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I Choose...Aging Confidently with Susan Noles · I Choose Me with Jennie Garth

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  Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everybody,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. This is the podcast about
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  Speaker 1: the choices we make and where they lead us. As
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  Speaker 1: you may know, I am a part of QVC's Quintessential fifty.
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  Speaker 1: We call it the Q fifty. It's this incredible, diverse
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  Speaker 1: family of women from all different walks of life. It's
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  Speaker 1: a group of women who are all just about inspiring
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  Speaker 1: other women over fifty to live with us in this
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  Speaker 1: age of possibility. So whether you're in your forties or
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  Speaker 1: your fifties, I really don't care how old you are,
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  Speaker 1: remember that we're all here doing just that. We are
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  Speaker 1: living in the age of possibility. This is our anything
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  Speaker 1: is Possible era. So from time to time I will
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  Speaker 1: be sharing some of these incredible women with you. I
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  Speaker 1: am so honored to call these women my sisters and
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  Speaker 1: to have them on to inspire us and educate us
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  Speaker 1: on what's to come today. My Q fifty guest was
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  Speaker 1: a breakout star on The Golden Bachelor. She's the co
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  Speaker 1: host of the podcast Bachelor Happy Hour Golden Hour. I
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  Speaker 1: cannot wait to chat with her all about aging and
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  Speaker 1: her incredible confidence and what I have to look forward
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  Speaker 1: to as I get older. Welcome Susan Knowles to the
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  Speaker 1: I Choose Me podcast.
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  Speaker 2: How are you your Usan?
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy to see you. Not in a taxi
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  Speaker 1: in Vegas? Yes, an uber?
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  Speaker 2: An uber that's.
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  Speaker 1: Where we first met, right, how I know? Oh my goodness,
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  Speaker 1: that was the funniest story we I don't know even
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  Speaker 1: what happened with that. We called an uber, you called
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  Speaker 1: an uber.
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  Speaker 2: I got it in the ball one that does what happened?
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  Speaker 1: You're got in ours? But we all rode together and
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  Speaker 1: we had a great time. It was it was I'm
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  Speaker 1: so happy to have you. I wanted to talk to
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  Speaker 1: you all about your path recently.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a busy. I'm a busy woman.
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  Speaker 1: You're a busy woman. Things changed for you?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've always been busy. I always keep busy.
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  Speaker 2: I know a lot of people, I do a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things. But this is like newer things and even
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  Speaker 2: more people in my world.
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  Speaker 1: So you were a fan favorite in my house, that's
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  Speaker 1: for sure. What was it liking that kind of notoriety
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  Speaker 1: and that kind of fame so quickly?
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  Speaker 2: So you know, it's funny. I've said this many times
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  Speaker 2: to me I've always been a star. Just now more
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  Speaker 2: people know. I was in the hair business for almost
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  Speaker 2: forty years, and I entertained people in the salon. I
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  Speaker 2: worked at a nine thousand square foot salon, so it
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  Speaker 2: was a lot of people. And that's just my personality.
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  Speaker 2: I've done everything.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, so my mom also was a hairstylist, and
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  Speaker 1: my sister is a hairstylist. And I know you know
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  Speaker 1: a hair salon very well, been there so you quite yes, yes, Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Officiating weddings for about ten years. So the Golden Wedding
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  Speaker 2: and made it take off even more.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody wants you now, yes to do their wedding.
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  Speaker 2: There's only so many weekends. There's only so many saturdays,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 1: Are you just flying all over the country now officiating weddings?
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  Speaker 2: No, not too b I'd like when I priced them
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  Speaker 2: out for them. Most of them are young couples and
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  Speaker 2: they're like, oh, I said, yeah, that expense isn't on me.
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  Speaker 1: That travel, that hotel, all that.
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  Speaker 2: I love you, that I've gone away for, and if
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  Speaker 2: you a val renew all that I'm traveling for, It's.
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  Speaker 1: Crazy, what would you I mean, since all this fame
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  Speaker 1: and public awareness of you and your every move. What
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  Speaker 1: would you say, You've learned about yourself.
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  Speaker 2: To trust my instincts. That was at that and as
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  Speaker 2: far as doing the Golden Show, the best thing besides
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  Speaker 2: the friendships that came out for me was to love
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  Speaker 2: myself and know what I deserve. So I treat things.
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  Speaker 2: I think about things a little differently than I used
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  Speaker 2: to as far as dating or a man.
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  Speaker 1: So you say that that's kind of a new thing.
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  Speaker 1: You've always been the star of your life, which is amazing,
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  Speaker 1: but you've kind of gotten familiar with yourself and your
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  Speaker 1: needs and your instincts a little bit more clearly. Now
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  Speaker 1: it's about me, It's about you. It's about time. Hello
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  Speaker 1: me time, right, that's right. What was happening for you
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  Speaker 1: aside from the salon prior to the show, Like what
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  Speaker 1: was what is your normal life? I'm so curious, Like
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  Speaker 1: what's going on for you?
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  Speaker 2: Normally I don't sit down for very long. I like
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  Speaker 2: to off. I have different groups of friends that I
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  Speaker 2: keep in touch with and do lunch, and I travel.
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  Speaker 2: I like to go to the beach and go to
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  Speaker 2: the islands. I was down in Saint Martin, Italy a
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  Speaker 2: few times. I'm digging in the dirt lay and mulch
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  Speaker 2: out back. I mean, I just I'm busy.
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  Speaker 1: You don't even have time in your life for a man.
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  Speaker 2: I do. I would make time for the right you.
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  Speaker 1: Would you, definitely? Would you? Just you seem so confident
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  Speaker 1: in your own skin, and I don't know, I just
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  Speaker 1: kind of want to know what I have to look
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  Speaker 1: forward to when I'm your age, because we're not that
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  Speaker 1: far off, but this it's a big difference.
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  Speaker 2: You've got a lot of time. Trust I said for
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  Speaker 2: the Quintessential and fifty people. I was on QBC not
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  Speaker 2: too long ago, and yes, that's right. The hardest part
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  Speaker 2: is looking in the mirror at this age because I
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  Speaker 2: don't look like I used to look, and you still
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  Speaker 2: feel that right, right, But I've accepted me for me.
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  Speaker 2: I feel still sexy and I can still dress the
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  Speaker 2: part and at the part my brain thinks, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you should be this or this and you get on
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  Speaker 2: the scale and it's not that way. So I've accepted
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  Speaker 2: I'm comfortable in my own skin now, Yeah, I guess
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  Speaker 2: that's what it is.
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  Speaker 1: So more comfortable in your own skin, I know that's
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  Speaker 1: it's challenging. Even at fifty two, when you look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror and you don't see what you used to see, right,
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  Speaker 1: and then you think, oh, well, then when people look
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  Speaker 1: at me, they're not seeing what they want to see
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  Speaker 1: or what they're used to seeing.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you start getting down on yourself, like you know,
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  Speaker 2: the menopauseal tom and things like that. Although I had
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  Speaker 2: somebody just recently say, oh my gosh, your body's like
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  Speaker 2: a model.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, your body is slamming, by the way, But
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  Speaker 1: it's all about the way you carry yourself, Like that's what.
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  Speaker 2: That confidences with age as well.
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  Speaker 1: I love that party. That's right. You were just on
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  Speaker 1: fifteen Fabulous with our friend Mally.
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  Speaker 2: Ally she's a doll baby. I know.
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  Speaker 1: He went to Westchester, You went to the studios. How
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  Speaker 1: was your experience there?
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  Speaker 2: It was fabulous. I had a ball.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I'm so glad.
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  Speaker 2: I bonded with so many people. And then the highlight
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  Speaker 2: was my friend Bradley recognizing me.
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  Speaker 1: That was, oh my gosh. So yeah, everybody. We were
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  Speaker 1: in Vegas for the Quintessential fifty with QTc, which we're
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  Speaker 1: both a part of, and Bradley Cooper showed up because
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  Speaker 1: his mom.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan he did.
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  Speaker 1: He was I'm so happy to see you.
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  Speaker 2: I know that, but just being recognized and noticed by people.
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  Speaker 2: I spent time last week sitting with the American Heart Association,
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  Speaker 2: and they wanted me to get involved in something I
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  Speaker 2: believe in. They want me to do a whole lot
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  Speaker 2: of things, and I was like, I'm going to give
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  Speaker 2: you as much as I can, you know, but time wise,
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  Speaker 2: I don't have that much time to do a fundraiser,
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  Speaker 2: or I could do it online on social media, which
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  Speaker 2: I'm willing to do. But a lot of people want
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  Speaker 2: to get you now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody wants a PCU. Even Bradley Cooper.
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, he's such inlaw.
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  Speaker 1: What is your connection with American Heart Association, because I
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  Speaker 1: have a strong connection with them as well and do
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  Speaker 1: a lot of work. What is your connection with or
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  Speaker 1: your affiliation with heart health.
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  Speaker 2: It's a great foundation. I know my ex husband deals
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  Speaker 2: with a fib and have some surgery and that's a
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  Speaker 2: minor thing, I know, compared to some but it's something
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  Speaker 2: that I would like to put my name behind them
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  Speaker 2: if I could help in any way. How about you.
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  Speaker 1: I've had heart issues in my life my father since
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  Speaker 1: I was a little girl, so really grew up learning
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  Speaker 1: to live with a parent that has heart disease and
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  Speaker 1: just multiple episodes in the hospital and all kinds of surgeries.
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  Speaker 1: And so when my dad passed away from heart health
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  Speaker 1: and you know, various complicated issues because of it, I
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  Speaker 1: decided to just really double down and become a part
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  Speaker 1: of the American Heart Association and just do whatever I
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  Speaker 1: could to just get the word out there to our
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  Speaker 1: ladies that we are so at risk, that this is
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  Speaker 1: the number heart disease is the number one killer of
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  Speaker 1: American women. And you don't really think about it because
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  Speaker 1: we don't stop to think about our hearts very often.
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  Speaker 2: I do when I'm trying to run or we'll blow
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  Speaker 2: up a flight of steps.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, let's keeping I love that. Okay, this
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  Speaker 1: is going to get personal. Okay, tell us about your
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  Speaker 1: dating life. I hate asking that because like, maybe you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it, but if you want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it.
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  Speaker 2: Now an open book. So a lot of people assume
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  Speaker 2: that my dms were just over flowing, and everybody told
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  Speaker 2: us the producers, oh wait, it wasn't. So. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: there was a couple that I don't want to date
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  Speaker 2: somebody that's my son's age, if you will.
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  Speaker 1: That's a weird Yeah. Yeah, what's your cutoff?
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  Speaker 2: It depends on the person ten twelve years younger. I
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  Speaker 2: could go twelve years older. But however, I did meet
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  Speaker 2: somebody back in November. This is a cute story.
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  Speaker 1: Actually tell me if it tell me you're meet cute.
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  Speaker 2: So pes for a selfie. We were in home goods,
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  Speaker 2: you know, Marshall's home goods. You know, he was way
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  Speaker 2: smaller than I look at whatever, but.
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  Speaker 1: There was a point smaller you mean highway? Yeah, okay, he.
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  Speaker 2: Looked to be my age, and I had a moment
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  Speaker 2: like I would have talked to him because there was
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  Speaker 2: something about him. And he left and I ran to
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  Speaker 2: my cousin said, did you see that guy? Know? I said,
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  Speaker 2: I would have chatted with him, even though he wasn't
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  Speaker 2: my tight. Well, it is four days before Super Bowl.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going through my mail and this man says, Hi,
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  Speaker 2: you don't know me. My name is such and such.
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  Speaker 2: My friend is trying to get a hold of you.
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  Speaker 2: You met him a month ago in Morsels. Well that
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  Speaker 2: I did not see that message. It was February. That
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  Speaker 2: message was sent to me on December nineteenth.
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  Speaker 1: So now it's three buried.
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  Speaker 2: So he says, I'm going to send youself the album
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  Speaker 2: a picture of him. He cleans up real well, so
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  Speaker 2: now and it's the guy from Marshall.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: So I said, oh my god, yes, give me his information.
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  Speaker 2: I held on to it for a while because I'm busy.
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  Speaker 2: I was sitting there Super Bowl Sunday and said, you
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  Speaker 2: know what, let me retat. What do you say? You know,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what to say, so I go, are
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  Speaker 2: you It was four minutes before the Super Bowl started.
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  Speaker 2: I go, are you ready for some football?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? I like that. You got a game.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a choice. It comes on in three minutes,
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  Speaker 2: by the way, As a susan, I said.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, okay, and then it just sort of took off
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  Speaker 1: from the Yeah, we've been.
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  Speaker 2: Hanging out a little bit. Nothing crazy. He's taking it
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  Speaker 2: very slow, I see. But he's a fun guy, great conversation.
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  Speaker 2: He doesn't mind when people come up to us at
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  Speaker 2: dinner and yeah, so we'll see.
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  Speaker 1: You're so inspirational for so many women.
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  Speaker 2: You know that it's never too late. This is my
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  Speaker 2: last chapter. That's how I look at things, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I just turned sixty seven. In March, which I can't
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  Speaker 2: even believe.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, this is not your last chapter, then it's the chapter.
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  Speaker 1: So it depends on how long your chapters are young.
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  Speaker 2: And I want to make it the best chapter. I
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  Speaker 2: don't surround myself with negative thinkers. I'm all about putting
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  Speaker 2: things out to the universe. I believe in the good
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  Speaker 2: things in life and making people happy and sharing what
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  Speaker 2: I have with with anybody. A lot of people share
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  Speaker 2: with me there they're heartaches online and I feel like
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  Speaker 2: I'm a counselor sometimes you are.
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  Speaker 1: People trust your advice, like you just have that air
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  Speaker 1: about you, like go to Susan if you need advice.
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  Speaker 2: Made people feel better, and that that's the most important
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  Speaker 2: thing I know, right, or a hobby or a new outfit,
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  Speaker 2: whatever floats your boat, you know. Yeah, just get up
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  Speaker 2: and live again. It's not over.
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  Speaker 1: I love this so much. I want you to come
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  Speaker 1: visit my mom. I love Oh gosh. Okay, So, if
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  Speaker 1: someone that's over fifty is thinking about getting into the
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  Speaker 1: dating game, what advice would you give them? How do
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  Speaker 1: they even do it?
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  Speaker 2: Like?
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  Speaker 1: Do they do it online?
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  Speaker 2: Online? Dating? Forever prior to the show, and the show
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  Speaker 2: cured me. It really did. I see the same faces
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  Speaker 2: over and over. I'm not afraid to put myself out
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  Speaker 2: there when I chitchat with somebody, let's meet. Let's just
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  Speaker 2: real quick, have a cup of coffee. See if there's
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  Speaker 2: any chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: I don't see anything wrong with that. And I've met
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  Speaker 2: a few people in my life that I spent some
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  Speaker 2: time with. They just weren't the right ones forever. But
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  Speaker 2: after going on the show, I decided to stop searching because,
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  Speaker 2: as I quote this, it's out there everywhere. I used
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  Speaker 2: to believe I was a woman that needed a man,
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  Speaker 2: but now I'm a woman that a man needs and
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to look anymore. I'm very satisfied with
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  Speaker 2: my life. I would love for that to happen to me,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm not going to search.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's great. If it's meant to be, it will,
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  Speaker 1: it will happen. You know how, I heard a lot
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  Speaker 1: and I felt when I started tage that I sort
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  Speaker 1: of felt like I had become invisible. You walk in
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  Speaker 1: the room, it's not quite the same reaction that you
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  Speaker 1: used to have for me. I would walk in the
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  Speaker 1: room with my beautiful daughters and they would they would
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  Speaker 1: get that reaction. But I would be like, oh, I
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  Speaker 1: guess I'm invisible now, okay, but there's no chance that
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  Speaker 1: you could walk into a room and be invisible.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people share that I'm too loud. I'm
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  Speaker 2: a Talian, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, and I'm tall and you have this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, people like I never meet a stranger. So
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  Speaker 2: I feel the part when they say invisible that I
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  Speaker 2: don't turn as many heads as I used to. And
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  Speaker 2: back then, if I knew now what I know now,
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  Speaker 2: oh man, I could have had everything I wanted. But
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  Speaker 2: I was. It's naive, like they're not looking at me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh but they were.
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  Speaker 2: Well, look they were. I had no idea. I was clueless.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I think that too. Like if I knew then
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  Speaker 1: what I know now now, I conquer the world.
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  Speaker 2: I read all the books, I do all that.
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  Speaker 1: I go, oh, whatever, what would you tell your younger self?
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  Speaker 2: Stay true to yourself, believe in yourself. And when you
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  Speaker 2: see a red flag, Susan, it's not going to change.
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  Speaker 2: It's a red flag. I used to ignore those, and
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  Speaker 2: now if I see a red flag, I see, yep,
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  Speaker 2: not this.
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  Speaker 1: One, okay, So how many red flags?
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  Speaker 2: Is it?
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  Speaker 1: One red flag? And you're out or.
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  Speaker 2: Oh because I haven't done it yet since I've said this,
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  Speaker 2: but now, like I always think, Okay, somebody you meet
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  Speaker 2: and they're in my situation, it was who was a
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  Speaker 2: heavy drinker? And I thought my ex was an alcoholicis
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  Speaker 2: and recovery forty plus years, God bless them. But do
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  Speaker 2: I want to do this? You know that all shouldn't
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  Speaker 2: be that bad, you know, and then after being in
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  Speaker 2: it six months, you realize it's bad and I don't
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  Speaker 2: want this life. Narcissistic people. You know. I dated this
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  Speaker 2: one gentleman that I liked real well, and there was
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  Speaker 2: never really a compliment. It was, oh, we look great together.
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  Speaker 2: You know those kind of things like oh, I need
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  Speaker 2: to be special in someone's life, and I will make
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  Speaker 2: them special. In mind, maybe I'm asking for the impossible.
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  Speaker 1: I know, right, I've heard this before and I felt
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  Speaker 1: this before. I'm asking for too much or I have
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  Speaker 1: too many needs or expectations.
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  Speaker 2: So I had my list, you know, they say, write
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  Speaker 2: it down. And the gentleman that I met in the store,
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  Speaker 2: my first thing on my this is I like a
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  Speaker 2: tall man. This man k my size.
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  Speaker 1: He's your height like i'd I And.
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  Speaker 2: That's so unlike me. But it doesn't matter that used
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  Speaker 2: to Matt, that used to you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't even think about it because I'm tall,
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  Speaker 2: and it's like I was, I thinking, Yeah, things have changed,
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  Speaker 2: they have your list changes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have that list too, and I do like
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  Speaker 1: to check off some of the boxes, you know. But
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  Speaker 1: then I kind of think, like I've heard before, I
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: think it was the eighty twenty or maybe it was
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: sixty forty or seventy thirty, I don't know, but like,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: if it's eighty percent good, be good, yes, and twenty
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: percent you know, not sure. I don't live with you
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: could live with.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: I mean not perfect. No, I think I am.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I'm a great If you find somebody that's willing to
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: take a look at that twenty percent probably and work
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: with you a little bit here and there, that that
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: makes a difference.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. I agree, So the hopes of that
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: I'll fall in love. I'm a pisces and a dreamer,
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: and you know, I still dream about the happily ever after.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: I have to keep that in here and believe that
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: to the day I die, or I will be very
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: disappointed if I think there wasn't one so.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: Right, Like, what's the point of living if you don't
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: have dreams, aspirations, right, things that excite you.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I mean, I love my family. My grandkids are a blast.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: You know, I do all that. But you always want
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: somebody to go home to or share when you're upset,
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: or share when you're excited. You know, tell them somebody
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: that makes me laugh, and I make them laugh.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: They're my Yeah, how long have you been single?
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: Long? Long, long time without my husband, like over eighteen years.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I've had two pretty long relationships three year ones, but
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: get pretty long.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. I'm excited for your next chapter, thank you.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm excited for my next I'm excited for
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: all women's next chapter. And I love like the idea
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: that we get to just reinvent ourselves every morning, like
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: we can just lest to.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Wake up every morning. And I thank the universe every
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: day for certain things that have not arrived yet.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: But they I say universe too. It's just a personal choice.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: But I love that you said before you believe in
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: like alignment and think when things come into your life
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: or signs, that's the last sign you can remember that
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: you got. That kind of made reassured you that you're
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: on the right path.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: So I had talked to a woman, her name was Kelly,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: and she wanted me to do a twenty five year
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: bow renewal for her. She lives in Hawaii and she
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: was coming up home to Redding. It was a double wedding,
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: her and her husband's renewal and her grandfather at eighty
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: four years old. Yes, so I did a double thing
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: and it was the most emotional wedding I've ever done.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: I bonded with these people. It was very small scale,
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: it was lovely. While she wrote a book, Having your
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Own Aloha, and she said, I wanted to bring you
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: this book and she said, alls I have is my
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: old copy. I said, that's perfect. This book and my
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: life right now just took off for me personally about
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: putting things out there and preaching about it, talking to
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: people about don't look at it negative. I don't feel
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: like the universe understands the English language. It's a vibe.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: You have to put energy.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: And energy exactly. And that book just it was amazing.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: I just wrote her and things like that to thank
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: her and what it did for me.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: And it just fell into your hands.
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: Like that that's the.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Best best I love. I get goosebumps whenever things line
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: up like that.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: I love it. I'd like to preach about it or
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: teach people how to live that life.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I don't know, go do it. Get on that platform.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: You have so many people that are looking to you
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: for your positive messaging because you exude happiness and competence
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: and self love, and that's what everybody wants. They want
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: That's why they want a piece of you, because they
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: want to feel that the same way you feel.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: My assistance in the salon over the years, I would
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: train people for two to three years until they were
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: ready to get a chair, and quite a few of
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: them absolutely. One of them wrote in when I was
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: on GBC, and he would say things to me like,
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: I just want to be just like you when i'm
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: your age. You don't let anything bother you. I said,
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: don't be fooled. It's a Saturday in the salon. I've
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: got six people deep with color on their heads. There's
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: no time to break down right now. You don't think
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: I cry when I leave or I'm frustrated. We all are.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: But my quote was faked till.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: You make This is so interesting that you just said that,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: because that has always been something that I've used just
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: to like pulp myself up. You know, Listen, it's go time.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: You've got to get out there and shine, whether you
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: feel like it or not. Other for other people, yes,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: and someone just I just I don't know where I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: heard this, but I heard someone say, how about when
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: you say fake it till you make it, you're kind
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: of telling yourself that that's not you because you're faking it.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: No, I don't see it like that. For me, fake
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: it till you make it is suppress all the negatives
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: that you're feeling and go do what you're supposed to
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: be doing to the best of your ability, even though
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: you're not feeling secure like you're going to do it well.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: So fake it, get out there and do it, and
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: usually it's successful.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: It really is.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: It's your own fears and your own hang ups. You know,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: when I did hair competitions and stuff, Oh my god,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I'm not good enough for I'm not this, And I
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: faked it and went out there and I ended up
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: on a billboard on ninety five with my daughter's hair.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: It was like amazing, Wow, but I was scared.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Listen, isn't that crazy that that it's the fear. It's
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: the same fear that's holding all of us back.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: Fear is crippling. Really, just if it sneaks up, get
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: rid of it. Get rid of it somehow, some.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Way tell us how to get rid of it. How
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: do you get rid of it?
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: I can only allow myself to sulk or be down
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: for a few minutes. I got to take my mind
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: and start focused on positive things. I'll breathe, I try
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: to meditate. I'm not going to that at it because
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: there's so many things going on in my head at
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: one time. But I just transfer, I'll breathe, I'll count
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: my breathe my breaths, and focus back on something so
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: positive and remember all the things that I'm grateful for
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: and let that be gone. It's not easy all the time, but.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Just feel it, let your self experience whatever it is,
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: and then you'll naturally know when it's time to let
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: it go.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Go into be on the Old Bachelor. I didn't know
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: what to expect talk about fear like, oh gosh, I'm
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: going to look fat on TV, which I did.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: You really did not say to me.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're so much prettier in person, And
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: how did you lose so much weight? I go, I
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: didn't lose any weight.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: Oh listen, I've heard it.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: All litless when they say this stuff.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought you would be so much shorter. Yeah, everything,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: they've said it all.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And then there's the all the negative comments. You know,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you know dwell on the positive. Same thing.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: In my hair business. You can put out twenty fabulous
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: rocking looks and you get one negative and all those
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: don't matter. That's all you focus on. Well, everybody does
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: things wrong, not everybody's gonna love everything. Focus on the
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: twenty goodness.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: It's so easy, yet's so difficult to just sort of
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: switch your perspective and switch your mind to that way
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: of thinking. But that's really the key. You know, A
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: good hug will do it. Yeah, there's We talk about
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: things on this podcast about how choosing, how we choose ourselves.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: And since I started this podcast and started building a
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: brand around I choose me.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: I've listened, Thank you it. Things fall into place and
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: you start to feel yourself choosing your self in the
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: most mundane, everyday even ways, or in pretty big significant ways.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: But if you start thinking that way, and starts happening.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, and like.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: You're saying it, start thinking positive. I really think you
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: have everything it takes to become a positive positivity preacher. Absolutely,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: run with it. Run with it for this next chapter.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: See how what you can do. I'm so excited about.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: To run with the people over fifteen and making them
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: feel good. Yeah, butting them now just watching TVC that
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: there's life out here.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. It's so it's so helpful. And I always
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: think like if I've helped one person, even you know,
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: with this message or with something I said, then I'm good.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: Makes you feel so good and you want to do
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: more of it, and that keeps us happy and content.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: Speaking of I choose me, what was your last I
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: choose me moment. It can be big, it can be little, Dan,
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: I always choose me. That's good.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: I'm a giver, Okay, I will make myself uncomfortable or
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: short of times to do for others. Just recently, I
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: was about to do it again, and I always regretted afterwards,
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: and I said no. I usually don't say no, And
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I said no, I don't have the time. I couldn't
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: give you one hundred percent. I'm sorry.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I can't that perfect. It's hard to do that right.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: You don't want to disappoint people.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Nobody knows me to say no. They all know Susan.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I'll know it. Susan'll work it in. Susan'll you know.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Susan will give up what she needs to make somebody
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: else happy.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: But I said that.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love it. This is a this
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: is a page turner right there on this chapter. I'm
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: so here for what's next for you. I just love
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: visiting with you.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: Tell me something that you choose.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I choose me. I do it on
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: you know, on a daily basis, by choosing the stairs
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: over the elevator. You know, it can be something as
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: simple as that.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Working a little further away, even though you're in a hurry. Yeah.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Interestingly enough, though this kind of sounds like the opposite
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: of it. I choose me moment because there was a
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: family wedding and it was a very difficult logistically for
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: me to get there and schedule wise, and it just
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: seemed impossible, and I, to be honest, didn't think I
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: could do it. I didn't really want to put in
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: all that effort, But I ended up doing it. In
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: my mind, for my sister and for her daughter, and
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: ultimately it ended up being for me.
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: Because something good came out of it. You felt good
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: because they were happy or did you? No?
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: I just I felt good because I was giving of
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: my time and my love to people that mattered.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: And did you realize that they realized what you gave
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: up to be there? Does that matter to you?
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: That doesn't matter to me acknowledgement. I can feel it.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: They don't need to acknowledge it or verbalize it as
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: long as it's a feeling. And I did feel you
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: know that it was a significant thing that I was
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: there and that made it and I choose me moment.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: I get it. It makes you feel so good?
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm feeling good.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: People, So I'm going to do something to please somebody
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: and they're so excited or happier their heart warms up.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: That makes me feel good.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm so happy to be a Q fifty sister
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: with you.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Thank you. I am as well.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Spread the word, spread the word, and I'm a fan
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: of yours and I just can't wait to see what
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: is next for you. So thank you, thank you so much.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: Thanks for chatting with us.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: You're a beautiful person inside of it. Stay up, stay
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: true to yourself.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: You bet you choose me, You you choose you. Love you,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Thanks baby, thank you.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: That was such a fun and insightful conversation with Susan.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: She's so wonderful. It was great getting to hear her
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: thoughts on aging and what I have to look forward to,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: what we all have to look forward to. This talk
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: really got me thinking about my own age, and I
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: loved what Susan said about her advice that she would
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: give her younger self. If I could tell my younger
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: self something, it would be to stop spending so much
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: time worrying about things or trying to force things to
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: happen a certain way, that it will all work out
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: the way it's supposed to. You know, one of the
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: ways I choose myself is to take the time to
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: ask myself questions and then actually listen to the answers
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: that come up. So this week, I am going to
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: ask myself this question question, and I want you to
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: try it too. Are you letting society's definition of aging
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: determine your worth? Are you afraid of starting something new
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: because you think I'm too old to do that? Are
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: you letting a number hold you back from experiencing love
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: or achieving your wildest dreams. I want to remind you
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: that age is just a number, nothing more. I love you.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to I Choose Me. Remember follow us
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: at I Choose Me with Jenny Garth on Instagram and
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: rate and review the podcast because you know we love it.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I'll be right here next week. I hope you choose
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: to be here too,