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147. Tunde Oyeneyin, Peloton Instructor · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: On the road to success. Within that journey, there are hurdles,
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  Speaker 1: and if you understand that and you trust that that
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  Speaker 1: is part of the process, then when those hurdles or
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  Speaker 1: roadblocks arrive, you're less apt to stop, You're less resistant,
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  Speaker 1: You're willing to lean in and trust that you'll move
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  Speaker 1: through it.
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  Speaker 2: What is going on? Emily? A body here bringing you
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  Speaker 2: Episode one forty seven of Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast,
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  Speaker 2: wars it down with inspiring individuals to talk about their
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  Speaker 2: big wines, tough moments, and everything in between. On the show,
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  Speaker 2: you can expect vulnerability, motivation, and candid discussions with everyone
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  Speaker 2: from top athletes and CEOs to aspiring entrepreneurs on what
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  Speaker 2: it really takes to follow your passions. My mission is
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  Speaker 2: simple to inspire you to be your best self, move
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  Speaker 2: with intention, and have some fun along the way. Today
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  Speaker 2: I am chatting with Tunday Oyenain Peloton instructor and seriously,
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  Speaker 2: just like the brightest light and vibe of maybe all time,
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  Speaker 2: Dundee has certainly dealt with her fair share of hurdles,
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  Speaker 2: from a dramatic weight loss and not getting her job
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  Speaker 2: at Peloton after her first audition, to the loss of
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  Speaker 2: her brother and both of her parents. Her resiliency is
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  Speaker 2: admirable and I really mean this. I know on the
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  Speaker 2: show we talk about tough stuff often, but to hear
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  Speaker 2: someone who has navigated so much loss have such a
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  Speaker 2: dynamic and beautiful outlook and perspective, it just it makes
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  Speaker 2: me feel really grateful for what I have and puts
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  Speaker 2: life in perspective, and I hope that it does the
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  Speaker 2: same for you as well. Tunday also shares today about
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  Speaker 2: what her career was like before finding Peloton, and I
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  Speaker 2: really enjoy how she expands upon the idea that it's
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  Speaker 2: okay to have one dream and realize that it's okay
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  Speaker 2: to move in different directions and grow and come to
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  Speaker 2: want different things as time goes on. I do want
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  Speaker 2: to thank Tune today's sponsor at Optimum Nutrition for setting
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  Speaker 2: and I am over at Emily a Body. And with that,
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  Speaker 2: let's get to hurdling. Today. I am talking with Tunday
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  Speaker 2: Oyna and she is a peloton instructor and all around
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  Speaker 2: amazing person. Today doing today, I'm doing great.
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  Speaker 3: How are you?
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  Speaker 2: I am great. I'm really excited for this conversation with
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  Speaker 2: you because you and I and you don't know this yet,
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  Speaker 2: which is a little creepy that I guess I know
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  Speaker 2: this and you don't know this. But we have a
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  Speaker 2: lot in common.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I love it. Talk to man. Let you have
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  Speaker 3: my attention.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you have my attention. I also, at one point
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  Speaker 2: in my life was hovering around two hundred pounds in
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  Speaker 2: a size eighteen.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: So we have this in common. We also have like
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  Speaker 2: like a clothes trying on saga in common that like
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  Speaker 2: completely made us reevaluate what the hell we were doing.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't want to give away your story, but
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  Speaker 2: I need you to know, as we talked today that
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  Speaker 2: I get where you're coming from.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I can go ahead and just pack up
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  Speaker 1: my microphone. There's nothing left for me to say. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: that's pretty much pretty much the story in a nutshell.
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  Speaker 2: Not at all, not at all. Tune day. Where do
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  Speaker 2: you hail from? Kick me off from the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: I am first generation American descendant of two Nigerians, Festus
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  Speaker 1: and Veronica O and A.
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  Speaker 3: I'm originally from Houston, Texas.
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  Speaker 1: I was talking with a friend the other day and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't remember what age I was
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  Speaker 1: when I left left Houston because I believe I had
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  Speaker 1: a fake idea at the time, and so I don't remember.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember what my real age was when I
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  Speaker 1: moved from Houston to LA, but I know I was
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  Speaker 1: in LA for twelve years and then I moved to
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  Speaker 1: New York about a year and a half ago, almost
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  Speaker 1: two years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Now, wow, big big life pivot New York from LA
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  Speaker 2: and then before that from Texas. Growing up. Talk to
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  Speaker 2: me about what your lifestyle was like, were you active
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  Speaker 2: at all? Talk to me about like your like family dynamic.
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  Speaker 2: Give me some details.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you know our VP of fitness, Robin Rizon,
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  Speaker 1: she always says that she would you know, she she
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  Speaker 1: didn't have a fit, fitness or athletic background, and she
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  Speaker 1: always says that she was allergic to fitness. Like I
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  Speaker 1: always say, I wasn't even like I was. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: even know what it was like. I didn't even know
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  Speaker 1: what it was to be active, Like, had zero concept
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  Speaker 1: of it. All of my brothers were like super star athletes,
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  Speaker 1: and so you know, I have two older brothers. And
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  Speaker 1: so whether it was me going into middle school or
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  Speaker 1: into high school, the coaches would see that I was
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  Speaker 1: an O nane and get really excited thinking that I
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  Speaker 1: was going to be like another superstar athlete. And like
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  Speaker 1: every single day, first day of gym, I'd have to
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  Speaker 1: be like, no, I don't have the gene. Like it's
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  Speaker 1: not that that part wasn't in me. I was always
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  Speaker 1: in choire. I was always the kid who I was
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  Speaker 1: into other arts. I liked to draw, I liked to sing,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll share this later, but I always say that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, fitness found me. It wasn't at all a goal.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't even something that I knew to aspire towards
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  Speaker 1: or or honestly even new to dream about.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, growing up obviously not a strong tie to fitness,
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  Speaker 2: not a lot of passion to fitness. Talk to me
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  Speaker 2: a little bit then. I know from my reading and
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  Speaker 2: listening to your story that around thirteen you were hovering
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  Speaker 2: in that two hundred area, which is the same for me.
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  Speaker 2: So talk to me, wait wise, about how you felt
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  Speaker 2: coming into your own as a woman, as at that
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  Speaker 2: time society would say anyway, a little bit of a
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  Speaker 2: bigger girl, right.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, you know, as I reflect now, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: it's not even about the number, because I think that
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  Speaker 1: someone could be X amount of you know, pounds and
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  Speaker 1: still hold themselves, hold themselves differently, if that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: So it was less about the number and more so
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  Speaker 1: about the way that I felt. So when I was
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  Speaker 1: two hundred pounds, I happened to feel not confident. When
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  Speaker 1: I was two hundred pounds, I happen to not have
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  Speaker 1: a sense of what my power was and my place
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  Speaker 1: was and to be, you know, at such a young
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  Speaker 1: age and feel so different, to feel like such outcasts
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  Speaker 1: maybe a heavy word, but to feel so different from
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  Speaker 1: other people was part of the catalyst. At the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, I did it for me. I think
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  Speaker 1: that I always say to anybody who's going through their
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  Speaker 1: own wellness journey that you have to want to do
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  Speaker 1: it for you. You can lose weight, but if you're
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  Speaker 1: doing it for other people or for something else, once
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  Speaker 1: that person's not in your life anymore, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: let's say you're doing it for a goal, you want
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  Speaker 1: to look good for a party or for whatever, like
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  Speaker 1: once those life events, once these things come and pass,
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  Speaker 1: then if it's not for you, you resort back to
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  Speaker 1: where you came from. And so ultimately, when you decide
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  Speaker 1: to make the forever change, it has to be for you.
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  Speaker 3: And the.
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  Speaker 1: The dress story that you kind of alluded to is
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  Speaker 1: I was actually supposed to be a bridesmaid in my
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  Speaker 1: aunt's wedding, and you know, to make a long story short,
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  Speaker 1: go to the bridle store with my mom and my aunt.
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  Speaker 3: It's a blue dress.
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  Speaker 1: It's a really hideously ugly bad not cute, not good,
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  Speaker 1: very bad. Dress, and I'm supposed to wear this dress.
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  Speaker 1: And we get to the dress door and I wear
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  Speaker 1: sites eighteen at the time. They don't make the dress
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  Speaker 1: in my size. My aunt then offers to buy a
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  Speaker 1: different blue dress that is way more beautiful. It's also
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  Speaker 1: way more expensive, and she says she's going to buy it.
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  Speaker 1: So my mom's like hitting me at my leg saying, yes,
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  Speaker 1: take this dress that she's offering you. And I said no.
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  Speaker 1: And when my mom said, why don't you want to
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  Speaker 1: wear that dress? I said, because if I'm in the
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  Speaker 1: other dress, if I'm in a different dress, everybody's going
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  Speaker 1: to know that I was the big girl that couldn't
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  Speaker 1: fit into the same dress as everyone else. And so
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  Speaker 1: I remember I was, and we were in the dressing room.
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  Speaker 1: I was now just with my mother, and my mom
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  Speaker 1: said to me, she goes, well, if this, if it
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  Speaker 1: bothers you that much, you're going to need to make
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  Speaker 1: a change. And for me, it was the first time
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  Speaker 1: that my mom that was for me, that was my
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  Speaker 1: mother's way of acknowledging it. You know, my mom and
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  Speaker 1: dad always told me I was so beautiful, so beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: so beautiful, and so you know, part of me thought Okay,
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  Speaker 1: well maybe the kids at my school, maybe they're all
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  Speaker 1: just crazy, or maybe the people that are making fun
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  Speaker 1: of me, they're all just crazy. And you know, for
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  Speaker 1: my mother to say that for me, just her saying,
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  Speaker 1: if this is something, if this is the way that
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  Speaker 1: you feel, then you need to make a change. That
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  Speaker 1: was her way of acknowledging it. And that almost for me,
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  Speaker 1: that made me feel like it was real. It made
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  Speaker 1: me feel like it was real. And so I remember
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  Speaker 1: I just fell on the floor and I was crying
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  Speaker 1: in her lap, and you know, that was like literally
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  Speaker 1: like pretty much the next day. I mean, I'm a
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  Speaker 1: kid and I have no money here, no job. So
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  Speaker 1: I decided that I was going to somehow put forty
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  Speaker 1: I think it was forty four dollars and like ninety
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  Speaker 1: eight cents my gym membership for the gym I was
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  Speaker 1: going to at the time, I was like, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to find a way to get that amount of money
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  Speaker 1: every month. And so I signed up for gym membership
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  Speaker 1: and I walked I would say, like a good mile
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  Speaker 1: and a half every day to the gym, worked out,
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  Speaker 1: and then walked another mile and a half home and
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  Speaker 1: just started to really get a better understanding of the
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  Speaker 1: food and nutrition and the way that the body fuels
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  Speaker 1: you know, the way that your body is used to
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  Speaker 1: really fuel you. That makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: When you decided to make this change, did you have
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  Speaker 2: any specific goal at the beginning. Was it just to
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  Speaker 2: move more? Was it to learn more about food? Was
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  Speaker 2: it actually I want to lose x amount of pounds?
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  Speaker 2: Like where was your head at at that time?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? When I first sought out on this journey, and
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  Speaker 1: I always like to say, it's a forever because it's
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  Speaker 1: not like, oh, you lost the weight.
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  Speaker 3: And you feel good and.
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  Speaker 1: You wear in the pants or whatever the goal was,
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  Speaker 1: and then now you live, you know, this life that
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  Speaker 1: you've imagined, and skinny people walk around just jumping for
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  Speaker 1: joy like it's I always say it's a forever journey.
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  Speaker 3: It's like not something that ends.
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  Speaker 1: And I set out to lose seventy pounds and I
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  Speaker 1: did that, and ultimately this quest has been so much
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  Speaker 1: more about what I've gained than what I've lost. And
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  Speaker 1: I set out to lose weight.
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  Speaker 3: I did that.
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  Speaker 1: I lost seventy pounds, but what I gained ultimately was
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  Speaker 1: so much more. I gained a sense of purpose, I
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  Speaker 1: gained confidence, I gained strength. Like I love feeling strong.
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  Speaker 1: I love putting weights in my hands and feeling strong.
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  Speaker 1: Did you have a CrossFit face? Oh, yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: I did cross it for like four years. I was
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  Speaker 1: crazy about it, and then like, oh, the only thing
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  Speaker 1: that existed in the world was CrossFit. And then you know,
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  Speaker 1: you just like any like anything, you kind of you know,
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  Speaker 1: find other things that that pull you and found cycling.
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  Speaker 1: Found cycling and haven't looked vaccines and so yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: found a sense of strength, I found a sense of confidence.
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  Speaker 1: I found or I rather, I gained friendships. I gained
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  Speaker 1: so much. Yes, I lost something. I lost one thing,
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  Speaker 1: I lost weight. Ultimately, I gained so many things, and
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  Speaker 1: I you know, when I first started, I was like
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  Speaker 1: stepping on the scale, like you know, weekly weigh ins
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  Speaker 1: turned into like two times a week. I would weigh in,
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  Speaker 1: and then it was just like this thing where you
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  Speaker 1: would feel so good about yourself. Like I would be
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  Speaker 1: eating great and working out and doing all the things
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  Speaker 1: that people tell you're supposed to do right, and I'd
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  Speaker 1: jump on the scale and the scale would say that
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  Speaker 1: I was losing weight. I'd feel amazing, And then you know,
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  Speaker 1: another few days or another week would go by and
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  Speaker 1: I felt like I was, you know, crushing it even more,
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  Speaker 1: eating even cleaner, working out even more aggressively. And then
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  Speaker 1: I'd step on the scale and the scale would say
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  Speaker 1: the opposite. It would say that I was going backwards,
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  Speaker 1: going in the wrong direction. And so one day finally
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'm not going to let this thing rule me,
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  Speaker 1: like this thing rules my energy. I feel really good
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  Speaker 1: about the way that I'm feeling from my workouts, I
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  Speaker 1: feel really good about the way that I feel from
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  Speaker 1: eating clean and the supplements that I'm putting in my body.
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  Speaker 1: And then I jump on this scale and it tells
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  Speaker 1: me something else, and it completely alters and shifts my energy.
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  Speaker 1: And so that was really the turning point for me.
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  Speaker 1: So I set out to lose weight, and then somewhere
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  Speaker 1: between there and now, I decided that I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: go based on My goal is to feel a certain way,
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  Speaker 1: like the scale or a number can't take that away
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  Speaker 1: from me. I want to feel strong, I want to
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  Speaker 1: feel healthy, I want to feel active.
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  Speaker 3: I get to control that.
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  Speaker 1: So if I want to feel active, I say, Tunic,
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  Speaker 1: get up, go for a run, Tunic, get up, jump
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  Speaker 1: on this bike, like I can control that versus the scale, Like,
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  Speaker 1: it's not necessarily something that there's EPs and folows, there's
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  Speaker 1: it's not necessarily something that I can could control.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I mean the behavior that you uh just
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  Speaker 2: kind of articulated definitely something that a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: can relate to and have totally been there for someone
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  Speaker 2: who may be in the midst of similar transformation right now,
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  Speaker 2: and they too find themselves maybe getting in even a
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  Speaker 2: little obsessive with the scale, obsessive with eating clean, obsessive
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  Speaker 2: with working out all the time. What is it that
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  Speaker 2: you tell them to try to reel it in a
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  Speaker 2: little bit.
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  Speaker 1: I always say, find something that you enjoy doing. When
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  Speaker 1: you obsess over something, when you become manic about something,
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  Speaker 1: it stems, I believe from a feeling of I.
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  Speaker 3: Have to I have to, I have to I have
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  Speaker 3: to versus I want to, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And so when you find workouts or activities that you
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  Speaker 1: want to do, you want to.
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  Speaker 3: Show up for them. You don't feel like you have
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  Speaker 3: to show up for it.
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  Speaker 1: So I always say to people like, I'm like, if
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  Speaker 1: you don't like running, I'm never gonna recommend that you
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  Speaker 1: sign up for the marathon tomorrow. Eventually you may fall
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  Speaker 1: in love with running.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe right.
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  Speaker 1: But if you don't like running, maybe you like dancing.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't like dancing, maybe you like cycling. If
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  Speaker 1: you don't like cycling, maybe you like you know, strength training.
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  Speaker 1: I think the beauty of Peloton is that Peloton offers,
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  Speaker 1: you know, such a wide range of modalities and activities
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  Speaker 1: that you can do. I'm actually an optimum nutrition athlete,
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  Speaker 1: and I actually what I love so much about the
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  Speaker 1: Optimum nutrition line and the product is that it helps
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  Speaker 1: to fuel me and make me feel really restored and
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  Speaker 1: recovered so that I can go back into whatever said
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  Speaker 1: activity is that I love to do.
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  Speaker 3: I can show up with my A game mom the
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  Speaker 3: next day.
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  Speaker 2: Taking a break from today's episode to talk to you
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  Speaker 2: There's a really great and beautiful thing in the opportunity
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: of diversifying your movement, your fitness, whatever it is that
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: you do to move your body. I mean, I'm sure
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: during and along your journey as it still continues. Today,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: we talked about CrossFit, we talked about going to the gym.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Obviously now you're heavy into spin, but there's been so
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: many different iterations of how you move your body.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that's the that's kind of the
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: thing too. And I was, you know, I alluded to
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: this with the CrossFit thing, is like I loved it.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I loved it, I loved it, and then one day
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: I was just like sick of it, you know, And
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: so and that's no shade at all. To anybody who
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: who crossfits or loves it, But for me, it was
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: about finding something that something that just like made my
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: spirit feel good, and cycling makes my spirit feel good.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: It's not to say that, you know, I don't still
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: lift weights, Absolutely absolutely I do. I'm actually one of
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: our bike boot camp instructors for Peloton, and so strength
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: training is also part of my.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: Modality as well.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: But I think that there is something to kind of
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: just not only from a smart training perspective to mix
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: things up, but just for your mental state as well.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: I think sometimes you get into this repetition and it
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: becomes like this daunting thing, like you know exactly what
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: you're going to do and how it's going to feel.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: And I think there's just something to switching it up
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: to to make it feel interesting and make it feel fun.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: If it's not fun, then I don't want to do it.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: Like I I work out a lot.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I spend too much time working out to not actually
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: enjoy the process of it.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I can totally relate to that. So I
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: know you mentioned your nutrition. I definitely want to get
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: there in a minute. But we keep kind of dancing
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: around this idea of like but then I found spin
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: and it was my Goldilocks thing. So talk to me
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: about what your experience was with finding spin and if
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: you even remember what your first spin class was really like,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: Oh girl.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: I can paint that. We can spend the next forty
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: five minutes. I can paint a pical picture of the air.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: Uh so yeah, no, I it found me. So I
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: you know, I was in Texas, started working out, started to,
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: you know, feel comfortable, started to feel confident. I've always
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: been an outgoing person, but you know, even when I
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: was heavier, I was this. I was the most introverted,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: outgoing person. I don't even know if that's a thing,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: but I was. I was introverted in that I didn't
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: want to bring attention to me. I didn't want to
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: bring attention to me because I felt like if people
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: placed it, if there was a tensional meeting, people would
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: notice my size. For example, if I laughed, if I
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: was if someone if we were in a room and
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: someone told a joke, I would never laugh too loud
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: because if I laughed loud, people would notice I was there.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: And if they noticed that I was there in the room,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: they would notice how big I was. Anybody who's ever
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: taken any of my classes. You know that I can't
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: sit still like I'm Shaki on a bike, if you will.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: And I.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: Dance a lot now, and I wanted to dance then,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Like when I went to parties or gatherings, I wanted to.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: Be the person in the middle of the dance for dancing.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: But I didn't want to get up and do that
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: because I didn't want people to see me, because if
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: they saw me, they'd notice my size.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: And so it was almost with like I want to say,
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: with each.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: Workout, with each pound that I'd lost, it was almost
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: like I unraveled a layer of confidence, a layer of
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: like being so okay to step into my own step
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: into myself. I was already there, Like I didn't create
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: this person that wasn't there. I just became okay with
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: letting everyone see her. And so I moved to La
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: to become or to pursue my career as a makeup artist.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: And you know, I become very successful in my own writing,
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: in my in my field. I was, you know, working
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: for my dream company. I was doing my dream job.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: I can't see me right now, but I say dreaming
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: quotes because it was what I thought that I wanted.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: It was what I dreamt of and I was doing it.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: And when I was doing the job, I was like,
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: I don't really like this job.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: But it was like a thing I couldn't really say
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: out loud because I'd worked so damn hard to get there,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: and once I'd gotten there, it was almost like this
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: feeling of like, man, am I ungrateful?
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: I asked for this and I'm here now and I'm
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: not happy. It doesn't feel good.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: And so you know, I I was booked for a
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: gig in New York and so I fly from LA
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: to New York. I get to the hotel. The hotel like,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: the gym is bootleg. There's really no other way to
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: say it. The gym is just bootleg. Like I go
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: down there, there's nothing to do unless I was gonna
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: do jumping jacksonplaces.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: I was like, there's just nothing to do down here.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: So I said, let me go to, you know, a studio.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: And so I'd been hearing about cycling studios. Had never
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: taken like an indoor cycling experience class thing, but people
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: have been talking about it.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: At the time. This was a few years ago now,
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: and so I said, you know, I'll go and take
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: one of the classes.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: So by the time I purchase my seat in class,
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: purchase my water bottle, my shoes, my towel, whatever, I'm
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: forty dollars deep.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: This is a forty five minute class. Emily, Oh my god.
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: So i sit down.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: On the bike and I'm thinking, like, I'm angry with myself.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: I'm like, tune day, why did you just spend forty
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: dollars to work out? And so I'm honestly like, I'm
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: resenting the class. Before the class even starts, the class
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: like the lights dim the instructor comes in. People start screaming.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I have like imposter syndrome. I have no idea what's happening.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Three minutes into the class, I'm in a state of euphoria.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: I leave the class that day, it's snowing outside of
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: New York. I noticed that I'm not walking, but I
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: noticed that I'm skipping back to my hotel room.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: I was like, are you magically floating somehow? You know what?
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Honestly, if you told me that I was levitating, I
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: would believe you because I don't even I don't remember
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: how I got from point A to point B.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: But I'm levitating.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Then now back to my hotel room, and in a
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: matter of seconds, I saw my life's trajectory pass in
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: front of me.
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: I always when I tell this story, it was.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: Like a blue light, A blue wave rushed through my
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: body and I could see my life. I knew in
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: that moment, after taking my first cycling class, I knew
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: that I would be cycling for the rest of my life.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Not only did I know that I would be cycling
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: for the rest of my life, I knew that I
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: would be teaching it. Not only did I know that
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: I would be teaching it, but I knew that I
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: would be teaching it on the.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: World's biggest platform.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: I honestly can't even say that I knew what peloton
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: was at the time, but I knew that I would
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: be cycling. I knew that I would be teaching it,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: and I knew that I'd be teaching it on the
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: world's biggest platform. And I knew that the world would
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: know my name for it.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: I was sure of it.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I've never till this day, I've never been as sure
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: about any one thing in my entire life. And so
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: I finished this New York trip out I head back
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: to La I'm at a dinner party with my best friends.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: We're all just talking about whatever, and I tell them,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: I say, hey, guys, and mind you. They know how
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: hard I've worked in my cosmetic career to be where
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: I was. And I said, guys, I think I want
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: to quit my job and become a cycling instructor. And
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking to myself. It was almost that thing of like,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: you know, the stuff that you should only think in
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: your head. You should tell people out loud because they're
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: going to judge you. So I said it out loud,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: and I was just like waiting for them to call
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: me crazy or whatever.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: And they start crying. I'm crying. They start crying. I
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: don't cry. I don't ever cry.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: They're crying, and I said, why are you guys crying?
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: They're like, we're crying because we've never heard you say
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: anything that sounded so exact. What you're saying makes so
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: much sense. I said, guys, you've never even seen me
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: do it before. I've only seen me do it one time.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: They said to day, I don't know why, but that
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: that sounds right for you. And so, you know, to
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: kind of wrap this story up, it was a matter
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: of imposter syndrome that set and next I think probably
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: six to eight months past where my friends are like, Tunday,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: when are you going to go and get certified so
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: you can teach? When are you going to get certified
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: and teach? And I just kept putting it off because
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I was like, Who's going to be motivated or inspired
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: by me? I can't get up and get on a
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: bike with my in my sports bra in front of people, Like,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Who's going to be motivated by me? Saying anything? Like
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: all these things that I told myself I couldn't.
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: I couldn't. I couldn't.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: And so because I have really really great, amazing, wonderful,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: wonderfully supportive friends, they kept pushing me. So finally I
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: went and got certification. Then I go get the certification,
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: The certification found a very nice home on top of
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: my bedroom desk for eight months collecting dust because again
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: imposter syndrome saurd. I was, Okay, now I'm certified, but
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: I don't actually know what I'm doing. I'm not good
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: enough to go audition somewhere. And so finally my friend
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: literally pushed me into the hands of an owner at
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: a local mom and pop studio in LA and you know,
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: one thing led to another and I auditioned and she
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: hired me, and you know, it's it's it's wild because
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: when I interviewed at Pelotona, I remember now Cody rig
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: actually found me on Instagram and had asked me to
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: come out to New York to audition for the Peloton gig.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: In in short, I didn't get the gig the first
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: time around. The full audition process from when my very
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: first audition to when I landed the job was a year.
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: So it was like this, this very.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Trying, trying thing for me, really tested my faith in
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: myself because I, like I said, I'd had this vision
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: that something great was going to come of this. And
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: although I had this vision, I didn't know that it
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: was actually for sure that it come true. Although I trusted,
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: and then here comes some random guy asking me on
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Instagram to become audition random to be at the time
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: auditioned for a Peloton And so when that happened, I
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: thought to myself, I said, oh my god, this is coming,
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: this is it's happening, It's happening.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: I envisioned this.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I envisioned this, and so when I didn't get the job,
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: it felt like a loss. It felt like wait, but
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: I trusted and this, I saw this, and how is
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: this not happening?
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: And so when I.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: Finally am in my final interview of twenty five or
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: whatever I went through in the course in the matter
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: of a year, I sat down with Robin and I
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: said to Robin, I said, if Robin is.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Again our VP, I said, if.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I get this job, I know that part of my
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: existence here is to gift people with the ability of
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: knowing that anything can happen. I am a first generation
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: American to a descendant of two Nigerians. I was overweight
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: half of my life, like this wasn't supposed to be
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: my story. It wasn't even something that I daydreamed about
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: because it was so far from the fabric of my
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: DNA of where I was. And so if this opportunity
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: could happen for me, then I dare people to have
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: the audacity to dream and to dream bigger.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: And this has taught me.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: Personally for myself, to dream and to dream bigger. Everything
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: that I've asked for or dreamt about in this lifetime,
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: in some way or another, it's happened for me. I've
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: experienced a lot of tragedy in my life. I lost
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: my little brother when he was nineteen years old. Three
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: years after I lost my brother, I lost my dad,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: and three years after that, I lost my mom. And
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: you know, I think that if I decided after losing
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: my mother, I think if I decided to do nothing
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: with my life, that the world would have given me
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: a past. The world would have said, you know what
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: she's been through, shit like, we're just gonna let her just,
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: you know, skate by if you will. And with those experiences,
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: I decided that I'm not going to let that trauma
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: dictate my future.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: I'm going to pull pieces of it.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: And the pieces that I pull is the understanding that
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: life is so short. Life is so short, and it's
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: so beautiful. And I do everything that I do because
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: I know that my family members cannot. I know that
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: they're not here anymore, and so I try to live
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: life fully for them. Stepping into twenty twenty one, my
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: goal this year is to not let my ambition rob
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: me of my current joy, to not let my ambition
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: rob me of my current blessing. Meaning that I think
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: that we all have things that we're trying to build
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: in our lives, build for our families, build for ourselves.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: I don't want what I'm trying to build rob me
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: of enjoying what I've already built. There's so much around me,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: like when I open my eyes and look around me
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: in this life, like wow, wow wow. But I don't
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: want it to be in a place where I'm so
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: busy trying to get to the next thing, where I'm
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: so busy aspiring to the next thing that I forget
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: to just live and the joy of where I am
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: right here, right now.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for sharing all that with me,
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: and I think a huge takeaway here. You mentioned both
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: loss not only in that first round of your dream
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: Job audition, but then also of course of your brother
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: and your parents. Talk to me about your strategy really
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: for coming back and showing up after such hardship. I mean,
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: the show is called hurdle, So talk to me about
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: what you do when sometimes it just feels like you
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: keep tripping and tripping and tripping and you're not clearing
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: where you want to go.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: I think that when people look at success, they envision
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: success as a straight line to the top, when in fact,
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: there are peaks, there are highs, there are valleys, and
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: there are.
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: Lows, There is no straight line.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I think that on the road to success, within that journey,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: there are hurdles, and if you understand that and you
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: trust that that is part of the process, then when
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: those hurdles or roadblocks arrive, you're less apt to stop,
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: You're less resistant, You're willing to lean in and trust
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: that you'll move through it. I believe everything happens for
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: a reason. It's a wild thing to say, or for rather,
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: it's a wild thing for me to still believe given
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: my life's experience. I said, I believe thing happens for
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: a reason, and then one might argue, well, why did
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: your brother pass so soon? You know.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: Why? Why?
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: Why?
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: Why?
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: And it's like I don't have the answer. I don't
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: have the answer, but I do know one. I would
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: give anything to have any one of them back, even
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: for a moment, to have two minutes, thirty seconds, ten
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  Speaker 1: seconds with any of one of them. Would I would
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  Speaker 1: give the world. With that being said, I know that
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be the person that I am today had
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  Speaker 1: I not gone through those experiences. And I trust that
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: part of my being here, part of that being part
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: of my story now, my DNA is that I'm supposed
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: to share that story.
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  Speaker 3: I'm supposed to share my story.
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  Speaker 1: The thing about life is that no day is promised,
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  Speaker 1: no day is guaranteed.
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  Speaker 3: People lose people.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that part of my story is to.
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  Speaker 3: Be there, to.
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  Speaker 1: Be a light for people who are going through the unimaginable,
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  Speaker 1: to again to not hide my story, but to share
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  Speaker 1: my story, to show people that life does go on.
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  Speaker 1: And for me, again, it's about living because they cannot.
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  Speaker 1: If I were to you know, you said the name
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  Speaker 1: of the show, it's hurdle, if I were to go through.
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  Speaker 1: If I were to have said, Okay, this is a hurdle,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just going to stay here. It's like I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to say this, But like what good does
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: that do for them? Right? Like, unfortunately I can never
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: have them back, And so I can live life life
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  Speaker 1: fully and intentionally. I can live life in purpose and
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  Speaker 1: on purpose. I think that a life lead of service
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  Speaker 1: is a life lad of purpose. My sign off every
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  Speaker 1: time I finish a class, I say, it's my absolute
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  Speaker 1: gifts in my honor to sweat and to serve you
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  Speaker 1: on this spike. And I think when you're living a
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  Speaker 1: life of service, when you are doing for people. You
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: are doing things in purpose, within your life's purpose and
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: on purpose. I think you know, Emily Hurdle podcast, this
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: is your purpose or one of the many things that
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: may be within your purpose.
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  Speaker 2: of us have been through the unexpected and some difficult moments.
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  Speaker 2: For you, when you went through your difficult moments, was
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: it difficult for you not to maybe dive back into
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: some of the habits from earlier on that were a
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: little bit less than healthy or didn't make you feel
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  Speaker 2: good about yourself. Yeah, And that's the thing.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: It's a journey. It's not a snap, snap pop. You're
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: cured if you will like you're cured, meaning like this
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: is no longer something that you have to continue to
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: focus on. So yeah, So when the pandemic first happened,
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: I was I've said this before, but I there moments
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  Speaker 1: where and like.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't know.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't remember walking to the refrigerator. I didn't know
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: how it was happening. Girl, And I look in my hand,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like ice cream who bought ice cream. I live
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: in a wonder apartment by myself. Unless Caesar, my dog,
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: purchased the ice cream, I'm pretty sure that I bought
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: this ice cream. And so it was just like this
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: thing is like, you know, you're just and I think
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: it was more I'm a very focused person, but I
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: think it was more so just being sedentary and being
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: in the house. I wasn't used to being in the
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: house quite as often, and so it was just about
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: it's been about finding a new normal. It's been about
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: giving myself grace, like not trying to measure myself now
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  Speaker 1: to what I was physically, be it the way that
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: I look or the way that I feel, or a
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: strength how much I can bench press or spot like,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: I can't compare myself to what I was a year
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: ago because a year ago I wasn't in a pandemic,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: and unless I, you know, have the results or another
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: pandemic to measure myself against, then it's not really It's
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: really apples to apples, you know, and just an understanding
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: of loving my body at whatever physical capacity I'm at,
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: If that makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you mentioned a couple of times briefly, like
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  Speaker 2: nutrition and where you're at with this. I think what's
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: really what would be really helpful to touch on a
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: little bit is to get a better understanding of kind
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: of like how you are fueling for the fact that
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: you are, you know, constantly showing up to be in
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: service drenched in sweat for other people. So how how
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: are you showing up in a way that you're fueling
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: your body to be able to do that.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: Right, and so yeah, so I mentioned the beginning of
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: the pandemic. You know, I fell I don't want to
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: say fell off. I took a different course, if you will,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: than the one that I was on, and as I
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: try to as I now pay way not to necessarily
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: get back on course, but as I paved the roads
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: of a of a new course. I've just gone back
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: to what I know as best, like just tried and true.
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: And so for me, that's fueling my body with foods
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: that matter, foods that I need to actually fuel my tank.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: It goes back to how I supplement my body. Like
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: I mentioned earlier, I'm part of the nutrition team and
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: they actually reached out to me at the end of
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: towards the end of last year, and it was such
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: a beautiful partnership. I've been a huge fan of obdomen nutrition.
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  Speaker 3: For a long time.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: I end a lot of classes by saying you or
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: you're only as strong tomorrow as the recovery that you're
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: willing to put in today, Meaning people want to go
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: so hard in their workout. You can only go really,
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: really hard in your workout when you properly refuel your
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: body today, meaning you can only go so hard and
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: tomorrow's workout when you refill your body today.
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  Speaker 2: What excites you right now Tonday?
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  Speaker 1: I have a couple of things twenty twenty one. I
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: want to be stronger than ever. And I say that, like,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: you know, I went through this phase where I was
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: really in my head about not feeling as strong, and
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: then I kind of found myself in a place where
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I felt like, Okay, give yourself grace. And now I'm
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: in this place where I'm just like, girl, you're a badass.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Like I'm kind of in this place where I want
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: to rather than feeling like I have to. And it
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: kind of goes back to what I was saying earlier.
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  Speaker 1: But now I don't feel like I have to do
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: anything but show up as me.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: But now I'm a place where I want to.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to say get in the best shape
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: of my life, because then that comes back to this
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: physical look, this physical image. I want to feel stronger
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: than I've ever felt before. So that's something that I'm
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: looking forward to doing. I am excited about being aware
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: of my joy, meaning I'm so excited to focus on
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: what already is, to enjoy the fruit of what I've
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: already built.
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: I'm so excited to let go of what isn't.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: Yet and just be.
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Like, we spend so much time as people trying to
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: provide a living that we forget to just live. We
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: spend so much time trying to provide a living that
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: we forget to just live when we think of Like
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: when you think of self care, self care is worth
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: that has a bad a wrap. When you say self care,
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: people think it's this luxury thing. They think, oh, spa,
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: da nails, facial, which self care can be those things.
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  Speaker 1: But self care, in my right, it's not a luxury.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: It's not a privilege. If you took the word self care,
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: if you replace the word self care with soul care,
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: then soul care.
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  Speaker 3: Shows up as this thing that sounds like a must.
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: It sounds like a right, I need to do things
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: for the good of my soul when our phones are
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: on ten percent, Like I know myself when I like,
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: if I'm at dinner and my phone's on ten percent,
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: I run to the to the person at the front,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: and I ask them if they have a charger, because
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: God forbid my phone fall below ten percent. But when
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: it's ourselves, when it's our own bodies, when it's our
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: own minds, when it's our own spirit, we let our
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: bodies and our minds run on ten percent all the time.
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: Why not have that same urgency. Oh my gosh, I
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: gotta find an outlet to plug in my smartphone. Oh
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: my god, I'm I have to find an outlet to
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: plug in myself. And so this year, I just want
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: to focus a lot on my own personal soul care,
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: on restoring, on recharging at the same time being my
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: strongest self, showing up in my fullest capacity of joy.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: How does Tunday give herself soul care?
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  Speaker 3: You know what? I you know what? Sometimes are we
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: figuring that out?
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: We're figuring that out.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, it's like you want to have like
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: this big, fancy answer. But when I'm like, if I'm
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: being completely honest. Soul Care for me is doing absolutely
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: not a damn thing.
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  Speaker 3: Doing nothing.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: I will turn music on something like because I want
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: to say, like, oh, I'll sit in a hot tub.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: I do do that.
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: And sometimes I can't make it to the hot tub,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: to my hot tub meeting my bathtub.
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: I can't make it that far. Sometimes I can't. I can't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even really watch a lot of TV, but
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I can't even turn the TV on. Sometimes I want
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: to sit here in silence, turn on a candle and
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: be by myself. Sometimes I'll open the window. I love,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: oddly the sound of New York traffic, like when there's
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: a candle and music and New York traffic with like
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: a little.
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: Bit of cool breeze coming in. I know it's kind
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: of weird, but I love it.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: Listening to a podcast like soul Care is whatever I
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: need in that moment.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: I give it to myself. That is soul Care. I
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: dig it, I dig it. You mentioned reading a book.
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: I've got to ask any book recommendations for the Hurdlers.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: We have a book club.
• 48:40
  Speaker 3: Oh well, the book.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, not necessarily what I'm reading right now, but
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: one of my favorite books.
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: Oh, you know what.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: Actually, I just read The Year of Yes by Shonda Ryan's.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: It's a quick read, such a great book. Basically, she's
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: talking about how she spent an entire year saying yes
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: and sometimes actually saying no men saying yes.
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: Too much detail there, but she talks about how this
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: year of.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: Yesque changed her life in her outlook on the way
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: that she shows up in the world.
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  Speaker 3: I'd say that.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: And then one of my all time favorites that I'll
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: always recommend is Daring Greatly by Brene Brown.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: Oh classic classic, Okay, Dune Day. Final question here, you
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: have an opportunity to offer the tune day going through
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: one of her life's biggest hurdles. I would I mean,
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: we talked about a lot of them here today, whether
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: it be the passing of your family members or perhaps
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: that first great loss that first know from Peloton. You
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: have the opportunity to offer her one piece of advice
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: going through those large hurdle moments. What do you tell her?
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: Trust?
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: Just trust, trust, Trust that nothing is happening to you
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: and every thing is happening for you. Failure can only
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: be judged in hindsight. You're not allowed to go through
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: something and while you're going through that thing, call it
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: a failure, because in that moment, that thing, this thing,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: tune day, that may come that you may deem a failure,
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: it may not actually be a failure. It may be
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: a course, recourse or a redirection in your life. It
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: may be the universe setting you on path or setting
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: you on track.
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: For something that you just can't see yet. So ultimately, trust,
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: just trust.
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your time today, tune day.
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: How do the hurdlers keep up with you? Give me
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: all of the details, girl.
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: I am so bad with social media.
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: Like I tune to tune day, tune like music too,
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: number two tune days. My Instagram Facebook is tune Day.
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: I think it's.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: Tunday Peloton Peloton tune Day. You'll find me something. And
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: then Twitter, I haven't even dabbled in.
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: Girl. I'm look, I'm trying. I'm trying soul care.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: Let's focus on soul care, and the.
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: Soul care is not being on social media as much.
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: How about that? Girl, I'm with you.
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your time again. I could
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: chat with you for hours. I'm over at Emily a
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: Body and at Hurdle Podcast. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: guys next time.