.
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love my morning routine.
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And I
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think the Amen Core Four is actually gonna help me get that piece of
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it down for sure. Yeah.
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Yes, yes.
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talking about energy, I what I've learned one thing I've learned is when I've
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Have a lack of energy. Yes, stop and look around.
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What is the situation? Who am I around?
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But really and truly, and I learned this through Dr.
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Amen what were the previous 72 hours?
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Mm.
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What did I eat? Did I have enough water?
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Who was I around? What situations or environments was I in?
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And I could have eaten all the nutritious food,
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I could have drank all the water,
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but been in
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In a very chaotic situation, in 72 hours,
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my body has processes all and it's like I'm tired.
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Yes.
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Energy gone. so really being aware of what took place the previous
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72 hours and thinking back, because then that gives me information,
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gives all of us information of
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Mm-hmm.
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where we could choose maybe to do things differently,
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or even when we must go into a chaotic or stressful environment,
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we can figure out going back to your planning and preparing.
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How can I plan and prepare? I know I've got to go do this thing or be at this thing,
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so what can I do?
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to protect myself and to protect my energy.
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So super helpful.
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Right, absolutely. Yeah,
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those are definitely things that help me and I think getting clearer
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on what it where is my energy really,
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really being wasted. And I don't really like the word waste,
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but in this set in in this sense it's almost your fuel.
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And if you can look at
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Sure.
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it from a position of fuel, then where am I expanding fuel and it's not serving me,
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you know.
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And we
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Yeah.
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think about fuel, I don't know about y'all,
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but I think fuel prices are out of this world.
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And so
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Ha ha ha.
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I really want to be aware of how I
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Ha ha
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driving my car.
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Facts. Those are facts one thousand percent.
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I mean Yes.
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The other thing that I have realized about myself is is people.
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I know John Gordon, he wrote The Energy Bus,
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which I think is a fantastic book.
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And if you haven't read it, mm,
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go grab it today.
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Okay, I'll have to put that on the reading
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list.
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It's so good. He talks about in that book,
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The Energy Bus, it's a story about this man.
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I won't give all the details. And it's about identifying the energy vampires
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in your life.
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that's a good one. Those things.
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That thing. Sometimes
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we have to be with energy vampires.
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And again,
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Mm.
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I think deciding in advance, I'm gonna be with this person or these people that
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and it's draining. And how can I recover quickly?
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Mm. Yeah, absolutely. I mean sometimes maybe it's a no,
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right? Maybe it's I love you, but I can't go.
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And other times maybe it's a, is there a purpose for this and what boundaries
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can I set for myself to clear my path and make my my decisions mine?
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Yeah.
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above it. Yes. You know, Trisa
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I was talking with a lady recently and she wants to spend time with this other
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individual in her family. And she said,
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you know, every time at the end of that get together,
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I am exhausted. Like I really want to go to my bed and go to sleep.
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And so we're talking about possibilities.
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Like what options does she have?
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And
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And and what part of it was so exhausting for her.
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So whenever she was able to identify that,
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the person that she wants to spend time with is talking about all the woes
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in her particular life and how hard it is and how sad and how she doesn't
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see a bright future. And so this lady that I was talking with was like,
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It's like I just wanna go to sleep after listening to all that.
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So but she has decided, like she still has to spend time
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And you know, our dear friend and fellow coach Bri she talks about like
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how much are you allowing people access to you and how much access like
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are you willing to give and back and forth.
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Mm-hmm.
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So this lady, she finally decided,
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she was like, I think I'm gonna tell this other person in my family,
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like, I want to spend time with you.
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And so, really and truly, if we can talk about all the woe is me within 10 minutes,
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and then no more. And like putting that time
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Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
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Like let's let's get it out. I don't wanna stop you from sharing and let's
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put it in this. Get it out there.
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Okay. And then let's find something else to discuss.
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I thought, dang, that's so awesome.
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And that's intentionality,
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right? You want presence, right?
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Yeah.
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So you do the things that you have to do.
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Of course, like you said, that little bit of time to really kind
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of decompress and just kind of maybe fill in the group really quickly
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on the space you've been in and then breathe deeply.
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Tell me five things you see in the room,
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four things that you can hear.
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And come into the space and actually practice pr presence.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Yes.
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So I would love to know, Teresa,
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what makes the topic of energy important to you?
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The topic of energy, it's such a vast topic,
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right? So when you're telling I'm a I'm a science head,
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so I love science. When you say energy,
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my brain goes boop, boop, boop,
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boop, boop, boop, boop. All these different things come up immediately.
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But I think
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All the energy.
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Yes, the energy between people,
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the energy that we use to sustain life,
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the energy of the sun. You know,
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maybe that's it, that's one to consider is like getting out in the sun,
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making sure that you're like absorbing it,
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getting that vitamin D, standing with your feet on the ground,
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on the grass, and really grounding and taking moments to breathe deeply.
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I mean, if you can catch the sunset with your feet on the ground and no socks on,
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touching a tree, ~ you're in there like spin.
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Your your melatonin is gonna come up.
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You're gonna sleep probably better that night.
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especially if you can kind of make those those type of things a practice.
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So that's another big one for me.
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But energy is just a vast topic for sure.
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Love it. And I think too for when I think of you,
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I think of energy. ~
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Yeah.
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I do. Between people, like you said,
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resetting our circadian rhythm
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Mm-hmm.
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and bringing energy. I do. I think of you coming in and when I see you
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in person and coming in and you're coming in for the hug.
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Ha ha
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Is energy and I don't even know
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Yeah.
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if you realize like for people sometimes like your hug,
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I can be in there listening to who knows what,
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and then you come in with that energy to give a hug and it's like,
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she just shocked my heart back up.
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Like here we
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Yeah.
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are. I'm here. I love it. So ~ yeah,
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Yes, yes, yes, absolutely.
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so I love that we're even
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And I think it's important helping
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making people feel good. Like I I love to light up when I see people because
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I train I can feel the energetic transfer between me and them.
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If they were having like a bad day,
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or if they were feeling a little down or they were beating themselves up,
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just that brief moment of energetic exchange where I lift the frequency,
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I can feel it touch them.
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And that to me matters. And so even like that,
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yeah, I think that's why I practice it,
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right? And not only does
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it do that for the room or the space or the energy and kind of like let
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it breathe a little bit, but it also it touches my heart,
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makes me feel warm. So yeah, it's dual.
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Right. I love it.
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Yeah.
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Oprah has a sign, I'm I'm assuming she still does,
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on her studio door that says to everybody coming in,
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be aware, something along the lines up,
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I'm probably not gonna get it exactly right.
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Something along the lines up though,
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be aware of the energy you bring into this room.
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And so,
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Mm.
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gosh, if we could all be even a little slipper more aware of
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the energy we're bringing into a room,
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dang, could our
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Right.
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whole energy change.
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Absolutely.
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~ there was a practice, this orthodontic ~ orthod the orthodontic doctor
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I used to work for. He had mirrors by every station and we would have to pick
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up the mirror and he said, before we get started,
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we'd have our morning huddle, we'd all sit at our stations,
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pick up the mirror, and I want you to smile.
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And I
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~
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want you to find and think about something that makes you happy in your life
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and I want you to smile. And we would do that every morning and it would
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set the tone for how we were gonna connect with our client or our patient.
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That.
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Yeah. So little things like that even we can get creative and find ways that really
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help us to lift ourselves. Maybe it's having a mirror in the room
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and asking yourself what you want to smile about today.
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Yes, I love that. What do you want
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to smile about today?
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Yeah.
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Okay, that's the challenge of today's
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Okay.
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candidate coach conversations,
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everyone for the next week. Look in
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What?
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that mirror and say, What do you want to smile about today?
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Me too. I'm
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I love it. Yes.
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getting a sticky note so I can go stick it on my mirror.
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What do you want to smile about today,
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guys? Write it with lipstick or
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a marker that you can clean off.
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Yes. ~ my gosh.
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Love it. Fantastic. Well, Teresa,
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I truly appreciate you being here today and sharing with us your thoughts about
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energy and then bringing this little nugget of what do you want
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to smile about today? So good.
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Absolutely. Smile everybody. Stay cheese.
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Yeah. Cheers. Thank you.
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Have a wonderful day today. ~ Bye.
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Talk to you soon. Bye.